We all know some guys who have to prove how masculine they are.
There are the old jokes about the size of his car proving that he’s compensating for something.
American men especially are brought up to perceive a very narrowly defined definition of masculinity as “right.”
Recently, a TikTok user challenged those assumptions when he asked his followers what their biggest indicator was for a man feeling insecure in his masculinity.
@richtiktoxic Stitch or Duet me with your favorite indicator!! #stitchthis #toxicmasculinity #peab
He also provided his own answer.
“I’ll go first. As soon as a man refers to himself as an ‘alpha,’ …”
In many circles, this is referred to as toxic masculinity.
Buzzfeed explains:
According to dictionary.com, toxic masculinity is defined as “a cultural concept of manliness that glorifies stoicism, strength, virility, and dominance, and that is socially maladaptive or harmful to mental health.”
Here are some of the top responses that @richtiktoxic, a photographer and environmentalist, received:
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A lot of the responses shared similar themes.
One indicator was an obsession with money:
“When they get upset at how much money you make.”
-@marin.hope
“I made more money than my ex, so I would pay for things. But he wouldn’t let me pay — as in, he wouldn’t let me physically hand my card over to the server. So when the server would come, my ex would look me straight in the eyes and say, ‘I got this, babe.’ Then, he would hand her my card.”
-@toxicatok
Another common theme was emphasizing their straightness.
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“When they refer to themselves as ‘super straight.’” —@reggieherold
A very common theme centered on a general aversion to anything associated with being female.
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“When he says, ‘Periods are gross.’”
-@basicminiwheats
“Whenever they find ANY reason to discredit women’s issues.”
-@nigelmylesgordon
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“When they hate or dislike something for the sole reason for it being a ‘girls thing.’”
-@cm12k
Many women found it was a big red flag if the guy won’t help you out with your bag.
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And of course several reasons just fell into the category of having a generally gross personality.
“Whenever someone gets off on hating everything and constantly projecting toughness. I was like that when I was, like, 15, and my entire personality was a device to try and convince people I was tough in some way. Like, if a new song came out, I had to assert that it was terrible.”
-@cwelz_
“When they won’t date a tall girl.”
-@user715430319797
“Owning guns is a personality trait rather than just owning them.”
-@vicki.lester
“It was when he said ‘I’m the BOSS in this relationship’ for me
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-@ninjaskuxx
These would definitely all be red flags for me. What do you think? What is the most obvious indicator for you?
Let us know in the comments.
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