This Teen Turned Loss Into an Inspiring College Admissions Essay

Teens and young adults amaze me all the time. Their passion and drive and boundless energy, their potential for good, their advancement of change.

Obviously I’m not the only one because recently, a young valedictorian went viral for her TikTok video sharing her Harvard application essay.

Abigail Mack, a drama kid at the top of her high school class, has drive and ambition. She likes to stay busy.

On her TikTok account she has dedicated a lot of videos to offering advice to other students going through the college admissions process. She discusses topics like which standardized test to take (the SAT or the ACT).

Abigail also filmed reaction videos when she opened her college acceptance letters, like this one, where she found out she got into Harvard:

@a_vmackHarvard 2025 acceptance! ❤ ##harvard ##harvard2025 ##ivyleague ##college ##collegedecision ##accepted ##fyp

In addition to Harvard, she was also accepted to Northwestern, Notre Dame, Georgetown, and Dartmouth. The girl is going places.

Based on her reaction, I think you can guess which school she chose.

In four subsequent videos, Abigail also shared herself reading her essay that, along with her stellar grades, helped gain her admittance to all those prestigious schools.

In the essay, she speaks about the pain of losing her mother to cancer at the age of 12.

@a_vmack

♬ original sound – Abigail Mack

The theme of hating the letter “S” in parents because of her loss is one that spoke to a lot of users, and with their encouragement, Abigail went on to post the rest of her essay.

After losing her mom, she controlled the one thing she could–her schedule–throwing herself into academics and activities.

@a_vmack

♬ original sound – Abigail Mack

While some of us are stifled under the burden of over-scheduling, Abigail found a rhythm and thrived.

As long as she was active, she didn’t have to think about what was missing.

She filled up the void her mother left in her life with activities.

@a_vmack

♬ original sound – Abigail Mack

Like any good story, Abigail’s essay takes a positive turn.

She learned to dial it back, to focus on the things that were most important to her, and excel in those.

As she explained to BuzzFeed:

“I grew up in a very artistic family–my mother opened a dance studio that my father still runs, and my father is a piano teacher–so theater has always been part of my life. There [is] something cathartic in escaping to a new world and being someone else for even just a few hours on stage.”

Abigail found her passion, and her motivation to succeed keeps her moving forward instead of dwelling on the past.

@a_vmack

♬ original sound – Abigail Mack

It’s an inspiring essay, moving and well written, and Abigail delivered it with a powerful speaking voice obviously trained in the dramatics.

But theater isn’t her only passion.

Over the past year, the Massachusetts teen has been awakened to the political movements happening across America, and there, too, she has found voice and meaning.

“Politics is a newer passion. When the Black Lives Matter demonstrations were occurring this past summer, I realized how passionately I felt about politics. I knew that I could no longer stand idly by and watch as the world made leaps forward without me. I became a fellow on Senator Ed Markey’s re-election campaign and also taught volunteers how to phone bank for Joe Biden’s campaign. It was extremely gratifying to feel like my voice was being heard.”

 

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Now that she’s headed to Harvard in the fall, Abigail plans to combine her interests, focusing on humanities and social sciences. She may also add classes in French and foreign policy.

According to BuzzFeed, she doesn’t know what she wants to do with her life, which is frankly the best way to enter college.

Who knows? This bright young thing might one day become an ambassador or political leader herself. Or maybe she’ll write impassioned speeches that would make Aaron Sorkin proud.

We’ll be watching.

What did you think of Abigail’s essay? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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This Video of a Wife Teasing Her Husband about Men She’d Rather Be With Went Viral

Everybody has a celebrity “list”, right?

People that it wouldn’t technically be cheating to cheat with?

It’s a fun, easy little joke because we all know it’s never going to happen.

Well recently a couple of boomers got in on the joke with a little video that their son posted to TikTok.

The Meles are a family of pranksters.

For this particular prank, wife Karen made a Power Point presentation called “Men I would replace my husband with,” and called her husband Frank over to see.

Image Credit: TikTok

Unimpressed, Frank assumes that the title slide is the joke and that his picture will be on the next slide.

He advances the presentation while his son Joe, filming the exchange, giggles in the background.

The next slide was not Frank.

Image credit: TikTok

As he advances through the slides, and their son continues to cackle, Karen names off the celebs: “Jason, Gerard, Dwayne.”

Frank was far from amused.

“What, are you on a first name basis with these guys?”

Image credit: TikTok

Eventually they get to a slide that is actually what Frank had expected all along–a picture of himself.

That soothes him a bit. He relaxes and nods his head.

You can tell he wants to say, “Aw, that’s sweet.”

Perhaps he assumed the prank was over, that the prank was pretending there were all these other men but that Karen was actually saving the best for last (him).

Except Frank’s picture wasn’t the last one!

Watch the full video here:

@mmmjoemele

HAHAHA MOM😂😂

♬ original sound – Joe Mele

Joe found it hilarious enough to upload to TikTok and so far over 6.7 million viewers agree.

Personally, my husband hates practical jokes (watch out April Fool’s Day!), and he would not have been amused by this little stunt.

What do you think? Should Frank seek his sweet revenge in a follow-up? Tell us in the comments.

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This Midwife Meets People Where They Are with Reproductive Health TikTok Videos

Menstruation can be an ever-complicated and mysterious thing.

Even to us women.

That’s probably why a TikTok midwife went viral for videos explaining the anatomy and mechanics of childbirth.

It started with a silly, brief video about a speculum during quarantine, and then her following exploded.

@midwifemama

#midwife #obgyn#inyourface #fyp#happyfriday

♬ ac butunstable – 🧑🏻‍🦳

Midwife Sarah Pringle, @midwifemama, has been using TikTok to educate the masses, including her more than 700 thousand followers, for the past year.

As she told BuzzFeed:

“I posted a funny speculum TikTok and started to gain followers. I realized that people want to know about their bodies and their health. This led me to create educational content featuring common office procedures, women’s health products, and the basics of childbirth.”

She’s made dozens of videos–enough to support a 9th grade Health class for the entire semester.

Using 3-D models and set to catchy music, Sarah demonstrates things as mundane as where a tampon rests after insertion:

@midwifemama

#fyp#period#menses#PerfectGifts #NBAIsBack

♬ Plastic – Unghetto Mathieu

And a clear representation (at last!) of exactly what the doctor is poking and squeezing during your annual pelvic exam.

@midwifemama

#PajamaJam EDUCATION #gyn#midwife#pelvic #pelvicexam #pelvicfloor #womenshealth #FallGuysMoments

♬ Out the Frame – Marv Allen

She shares specifics on different types of birth control from the ring:

@midwifemama

#birthcontrolring #birthcontrol#baby#womensrights #womenshealth#rbg #OhNo

♬ Paper Planes – M.I.A.

to IUD insertion:

@midwifemama

#iud#birthcontrol#smear#RnBVibes #HolidayTikTok

♬ Stuck in the Middle – Tai Verdes

She also offers advice for products to quell troublesome yeast infections.

@midwifemama

Link in bio!!!! #bv #yeastinfection #yeast#bacterialvaginosis #boricacid #boricacidsuppositories #midwifemama #feminiva #healthfare

♬ THE BEST THING – Cecilia Grace

But it’s Sarah’s videos about dilation and childbirth that have proven the most popular.

This one, demonstrating checking fetal position within the cervix, garnered over 10 million views:

@midwifemama

#cervix#baby#labor#birth#nidwife#ob#JingleJangleWithMe

♬ Adderall (Corvette Corvette) – Popp Hunna

And this cervical check illustrating different dilation ranges has been viewed more than 13 million times.

@midwifemama

#baby#preg#pregnant#labor#labour#rn#laboranddelivery #laboranddeliveryrn #laboranddeliverynurse #midwife#midwifemama #YesDayChallenge #tt#springbreak

♬ Renai Circulation (English Cover) [TV Size] – Lizz Robinett

Sarah is definitely providing a much needed service, and people are here for it, as evidenced by her views, likes, and shares.

Sexual health education is so important.

It’s great when educators can find a way to meet people where they are.

What do you think? Did you learn anything? Tell us in the comments!

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These Wedding Rules Went Viral on TikTok and There’s a Lot of Bride-(and Groom)-zilla Energy

I’ll never forget some advice that a family friend gave on a wedding day.

I say “a” wedding day, because we attended so many together that I can’t remember if it was first said on MY wedding day, or a friend’s, but he said, “No matter what happens, at the end of the day you’ll be married, and that’s the whole point.”

It’s so true, and yet something that is easily lost in all the excitement and stress of wedding prep, and I have repeated it to friends myself.

Those words may stop a panic attack on the day, but they won’t necessarily stop most people from over-planning their perfect day, as evidenced by the recent TikTok trend #weddingrules where brides and grooms to be offered their list of rules, both silly and serious, for their special day.

This self-proclaimed Bridezilla offered a pretty standard list of rules that emerged as themes throughout the other videos.

@xoxoarshi

yes I’m gonna be a bridezilla and no i don’t care because my wedding my way. #weddingrules #fyp #foryou

♬ Elevator Music – Bohoman

I didn’t know “Don’t wear white” needed to be said outside of Schitt’s Creek, but enough people listed it that apparently it does.

Even this girl who actually DID want kids at her wedding felt the need to say “no white.”

@_roseygirl

#greenscreen my wedding rules pt.1 #weddingrules #fyp

♬ original sound – Rose

And the “no kids” policy seems like the number one most divisive rule of wedding planning.

Personally, I can see it both ways, and I just think people shouldn’t be offended by the couple’s wishes.

It definitely wasn’t an across the board thing. Some people really do want kids at their wedding, especially if it’s kids that they know.

@yomrants

tell me your wedding rules 👰🏾#greenscreen #weddingrules #wedding #yomrants

♬ original sound – Myah Elliott

But “no random plus ones” definitely emerged as a theme.

In addition to the standard set of rules, there are other no-brainers like turn off your cell phone and don’t show up late.

@that_emo_kid_izzy

This is list 1/2 so tell me if you want see the rest #greenscreen #gaywedidng #weddingrules #myweddingmyrules #gay #girlinred #bi #trans

♬ My wedding my rules pt 1 – Izzy

And a lot of people also stressed that in addition to not wearing white OR the bridal colors, you weren’t allowed to wear jeans.

If I recall, I may have actually explicitly told my uncle he WAS allowed to wear jeans, although it was 105 degrees the day I got married, so I’m a little surprised no one showed up in shorts.

@dalecsander

Also be nice to the caterers #fyp #dalecsander #weddingrules

♬ original sound – DAleCsander

A distaste for the weird garter toss tradition was also pretty common, and individuals planned to avoid it for a variety of reasons.

Another theme that emerged was that people didn’t want long speeches and they especially didn’t want surprise announcements like other peoples’ engagements or pregnancies.

Again that just seems like common courtesy to me, but I guess sometimes it needs to be spelled out.

Unlike most people, this person doesn’t even want a bridal party.
(And she’s dead serious on the “no announcements” rule.)

@missyeah

I woke up and chose unhappy family #weddingrules #weddingplanning #newlyengaged

♬ SugarCrash! – ElyOtto

Some people had very specific criteria, like this girl, who wants a flower wall for pictures (very cool idea), a sick Air B and B in the mountains (nice), and guests’ attire to follow a color scheme (maybe too far).

@mirandandersonphoto

I still have so many more so like for pt 2 #weddingtiktok #weddingrules #weddingideasforyou #vancouver #fyp

♬ original sound – Vancouver Photographer Miranda

Others responded to the viral hashtag, which has had over 61 million views, with silliness, like this guy who wants a One Direction themed wedding.

@williamsheats

Y’all are all invited btw #weddingrules #foryou #onedirection #louistomlinson

♬ original sound – williamsheats

This one is pretty ridiculous, but I like where she’s going with her first rule.

@reneecarrot

#greenscreen #weddingrules #fyp #foryou #OverShareInYourUnderwear

♬ Drive Forever – Remix – Sergio Valentino

And this girl doesn’t want to get married, she wants to get married in a Schitt’s Creek episode complete with Dan Levy.

@victoriagarrick4

*not me not even being engaged* #weddingrules #weddingruleschallenge

♬ original sound – Victoria Garrick

All in all, I’m mostly just glad TikTok wasn’t around when I got married.

Personally, unlike some users, I think wedding is for your family, not for you, and personally, I think everyone would be a lot happier if they just eloped.

What about you? What’s on your ideal wedding ‘must’ list? Tell us in the comments.

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A Video Blogger Asked for Comparisons to Today’s Tough Times. The Internet Delivers.

The past year has definitely left many of us feeling unsettled and uncertain.

During times like these, it can help to look to the past to find hope about our future.

One young woman, Cleo Abram, turned to TikTok looking for comfort.

Appealing to the older crowd in a video posted under the handle @cleoabram, she said:

Ok here’s my question: it feels like this particular moment in history is really hard. It’s a global pandemic after all…

So, if you’re 50, 65, or older (80! 95!), could you tell us about a time that felt similarly uncertain? …

I want to know what it felt like, and I want to know what you learned.

Check out the video…

@cleoabram

been thinking about this a lot and wondering if there’s anyone older than me out there (50, 65, 75, 80!) who can help ❤ #learnontiktok

♬ Lofi – Domknowz

Many commenters responded that these are unprecedented times and despite their age, they’ve never seen anything like it.

Others exhibited the same lack of concern that has become all too familiar.

But some users patiently described the struggles previous generations faced, a good reminder that we have lived through history so far, and we’ll get through this too.

Some reflected on the earlier civil rights movement, the origin of similar movements today:

“1968. There was civil unrest all the time. Martin Luther King Jr.’s assassination, riots in the streets of Washington, DC, Bobby Kennedy was shot and killed, more violence. A few weeks later — the Democratic National Convention, nothing but riots and violence. And the Vietnam War still raging! ’68 was not a good year, but by ’69 we had man landing on the moon and Woodstock and things started to get better. We got through that. It was rough. We’ll get through this. It’s rough, but we will survive, we will thrive. Hang in there.”

—@heardeverything

And more than one person mentioned Apartheid:

“I grew up in Apartheid South Africa as a person who isn’t white. We had no idea if the oppression would ever end. Violence was rife. But we got there.”

-@quarkum

And the lessons learned:

“I’m 58 and I grew up in Apartheid South Africa. I learned that things can go from fearful and hopeless, to positive and hopeful with good leadership.”

-@rhyder.savage

Memories of the JFK assassination echoed what we will probably tell future generations about the attack on the Capitol:

“A time in my life when I was really afraid was when President John F. Kennedy was shot. I will never forget that day. I was in geometry class when we got the announcement over the loudspeaker, and we were devastated. We didn’t think our country would ever heal or survive from that horrific event because we all loved President Kennedy.”

—@brunchwithbabs

The Cold War was also a popular theme, which shows that some things never change.
The nature of the specific threat may differ, but the players are still dancing the same dance:

“When I was a kid, we lived in the DC area and my dad worked there. He was also in the Navy. I can remember those years during the Cold War when he would come home and there would be such an air of seriousness and uncertainty. Uncertainty causes a lot of stress and anxiety, and we knew things could change at any second. After the Cuban missile crisis, we had the arms race, and that was the only time I can remember this degree of uncertainty. Other than that, I don’t remember another time with this level of stress.”

—@tjthompson06

Although no one mentioned the 1918 pandemic, many users recalled the AID crisis of the ’80s:

“The HIV/AIDS crisis. I was a child when it broke and it scarred me for life. The adverts were horrific. Nobody knew what caused it when it first happened. People thought you could contract it from sitting on a toilet seat or sharing a cup and predominantly from gay people because it was hitting that community the hardest. It was horrific…but we got through it because we followed the science.”

—@newforestsara

Another user reminded us that the threat of climate change isn’t a new concern:

“From ’77 to ’79, we had the worst drought in California and also had people shooting each other over gas. There were the hostages in Iran. In first grade, I learned the destructive power of nuclear weapons. In high school it was HIV, fear of being gay, and just not knowing what the world was going to look like. Then, in ’89, the wall came down. Every generation goes through its bad times and we get through it. Having gone through what I did as a young person gives me perspective about what we are going through now. It will get better.”

—@blameebner

Nor is domestic terrorism, although it never stops feeling shocking:

“I’m 55 and I grew up for the first 34 years of my life living in N. Ireland during the ‘troubles.’ It was very scary at times and has left many scars.”

-@user45787591 Alan Johnston

And a few users passed on their grandparents’ experiences in WWII:

my grandma during ww2!!! she told us that they even escape in the middle of the night using a boat from one island to another. & changed their surname!! she’s 11 at the time and it was very scary for them. she’s 90 now!

-@nelykahr

This one really hit home:

I’m just 40, but I grew up with my grandpa, a WW2 vet (he passed in 2005). To him, every event in his life was either “prewar” or “postwar”.

-@tjdimacali

Honestly, that feels like the most real answer of all.

We will get through it, because humans are resilient, but for many of us, our lives will forever be defined as “pre-Covid” and “post-Covid.”

What about you? Do you have any wisdom to impart about similarly stressful times in human history? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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A Man Helped a Stranger in Trouble. Now a Discussion Brews About Men Being Allies in Public.

Awareness has been growing in recent years, one that highlights how the experiences of most, if not all, women intersect when it comes to not feeling safe in public at some point in their lives.

If you speak to any woman on the street, she could likely tell you about a time she pretended to be on the phone with her mom, when she faked a boyfriend to slip away from a persistent stranger, or when she walked to her car, heart in her throat and keys pointed out like weapons between her knuckles.

The men in our lives who want to help keep us safe are often at a loss as to how to do that, aside from doing their best to simply be better in their own lives, but the actions of one man has gotten attention – and sparked discussion – online and beyond.

Image Credit: Buzzfeed

The guy in question is TikTok personality @thebrandonrobert, and when he spotted a woman at the mall being made uncomfortable by a man who “appeared to be intoxicated or on drugs,” he wasn’t sure exactly what he should do.

He did think she looked scared, though, and so he approached her, pretending they were friends in order to extricate her from the situation.

Image Credit: TikTok

After making eye contact with her a few times, he approached her with a familiar greeting, which she returned. Then they discussed an imaginary aunt that was also at the mall, and agreed to go and talk to her together.

She thanked him for helping her as they walked away, saying that he wouldn’t leave her alone and he was creeping her out.

Image Credit: TikTok

The comments on the video seem to point to the fact that many women would like having help like this in awkward or potentially dangerous situations.

Men who want to do something, to be better allies, should stay alert and pay attention to what’s going on around them – because there’s a good chance that it won’t be long until they catch a dude behaving badly.

@thebrandonrobert

She was so thankful 🥺🥺

♬ original sound – Brandon Robert

Don’t let them get away with it, and when and if you can, help the woman in the scenario, too.

Stand up guy, this one. Even if he did make me type “TikTok personality” at the top of this article.

If you’re a woman, sound off in the comments – is this intervention something you would appreciate? Tell us why or why not down below!

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A Man Helped a Stranger in Trouble. Now a Discussion Brews About Men Being Allies in Public.

Awareness has been growing in recent years, one that highlights how the experiences of most, if not all, women intersect when it comes to not feeling safe in public at some point in their lives.

If you speak to any woman on the street, she could likely tell you about a time she pretended to be on the phone with her mom, when she faked a boyfriend to slip away from a persistent stranger, or when she walked to her car, heart in her throat and keys pointed out like weapons between her knuckles.

The men in our lives who want to help keep us safe are often at a loss as to how to do that, aside from doing their best to simply be better in their own lives, but the actions of one man has gotten attention – and sparked discussion – online and beyond.

Image Credit: Buzzfeed

The guy in question is TikTok personality @thebrandonrobert, and when he spotted a woman at the mall being made uncomfortable by a man who “appeared to be intoxicated or on drugs,” he wasn’t sure exactly what he should do.

He did think she looked scared, though, and so he approached her, pretending they were friends in order to extricate her from the situation.

Image Credit: TikTok

After making eye contact with her a few times, he approached her with a familiar greeting, which she returned. Then they discussed an imaginary aunt that was also at the mall, and agreed to go and talk to her together.

She thanked him for helping her as they walked away, saying that he wouldn’t leave her alone and he was creeping her out.

Image Credit: TikTok

The comments on the video seem to point to the fact that many women would like having help like this in awkward or potentially dangerous situations.

Men who want to do something, to be better allies, should stay alert and pay attention to what’s going on around them – because there’s a good chance that it won’t be long until they catch a dude behaving badly.

@thebrandonrobert

She was so thankful 🥺🥺

♬ original sound – Brandon Robert

Don’t let them get away with it, and when and if you can, help the woman in the scenario, too.

Stand up guy, this one. Even if he did make me type “TikTok personality” at the top of this article.

If you’re a woman, sound off in the comments – is this intervention something you would appreciate? Tell us why or why not down below!

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This Guy Refutes That the Gender Pay Gap Is a Myth and His Video Went Viral

People don’t really like to talk about money. Whether because we think it’s rude or because we don’t understand it, as a species, we’re not super comfortable with it.

But most women who have had a conversation with a male coworker on the taboo subject of salary can verify that the gender pay gap is very real. Still, sometimes I guess the world needs a man to prove it.

Like many head-scratching things, the gender pay gap has been turned into a political issue.

So it came as little surprise recently when Dennis Prager, a radio personality and socially conservative political commentator popped off about the issue, describing it as a myth.

Dennis Prager asks Why would any employer employ a man?

Image credit: TikTok

He posted his patronizing bad take on TikTok, but the backlash was so intense that he has since deleted his account.

One response came from James Ray, who uses his account @jamesgetspolitical and his economics degree to combat misinformation on social and political issues.

In his video, which has almost 2 million views and has been shared more than 10 thousand times, James quickly and eloquently explains two reasons the employers still hire men, despite them costing more than women: customer bias and hiring manager bias.

Both often lead to women losing out on jobs to men, or to being paid less when they do land the job.

You can watch the full video here:

@jamesgetspolitical

Labor market time 😈 #greenscreenvideo #leftist #liberal #democrat #women #FindYourCore #fyp #4u #reply #politics #usa #money

♬ original sound – James Ray

When interviewed by Bored Panda James explained his video response to Praeger.

“He spews very hateful unfounded rhetoric to his audience and I think the disinformation and overall problematic nature of his content have made me dislike him considerably!”

The artful take-down was not the only one on James’s account, either.

His account is full of critiques of bad takes, like this one, where he explains why popular arguments against a minimum wage increase are silly:

@jamesgetspolitical

Econ tea time #greenscreenvideo #leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #money #ChipsGotTalent #economics #education #lesson #teacher

♬ Lofi – Domknowz

And this one, about making Washington, DC a state:

@jamesgetspolitical

Can we stop treating the founding father’s like Gods idk #greenscreensticker #leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #TikTokGGT #DC

♬ Spongebob – Dante9k

He also responded to a white dude who was emoting on why everyone’s hating on white dudes:

@jamesgetspolitical

#stitch with @itzbengee I actually might know! leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #history #education #MillionActsofLove

♬ original sound – James Ray

If you are progressive or want to learn about progressive politics, you’ll enjoy his videos.

What do you think of his explanation of the pay gap? Are you ready to join the fight or do you have your own hot take?

Let us know in the comments.

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A New Orleans Bar Sets a New Standard for Dealing with Spiked Drinks

As women, we have to be constantly on our guard, especially out at drinking establishments.

The threat of someone spiking an unattended drink is a fear we can all relate to.

That’s why it’s so heartening to hear a story about people watching out for one another.

Back in April, Reddit user xXSlimi_Gacha009 asked:

Bartenders of reddit, what was the weirdest/craziest thing you have overheard while making someone’s drink? from AskReddit

There were lots of interesting responses, but the story that really stood out came from a user called Pinkyfitts, who was not actually a bartender.

The year was 2007 or 2008. The bar was called Tipitina’s, a venue in New Orleans, Louisiana.

Don’t know if this is common but:

Was sitting at a bar with a band. It was noisy and crowded. Some girl comes up next to where I was sitting and tells the bartender “excuse me, but I just saw that guy ( customer) right there put something in that girl’s drink”. I didn’t see the guy she pointed to. Bartender turns around and said something, I suspect a code word to somebody, and BAM. Immediately all the lights go on, the manager steps on stage, stops the band, and makes the following announcement:

Color me impressed already. I can’t believe they actually stopped the band.

The manager said:

“Attention: We have a report that someone in this room possibly drugged a young ladie’s drink. We request that all women here immediately put down your drink and don’t take another sip. We will replace your drink for free. If you are that young lady, we will notify you when you come to the bar. If anyone is feeling sick or weak please let us know.”

I’m especially pleased to see this response from management.

They not only at the cost of the alcohol, but they sent a signal to their patrons that women were safe and valued, and that antisocial behavior would not be tolerated.

Pinkyfitts goes on to explain:

Wow. Lights stayed on. Band remained off. For a long time, maybe an hour. Cheers from the crowd and nobody complained. Don’t know what the guy did because I didn’t know which guy it was.

That place rocks.

Another bar shared a story how they did it…

Image Credit: Reddit

Like many of the commenters stated, if I lived locally, Tipitina’s would become my new favorite watering hole.

Image Credit: Reddit

And they’d get some BIG tips.

Image Credit: Reddit

Interviewed by Bored Panda, Pinkyfitts tells more of the story:

“The bar is a very old bar in New Orleans, it’s a music venue/bar. It’s loud and hot. It has a ticket entrance, and has some pretty good bands. It’s well known, called Tipitina’s. I have been going there since the late 1980s, so already had an impression of the place. Typical non-French Quarter music venue/bar, more local than touristy. It’s not fancy, but has great music and is usually crowded.”

I will now be telling everyone I know who wants to take in a show in New Orleans to check out this place.

Pinkyfitts also told Bored Panda:

“The bar did not get less crowded, but then there was a charge to get in, and it was clear the band was going to restart, so that may have played a big role. I could not tell which woman’s drink was involved, or which man was suspect as I didn’t see who the witness pointed at. I don’t know if the police were called or a confrontation with the involved people, but that could have easily been out on the sidewalk.”

Although the events in this story occurred shortly after the time of Hurricane Katrina, it’s good to know that the bar is still in business.

And thankfully, Tipitina’s owners appear to have found a way to survive the pandemic, including by streaming some of their shows online.

Even though this is exactly how every bar should behave, it’s really good to hear about it actually happening.

Many Reddit users had similar stories of bartenders to the rescue. What about you? Share your story in the comments.

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A TikTok User Asked for Examples of Men Who Are Insecure, and the Video Went Viral

We all know some guys who have to prove how masculine they are.

There are the old jokes about the size of his car proving that he’s compensating for something.

American men especially are brought up to perceive a very narrowly defined definition of masculinity as “right.”

Recently, a TikTok user challenged those assumptions when he asked his followers what their biggest indicator was for a man feeling insecure in his masculinity.

@richtiktoxic

Stitch or Duet me with your favorite indicator!! #stitchthis #toxicmasculinity #peab

♬ Esco Like Yhop ft. Shawn P – Èsco Upp🗣

He also provided his own answer.

“I’ll go first. As soon as a man refers to himself as an ‘alpha,’ …”

In many circles, this is referred to as toxic masculinity.

Buzzfeed explains:

According to dictionary.com, toxic masculinity is defined as “a cultural concept of manliness that glorifies stoicism, strength, virility, and dominance, and that is socially maladaptive or harmful to mental health.”

Here are some of the top responses that @richtiktoxic, a photographer and environmentalist, received:

Mal: when they lift their cars/truck unnecessarily high to make their vehicle look bigger (laughing face with crying eyes). RichTikToxic: THIS.

Image credit: TikTok

A lot of the responses shared similar themes.

One indicator was an obsession with money:

“When they get upset at how much money you make.”

-@marin.hope

“I made more money than my ex, so I would pay for things. But he wouldn’t let me pay — as in, he wouldn’t let me physically hand my card over to the server. So when the server would come, my ex would look me straight in the eyes and say, ‘I got this, babe.’ Then, he would hand her my card.”

-@toxicatok

Another common theme was emphasizing their straightness.

Zsuuuuu: being weirdly specific about how he's not gay.

Image credit: TikTok

“When they refer to themselves as ‘super straight.’” —@reggieherold

A very common theme centered on a general aversion to anything associated with being female.

Redd: When they refuse to talk about anything relating to eMoTiONs because it's too girly.

Image credit: TikTok

“When he says, ‘Periods are gross.’”

-@basicminiwheats

“Whenever they find ANY reason to discredit women’s issues.”

-@nigelmylesgordon

Zeke Yeager: Refuse to do any form of self care because it's only for woman (rolling eyes emoji)

Image credit: TikTok

“When they hate or dislike something for the sole reason for it being a ‘girls thing.’”

-@cm12k

Many women found it was a big red flag if the guy won’t help you out with your bag.

user8830742952726: Omggggg if they refuse to hold your purse. (frowning face)

Image credit: TikTok

And of course several reasons just fell into the category of having a generally gross personality.

“Whenever someone gets off on hating everything and constantly projecting toughness. I was like that when I was, like, 15, and my entire personality was a device to try and convince people I was tough in some way. Like, if a new song came out, I had to assert that it was terrible.”

-@cwelz_

“When they won’t date a tall girl.”

-@user715430319797

“Owning guns is a personality trait rather than just owning them.”

-@vicki.lester

“It was when he said ‘I’m the BOSS in this relationship’ for me 💯

-@ninjaskuxx

These would definitely all be red flags for me. What do you think? What is the most obvious indicator for you?

Let us know in the comments.

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