A Woman Got Feedback After Claiming She Was “Raised to Take Care of Her Husband”

Let’s just say up front that everyone’s relationship roles and dynamics are different, and if both partners are happy and fulfilled and it works for them, it’s no one’s business.

That said, once you put your business on Twitter and also use a somewhat judgy and sanctimonious tone that suggests your way is the right and good way and everyone else is dumb, well…expect feedback.

Twitter user Brylea Kay sent this tweet, claiming that she was raised to be an “old fashioned” wife who took care of her husband and made him dinner and cleaned the house, et al.

Let’s first point out that, due to her wording, we can assume dear Brylea has never been married (or added kids to the mix), so we will have to assume she’s like those people who have opinions on parenting before they attempt to tackle it themselves.

People had some thoughts.

Some excellent GIFS.

And just some plain hilarious responses to this dear heart thinking she knows anything about what it takes to stay happily married to another person who turns out to be way more annoying than you thought.

I mean, I kind of just want to give her a hug and tell her to get back to me in 15 years.

What do you think? Were people right? Piling on? Let’s talk about it in the comments!

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Here’s a Heartfelt Open Letter From a Mom Asking Her Husband for More Help

Motherhood is so hard. We carry these babies, give birth to them, and bring them home, an unimaginable love and sense of responsibility tight in our chests. We want to be the world for those babies. We want to be great wives. We want to maintain a career. We want clean houses and healthy dinners. We want to feel like the human being we used to be.

Emotions are tricky, and here’s the rub – we cannot do all of those things without help.

Gender roles are long established, and those ruts are hard to break out of. We watched our mothers maintain a house, a career, and be our primary caregiver while Dad loved us, and occasionally took the lead, but still had more of his own life. Part of us thought maybe things would be different in our own households, but the other part went along with more of the same, figuring if our mothers did it then so can we.

We shouldn’t have to, though, and that’s what mom blogger and author Celeste Erlach wrote in this raw open letter to her husband one night after bringing home their second child.

"Dear Husband,I. Need. More. Help.Last night was hard for you. I asked you to watch the baby so I could go to bed…

Posted by Breastfeeding Mama Talk on Saturday, March 17, 2018

She shared it on Breastfeeding Mama Talk, and if you want to know how real it is, well…there are thousands of women who feel just like Celeste.

Dear Husband,

I. Need. More. Help.

Last night was hard for you. I asked you to watch the baby so I could go to bed early. The baby was crying. Wailing, really. I could hear him from upstairs and my stomach knotted from the sound, wondering if I should come down there and relieve you or just shut the door so I could get some desperately needed sleep. I chose the latter.

You came into the room 20 minutes later, with the baby still frantically crying. You placed the baby in the bassinet and gently pushed the bassinet just a few inches closer to my side of the bed, a clear gesture that you were done watching him.

I wanted to scream at you. I wanted to launch an epic fight that very moment. I had been watching the baby and the toddler all damn day. I was going to be waking up with the baby to feed him all damn night. The least you could do is hold him for a couple of hours in the evening to I can attempt to sleep.

Just a few hours of precious sleep. Is that too much to ask?

I know we both watched our parents fulfill the typical mother-father roles growing up. Both our mothers were the primary caretakers and our fathers were relatively hands off. They were excellent dads, but they weren’t expected to spend a significant amount of time changing diapers, feeding, caring, and tending to the kids. Our mothers were the superwomen who maintained the family dynamics. Cooking, cleaning, and raising the children. Any help from dad was welcome, but unexpected.

I see us falling into these family dynamics more and more each day. My responsibility to feed the family, keep the house clean, and take care of the kids is assumed, even as I return to work. I blame myself for most of it too. I have set the precedent that I can do it. And in truth I want to. No offense, but I’m not sure I want to know what a week’s worth of dinner would look like with you in charge.

I also see my friends and other moms doing it all, and doing it well. I know you see it, too. If they can manage it, and if our mothers did it so well for us, why can’t I?

I don’t know.

Maybe our friends are playing the part in public and secretly struggling. Maybe our moms suffered in silence for years and now, thirty years later, they simply don’t remember how hard it really was. Or maybe, and this is something I berate myself over every single day, I’m just not as qualified for the job as everyone else. And as much as I cringe just thinking it, I’m going to say it: I need more help.

Part of me feels like a failure for even asking. I mean, you do help. You are an amazing father, and you do a great job with the kids. And besides, this should come easy to me, right? Motherly instincts, no?

But I’m human, and I’m running on five hours of sleep and tired as hell. I need you.

In the morning, I need you to get our toddler ready so I can care for the baby and make everyone’s lunches and drink a cup of coffee. And no, getting the toddler ready does not mean plopping him in front of the TV. It means making sure he went potty, giving him some breakfast, seeing if he wants water, and packing his bag for school.

At night, I need an hour to decompress in bed knowing our toddler is asleep in his room and the baby is in your care. I know it’s hard to listen to the baby cry. Believe me, I know. But if I can watch and pacify the baby for the majority of the day, you can do it for an hour or two at night. Please. I need you.

On weekends, I need more breaks. Times where I can get out of the house by myself and feel like an individual. Even if it’s just a walk around the block or a trip to the grocery store. And some days when I’ve scheduled swim class and play dates, and it seems like I’ve got it all under control, I need you to offer to lend me a hand. Or suggest I go lay down during the kids’ naptime. Or start putting away the dishes without me suggesting it. I need you.

Lastly, I need to hear you’re grateful for all I do. I want to know that you notice the laundry is done and a nice dinner has been prepared. I want to know you appreciate that I breastfeed at all hours and pump when I’m at work when it would be easier for me to formula feed. I hope you notice that I never ask you to stay home from your networking events and sport activities. As the mom, it’s assumed I’ll be home all the time and always available to care for the kids while you’re out and I feed that assumption by, well, being home all the time.

I know it’s not how our parents did it, and I hate even asking. I wish I could do it all and make it look effortless. And I wish I didn’t need kudos for doing things most people expect from a mom. But I’m waving a white flag and admitting I’m only human. I’m telling you how much I need you, and if I keep going at the pace I’ve been on, I will break. And that would hurt you, the kids, and our family.

Because, let’s face it: you need me, too.

Our husbands are good men. They help. They’re far more involved in their kids’ lives than our fathers were, and certainly more than our grandfathers.

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But it’s not enough.

We’re drowning, and asking for help is just one more thing we have to do that we feel like we shouldn’t, for one reason or another.

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We need men to step up.

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We need friends to tell us we’re not losers or failures and it’s okay to need help.

We need our mothers to remember that just because they did it, they weren’t thrilled with the status quo.

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Mothers are super women, but they don’t have super powers.

We need sleep. We need to recharge. We need our bodies to ourselves for just a few hours.

We need someone else to unload the dishwasher, or fold the laundry.

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That doesn’t make us losers.

It makes us human.

What do you think about this powerful topic? Let us know in the comments!

 

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Here’s a Heartfelt Open Letter From a Mom Asking Her Husband for More Help

Motherhood is so hard. We carry these babies, give birth to them, and bring them home, an unimaginable love and sense of responsibility tight in our chests. We want to be the world for those babies. We want to be great wives. We want to maintain a career. We want clean houses and healthy dinners. We want to feel like the human being we used to be.

Emotions are tricky, and here’s the rub – we cannot do all of those things without help.

Gender roles are long established, and those ruts are hard to break out of. We watched our mothers maintain a house, a career, and be our primary caregiver while Dad loved us, and occasionally took the lead, but still had more of his own life. Part of us thought maybe things would be different in our own households, but the other part went along with more of the same, figuring if our mothers did it then so can we.

We shouldn’t have to, though, and that’s what mom blogger and author Celeste Erlach wrote in this raw open letter to her husband one night after bringing home their second child.

"Dear Husband,I. Need. More. Help.Last night was hard for you. I asked you to watch the baby so I could go to bed…

Posted by Breastfeeding Mama Talk on Saturday, March 17, 2018

She shared it on Breastfeeding Mama Talk, and if you want to know how real it is, well…there are thousands of women who feel just like Celeste.

Dear Husband,

I. Need. More. Help.

Last night was hard for you. I asked you to watch the baby so I could go to bed early. The baby was crying. Wailing, really. I could hear him from upstairs and my stomach knotted from the sound, wondering if I should come down there and relieve you or just shut the door so I could get some desperately needed sleep. I chose the latter.

You came into the room 20 minutes later, with the baby still frantically crying. You placed the baby in the bassinet and gently pushed the bassinet just a few inches closer to my side of the bed, a clear gesture that you were done watching him.

I wanted to scream at you. I wanted to launch an epic fight that very moment. I had been watching the baby and the toddler all damn day. I was going to be waking up with the baby to feed him all damn night. The least you could do is hold him for a couple of hours in the evening to I can attempt to sleep.

Just a few hours of precious sleep. Is that too much to ask?

I know we both watched our parents fulfill the typical mother-father roles growing up. Both our mothers were the primary caretakers and our fathers were relatively hands off. They were excellent dads, but they weren’t expected to spend a significant amount of time changing diapers, feeding, caring, and tending to the kids. Our mothers were the superwomen who maintained the family dynamics. Cooking, cleaning, and raising the children. Any help from dad was welcome, but unexpected.

I see us falling into these family dynamics more and more each day. My responsibility to feed the family, keep the house clean, and take care of the kids is assumed, even as I return to work. I blame myself for most of it too. I have set the precedent that I can do it. And in truth I want to. No offense, but I’m not sure I want to know what a week’s worth of dinner would look like with you in charge.

I also see my friends and other moms doing it all, and doing it well. I know you see it, too. If they can manage it, and if our mothers did it so well for us, why can’t I?

I don’t know.

Maybe our friends are playing the part in public and secretly struggling. Maybe our moms suffered in silence for years and now, thirty years later, they simply don’t remember how hard it really was. Or maybe, and this is something I berate myself over every single day, I’m just not as qualified for the job as everyone else. And as much as I cringe just thinking it, I’m going to say it: I need more help.

Part of me feels like a failure for even asking. I mean, you do help. You are an amazing father, and you do a great job with the kids. And besides, this should come easy to me, right? Motherly instincts, no?

But I’m human, and I’m running on five hours of sleep and tired as hell. I need you.

In the morning, I need you to get our toddler ready so I can care for the baby and make everyone’s lunches and drink a cup of coffee. And no, getting the toddler ready does not mean plopping him in front of the TV. It means making sure he went potty, giving him some breakfast, seeing if he wants water, and packing his bag for school.

At night, I need an hour to decompress in bed knowing our toddler is asleep in his room and the baby is in your care. I know it’s hard to listen to the baby cry. Believe me, I know. But if I can watch and pacify the baby for the majority of the day, you can do it for an hour or two at night. Please. I need you.

On weekends, I need more breaks. Times where I can get out of the house by myself and feel like an individual. Even if it’s just a walk around the block or a trip to the grocery store. And some days when I’ve scheduled swim class and play dates, and it seems like I’ve got it all under control, I need you to offer to lend me a hand. Or suggest I go lay down during the kids’ naptime. Or start putting away the dishes without me suggesting it. I need you.

Lastly, I need to hear you’re grateful for all I do. I want to know that you notice the laundry is done and a nice dinner has been prepared. I want to know you appreciate that I breastfeed at all hours and pump when I’m at work when it would be easier for me to formula feed. I hope you notice that I never ask you to stay home from your networking events and sport activities. As the mom, it’s assumed I’ll be home all the time and always available to care for the kids while you’re out and I feed that assumption by, well, being home all the time.

I know it’s not how our parents did it, and I hate even asking. I wish I could do it all and make it look effortless. And I wish I didn’t need kudos for doing things most people expect from a mom. But I’m waving a white flag and admitting I’m only human. I’m telling you how much I need you, and if I keep going at the pace I’ve been on, I will break. And that would hurt you, the kids, and our family.

Because, let’s face it: you need me, too.

Our husbands are good men. They help. They’re far more involved in their kids’ lives than our fathers were, and certainly more than our grandfathers.

Image Credit: Facebook

But it’s not enough.

We’re drowning, and asking for help is just one more thing we have to do that we feel like we shouldn’t, for one reason or another.

Image Credit: Facebook

We need men to step up.

Image Credit: Facebook

We need friends to tell us we’re not losers or failures and it’s okay to need help.

We need our mothers to remember that just because they did it, they weren’t thrilled with the status quo.

Image Credit: Facebook

Mothers are super women, but they don’t have super powers.

We need sleep. We need to recharge. We need our bodies to ourselves for just a few hours.

We need someone else to unload the dishwasher, or fold the laundry.

Image Credit: Facebook

That doesn’t make us losers.

It makes us human.

What do you think about this powerful topic? Let us know in the comments!

 

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These 15 Marriage Truths Are Hard to Deny

Everyone’s marriage is different in big and small ways, but it’s also true that all marriages have some big and small things in common.

If you’re married, sometimes it can feel as if no one understands what goes on behind closed doors, and I find posts like this to be helpful in reminding me that people get it, at least a little.

Here are 15 truths that, if you’re married (or have been married) you can’t deny are true.

15. Sex will be frequent and sometimes mind-blowing. Then, for a period, it will be just fine and not as frequent. Then it will be mind-blowing again.

Do your best to roll with the punches.

14. Your spouse will freak out over things that you think are wildly irrational. Looking at those irrationalities as rational and treating them as such is critical. You don’t have to agree with them, but you do need to be compassionate. Emotional invalidation is a killer.

This one is so hard. And so important.

13. Seemingly inconsequential things — how someone arranges the eggs in the fridge, the amount of paper towels they use, if they leave the cabinet doors open, if they accidentally hog the covers at night — will be the gateway to hour-long arguments.

You will know that it’s silly, yet you will not be able to stop.

12. Without independent hobbies, shit will go sideways.

You need to spend time apart.

11. Without regular activities to do together, shit will also go sideways.

It’s a delicate balance.

10. You will go to bed angry sometimes.

You have to sleep, and some arguments aren’t over in a day (or a week).

9. You will wake up angry sometimes.

See above.

8. There will be times when your partner will say something about a past experience that will shock you and remind you that you don’t know them as well as you thought.

This can be a good thing.

7. Talking shit about other couples will be considered a great date night.

It’s a great bonding experience.

6. There’s some truth to this Ogden Nash quote, “Marriage is the bond between a person who never remembers anniversaries and another who never forgets them.” Understanding how you complement one another is crucial.

Ideally, you both bring strengths to the table.

5. Remembering the little things will solve so many issues. And marriage will make you realize that they’re not actually little things. They’re very, very big things.

The little things are so often the big things.

4. You will hear your spouse tell the same story for 4587 times throughout the course of your marriage.

Just smile and nod at the appropriate junctures.

3. You will go out with other couples and think they are weird or, frankly, the fucking worst. You will go out with couples that think the same of you.

Repeat after me: not everyone has to like you.

2. You will, at some point or another, feel like your partner and the kids have a relationship you could never have.

That is your own mess to deal with, not theirs.

1. Marriages always end poorly. The best-case scenario is that someone dies at the end.

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I’m reading The Untethered Soul (yes I said this a year ago. It’s a hard concept to grasp!) and it all boils down to this: do you choose happiness or not? Shit is going to happen to you, stress happens when you resist life’s events. Choose to find the joy. Look for it. Stay committed. Stay conscious. Stay open. No matter what happens to you. Kid skips school. Failed job. Failed marriage. Death. Don’t close. It’s not easy. Everything we’ve been taught says otherwise. We want to protect ourselves. We want to save face. But for what? It keeps us caged. Real freedom comes when we let go of ego, fear of failure and move through life with joy and a sense of adventure. We are here for such a short period of time. Really. Go full force with good intentions. Someone remind me of this tomorrow. 😂❤❤ #untetheredsoul #choosejoy #butmykidisfailing #myhusbanddied #acceptlifeevents #choosehappy #whynot

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Depressing food for thought…or maybe that’s just how stuff is. Right? RIGHT?!?!

I already feel less alone, and happier with the way things are!

What do you think it absolutely true about being married? Share with us in the comments!

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These 15 Marriage Truths Are Hard to Deny

Everyone’s marriage is different in big and small ways, but it’s also true that all marriages have some big and small things in common.

If you’re married, sometimes it can feel as if no one understands what goes on behind closed doors, and I find posts like this to be helpful in reminding me that people get it, at least a little.

Here are 15 truths that, if you’re married (or have been married) you can’t deny are true.

15. Sex will be frequent and sometimes mind-blowing. Then, for a period, it will be just fine and not as frequent. Then it will be mind-blowing again.

Do your best to roll with the punches.

14. Your spouse will freak out over things that you think are wildly irrational. Looking at those irrationalities as rational and treating them as such is critical. You don’t have to agree with them, but you do need to be compassionate. Emotional invalidation is a killer.

This one is so hard. And so important.

13. Seemingly inconsequential things — how someone arranges the eggs in the fridge, the amount of paper towels they use, if they leave the cabinet doors open, if they accidentally hog the covers at night — will be the gateway to hour-long arguments.

You will know that it’s silly, yet you will not be able to stop.

12. Without independent hobbies, shit will go sideways.

You need to spend time apart.

11. Without regular activities to do together, shit will also go sideways.

It’s a delicate balance.

10. You will go to bed angry sometimes.

You have to sleep, and some arguments aren’t over in a day (or a week).

9. You will wake up angry sometimes.

See above.

8. There will be times when your partner will say something about a past experience that will shock you and remind you that you don’t know them as well as you thought.

This can be a good thing.

7. Talking shit about other couples will be considered a great date night.

It’s a great bonding experience.

6. There’s some truth to this Ogden Nash quote, “Marriage is the bond between a person who never remembers anniversaries and another who never forgets them.” Understanding how you complement one another is crucial.

Ideally, you both bring strengths to the table.

5. Remembering the little things will solve so many issues. And marriage will make you realize that they’re not actually little things. They’re very, very big things.

The little things are so often the big things.

4. You will hear your spouse tell the same story for 4587 times throughout the course of your marriage.

Just smile and nod at the appropriate junctures.

3. You will go out with other couples and think they are weird or, frankly, the fucking worst. You will go out with couples that think the same of you.

Repeat after me: not everyone has to like you.

2. You will, at some point or another, feel like your partner and the kids have a relationship you could never have.

That is your own mess to deal with, not theirs.

1. Marriages always end poorly. The best-case scenario is that someone dies at the end.

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I’m reading The Untethered Soul (yes I said this a year ago. It’s a hard concept to grasp!) and it all boils down to this: do you choose happiness or not? Shit is going to happen to you, stress happens when you resist life’s events. Choose to find the joy. Look for it. Stay committed. Stay conscious. Stay open. No matter what happens to you. Kid skips school. Failed job. Failed marriage. Death. Don’t close. It’s not easy. Everything we’ve been taught says otherwise. We want to protect ourselves. We want to save face. But for what? It keeps us caged. Real freedom comes when we let go of ego, fear of failure and move through life with joy and a sense of adventure. We are here for such a short period of time. Really. Go full force with good intentions. Someone remind me of this tomorrow. 😂❤❤ #untetheredsoul #choosejoy #butmykidisfailing #myhusbanddied #acceptlifeevents #choosehappy #whynot

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Depressing food for thought…or maybe that’s just how stuff is. Right? RIGHT?!?!

I already feel less alone, and happier with the way things are!

What do you think it absolutely true about being married? Share with us in the comments!

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People Open Up About Why They Have More Random Sex

People have very strong feelings about casual sex and casual hook-ups, so it’s interesting to get some perspective from the men and women who are actually doing it, instead of only hearing from those who want to offer up opinions about other people.

Here are quotes from 12 people who offered honest answers about why they choose to have casual sex.

These answers are certainly eye-opening. Let’s take a look.

1. Likes a little variety.

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2. Need some physical contact.

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3. A little (temporary) confidence.

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4. For the thrill of it.

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5. That’s a new one.

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6. Do what you want.

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7. Not very satisfying.

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8. Maybe a little cold-blooded?

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9. For one reason only.

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10. Some human contact.

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11. Need to feel validated.

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12. Paying the bills.

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There is some pretty fascinating insight into that mindset from those answers, don’t you think?

Do you have any opinions on casual sex?

Let us know what you think in the comments, please. We’d love to hear from you!

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Little Things All Married Couples Know Are the Gospel Truth

Marriage can be really tough, but if you’re in it with a person who is intent on making it work as much as you are, it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences of your life.

If you’ve been or are married, there are just some things you know are true for everyone – below are 16 of those things, and if nothing else, they’ll make you feel like we’re all kind of in this together.

16. It’s important to know what parts of your partner need to be scratched from time to time.

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When the scratches are just too good 😭😍 (@oliviaejair)

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Maybe especially when you don’t feel like doing it.

15. Sometimes sex is tedious and boring and you’re tired and not in the mood and that’s a fact of life.

Sometimes you do it anyway, and it’s really not as bad as you thought.

14. You will absolutely recognize your marriage issues in family sitcoms which means that your marriage is not as special and unique as you probably thought it was.

Which is kind of a good thing, because that means your problems aren’t special, either.

13. If you’re not talking about sex — what makes your eyes rollback, what makes them just roll — chances are it’s not that great.

Never stop trying to be better in all aspects of your marriage.

12. At some point, you have to stop being “lovers” and start being teammates who fuck occasionally.

And idk that’s kind of my favorite point.

11. Everyone thinks about leaving. That’s just a part of staying.

It doesn’t mean you’re going to.

10. Arguing before coffee is a waste of time.

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No one is in their right mind.

9. Having a kid bonds you, sure. You’re doing it together, and learning together. It will also lead to intense power struggles and some of the most bare-knuckled brawls you never imagined you’d have. About things like the best way to burp the baby, or what kind of cheese you should use in that seven-layer dip recipe.

It really does change everything.

8. There will come a time when your most regular texts from your spouse will be “Can you pick up X from the grocery store?”

It’s not sexy, but it’s helpful. Which is kind of sexy.

7. Every married couple should probably talk about finances way more often than they are.

I feel this all the way down to my bones.

6. Forgiveness is for people you don’t share a bed with. Forgetfulness is for people you do.

The phrase is forgive and forget for a reason.

5. Talking about your partner behind their back is a good thing. To be married is to be in need of advice.

We all need a little help from our friends.

4. But there’s certain information that your spouse will consider confidential.

You need to be keenly aware of the difference.

3. Anniversaries stop being special around year ten.

Or two, if you’re me.

2. A good marriage can survive you being honest about your kink.

Hey, it might even make it a great marriage.

1. Not everything needs to be equal. In fact, nothing ever really is.

Just try your best to make sure that it’s fair.

So, what we’re saying is, you’re not alone!

Good luck out there married friends; it can be a rough row to hoe, but the harvest is worth it (most of the time).

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If You’ve Ever Dealt With a Scorpio, These 15 Tweets Are for You

Scorpios are a unique breed, aren’t they? They’re known to be dramatic, intense, unpredictable, and emotional.

And the people who have dated them, been married to them, or had to deal with them a lot on a daily basis know all of these things to be very true.

So what to do? Put them on blast on Twitter, of course! Here are some funny and accurate tweets about all those Scorpio folks out there.

1. Two sides of the coin.

2. Not even gonna try.

3. Split personality.

4. Build up those life points.

5. Hmmm. Is this a good thing?

6. VERY INTENSE.

7. Is this true?

8. Shock and awe.

9. She really wants to know what they’re gonna do…

10. That’s kind of crazy.

11. Shouldn’t joke about that.

12. Now you’re being ignored.

13. Jekyll and Hyde.

14. Taking it to the extreme.

15. Bit of a control freak…

I’m sorry, Scorpios…but it had to be done.

Everybody out there, we want your feedback!

If you are a Scorpio or maybe if you’ve just had to deal with them in your life, tell us what you think about them. Don’t hold back, now!

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Adorable Photos Of Taller Women Dating Shorter Men

There are a lot of people in the world – men, women, and everyone in between – who think that the man in a relationship should be bigger and/or taller than the woman he falls in love with.

Which is silly, when you think about it, because if you’re a woman of above-average height you’re crossing off a good portion of the dating population – probably full of some mighty fine men!

And, in order to crush the idea that shorter men aren’t sexy or that couples where the woman is taller look weird or out of place, these 13 couples are sharing their too-adorable pics together.

Enjoy!

13. Those are some pretty people.

12. And stylish, too!

11. Nowhere to go from there but up!

10. So many good looking people out there!

9. They’re definitely doing something right!

8. The woman who kicked off the thread bringing the truth.

7. He’s certainly learned how to smolder at the camera.

6. Hubba hubba I can see why!

5. Happiness like this is where it’s at.

4. Love is all you need.

3. When you’re a match, you’re a match.

2. They’re in for the long haul!

1. Think of all of the costume opportunties!

 

My husband is taller than I am, but I’ve definitely dated men who were my height or just barely taller – and honestly, not having to wear heels is kind of a blessing!

Is your significant other shorter than you? Taller?

We’re taking an informal poll in the comments!

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A Woman’s Story About Her Boyfriend Sharing Her Nudes With Family Sparked a Big Conversation

Issues around sharing intimate photos in the age of the smart phone have left a lot of people – and governments – flailing to catch up with new questions.

Almost everyone either has a story about trouble they’ve run into with nude photos, or knows someone who does. The most frequent version of this story is “I sent someone I trusted pictures and they ended up somewhere I didn’t want them to be.”

One reddit user on r/TwoXChromosomes had a variation on this story that left a lot of people shocked, and sparked over 1,000 replies in a giant conversation about toxic masculinity, shame, privacy, and the law.

I ( 24F) found out that my ( 25M) boyfriend has been sharing my nudes with his father.

…I found out only because I was scrolling through his phone and he shared them over text message.

His dad made disgusting sick comments like “that’s my boy” and “ dan [sic] she’s hot and wet, she’s a keeper”.

Never ever in my life have I ever trusted anyone as much as I trusted my boyfriend. I had never sent nudes to anyone before in my life because I was terrified something like this would happen.

– findmyiPad-

Things like this don’t just ruin someone’s day, or end a relationship, they can warp how a person sees themselves, and how they interact with the world, maybe permanently.

I ended up cutting off all contact with him and I am completely disgusted and so ashamed and embarrassed. I have not been able to leave my house in 2 days because I feel so objectified, used and I feel like complete trash.

I am not sure if I am going to take any steps against him legally because we were together for 3 years and I really don’t want to destroy the rest of his life with criminal charges. I am just really sick and confused right now.

I need some advice.

Thank you.

– findmyiPad-

It obviously wasn’t long before the replies started rolling in. First, we’ll get the obvious out of the way.

WTF? This is so sick

– Texcoco95

There was, naturally, every variation of “get tf out of there.”

As a guy, get out!

– jimmy-cell

A ton of people sympathized, with sometimes shockingly similar experiences.

I was not in the same situation as you exactly, but I will say I had some similar and didn’t want to ruin their lives with charges. The man in my case went on to ruin the lives of other women. I regret every day not pressing charges

– claireupvotes

Many offered words of encouragement and reminders that – even though this feels like it shouldn’t need to be said – people who find themselves in this situation aren’t the ones at fault. You feel bad, but that doesn’t mean you did wrong.

I’m sorry you feel embarrassed, but for heaven’s sake don’t be ashamed. No one who has been assaulted (and yes, ask any therapist on the planet – this is a form of assault, whether it’s against a woman OR a man) should feel ashamed. YOU did nothing wrong.

– remberzz

The thread contains a lot of pondering on how elements of male culture can encourage this type of thing.

I don’t understand the mentality, but I’ve sadly seen it before. My ex’s dad would commend him on getting hot girls etc. It was disgusting, and led to our breakup.

– THE_DUCK_HORSE

This typifies many of the responses:

I think its most likely a weird insecurity thing. They do it to confirm that other males approve of their choice and that others will see them as sexually successful.

– bikesexually

Overall, the thread was 100% supportive, which was refreshing to see.

Allow yourself time to process this betrayal of trust and then when you feel like you’ve found your feet, you can start making decisions on how to move forward.

– WadesUnbridledAnger

A few users attempted to dive into the legal options.

Unfortunately a good amount of US states only class sharing nudes without consent as a misdemeanor. I know because someone threatened me with that and in my state it’s only a misdemeanor.

– anti_citizen

But it quickly became clear that if you want to truly weigh your legal options, talk to a lawyer. Laws on these things still vary a lot from state to state.

In Illinois it’s a felony.

Edit: Also in Arizona, Hawaii, Idaho, Kansas, Louisiana, Missouri, Nevada, New Hampshire, North Carolina and Texas for the first offense, according to cybercivilrights.org. Plus in Missouri, merely threatening to distribute images is a felony in itself.

In New Jersey a first offense is a “third degree crime” with the possibility of 3-5 years in prison and a $15,000 fine, which sounds pretty felonious to me.

Oh and shoutout to Massachusetts, Mississippi, South Carolina and Wyoming, where it’s still not a punishable offense on any level.

– dangerouslyloose

Reading through this thread hit close to home for me because I recently tried to help a loved one navigate the same types of questions, and it’s never easy.

But it is encouraging to see culture shift toward a more supportive attitude to victims of this breeches of trust.

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