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An Actress Provided a Succinct, Powerful Explanation About Why Women Very Rarely Feel Safe

If you’re not a woman, it can be hard to understand what it’s like to walk around feeling not exactly secure, pretty much all of the time.

Women and girls have to be on their guard, watching their surroundings, picking out exit strategies, prepared to lie or laugh and jokes that aren’t funny or actually run for their lives if something goes south.

Actress Shay Greyson, who lives in London, does a great job illustrating what it’s like on a day-to-day when she describes and encounter with a man in the park who asked to take a picture of her dog.

It was daytime and there were people around, so she figured there was no harm in saying yes.

Until…

“My dog was on a leash, it was daytime, and there were a lot of people around.

With that in mind, I figured he had no malicious intentions, so I said yes.

As he was doing it, I noticed that his hand was holding her collar.

That’s when I realized he was actually taking a picture of my address on the dog tag, not my dog.”

I think many of us would have gone into flight mode at that point, but Shay didn’t – she went after him and stood up for herself instead, insisting that he delete the photos and then verifying that he did.

Then, she insisted that he delete them from his “recently deleted” folder.

“My gut told me to keep insisting, so I told him that I would not stop or leave until he showed it to me.

He then agreed to show me the album, and as I suspected, the three pictures were still there.

I then made him permanently delete them all.”

She shared her story on TikTok, where other women chimed in with their own stories and how they believe their own quick thinking perhaps saved their lives.

@heysheybae

What if I didn’t realize what he was doing? #fyp #safetyprotocol #womensafety #foryou #storytime #feminism #foryoupage

♬ original sound – heysheybae

If you’re not a woman and are wanting to better understand what it’s like to live as one – and why we often have escape strategies and don’t want to be friendly – there are plenty more posts on TikTok like Shay’s.

Women are out there trying to make you understand, so take advantage!

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Women Dating Men Open Up About Their Unexpected Affairs with Women

Do you sometimes feel like maybe you’re not living a very adventurous life?

I mean, I’ve done plenty of interesting things in my time and have had the pleasure of creating things and even making money having a lot of fun with my hobbies.

But then I read stories like these, about making new discoveries about your own sexuality in the midst of fiery affairs and I think “Wow, am I boring?”

But also…I don’t want the baggage?

I think I’ll just read some accounts from these anonymous posters.

10. “I’m too afraid to tell him.”

How does one start a conversation like that?

Source: Whisper

9. “The truth is…”

People don’t stop being bisexual once they get married.
Sexual orientation and commitment aren’t the same thing?

Source: Whisper

8. “I’m that girl.”

With a twist to the typical story.

Source: Whisper

7. “I can’t help but miss her.”

What do you do when your heart is split in two?

Source: Whisper

6. “No clue.”

Are you sure he doesn’t suspect a thing?

Source: Whisper

5. “A female coworker.”

To be fair, that’s the only way you can book a conference room.

Source: Whisper

4. “No one would ever suspect this.”

And what will they think when they find out?

Source: Whisper

3. “I ruined my relationship.”

Well, cheating will do that.

Source: Whisper

2. “I could never come out.”

The pressure to stay in the closet is still very real.

Source: Whisper

1. “If only he knew…”

Then what?

Source: Whisper

Wild, wild stuff.

Have you had an experience like this?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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Here’s the Real Difference Between Dating Men and Women – From the People Who Know

If you look up early uses of the word “bisexual,” they’re not quite what you think. It’s mostly references to the reproductive methods of plants, which isn’t nearly as interesting to most of us as the modern connotation, and the questions many of us have about it. Questions like this:

Bisexual people who have dated both genders, what are some notable differences you’ve learned about dating both women and men? from AskReddit

So, what’s the deal? The bisexual folks of Reddit tell all. (Most posters went out of their way to clarify that these are their own subjective opinions based on personal experiences and shouldn’t be read as generalizations for everybody in the world.)

1. A difference in communication.

Both genders are bad at communicating, but in completely different ways.

Men are more likely to not tell you information that would be important to you simply because they don’t deem it important. They gave you the important information. If you can’t understand it, then you’re either trying to complicate the issue or you’re not listening to them.

Women are more likely to not tell you information important to them because they see it as obvious. If they have to tell you the issue, then you’re not paying attention to them and the issue at hand or you’re not as invested in the relationship as they are.

– Twilcario

2. Suckers for cuddles.

Bisexual lady here.

Men have a tendency to assume that you’re looking for a more ‘serious’ relationship than they are, even if you explicitly say otherwise. And are suckers for cuddles.

Women like kissing more.

– astudyinbowie

3. A sense for danger.

So, what I can say is that after having four boyfriends, my ability to identify and avoid dangerous men was vastly improved, and my ability to identify and avoid dangerous women was . . . apparently not particularly improved at all.

I was very attuned to red flags involving sexism and completely unprepared for the fact that a woman who majored in Women’s Studies could perfectly well destroy years or decades of my life with no sexism necessary at all.

– queerbychoice

4. All about that baggage.

One thing I noticed back when I was dating was that women have a lot more baggage when it comes to physical intimacy. Women go through alot, they have tons of pressures put on them, many have had negative sexual experiences. It’s, well, just more complicated.

The guys I dated were frankly much more direct and more simplistic about it. I’m not saying either of these descriptions apply to all women or men, but that was my experience. With guys it was like ‘hey, wanna make out?’ and just sort of that simple.

– haroldtitus425

5. Identity acceptance.

When dating a man, he is very ok with me being bisexual. When dating a woman, it constantly comes up that I’m “actually straight” or “just going to leave [her] for a guy.” It is really annoying to have someone try to completely invalidate your feelings for them because of your dating history.

Yes, I’ve dated more men…I didn’t realize until I had been dating for several years that dating women was a viable option.

– Mr_ImMyOwnGrandpa

6. How forward?

Bi woman here.

There’s a tendency between queer women to avoid being very forward. I’m my own personal experience it’s because I know what it’s like to be pursued relentlessly (typically by men) and don’t want to become that person myself. Other women want to avoid the “predatory lesbian” stereotype that’s been fed to us through media.

Men are more forward but I don’t think they can pick up on the way that I’m feeling as easily as women can. My last girlfriend could tell something was wrong even if I put up (what I thought was) a very good front.

Women tend to have softer skin and lips.

Men kiss deeply and aggressively.

I like both ?

– thechelator

7. Trust and biphobia.

Bi woman. The biggest one was trust/biphobia and the way the two interrelate.

While dating a woman, having close male friends has always been off the table. It seems to really threaten/make uncomfortable my girlfriend and tends to turn into a never-ending “But are you SURE you don’t have feelings for him? you’re REALLY not attracted to him?” So many lesbians genuinely hate bi women and think they’re always going to cheat or leave for a guy.

Conversely, men don’t give a d**n if I have close female friends while dating them, but are far more likely to fetishize the knowledge that I’ve had past female partners. Which is obviously really uncomfortable if done in any sort of excess.

– FinalTourist

8. Romance and monogamy.

i find men to be more romantic and more interested in monogamy. women are easier to talk to and easier to argue with and then be able to walk back from the argument sooner.

men are more forward, at least initially. two girls could have a crush on each other for ten years and never work up the nerve to mention it.

men usually want to hammer out plans towards the end of a date (for the next date) but women are usually more go with the flow lets see what happens.

oh and girls are much, much better at handling rejection and boundaries. actually, just one “much”; i’ve had incidents here and there that were pretty awful from girls, but much more often, men are really bad at rejections on like, any level.

– Far_Ad_8813

9. Grading on a curve

As a bisexual woman I find it’s easier to date het men, bi-men, and bi women. Lesbians are much more difficult to date. Not because of who they are personality wise, but it’s hard to find a lesbian who will date a bisexual woman period.

I have no idea what the stigma is but it’s there. It seems like some lesbians are certain you’ll leave them for a man or cheat on them. I’ve never cheated on anybody. Ever.

Also, they sometimes are just all around uncomfortable you find men attractive. There’s definitely bi-erasure in the LGBTQ community. I’ve had fantastic dates or discussions with lesbians and when it comes out I also liked and dated men they bail.

– Lil_Elf81

10. On guard?

Bi man here.

I’ve always found it much easier to date men because they are much more straightforward, and the fact that they already like men seems to make it easier for them to adjust to me (though there is a lot of biphobia and dismissal of my sexuality).

With women they tend to be a lot more guarded and more easily put off, simply because they are likely to be straight and the idea that I am versatile and all that makes them feel weird I guess.

And like someone said earlier, men tend to stick less to their category than women! I’m like, 6 or 7 I’d say and all kinds of men have been into me, but women who are objectively hotter than me tend to be more dismissive ?

– CallumSmith9895

11. The rundown.

Bisexual woman who’s been in a serious relationship with one straight man and three bisexual men, and has briefly dated one bisexual woman. This is just from my experience, but I’ve noticed a person’s sexuality has a decent amount of bearing on their personality too.

Straight man:
Decent dude, but I had a lot of the standard complaints straight women have about their straight male partners; aloof at times, didn’t always take interest in my interests, often spoke over me and my concerns, etc. The gender roles were more “traditional” too, at his insistence more than anything. He also held a lot back, so even if something was bothering him, he wouldn’t talk about it because he hated talking about his feelings. It was an alright relationship, but it felt very straight.

Bisexual men:
The best of both worlds, in my opinion. You get the security of a male partner (walking with them at night, having backup from creeps in public, etc), as well as the implicit understanding that comes with being with another queer person who get it. They tend to be more secure in their masculinity. One of them loved farmer’s markets, another asked me to teach him how to crochet. It’s very refreshing to be with a guy that’s openly himself. They can also get more emotional, both for better and for worse.

Bisexual woman:
She was more of the bisexual stereotype, of the “will take anything that moves” variety. She was bright, intelligent, ambitious and I really respected her work ethic, but she has no interest in settling down romantically. We’re still friends, though I keep her at arm’s length for my emotion’s sake, since I really liked her.

I’ve yet to date a lesbian (in my experience, they tend to look down on bisexual women) or a nonbinary person (not for lack of trying; I’ve pursued a few but nothing’s stuck yet), but honestly, people are people. Being bisexual’s just helped me see that in a more direct manner.

– InfernoPotatoFull

12. Dropping hints.

Women are, in my experience, way worse at communicating what they mean clearly.

They think their “hints” are clear – they aren’t (I include myself on this, for the record).

Men, on the other hand, tend to be way too blunt and terrible at nuance – it’s far more black and white and many have no idea that the tone they speak in is as important as their words.

– FuzzyRoseHat

13. On the downlow.

Bi-male here but still closeted (is that an apt term?)

All the women I came out to were cool with it, yet acknowledged the fear about cheating with men.

There’s definitely a huge difference between gay men and DL men. Gay men can be clingy and never stop talking. DL men have sex and then usually f**k off or sit and watch sports, which is great because they don’t talk too much. I’ve never truly “dated” a man so I guess my experience is limited.

– Ilfubario

14. Level up.

Bi-fem.

Women tend to be on the same level as me and just know how my mind works, even thought were both complicated in a twisted way, and they give me mega snuggles on my period.

Men take a HOT minute to half understand my brain and just give me some chocolate on my period or say “oof that sucks.”

– bubblebeanUwU

15. Come on over.

Female 20 technically Pansexual

Men will usually say: “You can come over if you want.” Women say: “I want you to come over.”

(Most) Men want to be taken literally and be straight-forward. They want their partners to know they are honest but also independent.

(Most) Women want their partners to feel wanted or needed and use that in their speaking, especially over text. They are a lot more into the small details about the relationship.

– GalacticPhoxx

You learn something new everyday.

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Women Discuss the Nonsense They’re Still Expected to Put Up With

As a male, I have never once envied women. I know that some guys say they do, but I’ve never understood that. And the more I learn, the truer that is.

women, what is something that women experience and is seen as “normal” but is actually very wrong/shouldn’t be as accepted as it is? from AskWomen

Here are just a few of the awful impediments associated with womanhood, as laid out by the women of Reddit.

1. Downplaying how bad periods are.

I hate this, I was so used to thinking it was normal to feel horrible pain and I was being a baby, I remember several times I kept on with my plans although I felt like dying because I was taught I had to.

Turns out I have endometriosis and It makes me so mad.

– eatingcookiesallday

2. The s**pectations.

Feeling “expected” to have s** and having their pleasure being secondary.

I experienced this a lot when I was younger and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Like, I thought if I was kissing a guy “well, now I’m expected to have s** with him because he’s turned on. I guess I have to.” And also thinking that during s**, the end goal was really mostly about him.

It wasn’t until I was older than I realized how flawed it was for me to think that way and for men to have reinforced that thinking via their actions.

– GreenMountain85

3. “Boys will be boys.”

inappropriate behavior from men, especially from a young age.

If a boy hits a little girl he “just likes her”. That little boy grows up thinking there’s no repercussion for violence, and keeps hitting women.

The cycle just goes on.

– professional_joe

4. Restricted movement.

dressing little girls in a way that makes it difficult for them to move around. your four year old should not miss out on valuable play because she doesn’t want to mess up her clothes or hair. her appearance should be the last freaking thing on her mind.

it makes me so angry to see little girls having to sit on the sidelines while their brothers and male cousins play rambunctiously because their parents put them in a dress and expensive shoes. i hate the bulls**t propaganda that little girls “naturally” prefer playing quietly indoors and/or alone.

sure, it may be true for some little girls (just like it’s also true for some little boys), but you cannot tell me that socialisation doesn’t play a massive role in what kind of play children “naturally” prefer.

– [deleted user]

5. Mansplaining.

That condescending and infuriatingly arrogant tone that some men take on when explaining something (be it a hobby, some interesting fact, or the fundamentals of this and that) when their listener is a woman.

I understand that this may simply be done to impress rather than be irritating, but just knowing that they wouldn’t dare talk this way to male friend or colleague is…well, irritating.

– Marjory_SB

6. Degrading terminology.

Women being called “girls.” Whether it is conscious or not, it implies a lack of maturity and, therefore, deserved respect. Among countless other places I have heard this, I attempted to watch a season of The Bachelor (bad decision for many reasons) and I could not stand how often the women were called “girls.”

I couldn’t bring myself to check out The Bachelorette, but I suspect the men are never called “boys.”

– merrypoppin

7. “Why don’t you smile?”

When I was a kid, I usually cried when they insisted me to smile. I have millions of pictures of me crying, with watery eyes or looking really mad on family weddings.

There’s this one picture that I specifically remember my mother asking me to smile “cmon, show me some teeth!” And I literally just showing my teeth, no smile. What a brave little girl I was.

I started to smile by obligation later on, after my first job

– an_angry_kirby

8. Constant scrutiny.

The constant picking apart of women’s appearance by basically everyone and holding women to insane beauty standards.

Extensions, false lashes, makeup, drawn on eyebrows, contouring tricks to change your face, dye your hair, dress s**y, don’t dress too s**y, wax your privates, dye your hair, stay in shape, have a big butt, tiny waist, push up bras, get fake nails, on and on and freakin on.

– Snoo55011

9. Bizarre expectations.

I find it a bit insulting when you see a picture of a woman who is really pretty and you find out that she’s a top scientist or engineer or a doctor, something very prestigious, and a person says “ Wow, She’s pretty, I wasn’t expecting that!”

What, like are smart people usually butt ugly? pretty girls can’t be smart? Wtf! I feel like that’s really common and needs to end.

– itsrachyrach

10. Absorbing men’s dysfunction.

He was abused? She’ll talk him through the best therapy she can manage.

He was never taught how to (normal life skill here)? She’ll do it for him.

He’s too macho to take care of himself? She’ll nag him till he does, and she better be a good sport and laugh as she’s ridiculed for “being a nag”.

– plotthick

11. Harassment in the workplace.

Obviously harassment in ANY workplace is vile and wrong, but my aunt once told me to except to be flirted with, hit on, and harassed if I continued to work in kitchens/restaurants.

She said it was “just part of the territory” and that I needed to just “understand that that’s the environment.”

Excuse me? No. I don’t care what the environment is, women shouldn’t have to put up with harassment in the workplace.

– landw497

12. Not being listened to.

Seriously; I recently had a two-minute conversation with four of the men in my department (only woman there), and I had three of them in series each claim I was wrong about a different technical point, then immediately tell me the “correct” answer which was exactly what I had just told them.

I looked to the fourth man and asked him, “Did that just happen?” He agreed. Lots of pouty faces that day for being called on it in front of the boss.

– Arbiter_of_Balance

13. “The body count.”

I love s**. I need s**. If I met a guy I like (at least he’s hot, let’s put intelligence to the side).

I want him. I flirt with him. He wants me too. We f**k. I am happy. He is happy. We don’t want the relationship to go any further and maybe we even stop talking and never see each other again.

Who is seen as a slut? Me.

Who is seen as a hero? Him.

Wtf?

Even if it was me seducing him? Even if it was consent from both sides? Even though it was two people just wanting to f**k each other and nothing more?

I think to be a slut you have to sleep around with guys you don’t even like, and maybe when you regret your hookups, but it doesn’t belong to any gender. Guys can be sluts too. And I knew many that are, I mean, they f**k girls once and they say they didn’t even like them? They say they are ugly etc.

What the f**k?

– -acidlean-

14. “When a boy is mean to you, that means he likes you…”

JUST NO!!!

Anyone that truly loves you will not hurt you mentally, physically, or verbally. EVER!!! They tell you this s**t when you’re young to prepare your for a dirtbag husband in the future and some women never get the common sense to see that it’s actually a bully!

Ugh, this totally just grinds my gears!!!!! ?

– Chuck2025

15. Being treated like you’re frail.

When people won’t let you do things because you’re a woman or tell you to wait for or get your male partner to do that thing.

I know it might be put across, commonly, as a care or consideration, but it’s condescending, diminishing and a deprivation, at times.

– riverkaylee

We all need to do better.

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Misogynistic Things That Women Have to Deal With All the Time

The older I get, the more amazed I am at the sheer depths of the nonsense women still have to put up with in this world.

And a little trip to Reddit sure isn’t helping things.

women, what is something that women experience and is seen as “normal” but is actually very wrong/shouldn’t be as accepted as it is? from AskWomen

Here’s just a small sampling – there’s plenty more where this came from.

1. Relaxing too much around guy friends being interpreted as a signal.

One time I thought I was just hanging out with a guy outside of work. When he picked me up in the parking lot of our job he had a rose in his hand. I had never even hinted that I was interested or that our hang out was a freaking date!!

The worst part is that he went in for a kiss later and I had to tell him I wasn’t interested. It was awkward.

– ohshizzit

2. Medical ignorance.

The way the medical community seems to approach childbirth.

I’ve watched documentaries etc (no kids myself) and what really struck me is how patronising everyone was to these women who are going through perhaps the worst pain of their life, and how things like LITERALLY CUTTING THEIR GENITALS are seen as no big deal.

In what situation would you ever be able to cut a penis and shrug it off as nothing?! Madness.

– AirStoned

3. The work expectations.

I know way too many women who think it’s normal to have to do most of the housework and childcare, plus the mental and emotional load of household management, even if they also have an outside job.

Also to manage their husbands as if they are children who can’t be expected to remember to make appointments or buy their own clothes or things for the children or holidays or take care of menial tasks without reminders and help.

– FranzLuciferdinand

4. The boundary push.

Men pushing boundaries without consent during s**. “Accidentally” putting it in the wrong hole. Strangling. Hitting. Abusive misogynistic language.

Pretty much every woman I know has had a man do these things out of nowhere towards them and they are supposed to accept it because it’s “kinky” or something.

And now it’s literally 15 years old girls who are dealing with this trauma because of p**n normalizing it as something boys are supposed to do to women, its completely disgusting.

– OrangeyPanda

5. Having to be polite to creepy men.

I had a guy who wouldn’t take “I’m married “ for an answer. I even showed him my ring. He stopped me in the parking lot right in front of my car and wouldn’t let me leave until I gave him two hugs and agreed to go on a date with him.

Then when I unlocked my car and tried to get in he opened the car door for me. I was terrified.

I’ve never been back to that Starbucks because I agreed to meet him there the next day at the same time.

– [deleted user]

6. Uninvited comments.

That people think they have the right to comment on how a women looks or what she is wearing.

There have been way too many times where someone feels they need to point out my “physical flaws” just because, ex. acne, dark circles under my eyes, body/ facial hair, too pale, etc.

– mermaid_with_pants

7. “Don’t say no.”

When I was growing up, a family member had a band that would play around the area and we’d try to make it every time.

I enjoyed dancing. I would dance with my cousins or family members or family friends my age.

However, I was told I couldn’t say no if someone asked me to dance and that it was rude. This included creepy old men.

I can’t tell you how many times throughout my preteens/teens I had to bear through a song with an old man pushed up against me telling me I was pretty.

– anavocadotornado

8. The constant danger.

I’m in the UK, I love running but I pretty much can’t train past a few months as when my fiancé is home at 4:30pm it’s dark, I can’t run on our old railway path when it’s dark!

It’s annoying but normal to me now, but for a man? Yep run on your own at 5pm no worries

– UnderstandingCheap57

9. Putting up with too much.

Tolerating partners who drain your energy, put you down, and don’t put in effort to your relationship and/or household because you believe what you should be doing is trying to fix them or figure out how to make them behave.

Relationships ARE work and conflict is bound to happen, but I see so many women doing all of the work all the time and blaming themselves when their men don’t get better.

– ohdearsweetlord

10. Pregnancy being treated like an illness.

I feel like if men had to go through childbirth there would be more medical advancements in the field.

Also, women’s childbirth injuries are often never treated seriously because the child is prioritized.

Many never fully recover.

– purplesky23

11. Dealing with manbabies.

Ladies it is not normal to be with someone who argues with you, never cleans up after himself and expects you to do all of the housework.

It is mind boggling to me the amount of time I see women dealing with lazy manbabies on Reddit who can’t be bothered to treat them with respect, be empathetic and understand and can empty the dishwasher and do the dishes and clean up.

– Csherman92

12. Emotional burdens.

Having to carry the emotional burdens of children more than men because we are the “sensitive” and “emotional” ones. Like please, men have just as many emotions as we do, yet women are expected to do all the emotional lifting when it comes to raising children, we are expected to handle the tantrums and soothe the crying of children.

Like no, how about the man shows his son how its okay to talk in a soft voice and let them cry in their lap, like yes please, more of that, thank you.

– prettyxxreckless

13. The image problem.

Women are over s**ualized in everyday life and in media. I remember playing video games as a kid and internalizing a lot of harmful ideas of what a woman should be because the thread of constant non stop s**ualization was everywhere. Even as a child I would be creeped on by predatory men.

When I went online, it seemed p**n was everywhere and the vast majority of it is so disgusting in its portrayal of women. We are fantasy material and our pleasure is secondary to men’s, for some reason in p**n we all must get off on being jackhammered and degraded. I don’t doubt some of that can be s**y to women in the right context (respectful safe BDSM) but how often do you see the man focusing on her after his orgasm and providing aftercare? Why is normalized that we are constantly expected to be s**ually appealing and have our entire gender portrayed so fanservice-y at all times… It’s exhausting!

– filthy_kasual

14. Let people like things.

There is NOTHING a woman can like without being made fun of (and this is especially bad for teenage girls).

I remember hearing this question for the first time and I genuinely couldn’t think of something that I would be able to like without someone mocking me

– tiredseoul

15. The intrusive pass.

In public spaces, when men put their hands on you so they can pass by. It’s common in clubs and bars, but happens elsewhere, too.

Funny thing is, a guy can’t get past you without putting his hands on your waist.

But, he can navigate a wall of men totally touch free. So creepy and intrusive …

– RasSass_01

Take all that with you, fellow dudes. We gotta do better.

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What Red Flag Do You Regret Ignoring Early in a Relationship? Women Shared Their Stories.

When you’re falling for someone or starting a new relationship, sometimes you ignore stuff.

You ignore things that you wouldn’t necessarily tolerate because you want it to work out so much…and sometimes that can come back to bite you in a major way.

Women, what red flags do you regret overlooking in the early days of a relationship?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts.

1. Not good.

“The terrible s**.

Obviously in the beginning you’re still working things out but if it’s still terrible after a few months despite trying your hardest to show them what you enjoy then don’t pretend it’s not a big deal when s** is a very important aspect of a healthy relationship.

I pretended it was no biggie, because hey its just s** and now I’m married and our bedroom is completely dead.”

2. Can’t have that.

“He made me feel self conscious about silly things like singing badly in the car.

We were married for 16 years before I realized I’d changed too much for him and had lost who I really am as a person. I couldn’t be silly or goofy, and he thought I was stupid for liking to get little gifts for people when I’d see something that made me think of them.

After our divorce, I moved halfway across the country (TX to CA) to work on myself away from the same places I’ve always lived. I feel like me again and felt good about moving back to TX because of the healthier place I’m in now.

Along the way, I realized I was too young and inexperienced in the realm of relationships when I got married and gave up too much of myself. Never again.”

3. Foreshadowing.

“Him saying I was a “real woman” and “different/better than his exes”.

Those comments made me feel good at the time, but then I realized it was his way of saying that actually no woman was good enough for him.”

4. Messed up.

“Unable to deal with negative emotions, being desperate to avoid them at all cost.

This led to me neglecting my own needs, because he’d take it as personal criticism if I told him I needed something he didn’t already give me.

Equating s** with love.”

5. Sketchy.

“He didn’t like me telling mutual friends about our relationship because he was a private person.

Lots of other red flags but this was a big one.

Turned out he was living a double life but it took me 2 years and a mental breakdown to figure that out.”

6. Never a good thing.

“Anger issues/”having a temper”/explosive outbursts of anger when things didn’t go his way/lashing out physically and verbally when upset.

Just because it hasn’t been directed at you yet, doesn’t mean you are actually safe.”

7. Sums it up.

“If the friends he hangs out with the most are a**holes, he’s an a**hole too.

He’s just acting differently because you’re around.”

8. Disaster area.

“The absolute state of his house.

He blamed it on his ex and being too small and swore it wouldn’t be the same once we moved in together.

Guess what?”

9. Only got worse.

“In my abusive relationship: when he yelled at me when he found out I was a feminist.

He accused me about lying about who I was by not telling him.

I thought it was pretty obvious from having even one conversation with me and didn’t feel the need to say “I’m a feminist”. It only got worse from there.”

10. Boozin’.

“The amount of alcohol.

We were young, so everyone was still in that stage of going out and partying a lot, me included, so I didn’t think much of it.

But he seemed to do it just a little more than everyone else.”

11. All about image.

“He was an appearance guy. He wanted to appear so perfect in his social circle.

In fact, our first fight was because he invited his 2 friends to our night out without my consent (no problem) but those guys acted as if I did not exist. Then I got bored and I wanted to leave after like an hour, he took me home but he sulked like a baby!

Months to come, he would take me out and treat me like a queen in front of his friends while at home we were fighting almost every week. I got tired of the duplicity and had to finally leave him.

But if I had known, I would have left after that first fight.”

12. Groomed.

“He was 12 years older than me and we began talking as “friends” when I was 15 years old.

Looking back i think i was groomed but hey, he’s not in my life anymore so what does it matter?”

13. The jealous type.

“Extreme jealousy.

He was very romantic and charming at first, then started accusing me of infidelity and flirting with other man. Once he accompanied me to the vet because my dog was in an accident and needed surgery.

He accused me of flirting with the vet, even though the vet and I were discussing my dog’s care. He has a meltdown over it later in the evening. That is only one example. Fast forward a couple of months…I find out he was still married and I was “the other woman”. Ew.”

Do you remember some red flags you overlooked in relationships?

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Tweets to Help You Make Sense of the World

Were you aware that it’s time to go? Go to the Twitterverse, go watch the show? Did you see that it’s time to be? Be at one with the Twitter in thee?

Genuinely I did not start writing that first sentence with the intention of turning it into a bad poem. It just sort of happened. That’s how inspired I am by these funny tweets. They’re lifting me to a new plane of existence.

And now, you can be lifted too.

10. The brand deal

Make it look like you’re richer than you are with this one neat trick.

9. Fed up

I mean, I knew that, but you don’t have to rub it in.

8. Thai me down

Let me just buy a week’s worth of ingredients for a dish I will never ever attempt to make again.

7. Working it out

Whatever gets that heart beating fast.

6. Long story short

Just say “long story” so people know what they’re in for and can prep accordingly.

5. It gets better?

You’re never gonna feel like you get it.

4. On the sly

Nancy with the hot goss.

3. Bill’s coming due

Don’t worry, they didn’t mean any of it either.

2. Beneath the mask

This is how I feel about literally all reality shows.

1. The road to nowhere

As someone who frequently road trips across the midwest, can confirm.

Image Credit: Pleated Jeans

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
This tweet list is over,
I bid you adieu!

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Fellas…We Need to Talk About These Tweets

Guys, we need to talk about some things.

We’re gettin’ called out on Twitter and rightfully so. Don’t take this as a time to get all defensive and rev up for a fight, just listen for a minute, maybe laugh along a bit, and let’s all just try to make the world slightly better, starting with us, eh?

Here are a few things that have been brought to our attention.

13. Decisions, decisions

Don’t get mad at the symptoms before you’ve taken a second to understand the disease.

12. Reverse!

Not everybody needs you to save them. Get that bread.

11. Across state lines

Ok but for serious tho.

10. It’s fine, period

Honestly guys, grow up. Yeah human bodies are weird as heck but we all got ’em.

9. “Boys will be boys”

This is a cause I firmly believe in.

8. Oh come on

Learn to find solutions for both of ya’ll.

7. Braided together

Don’t pull this on people who work for you, leave them be.

6. Mansplain

It’s all fun and games until you devastate yourself like this.

5. Passing the bar

Are we just belittling for fun?

4. The shame game

Just don’t.

3. The double standard

All jokes aside it’s really sickening.

2. Just talking

I dunno man, what were you saying before?

1. Very mature

I never heard either but I get it.

There we go. That wasn’t so bad, huh? Now let’s try to be decent people…. if that’s even possible.

What might you add to this list of observations?

Tell us in the comments.

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Memes For Women Who Really Need a Laugh

Hey ladies, and girls, and women, and also all other humans! We’ve got memes! That are funny! Would you like to see them? Well you gotta answer my riddle first.

Actually nevermind, I forgot what the riddle was, I was too busy laughing at these memes, here just look at them.

15. Nailed it

Why must the things we love always go?

Via: The Chive

14. King of the jungle

He knew what was up.

Via: The Chive

13. Don’t get it twisted

And he managed that much after like fifty blunts, so.

Via: The Chive

12. Work it out

Well, that’s enough crunches for today.

Via: The Chive

11. Eye see you

When you just gotta put it all on the line.

Via: The Chive

10. Moral support

Nevermind what he did let’s SKIP TO THE GOOD PART.

Via: The Chive

9. Candid camera

Oh totes no effort, just chillin’ with the besties.

Via: The Chive

8. Celebration time

Why is that second one in front of Christmas wreaths?

Via: The Chive

7. All the single ladies

Nobody looks particularly happy to be here.

 

Via: The Chive

6. The best

Totes agreed.

Via: The Chive

5. The highest compliments

Why thank you, you’ve just made my month.

Via: The Chive

4. The French style

I can’t make it…go on without me.

Via: The Chive

3. The feeling

The sheets just hit the fan.

Via: The Chive

2. Just browsing

HOW is this so effectively terrifying?

Via: The Chive

1. Fixer upper

Hey man at least you’ve got a car.

Via: The Chive

Nothing like a solid meme break.

Which meme made you laugh the most?

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