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People Explain Which Dating ‘Red Flags’ Actually Don’t Bother Them At All

Relationships are complicated, and dating even moreso.

People are often told to look out for “red flags” when dating, but what really constitutes a red flag?

Redditor TaxiDriverThankGod asked:

“What is seen as a red flag in dating which you believe is actually a ‘green flag’?”

It’s Not Always An Overshare

“Depending on the situation, oversharing. Some times you just gotta put it all out there right away and if they don’t like it, you’re not wasting your time.” -Cyndas-quil

“I’m lucky enough to be married to the love of my life and together for 15+ years since we were teenagers so don’t need to worry about dating but I have ADHD and am the absolute worst for over sharing, I’ll tell you my life story and all my deepest darkest secrets if you so much as hint that you might give a sh*t.” -InncnceDstryr

“I have very severe anxiety and I tend to get a lot of panic attacks so that’s something I like to make known right away because I’ve had too many experiences with guys dumping me and blaming my anxiety for it.”

“Mental illness can really complicate things when it comes to dating because it’s different for everyone so you can’t expect everyone to understand and want to stick around. You’re so lucky to have found someone who has been with you every step of the way no matter what. It’s not easy to find people like that.” -Cyndas-quil

“I overshare because I’m way past the point of giving f*ck about keeping up with false appearances or trying to seem like my life is more perfect than it is. These days I’d rather both sides lay it out straight, let’s not waste my time or theirs playing that stupid back and forth footsie game only for one of us to back out once all the information becomes clear. F*ck that, I’ve wasted far too much time due to that exact thing.” -Captain_Aizen

Excitement Is A Good Thing

“Being excited to go on another date, immediately.”

“Could be codependency, or it could be that you’re genuinely that interesting to her. Why wouldn’t I want to spend a lot of time with someone I like?” -uselessthrowawaydude

“Yeah it’s weird that society expects people to act like they don’t care that much when dating.” -vercetti87

“It’s really weird when it contradicts how you’d treat a friend. Like, it makes sense to not jump the gun and make grand statements of love and affection and so on right off the bat, but for schedules to really work and all that, any friend group knows that it helps to set up the next meetup, get an idea of work schedules, etc.”

“Yet with dating, it often seems the opposite and you get people trying to get the romance and the affection while limiting the discussion of logistics.”

“Ftr, it’s understandable why this springs up in context, but it just… seems like a miracle that anybody actually gets it to work this way.” -country2poplarbeef

Different Skills Entirely

“Being bad at dating in general. Dating and relationships have completely different skill sets. One requires timing and guarding your information and trying to show your best self and not being too weird and handling these various interested people while the other requires opening up and sharing your true self with just one person. Totally different skill sets. People who are terrible at dating might be just great at being in a relationship, ya know?” -TommyTuttle

“100% me. I absolutely LOATHED dating. HAAAAAAAAAATED it. I wasn’t good at the trade craft of it all.”

“I think I am a pretty darn good partner though. Now that all that BS is behind is, we can just get down to the business of being together.” -LifeOpEd

“Agreed. Awkward people can make the best friends and soulmates. I’m outgoing and my SO was always awkward and bad at flirting but we get along like nothing else.” -Helicocccter

Shouldn’t Wanting To Communicate Be A Good Thing?

“Being open. Texting multiple times. Not caring to much about social dating rules.” -goudendonut

“This. If a guy I’m interested in answers my text soon, not wait a day or a week later, it shows he’s interested and prioritizes me.” -PuzzledInside123

“It also makes it more authentic instead of going to that overthinking mode for cool responses.” -goudendonut

Why Make Them Wait?

“The three day rule is just plain stupid. I can’t count the number of times I’ve assumed someone wasn’t interested because after a first date they didn’t text for days. And have had several who thought I was weird for texting within that time. How is showing interest a bad thing? If it’s a bad date sure, but I don’t see any reason for this social norms bs of ‘don’t seem too eager or they’ll think you’re weak.’” -EvieJC

Find Out If You Want The Same Things

“Discussing life goals and future desires such as kids, marriage, work or education within the first few dates. Some people think it’s to heavy for getting to know someone, but to me nothing is more freeing than knowing the expectations and goals the other person has set so we can both make an informed decision.” -4Gotten1

“Yeah I’ve had friends who got engaged really quickly and I’ve asked them about things like if they’re gonna have kids, where do they want to live other things like that and they admit that they haven’t talked about it at all. Like you need to know about those things before you marry someone.” -Mangobunny98

“How do you make a commitment to a life with someone when you don’t even know if they want the same kind of life you do?? That’s wild to me.” -Proud_Hedgehog_6767

Being Able To Talk About Emotions Is A Good Thing

“Oversharing their emotions. I am too weak in understanding people. So if someone is very expressive about how they feel… I’m all in.” -friday_panda

“My girlfriend was like this when we first started to date. Wasn’t a red flag. More like a yellow flag at that time. But it’s turned out well because she’s always open to communicating and sharing her feelings whenever something is bothering her in life or in our relationship. We rarely ever get into arguments because she chooses to share and communicate and encourages me to before it gets to the point of it causing a fight.” -texxmix

Companionable Silence Rocks

“Running out of things to say. It’s a good sign that the person you are with is comfortable not jabbering” -SlapDickery

“If you can feel comfortable with them in silence, that’s a green flag. You don’t necessarily want the silence to be due to lack of mutual interest, but it is important that not every moment needs to be filled with speaking.” -omgtater

“Agreed! I’m generally the person in a conversation who likes to facilitate what others are saying and play more of a supportive role, but the people who will monologue at others like a steamroller on meth just drive me insane. Being talkative =/= social skills.” -MyGreatBurner5198

Weirdness Makes Things Interesting

“Honestly weirdness, I need someone interesting. Mutual weirdness is the way to go.” -Firm_Egg2505

“Weird can mean many things, good and bad. But I think I know where you’re coming from. I’m down for weird as in forgetful, goofy and funny way.” -DyingOfExcitement

Nerds Unite!

“Hardcore hobbies. Nerds make great lovers.” -RedneckNomad

“I’ve met my favorite lovers through medieval reenactment.” -Kataphractoi

Not everyone communicates the same ways, or looks for the same things in relationships.

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Are One Night Stands Awful? Let’s See What People Had To Say.

There’s a cliche in so many movies and TV shows. You’ve got a character to introduce (usually a guy) and you need to show that he’s kind of living wildly, so you have him wake up naked next to some attractive young woman whose name, we find out, he can’t remember.

But how much is this really happening? And how much does anyone really like it?

One user took to r/UnpopularOpinion to parse things out.

Casual sex and one night stands are overrated and unfulfilling

It seems media has made sleeping around casually and hooking up look like a liberating experience. You meet someone, you may or may not know their name, then you have sex with them. You do this every week or so, never getting to know the person except physically. I’m not one of those you should play hard to get or make em wait people but I think you should at least feel a deep affection first. We all know that sex feels great. But having an intimate conversation with someone, being vulnerable with a person you trust, & expressing your passions can bring a much more fulfilling experience. A lot of times we feel ashamed and regret sleeping with the person soon after. Yet, giving yourself completely to someone you have a deep reverence and compassion for does the exact opposite usually. We all have the power of choice and with that comes great responsibility. Let’s be a bit more thoughtful of who we decide to give ourselves to. Stop trying to fill that void and find more meaningful outlets and ways to connect.

And how did the people of Reddit respond? Let’s dive into the discourse.

1. “After a while it gets really old.”

Yep, after awhile it gets really old and you just want to have a real connection with someone. I distinctly remember the moment where I realized enough was enough and that I wanted a girlfriend after a couple years of casual relationships.

The worst part, and what probably pushed me over the edge, was when they wanted to get brunch the morning after. It was always so awkward and deflating, and made it obvious that this was no way to live life.

– StevieWonderTwin

2. “The feeling is beyond words”

So very true. I’ve had commitment issues my whole adult life but particularly in college. Ended up passing on some amazing women because of my emotional unavailability. I’ve worked through this now and tried to fix my relationship with my mother where I think caused most problems. I remember thinking I was the coolest at the time but the more it went on the emptier I felt.

I’m now with an amazing girl who truly completes me. I do not deserve her by any means but everyday I wake up just a bit before her and I watch her wake up and think how crazy lucky I am to have a life partner like her. The feeling is beyond words and I wish I met her years and years ago. She doesn’t know it yet but there’s not a doubt in my mind that she is my wife. I’m proposing in August.

Keep the faith guys!

– JoltyJob

3. “The hopeless romantic type”

My first relationship (started at 15) lasted 9 years so I ended up being kinda late to the casual thing.

I didn’t think I would like it much, I’m more of the hopeless romantic type. I’ve had a few over the years now and I mean… it’s not terrible, but it’s certainly missing some of the depth of a well known partner.

You basically exchange knowing your partner and being into them emotionally for the thrill of someone new. The thrill is pretty good, don’t get me wrong, but I’ll always take the long term partner over it.

That said if you find the right person, FWB situations can be pretty good. It’s kind of like a mix of both. You don’t love them, but you like them, and you get to know them in bed too. If you aren’t after a relationship it’s better than random hook-ups imo. Long term > FWB > randoms.

– thesircuddles

4. “Still crazy about him”

A friend had tried to hook up with me for years, but i turned him down. I wasn’t into casual.

I finally decided I wanted something easy with no strings.

We’ve been married for 20 years and our oldest is graduating this year. I’m still crazy about him and the s** is incredible.

– Own-Classroom-1660

5. “So awkward.”

They’re so awkward too the next day.

When I’ve had one night stands, I’d be drunk that night and so waking up sober in some stranger’s bed is h**la awk and uncomfy

– SurferBoi_

6. “Never gonna happen”

I could confidently say I’ll never have one night stand.

How the h**l are you not gonna put a night stand on both sides of your bed? Gotta go with two.

About the s**? Yeah that’s never gonna happen either lmao.

– GamerZ44

7. “I could never do that”

S** is definitely better when you personally know that person.

You’re showing vulnerability mentally, emotionally, and obviously physically.

I could never do that with some random stranger.

– viintageteen

8. “Let people do as they please”

given that this sub only upvotes Highly popular opinions … and that reddit is full of sad, self deprecating, and lonely people (tho not exclusively) and of course people who like making others feel bad for their choices… this makes sense it reached the front page.

let people do as they please. if sleeping around is what they like them let them live. if not being monogamous makes them happy. let them be. and if they don’t want to be vulnerable then there’s nothing wrong with that.. respect other people’s decisions.

– ThisGuyRightHer3

9. “Completely different versions of the same thing”

lots of weird comments here.

Like a family cooked dinner with all my loved ones is more fulfilling than stuffing my face with fried chicken.

I still love fried chicken though.

It’s two completely different versions of the same thing.

– Expensive_Cattle

10. “The lifetime average”

This is a topic the mainstream media pushes too in addition to division, strife, and whatever else.

How the f**k is everyone f**king weekly if the goddamn lifetime average is 7?

– KILLJEFFREY

11. “Not fulfilling”

I had a FWB before marriage… It was not fulfilling for me personally.

I understand some may enjoy it, but you have to have the personality to not need personal connection to enjoy s**.

I’ve come to describe casual s** like eating a chocolate bar when you’re hungry: sure, it takes the edge off your hunger, but if you could have something more (ful)filling (like a steak), you would prefer that instead of the candy.

– olympus321

12. “Different preferences”

Different people have different preferences.

If you personally prefer one or the other that’s fine but don’t act as if your preferences are superior and talk down to anyone who likes casual s**

– elementgermanium

13. “It depends on my mood”

Like everything in life, it depends on the situation.

Sometimes I’m just looking for s**…got an itch that needs scratching.

And sometimes I’m lonely and looking for an actual connect/relationship. It depends on my mood.

– katiek1114

14. “Stop giving your attention to media”

Maybe stop giving your attention to media that as you say promotes the antithesis of what you believe in.

Some people are into that s**t; many aren’t.

Perhaps consider avoiding the forms of media that make you think that’s a common belief.

– babyshaker_on_board

15. “The only thing I want”

It depends on individual desires.

I myself have zero romantic aspirations.

Because of this, physical pleasure is the only thing I have to gain from fornication, and the only thing I want from it.

– MilkPatty_

I guess at the end of the day the answer is…why not both?

But what do you think of all this?

Give us your thoughts in the comments.

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Weird Things that Made People Cut Off Relationships Right Away

Do you remember that episode of Scrubs where JD wants to break up with a woman because instead of laughing at anything she just says “that’s so funny?”

I felt that. When I watched that, I felt that. I don’t know how I could deal with be with a person who didn’t laugh.

But how petty a reason is too petty? Let’s go to Reddit to find out.

What’s the pettiest reason you’ve rejected someone? from AskReddit

Here are some folks who are looking for love in all the wrong places.

1. The constant caller

I broke up with my girlfriend in eighth grade because she called me four times a day when we didn’t have cell phones.

I got tired of talking on the phone and broke it off.

– qkathmandu

2. Who’s laughing now?

This is awful but it was her laugh. I never told her obviously because someone’s laugh is a representation of when they are happiest.

So shallow as she was pretty awesome.

– Ochsenfree

3. The beer snob

I was rejected because I didn’t like the taste of his preferred beer.

That was it, I wasn’t asking him to stop drinking it – I just didn’t personally want to drink it. We were about to order another round, he asked if I knew the one he had just had, and offered me a taste. I gladly accepted because I try to be open to tasting new things.

I just said I found it a little too hoppy for my tastes and I was happy to stick with what I was drinking. I wasn’t rude, I said it was nice, but a little hoppy for me. His face dropped, it was almost comical. He then said something along the lines that he had changed his mind and he had better get home.

That was the end of that first date. As in he literally decided he no longer wanted another round. The date was over. He had blocked me on Facebook before I walked the 100m to the bus stop.

Pretty sure I dodged a bullet there.

– Sharkoslotho

4. Bod speeling

She was texting me to tell me about her standards for men which were pretty high.

That’s fine.

But I didn’t like all the spelling mistakes she was making.

– yawnandshrug

5. Ew

Dude kissed me open mouthed with relaxed lips.

Not meant as a make-out kiss that was a quick kiss. Just opened his mouth and smashed his face into mine then pulled back. Ew

– kitcat7898

6. Scent of a woman

I could not stand her smell. No, she didn’t stink. But it was that “immune system does not match”- smell.

I just could not get turned on, and the kisses felt like paper.

Luckily, we handled this like grown-ups and are still friends.

– IlPrincipeKaoz

7. Color me surprised

Dated a guy who was color blind.

He’d argue with me about the color blue-green even if I was the only person in the relationship who could actually SEE blue-green!!

– suresher

8. Horrible taste…

Dude was super sweet, had a lot of good qualities.

He was a plumber and casually admitted to me that sometimes he will bite/clean his nails after work and taste the remnants of what he touched that day.

I could not get over that and had to move on.

– AdmiralPendeja

9. The nose knows

It wasn’t just about her nose, or the way she spoke.. but something about the combination of the two that I couldn’t get past.

All things considered, she dodged a bullet big time

– wormholetrafficjam

10. The dangerous keepsake

Went on a first date with someone that was out of my league. Couldn’t believe my luck! On our way to dinner […]

Suddenly she screamed at me to stop the car. Not pull over, stop right here right now immediately in the suicide lane of a 4 lane major road. Just before I came to a complete stop in the middle of this busy road, she opened the passenger door and tried to jump out. If a cop saw all this it probably looked like she was escaping a kidnapping.

She jumped out of the car and played Frogger across two lanes of traffic, and I sat there stunned with my passenger door hanging open into traffic. A few seconds later, she came running back with something under her arm. I couldn’t see what it was in the mirror. She had a huge smile on her face and as she climbed back into the car she squealed with delight as she showed me what it was.

A f**king hubcap.

She said it was to commemorate our first date, and that we could share custody of it. I could have it first.

That was our first and last date.

– Uncle_Baconn

11. Oh, baby

I broke things off once because of the size of her teeth.

They were tiny compared to the size of her mouth. It shouldn’t have been an issue, but it creeped me out. I don’t know why, but it was one of those things that I couldn’t ignore and gradually became the only thing I could see. Grown woman with a mouth full of baby teeth… just weird

– CarrollGrey

12. Give me a minute?

She would call me every single day like 2 minutes after I clocked out from work. I asked her several times to just give me an hour before she called. Let me get home first. I had a 45 minute drive home that was my decompression time, blast the radio and get over the days bs.

She couldn’t do it. That hour was to much to ask “but I couldn’t wait to hear your voice!” So I broke it off. My friends tell me that’s incredibly petty. I feel like she can’t respect simple boundaries and it will be a big problem later.

– TacticoolFudd

13. Fellas, is it gay to shower?

He said he never washed his butt because it would be “gay” to touch his own a**.

After that moment all I ever saw when I looked at him was poop.

He was literally a walking turd.

Never dropped someone so fast in all my life.

– Pricklypots

14. No scrubs

He didn’t have soap at his apt.

Even by the 3rd date, no soap anywhere at his place, no dish soap even.

He never smelled or anything, but just weirded me out.

– Additional_Ad1054

15. “Poor people food”

I had an ex who i asked to put a pizza in the oven, and he did. I took a bite out of it when it was done and realised he’d left the plastic film on and it’d melted into the pizza (i thought it was just weird cheese at first.) He then blamed me for making him cook “poor people food” that he didn’t know how to cook, cos his mum apparently didn’t buy that stuff.

His mum did buy that stuff cos id talked to her about food recommendations before, the reason he didn’t know is cos his mum cooks every meal for him and he never sees it before its finished ? he assumed she makes everything from scratch.

– sakura_gasaii

Well, that’s a whole lot of yikes from me.

What’s the pettiest reason you’ve rejected someone / been rejected?

Tell us in the comments.

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Couples Talk About Why They Decided to Open Up Their Marriages

I was once a guest performer for a sketch show in New York and the rather explosive opener we performed was about a couple who announces at a dinner party that they’ve decided to have an open marriage.

Things get immediately awkward. It’s comedy, it’s over-the-top, it’s cynical. But of course, the real reasons people go for that sort of thing, and the results, vary quite a lot in the real world.

Here are ten bits of anonymous input from couples who decided to open things up – and why they did it.

10. We’re exploring

It’s a whole new world out there.

Source: Whisper

9. So far away

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

Source: Whisper

8. Incompatibility

It kinda seems like that’s a problem that’s not gonna be solved?

Source: Whisper

7. Jealousy rules

Why do I feel like this can’t be sustained? Maybe I’m just a prude.

Source: Whisper

6. Years of research

What, like, in a lab? With white coats and mice and stuff?

Source: Whisper

5. Hot stuff

Let the fun times roll.

Source: Whisper

4. For us…

Did you blink it out with each other in morse code?

Source: Whisper

3. Hands on deck

Everyone head to the lifeboats while the band plays on.

Source: Whisper

2. The depressing truth

“But it’s mostly me that plays on the side.”

Source: Whisper

1. Chick, chick, boom

Is it really?

Source: Whisper

To each their own, I suppose. Whatever works for you works for you! The point is that you deserve to be happy.

Do you have experience with this kind of thing?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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People Share the Rumors at Their Schools That Turned Out to Be 100% True

I’m having a hard time pinpointing a huge rumor that captured everyone’s attention when I was in school, but I think it had something to do with a girl in my class getting pregnant and having to leave school due to her parents’ shame.

And I honestly can’t remember if that was true or maybe that poor girl just moved schools for another reason and had to deal with all that gossip.

Schools are total rumor mills, in case you forgot.

Folks on AskReddit shared stories about big rumors at their schools that turned out to be true.

22. Pregnant.

“That a 12-year-old 6th grader had gotten pregnant over summer break.

Our Los Angeles county suburb (it was a small and far-separated from LA itself, see how large that county actually is on Google if you are unawares) was so scandalized by this “rumor” that a newspaper article came out with a cartoon drawing of a pregnant girl in a pretty little girl dress and ribbon in her hair — playing with dolls and kneeling next to a doll-house — accompanied the story about the “little girl who got pregnant and planned to keep the baby.”

She was interviewed. I remember her name but it’s unnecessary— the whole town knew who it was.

What’s wild is that the kids in Jr. High actually had a baby shower for this 7th grader as she got close to full-term, and all brought in packs of diapers and formula for her on a designated day. With the teachers, principal, and probably the school district in support of this.

The year was 1984-1985.”

21. It’s all true.

“In high school: that the biology teacher was growing weed in the environmental lab. Supposedly he did it for 30 years without anyone noticing. No one could ever prove it though.

Later on, I was assigned to be the agent taking care of some of his financial matters, so I went to his house to have him sign some paperwork. He had a hydroponic setup there, so I asked him about the environmental lab. It was like Han Solo in The Force Awakens.

“It’s true. All of it.” Then he offered me a brownie.”

20. Whoa.

“There was a rumor that a teacher had s** with whole basketball team.

Well, turns out it was half of the team.

Worst part is her son was on the team.

Her husband ended up divorcing her and her son left with his dad.”

19. Scandalous!

“Our science teacher was having an affair with our science technician and regularly left class to do his thing with her in the technician’s room.

That rumor started on Day 1.

Four years, two divorces, and two very quick departures later it was confirmed and what was left behind was a technicians daughter in my year whose life had fallen apart.”

18. The cool teacher.

“In middle school, we had a “cool” Social Studies teacher. He loved the popular boys, especially the athletes, and not only ignored bullying in his classes of unpopular kids, he often took part in it.

He also offered up his services for tutoring to these boys. Everyone always thought he was a kiddie toucher, except the popular boys who would threaten you if they heard you talk bad about him. When we came back to school at the beginning of 8th grade, he was gone. As was one of the more popular boys in school. He transferred to an insanely expensive private school.

Turns out, sure enough, he was assaulted by the teacher several times during tutoring sessions at the teacher’s house. The school district agreed to pay to send the kid to private school as part of a settlement.”

17. Better be careful.

“That this girl at my school who was maybe 16 was banging all the older kids who never left for college.

Well she definitely was and everyone found out when she banged one of the cooler guys still in high school and there ended up being a herpes outbreak at my school.

Nearly 40 people got herpes.”

16. Acting!

“There was a family in my town that foster-to-adopted all their kids. They had a daughter of their own and then they adopted another girl her age when we were in 8th grade. They did NOT get along.

When the original girl developed epilepsy a few years later, her new sister claimed she was faking and everyone thought she was so mean and ostracized her.

Eventually, she had to fess up to faking the seizures all along when she signed up for basic training, which she never even completed. Unfortunately this was after we all graduated, so we never got to apologize to her sister.”

15. Undercover.

“That one of the students was actually a cop.

Turns out he was a cop and busted one of the actual students for selling handg**s in school.

If you thought 21 Jump Street was unrealistic, think again. The cop was a 33 year old male and undercover for like half the semester.”

14. Sad.

“In Elementary (about 15 years ago), our favorite school teacher didn’t come back after a summer break. He was awesome: funny, sporty, cool, down to earth, never shouted. Just a great role model to have around when you are a kid.

Rumors went round that his wife and daughter d**d in a car accident. No one believed it. It was just what kids said on the playground. Somebody heard it from somebody who heard it from somebody.

Then I went to the local grocery store with my Mom a little while after school had started again. I saw my old teacher. He was a shell, a wreck. I was only 8 but even then you can tell when someone isn’t there anymore. I asked parents of my friends, and they confirmed the rumors.

I felt so bad that something as awful as that could happen to one of the best guys I ever knew and always looked up to. Turns out he committed suicide a couple of years ago. Same bridge that his wife and daughter d**d on all those years ago.”

13. He’s cool, man!

“There was always a rumor that the head janitor was a huge pothead and would smoke with students in one of the storage sheds away from the main building.

I always figured it was bulls**t until my friend CJ sent me a pic of him and the janitor smoking weed while surrounded by folding chairs.”

12. Tunnel of love.

“In my Catholic (Jesuit) high school, one of the priests and one of the nuns were very close friends.

We all loved them, and we could see that they were quite fond of one another (and they made a really nice looking couple). We used to affectionately kid them about “meeting in the tunnel” between the convent and the rectory.

A few years after my class graduated, they both left their Orders, got married, and had kids. We’re all happy for them.”

11. Seemed like a nice guy…

“We had a dean who “retired” one summer.

Turns out, he was busted in a huge sting by cops. He had 2 ladies of the night and coke in his apartment when he got rolled up; ended up pleading guilty to felony drug possession (a few others I can’t remember), and sentenced to 5 years of probation.

He was an advisor for the school’s Drug/Alcohol Task Force.

Nice enough guy. Really cool with all of his students, maybe too cool.

Always seemed to have super red eyes.”

10. Crazy.

“That one of the kids hung himself on a swing set in a local park.

They didn’t say who it was, and just thought it was a vicious rumor about the same guy.

Then four girls who were close to him came down the stairwell crying and ran out the front door and started heading in the direction of the park.

It was confirmed around noon, we were sent home after lunch.”

9. Uh oh…

“Our freshman science teacher was a massive jerk to any girl, and would frequently throw the dress code book at girls for the slightest issue.

Everyone said it was because he was p**sed his daughter became a str**per… that ended up being true.”

8. Yikes.

“Some girl had s** with her half brother.

We all thought it was rumor until she got drunk at a party and told everyone.”

7. Put that thing away!

“I had a science teacher that was rumored to get a bo**r whenever he started shouting.

We thought it was a myth until we noticed it for real, he would always try put one leg up on a chair to hide it”

6. Learned a lesson.

“At our school this one kid was rumored to be a son of one of the local gyms amateur boxer teacher.

None of us had no real reason to think twice about it. Once we got to high school this kid started teasing that kid. I had a couple of mutal friends with the bully so I warned the guy he might want to let up on teasing him. A couple days go by the dude didn’t stop. And the boxer’s kid proceeded to give this guy one of the worst one sided fights I have ever seen.

The bully learned his lesson and never bullied anyone else for the rest of our high school years. So it turned out to be true.”

5. Okay…

“In middle school, there was a rumor my 7th-8th grade Social Studies teacher owned a pet donkey.

Turned out to be true.

The donkey’s name was Pedro the Donkey.”

4. Pregnant.

“Paige WAS pregnant….none of us believed her.

We were 13 and we were just about to start S** Ed classes in a few weeks to learn about s** so we all thought she was making it up. Then she started to gain weight but she had always been kind of overweight and so no one really believed her then either.

Then she brought sonogram pictures in because she was sick of people not believing her. Most people believed her after that. Then she got taken out of school and this was back when FB was super popular and everyone was talking about her baby a few months later she had posted all these pictures.

Sorry I didn’t believe you Paige….I looked her back up when I was 15. She had a second kid.”

3. Sounds fun!

“There were rumors that there was a network of underground tunnels that connected every building on my college campus.

Didn’t believe it til I walked through them myself.”

2. That’s crazy.

“We had heard an underclassman (she was 15-ish) was sleeping with a local army guy, but nobody really believed it until the day our school got locked down bc her boyfriend showed up with a knife.

The boyfriend (in his thirties) was intending to force her go get an D&E, but our principal was a bada** who locked her in his office, then took the boyfriend DOWN and held him in a headlock until the cops arrived.”

1. An odd duck.

“That the Biology teacher decided to use the scientific method to personally prove or disprove to himself that humans could photosynthesize.

He did this by laying bare a** nak** on his front lawn, landing him a public indecency charge.”

Were there any big rumors in your school that turned out to be true?

If so, please tell us about them in the comments.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Was This Man a Jerk to Put His Nanny (and Not His Wife) on a Family Membership?

Family dynamics are really tough and not something we can really comment on from the outside most of the time. Families not only look different than they used to, they function differently, too, with both parents working or the woman becoming the breadwinner, etc.

The people of Reddit being asked to weigh in on these situations aren’t the only ones still figuring out how to navigate things, either – so are the spouses and partners living it every day.

In this family, the wife has more responsibility at work and works more demanding hours, leaving the childcare to the father and the nanny most days.

I’m a father of 2 kids. Wife and I both work. She works considerably more than I do with less flexibility. She also has a ton of responsibility at her job where even if it’s her time off, if s*%t goes down, she has to handle it.

When the father took his two kids to a museum, he realized it would be cheaper to buy a membership than to just pay the admission fee a few different times.

Since the family membership included two adults and two children, he listed his kids, himself, and his nanny, since they would be the four people most likely to check out the exhibit.

So a few weeks ago I took my kids to a local museum that they LOVED so I joined for a membership. The membership is good for 4 people, you can add extras but it costs more. I just did the 4 but instead of adding my wife as the other adult, I added our nanny. 9/10 it’s either me or our nanny taking the kids somewhere so it made sense.

When his wife found out she was angry, and thought him choosing the nanny over her for the membership really said something about his feelings for her.

My wife discovered it after looking on our account because the kids and nanny are going today so she wanted confirm the membership was good. It hurt her feelings and I suppose she chose to take it out on me with anger.

She didn’t like my answer for why I did it and kept saying it “says a lot” that I just put our nanny in the “mom slot” instead of paying the extra $15 for her to be in there, too.

Now he’s wondering whether or not he was inconsiderate, and of course Reddit has thoughts.

This person wanted to give the dad the benefit of the doubt, because a) there is no “mom slot” and b) he was just trying to be practical.

That said, the parents really need to have a chat, because no one’s feelings should be hurt over saving a couple of bucks.

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There were several that concluded there are NAH (No A$$holes Here) because he was trying to be frugal but she’s also allowed to have her feelings on the matter.

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Others thought the wife was right, and the guy is a jerk for listing his nanny as part of his family.

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While others definitely think the wife is being too sensitive. (2)

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Just because the wife is hurt doesn’t necessarily mean the husband is the a$$hole. There are other options.

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I have to agree that no one is wrong here. The wife has the right to feel stung over the perceived slight, but that doesn’t mean the husband was wrong.

It probably just means they need to have a chat about the whole thing.

Tell us your thoughts down in the comments!

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Was This Kid Wrong for Moving Out and Leaving His Parents High and Dry?

Hopefully, parents can care and provide for their children as long as they need a hand – so, for most of us, until we graduate from college and find a job of our own. Honestly, with the economy the way it’s been for the past couple of decades, most kiddos need a bit of a hand even longer than that.

Life isn’t always ideal, though, and some parents are forced to depend on their kid’s full- or part-time jobs to help make up the difference when it comes to household bills.

This 18yo kid has graduated high school and is planning to attend community college. He has a full-time job that will become a part-time job when he starts classes.

I (18M) just graduated and gonna be starting community college in August.

Barely started doing full-time hours but that’ll change to part time again once I start my classes.

His parents have informed him that if he expects to continue living with them past his 18th birthday he’ll need to pay rent for his room, plus half of the utilities.

He thinks it’s a lot, since he shares a room with his brother and obviously doesn’t use half of the utilities in the house.

Before my 18th b-day over a month ago, my parents started talking about how they expect me to pay for rent then half the bills if I expect to stay there. That wasn’t the problem.

The issue was they were expecting me to pay $1,300 a month for my tiny ass room that I share with my little brother. Not including the half of the bills they expected me to pay .

In fact, apartments in his area go for far less, but when he tried explaining this to his parents, they didn’t want to hear it.

Most apartments in our city are around that range but that’s for a whole ass apartment, not a single bedroom plus sharing space with everyone else. Most of my paycheck would just be going to that then.

Like I asked my parents I don’t got a problem with helping with the bills and paying for my room if they made the rent to be lower.

They said that’s how much they agreed on so that’s what I’d have to pay if I wanna keep staying there.

So he went looking for a solution, and found a much cheaper one that also afforded him his own room and bathroom.

So I said fine and talked to one of my friend’s I already knew had his own place but was looking for a new roommate for the past 3 months.

Ended up going with him and he added me to the lease.

My own room and bathroom, plus the total for rent and my half of the bills it’s like wayyyy less than the rent by itself that my parents expected me to pay.

His parents are mad at him for moving out, saying that he abandoned their family and put them in financial hardship, and that he should have just helped them pay since they’re struggling.

Now he’s wondering whether it makes him a jerk that he left his parents high and dry, even though the situation is much better for him.

But the thing is they’re super mad at me for leaving. My mom ignored me when I moved out, my dad kept saying how he’s so disappointed in me.

For a while they were hoping to rely on me with helping out with their mortgage payments on the house also with the bills so now that I’ve chosen to leave instead my dad says I’m going to leave them really struggling and he can’t believe I decided to be selfish instead of helping my family out.

So that’s sort of why I’m asking if I’m TA. It was super high what they were expecting me to pay (literally whole paycheck would go to just that) but also I left them to struggle when they were hoping for me to help out so idk.

AITA?

Reddit is weighing in below!

The top comment pointed out that OP is under no obligation to help his parents out, and it’s pretty crappy that they presented everything to him this way and are now angry with him for taking care of himself. (2)

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Financial abuse is a thing, and everyone is proud of OP for not standing for it.

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It’s actually awesome that he was able to draw this very healthy boundary now.

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Parents are not supposed to take advantage of their own kids.

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It’s not the paying rent that’s the problem, per se.

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I totally agree that it’s fine to teach a kid about living expenses and the real world, etc, and to ask them to pitch in financially once they’re adults living at home, but that’s different than taking advantage of your kid and asking them to support you as soon as they’re able.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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People Discuss How Introverts Want to Be Socially Interacted With

I think the responses you’re about to read are going to be very helpful!

Because we all want to know how to interact with people who are different from us and how to make them feel comfortable, right?

Darn right! One of the best things about being alive is meeting a variety of folks!

Folks on AskReddit talked about how they think introverts really want to be interacted with.

1. They don’t like this.

“I don’t like when someone points out my quietness when I’ve been sitting there the whole time building up courage and/or waiting for the right moment to say something.

When someone points it out, I even become more quiet because now I’m nervous people are waiting for me to say something.

Then I would get teased by comments that I’m “making too much noise over there” when I’ve been sitting silently for what feels like hours. Now I just want to leave.”

2. Boundaries.

“Respect our boundaries and don’t be afraid to invite us left and right. Even if we don’t want to go we really do appreciate your offer, it shows you like us enough to wish for our presences.

Also, if things are becoming really awkward we will greatly appreciate any form of rescue that you could think of. And lastly, give us some time.

Once you get to know us we are pretty decent people, that can be pretty bas**t crazy as long as the occasion is favourable.”

3. Leave me alone.

“I just want to be left alone when I want to be left alone. If I say I don’t want to go out, don’t continue to pester me and make me feel bad about it.

Also, just because I don’t want to do something tonight doesn’t mean I won’t want to do things ever. Sometimes my friends will make plans on a day that I would like to go out and be around people, but they don’t invite me because they think I will just say no.

Social battery is real ladies and gents. Sometimes it needs to be recharged by being alone, sometimes it’s full.”

4. In a group setting.

“If we’re in a group conversation, give us the time and space to talk back/interact.

It’s not hard to recognize who is introverted and such, so make us a part of the conversation.”

5. Draining.

“Kind of an extroverted introvert so not sure if my experience will be the same as everyone else’s but I don’t really struggle with socialization its more that spending time with people is draining in a way.

I feel like I’m subconsciously paying attention to my posture or how I hold myself or a million other things and it just sucks the life out of me and I end up needing time to myself to let all those muscles relax and have my battery recharge.

So I guess what I’d say is pay attention to when introverts need some of that alone time because you people exhaust me”

6. Not a fan of the shallow stuff.

“The shallow conversations that are completely fake k**l me.

Like you say it’s great to see me, but I bet you never even gave me a thought. And you want to get together soon? I mean it when I say it so don’t say it if you don’t, and I know you don’t mean it because I never hear from you.

It’s okay to be nice, it’s okay to be respectful but don’t schmooze me with white lies that you think are necessary. They aren’t and you using them feels cheap. You can be polite and friendly without using these fake overtones you don’t mean. I do it so i know others can too.

I just want to talk to people who are genuine. I don’t understand those that aren’t.”

7. Advance warning.

“Don’t invite us to a group setting without telling us it’s a group setting! I have a friend that constantly invites me to do things. I have no issue with that as I’m comfortable around her.

However, she has started inviting me to hangout with her without the prior knowledge of the other 6 people there. May just be me but just because I’ll hangout with you, doesn’t mean I’ll hangout with you in a group”

8. Make it genuine.

“Have a genuine conversation. Polite small talk is taxing and pointless, and I can always tell when people approach me as a way of “doing me a favor” or out of pity bc they think i’m lonely.

The latter upsets me the most; people tend to talk to you like an awkward child. Being quiet doesn’t always mean shy – theres no need to force someone of their shell.

Take social ques. If the conversation is draining me or I wanna leave I let people know, subtly as to not hurt their feelings, but i notice they either don’t care or don’t pick up on it. I once had a friend stay an extra 2 hours at my house even tho i made it clear i was tired. She has not been back to my house since.

Just be respectful and understanding of how they deal with social situations.”

9. It’s the thought that counts.

“Invite me to things. Even if I might say no, invite me if you want me there. Make me feel like I am wanted.

It sucks being caught in the cycle of being scared to be in group settings but not getting invited and feeling like nobody likes me or wants to be around me.

Part of that is anxiety. But I want to feel wanted.”

10. I’m just a normal person.

“Treat me like normal.

I just get full of of social interactions, and need some quiet, or even better, someplace outdoors with lots of trees, to process the social interactions.

Usually, I’m pretty worn out by Friday, but I will still go out, I just may not stay out all night.”

11. Uncomfortable.

“Don’t force us into a position where we have to be social.

If we like you, talk to us, but if it’s just us doing something, don’t try to rope others into the plans without asking us first and getting approval.

That just makes socializing harder for us and can be really uncomfortable.”

12. FYI.

“From a respectful distance.

The worst thing people can do is get too far into my personal space. Thats an immediate nope out of the interaction if I can. (Although it depends on the company. It’s mostly ok if it’s someone we know well).

For as long as we can handle. Everyone is different, but long interactions can be exhausting.

Very important at least to me: no yelling/strong arguments/conflict in the presence. It can be catastrophicly frustrating, to the point of noping out of any form of interaction in the future.

Oh and another one: don’t be insulted if we talk only to one person in the big group. It’s hard to be involved with everyone at the same time.”

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People Talk About Subtle Things People Say That Are Red Flags

You have to pay attention or you might miss something…

I’m talking about when you have conversations with people and they drop little hints that should make you say, “uh oh…I’m not sure if I want to have anything to do with this person.”

People on AskReddit shared subtle things people say that they think are red flags.

Here’s what they had to say.

1. A terrible thing to say.

““Yeah, but YOU don’t act black.”

Literally heard this s**t my entire childhood. I got told I act “too white” because I enjoyed reading books.

WTF?”

2. Totally lame.

“When people say things like “I can say and do whatever I want” “it’s a free country. Ever hear of freedom of speech?” in order to justify s**tty things they say or do.

Like sure, you have the right to speak your mind, but people also have the right to judge you for what you say.”

3. Shows a lot.

“S**t talking other people (who aren’t there). Sometimes it’s fair.

But it does tell me there’s a lack of respect, and if they’re s**t talking a lot of people, I’m pretty sure I’ll be next on the list.”

4. Get ready for a lecture.

“”I’m always open to debate.”

I find most people that say that are open to lecture you, and closed to debate.”

5. An ugly way to look at things.

“When they disagree with someone, they default to attacking the person’s character instead of their actions. We all do this from time to time, but with some people it’s every time.

The guy who messed up their order is “an idiot”. Their boss is “an evil sociopath”. The person on Facebook who expressed a political view that opposes theirs is “a degenerate”. That new intern at work is “hopeless”.

In the end, the final result is that anyone they disagree with for any reason is either an inherently bad person who doesn’t really merit listening to.”

6. Yikes.

“When I started my new job the bubbliest girl who was loved by most of the staff and was also a HR manager would act like this when me and her were totally alone.

She would whisper ever so softly (to herself but to me) “you get no thanks around here, no one cares. You just wait and watch the knives stabbing when you least expect it”.

This is something she did on my first DAY!! I said to her everyone seems lovely and accepting and she said “well wait until you get to know them”.

This was the HR MANAGER!!”

7. Really weird.

“When someone says “they’re my karma child” and implies their child makes their life so hard it must be payback for a mistake they made in the past.

I usually discover this person has intense mental health or substance use history. It’s a s**tty way of mentioning their disdain for their kid.”

8. It’s who I am.

““I’m an empath” makes me want to get in my car and drive ten hours in the opposite direction while shoving wool in my ears.”

9. Here we go again.

“”With all due respect.”

I know a guy who says this so frequently that when he says it, I brace myself for the s**t to follow.”

10. Classy!

“When you (female) find a Tinder notification on your partner’s (male) phone while they’re in a near 6 year relationship with you and you ask them why they’re on tinder

“Doesn’t hurt to see what’s out there”.”

11. Messed up.

“I live in Canada.

My husband is a white immigrant with a charming accent.

I instantly h**e anyone who makes a comment about how they don’t mean “immigrants like him” when complaining about immigrants.”

12. That ain’t right.

““I know what I’m worth.”

Especially in a romantic setting, OLD or first date type stuff.

It’s good to have a strong sense of self but I’ve found when this exact phrase is stated/listed something ain’t right.”

13. Get out while you can.

“When you’re on a date/dating someone, and they incessantly bring up their ex.

This means two things: they’re still stuck on their ex, and they will always compare you to their ex.”

14. The worst.

“Not having basic manners as in please and thank you to service persons.

“That’s their job, I don’t have to be polite.”

Nope.”

Are there certain things that people say that you think are red flags?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

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What Subtle Things Person Says Are Red Flags to You? Here’s How Folks Responded.

I know my answer!

If someone gives me WAY too much information about themselves or their problems the first time I ever meet them, I know that they are most likely a bit of a train wreck and they’re not exactly someone I’d love to be friends with.

But that’s just my take on it…

What subtle things people say are red flags?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts.

1. Take no for an answer.

“I used to go to the bar after work with coworkers. One of the managers didn’t go, but a coworker kept encouraging him to come out and party. He relented and said he’d come out for one drink.

At the bar, he took a sip and said “ah, I haven’t had a beer in 5 months”. No one else took notice of that, but it struck me. He was gone a week later after coming into work drunk and doing something inappropriate.

To anyone reading this: If someone doesn’t want to drink, accept no for an answer. They might have a very good reason to say no, and pressing them on it, especially when well intentioned, might make it much harder for them to say no.”

2. So rude.

“Never asking a question.

My husband realized his father never does this and now I can’t stop listening for this.”

3. No thanks!

“But you’re so good at it!

Aka, I’ll compliment you in the hope that you’ll take this task off my hands.”

4. Trashy.

“When people talk s**t on their spouses. Like even in the most subtle way it’s still not appropriate small talk.

If it’s my best friend and she’s telling me about a hardship or a fight, different.

But when I’m meeting you for the first time I shouldn’t be able to pick up that you dislike your spouse/SO.”

5. They won’t change.

“If they wronged you and say something like, “I’m such a terrible person, you should leave me.”

It’s them trying to force sympathy on them instead of genuinely apologizing to you. They’re not going to change if you stay.”

6. Hipster logic.

“Asking what music you listen to, then immediately critiquing it, especially when you like mainstream stuff.

I guess this applies to stuff other than music but that’s what annoys me the most.”

7. Uhhh, okay.

“Pretty much anytime somebody says something about themself when it’s not prompted or necessary.

Like “I’m an honest person”, “I’m a hard worker”, or “I’d never hit a woman”.”

8. Not cool.

““That’s just the way God made me,” as an excuse for being a jerk.

Like it’s just their personality and they can’t help it so we should all just accept it.”

9. Sketchy.

“Anything that exposes poor morals.

For example, “I’ll just say I never got it so they send me another one.”

When people show you who they really are, believe them.”

10. Lame.

“”Sorry I did this and that, It’s just my inner zodiac sign.”

Like, your zodiac sign doesn’t define you, you’re just being a sh**ty person and using that phrase as a cover up.”

11. Sketchy.

“Anyone who tries to convince you that you can trust them.

“Come on man, you can trust me. I’d never do that to you!”

People who are actually trustworthy don’t need to convince anyone of anything and they also know that real trust isn’t freely given to people you barely know and are not offended when they are not given it.”

12. Always the victim.

“When they are the victim in all of their stories.

I had a colleague who didn’t really have any friends outside of work. All of her stories were about how each of her friends had sta**ed her in the back at one time or another. She went travelling to Australia with 6 girls and left early because they didn’t want to do the things she wanted. It was glaringly obvious that she was the issue but still tried to play the sweet victim.

There is another girl from my high school who has gained quite a few followers on social media through sharing her stories of being bullied in school for being bald. No one can remember that ever happening, she was quite popular but had lost touch with her group as you do when you move away for college. Also, she was never bald.

Red flags when people enjoy pity.”

What red flags do you notice when people talk to you?

Fill us in in the comments!

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