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15 People Share The One Thing That Saved Them from Suicide

Mental illness and the mental health crises in the United States are reaching epidemic levels, but there are still stigmas and unfounded opinions that can halt progression – and getting people the help they need. If you’ve got someone in your life you’re worried about, or think you should be worried about – or if you’re worried about yourself – read through these 15 honest confessions.

You might realize that you, too, have something worth living for.

#15. Even if she has no idea.

“I tried to commit suicide this time roughly 2 years ago. I had taken all the pills in the vicinity and was ready to nap when I had a sudden anxiety thought of ‘if I die, I can’t take my niece to Disney on Ice!’ To this day she’s still my little saviour, even if she has no idea.”

#14. It might get better.

“I struggle with this at times. What I do is, I tell myself that I can always commit suicide later. I tell myself to just keep trying and see what happens. It might get better. (Spoiler: it always does.) But if it doesn’t, then I can kill myself, knowing I gave it my best try.

It’s still difficult to get through, yes. But realizing that I have a choice, that the choice is mine, to do it or not, and I’m making an active choice to stay alive and see what happens, helps a lot.”

#13. It’s slow but it’s good.

“I had May 19th as my suicide day. The long weekend. Always a lonely time for me. On the Monday leading up to that Saturday, a friend dropped by and found me in a bit of a state. Sitting on the floor in my ginch crying and surrounded by letters to people. He knows that I’ve always struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts. When he left, he called my Ma who came over. She called the cops who took me in to a secure psychiatric hospital. I stayed for a week and was inundated with therapists and Drs. Finally got a proper diagnosis and actually started taking meds. When I got out I vowed to never go back to who I’ve always been. I see a therapist often, have opened up to friends, family and my GP. It’s slow but it’s good. I wish you the best.”

#12. The painful choice.

“My husband saved my life. He had me involuntarily admitted to the hospital. I spent 9 days there and underwent treatment. I am now on medication for depression, anxiety and sleep. I also see a psychiatrist. This may not be for everyone but it helped me tremendously. If not for him and the painful choice he had to make, I would not be here.”

#11. Comfortable with living.

“I read an article that explored people who didn’t become successful until their 40s. It made me think that my life might still have some purpose. I was 22 then. I never tried killing myself again. I’d previously tried a couple of times.

It will sound cliche, but each time I feel like ending it I think of all the things I wouldn’t have done, seen, etc if I’d died at 22.

As someone else said, suicidal people never stop being suicidal. I’ve just become comfortable with living.”

#10. Meditation and Buddhism.

“Buddhism saved my life – well first it was drugs – but then it became meditation and Buddhism.”

#9. Gently.

“I started being nicer to myself. It feels fake and dumb at first. “Its okay I didnt do anything today. My soul is hurting. It’s okay to rest when you’re hurting.” Stuff like that. Then gently get yourself to do things. “Okay baby. Let’s brush our teeth. Dont have the energy? That’s okay. Just put your leg outside the bed. Okay. Can we stand up? Just for a second. Then we can go back to sleep if we want.” 9 times out of 10, I would end up doing the hard thing I didnt think I had enough energy to do. It’s all about baby steps and momentum.

The more I did, the better I felt. It’s really fucking hard. Especially in the beginning. But I went from being a NEET to travelling to the other side of the country and working/living in a National Park and meeting lots of cool people on the way. We’re more capable than we think we are.”

#8. Hurting her too.

“I suffer from depression and attempted suicide when I was 15. Stayed in a mental hospital for a week. Depression started back up again a year ago when I first started college and I started giving up on life. Got home for thanksgiving break and almost cried when i saw my dog. All she did was follow me around and wanted to sleep in my bed. Could never hurt myself because i’ll end up up hurting her too.”

#7. Talk to people.

“The suicide attempt of a good friend. I was close, real close. Then she tried to kill herself and I felt the gravity of the entire situation. All of us were devastated and she still hasn’t physically recovered from everything. She wasn’t able to dance ever since, which was somethibg she loved doing but… she got better. And then I knew I couldn’t. I couldn’t hurt the people around me so much and there is sometjing worth living. It got a lot worse first, bit I’m slowly getting better.

Honestly, just talk to people. They love you, they care for you, they don’t want to lose you. Cut out the one’s that are toxic and find yourself a second family. You wouldn’t want to hurt them, would you? Then don’t. Live for yourself, live for them. It will always get a lot worse before it gets better, but at a certain point, it’ll be worth it.”

#6. Be honest and easy.

“My dumbass couldn’t position the gun correctly and that is how I survived.

Loads of therapy helped me not try a second time.

Removing, getting rid off, and burning all toxic people in your life.

More therapy.

Being honest and easy with yourself.

Speaking out with close friends about your issues.”

#5. My brother called.

“My brother called me while I was driving around, looking for a place to park and shoot myself. He called me because he missed me and wanted to hang out that night. I went over to his place and basically broke down. Up until that moment, he didnt know about the depression and suicidal thoughts I’ve been having. Ever since I’ve been accepting his help, things have gotten a whole bunch easier. He helped me confront some unresolved things that I could not have done myself. Went a long way.”

#4. Come down and play.

“My 6 year old niece yelled upstairs to me to come down and play, while I had my gun in my mouth.

Kick anyone with a toxic or negative attitude out of your life. Then put people who truly love and appreciate you in that place.”

#3. Man’s best friend.

“I got a dog.”

#2. Professional help.

“I suffered from depression for many years before I got help. In high school it was just thoughts of, “what would really happen if I let my car drift into the other lane or if I drove into that tree?” but without any real plan or intent to take action. I kept on going, just journaling a lot and hiding my pain. I honestly didn’t understand that I was depressed. I just thought I was weak and needed to toughen up.

Then I went to college and in some ways it got better. I escaped my old environment and started over. However, the thing is, I couldn’t run away from my depression forever. It then got so much worse. I started actively planning how I wanted to kill myself, how to tell my family (note, not beforehand), and where to do it. The things that held me back: the pain I knew I would cause my family and knowing someone would have to find my body. I didn’t want to do that to my roommate (or a stranger) but also wanted to be comfortable. At this point it still never really crossed my mind that I should get help. Most people were entirely oblivious to what was going on inside and the couple people who did know I was unhappy had no clue as to the extent. I never told a single person about my suicidal thoughts. The thing was, I wanted to erase myself without impacting anyone at all. I wasn’t trying to get attention – far from it.

By the beginning of my senior year in college I would get physically ill leading up to having to head back to school. I had my first panic attack and finally went to go get help. Once I could breathe again, I went to my school’s counseling office and asked for an emergency appointment. That day was the day that broke me and made me see that I needed help. Once it wasn’t “just my brain,” (the panic attack) I realized that I wasn’t just weak, but that my body was failing me.

Day one, the day I broke down, started me spiraling. It was like something physically cracked. I couldn’t keep my emotions bottled up anymore. I sobbed and sobbed like never before. Prior to that day, none of my peers had seen me cry. I’ll never forget the concerned looks and the one gentleman who told me that I looked terrible. ? I lost my appetite and had a few saltines over the course of the next week. I really only ate because my therapist insisted I eat something. I stopped getting out of bed entirely unless it was to go to counseling.

The worst part of the experience was probably having to tell my parents. My therapist wanted me to start taking antidepressants and I knew that if I used my dad’s insurance, he might be informed. I called my parents and told them the short story. At first they were angry – I had hidden this part of my life from them (long story as to why I felt that I couldn’t talk to them) and they took it as me blaming them for the situation. In the end, it ended up being very positive. My parents became a lot kinder to me and I slowly regained some control over my life.

I still ended up having another panic attack, almost failed my senior year (shout out to the wonderful professors who worked with me to help me scrape out that year), and didn’t walk away happily ever after. However, I did talk out a lot of my past pain and realize things about myself.

My therapist said that, “depression is anger turned inwards.” At first I thought that was total garbage. I wasn’t angry. I was sad. And hurt. And lonely. And scared. Then I thought about it and she was at least a little right. I was angry. I was angry that I had lived so long with so much pain. I was angry that no one had helped me. I realized that it was unreasonable, but I still felt betrayed. I was angry that out of everyone I knew, and everyone who had taught me, no one saw what was going on or taught me about depression and what signs to look for. I thought I was just too weak and not that my brain chemistry was out of balance.

Today I am honestly happy. I’m not claiming things are perfect or that I haven’t had down times. In the end though, I no longer think of ending my life and I smile sincerely. If you are struggling, my advice is to talk to someone. At first I managed with just journaling. It was a way to stop from drowning in my feelings. However, I really only got better when I had a proper sounding board, one who could ask me the right questions and validate my feelings. That and get me on antidepressants. Part of my issue was definitely that my brain chemistry was not right. If you are thinking suicide, find a counselor. If it doesn’t help, try a different one. Feel free to message me if you want. Good luck. You can get through it.”

#1. What tomorrow brings.

“Oh I’ve tried. Numerous times. Never works though. I stopped one day when I had a thought. Why not see what happens next? Nothing’s matters any ways so why not see what tomorrow brings?

I don’t really have any advice because I still consider it multiple times a day, every day. Just, talk to someone. Any one. There are people who will find you fascinating if you’d only talk to them.”

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10 Parents Who Don’t Like Their Children Share Their Stories on Reddit

It’s not an easy topic to bring up. We’re supposed to like our kids, right? Well, these AskReddit users went on record and divulged their personal stories.

Hold on tight for this one.

1. Downward spiral

“My middle son (19) stole a 9mm pistol from my 82 year old father. When I confronted him about it he said I didn’t understand, he needed the money and if I had given him more he might not have done it. 2 months later got caught on video stealing the candy money jar from a Mexican restaurant, again says if I’d had given him money ( because he’s completely cut off at this point) wouldn’t have done it.

Downward spiral continues, he takes no responsibility for anything . He’s a selfish a–hole who won’t take care of his kids much less himself. I never thought I’d say this about my own child but F-CK THAT GUY.”

2. Stepkids

“Stepkids are really really really difficult. Sometimes I dislike mine, too. And sometimes I dislike my own kid. I love all of them and would tear the world in half if anyone tried to hurt them. But sometimes I just want to tell them to stop acting like sh-theads.My husband said it best when he described parenting as 95% misery and 5% bliss. That 5% keeps you going somehow.”

3. Disconnected

“It’s not that I dislike him, I just don’t feel connected. I wanted kids my whole life and then I had him and it feels like I’m waiting for his real mom to pick him up sometimes”

4. Not parent material?

“It’s not my son exactly, because I love him more than I can even express, but I think I dislike the act of being a parent.

I didn’t know how much I’d lose, how tired I would be, how other parents treat you.. I have to be positive all the time to keep him secure and happy even when I feel like death.”

5. Don’t like kids

“I realized it recently, in therapy.

It’s not really them, per se. I realized about myself that I dislike children, period. That said, the presence of my kids in my life 24/7 has led to a great deal of resentment under the surface that I am now finally in touch with, which means now I’m also trying to deal with the guilt of feeling this way about the people I brought into this world.

I want – desperately – to be able to get in my car and drive to Alaska back just because I can. But I can’t. I want to be able to have something called a “quiet weekend”, assuming there is such a thing. I want to have money in the bank, better prospects for career advancement, the ability to take a risk like starting my own business. But I can’t. I need the stable paycheck so that I can keep food on the table for the people in my house who took my wife away from me.

Meanwhile, my oldest is consistently lying to my face, my oldest two are constantly at war with each other over stupid sh-t, my third is special needs, I’ve got two in diapers, and this was all stuff that my wife and I walked into thinking it would be wonderful.

Worst of all: for her, it is wonderful, and that makes me the bad guy for having these feelings, since I’m obviously just being incredibly selfish.

You know what? She’s right. I do feel like the bad guy for having these feelings, and I do feel like I’m being selfish, but I can’t just snap my fingers and make these feelings go away.

I’m just hoping that one day, these children will grow up and get out of my house so I can have my wife back, assuming they don’t kill her first.”

6. Trapped

“I dont dislike my kids, but I really do hate the life i have. People say the kids don’t need to change your way of living. But they do. They really do. Everything gets more expensive, you can’t be spontaneous in the same way as before kids etc. There are so much things that are so much harder to do now and I feel so trapped and lonely.”

7. Nobody’s perfect

“I disliked my 19-year-old for a while. He lost his d-mned mind; lied to me and his mom (my ex-wife) repeatedly over everything, got married without telling us to some girl he was friends with on FB (at 19, mind you), cheated on his wife of a month, got another girl pregnant not a year later, and complained for the longest time that it was my ex-wife and I’s parenting that caused all this.

Now, I’m more than aware that we weren’t perfect parents, highlighted by our divorce a few years ago late into his teen years (16 years old), but that sure as sh-t doesn’t give him the right to be such a sh-tty person and treat others this way. These were only the highlight examples I gave, not even all the minor bullsh-t lies and shenanigans he was into. I totally get being angry with us but the amount of damage that he’s caused others really made me dislike him as a person.

At almost 21 he’s gotten his life a little more together this last year, finally getting a job, trying to take care of the girl he impregnated and take care of his divorce from his ‘wife’. It’s just rough… In about 4 months I’m going to be a grandparent and I don’t even know the girl he knocked up and he doesn’t think he’s going to stay with her (as a couple, not abandoning his child).

It’s really sullied the experience of finding out you’re going to be a grandparent. I’m not even mad that he’s young and doesn’t have his sh-t together, it’s all the lies and bullsh-t that his relationship(s) are predicated on and that he has no real reservations about hurting others (through lies, not physically) if it means getting his own way. He just has a long way to go in being a person I can actually respect. I love my son, I really really do, but I find that respecting him is something I just can’t really do right now. I hope this changes soon if only for his child to grow up in a stable environment.”

8. Lashing out

“My feelings changed the moment my (then 17 year old) daughter sucker punched me on side of my head during an argument about her cleaning her room.

I guess in my mind she did something taboo. You never, ever hit your mom…but she did. I love her but she broke my heart that day and I can’t seem to get over it.”

9. Personality disorder

“I have a 7 year old daughter. I think she has some kind of personality disorder. Some days she’s her normal loving, goofy self. Then there are other days where she is manipulative, mean, and hysterical. She says things to hurt you on purpose and will freak out if she doesn’t get her way, hurting herself in the process. But if I call her dad and FaceTime with him she stops on a dime and says I was lying and I hit her and don’t love her.

I didn’t even know a kid that young could lie like that. She does this to me, my husband, and her stepmom. Her dad honestly believes we are all lying when we say something is wrong. She’s been to 3 therapists and they all act like we’re crazy because she puts on a good act. It makes me sick sometimes that I am happy when she goes to her dads house. I have a 1 year old son with my husband and I don’t want her to do to him what she does to me or her other family members. I don’t know what to do ?.”

10. A**hole

“After just having a massive fight with my 19 year old, I can honestly say that I am one of these parents.

I love him to death, I would die for him, but I dont like him too much. He is a narcassistic a**hole. I am hoping beyond hope he changes his ways or he is in for a rude awakening.”

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These 10+ People Got Epic Revenge on Those Who Did Them Wrong

When you feel you’ve been wronged, there’s only one thing to do. You gotta make it right…with sweet, sweet revenge.

Remind me never to mess with anyone on this list.

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Redditors Share Some of the Little Things That Make a Person More Attractive

We all find different qualities attractive, and sometimes it’s hard to put your finger on what exactly it is about someone that you can’t help but love.

It’s those little things that you find irresistible that make being in love so much fun. In this article, AskReddit users open up and share the small things they find extremely attractive in another person.

1. Caught in the act

“When they smile when they think no one is looking. Then you catch them.”

2. The little things

“Their mannerisms. I love watching the way people move and talk, just the little ways they do things. I’ve been attracted to a lot of people who aren’t entirely conventionally attractive, but there’s just something about the way that they move that is.”

3. Time to cut loose

“Goofy dance moves. When someone opens up on the dance floor and gives NO F***S about how they look. Love it!”

4. Pay attention

“Eye contact. Really its more than that. When she notices things about me, lets me know she is paying attention and likes what she sees.”

5. This is important

“I love it when my boyfriend sings loudly and poorly in the car with me.”

6. Animal lover

“Likes animals. I went home with this guy from the bar once and we were doing that weird thing where both of us know why I’m there but no one wants to make the first move. So he was giving me a tour of his house, and I’m pretending I’m all into architecture and shit. He showed me the back yard and explained that he’d just installed this big privacy fence. While he’s showing me this, an adorable cat comes bounding across the yard.

He explained that it was his neighbors cat but it likes to come visit him, so he had the fence installer build a cut out in the fence so the cat could come over any time he wanted. Long story short, I think my ovaries may have literally exploded.”

7. The hair is important

“When one side of a woman’s hair hangs in front of her face and she looks at me.”

8. Suddenly…

“Stubble! A guy I have absolutely no interest in can pop up one day with a couple of days worth of stubble and suddenly I find them attractive.”

9. Crinkle eyes

“When their eyes crinkle when they laugh. It makes the person instantly more attractive.”

10. Focus

“That look girls get when they’re super focused on something can be damn hot. And when you catch a glimpse of her eyes, they look like daggers and the moment something distracts them, they soften right back to normal. I love the little details.”

11. Motherly

“A caring woman. Like someone who has that motherly instinct and tries to take care of people. It honestly makes me feel warm inside.”

12. Imperfections

“Little ‘imperfections’ like a crooked nose or a scraggle tooth.”

13. Roasted

“Really weird but when a guy is making fun of me (but not in a mean way).

I have no idea why but a guy becomes instantly 10 times hotter when he starts roasting me. Maybe it’s because most guys only ever compliment the girls they are trying to get with & getting compliments make me act extremely awkward.”

14. Multi-lingual

“The number of languages they speak.”

15. Social butterfly

“Someone who isn’t afraid to be social. I didn’t realize it until I met my husband, who will talk to anyone. He isn’t afraid of any social situation and never shy’s away from a conversation with anyone. It’s the best.”

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15 People Reveal the One Personal Rule They Will Never Break

Whether you think of them regularly or not, we all have our own personal rules that we live by. We don’t break them ourselves, and we don’t like it when other people do, either. These things tend to be pretty personal though, so you may be surprised to learn what these 15 people would never consider throwing out the window!

#15. Feeling included.

“If im in a group of 3+ people, i will always talk to everyone. There’s usually always 1 person who is quiet because of some reason…maybe wasnt there for something we talked about or just cant find a way to contribute. I know that feeling all too well, just standing there with nothing to say feels awkward and uncomfortable. I dont want anyone to feel like how I used to. I know it doesn’t seem like much, but to that one person, it might’ve made their day feeling included.”

#14. It grosses me out.

“I can let my room get messy at times, but I always make sure that unfinished food and plates that had food on them are taken care of right away. It just grosses me out to leave that stuff around my room.

I also make sure to drink water after every meal and really, every drink I have that isn’t water.”

#13. Littering.

“I don’t litter.”

#12. Where I came from.

“Remember where I came from. 33 years ago I was a college failure with no job, no food, no money and no future. People helped me who didnt have to. I owe them to help others to pay back what they did for me. If I can help, I have to help.”

#11. Never make fun.

“Never make fun of somebodies weird laugh, as it could be the only time somebody is truly happy, and to take that away from somebody else is just unnecessary.”

#10. Kindness.

“Same rules I raise my sons by: 1. Kindness matters even if no one else will see it 2. Kindness will not always mean niceness. 3. Kindness starts with yourself, you cannot give what you do not have.”

#9. Neat and tidy.

“Keep a neat and tidy work space. I build cabinets and furniture for a living. Having your work space and tools in disarray can lead to mistakes easier than one might think.”

#8. Intentions.

“I never get angry at accidents or punish people for something they didn’t intend to happen.

Along the same lines, I don’t care who’s fault it is, I just want to know what happened and how it’s being fixed.”

#7. The toilet paper.

“always replace the toilet paper if you used the last of it

if you pee on the seat, clean it up

do your own dish

don’t litter”

#6. My good word.

“If you make a promise to someone make sure its one you can keep. If its something that might not happen I’ll say “I will do my best on this but I can’t promise anything.” I try very hard to keep my word good.”

#5. Say thank you.

“If someone does something well – I tell them / thank them. People are genuinely surprised when others take the time to give positive feedback.

Edit: Hey thanks everyone, glad you all liked my ‘rule.’ :)”

#4. The keys.

“Never lock the car door without my keys in my hand.”

#3. Even if I don’t feel like I need to.

“Always pee before going to bed. Even if I don’t feel like I need to.”

#2. Work at work.

“I walk into work leaving emotion at the door and walk out of work, leaving work at work.

Its easier said then done, but it allows for a great work life balance.

Edit: can’t believe how high this is! Going to try and answer some of the questions!”

#1. Don’t wear out your welcome.

“Never over stay your welcome. Always leave way before your welcome has expired.”

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These 7 Psychological Facts Might Explain Your Occasional Lack of Motivation

We all deal with procrastination and lack of motivation from time to time, but it’s also true that if you take a closer look at the reasons you’re not doing what you need to be doing when you need to be doing it, there’s probably an underlying psychological cause.

Below are 7 things that could be stopping you from completing your to-do list today – and if you can understand why you’ve stalled, you’ll be able to recover your get-up-and-go and get to it!

#7. Your goals are too big or unattainable.

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You’ll have a hard time staying motivated if your brain senses there’s no way to get to the finish line. If there are too many steps, there are too many chances to fail, and your subconscious may balk.

Instead, set smaller, short-term goals that can lead you towards larger ones.

#6. You don’t believe in yourself.

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You have to believe in your ability to achieve what you set out to do – those who do are more likely to possess the motivation necessary to accomplish those tasks. If you’re struggling, this study shows that repeating positive affirmations can increase your energy and belief in the attainability of your goals.

#5. You feel as if you’re not making a difference.

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We all want to feel like the work we’re doing makes a difference in the world – a fact this study proved by watching people who believed they were making calls to raise money for a good cause as opposed to some other reason.

If you’re struggling, try connecting with the people who benefit from your work and track the results to give yourself ongoing motivation.

#4. You’ve talked too much about your goals.

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Contrary to popular belief, it’s best to keep big goals and dreams to yourself. Write them down, if you want, but science says that talking about them to other people tricks your brain into thinking they’ve already been accomplished when they definitely haven’t.

#3. You’re being forced to complete a task.

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It probably comes as no surprise that people feel more motivated when they’re faced with completing something they want to do as opposed to something they have to do. The more autonomy we have, the more energy we have, but the hard truth is there are always things that need doing even if we don’t want to.

To get them done, trade the words “have to” to “choose to” and take back some control.

#2. You had strict parents.

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There’s a study that concludes people who procrastinate often and for a long time likely had strict parents growing up – and that goes double for women who grew up in a house with a strict father. The act of procrastinating counts as a form of rebellion, even into adulthood.

To beat this issue, you’re probably going to want to talk to a licensed therapist…

#1. You spend too much time visualizing success.

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Positive thinking has its place on the path to success, but simply visualizing the result you want isn’t going to increase your motivation – it could even drain your energy and make you less likely to get going.

Weirdly, science says that visualizing not only your goal, but more importantly the potential setbacks along the way, can have a positive effect on your ability to get started and keep going.

h/t: Distractify

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This Woman Got a Wrong Number Message from a Scientologist…and Decided to Respond

We’ve all received a text from a wrong number at least once in our lives. Usually, we just delete it and move on. But what if you got a text from a Scientologist looking to recruit you? That’s exactly what happened to Shelby and she couldn’t resist having a little fun.

No word on whether the recruiter in question was amused at all, but for the rest of you…enjoy.

How it began…

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At first, the person seems convinced ‘Shelby’ is messing with her, but this picture seems to have changed her mind. Somehow.

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But ‘Shelby’ wasn’t done. She had to see how far she could take it, and believe me…it’s farther than you’d think.

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They had to realize after that last one, right? I mean, we’ll never know because that’s where the post ends, but, like, they figured it out…right?

Trolling lesson complete!

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Before and After Photos Show How Clothing Can Affect Our Perception of People

Seeing before and afters of men wearing street clothes versus suits definitely proves the adage that “the clothes make the man”.  Even if you think that what you wear (or see others wearing) doesn’t affect perception, these pictures can leave no doubt that we’re influenced by what people are wearing.

For men who have come out the other side of imprisonment or addiction, what they’re wearing out on job interviews is important to two reasons – for the image they present and because of its effect on their own confidence. That’s why non-profit Sharp Dressed Man, an alliance between the Baltimore Fashion Alliance and the Living Classrooms Foundation founded in 2011, custom designs suits for men re-entering the workforce. Normally, they cost upwards of $3,000.

Christopher Schafer, the tailor and founder of the group, collections donated high-end suits from clients and locals and then, on Wednesdays, men come in for a fitting, haircut, and a hot meal. He’s battled addiction himself and knows the meaning of a second chance – and the importance of getting it right.

“I really think that the biggest thing, though, is a guy gets treated with respect. And some of these guys have not been. They have not treated themselves with respect, nor have they been treated with respect,” he told PBS.

Check out 15 of their fabulous, heartfelt, and spiffy transitions below!

#15. Chin up.

#14. Yeah, throw those shoulders back.

#13. The smile says it all.

#12. That bowtie is everything.

#11. What a change.

#10. That smile, though.

#9. Hello, confidence!

#8. I think he actually grew taller.

#7. He makes me want to smile back.

#6. Haircut and pinstripes ftw.

#5. Love the colors.

#4. Gratitude.

#3. Pride shines.

#2. Silly and happy.

#1. I want to give him a hug.

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The Differences Between Dating Men and Women, According to 12+ Bisexuals

Bisexual people have dated members of both sexes. This gives them a unique insight into men, women, and relationships that most of us don’t have.

In this AskReddit thread, people who are bisexual reveal these differences.

1. Public perception

“How it’s received by the general public. When I’m out one on one with a man, it’s second nature to assume he is my significant other in situations such as having a dinner date or a weekend away at a hotel. That’s not the case when I’m with a woman. In particular, my current girlfriend looks somewhat similar to me. We’re both petite blondes. When we are out together, the first assumption is that we’re sisters or best friends. We have to make a point to explain that we’re together. It doesn’t bother me, as most people genuinely just don’t know and assume what’s second nature to them. It’s just an observation.”

2. Truth!

“Men can get ready in a matter of minutes.”

3. No privacy

“It’s a little weird on a date with a woman that you use the same bathroom. You don’t get that moment to yourself and there’s no privacy.”

4. Feelin’ good

“I keep seeing a reoccurring theme here. Girls think sex with girls is better, and guys think sex with guys is better. Possibly because you have the same anatomy and know what feels good?”

5. Differences

“In arguments alone: Women are explosive, but more pleasant in the day-to-day. Men tend to backslide into a quiet agony that never gets resolved.”

6. Communication

“More individual difference than gender difference.

But if there is one it’s communication style. Men take a lot longer to open up. And I’d say most men are less thoughtful about many things (like keeping track of important things happening in your life and giving support through them) although my personal experience there with the only man I’ve seriously dated has been stellar.”

7. Dominance

“There’s actually a noticeable difference on how I approach the relationship. When I’m with men I like being taken care of, but I like being more dominant in with women, I’ll do all the things I’d want a man to do for me.”

8. Bros

“The biggest difference for me, as a guy, is that there is a different level of friendship with a guy than a girl. With my current bf, it’s like I’m hanging out with my best bro, at the same time as spending time with the person I love. We do everything together and I never really want time away.

My last ex, a girl, was great to spend time with, but there was a level of understanding and friendship that wasn’t there purely because she was a girl. She could never understand certain things that a guy just gets. That shared understanding of experience that guys have. I’m sure girls have the same thing with other girls.

That was longer than I expected, but that’s the biggest difference I have.”

9. More truth

“One of them is WAY more comfortable buying tampons than the other.”

10. Understanding

“I’ve only dated gay guys and straight girls. For me the biggest difference has been that girls have in general been a lot more understanding of my sexuality and the guys have been a lot more biphobic/dismissive about it.”

11. A positive outlook…

“Women will ruin you emotionally, but men will disappoint you profoundly.”

12. S E X

“Sex. Was constantly being pursued to have sex while dating a man. Now sex is rarely had. If at all.”

13. Break ups

“with women, i always get emotional,..in a complete mess after breaking up. but men, i got over them..before the break up.

women–i think about them often when not together.

men–we were always doing activities together.”

14. It’s all about personality

“Honestly for me, I tend to be attracted to a similar type of personality regardless of gender, and that includes a lack of interest in conforming to gender roles, so in terms of internal relationship dynamics there hasn’t been an easy-to-parse difference my ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends along gender lines.”

15. Crazy talk

“Everyone’s giving normal scenarios, so I wanna bring up worst case. The ‘crazy guy’ is genuinely f****** insane, while the ‘crazy girl’ is a funny kind of insane. Like, craziest guy was a guy who gave me a necklace that he put his blood on to protect me from the secret powers of his alternate personality, and still tries to low key stalk me on social media, while the craziest girl is probably a tie between the super religious girl who cried when I ate meat and the ultra communist who told me she loved me within like an hour.:

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