People Talk About Their Favorite Tips About Being Street Smart

No matter how confident you are about keeping yourself and others safe, the truth is that we can always learn more – and you know, refreshers are never a bad thing, either.

So whether you’re about to step out for the first time on your own or are just trying to remember what your parents taught you all those years ago when you were traveling alone for the first time, you’re going to love this list of 15 solid tips.

15. “How’s the motorcycle club?”

I “answer” my phone with “hey dad I’m almost home.” If there’s a creepy guy too close.

I also have a specific friend who I know is an insomniac, and if some one is being sketchy on the train I am on late at night, I will ring him and be all “Hey hun, almost home now, want me to pick up food?” “Aww you didn’t have to come meet me at the station”

He rolls with it every time, he is a great fake husband.

14. So many reasons why.

Don’t walk around staring at your phone after dark. It’s immensely stupid.

1: It lights up your face from a mile away like a dumb, distracted easy mark.

2: You aren’t at all aware of your surroundings, even if you believe you are. We’re nowhere near as good at multitasking as we assume.

3: If you suddenly DO need to look up at impending danger, your eyes are adjusted for bright light rather than darkness and you won’t be able to clearly see who’s around you.

13. Confidence is key.

Act like you live wherever you are — like you know the place. Like you know exactly where you are going. I use a wheelchair and do this whenever I travel. I figure out where I am going before I venture out.

If I am lost, I duck into a store or restaurant in order to look at my phone or ask directions. Be focused on the direction you are going and don’t act like a fucking tourist. Ironically I feel much safer by myself when I can act like this instead of when I’m traveling with some clueless friend or relative who has to stop for pictures every 20 feet.

I rarely, if ever, get approached for money or anything when I am by myself. But throw in my dumb aunt Susan and we’re brushing off weirdos all day long.

12. Don’t be an easy mark.

Theres this reflex people have when bumped up against. They will immediately go and check where ever they keep their wallet/money.

So sometimes pickpockets will send in recon people who will just kinda get a little too close and bump into people. Then the actual pickpockets can see where you check and go for that pocket.

11. People don’t change.

If anyone ever makes the conscious decision to steal anything from you, never trust them. Ever. If they will steal a lighter from you, they will steal your weed, your money, your jewelry, your car, you name it.

Stay away from stupid motherf*ckers. They’ll get you in legal trouble, hurt, or killed despite their best intentions or how friendly they are.

IF you sell drugs, dont get sloppy. Sloppy = weakness and somebody WILL set that ass up.

1 dollar bills stack up over time.

If u broke, a bag of potatoes is like $2.50

Backing down from a fight may hurt your ego but will keep you alive longer.

That being said, sometimes u gotta fight… Pick your battles wisely.

Not every one who calls themselves your friend is your friend. Not everyone you call a friend, is a friend.

If you even think for one second u should bail… Get the f*ck up outta whatever situation u are in immediately.

If you accidentally disrespect someone, apologize immediately. Buy them a beer/offer a cigarette. Ive seen this save lives.

More often than not, loud people bring the noise, quiet people bring the guns.

That being said, never underestimate how bad somebody wants to “prove” themselves.

AND watch out for “livewires”. A livewire is somebody who gets hyped up and excited eazy. Will shoot first, never ask questions.

If you aint from the streets/hood/ghetto, dont act like you are.

If an older, street knowledgeable person tells you “dont do/ dont go (fill in the blank)” dont f*cking do it.

Smoke weed. Dont fuck with any type of powder.

If the blunt is already rolled, dont smoke it.

NEVER EVER EVER FIND OUT WHAT SOMEBODY HAS IN THE TRUNK

Finally

Look, Listen, and Learn.

10. So interesting – and helpful!

Saw a TV show where ex- street con artists told of the tricks people use, so that viewers could guard against them.

In some train stations, bus stations etc there are advertising posters (put by the police or local authorities) warning people against pickpockets. “Do you know where your wallet is?”

People see the poster and immediately move their hand to the pocket where their wallet is, to check it was there. And by doing so they give the location away to the pickpockets, who are watching.

The people on the show said that posters like this helped the pickpockets more than it reduced crime.

9. Just in case.

Count every possible exit in any room you enter. I sometimes also scan for anything I could use to defend myself if need be.

8. You don’t know them.

Don’t worry about hurting someone’s feelings over your own safety. If it feels wrong, it is wrong.

7. Crazy people are too much trouble.

Talk to yourself, you’ll make even the craziest f*cker nervous.

Pacing around and angrily muttering to your phone will keep even the dodgiest of crackheads at bay.

6. It’s a small thing.

Walk confidently and with your head up. If you walk around like a victim you will eventually become a victim.

Don’t let anyone think they can mug you or tease you and get away with it. Because then they will, and they will get away with it.

5. Follow the leader.

Watch how locals walk at night alone in a big city: head down, wearing mostly black, quiet, hands in pockets and not making a scene. While still being aware and knowing exactly where they are going. Being loud or weird in any way only draws weirdos and drug addicts to you. Usually people will only try to rob you or fuck with you if they see an opening. Don’t show them that you have one.

The second I see someone wearing bright colors, looking around for where to go or being noticeable in any way I can instantly tell they aren’t from around here. So can the thieves and criminals.

4. Is this a real thing?

Golden Rule of the Street:

Respect the Street, and allow the Street to respect you.

Walking with purpose is a major factor for the latter.

3. Or you know. One.

Never break two laws at once. Got something in your car that’s illegal? Better not be speeding, stop completely at red lights…ext.

2. Because they respect an imaginary dude more than you.

For girls, make up a fake boyfriend to get creeps away. If you’re being followed, don’t freeze up and just keep walking. Go into the nearest fast food place or store.

Keep your eyes forward and don’t look at people. And please, for the love of god, don’t stop in the middle of the sidewalk.

You need to be standing still to be mugged, and its easier to be grabbed if your not moving. If someone tries to stop you, keep walking. They ask the time, check your watch, tell them but do not stop walking.

1. Ah, yes, the city face.

Count the room. Count the exits.

City Face: Don’t look happy in a dense area on the street. Look slightly pissed. If you have something to be happy about, that’s something someone wants.

 

I had definitely forgotten some of these.

What else are we forgetting? Tell us in the comments!

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People Share Their Best Tips for Being Street Smart

I grew up watching Tommy Boy a lot, so of course, I know the difference between book smarts and street smarts – and recently, John Mulaney has been refreshing us on those, too.

Street smarts are what you need to survive in the wild, as an adult (whatever that means) without getting hoodwinked (or worse) while going about your daily life.

If you think you could use a few more of those, here are 18 tips from people who (claim to) know.

18. Get that hard expression down.

Look like you’ll fight back.

Not so much that it looks like you’re issuing a challenge, but just so that anyone looking to get the twenty bucks in your wallet will wonder whether it’s worth the effort.

The not issuing a challenge thing is important. Because people looking for a fight will go for you, and you end up looking like your in fight or flight mode in a fish out of water way.

You don’t want to look naive, but you don’t want to look concerned either. Just another day for you

17. Don’t ignore your instincts.

Situational awareness. Look up the OODA loop and learn it.

Notice who stands out, who looks out of place. If you get a bad feeling about a situation or person DO NOT ignore it.

Know your exits. Even if you have a weapon yourself, getting out without having to fight is best.

16. Protect your skin!

Buy a daily moisturizer with sunscreen in it.

15. Know your exits.

Especially the exits and gut feeling thing. Our brains subconsciously pick up on things that we don’t really acknowledge or know in the moment, so that gut feeling that you should leave is most likely correct because of the little details that are causing you to feel that way.

Also, know not just the main exit, but other exits that are less obvious. You won’t have to fight through a crowd and will get out faster and easier.

14. That’s knowledge everyone needs.

Security guards, doormen, food cart owners, and blue collars in general, know where the closest bathrooms are.

13. Keep a cool head.

Here’s some more details I’ve learned from my tactical self defense program. OODA loop: observe, orient, decide act. Notice something?

Look at it, decide if you should get involved, then act on that decision. Cooper color code: white is not paying any attention, yellow, aware but relaxed, the ideal situation. Orange is the beginning of the ooda loop. You noticed something and it has your attention. Red you have decided to get involved, black and you’re too in shock to react to anything.

Then the reflex four: visual pat down checks if someone looks anxious or threatening, is wearing the wrong clothes like a long coat in July, weird bulges in clothing, actually showing a weapon on them, etc. exits means knowing where you can get out, whether is be a main exit, emergency or window. Also scanning your area for force multipliers, which are any item you can pick up and throw or hit with, or can shove an aggressor into.

At a restaurant these might be plates, glasses, utensils, a menu, the leg of a chair, a corner or table. Finally, if you see something concerning, look for accomplices/sympathizers. These would be people who came in together or make frequent eye contact, are dressed similarly, or standing together.

It seems like a lot but basically it’s making an effort to be like Shawn Spencer from Psych, and pay attention to the details around you.

12. It’s a little thing.

If you are a woman and have a handbag with a zipper, make sure the opening end is towards the front (where you can keep an eye on it).

This prevents someone walking behind you from opening your handbag and taking your wallet/anything valuable.

11. Not down at your phone.

When walking always look up.

They never do this in the movies, and that’s where the zombie spider which from Mukilteo is hiding, right above you.

10. They’re your things, after all.

Other bag/pickpocket related tips:

If you’re waiting for a train or bus, try to stand with your back against a wall so no one can sneak up behind you. Especially a good idea if you’re wearing a backpack.

If you have a cross-body or shoulder bag, keep it in front of you. I know it’s more comfortable to push it behind your arm or let it rest on the back of your hip, but it’s super easy for someone to take something from it without you noticing if it’s not in your field of vision.

9. Not good for my audiobook habit.

DO NOT WEAR HEADPHONES!!!

You make yourself an easy target by making it so even the most clod footed mugger can sneak up on you.

8. Don’t just hand over your phone.

If you are a tourist and want a local to take a pic of you with your phone either have it be an employee or someone you can outrun.

Wear one headphone so you can still hear whats around you

7. Protect your valuables.

People make pickpockets’ livelihood so easy. Just check out how many phones are in people’s back pockets, how many handbags dangle by the side, easily accessible.

Always put valuables in an inside, preferably zipped pocket. If you in a notorious pickpocket area like Paris or Naples, you can even carry a fake wallet with monopoly money in an outside pocket.

6. Many things can double as mirrors.

I use windows/reflections to check who is behind me.

Looking at a shop window while I walk is innocuous enough, but it allows me to check if someone is still behind me without me turning around.

5. Public toilets can be hard to find.

Hotel lobbies are great places to use the restroom. They are usually clean, safe, and hardly ever occupied as most guests will go up to their own room instead of using the public location.

On a side note, I’ve found it’s best not to go to reception and ask if you can use the toilet because they sometimes say no. Just walk in like you’re staying there and know where you’re going and follow the signs for the toilet

4. Follow the mothers.

If I’m in an unfamiliar city, I’ll explore freely every neighborhood as long as there are women and kids around. Most mums don’t hang outside with their kids if the street/area is unsafe.

This worked very well for most throughout Latin America, Europe and Asia.

3. Always pay attention.

Basically, just be aware of your surroundings. A lack of situational awareness can lead to some bad things.

Use windows as mirrors to see your blind spots or check behind you. Know where the public places you pass by are, like grocery stores or convenience stores.

Listen close to your own footsteps, and know that sound. This way, you’ll be able to hear other footsteps behind or around you and pick up sounds easier.

Never wear headphones or earbuds and never look distracted by your phone or something else. This is all to help you with situational awareness.

2. Keep your friends close…

If you want to know if you can trust somebody you let in your home, leave a $5 bill in a place that looks like it was forgotten about and that they would see it.

If they’ll take you for $5 now, they’ll take you for more later.

1. Don’t worry about people’s feelings.

I am a 60 something female who travels extensively alone for work. I have had a few close calls but my rule is I don’t worry about offending someone that approaches me if there aren’t others around.

I will cross the street, head for an open establishment, get away. Panhandlers, do you have a cigarette guys, don’t let them get close to you if there’s no one around. I keep my keys in my hand and say if you come any closer I’m going to push this alarm.

I was heading for the airport early in the morning with luggage and a creepy guy drives by asks if I need a ride, I say no, he goes down to turn around and is coming back. I saw a restaurant worker down the next block having a smoke so I yelled to him. Hey I might need some help here and he ran down to stare the guy down.

I don’t hesitate to ask a security guard to walk me to my car. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Be aware of your surroundings!

Definitely going to keep these in mind the next time I’m wandering about alone.

What’s your favorite “street smarts” tip? Drop it in the comments!

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Ex-Convicts Discuss the Hardest Habits to Break Once They’re Back on the Outside

Surviving life in prison requires a person to adapt – at least, you have to somewhat if you’re going to survive and emerge as some semblance of the person you were when you went in.

On the flip side, when you’re set to get out of prison, I imagine it could be tough to readjust, and to drop the habits that got you through behind bars.

If you’re curious what the hardest habits were to drop once released from prison, these 14 ex-convicts are here to share.

14. This sounds awful.

Hoard feminine hygiene products. We were super limited on the number of pads or tampons they gave us. They didn’t give any to the women in holding cells.

There was dried and fresh menstrual blood on the floor and concrete benches, and a drain in the middle of the rooms like they intended to hose down the room, but if they did it was not often enough.

13. All of the choices.

Not me personally but I know a guy that said after he got out he just wanted McDonald’s.

When he got there he spent 20 minutes staring at the menu trying to decide what to order because he wasn’t used to having choices.

12. I never would have thought.

I didn’t use a fork for a few weeks. Ate everything with a spoon without thinking. It’s not the most interesting thing but I hadn’t noticed it posted here.

11. No need to defend yourself.

Staring at sharp things. Like there’s no desire to use them inappropriately but you are just kinda shocked they’re there and available for use.

You might be surprised what qualifies as a sharp object. I remember whenever someone tried to hand me a knife or something to cut veggies Id be afraid to touch it.

Glass was the biggest thing though, just mirrors in all the bathrooms. real ones. I could smash that shit and have a big jagged weapon, i cant believe this italian restaurant has such a dangerous thing in their bathroom. stopping thinking of objects as weapons is hard

10. Find your optimism.

Constantly looking over my shoulder. By far the hardest conditioning to break, which I haven’t and doubt I ever will, is the constant pessimism and cautious optimism. You see, when you’re waiting to work your way through court, get a deal, and get sentenced, you will have your dates changed 50 times, hope for certain things only to be disappointed, and any time you are told something hopeful it doesn’t work out.

As a result, I never get excited for something until it actually happens. When my wife told me we were pregnant (I already knew from her symptoms that she was but still, you never know for sure till you take the test), I was obviously happy, but because I’m always cautiously optimistic and rarely show emotion, I couldn’t feel comfortable or excited until I knew that my developing daughter was healthy. Even then, it didn’t really hit me till she was born.

You can apply this to anything especially big events. Getting engaged, planning the wedding, buying a house, ANYTHING. I still hear from my wife how i wasn’t crazy surprised or excited to be having a kid. I was, I actually was the half of the relationship who was dead set on a kid when my wife supposedly could’ve gone either way.

You just can’t get your hopes up or look forward to anything until it is here or has happened. I’ve been home over 7 years now and with my wife for 6.5. She’s truly the catalyst that motivated me to truly change my life and to not give any more of my life to the system, but she’ll never know how happy she makes me because she misinterprets my cautious optimism/realism for pessimism or indifference.

9. Not eating like an animal.

One of my foster sons came to us from juvie. Every meal his arm was around his plate and he woofed down his food. My mastiff couldn’t keep up. He always ate back to the wall hunched. Took my wife and I a month to show him no one would take his food and we had plenty more.

Funny part is he went in the Marines and did 8 years got out honorable and is now working in corrections.

8. Don’t save it for later.

I had to completely change my sense of time. I agree with all the people who said they ate super fast, but then we would slow walk back from the chow hall- any excuse for a few minutes more outside.

I made sure I never consolidated enjoyable things. If I had a snack- I ate it and concentrated on it. If there was something good on TV, I watched it. Now, I’ll snack while I watch a movie because there aren’t enough hours in the day- but on the inside I was trying to make hours and days go away.

I’ve got a good job now, and nice respectable friends, but I still react to confrontational situations more quickly, decisively and… efficiently than they do. I’m able to pull back at the last minute, but it’s pretty clear that violence is not a tool in their arsenal.

7. Hard to imagine.

Taking a sh%t with my underwear up to my thighs to hide my junk.

It took a long time to go back to pants around the ankles.

I forgot it wasn’t normal until my girlfriend pointed it out.

6. A luxury, for sure.

Taking as long as you want in the shower.

For the longest time after I got out, I took less than 5 minute showers.

My friend did two and a half in Florida State Prison.

Said the first thing he did when he got home was shower until all the hot water ran out.

5. A short list.

Not wearing shoes in the shower.

Eating with forks and knives.

Having salt and pepper for food.

Not always having to watch your back.

Being able to get food when you want it, and just get up and leave to go for a drive or something.

4. You can just do it.

I spent 72 months in prison for a tragic car accident that I had caused.

After I was released I kept telling my wife exactly what I was doing without her asking.

She thought it was funny at first but after a few weeks of it she was starting to get bothered.

3. As good as cash.

I don’t smoke, but every time someone offered me a cig I would pocket it.

On the inside thats a bartering chip, took me about a month or two to break

2. It was too quiet.

Not an ex con but my step dad has been in and out of prison for the majority of his life, he always said that whenever he gets out of prison you’re so use to to it being loud all the time that when he got home he couldn’t sleep because it was so quiet.

1. A laundry list.

I eat fast.

I don’t sit with my back to the door in public.

I always scan crowds constantly.

I question WHY people are nice to me.

I carry extra clothes, water, and various other things in my car in case I need it. (Not a hoarder but harder to get rid of stuff)

I don’t like being away from home overnight.

I also quit eating boiled eggs, I over season my food, and I refuse to drink Kool-Aid anymore.

I don’t know why life in prison is so fascinating to outsiders, but it definitely is.

If you’ve got firsthand knowledge, tell us in the comments what you would add to this list!

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Random Ways That Gay Men Met Their Boyfriends

Some of my favorite love stories are of gay couples overcoming adversity to find each other, despite the numerous roadblocks that society has constructed.

After all, who didn’t love Schitt’s Creek?

Sometimes they might have to look in unconventional places, but it’s good to know love is out there.

Here are 13 random places gay men found love.

1. Sometimes all it takes is a kiss

There’s a reason the lyric goes, “It’s in his kiss.”

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2. It’s nice when you can find someone in high school

Because school is hard enough without one more thing.

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3. After graduation, you might consider joining a gym

I personally hate the gym, but it seems like a good place to meet buff guys.

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4. If the gym is too intense, you could join a sporting club

If I had known there were skee ball teams, I’d have been a lot sportier.

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5. And then of course there are nightclubs

And strip clubs.

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6. It’s ok to spend your 20s pursuing interesting professions

Apparently it’s more common than you might think.

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7. Jumping out of a birthday cake is optional

Jumping out of a wedding cake would be next level.

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8. If clubs aren’t your thing, there’s always the internet

And so many apps.

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9. Like, SO many apps

An app for every occasion.

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10. There’s an app for that too

You just never know.

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11. And if apps aren’t your thing, there’s always games

The trick is to find your tribe.

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12. And for the truly brave-at-heart: just make a connection

TikTok, Twitter, Instagram. Any DM will do.

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13. Or make a connection in person

Fruit and veg can be extremely erotic.

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The truth is, you just never know where you’ll meet your special someone–but to find them, you have to put yourself out there and be ready to embrace love.

Do you have similarly fun stories about meeting your BAE? Tell us all about it in the comments.

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Servers Share Stories of Their Worst Customers Ever

Waiting tables was one of my favorite jobs – you worked with fun people, the job was fast-paced so it was hard to get bored, the hours were nice (if you’re a certain age) and the money wasn’t bad either.

It wasn’t all good, though, and aside from cleaning stinky stuff in the kitchen, dealing with customers could definitely be the low point of any day – a fact these 11 servers are going to prove with tales about the worst people they’ve served.

11. When they actually write in ZERO.

Major dislike.

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10. I have actually done this.

I’m not sure I know a server who hasn’t.

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9. Don’t be like these people.

We don’t like them at all.

8. You can’t do this, though.

Not unless you want to lose your job.

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7. All you can do is your best.

But sometimes that doesn’t pay your rent.

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6. We call those verbal tippers.

They’re not the best.

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5. Definitely not the way to get a date.

Or make friends or be a decent human being.

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4. I definitely agree with this sentiment.

Solidarity. Order takeout.

3. I bet they thought that was adorable, too.

Spoiler alert: that’s not cute.

2. The rage when this happens.

It’s like you’ve wasted your entire shift.

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1. I mean…you’re trusting a whole kitchen staff an awful lot.

I bet he doesn’t tip much, either.

I’ve gotta say, I don’t miss tables like these!

If you’ve ever been a server, add your horror story to the pile in the comments.

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Ways You Can Tell if a Guy Is Insecure in His Masculinity

The way that we form relationships these days is much different from how we’ve historically formed bonds – we’re forced to make more snap judgements than ever because our encounters are fleeting and not usually in person.

If you’re wondering if there are some telltale signs that the man you’re interested in isn’t as secure as he could be, well, here are 15 people’s opinions on that.

15. Sports are not life.

Has to make any situation about them, has the be the “alpha”, compensates not just with a truck but constant overt “look at me” actions, disregards your opinion immediately if they disagree, dismissive towards anyone who doesn’t act like them.

Loud on purpose because they think everyone like the sound of their voice as much as they do, “act like a man bro”, constant put downs, refuses to drink any non “manly” drink, mentions how big their d%ck is (it isn’t), thinks sport knowledge is a personality trait

14. Ugh, the gym.

I go to the gym a lot, I’ve seen guys ripped af yet don’t show it off. Then I see the guys who think they need to show off every muscle in their body and have close to no actual muscle.

Or simply people on any online game with the name “alpha”

If you are alpha you don’t need to show it off like its a big deal.

13. It can be hard to tell the difference.

I went on a few dates with a guy like this. Constantly puts me down if I have different opinions and expect people to pick the path he believes is the best and agree with his choice even if it’s their lives.

Sometimes low self esteem can be really similar to arrogance.

12. The proof is in the pudding.

I remember reading a book called HOW TO BE AN ALPHA MALE unironically…

Some good advice here and there but I pretty much remember why I bought it, I was insecure as f*ck.

11. Not just probably.

Putting nuts on their trucks probably.

I want to hear the mental discussion they have with themselves before they make that purchase.

10. I mean truly.

The overzealous gym bro. The absolute worst.

It’s the guy at the gym busting his ass like a machine with his head down that’s really impressive. He means business.

9. Calling yourself out.

Whenever he insults himself a lot, doesn’t like to be complimented, when he acts very negative,

These are some of the things that I do when I’m insecure.

8. A narrow mind.

His view on what makes a man a man is narrow.

In his mind, there are only 2-3 types of men and other types are wrong.

7. You gotta love yourself.

Whenever the dude constantly asks for validation from other people.

Honestly, if someone wants validation, that’s okay, everybody needs it. I think it’s healthy to be upfront about wanting it and asking for it from people you trust.

Needing it constantly and / or trying to goad it out of people with weird games is not.

6. Bullies beget bullies.

When i was in the army we would definitely see people who were bullied in high school and decided to be “billy badass” and join the military then they would be teased and hazed a little as privates.

But as soon as they got their own little team and a taste of power they would be the ones that made everyone’s lives much more miserable than they needed to be reveling in being the tormenter.

5. Those hashtags are a dead giveaway.

The worst are guys who use hashtags on instagram like #realman, #realmen, #realmenhavebeards, #manly, #man, #men, #alphamale, #intelligent, #smart, etc.

I’m like dude, I’ve never seen a confident masculine man ever once use sh%t like that. If you have to tell the world you’re a “real man”, or how “intelligent” or “alpha”, you are… you aren’t. hahaha

4. A short list.

1. Constant need to be in a relationship or have a “girlfriend” no matter how he feels about her.

2. Guys who talk crap about women who speak up or needlessly call them names

3. Guys who are uncomfortable being CLOSE emotionally or physically around other men in fear of being gay or emasculated.

Also just trust your gut around people. Everyone has insecurities but there’s a fine line as to when it’s a part of people verses when people are a part of them.

3. Nothing girly, please.

Definitely show offs. If you are easily insulted by things tied to lack of masculinity(secretly liking pink for example) then you have fragile masculinity.

Normally the truly masculine people are those that a true people. They don’t need reassurance, they show emotion and the idea of girly colours, smells etc do not exist.

2. I think we’re done here.

I disagreed with a guy on a political issue, and he immediately called me a beta. So…yeah pretty clear cut there.

1. Fighting, period.

Worrying about face and honour and fighting over it.

I’ve never been in s fight. 99% of my friends have never been in a fight. None of my colleagues have ever been in a fight.

Yet… you come across these f**kwits who seem to think that it’s normal. Quite often they complain about it. “Aw I can barely leave my house without someone starting shit”.

In every single scenario, it is them who is the problem.

I agree with these assessments. Co-sign.

Drop your own tips for weeding out the insecure in the comments!

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Was This Woman Wrong to Tell Sibling Her Body Hair Was Standing in the Way of Love?

When it comes to people’s physical appearances, keeping mum is often the best and really only course of action. When someone you love comes to you asking for advice or opinions – or is lamenting a problem when you think their appearance might solve the issue – the advice to keep silent isn’t always the best course of action.

This woman and her sister have a condition called PCOS that affects their body hair, leading to a thick, dark covering that society often doesn’t expect to see on women. Both girls used to shave/remove it but recently her sister has decided she wants to live more naturally – which is fine.

My sister (22F) and I (26F) both have PCOS. As a result we have very thick, dark body hair and facial hair that can honestly rival some men’s. I personally choose to shave regularly because I can’t stand how it looks and feels. My sister used to shave but about a year ago decided she wanted to stop. Of course I support her 100% and think she’s beautiful! What she does with her body is her business.

When the sister posts pictures of herself on dating sites, however, she uses old photos from when she was clean-shaven. Her dates often leave in the middle or refuse a second meeting, leaving the sister wondering exactly what she is doing wrong.

OP thinks she knows why, but stopped short of saying it for some time.

However, there is an issue. My sister uses old pictures of herself back when she was shaving on dating apps. This has led to a lot of problems in her romantic life. She often complains she never gets a second date and sometimes people even leave mid-date.

I think this is kind of her fault because she’s being disingenuous about her appearance which is a sh%tty thing to do. I have always bit my tongue and just supported her about this topic until recently.

When OP finally broke down and suggested she update her profile pictures, because leaving them gives her dates expectations that are not being met, her sister flew into a hurt rage, arguing that the right person won’t care.

OP agrees, but doesn’t think that’s really the point.

The other day she was venting again about another failed date. She asked me why this keeps happening to her. I told her she should consider updating her profile pictures. She got defensive and asked why she would need to do that. I told her that it would probably help so people know what she looks like since she looks a lot different than when they were taken.

She started getting extremely angry and said that “a little body hair doesn’t make that much of a difference” and “the right person won’t mind a little hair.”

Again, our body and facial hair is very thick and dark, and (imo) definitely makes a difference. When I don’t shave, I get a full mustache and beard, and my sister is the same. The people she’s going on dates with aren’t expecting her to show up with a full mustache and beard because her pictures show her clean-shaven.

The sister and even their family think OP was shaming her, which she maintains she was not. She was only encouraging her sister to be herself from the start if she truly wants to find the right guy.

I told her that she’s beautiful but she’s giving people false expectations which is why she’s having bad luck dating. She should just be honest from the start and the right one will come along! But she was infuriated and said I was being unsupportive and misogynistic. She has refused to talk to me since and my family is now calling me an asshole too because they think I was shaming her.

My sister even posted on social media that “body hair is beautiful, the stigma attached to it is misogynistic, it sucks when your own family won’t support you.”

Now she’s wondering whether or not she was wrong to say anything at all, but she still feels like her sister is in the wrong – not because she’s being herself, but because she’s misleading people and then blaming them for her mistake.

Did I go wrong somewhere here? I love my sister and don’t think body and facial hair is a bad thing at all! But I don’t think it’s right to basically catfish people and then blame them for not being interested, and treating them like they’re horrible people when you misled them…

AITA?

The internet, of course, has some thoughts, so let’s hear them out!

The top comment pointed out that her sister is obviously not as ok with how she looks now as she thought, so there are probably some deeper-seated issues at play.

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She’s attracting the wrong people, not the right ones, and the sooner she realizes that she’s the one at fault there, the better.

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And I mean, no one really likes a liar.

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Deceiving people isn’t the way to start any sort of experience.

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No one likes having their time wasted, you know?

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There you have it! I have to say that I agree with OP on this one.

What about you? Drop your opinions in the comments!

 

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Memes That Will Remind You There Is a Little Good Left in the World

It’s easy to believe that we should just give up on people – watching the news for about five minutes does the trick, most days. We have to seek out the good news, the positive posts, and the memes that remind us that we’re actually surrounded by people who are actually…nice.

Most of the time.

If you’re on the hunt for something that lifts your spirits today, these 12 memes should fit the bill.

12. Go with god, little friend.

Eat some mosquitos for me, yeah?

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11. Wait, people close their tabs?

I was unaware that was an option.

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10. Everyone is perfect in the Hundred Acre Wood.

Make your life the same way.

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9. That kid has no idea how awesome that is.

One day he will, though.

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8. What would our lives be like without them?

Yucky, that’s what.

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7. Thank you for feeding my belleh.

Now I owe you a blood oath.

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6. It’s all going to be ok.

All you need is love.

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5. What an honor.

Be worthy of the title.

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4. Why is this so wholesome?

My goodness they’re crustaceans.

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3. We can all use good friends.

Dead or alive, I suppose.

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2. We all need to be propped up sometimes.

Maybe they’ll last longer. You just never know.

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1. You gotta just dig in.

No matter the problem.

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I’m feeling a bit better now, so that’s something.

Where do you go when you’re looking for good news? Tips in the comments!

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Wholesome Memes for When You Need a Little Sunshine in Your Life

There are memes for all moods and occasions, and sometimes, what we need in our lives is just a reminder that human beings are capable of being something other than terrible.

If you live in the Midwest there’s a good chance you’re getting your daily dose of nice the way it is, but if you don’t, these 13 wholesome memes will give you a little shot of smiles, too.

13. It’s just so easy.

For some people, anyway.

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12. Don’t try to out maneuver Grandma.

It’s never going to work out in your favor.

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11. It just makes the entire experience more delicious.

Better for everyone.

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10. She already knows.

Trust me on this one.

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9. That’s how Grandma gets hacked.

But she’s not about to start being polite to everyone.

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8. There’s a lid for every pot.

These people obviously found theirs.

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7. Just give up and Google it.

It’s not worth a fight.

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6. Every single time.

They can’t miss a one.

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5. Bless him and those Showcase Showdowns.

He taught us how much things cost in California.

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4. I lava you.

All you need is love.

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3. This picture is killing me.

I want to give everyone a hug.

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2. Keep flubbing it, kids.

Your teachers need those moments.

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1. Why is this so adorable, y’all?

Seriously, I want to hang it on my wall.

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Ahhh, I think I can go on with my life now.

Where do you go when you need a reminder that humanity is not all bad? Share with us in the comments!

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Was This Woman Wrong For TellingHer Fiancée She Used to Work as an Escort?

Honesty might be the best policy, but we all know that can get complicated when we’re talking about relationships that are important to us – relationships we really don’t want to lose.

We’re not all proud of our pasts, or sometimes we’re ok with them, but we expect that other people will judge the choices we’ve made previously – and that’s exactly the struggle this woman was having when she wondered whether keeping her former profession as an escort from her husband-to-be.

She did it because she wanted to, it wasn’t scarring or horrible the way it can be for some, and eventually she just decided to move on and do something else.

I (35F) just got engaged. I’ve been with him for two years and he’s amazing and think he’d be a great father to my children. There is however a secret I haven’t revealed. About three years ago before I met him I briefly worked as an escort. It wasn’t long (about 4 months) and I don’t have some sob story about how I felt abused and exploited because frankly I didn’t.

Like any job it had its good and bad parts. I don’t have some dramatic story about escaping it, I stopped simply because I didn’t want to do it anymore. I didn’t require therapy or rehab, I just moved on and got a normal job.

OP knows that she is healthy and has no baggage from a previous life, and she’s been honest as far as her number of sexual partners. That said, she doesn’t feel quite right about keeping something from him for the rest of her life.

She’s worried it will impact the way he sees her, though, and asks the internet for their opinions.

I have been regularly tested and have no STIs, nor so I have any emotional scars from it, so I told myself it’s now no one else’s business because it won’t impact any other relationships. However it feels wrong I can’t share this.

He once asked how many s^xual partners I had and I simply said “a lot” and told him technically the truth: that I was prolific at one point in my life but no longer am and don’t intend to do so.

I’m still scared to potentially ruin a great thing if I reveal it but I’m also not looking forward to keeping this a secret for life.

AITA for keeping it secret?

As always, they’ve got plenty to give, so let’s hear them out!

Basically, a lot of people think she’d be better off finding out how serious of a partner he’s going to be now, and not later.

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It’s less about her needing to be ashamed, and more about what type of man she’s found herself.

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If it’s a dealbreaker, he’s allowed to call it off before paperwork is signed.

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The bottom line is that it’s complicated.

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They both deserve to know what they’re getting into, right?

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I think that she’s the a$shole, not because she was an escort, but because she allowed things to get this far without coming clean.

I hope things work out when she tells him

What are your thoughts on this one? Drop them in the comments!

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