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Was This Woman Wrong to Tell Sibling Her Body Hair Was Standing in the Way of Love?

When it comes to people’s physical appearances, keeping mum is often the best and really only course of action. When someone you love comes to you asking for advice or opinions – or is lamenting a problem when you think their appearance might solve the issue – the advice to keep silent isn’t always the best course of action.

This woman and her sister have a condition called PCOS that affects their body hair, leading to a thick, dark covering that society often doesn’t expect to see on women. Both girls used to shave/remove it but recently her sister has decided she wants to live more naturally – which is fine.

My sister (22F) and I (26F) both have PCOS. As a result we have very thick, dark body hair and facial hair that can honestly rival some men’s. I personally choose to shave regularly because I can’t stand how it looks and feels. My sister used to shave but about a year ago decided she wanted to stop. Of course I support her 100% and think she’s beautiful! What she does with her body is her business.

When the sister posts pictures of herself on dating sites, however, she uses old photos from when she was clean-shaven. Her dates often leave in the middle or refuse a second meeting, leaving the sister wondering exactly what she is doing wrong.

OP thinks she knows why, but stopped short of saying it for some time.

However, there is an issue. My sister uses old pictures of herself back when she was shaving on dating apps. This has led to a lot of problems in her romantic life. She often complains she never gets a second date and sometimes people even leave mid-date.

I think this is kind of her fault because she’s being disingenuous about her appearance which is a sh%tty thing to do. I have always bit my tongue and just supported her about this topic until recently.

When OP finally broke down and suggested she update her profile pictures, because leaving them gives her dates expectations that are not being met, her sister flew into a hurt rage, arguing that the right person won’t care.

OP agrees, but doesn’t think that’s really the point.

The other day she was venting again about another failed date. She asked me why this keeps happening to her. I told her she should consider updating her profile pictures. She got defensive and asked why she would need to do that. I told her that it would probably help so people know what she looks like since she looks a lot different than when they were taken.

She started getting extremely angry and said that “a little body hair doesn’t make that much of a difference” and “the right person won’t mind a little hair.”

Again, our body and facial hair is very thick and dark, and (imo) definitely makes a difference. When I don’t shave, I get a full mustache and beard, and my sister is the same. The people she’s going on dates with aren’t expecting her to show up with a full mustache and beard because her pictures show her clean-shaven.

The sister and even their family think OP was shaming her, which she maintains she was not. She was only encouraging her sister to be herself from the start if she truly wants to find the right guy.

I told her that she’s beautiful but she’s giving people false expectations which is why she’s having bad luck dating. She should just be honest from the start and the right one will come along! But she was infuriated and said I was being unsupportive and misogynistic. She has refused to talk to me since and my family is now calling me an asshole too because they think I was shaming her.

My sister even posted on social media that “body hair is beautiful, the stigma attached to it is misogynistic, it sucks when your own family won’t support you.”

Now she’s wondering whether or not she was wrong to say anything at all, but she still feels like her sister is in the wrong – not because she’s being herself, but because she’s misleading people and then blaming them for her mistake.

Did I go wrong somewhere here? I love my sister and don’t think body and facial hair is a bad thing at all! But I don’t think it’s right to basically catfish people and then blame them for not being interested, and treating them like they’re horrible people when you misled them…

AITA?

The internet, of course, has some thoughts, so let’s hear them out!

The top comment pointed out that her sister is obviously not as ok with how she looks now as she thought, so there are probably some deeper-seated issues at play.

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She’s attracting the wrong people, not the right ones, and the sooner she realizes that she’s the one at fault there, the better.

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And I mean, no one really likes a liar.

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Deceiving people isn’t the way to start any sort of experience.

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No one likes having their time wasted, you know?

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There you have it! I have to say that I agree with OP on this one.

What about you? Drop your opinions in the comments!

 

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Memes That Will Remind You There Is a Little Good Left in the World

It’s easy to believe that we should just give up on people – watching the news for about five minutes does the trick, most days. We have to seek out the good news, the positive posts, and the memes that remind us that we’re actually surrounded by people who are actually…nice.

Most of the time.

If you’re on the hunt for something that lifts your spirits today, these 12 memes should fit the bill.

12. Go with god, little friend.

Eat some mosquitos for me, yeah?

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11. Wait, people close their tabs?

I was unaware that was an option.

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10. Everyone is perfect in the Hundred Acre Wood.

Make your life the same way.

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9. That kid has no idea how awesome that is.

One day he will, though.

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8. What would our lives be like without them?

Yucky, that’s what.

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7. Thank you for feeding my belleh.

Now I owe you a blood oath.

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6. It’s all going to be ok.

All you need is love.

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5. What an honor.

Be worthy of the title.

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4. Why is this so wholesome?

My goodness they’re crustaceans.

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3. We can all use good friends.

Dead or alive, I suppose.

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2. We all need to be propped up sometimes.

Maybe they’ll last longer. You just never know.

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1. You gotta just dig in.

No matter the problem.

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I’m feeling a bit better now, so that’s something.

Where do you go when you’re looking for good news? Tips in the comments!

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Wholesome Memes for When You Need a Little Sunshine in Your Life

There are memes for all moods and occasions, and sometimes, what we need in our lives is just a reminder that human beings are capable of being something other than terrible.

If you live in the Midwest there’s a good chance you’re getting your daily dose of nice the way it is, but if you don’t, these 13 wholesome memes will give you a little shot of smiles, too.

13. It’s just so easy.

For some people, anyway.

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12. Don’t try to out maneuver Grandma.

It’s never going to work out in your favor.

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11. It just makes the entire experience more delicious.

Better for everyone.

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10. She already knows.

Trust me on this one.

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9. That’s how Grandma gets hacked.

But she’s not about to start being polite to everyone.

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8. There’s a lid for every pot.

These people obviously found theirs.

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7. Just give up and Google it.

It’s not worth a fight.

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6. Every single time.

They can’t miss a one.

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5. Bless him and those Showcase Showdowns.

He taught us how much things cost in California.

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4. I lava you.

All you need is love.

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3. This picture is killing me.

I want to give everyone a hug.

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2. Keep flubbing it, kids.

Your teachers need those moments.

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1. Why is this so adorable, y’all?

Seriously, I want to hang it on my wall.

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Ahhh, I think I can go on with my life now.

Where do you go when you need a reminder that humanity is not all bad? Share with us in the comments!

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Was This Woman Wrong For TellingHer Fiancée She Used to Work as an Escort?

Honesty might be the best policy, but we all know that can get complicated when we’re talking about relationships that are important to us – relationships we really don’t want to lose.

We’re not all proud of our pasts, or sometimes we’re ok with them, but we expect that other people will judge the choices we’ve made previously – and that’s exactly the struggle this woman was having when she wondered whether keeping her former profession as an escort from her husband-to-be.

She did it because she wanted to, it wasn’t scarring or horrible the way it can be for some, and eventually she just decided to move on and do something else.

I (35F) just got engaged. I’ve been with him for two years and he’s amazing and think he’d be a great father to my children. There is however a secret I haven’t revealed. About three years ago before I met him I briefly worked as an escort. It wasn’t long (about 4 months) and I don’t have some sob story about how I felt abused and exploited because frankly I didn’t.

Like any job it had its good and bad parts. I don’t have some dramatic story about escaping it, I stopped simply because I didn’t want to do it anymore. I didn’t require therapy or rehab, I just moved on and got a normal job.

OP knows that she is healthy and has no baggage from a previous life, and she’s been honest as far as her number of sexual partners. That said, she doesn’t feel quite right about keeping something from him for the rest of her life.

She’s worried it will impact the way he sees her, though, and asks the internet for their opinions.

I have been regularly tested and have no STIs, nor so I have any emotional scars from it, so I told myself it’s now no one else’s business because it won’t impact any other relationships. However it feels wrong I can’t share this.

He once asked how many s^xual partners I had and I simply said “a lot” and told him technically the truth: that I was prolific at one point in my life but no longer am and don’t intend to do so.

I’m still scared to potentially ruin a great thing if I reveal it but I’m also not looking forward to keeping this a secret for life.

AITA for keeping it secret?

As always, they’ve got plenty to give, so let’s hear them out!

Basically, a lot of people think she’d be better off finding out how serious of a partner he’s going to be now, and not later.

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It’s less about her needing to be ashamed, and more about what type of man she’s found herself.

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If it’s a dealbreaker, he’s allowed to call it off before paperwork is signed.

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The bottom line is that it’s complicated.

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They both deserve to know what they’re getting into, right?

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I think that she’s the a$shole, not because she was an escort, but because she allowed things to get this far without coming clean.

I hope things work out when she tells him

What are your thoughts on this one? Drop them in the comments!

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A Woman Told a Social Worker the Truth About Sister and Ruins Her Adoption Chances. Was She Wrong?

Families are tricky. Those of us with excellent parents and siblings and extended family are the lucky ones, though we often don’t realize that sometimes, family aren’t people you are proud to claim.

That’s the case here, with a sister who spent some time living with her sister and brother-in-law-, niece and nephew, and did not come out thinking highly of the adults in the situation.

They treated her basically like Cinderella – free labor and childcare, and demanding she pay rent besides.

I’m a 28F and I have a sister (36F) For the sake of story, I’ll just call Jane. Jane is married to “Bob” and they have two kids, boy and a girl. My niece and nephew are wonderful kids and no trouble at all. They fight as siblings do but nothing big. I love them. Now for about two years, I did live with my sister. It was a miserable time that really affected our relationship. She saw me as free labor, money and babysitting.

Even when I managed to get a small part time job, she demanded I hand over nearly half my pay or get out. It was hell as she took completely advantage of me. I moved out as soon as I could and we have little contact outside of family gatherings.

After OP moved out, the sister realized how tough it is to not have a free babysitter et al in the house, and OP has set some firm and healthy boundaries of her own.

Now after I moved out, she started complaining how “She has no help with the kids and never gets a break!” I babysit sometimes but I have made it clear, just cause I am off work, doesn’t mean I want an 8 hour day with my niece and nephew.

Then, the sister started talking about how she wanted to “get” a foster kid – a teenager, to live in the garage, maybe, and do all of the cooking and cleaning babysitting because they’d be so “grateful” to have a roof and a bed.

Y’all, my face right now.

Anyway she started talking about how she wanted to foster a kid. Not a kid but a teenager. I pressed her for more info on this. She wants to adopt a teenager so she has a live in babysitter for her kids. This is her logic: “I want a kid around 16 or 17, you know someone who may have been in the system for awhile. They can share a room with your nephew (she only has a three 3 bedroom house) or sleep in the garage. They can help me with house work, chores, cook and help me with my business.(She bakes and sells cookies)

Also babysit the kids so me and Bob can go out sometimes or have some alone time. They’ll be so grateful for a home and won’t complain. I won’t have to pay them at all. And then when they turn 18, I can just sign up for another foster kid! A teenager will be so much easier than a little kid, they will be grateful just to have a roof, food, siblings if they have been separated from their real ones and clothes.”

OP was also horrified, and when a social worker came to interview her as a character witness, she told the the truth about why her sister was applying to be a foster parent.

I was horrified! Told her it was a horrible idea! She didn’t listen to me. She went on with it anyway. About a month ago, a social worker showed up at my apartment to ask me some questions about my sister. She had put me down as a character witness or something like that.

I immediately told the social worker why my sister really wanted to foster a kid and how she treated me when I lived with her. The lady thanked me.

The sister and her husband were denied, and when OP told her sister the truth about her conversation with the social worker, the sister just blew up.

Her family also thinks OP was out of line.

My sister called crying saying that she wouldn’t be considered for any adoptions or fosters. The social worker told her that they felt her home and her weren’t a good fit. She asked if I said anything and I told the truth. She went off on me, hung up and we haven’t spoken since. She has sent some angry texts.

A couple family members are on her side. They think foster kids are fucking dogs or something and would be so happy just to have a roof and would gladly do all the housework.

So AITA here?

I think we can all guess how the internet is going to feel about treating kids like dogs in a shelter, but let’s peruse these responses anyway, hmm?

OP did the right thing for a child in a precarious situations, so there’s no way she could be wrong.

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She might have saved her sister from an even more awkward moment in the future, too.

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Apparently this is a thing people do? What the heck.

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All kids deserve a helping hand, not just the ones who are little and cute.

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It makes me want to throw up, honestly.

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I hate that there are so many people in the world who try to take advantage of kids, and especially kids who have barely had a chance in life the way it is.

What’s your opinion of this situation? Tell us about it in the comments!

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This is Why Emergency Vehicles Have Chains Hanging from the Bottom

Nobody enjoys getting stuck in traffic, or finding themselves stuck behind some sort of emergency or service vehicle that’s backing up traffic making unexpected stops. One of the upsides, though, is that it gives you time to ponder the mysteries of life, big and small.

Also, it might make you wonder what those chains are that you see hanging from the bottoms of fire trucks, ambulances, school buses, and the like.

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If it does, we have an answer for you – and we think it’s pretty interesting.

They’re built in chains in the case of inclement weather.

These “automatic tire chains” are sometimes referred to by their brand names, like Onspots or Insta-Chains. They hang there, not really doing a whole lot except waiting for bad weather to appear, but when it does, all the driver has to do is flip a switch to engage them.

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The chains lower until they hang in front of the rear tires, spinning in front of the wheels. As the tires rotate, the catch the chains. This greatly improves traction on icy or slick roads, preventing accidents and pileups and generally reducing chaos wherever they go.

These types of vehicles usually don’t have time to spare or waste, which makes the automatic nature crucial, and since they can sometimes struggle driving uphill on slick roads, the chains are a snap.

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So that’s the long answer. Watch this video to find out more!

One big question answered my friends, so you’re going to have to start wondering about something else the next time you’re staring out your window and watching gum stick to the pavement.

The good news is, there’s no shortage of options.

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An Employee Tells Co-Workers Not Everyone at Work Can Afford To Buy a House. Did They Act Like a Jerk?

It’s kind of interesting how sometimes you find yourself in a situation where people assume that everyone has a lot of money. Or even enough money to get by…

And, the truth of the matter is that not everyone out there can afford to buy a house.

A person took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to share their story and to ask the readers on that forum if they were wrong for their actions.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for bluntly telling the people I work with that no, not “everyone in the office” can afford to buy a house?

“My coworkers are usually pretty good to work with. The average salary for them is around 100k+. I’m their administrative assistant and I make about $32k. Anyway some of the things they say are kind of weird.

For example this one woman was shocked that I’d never had any of my clothes tailored before. I think they just really caught up in their own reality you know? Like in their world everyone is beautiful and skinny and rich with purebred dogs and perfect white teeth.

I was helping organize and someone announced they finally bought their first house. The conversation continued on to them kind of being rude and saying like “I don’t get why people think no one can afford to buy a house, it’s not hard?” and someone was like “Yeah I can’t imagine being in my 30s and still renting, I’d feel like such a failure” and they all agreed.

I don’t usually get upset about the sh*t they’re talking about but I finally had it and was like “I’m 38 and rent, I don’t think I’m a failure”

One of them was like “Oh well we weren’t talking about you, it’s just that all these people always go on and on about how it’s impossible to save for a down payment.”

I was just like “Yeah, it is pretty hard.”

It was obvious the whole atmosphere in the room changed so I was like “Anyway” and got up and left to the main office to get back to work. Later on one of the other women in the office came up and was like “Hey I’m sorry about earlier I didn’t mean to offend you. It got kind of awkward in there.”

I said yeah, it was pretty awkward listening to them talk about how they’d feel like a failure if they were in my shoes. She said that’s not what she meant, she actually meant that it felt like I was trying to call attention to the wage gap like it was their fault, and that if I wanted to better myself they could help me figure out how to apply to schools and work my way up just like they did.

I said a kind of half-hearted “thanks.” It’s been weird in the office since then. I know money is one of those no-no topics but it’s not like it’s a secret that I only make what I make.

We don’t have HR and this really isn’t an HR thing.

AITA.”

Here’s what people on Reddit had to say about this.

This reader said that these folks obviously live in an echo chamber and don’t get a whole lot of exposure to other people.

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Another reader said this kind of attitude is why nothing ever really changes for a lot of folks out there as far as income goes.

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This Reddit user made it clear: this person was not wrong in their statements and the people in their office deserved to be called out.

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And this individual had a unique take on the conversation: it was flat-out condescending.

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What do you think of this person’s actions?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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What’s a Harsh Fact of Life You’ve Come to Realize? People Shared Their Thoughts.

It’s part of the process of growing up, but sometimes life can be downright cruel.

Things that you thought would be easy turn out to be really difficult and other things that you believed were going to be awful end up being no big deal. Life is funny that way.

You live and you learn, people…

What’s a hard fact of life that you’ve learned?

Here’s how AskReddit users responded.

1. Sorry to hear that.

“After losing a parent I’m very aware of my own and other’s mortality.

Mine both passed in 2017. Adult orphanhood sucks hard.”

2. Doesn’t always work out.

“That not everyone you form a bond with in life is meant to stick around forever.”

3. That’s life.

“”It’s possible to make no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness that is life.”

Jean-Luc Picard”

4. True.

“You can only help a person so much until they have to help themselves.”

5. You’re not alone.

“I way overestimated my intelligence and importance growing up.”

6. THIS.

“It’s not that the world is out to get you.

It just doesn’t care.”

7. Not the right fit.

“Sometimes you can give your absolute all, 110% effort, but it just doesn’t fit.

You might be the world’s best florist, but if the person you try to make bouquets for is allergic to flowers, it’s over before it begins.”

8. Too bad.

“Very few people actually care about the truth.

Everyone will claim they do, but challenge a belief they are emotionally attached to and most of them will fight you to the death, sometimes literally, sometimes their own, rather than accept a fact they don’t like.”

9. Doesn’t mean much.

“Loyalty to your employer means nothing.

I learned this lesson really early in my career. Literally the first real job I had out of college. I worked my *ss off because I was always told that the harder your work, the better off you’ll be. I worked crazy hours. 60+ hour weeks, on-call 24/7, volunteering weekends, etc.

Then the 2008 recession hit. I was the first one out of the door. Just walked in one day, boss came by my desk and told me to give up my badge and get out. No goodbye, no apologies, no recognition of the work I’d done for the year I was there. No nothing. Just get the f*ck out.

Never again.”

10. Yup.

“Most famous people aren’t worth idolizing.”

11. Unfortunately…

“Bad things happen to good people.

Life isn’t fair and the universe doesnt give a sh*t about you or your feelings.”

12. Life can be lonely.

“I could die tomorrow in my sleep, and it would take days for me to be missed.

And even then the number of people who’d be sad- not “aw, that’s terrible. So what’s for lunch?” but actually sad- is in a single digit.”

Now we’d like to hear from you.

What hard facts have you learned in your life?

Talk to us in the comments!

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People Admitted Not Safe for Work Facts About Themselves

We all have a little bit of a frisky side. Or a kinky side. Or maybe even a dangerous side.

And that means you, too!

Are you ready to hear some true confessions from folks who went on the record?

What are some NSFW facts about yourself?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Cool party trick.

“When flaccid, I can pull the head of my penis back inside of itself.

I’m cut. I’ve honestly never asked anyone if they can do it, so it might just be a normal d*ck function. I can also pop both testicles back up inside myself.

So if I do it all at once, I’ve got an empty sack dangling under an inside out d*ck until I let go.”

2. To each their own…

“My last s*xual encounter involved me riding a guy who slapped me, so I slapped him back and we were slapping each other for a good 5 more seconds until he came really hard.

It was f*cking hot.”

3. Grossed out.

“One time I was absolutely hammered getting a bl*wjob and I accidentally peed in the girl’s mouth.

I’ll admit, not my finest moment.”

4. Boom!

“I joined The Mile High Club about 15 years ago.

TBH, outside of bragging rights it’s not really that fun.”

5. Jeez…

“Once I reached my hand down the back of my pants to spread my b*tt cheeks apart to muffle the sound of a fart.

I didn’t want the chick I was hanging out with to hear it.

I sh*t in my hand.”

6. I don’t think we got caught.

“Me and my girlfriend lived in a student apartment complex sometime ago, before we moved out, we went ahead and banged on all 8 floors of the building.

In the elevator, the laundry room, the stairway, the gym (the mirrors were great here), the common room, and multiple balconies etc. my girlfriend even got totally naked for a few of the sessions.

We did it at 2am on a Sunday night and got back to our own apartment at like 3:30am.

We didn’t get caught. I think.”

7. Very unique.

“I have a noticeable birthmark on the shaft of my penis.

It’s a large spot on top that has a line the whole way around.

I even won a contest with it once as a teenager because it was “unique” and “more impressive than a bare bland one”.”

8. Whoa.

“My first under-the-clothes s*xual experience was getting “serviced” by two female friends simultaneously, at a very young age.

I then proceeded to not have a single s*xual encounter with anyone until the age of 19.

It f*cked me up.”

9. Young and dumb.

“Banged my college GF in public a few times.

She got off on it, and being in my early 20s, I was horny and did not care.”

10. You’re a trooper.

“I once dislocated my shoulder while having awesome kinky s*x with my girlfriend.

Popped it back in and kept going.”

11. Power move.

“May or may not have banged a hooker over the railing of a balcony above an ongoing wedding.”

12. Stackin’ that cash.

“I was an online cam s*x girl for a year whilst I was at University.

I made lots of money and enjoyed regularly chatting with my regular fans.”

13. Memories…

“The most intense orgasm I ever had was caused by drunk mast**bation in a school toilet.

Three decades later I still remember that special occasion.”

Okay, it’s time to come clean…

What’s a NSFW fact about you?

Spill your guts in the comments!

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People Who Believe They Threw Their Lives Away Talk About Where It All Went Wrong

Do you know anyone who believes that they threw their life away and that it’s beyond repair?

It’s a sad fact of life but it’s also a true fact that it does happen to quite a few people out there.

If you think you threw your life away, where do you believe it went wrong?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. Thought it was normal.

“Started working at a restaurant at 14 surrounded by drugs and alcohol.

I thought is was completely normal behavior for adults and chefs I looked up to until I was 37 and realized I have a huge alcohol problem and lost everything I own.

I’m 17 months sober now.”

2. Addiction problem.

“I had my own landscape company i employed 5 others but I had a addiction problem with cocaine. At the the time I didn’t know I had severe mental health problems.

I have BPD DPD and bipolar disorder 1 with psychosis. I woke up one day and couldn’t do it anymore. I left the company to the lads I worked with. Since then I haven’t worked in years I’ve lost count how many times I’ve been hospitalised. I tried to end my life but ended up in a coma.

I’m doing better now despite going through a divorce I’m on antipsychotic meds and I’m doing good now but could never go back to work.”

3. This is life now.

“I got lazy with education from a very young age, and in the end my brain just lacked the ability to apply to anything that required real effort.

Then I stopped caring, just got a decent enough job and that was it. This is life now.”

4. Didn’t take school seriously.

“I coasted through high school, made good grades but did not do well on the SAT.

Had to take something like “remedial math” my first semester of college because my SAT math section score was below their standard but my overall score was in their acceptance range (which is very low). College kicked my *ss the whole way through.

I made it out with a GPA that is so embarrassing I never put it on a single resume and never gave it out. I’ve been from laughable job to laughable job but managing to scrape by.

I would love to have a higher level of education to achieve a better career, but after years of being in the workforce I don’t think I could actually do it. It’s like my level of brain power has dropped off significantly to even worse levels than before.

No way I could earn a masters degree. I feel like I wasted my life by not taking school seriously in high school. I could have gone to a much better university and gotten a better degree and better GPA and not have to take these soul crushing jobs.”

5. Down the wrong road.

“I was in a car accident when I was 15. Had what they called a “closed head injury”.

I dropped out of school twice, however I did end up graduating, like barely. Stared smoking weed, then cocaine, became an alcoholic, started smoking meth, f*cked off good jobs, shoplifting, and the list could go on. I’m 41 now, and became a mom 3.5 years ago and have completely turned my life around, as far as drugs and drinking, but I still suffer with depression and anxiety.

I believe my brain injury had a lot to do with my crazy behavior, and still effects my mental health.”

6. Very sad.

“I got married at 18 because it was expected of me.

Wasted 36 years with an extremely abusive spouse, primarily out of fear.

I’m free now. He died 8 years ago. I’m trying to make up for lost time, but that’s a lot of wasted time to make up for.”

7. Feeling trapped.

“So I’m a third year medical student and going to medical school is my biggest regret.

I should have chosen the career path I initially wanted but I let people tell me where to go.

Problem is I’m gonna be in too much debt to do anything else.”

8. Depression.

“I got really depressed when I was in my early 20s so I f*cked everything up and isolated myself for a few years.

Despite a good degree that kind of killed it for me.”

9. Environmental factors.

“Like with many people, I think it went wrong around 18-25.

Was more or less pushed by various environmental factors into a direction, without really thinking about who I was or who I wanted to be. I just followed societal/parental expectations and sure enough ended up in a career I care little about, and feel like a zombie on a daily basis, like dying.

What sucks is that before 18, I never had a bad time. I cared for school, I always tried to do my best. But after 18 everything went too quick, I had to pick a career, etc.

Now at 30+, I feel nothing for my life & career, but I’m also in the paradox that I don’t want to start all over again to go for a career that really interests me, because going through college/university all over again just feels too much of a battle (going from working professional with money to unemployed year 1 student).

I just feel that just a small window of a couple years (18-25) decided my entire life for me and ruined it forever.

My only advice for people is to gain some maturity, ask themselves what they truly want to be, and only then embark on studies. You need intention in life. Parental expectations or being a good boy trying to do his best isn’t enough.”

10. Feel like a zombie.

“26 years old now: good career, married, planning for children, and nothing is necessarily wrong.

I listened to people who I respected while growing up and ended up in an objectively great position in life. Even my parents’ peers/friends say they wish their children were in my position.

And yet, the days gloss by. I feel like a zombie. I feel like I made a mistake between 18-25, but don’t know what it is. I want to restart, but now I have obligations with family planning and a mortgage.

I love my spouse, but I could take so many more risks if I were single. Going with the flow is not the way.”

11. All alone.

“I focused too much on the long term.

I needed to graduate college so I neglected any potential relationships. Then I needed to get career stability so I neglected any potential relationships. Then I needed to get financial stability so I neglected any potential relationships.

Then I woke up at 40 in the middle of a pandemic all alone and realized I have nothing that is worthwhile.”

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