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People Who Didn’t Know Their First Love Was Weird Until They Dated Someone Normal

The funny thing about the first person you do anything with is that you just assume that’s the only way to do things. Which is fine, if it’s good, but another story altogether if it turns out to be bad.

Or, as is the case with some of these people, just plain weird.

These 18 people dated that first person for a long time, and they’re here to tell you what came as a shock when they first got into a relationship with someone knew.

18. Too many guys think foreplay all happens in the bed.

Not every guy wants to throw on Motown and slow dance with you. Some of them don’t even care to touch you.

I miss the slow dances.

17. Not all expectations are bad ones.

I see so much horrible things on here, mine is quite tame but here goes.

My first boyfriend would always leave me small presents or notes underneath my pillow if I had to get up earlier than he did. He was quite romantic and told me I love you quite a lot.

When I got a new boyfriend I caught myself looking underneath my pillow for at least a month/2 months in, just out of habit.

16. You can’t make anyone else happy.

My ex put her happiness on me making it my responsibility.

Would demand I stay around and cut my work hours back and then be upset when we wouldn’t have money to go out. Every time I would try and leave I was coerced with sex to stay, because I was young and stupid. After 8 years I had enough I moved 5 states away.

Had a chain of bad relationships that ended, took some time to work on myself and I’m now engaged to an amazing woman I can communicate with share feelings about issues and who values a healthy relationship.

15. The grass is never actually greener unless you water it.

That you should be happy together now, and not constantly waiting for some vaguely defined future where everything’s settled down.

14. I guess it’s how crappy men are.

Psychological abuse.

I have a physical reaction now when my current partners are nice to me when I do something he would have berated me for hours and locked me in my room for. Like, I get a panic attack because my partners are nice to me when I drop a glass, or got laid off, or forgot to unload the dishwasher. And then they don’t bring it up every time they’re irritated with me. My ex was still yelling at me 14 years later for shit I did when we first started dating – shit like I forgot to pick up his laundry from the floor or bought the wrong brand of bacon. At the end there, the lectures lasted hours as he recounted 14 years of offenses.

My current partners? They don’t throw shit in my face that I did the day before. The dissonance is crazy.

I knew the other abuse wasn’t normal, but my step dad is the same way with my mom, so I had no idea, I just thought it’s how men are.

13. Those are both things I’m happy he/she figured out.

Daily binge drinking until I realized a) I’m an alcoholic and b) hetero relationships don’t work when one partner tries to drink the gay away

Only took me 9 years but I got there eventually

12. Not everyone’s love language is physical touch.

That some girls, in a relationship, don’t like to kiss as often as others.

I’m just talking about pecks when I/gf gets home etc.

I always enjoyed a hello kiss but I guess some girls don’t?

11. Was he…drunk?

Not me but the girl I’m currently dating said that her first long-term boyfriend would stare at himself in the bathroom for an hour or so before going to bed each night.

10. I’m emotionally spent just reading this.

being cowed into an “open arrangement” = normal.

Him introducing me to “friends” while hanging out or going to parties and then him telling me later in the evening after the ice had broken that they were actually the girl(s) he was fucking. Capitulating to his insistence that we continue to hang out even though I was uncomfortable with knowing this new information. = Normal.

Him making unwelcome and uncomfortable comments to other women I was friends with in front of me to attempt to orchestrate threesomes that I was not ok with.= Normal

If you love me, you’ll chase after me = Normal

If you love me you’ll leave face time up at all times so I can see whats going on in your dorm = Normal

If you love me you will not show any sad or mad emotion because it ruins my mood = Normal.

9. Well that made me giggle.

I thought most guys liked having their nipples played with because my first ex did. My second boyfriend was so confused when i started licking his tiddy lmao

8. If it’s the right person, the work is always worth it.

People’s love languages are all different. It’s especially jarring when you have a lot of experience doing things a certain way, and then finding out that isn’t what somebody else needs. It can take some work to figure out what’s inherent to yourself and what was learned from your partner.

7. Everyone’s libido is different so she probably wasn’t trolling you.

She made me believe the old TV tropes of women NEVER wanting sex. I had to work my ass off to get her to give me some action.

The next girl I had was just fucking amazed that I didn’t just ask for it when I wanted it. The bewildered look on her face when she finally asked “You realize I’m horny too right?”

6. When they can make you believe anything they want.

My ex basically taught me that it wasn’t okay for me to be upset about things. Every time I would get my feelings hurt (even when I was upset about something completely unrelated to him) it was somehow flipped around so I ended up reassuring and comforting him. That shit really messed me up, and I basically had to relearn how to be vulnerable with my SO. He also had a very solid plan of how he expected me to live my life, basically his main goal for me was to have kids and be a good housewife. Yikes.

On the bright side, nowadays I’m happily engaged and my fiance treats me with so much love and respect. He’s supportive of my dreams and we are able to lean on each other in times of hardship.

5. What a fantastic moment.

I texted my then new girlfriend about where I was and who I was with about every 30 minutes.

After the 3rd time, she told me that she didn’t need to get updates on what I was doing, and to just let her know when I got home safe. I remember feeling almost a physical weight being lifted off my chest because I didn’t have to worry about my girlfriend freaking out if I didn’t update her.

I learned what trust felt like that night.

4. I know this isn’t funny, but maybe it will be someday.

That every time was essentially a quickie.

Almost a whole decade of nothing but 5 thrusts and then blast off.

After that relationship ended I felt like Jasmine on a magic carpet ride….a whole new world.

3. Relationships are hard, but not every day.

This is morbid but I thought it was normal to argue every day. I thought ‘all couples have their bickering’ and it was just a regular thing.

I was astounded when I went into my next relationship and actually got on with the guy and went weeks and weeks without having any issues. It always felt like the bubble was going to burst. Goes to show – don’t stay in a relationship just because you’ve already invested a tonne of time. You get one life, spend it with someone who makes you laugh every day.

2. This sounds like it’s going to work out.

It wasn’t super long term, only about a year but when you’re in high school that’s fairly long term.

My ex was a very clingy dude, sweet but would follow me around every social gathering and get jealous of me spending time with my friends. When I started dating the guy who is now my husband I remember looking around at a party early on of mostly my friends that he hadn’t met before and I couldn’t find him. I asked someone where he was and he was out by the fire with a group of people chatting and hanging out.

I was astonished that we could just go our separate ways in a social setting and that was totally fine, we didn’t have to be attached at the hip the whole time.

1. This is so depressing.

Porn is not a documentary.

Being used as a sex doll, contorted into uncomfortable positions, and pounded until you bleed, can’t stand up, or just break down crying from the pain isn’t normal, nor is anal sex a necessity. We were both virgins and he had major porn brain.

I thought I was bad at sex and would never be able to have a positive experience with intimacy until I finally left him and was with my second boyfriend.

I’m ok now, but wow was that a horrible person to lose my virginity to.

I think stuff like this is just plain fascinating!

Which of these surprised you the most? Could you add something to the list? Tell us what it would be in the comments!

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Is Sex With People You Don’t Live With Now Illegal in the United Kingdom?

Obviously, 2020 has been an absolutely wild ride so far.

Yet, even in a year when headlines routinely outshine the most bizarre imaginations, some things still manage to be surprising. Such as the various news outlets this month which have been reporting that sex is now largely illegal in the UK. Or, more specifically, sex with people you don’t already live with. So what’s going on here?

Let’s take a closer look.

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The motivation

When you hear about a law like this, your mind might leap to antiquated, prudish, Puritanical motives surrounding sexuality, like how some U.S. states still technically have statues outlawing “sodomy.”

But that’s not what we’re looking at here.

In fact, the sex aspect is sort of incidental; collateral damage taken as a part of trying to repair a larger problem.

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It’s about the virus

Like pretty much the entire world, the UK has implemented lockdown restrictions this year to slow the spread of disease.

The things that are officially off limits by law (for now) are indoor gatherings, which, as Mashable reports, are defined as:

“when two or more people are present together in the same place in order to engage in any form of social interaction with each other, or to undertake any other activity with each other.”

Obviously, if you can’t go over to someone’s house to hang out, you can’t go over to have sex. At least, not without risking a fine.

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Is this new?

Sort of.

The main difference with the legislation that went into effect at the start of June is that before, the “guest” would be in trouble, but now, both/all parties involved could face consequences.

The main gist of the “stay the hell at home” guidelines really haven’t changed much, and in fact have generally loosened as the year has gone on.

Is there any way around this?

There are, of course, various exceptions to the lockdown rules, though certainly none of them are designed to give you an excuse to go get your freak on.

Social gatherings are still allowed in outdoor spaces, though outdoor/public sex is and always has been illegal and would likely get you into a whole lot more trouble than a simple lockdown violation, so no loophole there either.

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What happens to people who break this law?

Not much.

The default fine is £100 (about $123), which for most people is enough to sting but not enough to mess up your life. As with everywhere else, authorities in the UK really do not have the interest in nor the resources for running around punishing every last lockdown violation; the point of the law is get enough people to behave responsibly so that the virus can remain at least relatively under control.

For some, that may mean some more lonely nights.

What do you think of all this?

Let us know in the comments.

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People Share Their Really Bad “Nice Guy” Dating Stories

“Nice guy” is a very loaded phrase. As in, “girls don’t like nice guys like me!!” It’s a pretty juvenile perspective that seems predicated on the idea that if a man does enough nice things for a woman, she owes him some kind of affection. It’s a huge red flag most would run away from, and for good reason, as demonstrated by this huge Reddit thread. The whole thing kicked off with user targetgoldengoose taking to r/AskReddit to say:

Has anyone ever given a "nice guy" a chance after they’ve thrown a tantrum because you didn’t let them treat you like a queen? And if you did, how did it work out? from AskReddit

Thousands of responses came in. Spoiler alert: they were not great.

1. There’s so much fragility in these stories.

I finally allowed him to take me on a date to breakfast. Figured midday would be ideal to meet up in public.

I offended him immediately when I spoke to the waitress. I said, “We have two” when she asked how many we had. He insisted that she was asking him, not me, and I emasculated him in public. I laughed it off as a joke. I grew up with all brothers. Surely, he was trying to be funny.

We sat down. The waitress asked for our order. I gave her mine. He groaned and asked her to come back in a second. He told me proper protocol was for me to discuss what I wanted to eat with him, allow him to make the decision, and he was supposed to relay that to the waitress – not me!

I told him he was crazy and left. Blocked his number. Ghosted completely.

– AndThenThereIsJess

2. If your personality is based on knocking others down, you’re probably not doing great.

My wife did while she was in college.

He had constant low self esteem which annoyed her, he also loved making fun of other people. Sounds like he was just a toxic guy.

When she broke up with him he wrote a suicide note naming her as the reason and showed up on campus with a gun.

Fortunately nothing happened. He got some therapy and wasn’t allowed back at the school.

– slin25

3. The ego is off the charts.

A girlfriend told me that when she was still new to dating, she gave a nice guy a shot. They were in different states and after weeks of “owing him” a sexy picture or video she agreed to FaceTime him with a wink wink agreement that things might get steamy.

The day comes and this 300lb unwashed dude called her (190lb, 5’6) “nice, but bigger than he liked” and suggested she start working out. He then pushed for an in-person visit near him so that he could show her the wonders of carnal things.

She ghosted him shortly after that.

– milkeymikey

4. Giving endless gifts can be a bit much.

My sister did… She is a hairstylist and one of her clients was very aggressive about asking her out. He repeatedly bought flowers, concert tickets, and other gifts which he brought to her at work, and she said no each time because he seemed a little off.

He got in a car accident and was really badly injured, and she felt sorry for him so she went out with him finally. They dated a few months before breaking up, I don’t know the exact reason why. But after that he started stalking her.

It’s been over 5 years since then and he is still keeping tabs on her. She’s reported him to the police multiple times, has a restraining order, and has blocked him on FB/everywhere else, but every few months he finds a way to contact her.

So if you get weird vibes from someone, don’t give them a chance or you might end up with a lifelong stalker like my sister has.

– Isaac_The_Khajiit

5. Careful of those who always play the victim.

I dated one for 2 years. He seemed nice and was happy when I first started dating him cause girls “didn’t give him a chance due to his looks’. (He was super nerdy, I was 16 and he was 19.) He was very needy and always demanded we do what he wanted. I missed out on a lot of things, including missing out going to see Phantom of the Opera with his mom, because he didn’t want to go and would get sick at the last minute.

When I lost my virginity to him, he said I basically raped him because he didn’t realize he wasn’t ready for something like that till after we had sex. About a year and a half into our relationship he got religious. So then, whenever we had sex, he would want is to pray for forgiveness afterwards. But if I refused sex, I was a cold bitch.

– preyingmantid

6. One recurring element in these stories is how controlling these guys are.

Yes. The tantrums continued throughout the relationship. He was very controlling. If I was out with friends he would be upset that I was having fun without him.

He ended up cheating on me and dumping me only to beg me back. He semi staked me for a couple of years.

Had an online blog about what I did each day and tried to befriend my exes

– Lrad5007

7. Reverence becomes control when you take away someone’s agency.

I was once in a similar situation. I dated a sweet guy. But honestly, “sweet” is subjective. He was a gentleman, but he INSISTED on ALWAYS opening the car door for me (he literally would not let me touch the car handle, like at all), letting me eat first ALWAYS (instead of both at the same time cause honestly it’s not a biggie for me), commented that I should never cut my hair, etc…

I felt like I was with a man from the 50s. It was draining to be treated “like a queen” instead of an equal. Other than that, he was okay.

Anyways, when I broke up with him, I felt like he didn’t want to let me go. Like I had to explain over and over again that I wasn’t feeling it and that he deserved someone that would feel the same way about him.

He hung up the phone with, “you don’t know what you missed out on.”

… Mmmm… Okay, I guess…

– 100_night_sky_

8. Hopefully, we learn these lessons early.

Way too many times in college. I had guys in the “friend zone” who I decided to give a chance because I was stupid and I felt sorry for them

I last straw was when a guy took me shopping. I said “yes” in lonely desperation on a Friday night, this was a Saturday afternoon.

After every store I went into he would either criticize me for not wanting him to buy me anything (I’m not much of a shopper anyways) or ask me for sex because he bought me a used videogame I wanted.

Never again. There’s a good reason incels are incels

– MinMaxMarissa

9. Breaking relationships down to a transaction is dangerous.

Yes. It worked out that he also felt entitled to other things and felt like “no” wasn’t an acceptable answer for things like sex when he “did so much for me.”

– ApricityAmends

10. “Chivalry” is often used as a mask for being a chauvinist.

I was celebrating my last day in a city I had lived in for four years and had invited a bunch of friends out for a night on the town.

And one of these “friends” was a self proclaimed chauvinist who insisted to walk on the outside of the sidewalk. So I thought it was uncomfortable that he kept on switching to the outside as I didn’t feel I wanted that treatment. There are no horse carriages that splash shit on people anymore, I don’t need a walking feces shield, thanks. But he basically ignored my lack of comfort with that and continued to explain that it’s his duty to do that.

He ended up eventually full out yelling at me and I cried and left. That was my own night to hang with people before departing.

– queendorkus

11. Here’s a gender-reversed version of the story.

I had an experience with a ‘nice girl.’ Red flags everywhere, but I have it a shot. Extremely bad situation. It began with her moving into my place without asking within the first 2 weeks, thinking it would be a ‘surprise that I would/should love.’

She didn’t work, but expected me to make all the money AND also do every single chore since it was “my apartment.” It was only “our apartment” when she wanted to decorate something her way or change my stuff around. She had tantrums about everything possible, and if nothing was wrong she’d make something up to lose her mind about.

She also hit me with the “why don’t more guys just want someone who will love them unconditionally?” The irony of that escaped her. Men should want crazy girls because they’re crazy because they love you.

Yeah, fuck that.

– StolenCamaro

12. It sucks to feel like you’re trapped in these things.

I dated a nice guy for 7 months after he cried and begged. He was a ‘friend’ and he made me laugh so I figured ‘why not’.

It was the longest 7 months of my life. He didn’t let me have friends. He didn’t want me to get a job (he said I’d fuck the customers), he cried all the time (especially when he suspected that I loved my sisters more than him). He ended up cheating on me by writing love songs/poems to girls online. I was so happy he did that cause I thought I had to wait until ‘he did something’ to warrant breaking up. Even when I confronted him, he insisted we just go on a break.

Yeah that was the fucking worst

– ToastedMaple

13. Insecurity can get toxic real quick.

Constantly got accused of cheating because I would fall asleep talking to him (you didn’t fall asleep, you went to a party and fucked around).

Let’s see- got called names, etc. And guilt-tripped into staying with him until I finally put my foot down. Stopped staying at his house and fastened to his hip.

And one of my other ex’s always played “nice guy” until I responded with ‘I don’t know’ when he asked when we could hang out and then he replied with “You are ugly anyway”.

Had a good laugh out of that one

– ezmayalice

14. Overall, the posts were not encouraging.

Checks for stories where it worked out well.

*crickets***

– christophersonne

15. But hopefully, people can learn, and change.

I was the ‘nice guy’ who got turned down for a second date. I said the same bullshit that any ‘nice guy’ says when that happens, ie) all women are the same, say they want nice guys, only date assholes, etc.

She said ‘Well, fine, let’s have that second date but doesn’t it make you feel weird to have to convince someone to date you? Don’t you want someone who wants to be with you?’

Me: …

Changed absolutely everything about dating for me.

– WackyNephews

If you find yourself cringing from recognizing any of the behaviors described in this story as the sort of thing you’ve done, don’t give up. Recognize, evolve. Don’t be that “nice” guy.

Have you had experiences with this sort of thing?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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People Share Their Really Bad “Nice Guy” Dating Stories

“Nice guy” is a very loaded phrase. As in, “girls don’t like nice guys like me!!” It’s a pretty juvenile perspective that seems predicated on the idea that if a man does enough nice things for a woman, she owes him some kind of affection. It’s a huge red flag most would run away from, and for good reason, as demonstrated by this huge Reddit thread. The whole thing kicked off with user targetgoldengoose taking to r/AskReddit to say:

Has anyone ever given a "nice guy" a chance after they’ve thrown a tantrum because you didn’t let them treat you like a queen? And if you did, how did it work out? from AskReddit

Thousands of responses came in. Spoiler alert: they were not great.

1. There’s so much fragility in these stories.

I finally allowed him to take me on a date to breakfast. Figured midday would be ideal to meet up in public.

I offended him immediately when I spoke to the waitress. I said, “We have two” when she asked how many we had. He insisted that she was asking him, not me, and I emasculated him in public. I laughed it off as a joke. I grew up with all brothers. Surely, he was trying to be funny.

We sat down. The waitress asked for our order. I gave her mine. He groaned and asked her to come back in a second. He told me proper protocol was for me to discuss what I wanted to eat with him, allow him to make the decision, and he was supposed to relay that to the waitress – not me!

I told him he was crazy and left. Blocked his number. Ghosted completely.

– AndThenThereIsJess

2. If your personality is based on knocking others down, you’re probably not doing great.

My wife did while she was in college.

He had constant low self esteem which annoyed her, he also loved making fun of other people. Sounds like he was just a toxic guy.

When she broke up with him he wrote a suicide note naming her as the reason and showed up on campus with a gun.

Fortunately nothing happened. He got some therapy and wasn’t allowed back at the school.

– slin25

3. The ego is off the charts.

A girlfriend told me that when she was still new to dating, she gave a nice guy a shot. They were in different states and after weeks of “owing him” a sexy picture or video she agreed to FaceTime him with a wink wink agreement that things might get steamy.

The day comes and this 300lb unwashed dude called her (190lb, 5’6) “nice, but bigger than he liked” and suggested she start working out. He then pushed for an in-person visit near him so that he could show her the wonders of carnal things.

She ghosted him shortly after that.

– milkeymikey

4. Giving endless gifts can be a bit much.

My sister did… She is a hairstylist and one of her clients was very aggressive about asking her out. He repeatedly bought flowers, concert tickets, and other gifts which he brought to her at work, and she said no each time because he seemed a little off.

He got in a car accident and was really badly injured, and she felt sorry for him so she went out with him finally. They dated a few months before breaking up, I don’t know the exact reason why. But after that he started stalking her.

It’s been over 5 years since then and he is still keeping tabs on her. She’s reported him to the police multiple times, has a restraining order, and has blocked him on FB/everywhere else, but every few months he finds a way to contact her.

So if you get weird vibes from someone, don’t give them a chance or you might end up with a lifelong stalker like my sister has.

– Isaac_The_Khajiit

5. Careful of those who always play the victim.

I dated one for 2 years. He seemed nice and was happy when I first started dating him cause girls “didn’t give him a chance due to his looks’. (He was super nerdy, I was 16 and he was 19.) He was very needy and always demanded we do what he wanted. I missed out on a lot of things, including missing out going to see Phantom of the Opera with his mom, because he didn’t want to go and would get sick at the last minute.

When I lost my virginity to him, he said I basically raped him because he didn’t realize he wasn’t ready for something like that till after we had sex. About a year and a half into our relationship he got religious. So then, whenever we had sex, he would want is to pray for forgiveness afterwards. But if I refused sex, I was a cold bitch.

– preyingmantid

6. One recurring element in these stories is how controlling these guys are.

Yes. The tantrums continued throughout the relationship. He was very controlling. If I was out with friends he would be upset that I was having fun without him.

He ended up cheating on me and dumping me only to beg me back. He semi staked me for a couple of years.

Had an online blog about what I did each day and tried to befriend my exes

– Lrad5007

7. Reverence becomes control when you take away someone’s agency.

I was once in a similar situation. I dated a sweet guy. But honestly, “sweet” is subjective. He was a gentleman, but he INSISTED on ALWAYS opening the car door for me (he literally would not let me touch the car handle, like at all), letting me eat first ALWAYS (instead of both at the same time cause honestly it’s not a biggie for me), commented that I should never cut my hair, etc…

I felt like I was with a man from the 50s. It was draining to be treated “like a queen” instead of an equal. Other than that, he was okay.

Anyways, when I broke up with him, I felt like he didn’t want to let me go. Like I had to explain over and over again that I wasn’t feeling it and that he deserved someone that would feel the same way about him.

He hung up the phone with, “you don’t know what you missed out on.”

… Mmmm… Okay, I guess…

– 100_night_sky_

8. Hopefully, we learn these lessons early.

Way too many times in college. I had guys in the “friend zone” who I decided to give a chance because I was stupid and I felt sorry for them

I last straw was when a guy took me shopping. I said “yes” in lonely desperation on a Friday night, this was a Saturday afternoon.

After every store I went into he would either criticize me for not wanting him to buy me anything (I’m not much of a shopper anyways) or ask me for sex because he bought me a used videogame I wanted.

Never again. There’s a good reason incels are incels

– MinMaxMarissa

9. Breaking relationships down to a transaction is dangerous.

Yes. It worked out that he also felt entitled to other things and felt like “no” wasn’t an acceptable answer for things like sex when he “did so much for me.”

– ApricityAmends

10. “Chivalry” is often used as a mask for being a chauvinist.

I was celebrating my last day in a city I had lived in for four years and had invited a bunch of friends out for a night on the town.

And one of these “friends” was a self proclaimed chauvinist who insisted to walk on the outside of the sidewalk. So I thought it was uncomfortable that he kept on switching to the outside as I didn’t feel I wanted that treatment. There are no horse carriages that splash shit on people anymore, I don’t need a walking feces shield, thanks. But he basically ignored my lack of comfort with that and continued to explain that it’s his duty to do that.

He ended up eventually full out yelling at me and I cried and left. That was my own night to hang with people before departing.

– queendorkus

11. Here’s a gender-reversed version of the story.

I had an experience with a ‘nice girl.’ Red flags everywhere, but I have it a shot. Extremely bad situation. It began with her moving into my place without asking within the first 2 weeks, thinking it would be a ‘surprise that I would/should love.’

She didn’t work, but expected me to make all the money AND also do every single chore since it was “my apartment.” It was only “our apartment” when she wanted to decorate something her way or change my stuff around. She had tantrums about everything possible, and if nothing was wrong she’d make something up to lose her mind about.

She also hit me with the “why don’t more guys just want someone who will love them unconditionally?” The irony of that escaped her. Men should want crazy girls because they’re crazy because they love you.

Yeah, fuck that.

– StolenCamaro

12. It sucks to feel like you’re trapped in these things.

I dated a nice guy for 7 months after he cried and begged. He was a ‘friend’ and he made me laugh so I figured ‘why not’.

It was the longest 7 months of my life. He didn’t let me have friends. He didn’t want me to get a job (he said I’d fuck the customers), he cried all the time (especially when he suspected that I loved my sisters more than him). He ended up cheating on me by writing love songs/poems to girls online. I was so happy he did that cause I thought I had to wait until ‘he did something’ to warrant breaking up. Even when I confronted him, he insisted we just go on a break.

Yeah that was the fucking worst

– ToastedMaple

13. Insecurity can get toxic real quick.

Constantly got accused of cheating because I would fall asleep talking to him (you didn’t fall asleep, you went to a party and fucked around).

Let’s see- got called names, etc. And guilt-tripped into staying with him until I finally put my foot down. Stopped staying at his house and fastened to his hip.

And one of my other ex’s always played “nice guy” until I responded with ‘I don’t know’ when he asked when we could hang out and then he replied with “You are ugly anyway”.

Had a good laugh out of that one

– ezmayalice

14. Overall, the posts were not encouraging.

Checks for stories where it worked out well.

*crickets***

– christophersonne

15. But hopefully, people can learn, and change.

I was the ‘nice guy’ who got turned down for a second date. I said the same bullshit that any ‘nice guy’ says when that happens, ie) all women are the same, say they want nice guys, only date assholes, etc.

She said ‘Well, fine, let’s have that second date but doesn’t it make you feel weird to have to convince someone to date you? Don’t you want someone who wants to be with you?’

Me: …

Changed absolutely everything about dating for me.

– WackyNephews

If you find yourself cringing from recognizing any of the behaviors described in this story as the sort of thing you’ve done, don’t give up. Recognize, evolve. Don’t be that “nice” guy.

Have you had experiences with this sort of thing?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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Women Who Dated Older Guys as Teens Talk About Their Experiences

We’re at a point where society is coming to grips with some uncomfortable truths, especially when it comes to predatory men and not allowing their behavior to continue on unexcused or unacknowledged. It’s important that these things no longer be kept in darkness, even though it’s not a lot of fun to dredge up.

One such conversation took place on r/AskReddit when user pizzaroll94 posed this question:

Women who “dated” older men as teenagers that now realize they were predators, what’s your story? from AskReddit

Sadly, this is an all-too-common tale, and well over ten thousand comments quickly filled the thread.

Here are just a few of the tales of red flags and other behavior that needs brought to light.

1. So many young women find themselves in way over their heads.

I was 15 and definitely didn’t understand A THING about love or danger, I found out that he was married and had a child because he literally disappeared and I was trying to find out what happened.

– chickenwing-coffee

2. Some got out before major damage was done.

I’ll put it my experience in here while I’m at it. I was 14, he was 21 and I thought it was cool that he had a car and could buy alcohol.

Luckily I didn’t interact with this person for more than a few months.

– pizzaroll94

3. Things that are clear in retrospect aren’t always evident in the moment.

I was 15 with a 21 year old. He hung around youth group and made all us younger girls feel special with his attention. I was shy and quiet, didn’t stand out much, but obviously wanted the special attention that all the prettier, peppier girls got. He wasn’t interested until he found out my mom worked nights and I was home alone.

We ended up getting into a pretty heated argument and split when, two weeks in, I still hadn’t let him come over because I was terrified of what my mom would do if she knew I’d had ANYONE over while she was gone.

– NurseNotJoy

4. “Eventually I realized it was strange.”

I was 11 and he was 23.

We didn’t date (he had a girlfriend) but he would sext me and send me nudes. Eventually I realized it was strange and blocked him.

Didn’t tell anyone about it. I sometimes wonder if it’s impacted me more than I would care to admit.

– goldenphoenix16

5. When you’re young enough, it’s hard to know how or why you’re being manipulated.

My mother found older boys to introduce me to when I was 15/16. She would take me to coffee shops or sneak me into bars and charm her way with men in their 20s only to introduce them to me. I would date them, and she would get chores done around the house that she needed. Painted kitchen, fixed cabinets, roof work, stuff like that. I remember my best friends mom trying to warn me and explain to me why it was wrong of my mother to let her 15 year old date 25 year olds, but I just thought I was really cool.

It wasnt until one of them found me online and reached out a few years ago, that I realized what she’d actually been doing all that time.

And of course, none of these guys knew what the fuck they were doing so the house looked like shit anyways.

– operachick209

6. There are too many tales like this coming out of schools.

He was my guidance counselor.

I didn’t realize how creepy he was until he proposed.

The whole thing was fucked.

– z0mbiegrl

7. It’s always heartwarming to know that good parents are out there.

My first boyfriend- I was barely 15, he was 21. Worked in a local shop and all the girls at my school liked him so came as a bit of a surprise when the biggest dork ever (me) somehow landed him and not any of the popular girls.

We dated for maybe 4 months, turned out he was sleeping with 3 girls in my year which I found confusing because I’d begged him to take my virginity to no avail. Always found that really weird and insulting that he never even wanted to sleep with me.

Plot twist: my mum had stormed into the shop when we first started dating and told him, ‘if you take my daughter’s virginity, I will kill you with my bare hands.’

God bless my mum.

– bbbccccddddd

8. If you don’t know you’re dating someone too young…why?

I was 14 and dated a 25 year old cop. He never asked my age and I never told.

One day were chatting on phone and I told him that I got some homework to do and I’ll call back later. He said freshmen year of college getting to ya huh? I said, college? I’m in high school. Dead silence, then he asked how old I was and I said 14.

He freaked out and was saying I’m gonna go to jail for this and I’m gonna lose my job. He said I can’t see you again and please don’t tell anyone. I said yeah of course.

I got why he was scared and I never saw him again and never told.

– geri73

9. “You’re mature for your age” doesn’t discount your age.

I was 15 and met a 30 year old who was an older brother of a boy I met in group therapy. He used to tell me how complicated and mature I was (lol so cliché).

I’m now 24 and seeing or interacting with anyone who is 15 makes me sick. I felt so old then but it’s insane now how obvious to me that people that age are children.

– Nini423

10. It’s a wonder some of these guys aren’t in prison.

I dated/had sex with a 28 year old when I was 13 and thought it was perfectly normal. He always complimented me, bought me stuff, and drove me places when I needed a ride. Looking back now I can’t believe I didn’t realize how fucked up that was.

To this day he can’t find someone to date that’s his age (I’m 24 now) from what I heard from rumors.

– katdunks

11. “When I was finally old enough to date him, I no longer wanted to.”

It honestly never clicked for me until I was MUCH older myself. I just thought I was super mature and that’s why it wasn’t weird that I was 14 with a 19 year old boyfriend. It was a super toxic relationship, he cheated on me, stole from me, lied to me and lied about me so much.

He pretty much only came around when he wanted sex and would tell me whatever he thought I needed to hear to keep stringing me along. In my naïveté, I thought this was just how “grownup” relationships were.

So I stayed, until I finally got fed up at 18 years old! Isn’t it funny that when I was finally old enough to date him, I no longer wanted to???

– RAVENMADSAINTSFAN

12. It’s amazing how far perspectives can shift.

My best friend in high school dated a teacher and the school found out somehow.

I don’t know if she is thinks of it like this though.

I for sure do.

– jennybgenius16

13. For some, it’s about power and intimidation.

I dated an older woman when I was a teen. She was in her mid 20’s, I was still a minor. When we broke up, she told me she’d been stopping her friends from coming after me, but now she wasn’t going to stop them anymore.

She proceeded to make my life hell, and even faked her own death to make me look bad. She stalked me online for a while after that. I don’t know if she still is, but I can’t deny the possibility.

I don’t feel safe. Don’t know if I ever will.

– legaladult

14. Her parents must have felt awful about this.

I was 13 and my parents had a friend who was 24 that started hanging around the house a lot. I developed a big crush on him and ended up losing my virginity to him.

I thought we were in love and going to get married. My parents found out and I never saw him again.

Didn’t realize how creepy it was until I had my own kids.

– arsenicookie

15. The whole thread is pretty sobering.

As a father, the comments scare the shit out of me.

– ForeignFlash

Remember, if you see situations like this, call them out. There’s nothing open-minded about predatory behavior, it’s just toxic, and it should be stopped.

Do you have any experiences like this?

Share them in the comments if you’re comfortable.

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Women Who Dated Older Guys as Teens Talk About Their Experiences

We’re at a point where society is coming to grips with some uncomfortable truths, especially when it comes to predatory men and not allowing their behavior to continue on unexcused or unacknowledged. It’s important that these things no longer be kept in darkness, even though it’s not a lot of fun to dredge up.

One such conversation took place on r/AskReddit when user pizzaroll94 posed this question:

Women who “dated” older men as teenagers that now realize they were predators, what’s your story? from AskReddit

Sadly, this is an all-too-common tale, and well over ten thousand comments quickly filled the thread.

Here are just a few of the tales of red flags and other behavior that needs brought to light.

1. So many young women find themselves in way over their heads.

I was 15 and definitely didn’t understand A THING about love or danger, I found out that he was married and had a child because he literally disappeared and I was trying to find out what happened.

– chickenwing-coffee

2. Some got out before major damage was done.

I’ll put it my experience in here while I’m at it. I was 14, he was 21 and I thought it was cool that he had a car and could buy alcohol.

Luckily I didn’t interact with this person for more than a few months.

– pizzaroll94

3. Things that are clear in retrospect aren’t always evident in the moment.

I was 15 with a 21 year old. He hung around youth group and made all us younger girls feel special with his attention. I was shy and quiet, didn’t stand out much, but obviously wanted the special attention that all the prettier, peppier girls got. He wasn’t interested until he found out my mom worked nights and I was home alone.

We ended up getting into a pretty heated argument and split when, two weeks in, I still hadn’t let him come over because I was terrified of what my mom would do if she knew I’d had ANYONE over while she was gone.

– NurseNotJoy

4. “Eventually I realized it was strange.”

I was 11 and he was 23.

We didn’t date (he had a girlfriend) but he would sext me and send me nudes. Eventually I realized it was strange and blocked him.

Didn’t tell anyone about it. I sometimes wonder if it’s impacted me more than I would care to admit.

– goldenphoenix16

5. When you’re young enough, it’s hard to know how or why you’re being manipulated.

My mother found older boys to introduce me to when I was 15/16. She would take me to coffee shops or sneak me into bars and charm her way with men in their 20s only to introduce them to me. I would date them, and she would get chores done around the house that she needed. Painted kitchen, fixed cabinets, roof work, stuff like that. I remember my best friends mom trying to warn me and explain to me why it was wrong of my mother to let her 15 year old date 25 year olds, but I just thought I was really cool.

It wasnt until one of them found me online and reached out a few years ago, that I realized what she’d actually been doing all that time.

And of course, none of these guys knew what the fuck they were doing so the house looked like shit anyways.

– operachick209

6. There are too many tales like this coming out of schools.

He was my guidance counselor.

I didn’t realize how creepy he was until he proposed.

The whole thing was fucked.

– z0mbiegrl

7. It’s always heartwarming to know that good parents are out there.

My first boyfriend- I was barely 15, he was 21. Worked in a local shop and all the girls at my school liked him so came as a bit of a surprise when the biggest dork ever (me) somehow landed him and not any of the popular girls.

We dated for maybe 4 months, turned out he was sleeping with 3 girls in my year which I found confusing because I’d begged him to take my virginity to no avail. Always found that really weird and insulting that he never even wanted to sleep with me.

Plot twist: my mum had stormed into the shop when we first started dating and told him, ‘if you take my daughter’s virginity, I will kill you with my bare hands.’

God bless my mum.

– bbbccccddddd

8. If you don’t know you’re dating someone too young…why?

I was 14 and dated a 25 year old cop. He never asked my age and I never told.

One day were chatting on phone and I told him that I got some homework to do and I’ll call back later. He said freshmen year of college getting to ya huh? I said, college? I’m in high school. Dead silence, then he asked how old I was and I said 14.

He freaked out and was saying I’m gonna go to jail for this and I’m gonna lose my job. He said I can’t see you again and please don’t tell anyone. I said yeah of course.

I got why he was scared and I never saw him again and never told.

– geri73

9. “You’re mature for your age” doesn’t discount your age.

I was 15 and met a 30 year old who was an older brother of a boy I met in group therapy. He used to tell me how complicated and mature I was (lol so cliché).

I’m now 24 and seeing or interacting with anyone who is 15 makes me sick. I felt so old then but it’s insane now how obvious to me that people that age are children.

– Nini423

10. It’s a wonder some of these guys aren’t in prison.

I dated/had sex with a 28 year old when I was 13 and thought it was perfectly normal. He always complimented me, bought me stuff, and drove me places when I needed a ride. Looking back now I can’t believe I didn’t realize how fucked up that was.

To this day he can’t find someone to date that’s his age (I’m 24 now) from what I heard from rumors.

– katdunks

11. “When I was finally old enough to date him, I no longer wanted to.”

It honestly never clicked for me until I was MUCH older myself. I just thought I was super mature and that’s why it wasn’t weird that I was 14 with a 19 year old boyfriend. It was a super toxic relationship, he cheated on me, stole from me, lied to me and lied about me so much.

He pretty much only came around when he wanted sex and would tell me whatever he thought I needed to hear to keep stringing me along. In my naïveté, I thought this was just how “grownup” relationships were.

So I stayed, until I finally got fed up at 18 years old! Isn’t it funny that when I was finally old enough to date him, I no longer wanted to???

– RAVENMADSAINTSFAN

12. It’s amazing how far perspectives can shift.

My best friend in high school dated a teacher and the school found out somehow.

I don’t know if she is thinks of it like this though.

I for sure do.

– jennybgenius16

13. For some, it’s about power and intimidation.

I dated an older woman when I was a teen. She was in her mid 20’s, I was still a minor. When we broke up, she told me she’d been stopping her friends from coming after me, but now she wasn’t going to stop them anymore.

She proceeded to make my life hell, and even faked her own death to make me look bad. She stalked me online for a while after that. I don’t know if she still is, but I can’t deny the possibility.

I don’t feel safe. Don’t know if I ever will.

– legaladult

14. Her parents must have felt awful about this.

I was 13 and my parents had a friend who was 24 that started hanging around the house a lot. I developed a big crush on him and ended up losing my virginity to him.

I thought we were in love and going to get married. My parents found out and I never saw him again.

Didn’t realize how creepy it was until I had my own kids.

– arsenicookie

15. The whole thread is pretty sobering.

As a father, the comments scare the shit out of me.

– ForeignFlash

Remember, if you see situations like this, call them out. There’s nothing open-minded about predatory behavior, it’s just toxic, and it should be stopped.

Do you have any experiences like this?

Share them in the comments if you’re comfortable.

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Woman Was Mocked for Her Dress on Tinder, So a Fashion Retailer Put Her Picture on Their Site

It’s upsetting how rude people are to strangers online these days. I guess it’s nothing new, but it’s still sad to see how people get cut down when they put themselves out there on social media.

But sometimes, there’s a happy ending to those bad interactions.

Take the case of a young woman named Thea Chippendale. She lives in the UK and, like millions of other people out there, she was on a dating app looking to find a love connection.

Posted by Thea Chippendale on Saturday, 8 December 2018

What she found instead was an incredibly rude insult from a man named George, who said she was “a bit of a joke” and that her dress in her photo on Tinder was “not doing any favours.”

Wow. What a dick.

Chippendale decided to tweet about her interaction with this man and her tweet went viral in a big way.

Well, things took a very interesting turn from there. A huge fashion company called ASOS caught wind of Chippendale’s tweet and they responded to her.

And then things went a step further. Chippendale said, “The CEO of ASOS, Nick Beighton, invited me down to their HQ where him and the amazing ASOS staff gave me a tour of how ASOS works and all the different departments they have. They also gave me a makeover and I got to have a little photoshoot with their photographers – it was an amazing experience.”

Take a look at this! Who do you think got the last laugh here?

We love this story!

Now we want to hear from the readers out there.

What do you think about this story?

Have you ever had someone really insult you or your looks on a dating app or a social media site?

Tell us all about it in the comments.

We look forward to hearing from you!

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People Share Questions You Should Ask Someone When You’re on a First Date

When it comes to first dates, many people could use as much help as possible with breaking the ice.

It’s hard to get to know someone and it can be difficult to know the right questions to ask to keep the conversation (and hopefully the romance) moving along.

Do you want some advice about things to ask on first dates?

Let’s dive into these answers from AskReddit users.

1.  This will tell you a lot about a person.

“What do you do with your shopping cart when finished at the grocery store?”

2. Movie first, THEN dinner.

“I read a LPT earlier today that stated if you’re taking someone on a dinner/movie date, go to the movie first.

That way, at dinner, if the conversation is lacking or having a hard time starting up – you can get it going with talking about the movie. ? “

3. Get this out of the way.

“Vaccinations… safe or harmful?

Earth… round or are you a dumb ass?”

4. Give me the details.

“What kind of music do you listen to?

Might seem basic but this is a great question to ask to get to know someone.

I have noticed however that most people just answer with “anything but country” so you could probably get a more passionate response by asking something along the lines of “What artist(s) are you currently listening to?””

5. For the bookworms.

“If your life were a book what would the title be?”

6. The trifecta.

“Do you like The Office?

Do you like dogs?

Do you have a real personality?”

7. Looking forward.

“What is something you’re looking forward to?

Always gets a good answer, and it’s usually something unexpected.”

8. You’ll get some good insight.

“What would you do if the zombie apocalypse started right now?”

9. What kind of weirdo does this?

“Do you sleep with your socks on?”

10. Just get it out of the way.

“I asked my husband (we’ve been together 27 years), “You aren’t an ax murderer are you?” on our first date.”

11. This is a good one.

“What’s getting you through the week?

You find out what makes them happy and what’s important to them.”

12. Get to the real stuff.

“My favorite was always “what are you passionate about?”

So much better than “what do you do?””

13. I like this.

“When was the last time you felt proud of yourself?”

14. You better be a big reader.

“What are your favorite books?

If you get the impression they don’t read books, run.”

15. Might be interesting…

“What is your mother’s maiden name?

What is your high school mascot?

What is the name of your childhood best friend?”

16. Try these out.

“OK Cupid had a really cool blog about statistics from their huge user base. The three questions they found were best predictors for compatibility:

Do you like scary movies?

Have you ever traveled alone in another country?

Wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and live on a sailboat?

If you agree on those 3, you’re likeliest to succeed.”

17. Straight to the important stuff.

“Are you Introvert or Extrovert?

And how do you rank your mental health level from 1 to 10?”

18. This is usually fun.

“I always like to ask about the worst date they ever had.”

19. Are you an animal lover?

“Do you have any pets?

1 of 3 things will happen:

1: Yes they do, and will talk / show photos of them for ages.

2: they don’t, but then you follow it up with what pets do you want and they will talk for ages.

3: they say no, I’m not really an animal person, in which case you leave them because you don’t need someone like that in your life.”

20. Give up the info.

“What’s your favorite dinner?

What’s in your bucket list?

Are you a dog person or a cat person?”

21. A smart idea.

“How was your latest night out?

IMHO a person who brags about how shitfaced or wasted they become doesn’t make a good impression as a responsible partner.”

22. Okay, that’s just weird.

“Are your fingerprints in the police database?”

“In millimeters, How long are your toenails before you decide to cut them? Do you keep the remains?”

“Do you have any pets you aren’t using anymore?”

“How do you feel about basements?”

“Which bodily fluid do you think has the most pleasant aroma?”

“Which layer of skin do you favor the most?”

“My cat died six years ago…. wanna see?”

Well, what do you think?

Are you going to incorporate any of these into your first-date question arsenal?

Let us know what you think in the comments!

And if you have any suggestions, please pass them along to us!

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These Juggalo Dating Profiles Will Make You Say “Whoop Whoop!”

Juggalos need love, too.

Also, they are very unique human beings.

For those of you who don’t know what a Juggalo is, here’s the definition:

“A Juggalo is a fan of the group Insane Clown Posse or any other Psychopathic Records hip hop group. Juggalos have developed their own idioms, slang, and characteristics.”

They’re a very interesting subculture and you better believe that they’re out there on dating sites looking to find a Juggalo partner for life.

Let’s dig in to these dating profiles and meet these colorful characters.

Whoop whoop!

1. Maybe he’s a catch?

You’ll never know until you give him a shot, ladies.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

2. An open and honest man.

Deal with it.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

3. That’s all you need to know about this guy.

Seems like a decent fella.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

4. Grandma seems happy.

No diseases, please.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

5. The total package.

Take it all in, people.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

6. Trying to read his profile gave me a headache.

But his hair and face paint really seal the deal.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

7. Okay, this one is a little bit…odd…

Any takers out there?

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

8. I get the feeling he enjoys sexual intercourse.

“I’m not currently doing anything with my life.” Amazing.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

9. Read below to see her credentials.

I’d love to introduce her to Mother.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

10. Short and sweet.

We’ve got a sensitive one, here.

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

11. He has lofty goals.

But he’s still livin’ that Juggalo life!

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

12. All dressed up.

Would you like to join him on his typical Friday night?

Photo Credit: OK Cupid

Whoop whoop!

So what did you think of those profiles? Hey, don’t hate the player, hate the game, okay?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

And if you’re a Juggalo, we’d REALLY love to hear from you!

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People Share Questions You Should Ask on a First Date to Get to Know Someone

First dates are always kind of awkward.

You’re kind of uncomfortable, you don’t quite know what to say, and you want to get to know a little bit more about the person besides what they’re going to have for dinner.

Well, you’re in luck!

The truth is we can use all the help we can get going on first dates and here is some advice from people that you might find useful.

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. That’s intriguing.

“What are some things your parents don’t know about you?”

2. Okay…

“Which vegetable offends you the most?”

3. You never know.

“What’s your favorite dinosaur?”

4. Always important.

“Do you have any outstanding warrants?”

5. Maybe you can try these.

“What was your first pet’s name?

What was your second grade teacher’s name?

What was the make and model of your first car?

What is the name of the road you grew up on?

What city were you born in?

Good way to get to know someone.”

6. Some good advice.

“Honestly there is no rule book questions you should really abide to. Just get to talking. Start off with small talk-openers like where did you go to school, where do you work, do you like this and that.

Eventually you’ll get around to talking about hobbies/experiences. You can tater off and then talk about your own experiences and just ping-pong off of each other. Eventually you get a pretty good feel of that person as genuine or fake.

That’s how most conversation starts sounding natural with a good flow.

Of course if you get somebody that sees you, and finds you butt ugly, then you won’t get any responses at all. And any questions you ask would lead to no information about them.”

7. Skip the work talk.

“What do you like doing in your free time?

I never asked about people’s jobs.

I didn’t really care how they got their money, I cared how they got their excitement and passion.”

8. Fighting words.

“Ask them who their favorite muppet is.

If they choose anyone other than Gonzo, explain why they are wrong and then leave.”

9. Let’s get hypothetical.

“Lots of hypothetical situation questions, I find they help you understand how they think and prioritize their lives.

Eg. If you could travel anywhere in the world for w month, all expenses paid, where would you go? What would you do?”

10. This one is crucial.

“Why don’t you put away your phone?”

11. Kind of intense…

“Your parents are about to be executed. You are given a chance to save only one of them. Which one do you choose?

Bonus points if you follow up with what’s your favorite ice cream flavor?”

12. Never heard this one before.

“I don’t know if it’s good for a date but it’s fun to ask strangers, what’s your favorite compliment?

It gives you a lot of information and i think it starts a conversation pretty easily.”

13. The good stuff.

“What’s your favourite random fact?

What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done?

What’s your worst cooking disaster?

What would be the hardest thing for you to live without?”

14. A big one.

“Coke or Pepsi?

Especially if you’re serving them.”

15. Let’s play a game.

“This isn’t so much questions, but a little game you can play that can help break the ice and let you know how well you mesh together.

If you’re at a place like a bar or restaurant look around the room and try to come up with backstories for other people there. It’s can be a lot of fun and takes some of the pressure off, while getting you two talking to each other and getting a feel for each other’s sense of humor/personality.”

16. Cut to the chase.

“Just get it off the table.

Kids or no kids?”

17. This would actually tell you a lot about them.

“I’m stung by a jellyfish, you peeing on me?”

18. Might scare them off.

“If I called you and told you that I killed my neighbor and I need help getting rid of the body, would you:

A. Accept with no questions asked

B. Call the police

C. Start your oven and ask how much they weighed.”

19. The day the world changed.

“Where were you on 9/11?”

20. The nitty-gritty.

“If you had an hour during which any crime was both legal and socially acceptable, what would you do?”

“Are there any social taboos that you feel are a bit ridiculous? Are there any to which you don’t personally adhere?”

“What is the most allegedly unacceptable perspective that you hold?”

21. Just in case…

“What would be your weapon of choice in the apocalypse?”

22. You gotta know that one.

“How likely are you to yell at me in public”

From comedian Sam Morril.”

23. You might bore them to death.

“What’s your favorite pPowerpoint slide transition?”

24. Let’s get weird.

“Open-ended questions that lets them talk about them a bit. Stuff like “what are your political leanings?” “Are you religious?” “What is your stance on the Armenian genocide?””

25. You don’t want to mess that up.

“If their name is an uncommon one, make sure you ask what’s the correct pronunciation.

Literally the first thing I said to my husband on our first date was “hello” followed by a butchered attempt to say his name. He replied “what did you just call me?” and up until that moment, I had never before felt the urge to jump into the nearby creek in mid-February.”

So what do you think?

Would you use any of these questions next time you’re on a first date?

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