Night Owls Talk About the Things They Love About Being Awake All Night

There are two kinds of people out there – people who love to get up early and get things done, and people who love to stay up late, work all night, and let the rest of us have the daylight hours to ourselves.

Well, I guess technically there are three kinds of people, because there are always those who would rather be night folks but are forced by society to operate in daylight hours. Boo for them.

If you’re a day person and wondering what it is that night people love so much about the dark, here are 18 people willing to share their very favorite things.

18. It just smells different.

Night air has a different smell, especially in Spring. Flowers, rain, wet earth… all smell different at night to me.

I feel the same about night winter air, particularly when it’s snowing. Everything is calm and quiet, with a slight glow from lights being reflected between houses and clouds, and the soft sound of snowflakes hitting the ground. I used to stand at my bathroom window for ages in the middle of the night, leaning on the windowsill and breathing in the crisp cold air that just smells like snow (if you know, you know), watching the snow fall, with the occasional snowflake making its way through the screen to hit my face.

Such a sense of peace, it slows down my brain and I can stop thinking for awhile, just enjoy the silence and totally relax. Best way to wind down for a good sleep, nothing can match it. I miss that.

17. It would be easier to work from home in the middle of the night, for sure.

I can do whatever I want without anyone interrupting me.

I wish I lived alone in the middle of nowhere so whatever ruckus I make wouldn’t bother anyone.

I have more energy at night than at daytime.

16. Even some flowers come out to play.

I have flowers that bloom at night, so I love to sit on my back porch in the middle of the night, listen to the crickets chirp, and seeing the moonlight reflect off of my garden. 0

There’s nobody else around, it’s quiet, and it’s the only time I feel at peace.

During the day I feel like I need to be productive, there’s traffic and people and kids playing and tons of stuff to do, but like right now, 1:30am, I can sit on my porch and just be.

15. Which is hard to find these days.

Nobody else is awake. It’s true privacy.

Cruising around town at some odd hour of the night is a serene experience. It’s almost surreal.

I do this pretty often. A lot of late nights at the studio or other places and then I’m on my way home at 2 or 3am, enjoying the peaceful drive.

It’s really something else.

14. The pull of the moon.

The peace and quiet, it’s cooler ( temperature wise ) and I love the moonlight shining in my room.

It’s the peace for me. Nothing is more relaxing than being alone to recharge and just exist. No entertaining or compromising, just you doing you

It’s like the inside version of a breath of fresh air.

I prefer the porous rock to the giant searing ball of hatred in the sky.

13. Peace abounds.

the general lack of people. I work 3rd shift, and unlike my daywalking cohorts, I can listen to a podcast and do paperwork in relative peace because there’s a solid 3 hours in the middle of the night where I am left the heck alone.

I work 1930-0800 with a small crew and can pop in earbuds or whatever. Then on days off, I could be found running on one of the random country roads around my house at 2am but it’s rare anyone is out there.

I usually just run in the moonlight and only turn on my headlamp if a car is coming. I like my solitude.

The pandemic has been just fine on me.

12. Just enjoy the present.

The calmness, the serenity.

The night drive with windows open, no music, just the sound of my tires hitting the ground.

Man i could hear the brakes sound, i could hear the wheel turn.

Night time is like, we forget the problem of the world and just enjoy the present.

11. As long as your neighbors sleep.

It’s so quiet. And peaceful.

It feels like during the day the world is so busy and chaotic. At night it’s all zen.

This is why I want a house… my neighbors in the apartment complex are so damn loud. On one side is a twitch streamer and she’s screaming at her games until 4 or 5am most days. Above me is a couple that works opposite shifts so there’s always someone awake listening to music, vacuuming, doing the dishes, or… moving furniture around I guess, in the middle of the night.

If I leave my bedroom window open for some cool air, I’ll probably end up hearing the couple across the way fighting in their bedroom, which then makes other people’s dogs start barking.

I really miss being able to stay up a bit late to get some peace and quiet. Now I gotta turn on all the fans and a white noise machine to drown everything else out enough to sleep.

10. Unrequited love.

The stars.

I’ve got a big crush on stars.

9. The wildlife is adorbs.

The quiet, the lack of people, the wildlife is more active.

There are possums (Australian possums) living in our roof, and at night they like come out and sit on the verandah railings. I love leaving the curtains open so I can watch them play. They’ve all got names, they’ve got their own personalities and quirks.

There’s a family of wombats living in a burrow under the garden shed, and a couple of wallabies that visit at night. We also get visits from flying foxes, owls, tawny frogmouths.

8. It’s a different world.

The calmness and quietness of the surroundings, especially when places that are usually crowded are completely empty.

7. The nighttime sounds are soothing.

I just love the serene feeling during the night.

The gentle sounds of crickets are calming to the ears.

6. Lots of heaven-gazers, here.

The night sky is a huge sell for me.

Especially storm season. That and less people around

5. It eases the anxiety.

No expectations.

Daytime feels like I’m expected to do productive life things.

Nighttime, all I have to do is be quiet and no one expects anything else from me.

I can knit or read for hours and not feel like I’m “wasting the day.”

4. If people just aren’t your thing.

Day people are all asleep. Stores aren’t crowded. Less traffic.

I always do my grocery shopping late at night, so much more peaceful.

I just turn on my headphones and wander around a close to empty store.

3. There is downtime for everyone.

I think I was always a night person vs a morning person.

But it only got to very much be the case after I started working in high-stress jobs with long hours. Where despite being exhausted, I would still stay up for a few more hours into the night than I should have just to watch TV or read or clean or anything. It was my way of carving out at least a few hours of my day that were entirely mine to control and to do what I wanted to do, even if I knew it would make me miserable in the morning.

(I also know for a lot of people the gym can be that period too, and even though I was obviously under no obligation to go to the gym and always felt better after, it never really felt like “me” time as much as something I still felt like I had to do to stay in shape)

2. Nothing is a waste of time.

You have no obligations and no one expects anything of you.

You can stare at a wall for three hours or count blades of grass on your lawn and you don’t feel like you’re wasting time.

i’ve started doing stretches outside in my yard at 1am and i just love the sound and feel of night— the owls hooting, the coyotes howling, the calm of the wind.

I love the stars and the moonlight, it’s like magic to me for 30 minutes

1. You can just relax.

Does anyone else feel anxious that they need to be doing something productive while the sun is out? At night I feel relaxed. Office is closed. Everyone is asleep. No one is going to bug me, and there’s nothing I can do about particular problems even if I wanted to, so no one is going to mind if I’m just here chilling out doing nothing… right?

Only time I’ve really been able to get work done since the pandemic started is at night. My parents have a dog that barks a lot and even with (cheap) noise cancelling headphones, I can still hear him. Before covid, I could at least go somewhere quieter to study. When he and my parents are asleep, I know he won’t be barking. Of course, I can’t do that if I need to be in a call, so I either need to mute my mic and get flack for not participating much, or let everyone hear him bark constantly.

I can definitely see the appeal, but with kids and school and a job, there are only a lucky few who can pull it off.

Are you a night owl? Early bird? Tell us your favorite part of the day in the comments!

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How Do You Take Selfies When You Feel Awkward About Them? People Share Their Feelings.

Selfies have become ubiquitous, and as someone who grew up in the 1980s and still kind of has a weird relationship with photographs of herself, I’ve gotta say, I don’t hate it. Confidence is beautiful, and being about to see a photo of yourself and not only smile, but want to share it, could never be a bad thing.

That said, it can still be hard for some people to get there – and this guy finds the whole process so awkward he can’t even snap one, never mind sharing them online.

Anybody else feel super cringey when taking selfies and therefore take none? from NoStupidQuestions

He wants to know if he’s not alone, so Reddit’s No Stupid Question forum is the place to be!

15. Is anyone looking?

I always try to hide that I’m doing it, if I do it at all haha.

I took a plant selfie not long ago. I turned beet red in the face when I asked my husband to help me take the photo. I even lashed out at him when he told me how cute that was because I didn’t like that he was “making it a thing”. When I was totally making it a thing….

14. Do it for your mom.

I feel too vain when I take selfies… then end up having like no pictures of myself for my mom.

I’ve had a few girlfriends now that have tried to help me shake my hate. Even after breaking up a few have recommended taking my mom out to different spots (she loved spending time with me more than anything).

When I asked to take pictures with her she was beaming… I’m tearing up just typing this… Actually I just ugly cried for a bit.

I need to tell my mom.

13. Being silly works every time.

The only way I have ever taken the very few selfies I have is if it’s a silly one. That way I feel like “haha see, I’m not taking myself seriously with this”. Feels like it aligns more with who I am.

Social media selfie posts are so prevalent that I was just wondering if there were other people who feel the way I do. Clone #1564 confirmed.

12. Yeah you do.

I am not photogenic so I have never taken a selfie in all of my many years on this earth until last year. I must have been bored or something because I put on makeup which I don’t usually do and took some selfies that included my dogs. I was pleasantly surprised how the photos turned out. I didn’t even really know how to take a selfie.

I posted the pics on Facebook and everyone complimented me on them. The people I have known since high school hadn’t seen me since high school so they really liked my photos. The friends I have made over the years and have never met in person liked my photos as well. In fact, when I said how old I am they couldn’t believe it.

One guy was like, “no way!!!” Yep. I guess I look pretty good for an old lady. Lol.

11. It does take practice.

Yes! I feel like I look awful in any picture, TBH. One eye squinted shut, weird pasted-on smile, awkward posture…like, every single time. Can’t seem to look natural or relaxed in a picture. So I figure if I’m gonna look bad, I may as well be obvious about it and look bad on purpose. I’m not exaggerating when I say that there are more pictures of me with goofy faces than “nice” faces.

Selfies are just…100x worse, for some reason. Take all those issues from above, and then make it look just plain bad. I don’t know why my (very few) selfies have turned out absolutely terrible, but that’s how it is. I’m sure I’m overly-critical of myself, but even putting that aside, I honestly cannot figure out how to get a selfie to turn out ok. So I just don’t do them, except in very rare cases.

10. Also, do it for your kids.

The only reason I can stomach the occasional picture is so my kids know what I looked like back in the day because my parents have hardly any pictures from their youth and It makes it harder to connect… if that makes sense.

9. This makes me sad.

All the time, I never see my pics and think, “hey I look good in this one.” So I assume other people see me the same way and I don’t care to have other people see my flawed face.

Same for me. I can’t stand to look at myself in pictures or videos. For video conferences/Teams meeting, I use my avatar.

But I’m ok with my face in the mirror when I wash up/comb my hair/brush my teeth.

Go figure.

8. Don’t worry about what people think.

You just gotta not care what other people think. I have this problem too.

If I’m feeling particularly confident and attractive, then yeah I kinda wanna post a selfie. Who cares if it’s for attention – it’s human nature to want to attract positive attention sometimes.

So who cares if someone thinks “omg Stacy just wants attention from her selfie” like yeah maybe Stacy is depressed and wants some positive attention who cares?

7. Other people really don’t think that much about you.

You need to realize people don’t care about your appearance. Life’s too short to be afraid of showing your face in social media. I used to be like you until I finally got the courage to use a real pic of me and found out people either will ignore you or type something nice but never will type something mean or rude.

And I am sure you are not ugly but just lack self confidence.

6. Come up with a reason.

I used to as well. But recently I started taking selfies to show off my weird graphic t shirt collection (fish with gun, raccoon with “eat trash hail Satan”, etc.) and honestly having a “reason” for the selfie makes me feel better.

I’m a dancer so most of my pics and videos of me are me dancing and I just want pictures of me doing other things. For myself and for my family.

5. It can depend on who your friends are.

It can also depend how normalized it is in your social circles and social environment. If people around you, your friends and family all did it on a regular basis you’d probably worry less.

I have a mixture of friends. Some take, some don’t.

4. Have a little confidence.

I think it speaks to our lack of ego.

The entire concept of selfies is so self indulgent, I think it’s so weird how often people stare at their own face. Like I couldn’t think of a less interesting picture to look at than one of just somebodies face. But people crave that validation from others so it stuck.

I wish people could be happy on their own.

3. But also, don’t judge others.

Love that for you but it doesn’t mean selfies are inherently bad or egotistical.

People hate themselves daily but when they finally feel good enough to appreciate their appearance, it’s wrong?

If you don’t wanna see selfies on your timeline then dont follow people who take selfies.

You shouldn’t need to invalidate how certain people choose to express their confidence in order to make yourself feel better.

That’s not a lack of ego, it’s just being a jerk.

2. If it makes you happy.

I used to feel that way but then I saw people doing “duck lips” and I tried and each time I ended up laughing , that ended up turning out to produce pictures of me happy and smiling and I started to enjoy seeing those moments.

I’m glad those trends have died, I couldn’t with those faces. Smiling is classic, can’t beat it.

1. OP is definitely not alone.

Me too. I also can’t film myself talking like everyone seems to do these days. I just feel cringy walking and talking to a phone.

Literally started photography because I hated being in photos. If people think you’re good at taking photos they won’t question it when you volunteer to take it instead of being in the photo.

I fall somewhere in the middle on this – sometimes getting a selfie I like feels impossible, but other times it’s fun to share.

If you also hate selfies, tell us how you get around those feelings (if you do) in the comments!

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How Do You Take Selfies When You Feel Awkward About Them? People Share Their Feelings.

Selfies have become ubiquitous, and as someone who grew up in the 1980s and still kind of has a weird relationship with photographs of herself, I’ve gotta say, I don’t hate it. Confidence is beautiful, and being about to see a photo of yourself and not only smile, but want to share it, could never be a bad thing.

That said, it can still be hard for some people to get there – and this guy finds the whole process so awkward he can’t even snap one, never mind sharing them online.

Anybody else feel super cringey when taking selfies and therefore take none? from NoStupidQuestions

He wants to know if he’s not alone, so Reddit’s No Stupid Question forum is the place to be!

15. Is anyone looking?

I always try to hide that I’m doing it, if I do it at all haha.

I took a plant selfie not long ago. I turned beet red in the face when I asked my husband to help me take the photo. I even lashed out at him when he told me how cute that was because I didn’t like that he was “making it a thing”. When I was totally making it a thing….

14. Do it for your mom.

I feel too vain when I take selfies… then end up having like no pictures of myself for my mom.

I’ve had a few girlfriends now that have tried to help me shake my hate. Even after breaking up a few have recommended taking my mom out to different spots (she loved spending time with me more than anything).

When I asked to take pictures with her she was beaming… I’m tearing up just typing this… Actually I just ugly cried for a bit.

I need to tell my mom.

13. Being silly works every time.

The only way I have ever taken the very few selfies I have is if it’s a silly one. That way I feel like “haha see, I’m not taking myself seriously with this”. Feels like it aligns more with who I am.

Social media selfie posts are so prevalent that I was just wondering if there were other people who feel the way I do. Clone #1564 confirmed.

12. Yeah you do.

I am not photogenic so I have never taken a selfie in all of my many years on this earth until last year. I must have been bored or something because I put on makeup which I don’t usually do and took some selfies that included my dogs. I was pleasantly surprised how the photos turned out. I didn’t even really know how to take a selfie.

I posted the pics on Facebook and everyone complimented me on them. The people I have known since high school hadn’t seen me since high school so they really liked my photos. The friends I have made over the years and have never met in person liked my photos as well. In fact, when I said how old I am they couldn’t believe it.

One guy was like, “no way!!!” Yep. I guess I look pretty good for an old lady. Lol.

11. It does take practice.

Yes! I feel like I look awful in any picture, TBH. One eye squinted shut, weird pasted-on smile, awkward posture…like, every single time. Can’t seem to look natural or relaxed in a picture. So I figure if I’m gonna look bad, I may as well be obvious about it and look bad on purpose. I’m not exaggerating when I say that there are more pictures of me with goofy faces than “nice” faces.

Selfies are just…100x worse, for some reason. Take all those issues from above, and then make it look just plain bad. I don’t know why my (very few) selfies have turned out absolutely terrible, but that’s how it is. I’m sure I’m overly-critical of myself, but even putting that aside, I honestly cannot figure out how to get a selfie to turn out ok. So I just don’t do them, except in very rare cases.

10. Also, do it for your kids.

The only reason I can stomach the occasional picture is so my kids know what I looked like back in the day because my parents have hardly any pictures from their youth and It makes it harder to connect… if that makes sense.

9. This makes me sad.

All the time, I never see my pics and think, “hey I look good in this one.” So I assume other people see me the same way and I don’t care to have other people see my flawed face.

Same for me. I can’t stand to look at myself in pictures or videos. For video conferences/Teams meeting, I use my avatar.

But I’m ok with my face in the mirror when I wash up/comb my hair/brush my teeth.

Go figure.

8. Don’t worry about what people think.

You just gotta not care what other people think. I have this problem too.

If I’m feeling particularly confident and attractive, then yeah I kinda wanna post a selfie. Who cares if it’s for attention – it’s human nature to want to attract positive attention sometimes.

So who cares if someone thinks “omg Stacy just wants attention from her selfie” like yeah maybe Stacy is depressed and wants some positive attention who cares?

7. Other people really don’t think that much about you.

You need to realize people don’t care about your appearance. Life’s too short to be afraid of showing your face in social media. I used to be like you until I finally got the courage to use a real pic of me and found out people either will ignore you or type something nice but never will type something mean or rude.

And I am sure you are not ugly but just lack self confidence.

6. Come up with a reason.

I used to as well. But recently I started taking selfies to show off my weird graphic t shirt collection (fish with gun, raccoon with “eat trash hail Satan”, etc.) and honestly having a “reason” for the selfie makes me feel better.

I’m a dancer so most of my pics and videos of me are me dancing and I just want pictures of me doing other things. For myself and for my family.

5. It can depend on who your friends are.

It can also depend how normalized it is in your social circles and social environment. If people around you, your friends and family all did it on a regular basis you’d probably worry less.

I have a mixture of friends. Some take, some don’t.

4. Have a little confidence.

I think it speaks to our lack of ego.

The entire concept of selfies is so self indulgent, I think it’s so weird how often people stare at their own face. Like I couldn’t think of a less interesting picture to look at than one of just somebodies face. But people crave that validation from others so it stuck.

I wish people could be happy on their own.

3. But also, don’t judge others.

Love that for you but it doesn’t mean selfies are inherently bad or egotistical.

People hate themselves daily but when they finally feel good enough to appreciate their appearance, it’s wrong?

If you don’t wanna see selfies on your timeline then dont follow people who take selfies.

You shouldn’t need to invalidate how certain people choose to express their confidence in order to make yourself feel better.

That’s not a lack of ego, it’s just being a jerk.

2. If it makes you happy.

I used to feel that way but then I saw people doing “duck lips” and I tried and each time I ended up laughing , that ended up turning out to produce pictures of me happy and smiling and I started to enjoy seeing those moments.

I’m glad those trends have died, I couldn’t with those faces. Smiling is classic, can’t beat it.

1. OP is definitely not alone.

Me too. I also can’t film myself talking like everyone seems to do these days. I just feel cringy walking and talking to a phone.

Literally started photography because I hated being in photos. If people think you’re good at taking photos they won’t question it when you volunteer to take it instead of being in the photo.

I fall somewhere in the middle on this – sometimes getting a selfie I like feels impossible, but other times it’s fun to share.

If you also hate selfies, tell us how you get around those feelings (if you do) in the comments!

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Person Asks if They Were Wrong to Let Their Mother’s Hospital Bills Go Unpaid

Family can be a tricky thing for a lot of people. Society says that we’re supposed to be close with our families, to support them when we can, and to love them unconditionally, but life (and human beings) are too complicated for blanket statements like that to really apply.

This guy’s past really isn’t complicated – it’s just horrible.

He was the youngest child, and when his father found after five years that he wasn’t biologically his, they were cast out into a small apartment.

His mother and siblings blamed him for the whole mess, basically because he existed.

Shortly after my fifth birthday my dad found out that I was not biologically his, he immediately threw me and my mother out of his life which now looking back I can’t really blame him. It would be a nightmare to raise someone who was a constant reminder of your wife cheating.

Shortly after that, we moved from a mansion to a very small apartment and my life has been absolutely lonely and horrible since then, the love that my mother had for me disappeared in an instant and she and my half siblings(constantly blame me for being the reason for the divorce)have hated me since, I was constantly told by my own family including my mother that they all wish that I would die and would have never been born and things like that.

I try not to get my half siblings words get to me since they were kids as well, but it still hurts to this date.

When his mother got remarried, things did not get any better. He became like their Cinderella, doing all of the chores and being left at home while they took extravagant vacations and their expensive electronics piled up.

My mother married my stepdad when I was 10 and he and his kids, my step-siblings, have made it very clear they didn’t like me and things got even worse, I was given the smallest room, no new clothes or things, and constantly ignored if not being bullied by my family. Both my stepfamily and half siblings went on great and fantastic trips and were given all the latest gadgets and everything as well while I was left behind.

It actually came to the point where no one had wished me even a happy birthday since I was 8 years old. I had no friends at school as well, I was that ’quite’ kid who was always isolated and left out of everything.

He got out on his own, getting a scholarship to college, finding a woman he loves and having a child together. He’s going to therapy and generally happy with his life.

I(27M now) managed to get a full ride to dream college and am now financially quite secure. I now have very good friend and an amazing fiancé with whom I have a 3 year old son and her family has adopted me as one of their own.

My finance also convinced me to go to therapy for which I am very grateful as well and I am basically doing great in life and have moved past everything.

Enter his mother again, who is struggling with cancer and needs help paying for treatment.

He told her no.

Recently my mother contacted me a few days ago saying she needed my help (money actually) cause she has cancer and I firmly but politely refused her saying that while I sympathize with her situation, it is not my responsibility and she should lose my number and never contact me again.

I am now hounded by my stepfamily and even my half siblings that I shouldn’t refuse and my response was pretty much the same and have blocked them as well.

Yesterday my mother called me from her friends phone this time ordering me to pay since she has sacrificed so much for me to which I replied, “You never sacrificed anything, you gave away everything you had cause you just couldn’t keep your legs closed.” And hung up on her.

Now his siblings and other family are giving him a hard time, saying he’s awful, etc, but he doesn’t feel like he owes her anything.

I have blocked them all’ and now just keep receiving messages calling me an asshole among other things from new numbers which I promptly block, but now occasionally I feel quite guilty, what my mother did was horrible yes, but no one deserves to die for such things.

So, reddit AITA for refusing to pay my mothers hospital bill even though it may lead to her death?

What does Reddit think? Let’s find out!

Short answer? He was abused his entire life and he doesn’t owe the people who hurt him a gall-darned thing.

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Apparently she picked the wrong kids to favor, since the rest of them can’t afford to help.

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Monsters don’t deserve forgiveness, and they don’t deserve your hard-earned money or mental health, either.

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Don’t be afraid to legally put your foot down, either.

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Family doesn’t mean you have a blank check to treat people however you want.

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I have to agree with all of these people. It’s never cool to wish death or ill will on anyone, but this woman made her bed.

Anyone who treats their own child like that gets no sympathy from me.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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A Boyfriend Cut Off His Girlfriend’s Diet Soda Habit Until She Finds a Job. Was He Wrong?

I know the title sounds bad, but relationships are tough and financial stuff can be even tougher, so let’s hear the man out, shall we?

These two have been dating for around three years, and when they got together (and moved in together), they were both working.

She left her job because her boss was mistreating her and he supported the move, assuming she would find something else right away.

I (26m) have been with my girlfriend (27f) for over 3 years, and we’ve been living together for almost 2 years of that time.

Not long after she left her job. This was before Covid so it had nothing to do with that; she just couldn’t deal with her boss anymore.

I supported her leaving the job because her boss really was mistreating her.

I do OK financially but I’m not making a ton of money in my career yet, but I thought she’d hit the pavement right away and start looking for something else.

She didn’t even look, and since then has had a ton of excuses as to why she’s not working. This has put financial strain on their relationship – strain he’s bearing alone and having mental health struggles because of.

Well, that didn’t happen. For the first few days she just hung around the apartment. After those few days I asked her if she was going to start looking for something else. She answered “Really? I just quit my job. Can you just give me a week or two to catch my breath?”

After that whenever I asked she began to cite anxiety and depression as the reason she couldn’t look for or take a job.

While I’ve tried to be supportive and understanding it’s been hard as we’ve more or less lived paycheck to paycheck while I’ve often felt anxious and depressed myself but having had no choice but to go to work.

The pandemic relief didn’t apply to her, though she used the situation as yet another excuse as to why she’s not able to go back to work.

Once Covid hit she tried to get relief but was denied because she’d already been out of work too long and her unemployment had nothing to do with the Pandemic. She then began to use Covid as an excuse why she couldn’t work.

Things came to a head when he went to go grocery shopping and told her ‘no’ when she asked for more Diet Dr. Pepper. He has no problem with her drinking it, but informed her it’s a luxury item and not in the budget.

He’s still providing for her basic needs all alone, but feels like he has to draw the line somewhere.

She feels like he’s controlling her.

This brings us to a few days ago. I went to do some grocery shopping and my girlfriend asked me to pick up a case of Diet Dr. Pepper for her. She is addicted to the stuff. To her credit, she doesn’t drink or smoke or eat much junk food at all; Diet Dr. Pepper is basically her only vice. But she’ll easily drink 6-7 cans of it in a day.

Anyway I refused to buy it for her. I told her on the way out the door “Nope, that’s a luxury item. I’m not paying for that.” Long story short when I got home without the DDP we got into a huge argument. She accused me of “financially controlling her.”

I told her that from now on I would only provide for her completely basic needs but that if she wanted any treats beyond that she’d need to get a job and pay for them herself.

AITA?

What does Reddit say? Is this guy the a$$hole? Let’s find out!

This first commenter feels like she’s taking advantage of him – or she needs professional help.

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I think we can all agree it’s not about the Diet Dr. Pepper. Not really.

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There are ways to do what she did but still behave like an adult.

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To put it bluntly.

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This is definitely not what they discussed.

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I think I agree with OP and the majority of the commenters, here. There’s nothing wrong with quitting your job and a loved one supporting you while you find a new one…as long as you’re actually trying to find a new one.

What are your thoughts here? Share them with us in the comments!

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A Widow Tried to Take Major Advantage of Her Best Friend. Is She the A-Hole?

Grief makes people do weird stuff, and everyone responds differently to a major loss in their life. If we’re friends with someone going through a hard time, most of us try our best to be empathetic and to be there for whatever they need, because we love them and also assume they have our best interests at heart.

What if they don’t, though? What if while we’re being good friends they’re trying to devise the best way to take advantage of us, or maybe they see the situation in a totally different light?

That’s what happened to this woman, who moved in with her best friend to help out after the friend’s husband passed away.

My friend is a recent widow. It’s been a long time coming but that hardly makes it easier, her husband passed away at the end of February and she has been understandably distraught since. I have tried my best to support her through this even though I can’t possibly understand what she’s going through.

At the beginning of the March she asked me if I’d stay over during the night because she couldn’t stand sleeping alone in an empty house. I obliged and temporarily moved in once I was sure my husband was okay with it.

Because the friend is struggling with her loss, the friend-turned-roommate is doing the cooking and cleaning, as well as encouraging her friend to take care of herself physically and mentally while she’s there.

She’s not been taking care of herself so I have been doing 100% of the household chores and taking care of her and all her responsibilities as well as working full time.

Then, the bereaved friend accused her bestie of taking advantage of her and trying to live in her house for free, and demanded that she pay rent for the two months she had been there and, of course, going forward.

What on earth? What is happening here?

Well last week she spring on me how much she’ll be expecting in rent from here on out. She heavily implied I was taking advantage of her in her grief trying to live in her house for free and that she expects me to backpay her rent for the two months I’d already been there.

OP was insulted (I should hope so) and told the friend she would pay the back rent (what? why?) but that she would be moving out.

She promised to still help with things like grocery shopping (what? why?) in the future but that she couldn’t stay there anymore, as she already pays rent on her own house with her own husband.

I was extremely insulted by this and told her I’d transfer her the money she wanted but I would be moving back to my own house (where I am also paying rent). I got my stuff and was out within a couple of hours.

She has since asked me to come back but I have refused, I told her I’d still do her shopping and I’ll come over to help her with a few bits but I’m not spending another night in that house.

AITA?

The friend is asking her to come back, but OP is refusing and now wondering whether or not she’s being a jerk.

I think we all know the answer, but let’s see what Reddit had to say, too!

More than a bit, I say.

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This person thinks we should cut her some slack, because she’s grieving and probably not thinking straight.

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But that doesn’t mean OP can’t set some healthy boundaries.

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If she wants to try to get her to come around to how ridiculous she’s being in a more subtle way…

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Others definitely have a more cynical view of things.

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I guess you can probably tell that I think this woman, grieving or not, was totally out of line.

Do you agree with me? Have a different view? Tell me where you come down in the comments!

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Check out This Video That Shows How Fast Bacteria Can Spread “Down There”

Knowledge is power and sure, one of the best and coolest things about the internet is that we can learn just about anything with the click of a few buttons. Some posts, though, leave me wondering if life wasn’t just a bit happier when we didn’t know everything, because some things…I’d be ok maintaining my ignorance.

Because after you realize something, of course, you feel compelled to, you know…take care of it.

Which is exactly how you might feel after watching this TikTok about how quickly bacteria and bacterial infections can spread in the vagina.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

The TikToker, Roxanne Ramsey, is going to use a zucchini, water, and ranch dressing to make her demonstration about bacterial vaginosis really pop, so consider the squeamish among you warned.

She grabs three bowls and names them – Ashley, the bowl of clean water, Ashley’s boyfriend Brandon, the zucchini, and Britney, the ranch dressing, who always wipes back to front.

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“Even though Ashley and Brandon’s relationship is really healthy, Brandon went to the market one day and just couldn’t help himself…”

She goes on to show what Brandon looks like after his experimental dip…and what Ashley looks like after Brandon comes home, sheepish and mum about the whole thing, and dips back into her.

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Ashley gets medicine for the vaginosis, but lo and behold, look what happens in Part 2 of Roxanne’s video…

The vaginosis comes back, even though Brandon has been faithful since that one encounter with infected Britney.

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Roxanne spoke to Buzzfeed about why the topic was important for her to inform others about online:

“I began to notice I would only get it after s^x with my partner. I had been to so many doctor’s appointments searching for answers, but to no avail. Every doctor told me I was suffering because of my soap and detergent. Finally, I decided to participate in a study for bacterial vaginosis because I thought something was terribly wrong with me.”

A doctor in the study told Roxanne that she thought her boyfriend was probably the reason, but that there were little to no tools for diagnosing bacterial vaginosis in men, and no treatment options, because many doctors didn’t believe men could get or pass the infection along.

Roxanne, though, knew it was at least worth exploring, since she’d tried everything else.

“It’s funny because I’ve struggled with BV for so long, I feel like I have a bacterial vaginosis degree… Once I learned information from the specialist, I knew that treatment was a possibility. She prescribed me meds, and I simply gave them to my partner. I was so shocked because it worked! It was such a simple fix that could’ve saved me years of struggling.”

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

She wanted to share not only the visualization of how easily bacteria can spread and her own experience, but the message that we know our bodies better than anyone else, and when you’re talking to your doctor, it’s important to remember to advocate for yourself.

Ask the questions, listen to the answers, but remember that you’re in charge of your body and your treatment, so if you feel like something more needs to be done, don’t stop pushing until you don’t feel that way anymore.

Be safe out there friends, and remember to love yourselves all the way up and down.

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Check out This Video That Shows How Fast Bacteria Can Spread “Down There”

Knowledge is power and sure, one of the best and coolest things about the internet is that we can learn just about anything with the click of a few buttons. Some posts, though, leave me wondering if life wasn’t just a bit happier when we didn’t know everything, because some things…I’d be ok maintaining my ignorance.

Because after you realize something, of course, you feel compelled to, you know…take care of it.

Which is exactly how you might feel after watching this TikTok about how quickly bacteria and bacterial infections can spread in the vagina.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

The TikToker, Roxanne Ramsey, is going to use a zucchini, water, and ranch dressing to make her demonstration about bacterial vaginosis really pop, so consider the squeamish among you warned.

She grabs three bowls and names them – Ashley, the bowl of clean water, Ashley’s boyfriend Brandon, the zucchini, and Britney, the ranch dressing, who always wipes back to front.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

“Even though Ashley and Brandon’s relationship is really healthy, Brandon went to the market one day and just couldn’t help himself…”

She goes on to show what Brandon looks like after his experimental dip…and what Ashley looks like after Brandon comes home, sheepish and mum about the whole thing, and dips back into her.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Ashley gets medicine for the vaginosis, but lo and behold, look what happens in Part 2 of Roxanne’s video…

The vaginosis comes back, even though Brandon has been faithful since that one encounter with infected Britney.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Roxanne spoke to Buzzfeed about why the topic was important for her to inform others about online:

“I began to notice I would only get it after s^x with my partner. I had been to so many doctor’s appointments searching for answers, but to no avail. Every doctor told me I was suffering because of my soap and detergent. Finally, I decided to participate in a study for bacterial vaginosis because I thought something was terribly wrong with me.”

A doctor in the study told Roxanne that she thought her boyfriend was probably the reason, but that there were little to no tools for diagnosing bacterial vaginosis in men, and no treatment options, because many doctors didn’t believe men could get or pass the infection along.

Roxanne, though, knew it was at least worth exploring, since she’d tried everything else.

“It’s funny because I’ve struggled with BV for so long, I feel like I have a bacterial vaginosis degree… Once I learned information from the specialist, I knew that treatment was a possibility. She prescribed me meds, and I simply gave them to my partner. I was so shocked because it worked! It was such a simple fix that could’ve saved me years of struggling.”

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

She wanted to share not only the visualization of how easily bacteria can spread and her own experience, but the message that we know our bodies better than anyone else, and when you’re talking to your doctor, it’s important to remember to advocate for yourself.

Ask the questions, listen to the answers, but remember that you’re in charge of your body and your treatment, so if you feel like something more needs to be done, don’t stop pushing until you don’t feel that way anymore.

Be safe out there friends, and remember to love yourselves all the way up and down.

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“Choosing Beggars” That Make Our Blood Boil

There are so many people out there who feel entitled to people’s time, products, attention, etc when there’s absolutely no reason they should feel that way. Anyone who works in a creative field can tell you that too many folks have the idea that “exposure” is worth actual money, even though we can’t eat it or sleep under it, or benefit in any sort of real way.

It might surprise you, though, to learn that good-sized companies also act foolish and entitled, trying to get people do things for them for free.

If you’re in the mood for some righteous anger, these 20 examples should definitely rev you up.

20. I don’t think this person understands how websites work.

Or maybe how anything in life works, tbh.

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19. Do you think they realize how ironic this is?

And no, not in a good way at all.

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18. Harsh, but I mean…

We might need to have another chat about wants and needs.

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17. It doesn’t always pay to be subtle.

In fact, most of the time it definitely doesn’t.

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16. Whoops. Maybe should have modified that audience.

Now I am also curious what happened to the first one.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

15. You have to remember that some things are just not your problem.

In fact, most things are not your problem.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

14. You have to know how far you can push people.

The first chance was the time to grab it and run, it seems.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

13. Be careful who you try to scam.

It just might end up costing you even more.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

12. RIP to this friendship.

Friends support each other’s endeavors, they don’t try to take advantage, y’all.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

11. I mean technically, sure.

But I hope you can calculate percentages accurately.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

10. Sure, it would be nice if things matched.

But she didn’t have to be so ugly about it.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

9. The last bit is my favorite.

Just absolute proof that you have no idea what’s going on in the world.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

8. That escalated quickly.

As things like this often seem to do.

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7. When something is free you shouldn’t question it.

And you definitely shouldn’t complain.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

6. That…seems like quite a lot of food?

I guess I could be wrong?

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

5. Panhandling is not a job.

But also, maybe $10/hr ain’t gonna pay the bills.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

4. I would also like to know if this strategy works.

For reasons.

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3. I would have loved to see the response.

I’m guessing it contained a fair amount of cursing.

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2. Play stupid games.

Win stupid prizes. Every single time.

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1. It’s free. FREE.

The want…something else for free?

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I swear, some of this stuff is just hard to believe!

If you’ve got a great (aka terrible) story in this vein, tell us about it in the comments.

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“Choosing Beggars” That Make Our Blood Boil

There are so many people out there who feel entitled to people’s time, products, attention, etc when there’s absolutely no reason they should feel that way. Anyone who works in a creative field can tell you that too many folks have the idea that “exposure” is worth actual money, even though we can’t eat it or sleep under it, or benefit in any sort of real way.

It might surprise you, though, to learn that good-sized companies also act foolish and entitled, trying to get people do things for them for free.

If you’re in the mood for some righteous anger, these 20 examples should definitely rev you up.

20. I don’t think this person understands how websites work.

Or maybe how anything in life works, tbh.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

19. Do you think they realize how ironic this is?

And no, not in a good way at all.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

18. Harsh, but I mean…

We might need to have another chat about wants and needs.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

17. It doesn’t always pay to be subtle.

In fact, most of the time it definitely doesn’t.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

16. Whoops. Maybe should have modified that audience.

Now I am also curious what happened to the first one.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

15. You have to remember that some things are just not your problem.

In fact, most things are not your problem.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

14. You have to know how far you can push people.

The first chance was the time to grab it and run, it seems.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

13. Be careful who you try to scam.

It just might end up costing you even more.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

12. RIP to this friendship.

Friends support each other’s endeavors, they don’t try to take advantage, y’all.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

11. I mean technically, sure.

But I hope you can calculate percentages accurately.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

10. Sure, it would be nice if things matched.

But she didn’t have to be so ugly about it.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

9. The last bit is my favorite.

Just absolute proof that you have no idea what’s going on in the world.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

8. That escalated quickly.

As things like this often seem to do.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

7. When something is free you shouldn’t question it.

And you definitely shouldn’t complain.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

6. That…seems like quite a lot of food?

I guess I could be wrong?

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

5. Panhandling is not a job.

But also, maybe $10/hr ain’t gonna pay the bills.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

4. I would also like to know if this strategy works.

For reasons.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

3. I would have loved to see the response.

I’m guessing it contained a fair amount of cursing.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

2. Play stupid games.

Win stupid prizes. Every single time.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

1. It’s free. FREE.

The want…something else for free?

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

I swear, some of this stuff is just hard to believe!

If you’ve got a great (aka terrible) story in this vein, tell us about it in the comments.

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