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Should This Guy Be Checking His Blood Sugar In Private Because of a Coworker?

Managing medical issues can quickly turn into a full-time job. When your illness is something that isn’t fleeting, it becomes a part of your daily routine – one that you keep, faithfully, because the alternative is serious complications, or even death.

For people living with diabetes that means regularly checking their blood sugar, and though there have been massive advances that make that easier, the majority of them still involve a small amount of blood.

I (24M) enjoy my job and have two coworkers, Megan (25F) and our new coworker James (23M) who just started. The three of us each have our own office space, but because we have to frequently collaborate on work throughout the day we are often at each other’s desks.

I am a type 1 diabetic, I give insulin and check my blood sugar throughout the day as needed. I give insulin through a pump so that’s not an issue. Checking my blood sugar involves pricking my finger to draw a drop of blood, the blood gets sucked up into a test strip that is connected to a glucose meter, and the meter displays the reading. The whole process takes like 10 seconds.

He explained that her officemates are often at his desk and vice versa. One of them, a young man, nearly passed out when accidentally catching him checking his blood sugar.

He explained he has a phobia serious enough to require therapy and called OP “freaky.”

I was checking my blood sugar in my office right when James walked over. Immediately, his face went white, he looked like he was about to puke or faint or maybe both. I was like, dude are you okay? He told me that he has a major blood and needle phobia and gets therapy for it. I explained what I was doing and why it was necessary and he said it’s “freaky” that I have to MAKE myself bleed multiple times a day.

When he said he never wants to accidentally see that again, OP offered the compromise of warning him if he’s coming over at a bad time (for him).

He said that’s not going to work, because he’ll still imagine what OP is doing in his mind.

I know.

He told me he never wants to accidentally walk in on me checking my blood sugar again because he could pass out. I said that if I’m checking my blood sugar and hear him coming over I can call out a warning like “give me a sec!”. He said that won’t work, just knowing that I’m doing that just before he comes over is enough to freak him out, and that he would be stressed that I might not hear him walking over.

His compromise was he check his blood sugar in the bathroom, and refused to budge even when OP explained that a) he didn’t want to and b) it’s unsanitary.

As a second option, he asked whether OP could do it at set times – OP explained that wouldn’t always work because he has to manage based on his symptoms.

He told me I should check it in the bathroom from now on. I told him that I don’t think I should have to do that and it’s unsanitary. He said another option was if I only check my blood sugar at certain times, say 9am, 12pm before eating lunch, and 4pm, that way he’d know when to avoid me. I said these things can’t always be predicted, I’ll need to check if I feel my blood sugar going high or low.

He believes his phobia needs to be accommodated along with OP’s diabetes, and threatened to go to HR if he fails to “compromise” on a solution.

He said he understands that I have diabetes but that he also has a special need (his blood phobia) that needs to be accommodated and that he doesn’t want to have to avoid me at work and only talk to Megan for fear he might see me checking again. He said he’ll talk to HR about this and that he’ll tell them that I refused to compromise with him.

Now OP is wondering if she should get the jump on the conversation with HR.

He also clarified that he has an actual office, with a door, so his coworker has to actually come into his space to see what’s going on.

That was last Thursday before the holidays, tomorrow I’m thinking of going to talk to HR before James does, but first I need to know that I’m in the right here. So AITA for not being more accommodating of James’ blood/needle phobia and checking my blood sugar as needed at my desk.

To clarify something, James cannot see me test my blood sugar unless he is literally standing in my doorway. It’s not a communal-style workplace. I do not test in common areas, only in my office.

What did Reddit tell her to do? Read on!

Basically, OP is NTA (Not The A$$hole) and his coworker is going to the extremes in expecting others to work around his issue

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And maybe the coworker would like to spring for an expensive, bloodless solution?

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This person went with NAH (No A$$holes Here) and offered some additional solutions that wouldn’t have to involve HR.

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This person was also sympathetic to the coworkers phobic, and thought there was probably a way they could resolve.

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But this is the bottom line.

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He posted an update later stating that both he and the coworker spoke with HR, who helped them come up with a solution that was only kind of working.

Then the coworker quit, partially because he couldn’t work with someone who has diabetes.

Good luck to him; that’s all I can say.

What are your thoughts on this one? Share with us in the comments!

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Should This Guy Be Checking His Blood Sugar In Private Because of a Coworker?

Managing medical issues can quickly turn into a full-time job. When your illness is something that isn’t fleeting, it becomes a part of your daily routine – one that you keep, faithfully, because the alternative is serious complications, or even death.

For people living with diabetes that means regularly checking their blood sugar, and though there have been massive advances that make that easier, the majority of them still involve a small amount of blood.

I (24M) enjoy my job and have two coworkers, Megan (25F) and our new coworker James (23M) who just started. The three of us each have our own office space, but because we have to frequently collaborate on work throughout the day we are often at each other’s desks.

I am a type 1 diabetic, I give insulin and check my blood sugar throughout the day as needed. I give insulin through a pump so that’s not an issue. Checking my blood sugar involves pricking my finger to draw a drop of blood, the blood gets sucked up into a test strip that is connected to a glucose meter, and the meter displays the reading. The whole process takes like 10 seconds.

He explained that her officemates are often at his desk and vice versa. One of them, a young man, nearly passed out when accidentally catching him checking his blood sugar.

He explained he has a phobia serious enough to require therapy and called OP “freaky.”

I was checking my blood sugar in my office right when James walked over. Immediately, his face went white, he looked like he was about to puke or faint or maybe both. I was like, dude are you okay? He told me that he has a major blood and needle phobia and gets therapy for it. I explained what I was doing and why it was necessary and he said it’s “freaky” that I have to MAKE myself bleed multiple times a day.

When he said he never wants to accidentally see that again, OP offered the compromise of warning him if he’s coming over at a bad time (for him).

He said that’s not going to work, because he’ll still imagine what OP is doing in his mind.

I know.

He told me he never wants to accidentally walk in on me checking my blood sugar again because he could pass out. I said that if I’m checking my blood sugar and hear him coming over I can call out a warning like “give me a sec!”. He said that won’t work, just knowing that I’m doing that just before he comes over is enough to freak him out, and that he would be stressed that I might not hear him walking over.

His compromise was he check his blood sugar in the bathroom, and refused to budge even when OP explained that a) he didn’t want to and b) it’s unsanitary.

As a second option, he asked whether OP could do it at set times – OP explained that wouldn’t always work because he has to manage based on his symptoms.

He told me I should check it in the bathroom from now on. I told him that I don’t think I should have to do that and it’s unsanitary. He said another option was if I only check my blood sugar at certain times, say 9am, 12pm before eating lunch, and 4pm, that way he’d know when to avoid me. I said these things can’t always be predicted, I’ll need to check if I feel my blood sugar going high or low.

He believes his phobia needs to be accommodated along with OP’s diabetes, and threatened to go to HR if he fails to “compromise” on a solution.

He said he understands that I have diabetes but that he also has a special need (his blood phobia) that needs to be accommodated and that he doesn’t want to have to avoid me at work and only talk to Megan for fear he might see me checking again. He said he’ll talk to HR about this and that he’ll tell them that I refused to compromise with him.

Now OP is wondering if she should get the jump on the conversation with HR.

He also clarified that he has an actual office, with a door, so his coworker has to actually come into his space to see what’s going on.

That was last Thursday before the holidays, tomorrow I’m thinking of going to talk to HR before James does, but first I need to know that I’m in the right here. So AITA for not being more accommodating of James’ blood/needle phobia and checking my blood sugar as needed at my desk.

To clarify something, James cannot see me test my blood sugar unless he is literally standing in my doorway. It’s not a communal-style workplace. I do not test in common areas, only in my office.

What did Reddit tell her to do? Read on!

Basically, OP is NTA (Not The A$$hole) and his coworker is going to the extremes in expecting others to work around his issue

Image Credit: Reddit

And maybe the coworker would like to spring for an expensive, bloodless solution?

Image Credit: Reddit

This person went with NAH (No A$$holes Here) and offered some additional solutions that wouldn’t have to involve HR.

Image Credit: Reddit

 

This person was also sympathetic to the coworkers phobic, and thought there was probably a way they could resolve.

Image Credit: Reddit

 

But this is the bottom line.

Image Credit: Reddit

He posted an update later stating that both he and the coworker spoke with HR, who helped them come up with a solution that was only kind of working.

Then the coworker quit, partially because he couldn’t work with someone who has diabetes.

Good luck to him; that’s all I can say.

What are your thoughts on this one? Share with us in the comments!

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Does Going to a Classmate’s Parents About Bullying Make This Person Evil?

Family dynamics are complicated in the best of times, and when we’re talking about blended families, things can be downright awkward and unbearable when growing pains – and opposite personalities – rear their heads.

These stepsisters don’t usually get along, but when OP found out that her stepsister was bullying a girl in their grade, Mia, she felt as if she had to do something.

She says she never thought her stepsister was a bully but she had the proof in her hands.

The situation at hand: My stepsister (17f) has been bullying this girl in our grade, Mia. Mia is a very shy person. We were never friends but were friendly until the bullying started and then Mia withdrew from everyone. I found out about the bullying over a month ago.

People described it as “not real bullying” but my stepsister has called her names and told her she doesn’t deserve friends. I found a note telling Mia this. I was pissed. My stepsister and I never had a good relationship (always fighting) but I never figured she was an actual bully, just someone who got on my freaking nerves.

OP went to Mia’s parents with the proof and the accusations, and they went to the school demanding serious consequences for her stepsister.

Her father is angry with her and believe the entire incident was motivated by her dislike for her stepsister (or maybe acting out against his remarriage, etc).

I ended up going to Mia’s parents with what I knew and the evidence of the bullying and now it has been brought up with the school and Mia’s parents want my stepsister expelled. My dad is pissed. He said it was so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to go to the girls parents over “sibling issues”. I told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling issues, because we’re not siblings and my siblings (younger brother and sister) would never do that to another person.

My stepsister has been suspended right now but it looks like she’ll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens. My dad’s wife is freaking out and so are my stepbrothers.

It’s not only her siblings and parents who think she was wrong not to talk to her family or her stepsister directly first, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she really did the right thing.

With the exception of my siblings everyone seems to think I’m wrong for doing what I did, for not at least talking to my stepsister first. I feel like going to Mia’s parents was the right call because of how serious bullying can be for the person being bullied and even calling someone names can cut a person really deep.

But I never expected this kind of reaction. Life at home is very awkward right now.

AITA?

Bullying is bad, but it can be tough to know what is right when family is involved.

What does Reddit think? Keep reading!

This person makes a good point, that if the school believes it’s serious enough to expel the stepsister perhaps her parents should be more focused on their daughter’s actions than the reason for the consequences.

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There is a general sense that OP had a lot of courage, and no one is really telling her that.

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At least the internet people are here to give her a virtual pat on the back.

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People who have been there can vouch for the fact that any kind of bullying can have serious consequences.

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It’s very often a big deal to the person on the receiving end, after all.

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I have to say, I agree with OP taking decisive action, though if she had a better relationship with her stepsister, chances are she would have at least given her a head’s up first.

Either way, this Mia is lucky to have a good friend.

What are your thoughts? Do you think she was just trying to get back at her family?

Sound off in the comments!

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Does Going to a Classmate’s Parents About Bullying Make This Person Evil?

Family dynamics are complicated in the best of times, and when we’re talking about blended families, things can be downright awkward and unbearable when growing pains – and opposite personalities – rear their heads.

These stepsisters don’t usually get along, but when OP found out that her stepsister was bullying a girl in their grade, Mia, she felt as if she had to do something.

She says she never thought her stepsister was a bully but she had the proof in her hands.

The situation at hand: My stepsister (17f) has been bullying this girl in our grade, Mia. Mia is a very shy person. We were never friends but were friendly until the bullying started and then Mia withdrew from everyone. I found out about the bullying over a month ago.

People described it as “not real bullying” but my stepsister has called her names and told her she doesn’t deserve friends. I found a note telling Mia this. I was pissed. My stepsister and I never had a good relationship (always fighting) but I never figured she was an actual bully, just someone who got on my freaking nerves.

OP went to Mia’s parents with the proof and the accusations, and they went to the school demanding serious consequences for her stepsister.

Her father is angry with her and believe the entire incident was motivated by her dislike for her stepsister (or maybe acting out against his remarriage, etc).

I ended up going to Mia’s parents with what I knew and the evidence of the bullying and now it has been brought up with the school and Mia’s parents want my stepsister expelled. My dad is pissed. He said it was so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to go to the girls parents over “sibling issues”. I told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling issues, because we’re not siblings and my siblings (younger brother and sister) would never do that to another person.

My stepsister has been suspended right now but it looks like she’ll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens. My dad’s wife is freaking out and so are my stepbrothers.

It’s not only her siblings and parents who think she was wrong not to talk to her family or her stepsister directly first, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she really did the right thing.

With the exception of my siblings everyone seems to think I’m wrong for doing what I did, for not at least talking to my stepsister first. I feel like going to Mia’s parents was the right call because of how serious bullying can be for the person being bullied and even calling someone names can cut a person really deep.

But I never expected this kind of reaction. Life at home is very awkward right now.

AITA?

Bullying is bad, but it can be tough to know what is right when family is involved.

What does Reddit think? Keep reading!

This person makes a good point, that if the school believes it’s serious enough to expel the stepsister perhaps her parents should be more focused on their daughter’s actions than the reason for the consequences.

Image Credit: Reddit

There is a general sense that OP had a lot of courage, and no one is really telling her that.

Image Credit: Reddit

At least the internet people are here to give her a virtual pat on the back.

Image Credit: Reddit

People who have been there can vouch for the fact that any kind of bullying can have serious consequences.

Image Credit: Reddit

It’s very often a big deal to the person on the receiving end, after all.

Image Credit: Reddit

I have to say, I agree with OP taking decisive action, though if she had a better relationship with her stepsister, chances are she would have at least given her a head’s up first.

Either way, this Mia is lucky to have a good friend.

What are your thoughts? Do you think she was just trying to get back at her family?

Sound off in the comments!

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong to Take What’s Legally Theirs if It Hurts Someone Else in the Process

Laws can be confusing, especially when you’re young and older relatives – who you’re supposed to be able to trust to guide you in times of trouble.

Too many times, though, the opposite happens. Someone gets taken advantage of, and the only recourse is to bring in more lawyers, who inevitably widen the rifts that were put there previously.

For this kid, it all began with the death of his father. His mother is suffering from dementia, and so in her stead, her family “inherited” and then sold their family home for a ridiculously cheap price.

My father passed away a few years ago and my adopted mom (who is old and has dementia) relatives sold my father’s and my mom’s house for half of the value with everything inside in a rush sale.

I did not know the law that time and was told by my moms relatives that my father had no WILL so everything automatically went to my mom and her family.

Then OP found out that the law actually says that a person’s children, not their spouse, inherits the property, which means the house was his to keep or sell as he saw fit.

He confirmed this with an attorney, who confirmed that OPs fears were correct and this family had taken advantage of his lack of experience.

I came across an article that in that country that when a person dies with out a will their heirs/children automatically inherit the estate. The estate can not be sold with out all heirs agreeing. If it is sold the sale will be void. I have contacted a lawyer and it was true. I can get the house back by simply showing my birth certificate, also because my mom has dementia she is not capable of doing a sale.

After the lawyer went to talk to OP’s mother the family got wind of his inquiries and intentions, and all hell has broken loose.

The lawyer went to meet with my mom on my behalf to ask a few questions about the sale of the house. Her relatives heard everything then started attacking me online and making nasty post about me how I was going to kick a family out a house because of pure “greed” that I already have a house in USA. I’m greedy to have another house. They threathen that they will get the new owners to sue me etc.

They’ve brought up the fact that, if OP takes the house back and wants to sell it for full price, he will be evicting the people who bought the house.

My mom’s relatives don’t work and used the money of the sale of the house for their own benefit, so not only will they have to return all the money , the new owners of the house will now have to look for somewhere else to live, which they can no longer afford a house because the house was sold for half of the market value, and that is what they will be getting back?

WIBTA for possibly kicking them out?

This has him wondering whether this makes him a jerk, and so he’s asking Reddit.

Here’s what they had to say.

The first comment reminds OP that he’s not in the wrong here, and sad that the outcome may be, it’s not his fault.

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Several people pointed out that the people who got such a “great deal” on the house probably sensed something fishy was afoot.

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Also, this is not how family is supposed to act.

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He should place the blame squarely where it belongs.

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OP can always give the family legitimate options once the dust settles, after all.

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I’m totally with the commenters here, even though I would be feeling guilty like OP, too.

What about you? Would you have similar qualms or no? Tell us about it in the comments!

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Woman Wonders Whether She Was Wrong to Snap and Call Her Boyfriend an “Insecure Little Boy”

Relationships can be hard, my friends, I’m not going to lie. It can seem impossible to find that other half, the one that matches up with us, challenges us, supports us, and loves us despite all of our many flaws.

I think that’s one reason it can be hard to see right away – or admit, perhaps – when the person who initially seemed to be a good fit keeps showing edges that don’t match up at all.

Things snuck up slowly on this woman, who earned a liberal arts degree to her boyfriend Tim’s IT diploma. They’ve been together and happy, while she searched for a career path that satisfied her and him climbing the IT ladder.

Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the liberal arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

Now, she’s bounced around long enough to find not only a job she loves, but one that pays even more than he makes at his cyber security job.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my liberal arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated.

When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

He’s just thought to realize that she’s making quite a bit of cash, and is making comments that show it’s obviously bothering him that her English lit degree has managed to snag her an awesome job.

He’s telling her she “cheated the system” to make himself feel better (I guess).

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our paystubs it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

He makes three ridiculous points about her “cheating,” two of which hinge on her just “being female.”

Also, I don’t think it’s called nepotism when your sorority sister recommends you for a job.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm.

He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a white man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program.

Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

Except she didn’t cheat the system, and his ongoing “jokes” about not only her, but other women who are getting what they deserve (in a good way), pushed her over the edge and she’s wondering if she’s gone too far.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree.

I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since yesterday.

Did I go too far?

I’m going to let Reddit say what I’m dying to scream out here, yeah?

This first person really breaks down all the reasons she’s way too good for him, and I am here for it.

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Toxic seems to be the word of the day.

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She needs to go find someone who is actually a feminist and who isn’t intimidated by her confidence and success.

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It’s so seriously his loss and if he’s smart at all he’s going to regret acting this way some day.

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She hit the nail on the head, actually, calling Tim insecure.

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I hope this woman read all of these comments, printed them out, and left them on the coffee table when she packed up and left.

Too harsh? Tell me why you think so in the comments!

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Woman Wonders Whether She Was Wrong to Snap and Call Her Boyfriend an “Insecure Little Boy”

Relationships can be hard, my friends, I’m not going to lie. It can seem impossible to find that other half, the one that matches up with us, challenges us, supports us, and loves us despite all of our many flaws.

I think that’s one reason it can be hard to see right away – or admit, perhaps – when the person who initially seemed to be a good fit keeps showing edges that don’t match up at all.

Things snuck up slowly on this woman, who earned a liberal arts degree to her boyfriend Tim’s IT diploma. They’ve been together and happy, while she searched for a career path that satisfied her and him climbing the IT ladder.

Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the liberal arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

Now, she’s bounced around long enough to find not only a job she loves, but one that pays even more than he makes at his cyber security job.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my liberal arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated.

When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

He’s just thought to realize that she’s making quite a bit of cash, and is making comments that show it’s obviously bothering him that her English lit degree has managed to snag her an awesome job.

He’s telling her she “cheated the system” to make himself feel better (I guess).

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our paystubs it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

He makes three ridiculous points about her “cheating,” two of which hinge on her just “being female.”

Also, I don’t think it’s called nepotism when your sorority sister recommends you for a job.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm.

He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a white man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program.

Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

Except she didn’t cheat the system, and his ongoing “jokes” about not only her, but other women who are getting what they deserve (in a good way), pushed her over the edge and she’s wondering if she’s gone too far.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree.

I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since yesterday.

Did I go too far?

I’m going to let Reddit say what I’m dying to scream out here, yeah?

This first person really breaks down all the reasons she’s way too good for him, and I am here for it.

Image Credit: Reddit

Toxic seems to be the word of the day.

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She needs to go find someone who is actually a feminist and who isn’t intimidated by her confidence and success.

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It’s so seriously his loss and if he’s smart at all he’s going to regret acting this way some day.

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She hit the nail on the head, actually, calling Tim insecure.

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I hope this woman read all of these comments, printed them out, and left them on the coffee table when she packed up and left.

Too harsh? Tell me why you think so in the comments!

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Times When People Uncovered Some Huge Loopholes

There are all kinds of loopholes in the world, I think – big, small, in between – and ones that can have a huge impact on the people who find them…or really small ones.

Most of us are willing to bend the rules in some circumstances, though, it’s just a question of how far and how big you’re willing to go.

These 12 people gave no f**ks about your rules, and honestly, it’s sometimes hard to blame them.

12. How do they live with themselves?

Also, man he’s got some good medication.

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11. Don’t expect your sub to be a full 12 inches.

That’s not what “footlong” means at Subway, friends.

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10. If they’re not human, what are they?

A question for the ages, my friends.

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9. I am doing a slow-clap.

Just put your minds to it, friends.

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8. Who made this rule to begin with?

I mean I think we know the answer to that.

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7. This one of the best drawings I’ve seen.

I need this framed, to be honest.

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6. Not technically sugar free.

There are so many “rules” like this one that are so arbitrary.

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5. The more you know…

The oldest profession in the world.

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4. Ooh I don’t know how I feel about this.

I do slip into my Cons, though…

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3. I really just need to know the reason behind this law.

What is ungodly about ice cream sodas, people?

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2. Everyone just played along.

I’ll show myself out.

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1. Michelle Obama to the rescue.

Ketchup is not a vegetable, my friends.

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I had no idea about most of these, to be honest.

What’s the craziest loophole you’ve ever stumbled across? We want to hear about it in the comments!

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Off-Putting Animals That Might Just Appear in Your Toilet

I love all animals. I think mice are cute, I don’t kill bugs, even in the house (unless they’re flies or will sting/bite me) and I go out of my way to be kind, indoors or out.

But listen. Some animals are just inherently more dangerous than others, and the fact that some of the scarier ones could grab you at one of your most vulnerable moments – sitting down on the potty – is enough to give the kindest heart the heebie-jeebies.

If you’re wondering what sort of horror show could possibly show up in your toilet, come along – here are 5 that you probably wouldn’t want to sit on.

5. Snakes

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This is probably my number one fear, and that’s just a regular snake showing up in my house – in 2015, San Diego Animal Control removed a 5.5 foot-long boa constrictor from a toilet. Someone had noticed there was excessive water in the bowl, but when they used a plunger, something came up instead of flowing out.

She described it as “every person’s worst nightmare,” and it’s hard to argue.

Snakes popping out of toilets seems to be fairly common, and they can be dangerous. Cover up your bits and call an expert if it happens to you.

4. Frogs

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Frogs aren’t exactly scary, but they do jump, and every horror movie buff will tell you a jump scare will do the trick just fine in a pinch.

Millions of people have found frogs hanging out in their toilet bowl )or more than one). Experts advise putting a mesh screen over the toilet vent and keeping lights off at night, if you seem to have an issue with it.

3. Rats

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Rats can do anything they put their minds to, and crawling up pipes into your house is no exception. If you search YouTube you can find many, many people who have posted videos of rats entering their homes via the toilet, and pest control expert Eddie Marco confirms it could happen to anyone.

“It happens all the time, especially if you live in the basement or a first floor apartment. The pipe is empty, the rat crawls through the pipe and up over the hump and into the porcelain. And he can’t get back out.”

Maybe one day they’ll figure out that little trick, and then we’ll never know if they come and go.

I think that sounds worst, actually.

2. Opossums

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People tend to rag on opossums because they’re not exactly adorable, but they’re harmless and actually eat gross stuff, like ticks, so they’re ok by me.

I did not know they enjoyed a nice swim sometimes, though, but people have found them – big and small, dead and alive – in their toilet bowls.

Treat them kindly if they’re alive!

1. Squirrels

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Squirrels are just rats with fluffy tails, and they have some of the same bad habits of getting themselves into situations they can’t find a way out of – which includes exploring pipes and ending up in your toilet bowl.

If you can get it safely out and release it, great. If not, there are experts who are ready and willing to help.

I do not know for sure how I would handle any of these situations, but I think not well.

Has anything frightening ever shown up in your toilet? Share the story with us in the comments!

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People Confess the Weird Facts They Love to Share with Folks

We’re all about facts and let me tell you, one of the best things about them is that there are always ones you haven’t heard coming down the pike. New ones, funny ones, shocking ones, and yes – weird ones – are just out there, waiting to come up in your presence for the first time.

If you’re up for some totally weird truths today, these 19 people have you covered – and trust me, you’re going to want to hear these.

19. Can you learn them all?

There are more ways to shuffle a deck of cards than there are atoms on Earth.

You can arrange a deck of cards into a new unique order once a second since the big bang and you wouldn’t even be 1% of the way through all possible combos today. Like, not even close to 1%.

I liked V-sauce’s analogy. If you were to measure the time to count 52 factorial seconds, first start at Earth’s equator. Every billion years that goes by, take one step forward. Once you walk completely around the Earth, take a drop of water out of the Pacific ocean and repeat. Once the ocean is dry, set down one sheet of paper, refill the ocean, and repeat the whole process again.

Once the stack of sheets of paper reaches the sun, knock it down and repeat the whole process again. Once you do that about one thousand times, you’d be almost a third of the way to being done counting.

18. Beware the coconuts.

Coconuts kill 103 people a year.

That’s more than many animals we’re traditionally scared of, too. I guess they’ve developed a taste for human flesh.

17. Totally random. Love it.

The dot on top of an i and a j is called a tittle.

16. He could have sprung for the good stuff.

The term “drink the kool-aid” is historically incorrect. Jim Jones used Flavor-aid.

What a cheapskate. What’s even the point of saving that money?

Not like he was gonna need it.

15. These are both amazing.

Technically speaking, a male ballet dancer is a ballerino.

Also, a single strand of spaghetti is a spaghetto.

(Spaghetto is also my favorite term for a rough Italian neighborhood).

14. It does seem questionable.

You have a ball sack because you need to have your balls at 34 degrees C to produce sperm but your body is 37 degrees. The sack keeps them farther away.

That’s also why your balls shrivel when you are cold. Gotta maintain homeostasis.

One of nature’s biggest failures. “The male humans need testicles. They have to be kept warm. But not that warm. Let’s just hang them outside in a thin sack made of skin, so everyone can see their weak point.”

13. Time is so weird.

The stegosaurus was extinct for about 90 million years before tyrannosaurus showed up, and the tyrannosaurus has been extinct for about 65 million years. We are much closer in time to the T Rex than the T Rex was to stegosaurs.

Also, Cleopatra was born closer to our time than she was to the building of the pyramids. Our perception of time is funny.

Oh! and adding on to this:

  • Oxford University has been around since 1096 (earliest evidence of teaching there)
  • In 1697, Martín de Ursúa launched an assault on the Itza capital Nojpetén and the last independent Maya city fell to the Spanish.
  • Oxford University and the Maya civilisation co-existed for about 600 years!

12. Solidarity.

There is a species of penguins called Adelie penguins in Antarctica that are so horny they will screw anything.

Examples include: female penguins, male penguins, injured penguins, dead bodies, dead fish, the freaking ground, basically anything that moves or doesn’t move.

11. Sharks have seen some things.

Sharks are older than trees. A lot older. 40 million years older.

Trees as we familiarly know them today — a primary trunk, large height, crown of leaves or fronds — didn’t appear on the planet until the late Devonian period, some 360 million years ago. You might be surprised to learn that sharks are older than trees as they’ve been around for at least 400 million years.

Weirder, I understand all coal formed during the time after trees appeared, but BEFORE the bacteria that breaks them down after they fell. No new coal has formed in a very long time. 100 million years?

10. They’re so squishy all over.

Babies don’t have kneecaps.

9. Poor little bunnies.

The average human erection has roughly about 130ml of blood in it, while the average rabbit has about 126ml in its entire body. So, there is more blood in your boner than in a bunny.

Also, did you know that a rabbit used to die every time a lady needed a pregnancy test?

8. The more you know.

All mammals over 3 kg (~6.5 pounds) pee for an average of 21 seconds with a full bladder, independent of body size. From a 2014 paper in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences:

Using high-speed videography and flow-rate measurement obtained at Zoo Atlanta, we discover that all mammals above 3 kg in weight empty their bladders over nearly constant duration of 21 ± 13 s. This feat is possible, because larger animals have longer urethras and thus, higher gravitational force and higher flow speed. Smaller mammals are challenged during urination by high viscous and capillary forces that limit their urine to single drops. Our findings reveal that the urethra is a flow-enhancing device, enabling the urinary system to be scaled up by a factor of 3,600 in volume without compromising its function. This study may help to diagnose urinary problems in animals as well as inspire the design of scalable hydrodynamic systems based on those in nature.

7. Cells blow my mind.

HEK 293 Cells

A scientist named “Alex Van der Eb” in netherlands made immortal cells, from the liver of an aborted human fetus in the 70’s.

Those cells have been producing our vaccines for the last 50 years.

I dont mean to spread this as misinformation, or as any correlation to the current pandemic. It’s just a super weird fact I knew.

6. I don’t understand how there are so many bedbugs then.

Female bedbugs lack a genital cavity, so the male bedbug has to literally STAB HIS DICK INTO THE FEMALE BEDBUGS STOMACH and then when they’re done screwing, that’s it.

But what makes it even MORE interesting, is that bedbugs are unable to tell the difference between other male and female bedbugs. Use your imagination a little for that one…….

5. Fungus is amazing!

Radiotrophic fungus was first discovered at the Chernobyl site in 1991, just after the collapse of the Soviet Union and the start of internationally-aided cleanup/containment efforts. Not so sure about right next to the Elephant’s Foot, but it was definitely found growing in large, flourishing colonies all throughout the site’s cooling water supply.

This fungus appears to use melanin – the same dark-brown pigment that gives humans all their various normal skin tones, except in much, much higher concentrations – to power sugar-producing reactions by deriving energy from nuclear decay the same way plants and cyanobacteria use the green pigment chlorophyll to synthesize sugars by deriving energy from (sun)light.

Basically, this stuff is a mold colony that has the most extreme tan ever, and uses it to eat radiation.

Similar fungi have been found accumulated on the exterior hulls of low-orbit spacecraft, and experiments were recently (2018-2019) conducted to begin investigating if the stuff could be used as shielding to protect astronauts from solar/cosmic radiation. Apparently, results were promising!

4. Sounds…fun?

Many species of snails and slugs are hermaphroditic – possessing fully functional male and female reproductive characteristics – and go about a similar process.

When mating, two “males” will wrestle each other / “joust” with their penises.

The loser of this contest becomes the “female” in the encounter, gets stabbed by the winner’s dick, and is impregnated.

3. Who would have thought?

Sloths can die of starvation with a full stomach.

Their gut bacteria is very temperature dependent. Due to Global Warming ™, the temp in the Caribbean can go below its more usual 23C down to about 20C at times, which will kill their digestive bacteria, so they can’t digest what they eat.

Sloths can’t regulate their body temperature well, so they can’t maintain an internal temp to stop this happening.

2. This all sounds right.

Your anus comprises either thirty-five or thirty-seven creases, resulting in a pattern as unique as your fingertips.

This discovery – first made by Salvador Dali – allowed for the development of an anus-examining smart toilet.

On the same topic, it turns out that humans are deuterostomes. This means that at the start of its development, an embryo goes through a stage during which its tissue folds back over itself, creating something called a blastopore. As maturation continues, this blastopore becomes the anus.

In short, you can make the argument that every person is an overgrown (and unique) a$$hole.

1. She really was a marvel.

Titanic was fitted with microphones for receiving underwater bell signals. With this system the sound of submarine bells was received through the hull of the vessel.

Submarine bells, used as fog signals, were located on lightships, at lighthouses, and even on some specially equipped buoys. They were actuated by electric signals, compressed air, or simply by wave motion.

Titanic had two submarine microphones on her hull, one on each side. These were the “ears” of the ship. By switching between the port and starboard microphones and comparing the volume of the bells, the navigation officer could determine the direction to the navigation aid. Sound travels much further through water than through air – these bells could be heard over 15 miles away through the headset.

A pretty cool way of navigating at a time when GPS and RADAR didn’t yet exist!

I’m so happy some of these are now tucked safely in my own fact arsenal.

Drop your favorite weird fact on us down in the comments!

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