This is How the “Green Book” Made Travel Less Scary For Black People

You might have seen the movie Green Book a couple years ago – with an amazing cast and more than a couple of Oscar nominations (including a win for Best Picture), there’s a good chance you know at least something about this topic by now.

Like with everything that comes out of Hollywood, though, the facts were skimmed and not always completely, well, factual. The family of Dr. Shirley, the Black pianist in the film, has denounced the truth of much of the movie.

So, if you want to know more about the green book and how it was an absolute lifeline for Black travelers once upon a time.

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In the 1950s, traveling was hard on Black families. They would often leave early, even in the middle of the night, in order to drive straight through to their destination and not have to worry about finding a motel. They packed their own foods, peed on the side of the road, and if they had to stop to sleep, always arranged to stay with friends, family, or acquaintances.

Black families had no way of knowing if or where they would be able to stop for gas, or if there were any restaurants willing to serve Black customers.

Enter Victor Hugo Green, a Black mailman from Harlem. In 1936, he decided to draw inspiration from Jewish publications that listed safe places for Jewish travelers to eat and sleep on the road, and set out to write The Negro Motorist Green Book.

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He did his research and his due diligence, filling the pages with state-by-state listings of hotels, private homes, restaurants, barber shops, service stations, and more where Black business was welcome.

Green relied on a network of fellow Black mailmen across the country to compile his information, which meant his publication was always expanding and changing. A new edition was published every year between 1936 and 1964.

For travelers who had horribly traumatic memories of humiliation in the face of white business owners, and who surely couldn’t memorize which cities, even in the North, employed Sundown Laws, the book was truly a lifeline.

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Black business owners paid for advertisements in the book, too, and in some places – like South Dakota, where there was only one service station and one private tourist home in the entire state – options were extremely limited.

The Green Book also included things like advice on keeping your car up and running, and things to bring with you in case of a breakdown – organizations like AAA didn’t accept Black members at the time, either.

In 1964, the Civil Rights Act made it a crime to discriminate on the basis of color. The road trip became a more pleasant experience for Black families, too, who could now stop at any service station or hotel that was convenient at the time.

Until then, a man with an eighth grade education but plenty of smarts used his connections and intelligence to open America to Black people who wanted or needed to travel through her. Since he died in 1960, he never lived in a world where his book wasn’t necessary.

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In the introduction to his 1949 edition, he wrote:

“There will be a day sometime in the near future when this guide will not have to be published. That is when we as a race will have equal opportunities and privileges in the United States. It will be a great day for us to suspend this publication for then we can go wherever we please, and without embarrassment. But until that time comes we shall continue to publish this information for your convenience each year.”

While things in the United States remain unequal and unfair in so many ways, I think Mr. Green would be happy to see that at least some progress has been made – but he surely would have been all in to keep fighting until equality is a reality for everyone.

A Vice President who is a Black woman is, though, a fantastic piece of the puzzle.

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Is It Okay to Use the Word “Androgynous?”

Our world is always growing and changing, hopefully in ways that make it more inclusive and comfortable for every single person who inhabits it. Most of us want to adapt in order to help make that possible, but the truth is, sometimes we just don’t know the answers to the hard questions – and we’re afraid to ask!

If you’re wondering if the word “androgynous” still has a place in the current lexicon, if it’s the same or different than modern terms like “nonbinary” and “genderfluid,” we’ve got your back.

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Syracuse University professor Rose Bell is someone who identifies as all three of those terms – but points out that’s not true of others who identify with one (or more) of them.

“These are very different; someone can be one of these things without being the others, or they could be all of them! Androgyny can mean a number of things.

I most often hear it used to refer to gender presentation. In this sense, it means someone whose appearance does not fit either masculine or feminine norms – who doesn’t look or dress like a man or a woman.

But some people also identify as androgynous, which isn’t the same as looking androgynous.

And both of these things are different from ‘nonbinary,’ although there is definitely some overlap.”

If someone is “cisgender,” their actual gender is the same one they were assigned at birth. “Transgender” people’s actual gender is different from the one they were assigned at birth. And “nonbinary” individuals experience a gender identity that is neither male nor female.

They may also call themselves gender fluid, agender, a third gender, or some other term that feels more right.

“Nonbinary is an umbrella term that describes anyone who has a gender identity that is not strictly one of the ‘big two’ binary categories.

There are many different identities under that umbrella.

It’s important to remember that not all nonbinary people have androgynous gender presentation!

Nonbinary is about who you are, not about how you look.”

Which is to say, as ever, you can’t judge a book by its cover – or how a person prefers to dress.

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Androgynous people might identify as any gender, or if they’re gender fluid, that might change from day-to-day.

Physical androgyny has had fairly good media representation since the 1970s and 1980s, when people like David Bowie and Annie Lennox defied gender norms in front of cameras.

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Scott Barry Kaufman wrote a piece about the difference between physical and psychological androgyny in Scientific American.

“Physical androgyny was creative in the ’80s because it was actually innovative. It did challenge gender stereotypes. It got people to think differently about stereotypical male and female roles.

It wasn’t the superficial physical aspects of androgyny that made it so creative, it was the psychological aspects that it represented.”

Psychological androgyny is defined as crossing “sex typed standards of desirable behavior.”

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Bell reminds us that representation continues to matter, and that we’re not done until every single person can look to some form of media and see themselves there.

“Androgyny as a presentation isn’t always connected to gender identity. Many people who are nonbinary also look androgynous. But not everyone.

And the opposite is also true; not everyone who appears androgynous is nonbinary. A nonbinary gender identity can be a very personal thing — you don’t always have to wear it on the outside.

There should be space to be whoever you really are. I want people not to expect things from me based on what they think my gender is and putting ‘nonbinary’ or ‘androgynous’ in a box is just another way of doing that.”

I would hope that, wherever you fall on the gender spectrum, however you choose to embrace and display your gender through your clothing and behaviors, you could find a way to feel comfortable in your skin.

Everyone being understanding, being willing and open to learning more, and supporting representation in media, will go a long way toward making utopia a reality.

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This Teacher Is Fighting Back After Her District Banned Pride Flags in the Classroom

Flags are a staple of classrooms. American flags, of course, but also usually a state flag. Sometimes the school flag, other times a military flag of some sort, or a college banner, if the teacher is a proud alum.

There don’t seem to be many rules (as long as one is not trying to fly, say, a Nazi or Confederate flag), but even so, this Nevada school district took it upon themselves to ban Pride flags from their classrooms (along with any perceived political speech).

One teacher in the Washoe County School District in Reno, Jennifer Leja, is speaking out against the new policy. She’s the only openly LGBTQ teacher at her school, and sees herself as a point person for students who are looking to explore their own identities.

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She keeps a Pride flag in her classroom, along with an assortment of other rainbow paraphernalia that students have given her, as she just really likes rainbows – and is proud of who she is.

This year, though, a new, district-wide policy banning “partisan political activities” during school hours meant that her Pride flag had to go back in the closet.

Seeking to clarify, Leja reached out to Trustee Andrew Caudill to clarify whether or not the policy included LGBTQ issues, and if it was ok for her to talk about her personal sexuality at school.

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She received this email in response:

“The courts have held LGBTQ+ issues to be political speech and thus, the rainbow flag [is considered] to be political speech, so it cannot be expressed through clothing and other means, such as displaying a flag in your class.

Who you are is not impacted by this policy, only what is expressed in class through visual aids.”

For Leja and other people who identify under the LGBTQ banner, their sexuality is not political.

“The issue I have with it is, I don’t think my existence and my identity is a political issue. I think that being able to have a rainbow flag is as much a part of my identity as anything else. It’s legal in every state to get married; it’s legal for LGBT people to exist in this country right now, so I don’t see how it’s a political issue.”

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She’s not just fighting for herself, either, she told Buzzfeed News.

“It’s important for me because I feel like there are students who spend their lives in the closet and especially in middle school; that is when students are starting to figure out where they are.

They go through that time period where they don’t know who they are or what they like.”

Leja posted about the issue on TikTok, and though many, if not most, people agree with her stance, the District Trustee remains firm in his response that the policy doesn’t target LGBTQ issues, but includes “other kinds of speech such as Pro-Life, Pro-Choice, NRA, etc.,” and saying the district believes a government entity shouldn’t be seen as taking sides politically.

@msleja

My response to this new requirement ? #tiktokteacher #middleschool #teachersoftiktok #lgbt #lgbtqteacher

♬ original sound – Jenn Leja

He did stress to Buzzfeed, though that Leja is not being asked to hide her identity on or off campus.

“But I want to be abundantly clear, the policy does not require staff to hide their own sexuality.

Teachers can let students know their sexuality, or mention their significant others, if they wish, regardless of sexuality.

The policy does not impact who a teacher is, it only impacts the advocacy for a specific political position.”

Teachers are also not allowed to take a stance on Black Lives Matter, a policy that has drawn criticism and petitions from students and teachers alike.

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A Kindergarten Teacher Shows the Struggle to Keep Kids Engaged Online

Teachers have had a lot to deal with this year – even more than the rest of us, I dare say.

They’ve been forced to shift from the in-person learning model for which they trained, and that they’ve taught for their entire careers, to one that’s exclusively, or partially, taught online.

Her first video has been watched more than 7 million times and also shared on other platforms like Twitter.

In it, the teacher reveals how much energy and enthusiasm is required to get her littles to respond to lessons over Zoom, and intermittently holds up a laminated microphone to show them when to turn theirs on to respond

@kenziiewenz

my facial expressions trying to keep kindergarteners engaged in online learning #onlineschool #fyp #teacher

♬ original sound – Mackenzie

And while all teachers are struggling, those with the youngest of pupils are facing special challenges. How does one teach a kindergartener about school through a computer screen? How to you keep little minds engaged without being able to reach out and touch them, to gently redirect, to control their environment?

The answer is you can’t, and kindergarten teachers like the one who made this TikTok are having to come to grips with that – and fast.

I mean… can you imagine doing this stuff?

@kenziiewenz

thanks for all the kind words about teachers ? in case anyone wanted to stay on kindergarten TikTok here’s a lesson from today #onlineschool

♬ original sound – Mackenzie

Or this?

@kenziiewenz

snake motion for the “s” sounds and pig nose for “p” sounds ? Adding a motion to a letter sound helps in so many ways!! #kindergarten #teacher

♬ original sound – Mackenzie

People online, including some news celebs had things to say about Kenzi…

The biggest takeaway is that the teacher much be freaking exhausted at the end of her lessons for the day, but also, it’s clear that students aren’t getting an optimal experience through the computer.

Parents, watch this before you email your child’s teacher the next time. There’s a 99% chance they’re trying their best, they’re exhausted, and they wish things would go back to “normal,” too.

So please, be kind.

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This Chart Could Help You Decide What Time to Put Your Kid to Bed

Bedtimes can be sort of controversial because everyone does things differently, and yet everyone thinks they’re right.

Here’s my take: you can’t really win. Your kid is going to sleep or not according to their whims.

If you put them to bed early, they’ll wake up at the crack of dawn, but if you put them to bed late, they might still be up with the sun.

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If you miss your window, and they get overtired? Forget having an evening to watch television and veg with your partner, my friend.

If you’re wondering what the experts have to say about appropriate bedtimes for your child’s age, this handy dandy chart should be able to help.

One thing we know for sure is that kids need more sleep than adults, and not getting enough can negatively impact their ability to thrive and learn throughout the day – which is why it makes sense that an elementary school is who posted the chart to Facebook in the first place.

Helpful information!

Posted by Wilson Elementary on Friday, August 28, 2015

Parents have a lot of thoughts, many of which are that it’s not exactly possible to make these bedtimes happen for a slew of reasons – sports, illness, schoolwork, etc.

That said, I think the point is to remind parents that sleep is important, and kids who are under 13 shouldn’t be allowed to set as late a bedtime as they would like.

There’s been plenty of discussion, considering the post has 64,000 reactions, 463,000 shares, and over 14,000 comments, but the people who posted it are staunch in their belief that guidelines aren’t rules, and both have to be applied to individual children and families.

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You know your child best, and you know what scheduling demands exist in your life, but don’t forget to make sleep a priority.

Hopefully that means you’ll get some much-needed shuteye of your own!

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Parenting Tweets You Won’t Want To Miss

You can find parenting tweets all over the place, all the time, but finding the ones that stand out as the cream of the crop can be a bit tricker.

Allow us to help with that today, with these 14 parenting tweets we think you’d be sorry to miss.

14. Sometimes it can seem like the ONLY thing.

Sad but true.

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13. Or really being held hostage at all, tbh.

But here we are.

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12. No time like the present.

Sink or swim, kid.

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11. Only three hours?

She’s got a ways to go before she can writer her Tolkien-inspired saga.

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10. It’s hard lesson.

And it probably won’t really sink in for some time.

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9. Eh, I’m sure she can use the break.

Enjoy the silence.

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8. It’s important to have those private jokes with your spouse.

And your kids, I guess.

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7. Narrator: The mother did, in fact, believe it.

But she did not run the homework to school.

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6. They give and they take.

It’s going to be a long decade or so of taking, though.

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5. The worst is when you do it yourself on purpose.

The self-loathing is real.

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4. Hard to argue with that logic.

Just have a drink instead.

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3. Like she isn’t the entire point.

Kids are hilarious.

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2. I guess it took awhile to sort that out.

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1. That sounds terrible.

That is one sadistic teacher.

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Did we find you some good ones?

Tell us which one was your favorite in the comments!

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Here Are 16 of the Pithiest Parenting Tweets We Could Find

If you’re looking for some parenting tweets that will make you laugh without making you think too hard – the holy grail, honestly – they can be hard to find.

We think these 16 tweets do the trick, though, so please enjoy what we’ve gathered!

16. At least she’s learning something useful.

Just be thankful and move on.

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15. That is your right.

As a person dealing with an infant during all of this, I don’t balme you.

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14. A smart man.

Who is probably secretly going to make popcorn for the show.

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13. Stick the knife in and twist.

This might be funnier if it WASN’T true.

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12. Especially around a holiday/birthday.

Who do these kids think they are, changing their minds!

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11. Asked and answered.

I don’t know what more you wanted.

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10. I know exactly what she means.

Maybe buy her some thicker socks next time.

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9. There is no way to guess.

Not even actually seeing the fall.

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8. Let’s hope she doesn’t bust it out at preschool.

That would be an awkward conference.

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7. When you stop breathing for a minute.

It’s best to let them keep talking.

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6. She’s a practical girl.

Perhaps you’d better answer her questions before she turns the bear loose on YOU, sir.

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5. It’s really unfair that there’s no followup to this tweet.

Because now we all have questions.

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4. Ah, the sweet sounds of summer.

Or maybe spring.

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3. This honestly isn’t very funny.

Maybe it’s not supposed to be, hmm?

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2. This is also me on every Zoom call ever.

I try not to say it out loud, though.

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1. She’s not wrong.

You’ve got to admire her confidence.

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How did we do?

Let us know in the comments!

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These Parenting Memes Will Revive Your Zen

We could all use a little bit of zen these days, if you ask me, and if scrolling through a list of memes that remind us we’re not alone gets it done for parents, more power to us.

These 13 memes should make it a bit easier to breathe in and breathe out, so go ahead and give them a look.

13. As long as they can’t move their arms.

Function over beauty.

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12. Remember, this is what you wanted.

Someday it will be worth it.

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11. You don’t know until you know.

And then your heart is in your throat.

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10. It’s a pipe dream, my friends.

Maybe one day. Right when you start to miss it.

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9. Maybe just a bit.

She’ll still tell you she’s not wet, though.

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8. Then you keep walking because it’s just. not. worth it.

Seriously, it’s not.

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7. This is no lie.

It makes you want to give up.

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6. They will happily go about their day.

Until bedtime, when they will demand a snack.

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5. Every. Single. Night.

Just anticipate it and give up.

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4. You gotta show them who’s boss.

No weakness.

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3. You’ve never eaten so many apples in your life.

Can’t let them spoil.

2. Who among us has not been there.

On both sides of the scenario.

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1. Spoiler alert: they have no idea.

What’s a shoe?

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Take a deep breath, and remember to unclench your jaw, my friends.

We can do this together!

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Parenting Memes That Will Delight And Awe

Memes are one of the many ways we’re coping with the world these days, and when you’re a parent, the best way to get your laughs and distractions are in bite-sized bits – it’s all we have time for!

If you’ve got five minutes, we’ve got 14 memes that should just do the trick.

14. All kids do this.

It’s some kind of innate thing.

13. Why do they make you do that?

It’s like they want to have a mean mother.

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12. Don’t try to understand.

Just get the right spoon.

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11. Like I know people without kids can be tired.

But can they be THIS tired? Remains to be seen.

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10. I think by 3 you’ve given up.

They run the roost now.

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9. That’s a weird day, right?

It comes for all of us.

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8. It’s annoying but also funny.

Most of the time.

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7. Puts your heart right in your throat.

At least if you’re a mom.

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Dad's love playing catch ☁

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6. No. No, they’re not.

They need NEW toys.

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5. Sometimes all at once.

It’s hard to explain.

4. I don’t make the rules.

Neither do you. Get in the tent.

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Ya you do. #LifeofDad

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3. This is goals, honestly.

As is the lady pig’s whole character.

2. Bless their heart.

You just have to laugh. As long as it’s not your kid.

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1. The same people who refused to give you chocolate ever.

It’s not fair!

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I just felt my shoulders relax from around my ears! Amazing!

Which one of these made you forget your worries for a few seconds? Tell us in the comments!

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Recent Parenting Tweets That Want to Make You LOL

It can be pretty hard to find reasons to laugh these days, which is exactly why we need to hold onto the things that bring us levity like grim death.

Parenting tweets are still coming, and sure, maybe they’re a bit darker than usual in places – but they’re still exactly what we need right now.

13. Try to keep up.

Also, it just might be a concern for you…

12. They have to learn somehow.

Why not entertain yourself in the process?

 

11. There are certainly days that are more patient than others.

But nah, we don’t have time for bulsh%t.

10. Never miss a teachable moment.

Especially one that will save them friends one day.

9. Sometimes you gotta dig deep.

Positive reinforcement is important, though!

8. If you wonder why you can’t find any kid’s cups…

Yes, I speak from experience.

7. I’d say this means you’re doing something right.

Enjoy the silence.

6. Every. Single. Day.

That’s how you know they actually are listening.

5. So creative.

Who knew there were so many reasons to reject food??

4. She needs to work on her technique.

I fear the teenager she will become.

3. Someday he will learn.

Too late for it to be of any use to you, but…

2. It’s important to set a good example.

Fruit is fruit!

1. They are all of us.

That’s the only way to get through 2020.

Help me, other parents, you’re my only hope!

Which one of these hit you like a ray of sunshine? Or which one made you laugh your butt off?

Tell us in the comments!

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