Human beings are bizarre, and if you need more proof, just consider the fact that – even though we know or can easily find the rules – people will try to sneak literally anything through security at the airport.
You know, these people are the reason the rest of us are stuck in line having to pee longer than necessary.
It’s kind of funny when you’re not stuck in line, though, what these officers have found while rummaging through people’s luggage.
The Office is one of the greatest sitcoms of all time and one of the reasons people love it so much is the romance between office manager Pam and sales rep Jim.
Which may be why people on TikTok have been so excited to realize that @livvy.lady not only looks exactly like Pam (aka Jenna Fischer), but that she can absolutely nail the facial expressions during lip-sync videos, too.
@livvy.lady (college senior Liv Arentsen) says she has never before been compared to Pam (or Jenna) in real life or on the internet, but once one person said it, things snowballed fairly quickly.
She told Buzzfeed News that her sister encouraged her to curl her hair to make the resemblance really pop, and the rest is obviously history.
“I asked one of my roommates to borrow her curling wand, and the next thing I knew, I had over 6 million views and 1.3 million likes on a video of me transforming into Pam. I went from having around 300 followers to tens of thousands overnight.”
All that’s left now is for her to find her Jim, and I don’t have to tell you that the internet is insanely here for that, real love connection or one that’s just for the cameras.
I will be the first person to say that dipping pretty much anything in chocolate is a good idea. Chocolate is delicious and ranks right up there with coffee when we’re talking about foods that sustain life, but listen.
There is no way that chocolate and pickles go together unless you’re pregnant or are experiencing some sort of similar hormone imbalance, and I honestly don’t see how anything could change my mind.
There are people who feel differently (there always are), though, and so if you think you’d like to bite into a vinegar-y, wet pickle covered in chocolate, you’re definitely going to get your chance.
Malley’s Chocolate is bringing their boxes of chocolate-covered pickles back for a limited time, so I guess now’s the time to grab one if you’re so inclined.
If you’re basing your decision on what people have had to say about the product on social media in the past, well…that might not work.
Reviews tend to be a bit mixed, but more than a few of them agree that while they enjoy chocolate, and they enjoy pickles, the combination isn’t something they’d run out to buy again.
That said, this is a repeat offering from Malley’s, and the novelty can’t push sales forever, so maybe there are secret hordes of chocolate pickle lovers out there.
Or pregnant women are stocking up to last the entire nine months.
If you happen to be near a Malley’s retailer, maybe just try them to say you did – and then let us know how it turned out.
With all of the available streaming services, network offerings, and major studio releases, there’s actually no way to keep up with the content that’s pouring out of Hollywood right now. We know we’re missing great things, but unless our friends or family start talking about them and push them our way, how will we know?
That’s where we come in – we’ve rounded up 14 great shows that have probably flown under your radar until now, so take a gander and maybe add a few to your to be watched list!
14. The Crown (Netflix)
This historical drama retells the reign of Queen Elizabeth II, and as the series progresses, we get to really sink into the mid-century era, meaning the vibe is extremely similar to a Queen’s Gambit feel.
You’ll get it all with this one – romance, political rivalries, and great performances – and it’s pretty much all real.
13. Emma (HBO Max)
If you loved the star of The Queen’s Gambit, Anna Taylor-Joy, you’ll be in luck with this newest remake of Jane Austen, because it stars Taylor-Joy in the titular role.
For those of you who haven’t read the book (or seen Clueless), the story follows Emma as she uses her matchmaking skills to benefit her friends and family, usually doing more harm than good.
Even if you’ve seen remakes before, this one is fresh and feels new enough to make you smile.
12. Alias Grace (Netflix)
Margaret Atwood wrote the book, and the miniseries follows her character Grace Marks, an Irish immigrant convicted of murder.
The story is told largely through flashbacks, but is done well enough to avoid feeling busy or confused.
Like most of Atwood’s work it can be a bit dark, but worth it.
11. Godless (Netflix)
Another miniseries, this one revolves around an 1880s town in New Mexico.
A mining accident killed most of the men in La Belle, leaving it governed and populated mostly by women.
When Roy Goode seeks refuge there from known outlaw Frank Griffin and chaos (and a little romance) soon ensues.
10. The English Game (Netflix)
This is a fictional drama that’s meant to look like a documentary, and chronicles the beginnings of the sport of soccer.
The writing is lighthearted and entertaining, an easy, snackable watch.
If you’re into soccer (or not), you’ll be able to digest it easily.
9. Queen of Katwe (Disney+)
With Lupita Nyong’o and David Oyelowo starring, it’s hard to believe this one hasn’t gotten more attention. The biographical drama is about a Ugandan girl whose life is changed by learning to play chess.
Through the game, she earns a new life for herself, and the story is as feel-good as they come.
8. Endgame (Amazon Prime)
Another chess-related offering that’s sure to scratch your Queen’s Gambit itch, this series follows a former chess champion who now uses those same analytical skills to solve crimes.
It’s a fantastic premise and the writing and performances really deliver on it, too.
7. The Devil All the Time (Netflix)
This one is heavy, I’ll admit, but with Tom Holland, Bill Skarsgård, Robert Pattinson, Sebastian Stan, and Henry Melling (Dudley Dursley) rounding out the cast, it’s a must watch.
The cast of characters are not good people whose lives begin to intertwine, and though dark, the characterizations are worth it.
6. Thoroughbreds (Amazon Prime)
Anna Taylor-Joy stars again, along with the late Anton Yelchin, in this dark comedy set in a wealthy Connecticut suburb.
The two female leads conspire to kill one of their stepfather’s, hiring a drug dealer to do the deed.
You’ll be on the edge of your seat the whole time, and we mean that in a good way.
5. A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood (Starz)
If you can’t get enough of Fred Rogers, you’ll want to watch this movie, which follows investigative journalist Lloyd Vogel as he profiles the man himself.
Lloyd’s own skepticism is challenged, then finally overcome by Mr. Rogers’ gentle encouragement and it will bring you back to those calming childhood afternoons.
4. The Marvelous Ms. Maisel (Amazon Prime)
You might have heard people talking about this one from time to time, and for good reason.
This series, set in the mid-century, follows an “ordinary” housewife who learns she has a penchant for stand-up comedy.
The cast of characters is adorable and vast, and combined with a tight script and quick jokes, makes this one easy to binge.
3. Mrs. America (Hulu)
This miniseries is about strong women – Gloria Steinem, Shirley Chisholm, and Bella Abzug – on their way to achieving the great things they all deserve.
If you love stories about women who get where they’re going because they absolutely deserve to be there, you can’t miss this.
2. Years and Years (HBO Max)
Another miniseries, this one following a family over the course of 15 years following a fateful night in 2019.
The characters’ lives change due to political technological, and personal advances in the world, and explores the good and bad events that could very well shape our future.
1. The Great (Hulu)
This fictionalized retelling of Catherine the Great bends genres and has you feeling the full range of human emotions, sometimes all in one episode.
It stars Elle Fanning in the title role, and her performance depicting the charming, beautiful, and deceitful Catherine is as good as anyone could ask for – you might even find yourself rooting for Catherine to succeed.
Argh, so my own list just got a little longer, too.
What’s the undiscovered gem you’re always foisting on family and friends? Share it with us in the comments!
I don’t like secrets. They kind of eat away at you, like they have a life and mind of their own and just can’t wait to emerge into the big, scary world and do their damage.
Sometimes they come to you when you don’t ask for them and sometimes they’re the result of your own dubious decision-making, but either way, we feel like we have to keep them close for as long as we can.
These 14 people are admitting to sitting on some pretty juicy ones, so check them out.
14. I…wish I had not read this.
I walked in on my ex girlfriend.letting the dog lick her out while she brushed him. It was clinical as f**k, it was “the only way she could get him to not move while she brushed him”.
Zero enjoyment on her face. It was multiple levels of odd.
13. What a mess.
A good friend of mine is Indian and gay, which she knows her family won’t accept. She about to have an arranged marriage to a man, who is also gay.
Neither of their families know the truth and are excited about the upcoming wedding. The groom’s boyfriend is part of the wedding party.
They plan to have children via ivf at some point.
12. You can’t trust people.
I know his kink, he knows mine. It’s basically mutually assured destruction if either of us ever turns into that big an a$$hole.
11. What a horrible woman.
My stepmom threw away a family heirloom that was gifted to me to make my already poor relationship with my dad worse.
I didn’t figure it out until many years later, but my dad has passed now and she was never popular with any of my family or any of his friends to begin with.
10. A huge understatement.
I had sex with my mormon boyfriend before and after he went on his mission, and also either directly before or even after he’d proposed to his now wife (he didn’t think it was particularly important to tell me that he’d found a good mormon fiancé in another town already).
This is a big no-no in the mormon church.
9. Some secrets shouldn’t be kept.
One of my brother’s military friends sexually assaulted me while my brother, his friend, and one of my friends were hanging out playing pool and drinking. My brother knows because I told him the night it happened. My family also knows.
The dude is married and has three kids. Initially my brother was furious and talked about shooting the guy, but now they’re friends again and the reasoning he gave me was “everybody cheats.” Except none of it was consensual and I’m not a piece of s*%t.
His wife showed up in my “People You May Know” on Facebook and I’ve contemplated telling her.
I plan on telling the wife, and yes, my brother cheated on his partner to be with his current wife. He’s also in the military and that’s how he knows the douche in question.
8. They need to be outed.
Not sure about life ruining, but basically someone spammed another person with what they thought were anonymous death threats + told them to kill themselves, then fled the platform they did it on and now are fairly successful on another.
Definitely weird knowing someone’s a shitty person + having evidence and several witnesses while their fans / friends dont and think they’re a sweetheart.
7. She better watch her back.
One of my coworkers smokes meth at work. In the last three months I’ve found probably half a dozen pipes she’s left behind because she’s too fucked up to remember to hide them. About a month ago she started leaving these passive aggressive notes (usually when the boss shows up) about how she’s the only one who does her job
I showed her the folder on my phone and told her if she leaves another bulls*%t note for me to read, I’ll call the boss, then I’ll call DHR.
6. I hate this.
More like a secret amongst me, my mom and siblings, but it’s how abusive my dad used to be. Still is but he has improved.
My brother barely even speaks to my dad anymore, he caught the majority of the abuse when we were teens.
Mum passed away 2 years ago and since then he has stopped majority of his abusive behavior. Whether of not it was intentional or not I haven’t figured out.
But every now and again I’ll just have flashbacks of all the violent and aggressive bulls%*t he pulled.
5. Time to sober up.
Wouldn’t really ruin his life but it would be embarrassing.
One of my buddies is a furry, like a massive furry.
I was looking for some old call of duty videos we made in like 2009, I was just searching the old Gamertags, trying to figure out where they were and a page for a furry website popped up.
It had all his basic info on it, with an up to date age, I looked around the page and found an IRL pic from his room that I recognized. It had like 8 years of almost daily uploads/interactions on there.
Haven’t told anyone, can’t really.
Not going to be the guy that just bullies him or tells our other friends, he’s not hurting anyone. But I’m also not gonna tell him I know, cause that would be mad awkward.
I’m terrified I’m gonna let it slip when I’m drunk.
4. This is downright hilarious.
My mom is the most straight laced, uptight person you can imagine and she works very high level financial jobs for the government.
What no one else knows is that she has a tattoo on the back of her leg of a bear with p**ises instead of legs- like where it’s legs would be there are just massive d**ks. She wears tights or pants to cover it all the time, as far as I know I’m the only person that knows about it. She was a very wild teenager and met up with an “aspiring tattoo artist” (aka rando with a tattoo gun) in a hotel room to get a tattoo of a bear when she was 16- the guy got a little excessively creative and gave her a bear with dicks for legs.
It is so vulgar that if anyone saw it I think there’s a good chance she’s lose her job, or at least have some serious explaining to do. I once asked her why she doesn’t get it removed and she says it’s her “symbol to her stupid youth”.
3. That poor girl.
The family of a good friend (let’s call her Ashley) is very religious. To the point that they only let her go to school or out with people they approved (I was the “good girl” who was allowed to go out with her to have fun) So, I was with Ashley during her rebellious stage in which She got into everything her family hated, got piercings, drank alcohol, dated guys (there was a video of her in a threesome that we had to delete from a guy’s cell phone), and even has a couple of tattoos.
The point is that she is now of legal age and her family treats her as the exemplary girl that she never gave problems with the minors of the family. She is in a 1-year relationship with a boy from church that they approve of and with whom she “had no relationships” because they are expecting marriage.
If they knew the things she did in her adolescence, they would completely disown her, she would take away all the financial stability that she has from her since she continues to live with her parents. And all her neighbors would stop talking to her because her father is the pastor of the church.
2. As long as they’re happy.
My friend who got married (to a girl) is gay.
I live in an Asian society where being Gay is still stigmatized.
He told her he was mostly gay and interested way more in men than women in their first year of marriage. Divorce is also very stigmatized. They have a secret open relationship where she is free to pursue whoever she wants and the same applies for him.
They are currently in their 60s. Both are like each others best friend and are very close.
From what I can tell, they are happy with each other. Just not romantically.
1. He must know.
One of my closest friends went to an Ivy League college. He very much acts like it on a regular basis.
I know (but he doesn’t) that his parents bought his way in. His grades were far too mediocre.
Human beings are just so complicated, y’all.
What horrible secret do you wish you weren’t keeping? Confess in the comments!
Becoming an adult is rough, and it seems as if there are some times in life – usually in transition periods – when people really start to question whether or not live in general really means much of anything in the long run.
What is life without a few existential crises, am I right?
These 13 people are recalling the moments in life when they couldn’t wait to sleep because of what was on tap for the next day…and the times when they woke up thinking about when they would be able to go back to sleep.
13. Growing up is hard to do.
once you go to middle school. middle school is way more stressful than primary school, because suddenly you have a bunch of homework and everything is way harder.
also your peers start to be total a$$holes on purpose
12. You have to figure it out.
People don’t know how to transition to adult life and to make meaning for yourself. There’s no longer someone telling you, “This is what should make you feel good about life.”
I think if people grow up with oberbearing parents then it’s not an easy transition. I think parents that allow their kids some responsibilities and freedom of choice/repercussion will typically find this transition easier.
For pretty much the same reason you said, some times kids have had almost every decision made for them up til that point.
11. That’s a good day.
Mine went the other way when I stopped drinking ! Not waking up hungover is exciting haha
10. Find some space to breathe.
Probably during university, I had lectures, revision, working a job and somehow trying to have a social life.
It was then hectic for a few years following university until I eventually just accepted i was burnt out and gave myself more downtime. I feel its much better now.
9. Something to aspire to.
Not yet.
I’m 63 and still happy every morning because it means I have another day. If you’re tired just make yourself get out of bed, brush your teeth, get dressed, and go about your day. Usually it’ll be better than you feared when you didn’t want to get out of bed.
8. Some people it hurts to lose more than others.
When my great grandma passed away.
7. What about your birthday?
I think the only time I ever was “I can’t wait for tomorrow” was when I was little and wanted Christmas Day/Santa…
6. What a ray of sunshine.
When we realized dreams are bullshit, life sucks, people in general are terrible, and things will not get better, they only become gradually worse.
5. Ain’t love grand.
Whenever my partner gets home from a month away at work. Everytime he gets home, I have plans of giving myself a facial, shaving my legs and getting a good night sleep.
I do all of those things except the last one, cause I’m so excited to see him.
Lucky he still loves me when my face looks like a butthole.
4. Damn the man.
Around the same time capitalism went from ‘work hard and you too can be rich’ to ‘work yourself to the bone and you might be able to survive another week.’
3. Family is everything.
When I stopped sharing things with my friends and family.
Something bad happened to me and I shared it with all my dear ones. Not only they didn’t gave a damn but also they thought I am seeking attention cause “it is normal”.
2. Life is full of ups and downs.
Honestly? During my twenties I was deeply depressed, so that was a brief time it happened. Then I met my fiance, and I was always excited to get to tomorrow. We live together now. But this year has been… I don’t know.
He and I are doing fantastically, but I feel like there is no hope and I genuinely just want to stop existing, or jump ahead, or SOMETHING. It’s difficult to picture and plan for a future when it feels like everything is so uncertain.
1. On an even keel.
I don’t have this feeling anymore since I started taking care of my mental health (medication, meditation, exercising, trying to eat a healthy meal, setting a sleep schedule, and no devices before bed).
I was definitely in this mindset during undergrad and grad school, but I think something changed this year when I started doing things I like again, like knitting, painting, dancing, and all of this is outside my work hours.
It’s a tough spot to be in, but I wholeheartedly believe we can get out of the rut. We just have to find the help we need.
I have to say, whichever stage you’re in, you have to know that the other one will come back around – if being a parent has taught me anything it’s that life is nothing but a bunch of stages.
What say you on this topic? Our comments are open!
Growing up comes with a lot of pains, whether it’s the physical ones of our youths – aching legs and the like – or the emotional scars that we accumulate with years of living.
One of the things that changes without our even noticing is sleep – we used to love going to sleep, right? It felt so good, but mostly, we were excited for one thing or another that was coming up the next day, and sleep was the best way to get there.
Now, sleep is something we can’t help, the thing that we live for in and of itself, and when did it change?
I remember being so excited to be going to the water park the next morning that I ran up the stairs to bed, tripped on the way and sprained my ankle.
Little did I know that that was a metaphor for life.
14. Is that all?
After 25 years I finally found the solution to my insomnia. All I have to do is exercise at least an hour a day, meditate at least 2 hours a day, eat super healthy with no alcohol / caffeine / sugar and keep a super strict bedtime schedule because even going to bed 30 minutes later one day will fuck my sleep up for a couple of days.
I feel stupid for not seeing this super obvious solution in front of me this whole time and I guess my sister was right when she said it was my own fault that I can’t sleep.
13. No magic bullet.
This is me. I stay up late because if I sleep then work comes quicker. So I stay up late to enjoy more of my free non-work time and then I am tired af the next day.
People will say “then obviously you hate your job”. No, my job is actually pretty good, it’s working I don’t like. If I had my way, I wouldn’t need to work, but since I like not being homeless, I work. There is no magic job that will make me like working or look forward to working.
Best I can hope for is not hating my work and just being a little tired a few times a week.
12. Those things can be taxing.
First full time job.
ive been at 45 hours a week and I hate life now tbh
customers are also genuinely stupid and corona makes them dumber somehow
11. Where’s the middle ground?
As a kid I got excited about Christmas and my birthday and would have a hard time falling asleep due to excitement.
As an adult I have a hard time sleeping because I don’t want tomorrow to come.
10. What choice do we have?
I love these threads because it always makes me realise that I’m not alone and that helps validate my feelings. We’ll get through it together internet fam.
The phrase in the question “too tired to exist” hit home. Its not that you’re physically tired, it’s a weird level of mental/emotional exhaustion that I didnt know existed until it was an inescapable part of life.
9. Idk I though college was fun.
high school.
Ever since high school started, I went to bed hoping I don’t wake up the next day. I’m in college now
8. They do seem to coincide.
The same day that hangovers go from aa mild annoyance to ruining your whole week.
I would say 25/26 is the standard transition period. So everyone should learn which type of alcohol their body doesn’t like, before this age.
7. That’s just too early.
Sometime in high school for me.
I could never sleep in, because the bus left at 6:30
Also when i realized school is only about passing tests, and not the actual learning anymore.
6. That’s the dream.
You’re talking about restorative sleep? I’m envious.
It’s gotten to the point in my early 30s where I genuinely can’t remember ever feeling refreshed and raring to go, fully rested etc.
Always either a mild headache when I wake up, or my eyes ache all day randomly, or feeling a bit jetlagged all day, or physically drained. Never just great, never energized.
6 hours, wake up twice a night, 7 or 8 hours straight, doesn’t matter. I still feel unslept in some way.
5. A reason to get through.
High school, I’d say 11th grade specifically. I’d wake up every morning thinking “I can’t wait to go to sleep tonight”.
4. Whenever that happened.
When you started dealing with way too much shit without properly taking care of your physical/mental/emotional/spiritual wellbeing.
3. What a beat down.
I think it has happened twice for me. The first time I was 13 yrs old and the school counselor pulled from gym class to tell me my mom died in a car accident. After a few years, I felt better and started joying life again.
Then, I joined the service and I got told I was worthless by my supervisor daily and that I was a disappointment to my family. After that, I have struggled really hard to find the light in my life.
2. Wow, that’s early.
Around middle school when things stopped being new and interesting and life turned into a tedious grind.
1. Work isn’t…great.
Age 22 seems about right.
Basically the transfer from college to working full time… Life changes pretty quickly and just kinda fades away like a limp d%*k.
I’m pretty sure it changed for me when I had kids. Just saying.
When did sleep change for you? Confess in the comments!
In America, people flex about being a “workaholic” – someone who is always plugged into their job, who works way more hours than they get paid for, who can’t put work out of their mind, and who even prioritizes work over family, friends, and their own mental health.
In other parts of the world, like in much of Europe, those traits are frowned upon and not terribly common. People take long vacations with their families and are expected to have a healthy balance between their jobs and their person lives.
These 13 Redditors are weighing in on whether or not this whole “healthy balance” trend could find a place in American culture.
13. Like that ever did any good.
“You shouldn’t do X because otherwise people will expect others to do X”.
Which is the problem, X or the expectation of it?
The expectation. So direct your complaints at management.
12. It certainly can be.
Or managers should just hold people to normal standards of productivity, regardless of whether or not another employee is working more often or harder. Sounds like a management issue to me.
11. Happiness is key.
I make hiring decisions from time to time, and I never hire workaholics. Hard workers, yes, but not workaholics. Happy employees are more fun and easier to work with, and workaholics can easily poison a work environment.
10. Management definitely needs to take a hard look in the mirror.
I feel like management either totally overworks their employees or underworks their employees. I’m on the opposite end and this whole month basically working from hone it’s been super slow for me, to the point where last week I literally just layed on the couch and worked for maybe 2 hours all week.
Had a meeting with my manager and once question he had for me is my workload is too tough.
9. Some people need boundaries.
In Japan it was such an insidious social pressure that they would have to make new laws or shut off lights after hours so people would leave work at the end of the day. I think that seeing being a workaholic as something positive is kind of destructive.
It’s different if you are passionate about your own business, though.
8. How easily they forget.
To add on to that, corporate should remember what it’s like to be the workhorses. They’re the ones that put the pressure on management, which is then passed down to the employees. All corporate is concerned about is making money.
They forgot all the work that goes into generating all that revenue.
7. Or if you do, you should make more money.
Because a society that views this positively, expects it. People who strive for a good work/ life balance shouldn’t be made to feel that they should do more.
6. The whole culture is whack.
I totally agree about the hostile work environment part. It opens the door to employers adding unreasonable workloads to their staff. I was in a salaried retail management position for several years and my bosses outlook was “if you can do your job in 40 hours good for you go home” but then would dole out 70 hours worth of work
The people getting promoted were the ones who worked 80 hour weeks. Completely unrealistic and not conducive to having a family. The salary was good for 40 hours, and complete trash for more than 60. I took a 9-5 that pays hourly and I couldn’t be happier with that decision
5. Some people don’t want balance.
Its pretty clear who in this thread works retail/other shit jobs vs people who work high paying or otherwise fulfilling jobs.
Newsflash, for some of us, our work is also our passion and what we feel is our purpose in life. I spend all day figuring out how to keep community and other rural/low income serving hospitals/medical practices viable.
Day in day out, I get to work on saving a communities hospital so they don’t have to drive 3 hours through the backroads to deliver a kid.
If that takes me 100 hours a week, so be it, I get to do the right thing and I make a bunch of money doing it.
4. Maybe salaries are the answer?
It works both ways. I’ve been salaried for over 20 years. Some weeks I’ve worked 70 -80 hrs and others, I’ve worked 30. Some, I haven’t worked at all.
My hours aren’t set in stone, I don’t clock in or out, and I’m paid according to my position and completing tasks – whether it be in the office, on a job site, driving, or whatever else I may be doing. My salary is based on 50 hrs per week, but it’s rare that I work more than 40.
I honestly don’t really pay attention.
I’m up extremely early, and in the office by 6 am, so I can avoid a couple of hours of distraction. I generally leave around 3:30 or 4, and I rarely work past noon on Friday.
Hourly positions, by and large, require you to be there and be seen working and performing a set list of duties at all times.
This isn’t to say that all companies have the same work culture, but I know many that do, and I’ve heard some horror stories about those that don’t. That’s the great thing about a free market. You can choose to stay in a job you hate or seek out a better situation.
3. There is always a downside.
One of the most common regrets on people’s death beds is having worked too much in their life, instead of taking time off to be with family or cultivate a hobby or travel and have another passion.
There are positive benefits to working, of course, such as more financial stability, and staying mentally active as well as socially connected. But too much of it is often bad, even if the person worker doesn’t realize it in the moment.
There are people who are probably harming themselves by working so hard, and being indoctrinated to think that that is the measure of a person’s value. I know people who work 12 hours a day and acknowledge this.
There’s a gigantic downside, and everyone has to work, but there are other things in life.
2. To each their own.
I think the problem for me is not that we shouldn’t look down on people who dedicate too much of their lives to their work and have a poor work/life balance, it is instead that if you mention to these people that you do not work late, or work weekends, and instead opt to pursue hobbies and passions during your free time then in my experience you are lambasted for being “lazy” or “not driven”.
Of course, it depends on who you are and if you love (hate) your job, starting a business etc but I absolutely would not have a go at someone for how they choose to use their time, just don’t come whinging to me about how you do not have time to work out or cook meals any more due to a lack of time and energy.
1. Or not…
Well because in this instance, being a workaholic, once normalized, gives additional power to business owners and changes the standard in their favor, like how the proliferation of college degrees has made degrees the minimum now and hiring managers won’t have to worry about employees leaving or asking for promotions because they are in student loan debt slavery and need a paycheck more than they need career power.
Do you want to be competing with a majority of workaholics? Not a workaholic? Less opportunity.
If everybody thinks they have to be a workaholic or corporations expect workaholics, and that then becomes the standard. More production from them with their new workaholics, but you know damn well sure they aren’t going to be paying them more.
Take your vacation days, people. Your employer would replace you in a heartbeat if you died.
This is a question that’s getting more and more traction in the age of cancel culture. Because of things like social media, movements like #metoo, and the twenty-four hour news cycle, we’re learning more than ever before about the creators behind some of our favorite products.
It’s not as if we’re unfamiliar with this concept – Hemingway, Roman Polanski, Woody Allen, and like, a bunch of people from old Hollywood were all jerks, and yet somehow, their work manages to stand on its own.
Nowadays many people seem reluctant to still enjoy a book or movie or television show if it’s attached to someone we later learn is a horrible human being – but should it be that way?
Its also very selective who we ostracize and who we don’t.
For example the msm wants to cancel Marilyn Manson yet the Grammy’s invited Cardi B (drugged and robbed men) to perform
11. It can be done.
One ought to be able to hold in one’s head simultaneously the two facts that Dali is a good draughtsman and a disgusting human being. The one does not invalidate or, in a sense, affect the other.
The first thing that we demand of a wall is that it shall stand up. If it stands up, it is a good wall, and the question of what purpose it serves is separable from that. And yet even the best wall in the world deserves to be pulled down if it surrounds a concentration camp. In the same way it should be possible to say, ‘This is a good book or a good picture, and it ought to be burned by the public hangman.’
Unless one can say that, at least in imagination, one is shirking the implications of the fact that an artist is also a citizen and a human being. -George Orwell
10. Some people do seem to largely get a pass.
I’d like to point out that everyone loves Michael Jackson still, and elvis presley, and lena Dunham. As well as how many rock stars that had groupies that were underage or barely legal that they’ve had s^x and done drugs with.
Another one is if we took all the movies Harvey Weinstein every had anything to do with off of the face of the earth that would be so many. Yes they’ve done horrible things but does that mean I’m not going to watch a movie or listen to thriller every again or that I condone what they’ve done no.
Am I going to buy their personal memoirs and be an obsessed fan no. I think thats the distinction if you’re enjoying their public works thats ok but when you start buying all their merch and reading all their biographies and the like then thats when you became part of the problem.
9. Those decisions are tough.
I dislike Kevin Spacey as much as the next person but there’s no way I’m disregarding all of his iconic performances.
Even to this day, I maintain that continuing House of Cards without him was a big mistake. Just canceling the show right then and there would’ve been perfectly understandable.
As excellent as Robin Wright was, she was only a half of that show.
8. It’s a slippery slope.
One thing to consider about this opinion is that if we start to consider more of the art over the artist (their behaviour/life/deeds) then it becomes a way of life where we actively encourage and contribute to that behaviour by sponsoring them through their art.
It’s like paying more for an author’s (outstanding, unparalleled, very enjoyable) works but the work of someone who outright ostracises segments of people. Slowly it may turn mainstream – that’s how usually propaganda works. Or marketing. And monopolies. Or addiction.
First they hook people in with good freebies, then with lower prices, and then before we know it, people are addicted.
I mean, that’s how money laundering works at many levels too.
7. There’s no easy answer.
Seinfeld went on Colbert discussing the issue regarding Bill Cosby.
What I find so memorable is how easy it is to follow their reasoning, and as much as I respect these men as comedians, I disagree so vehemently about their conclusion. The climax of Seinfeld’s documentary, Comedian, he meets his #1 inspiration and hero, Bill Cosby.
Fast forward to this interview, and he dismisses the very art that got him to where he is now.
6. For some, it’s really that simple.
Meh. I don’t help professional a$$holes make any money off of me.
Tom Cruise is dead to me.
5. Maybe it just takes time.
I mean, we literally do the same thing for past figures and cultures.
4. For some, it’s black and white.
Upvoted because it’s actually unpopular. I completely disagree. I never look at it, read it, listen to it, feel it ever, the same way again.
Guess I’m weird for monsters still affecting me in this day and age.
3. Enjoy it, but don’t give them money.
Okay, but here’s the thing. I love Gary Glitter’s cheesy goddamn music, but I do not want that sick creep making a dollar off of me, so I scrupulously do not stream his music nor would I purchase anything of his at retail.
Same with Polanski. Rosemary’s Baby is a riot, but I watch my second-hand dvd and I do not stream it, even though it would be convenient.
2. If you wanna get deep…
This is a moral dilemma that has existed since time immemorial. People are complex individuals and in the end you can only answer this question in the absence of emotions, but emotions are needed to look at and feel art.
Someone should be subjective and objective at the same time and not lose their mind.
1. Human beings are complex individuals.
Agreed. HP Lovecraft was a vile racist excuse for a human. He’s also the father of modern horror genre. Both these things are true. I love his writings and I hate him, especially for what he named his cat
I think this is a super tough question, and I think the answer is probably (annoyingly) “it depends.”
What are your thoughts? We really want to hear them down in the comments!
We’ve all been to garage sales (or yard sales or tag sales, depending on where you might live in the country), and surely we’ve all visited a pawn shop or a thrift store or had something handed down in our family through the years. They’re a cheap way to find something we need that’s new-to-us, and they’re also ways for us to rid ourselves of things we no longer need.
People in NYC have taken this concept to the streets with a practice called “stooping,” where they simply set things out on their stoop with a sign saying it’s free to take – and these 13 pictures of things people are stooping might have you hankering to take a walk through the streets.
Or, they might have you wondering why anyone would want something like that.
That’s the beauty of people, and of stooping, right?
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