People Talk About Their Favorite Tips About Being Street Smart

No matter how confident you are about keeping yourself and others safe, the truth is that we can always learn more – and you know, refreshers are never a bad thing, either.

So whether you’re about to step out for the first time on your own or are just trying to remember what your parents taught you all those years ago when you were traveling alone for the first time, you’re going to love this list of 15 solid tips.

15. “How’s the motorcycle club?”

I “answer” my phone with “hey dad I’m almost home.” If there’s a creepy guy too close.

I also have a specific friend who I know is an insomniac, and if some one is being sketchy on the train I am on late at night, I will ring him and be all “Hey hun, almost home now, want me to pick up food?” “Aww you didn’t have to come meet me at the station”

He rolls with it every time, he is a great fake husband.

14. So many reasons why.

Don’t walk around staring at your phone after dark. It’s immensely stupid.

1: It lights up your face from a mile away like a dumb, distracted easy mark.

2: You aren’t at all aware of your surroundings, even if you believe you are. We’re nowhere near as good at multitasking as we assume.

3: If you suddenly DO need to look up at impending danger, your eyes are adjusted for bright light rather than darkness and you won’t be able to clearly see who’s around you.

13. Confidence is key.

Act like you live wherever you are — like you know the place. Like you know exactly where you are going. I use a wheelchair and do this whenever I travel. I figure out where I am going before I venture out.

If I am lost, I duck into a store or restaurant in order to look at my phone or ask directions. Be focused on the direction you are going and don’t act like a fucking tourist. Ironically I feel much safer by myself when I can act like this instead of when I’m traveling with some clueless friend or relative who has to stop for pictures every 20 feet.

I rarely, if ever, get approached for money or anything when I am by myself. But throw in my dumb aunt Susan and we’re brushing off weirdos all day long.

12. Don’t be an easy mark.

Theres this reflex people have when bumped up against. They will immediately go and check where ever they keep their wallet/money.

So sometimes pickpockets will send in recon people who will just kinda get a little too close and bump into people. Then the actual pickpockets can see where you check and go for that pocket.

11. People don’t change.

If anyone ever makes the conscious decision to steal anything from you, never trust them. Ever. If they will steal a lighter from you, they will steal your weed, your money, your jewelry, your car, you name it.

Stay away from stupid motherf*ckers. They’ll get you in legal trouble, hurt, or killed despite their best intentions or how friendly they are.

IF you sell drugs, dont get sloppy. Sloppy = weakness and somebody WILL set that ass up.

1 dollar bills stack up over time.

If u broke, a bag of potatoes is like $2.50

Backing down from a fight may hurt your ego but will keep you alive longer.

That being said, sometimes u gotta fight… Pick your battles wisely.

Not every one who calls themselves your friend is your friend. Not everyone you call a friend, is a friend.

If you even think for one second u should bail… Get the f*ck up outta whatever situation u are in immediately.

If you accidentally disrespect someone, apologize immediately. Buy them a beer/offer a cigarette. Ive seen this save lives.

More often than not, loud people bring the noise, quiet people bring the guns.

That being said, never underestimate how bad somebody wants to “prove” themselves.

AND watch out for “livewires”. A livewire is somebody who gets hyped up and excited eazy. Will shoot first, never ask questions.

If you aint from the streets/hood/ghetto, dont act like you are.

If an older, street knowledgeable person tells you “dont do/ dont go (fill in the blank)” dont f*cking do it.

Smoke weed. Dont fuck with any type of powder.

If the blunt is already rolled, dont smoke it.

NEVER EVER EVER FIND OUT WHAT SOMEBODY HAS IN THE TRUNK

Finally

Look, Listen, and Learn.

10. So interesting – and helpful!

Saw a TV show where ex- street con artists told of the tricks people use, so that viewers could guard against them.

In some train stations, bus stations etc there are advertising posters (put by the police or local authorities) warning people against pickpockets. “Do you know where your wallet is?”

People see the poster and immediately move their hand to the pocket where their wallet is, to check it was there. And by doing so they give the location away to the pickpockets, who are watching.

The people on the show said that posters like this helped the pickpockets more than it reduced crime.

9. Just in case.

Count every possible exit in any room you enter. I sometimes also scan for anything I could use to defend myself if need be.

8. You don’t know them.

Don’t worry about hurting someone’s feelings over your own safety. If it feels wrong, it is wrong.

7. Crazy people are too much trouble.

Talk to yourself, you’ll make even the craziest f*cker nervous.

Pacing around and angrily muttering to your phone will keep even the dodgiest of crackheads at bay.

6. It’s a small thing.

Walk confidently and with your head up. If you walk around like a victim you will eventually become a victim.

Don’t let anyone think they can mug you or tease you and get away with it. Because then they will, and they will get away with it.

5. Follow the leader.

Watch how locals walk at night alone in a big city: head down, wearing mostly black, quiet, hands in pockets and not making a scene. While still being aware and knowing exactly where they are going. Being loud or weird in any way only draws weirdos and drug addicts to you. Usually people will only try to rob you or fuck with you if they see an opening. Don’t show them that you have one.

The second I see someone wearing bright colors, looking around for where to go or being noticeable in any way I can instantly tell they aren’t from around here. So can the thieves and criminals.

4. Is this a real thing?

Golden Rule of the Street:

Respect the Street, and allow the Street to respect you.

Walking with purpose is a major factor for the latter.

3. Or you know. One.

Never break two laws at once. Got something in your car that’s illegal? Better not be speeding, stop completely at red lights…ext.

2. Because they respect an imaginary dude more than you.

For girls, make up a fake boyfriend to get creeps away. If you’re being followed, don’t freeze up and just keep walking. Go into the nearest fast food place or store.

Keep your eyes forward and don’t look at people. And please, for the love of god, don’t stop in the middle of the sidewalk.

You need to be standing still to be mugged, and its easier to be grabbed if your not moving. If someone tries to stop you, keep walking. They ask the time, check your watch, tell them but do not stop walking.

1. Ah, yes, the city face.

Count the room. Count the exits.

City Face: Don’t look happy in a dense area on the street. Look slightly pissed. If you have something to be happy about, that’s something someone wants.

 

I had definitely forgotten some of these.

What else are we forgetting? Tell us in the comments!

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People Share Their Best Tips for Being Street Smart

I grew up watching Tommy Boy a lot, so of course, I know the difference between book smarts and street smarts – and recently, John Mulaney has been refreshing us on those, too.

Street smarts are what you need to survive in the wild, as an adult (whatever that means) without getting hoodwinked (or worse) while going about your daily life.

If you think you could use a few more of those, here are 18 tips from people who (claim to) know.

18. Get that hard expression down.

Look like you’ll fight back.

Not so much that it looks like you’re issuing a challenge, but just so that anyone looking to get the twenty bucks in your wallet will wonder whether it’s worth the effort.

The not issuing a challenge thing is important. Because people looking for a fight will go for you, and you end up looking like your in fight or flight mode in a fish out of water way.

You don’t want to look naive, but you don’t want to look concerned either. Just another day for you

17. Don’t ignore your instincts.

Situational awareness. Look up the OODA loop and learn it.

Notice who stands out, who looks out of place. If you get a bad feeling about a situation or person DO NOT ignore it.

Know your exits. Even if you have a weapon yourself, getting out without having to fight is best.

16. Protect your skin!

Buy a daily moisturizer with sunscreen in it.

15. Know your exits.

Especially the exits and gut feeling thing. Our brains subconsciously pick up on things that we don’t really acknowledge or know in the moment, so that gut feeling that you should leave is most likely correct because of the little details that are causing you to feel that way.

Also, know not just the main exit, but other exits that are less obvious. You won’t have to fight through a crowd and will get out faster and easier.

14. That’s knowledge everyone needs.

Security guards, doormen, food cart owners, and blue collars in general, know where the closest bathrooms are.

13. Keep a cool head.

Here’s some more details I’ve learned from my tactical self defense program. OODA loop: observe, orient, decide act. Notice something?

Look at it, decide if you should get involved, then act on that decision. Cooper color code: white is not paying any attention, yellow, aware but relaxed, the ideal situation. Orange is the beginning of the ooda loop. You noticed something and it has your attention. Red you have decided to get involved, black and you’re too in shock to react to anything.

Then the reflex four: visual pat down checks if someone looks anxious or threatening, is wearing the wrong clothes like a long coat in July, weird bulges in clothing, actually showing a weapon on them, etc. exits means knowing where you can get out, whether is be a main exit, emergency or window. Also scanning your area for force multipliers, which are any item you can pick up and throw or hit with, or can shove an aggressor into.

At a restaurant these might be plates, glasses, utensils, a menu, the leg of a chair, a corner or table. Finally, if you see something concerning, look for accomplices/sympathizers. These would be people who came in together or make frequent eye contact, are dressed similarly, or standing together.

It seems like a lot but basically it’s making an effort to be like Shawn Spencer from Psych, and pay attention to the details around you.

12. It’s a little thing.

If you are a woman and have a handbag with a zipper, make sure the opening end is towards the front (where you can keep an eye on it).

This prevents someone walking behind you from opening your handbag and taking your wallet/anything valuable.

11. Not down at your phone.

When walking always look up.

They never do this in the movies, and that’s where the zombie spider which from Mukilteo is hiding, right above you.

10. They’re your things, after all.

Other bag/pickpocket related tips:

If you’re waiting for a train or bus, try to stand with your back against a wall so no one can sneak up behind you. Especially a good idea if you’re wearing a backpack.

If you have a cross-body or shoulder bag, keep it in front of you. I know it’s more comfortable to push it behind your arm or let it rest on the back of your hip, but it’s super easy for someone to take something from it without you noticing if it’s not in your field of vision.

9. Not good for my audiobook habit.

DO NOT WEAR HEADPHONES!!!

You make yourself an easy target by making it so even the most clod footed mugger can sneak up on you.

8. Don’t just hand over your phone.

If you are a tourist and want a local to take a pic of you with your phone either have it be an employee or someone you can outrun.

Wear one headphone so you can still hear whats around you

7. Protect your valuables.

People make pickpockets’ livelihood so easy. Just check out how many phones are in people’s back pockets, how many handbags dangle by the side, easily accessible.

Always put valuables in an inside, preferably zipped pocket. If you in a notorious pickpocket area like Paris or Naples, you can even carry a fake wallet with monopoly money in an outside pocket.

6. Many things can double as mirrors.

I use windows/reflections to check who is behind me.

Looking at a shop window while I walk is innocuous enough, but it allows me to check if someone is still behind me without me turning around.

5. Public toilets can be hard to find.

Hotel lobbies are great places to use the restroom. They are usually clean, safe, and hardly ever occupied as most guests will go up to their own room instead of using the public location.

On a side note, I’ve found it’s best not to go to reception and ask if you can use the toilet because they sometimes say no. Just walk in like you’re staying there and know where you’re going and follow the signs for the toilet

4. Follow the mothers.

If I’m in an unfamiliar city, I’ll explore freely every neighborhood as long as there are women and kids around. Most mums don’t hang outside with their kids if the street/area is unsafe.

This worked very well for most throughout Latin America, Europe and Asia.

3. Always pay attention.

Basically, just be aware of your surroundings. A lack of situational awareness can lead to some bad things.

Use windows as mirrors to see your blind spots or check behind you. Know where the public places you pass by are, like grocery stores or convenience stores.

Listen close to your own footsteps, and know that sound. This way, you’ll be able to hear other footsteps behind or around you and pick up sounds easier.

Never wear headphones or earbuds and never look distracted by your phone or something else. This is all to help you with situational awareness.

2. Keep your friends close…

If you want to know if you can trust somebody you let in your home, leave a $5 bill in a place that looks like it was forgotten about and that they would see it.

If they’ll take you for $5 now, they’ll take you for more later.

1. Don’t worry about people’s feelings.

I am a 60 something female who travels extensively alone for work. I have had a few close calls but my rule is I don’t worry about offending someone that approaches me if there aren’t others around.

I will cross the street, head for an open establishment, get away. Panhandlers, do you have a cigarette guys, don’t let them get close to you if there’s no one around. I keep my keys in my hand and say if you come any closer I’m going to push this alarm.

I was heading for the airport early in the morning with luggage and a creepy guy drives by asks if I need a ride, I say no, he goes down to turn around and is coming back. I saw a restaurant worker down the next block having a smoke so I yelled to him. Hey I might need some help here and he ran down to stare the guy down.

I don’t hesitate to ask a security guard to walk me to my car. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Be aware of your surroundings!

Definitely going to keep these in mind the next time I’m wandering about alone.

What’s your favorite “street smarts” tip? Drop it in the comments!

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Ex-Convicts Discuss the Hardest Habits to Break Once They’re Back on the Outside

Surviving life in prison requires a person to adapt – at least, you have to somewhat if you’re going to survive and emerge as some semblance of the person you were when you went in.

On the flip side, when you’re set to get out of prison, I imagine it could be tough to readjust, and to drop the habits that got you through behind bars.

If you’re curious what the hardest habits were to drop once released from prison, these 14 ex-convicts are here to share.

14. This sounds awful.

Hoard feminine hygiene products. We were super limited on the number of pads or tampons they gave us. They didn’t give any to the women in holding cells.

There was dried and fresh menstrual blood on the floor and concrete benches, and a drain in the middle of the rooms like they intended to hose down the room, but if they did it was not often enough.

13. All of the choices.

Not me personally but I know a guy that said after he got out he just wanted McDonald’s.

When he got there he spent 20 minutes staring at the menu trying to decide what to order because he wasn’t used to having choices.

12. I never would have thought.

I didn’t use a fork for a few weeks. Ate everything with a spoon without thinking. It’s not the most interesting thing but I hadn’t noticed it posted here.

11. No need to defend yourself.

Staring at sharp things. Like there’s no desire to use them inappropriately but you are just kinda shocked they’re there and available for use.

You might be surprised what qualifies as a sharp object. I remember whenever someone tried to hand me a knife or something to cut veggies Id be afraid to touch it.

Glass was the biggest thing though, just mirrors in all the bathrooms. real ones. I could smash that shit and have a big jagged weapon, i cant believe this italian restaurant has such a dangerous thing in their bathroom. stopping thinking of objects as weapons is hard

10. Find your optimism.

Constantly looking over my shoulder. By far the hardest conditioning to break, which I haven’t and doubt I ever will, is the constant pessimism and cautious optimism. You see, when you’re waiting to work your way through court, get a deal, and get sentenced, you will have your dates changed 50 times, hope for certain things only to be disappointed, and any time you are told something hopeful it doesn’t work out.

As a result, I never get excited for something until it actually happens. When my wife told me we were pregnant (I already knew from her symptoms that she was but still, you never know for sure till you take the test), I was obviously happy, but because I’m always cautiously optimistic and rarely show emotion, I couldn’t feel comfortable or excited until I knew that my developing daughter was healthy. Even then, it didn’t really hit me till she was born.

You can apply this to anything especially big events. Getting engaged, planning the wedding, buying a house, ANYTHING. I still hear from my wife how i wasn’t crazy surprised or excited to be having a kid. I was, I actually was the half of the relationship who was dead set on a kid when my wife supposedly could’ve gone either way.

You just can’t get your hopes up or look forward to anything until it is here or has happened. I’ve been home over 7 years now and with my wife for 6.5. She’s truly the catalyst that motivated me to truly change my life and to not give any more of my life to the system, but she’ll never know how happy she makes me because she misinterprets my cautious optimism/realism for pessimism or indifference.

9. Not eating like an animal.

One of my foster sons came to us from juvie. Every meal his arm was around his plate and he woofed down his food. My mastiff couldn’t keep up. He always ate back to the wall hunched. Took my wife and I a month to show him no one would take his food and we had plenty more.

Funny part is he went in the Marines and did 8 years got out honorable and is now working in corrections.

8. Don’t save it for later.

I had to completely change my sense of time. I agree with all the people who said they ate super fast, but then we would slow walk back from the chow hall- any excuse for a few minutes more outside.

I made sure I never consolidated enjoyable things. If I had a snack- I ate it and concentrated on it. If there was something good on TV, I watched it. Now, I’ll snack while I watch a movie because there aren’t enough hours in the day- but on the inside I was trying to make hours and days go away.

I’ve got a good job now, and nice respectable friends, but I still react to confrontational situations more quickly, decisively and… efficiently than they do. I’m able to pull back at the last minute, but it’s pretty clear that violence is not a tool in their arsenal.

7. Hard to imagine.

Taking a sh%t with my underwear up to my thighs to hide my junk.

It took a long time to go back to pants around the ankles.

I forgot it wasn’t normal until my girlfriend pointed it out.

6. A luxury, for sure.

Taking as long as you want in the shower.

For the longest time after I got out, I took less than 5 minute showers.

My friend did two and a half in Florida State Prison.

Said the first thing he did when he got home was shower until all the hot water ran out.

5. A short list.

Not wearing shoes in the shower.

Eating with forks and knives.

Having salt and pepper for food.

Not always having to watch your back.

Being able to get food when you want it, and just get up and leave to go for a drive or something.

4. You can just do it.

I spent 72 months in prison for a tragic car accident that I had caused.

After I was released I kept telling my wife exactly what I was doing without her asking.

She thought it was funny at first but after a few weeks of it she was starting to get bothered.

3. As good as cash.

I don’t smoke, but every time someone offered me a cig I would pocket it.

On the inside thats a bartering chip, took me about a month or two to break

2. It was too quiet.

Not an ex con but my step dad has been in and out of prison for the majority of his life, he always said that whenever he gets out of prison you’re so use to to it being loud all the time that when he got home he couldn’t sleep because it was so quiet.

1. A laundry list.

I eat fast.

I don’t sit with my back to the door in public.

I always scan crowds constantly.

I question WHY people are nice to me.

I carry extra clothes, water, and various other things in my car in case I need it. (Not a hoarder but harder to get rid of stuff)

I don’t like being away from home overnight.

I also quit eating boiled eggs, I over season my food, and I refuse to drink Kool-Aid anymore.

I don’t know why life in prison is so fascinating to outsiders, but it definitely is.

If you’ve got firsthand knowledge, tell us in the comments what you would add to this list!

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Random Ways That Gay Men Met Their Boyfriends

Some of my favorite love stories are of gay couples overcoming adversity to find each other, despite the numerous roadblocks that society has constructed.

After all, who didn’t love Schitt’s Creek?

Sometimes they might have to look in unconventional places, but it’s good to know love is out there.

Here are 13 random places gay men found love.

1. Sometimes all it takes is a kiss

There’s a reason the lyric goes, “It’s in his kiss.”

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2. It’s nice when you can find someone in high school

Because school is hard enough without one more thing.

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3. After graduation, you might consider joining a gym

I personally hate the gym, but it seems like a good place to meet buff guys.

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4. If the gym is too intense, you could join a sporting club

If I had known there were skee ball teams, I’d have been a lot sportier.

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5. And then of course there are nightclubs

And strip clubs.

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6. It’s ok to spend your 20s pursuing interesting professions

Apparently it’s more common than you might think.

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7. Jumping out of a birthday cake is optional

Jumping out of a wedding cake would be next level.

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8. If clubs aren’t your thing, there’s always the internet

And so many apps.

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9. Like, SO many apps

An app for every occasion.

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10. There’s an app for that too

You just never know.

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11. And if apps aren’t your thing, there’s always games

The trick is to find your tribe.

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12. And for the truly brave-at-heart: just make a connection

TikTok, Twitter, Instagram. Any DM will do.

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13. Or make a connection in person

Fruit and veg can be extremely erotic.

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The truth is, you just never know where you’ll meet your special someone–but to find them, you have to put yourself out there and be ready to embrace love.

Do you have similarly fun stories about meeting your BAE? Tell us all about it in the comments.

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