A Video Blogger Asked for Comparisons to Today’s Tough Times. The Internet Delivers.

The past year has definitely left many of us feeling unsettled and uncertain.

During times like these, it can help to look to the past to find hope about our future.

One young woman, Cleo Abram, turned to TikTok looking for comfort.

Appealing to the older crowd in a video posted under the handle @cleoabram, she said:

Ok here’s my question: it feels like this particular moment in history is really hard. It’s a global pandemic after all…

So, if you’re 50, 65, or older (80! 95!), could you tell us about a time that felt similarly uncertain? …

I want to know what it felt like, and I want to know what you learned.

Check out the video…

@cleoabram

been thinking about this a lot and wondering if there’s anyone older than me out there (50, 65, 75, 80!) who can help ❤ #learnontiktok

♬ Lofi – Domknowz

Many commenters responded that these are unprecedented times and despite their age, they’ve never seen anything like it.

Others exhibited the same lack of concern that has become all too familiar.

But some users patiently described the struggles previous generations faced, a good reminder that we have lived through history so far, and we’ll get through this too.

Some reflected on the earlier civil rights movement, the origin of similar movements today:

“1968. There was civil unrest all the time. Martin Luther King Jr.’s assassination, riots in the streets of Washington, DC, Bobby Kennedy was shot and killed, more violence. A few weeks later — the Democratic National Convention, nothing but riots and violence. And the Vietnam War still raging! ’68 was not a good year, but by ’69 we had man landing on the moon and Woodstock and things started to get better. We got through that. It was rough. We’ll get through this. It’s rough, but we will survive, we will thrive. Hang in there.”

—@heardeverything

And more than one person mentioned Apartheid:

“I grew up in Apartheid South Africa as a person who isn’t white. We had no idea if the oppression would ever end. Violence was rife. But we got there.”

-@quarkum

And the lessons learned:

“I’m 58 and I grew up in Apartheid South Africa. I learned that things can go from fearful and hopeless, to positive and hopeful with good leadership.”

-@rhyder.savage

Memories of the JFK assassination echoed what we will probably tell future generations about the attack on the Capitol:

“A time in my life when I was really afraid was when President John F. Kennedy was shot. I will never forget that day. I was in geometry class when we got the announcement over the loudspeaker, and we were devastated. We didn’t think our country would ever heal or survive from that horrific event because we all loved President Kennedy.”

—@brunchwithbabs

The Cold War was also a popular theme, which shows that some things never change.
The nature of the specific threat may differ, but the players are still dancing the same dance:

“When I was a kid, we lived in the DC area and my dad worked there. He was also in the Navy. I can remember those years during the Cold War when he would come home and there would be such an air of seriousness and uncertainty. Uncertainty causes a lot of stress and anxiety, and we knew things could change at any second. After the Cuban missile crisis, we had the arms race, and that was the only time I can remember this degree of uncertainty. Other than that, I don’t remember another time with this level of stress.”

—@tjthompson06

Although no one mentioned the 1918 pandemic, many users recalled the AID crisis of the ’80s:

“The HIV/AIDS crisis. I was a child when it broke and it scarred me for life. The adverts were horrific. Nobody knew what caused it when it first happened. People thought you could contract it from sitting on a toilet seat or sharing a cup and predominantly from gay people because it was hitting that community the hardest. It was horrific…but we got through it because we followed the science.”

—@newforestsara

Another user reminded us that the threat of climate change isn’t a new concern:

“From ’77 to ’79, we had the worst drought in California and also had people shooting each other over gas. There were the hostages in Iran. In first grade, I learned the destructive power of nuclear weapons. In high school it was HIV, fear of being gay, and just not knowing what the world was going to look like. Then, in ’89, the wall came down. Every generation goes through its bad times and we get through it. Having gone through what I did as a young person gives me perspective about what we are going through now. It will get better.”

—@blameebner

Nor is domestic terrorism, although it never stops feeling shocking:

“I’m 55 and I grew up for the first 34 years of my life living in N. Ireland during the ‘troubles.’ It was very scary at times and has left many scars.”

-@user45787591 Alan Johnston

And a few users passed on their grandparents’ experiences in WWII:

my grandma during ww2!!! she told us that they even escape in the middle of the night using a boat from one island to another. & changed their surname!! she’s 11 at the time and it was very scary for them. she’s 90 now!

-@nelykahr

This one really hit home:

I’m just 40, but I grew up with my grandpa, a WW2 vet (he passed in 2005). To him, every event in his life was either “prewar” or “postwar”.

-@tjdimacali

Honestly, that feels like the most real answer of all.

We will get through it, because humans are resilient, but for many of us, our lives will forever be defined as “pre-Covid” and “post-Covid.”

What about you? Do you have any wisdom to impart about similarly stressful times in human history? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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When a Scammer Got Between a Woman and Her PS5, She Got Even

We are all looking for good internet deals, especially with things being so expensive or hard to get.

And we all know that if a deal seems too good to be true, then it probably is.

But sometimes people need a life-experience reminder to be cautious about what they buy over the internet.

It doesn’t usually work out as well as it did for artist Brittany Everette.

It all started when she couldn’t find a PS5 for sale–and she really wanted one.

So she decided to try an after-market deal she found through Twitter.

Everything seemed legit, so Brittany paid half of the price up front, and then waited anxiously for her new system to arrive.

There were red flags almost immediately.

They had agreed she would pay the rest on arrival, but he needed it sooner.

The sick kid angle seems like the oldest trick in the book, but Brittany has a good heart and decided to trust him.

He just had to send her concrete evidence that he’d mailed the gaming system.

He agreed, and again, it seemed legit, so she helped him out and paid the other half.

As soon as he had her money, though, he blocked her on Twitter and deleted her from his phone.

She was devastated and no one could help. Not her bank, not Apple Pay.

Brittany had made a terrible error in judgment, and she was down, but she wasn’t out.

Not yet.

She tried to contact him again, and this time she gave him an ultimatum.

Still, he ignored her.

So what could she do, but come up with a plan to torment him?

He even kept changing his username which seems like a lot of work, especially if you’re going to scam more than one person.

Clearly the guy wasn’t a professional.

Armed with that knowledge, Detective Brittany was on the case.

Remember the saying “Criminals are stupid”? Well, this fella didn’t cover his tracks very well.

Brittany even found his email address.

Then he really slipped up.

Whoops. Wrong move, buddy. Should’ve just gone dark.
Instead of filing a police report, she made up a law firm called PA & P Legal.

And then she contacted every email address she had found, including those belonging to his family members.

While Brittany will admit that her email was obviously fake, it’s a lot more official and professional sounding than the fraudulent voicemails I get these days.

Anyway, she turned off her phone and went to relax for awhile–until her scammer started trying to contact her husband.

Then the story takes quite a turn. The fiancée was not at all amused.

Mr. Con Man reached out, full of apologies and “woe is me.”

It seemed he was full of apologies, but not much else. He still “didn’t have” Brittany’s money.

So she tattled on him to his fiancée.

TL;DR: She warned him. And she got her money back.

Some commenters suggested she should have asked for MORE money, but she replied that then she would have been just as bad as he was, and although she still wanted a PS5, she was happy to just get her money back.

When asked what she learned from the experience, she said:

that ima just have to wait until 2025 for this gaming system bc I’m never buying from a reseller again ???

The first moral of the story is, don’t try to take advantage of people.

The second moral of the story is, don’t settle for being taken advantage of.

Can you believe this crazy story? Would you have had the patience to con the guy into giving you your money back? Tell us in the comments!

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This Guy Refutes That the Gender Pay Gap Is a Myth and His Video Went Viral

People don’t really like to talk about money. Whether because we think it’s rude or because we don’t understand it, as a species, we’re not super comfortable with it.

But most women who have had a conversation with a male coworker on the taboo subject of salary can verify that the gender pay gap is very real. Still, sometimes I guess the world needs a man to prove it.

Like many head-scratching things, the gender pay gap has been turned into a political issue.

So it came as little surprise recently when Dennis Prager, a radio personality and socially conservative political commentator popped off about the issue, describing it as a myth.

Dennis Prager asks Why would any employer employ a man?

Image credit: TikTok

He posted his patronizing bad take on TikTok, but the backlash was so intense that he has since deleted his account.

One response came from James Ray, who uses his account @jamesgetspolitical and his economics degree to combat misinformation on social and political issues.

In his video, which has almost 2 million views and has been shared more than 10 thousand times, James quickly and eloquently explains two reasons the employers still hire men, despite them costing more than women: customer bias and hiring manager bias.

Both often lead to women losing out on jobs to men, or to being paid less when they do land the job.

You can watch the full video here:

@jamesgetspolitical

Labor market time ? #greenscreenvideo #leftist #liberal #democrat #women #FindYourCore #fyp #4u #reply #politics #usa #money

♬ original sound – James Ray

When interviewed by Bored Panda James explained his video response to Praeger.

“He spews very hateful unfounded rhetoric to his audience and I think the disinformation and overall problematic nature of his content have made me dislike him considerably!”

The artful take-down was not the only one on James’s account, either.

His account is full of critiques of bad takes, like this one, where he explains why popular arguments against a minimum wage increase are silly:

@jamesgetspolitical

Econ tea time #greenscreenvideo #leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #money #ChipsGotTalent #economics #education #lesson #teacher

♬ Lofi – Domknowz

And this one, about making Washington, DC a state:

@jamesgetspolitical

Can we stop treating the founding father’s like Gods idk #greenscreensticker #leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #TikTokGGT #DC

♬ Spongebob – Dante9k

He also responded to a white dude who was emoting on why everyone’s hating on white dudes:

@jamesgetspolitical

#stitch with @itzbengee I actually might know! leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #history #education #MillionActsofLove

♬ original sound – James Ray

If you are progressive or want to learn about progressive politics, you’ll enjoy his videos.

What do you think of his explanation of the pay gap? Are you ready to join the fight or do you have your own hot take?

Let us know in the comments.

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Dog Owners Can’t Wait to Try a Robotic Pooper-Scooper

I remember when I was young, my dad had to walk around the yard every weekend scooping up all the dog poo before he could mow the lawn.

Sometimes I had to do it too, and you could always tell when the dog had gotten hold of some crayons…

Well now it seems like there’s a robot for every unpleasant task–vacuuming, mopping, even cutting the grass–so of course it was only a matter of time before someone invented a robot that scoops the poop for you.

You read that right.

The scrappy start-up Beetl Robotics, led by CEO Xiong Chang, has developed a prototype for a machine that will rove through your yard picking up all the little presents that your four legged friend left behind.

Their Facebook page, which explains that the robot will deposit the doo into a compost bin, shows the development of their design over time, from this early concept…

…to a finished product that debuted at the 2017 CES (consumer electronics) trade show, where Beetl placed 3rd for Best Tech:

The company follows the Agile method of product development, which allowed them to deviate from their original design to make the concept even better.

According to their website:

We iterated on our robotic poop-scooper idea to add lawn mowing functionality.

We opted for a sickle-bar grass shear mechanism to get the added benefit of releasing the clamshell jaws from long grass.

All navigation was processed via computer vision and advanced sensor fusion.

Consumers are very excited about this technology, but unfortunately it can take a long time to get from concept to market, so the Beetl isn’t available for sale yet.

Still, I love a good robot, so sign me up when it is. What do you think about this idea? Do you need one for outside, and another for inside, to pick up your kids’ toys before you run your Roomba? Tell us in the comments!

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The Department of Defense Is Evaluating UFO Data That Might Be Released to the General Public

Anyone who grew up on “The X-Files” can’t help but think that “the truth is out there” was more than just a catchphrase.

And as it turns out, we could finally begin to learn a little bit more of that truth very soon.

I’ve never seen a UFO, unless you count the cow-abduction road signs in New Mexico.

But I definitely think it’s a little bit silly and hugely egotistical to assume that in the whole vast cosmos, our planet is the only one to sustain intelligent life.

It turns out, the U.S. government has seen enough unexplained evidence that they think so too.

Who that’s heard the audio of Australian pilot Fred Valentich’s encounter and subsequent disappearance can deny that something has visited us?

The U.S. government doesn’t refer to them as UFO’s anymore.

Maybe that’s considered a little too hokey and little-green-manish now, so they instead describe them as UAP or Unidentified Aerial Phenomena, which can take in a broader range of encounters.

Just last year, after videos filmed by Navy pilots was leaked to the public, the Department of Defense established a new task force for investigating these phenomena, or UAPTF.

Not only that, but Popular Mechanics reports:

When Trump signed the coronavirus relief and government funding bill into law in December 2020, it contained the IAA for Fiscal Year 2021, which means the UAPTF must report its findings to Congress by June 25.

That’s June 25 of this year.

The Director of National Intelligence who served under President Trump at the time went on Fox News recently to talk about the project, and it sounds like he’s a believer too, stating that the reports will cover:

[UAP that make] “movements that are hard to replicate that we don’t have the technology for, or traveling at speeds that exceed the sound barrier without a sonic boom. In short, things that we are observing that are difficult to explain.”

The note about the sound barrier is particularly relevant.

Image credit: U.S. Navy, via Flickr

Here’s why, according to Popular Mechanics:

When an aircraft increases its speed, pressure waves build up on it and eventually coalesce into a single shockwave. When the plane outruns that shockwave and travels faster than the speed of sound in air, it causes a sudden change in pressure, which in turn creates the sonic boom. There’s no publicly available scientific data to suggest any aircraft can break the sound barrier without producing a sonic boom; while engineers can take steps to try to reduce sonic booms, physics says it’s impossible to outright eliminate it.

Which means that if the government has proof of aircraft that defy physics, then they have proof of civilizations more advanced than our own.

And so, although a watchdog group will be evaluating how the Pentagon handled UAP reports:

the Pentagon itself will be busy this month reviewing all the data they have been collecting under the UAPTF project ahead of that June deadline to release the information.

And it’s not all going to be blurry videos and darting shapes, either. There’s actual concrete data.

According to a source from The Debrief, a contributor to Popular Mechanics:

“Some of the best evidence acquired has come from measurement and signature intelligence (MASINT), rather than from videos or still images.”

Suddenly I’m on the edge of my seat waiting for summer!

What do you think? All an elaborate hoax, or FINALLY some transparency?

Let us know in the comments!

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These Border Collies Replant a Burned Chilean Forest

Herding dogs are smart and high energy.

When we first met ours at a rescue shelter, she was so excited she raced around the yard in circles like a cartoon Tasmanian devil.

That combination of energy and intelligence makes Border Collies the perfect breed for a very special and unexpected environmental task.

Meet Das, Olivia, and Summer:

They live in Chile, where in 2017, fores fires decimated the landscape.

TreeHugger.com described the fires in El Maule in stark terms:

The worst wildfire season in Chile’s history ravaged more than 1.4 million acres early in 2017, destroying nearly 1,500 homes and killing at least 11 people. More than a dozen countries sent fire-fighting specialists to help battle the dozens of destructive blazes.

According to Green Matters, the damage was estimated at $333 million, but the loss of trees and their impact on the environment as a whole is likely immeasurable.

It will take decades to regrow the forest land–but first, new trees must be planted.

Enter sisters Francisca and Constanza Torres and their three Border Collies:

Together, they train the dogs to race across the forest floor wearing backpacks full of native seeds, which they purchase with their own money.

As the sheepdogs run, the seeds spill from holes in their special doggy bags, and spread out where they can begin to take root and regrow the once-lush environment.

It may seem like work to humans, but for the dogs, it’s just a raucous good time.

In an email exchange with Mother Nature Network, Francisca explained:

“They reeeeeally love [it]!! It’s a country trip, where they can run as fast as they can and have a great time.”

And when their bags are empty, the dogs return to their owners for treats and cuddles, and a refill on the seeds.

It’s quite the sight, to see the dogs bounding through the scrub.

And it’s a good thing they have so much energy. According to Green Matters:

This system is also more efficient than having people spread the seeds manually. These speedy canines can race through a forest and cover up to 18 miles a day. Humans, on the other hand, can only cover a few miles each day. These pups can scatter over 20 pounds of seeds, depending on the terrain.

Johnny Appleseed, watch out!

They may not be able to cover the entire forest, but the work these very good girls are doing is already paying off.

The BBC even did a story about them:

It seriously blows my mind to think that two women and their gorgeous pups are changing the world all by themselves and in such a big way.

This Earth Day it makes me wonder, what more could I be doing? What about you? Did your heart just grow three sizes like mine did? Let us know in the comments.

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Someone Summarized All the Self-Help Books into Steps We Can All Follow

Everyone is looking for that certain key to success, that one thing that will make life easier, better, and more fulfilling.

That’s why the self-help industry has boomed, not only in recent years, but honestly, for all of human history.

But all those books can basically be boiled down to a few timeless, solid pieces of advice.

Self-help books are published by the fistful, with a new one really seeming to take off every decade.

There was The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People of the 1980s to Who Moved My Cheese? in the late 90s, and on to the woo-woo mysticism of The Secret in 2006, and don’t forget Girl, Wash Your Face from just a few years ago.

To save you the time of reading widely, here are 11 important lessons from the self-help canon.

1. Do unto others…

Seems like obvious advice, but honestly, it’s true.

No one wants to work with a jerk.

Image credit: Ryunosuke Kikuno via Unsplash

2. Don’t rush to judgment

Like your mom always told you: Don’t judge the book by it’s cover and all the other sayings you can think of about behaving with a level head–especially where other people are concerned.

Image credit: Tingey Injury Law Firm via Unsplash

3. Embrace adversity

During one workplace motivational event we were told, “Embrace the suck,” and this philosophy is pretty solid.

Disappointment, challenge, and hardship will happen.
Prepare for them, expect them, and then–overcome them.

Instead of pretending everything is fine, admit that it’s not, and move on.

Image credit: Daniel Velasquez via Unsplash

4. Perfect isn’t possible

Perfectionists are constantly disappointed.

Or worse: They hold themselves back because they’re too afraid to try.

Image credit: Jonathan Hoxmark via Unsplash

5. Think positive

If you can dream it, you can do it.
If you can conceive, you can achieve it.
If you can see it, you can be it.

There is something to be said for these axioms. To find success, you need to focus on the desired result, and work backwards, and sometimes: rewire your brain to cut out negativity and just believe.

Image credit: Josh Reimer via Unsplash

6. One small step for man…

Many self-help books are about the power of forming healthy habits, because baby steps can add up to big things.

And repetition is the key.
(Maybe that’s why there are so many books on the subject.)

They say it takes something like 3 weeks to form a habit, and 3 months to turn a habit into a lifestyle.

Image credit: NASA via Rawpixel

7. Play can be powerful

Whether it’s recharging because we’re all burned out by working from home, or simply to spark creativity, the experts say that play can be a really important tool for becoming your best self.

Me, I’m rediscovering Lego.

Image credit: Kelly Sikkema via Unsplash

8. Take care of your body, take care of your soul

You can’t be your best self or do your best work, unless your most basic needs are met.

Humans require food, water, sleep, exercise, companionship, and security before they can devote much energy to self-actualization.

Image credit: Kaylee Garrett via Unsplash

9. Live like you’re going to die

It’s pretty simple. We have a limited number of days. Don’t squander them.

Remembering that your time is finite can give you an incredible sense of purpose.

Image credit: Danica Tanjutco via Unsplash

10. Make a list–check it twice

We have too much going on in the world to keep it all in our heads. So get organized.

Make a plan, write it down, and then remember the 3 D’s: Do it, Defer it (schedule it!), or Delegate it.

Image credit: Daria Nephriakhina via Unsplash

11. Most importantly: Do the things

You can make all the plans you want, but at the end of the day, you have to do the hard work.

There are no shortcuts.

Image credit: Brett Jordan via Unsplash

Many of these ideas weren’t new to me, but it’s always nice to have a refresher.

Personally, I’ve been trying to let go of perfection and embrace play. Which rules could you focus on?

Let us know in the comments.

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This Hand-Made Darth Vader Grill Will Ensure Your Next BBQ Is a Big Hit

Summer is almost here and as long as the cicadas don’t get you, that means grilling season!

Star Wars fans take notice, nerd culture is alive and well, and there is a grill or fire pit out there just for you.

Etsy is simply the best for shopping small and finding incredible hand-made crafts, and this grill is no exception.

Artist and entrepreneur Burned by Design from Barnsley in Yorkshire, England has designed a grill and fire pit in the shape of Darth Vader’s helmet.

The charcoal grill is completely unique!

As described by Delish.com:

The grill is about 17.3 by 17.3 by 30.7 inches, and comes with three chrome-plated swivel racks.

and because they are hand-made to order, they take about a month to deliver.

But just look at the Imperial glory that could set your next backyard cookout above the rest:

I mean come on:

And if The Betrayer isn’t really your Star Wars jam, there are other wood-burner options to choose from.

So whether you’re a fan of Boba Fett, R2D2, or the Mandalorian, there’s something here for you.

Prices range from in the $600s for a smaller-sized wood burner to the $700s for the Vader grill and all the way up to $1200+ for some of the larger spacecraft-inspired fire pits.

That’s right. You can hang with your friends and watch for meteors seated around your very own Death Star.

And just in case you are more Rebel-Alliance-minded, there is a Millennium Falcon fire pit, too.

I think I’ve been doing summer wrong for years. Time to hit up Etsy.

What do you think? Did these make you long for summer and nerding out with your BFFs? Tell us what you think in the comments.

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A Comedian’s Drive-Thru Revenge Story Went Viral, and People Say “I’d Do That!”

You know how there are certain urban legends that spread across the internet and they always feel vaguely familiar?

Sometimes that’s because they are all too real, and we can all relate.

And sometimes they’re just too good to be true.

Recently comedian Nelly Zenani went viral for posting an incredible story on Facebook.

At first it looked like he was doing a turn-the-other-cheek kind of thing, but stick around for the twist ending.

When I got to the last window to get my food, I showed the assistant both my receipts and took her food too!

I paid for it, it’s mine! Now she has to go around again and wait even longer.

She gonna learn today!

Many commenters were not amused by this little stunt. They felt Zenani should have been the bigger person.

But nope… he wasn’t. And that’s hilarious.

But personally, I gotta say, if I’m having an emergency, I’m not stopping at the drive-thru.

For the record, it almost always seems faster just to go inside.

Have you seen the lines at Starbucks and Chick-Fil-A?
Pandemic aside, if you don’t have time to wait, don’t get in line, is all I’m saying.

Whenever funny stories like this one come around, some people immediately want to do them.

And a lot of people doubted it was true, but still find it hilarious anyway.

Because yes… people actually ARE this petty.

Does that mean everybody believed him? Nope. But they didn’t get too deep into it…


.
Multiple users tagged their friends and agreed they should try it together sometime, which almost makes you wonder if the story keeps going around because different people are actually inspired to try it.

Real or not, the story obviously strikes a chord with people, and there’s usually a grain of truth in things, right?

I’d love to know the origin story of this one.

What do you think–worth a laugh or annoying remix? Let us know in the comments.

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A TikTok User Asked for Examples of Men Who Are Insecure, and the Video Went Viral

We all know some guys who have to prove how masculine they are.

There are the old jokes about the size of his car proving that he’s compensating for something.

American men especially are brought up to perceive a very narrowly defined definition of masculinity as “right.”

Recently, a TikTok user challenged those assumptions when he asked his followers what their biggest indicator was for a man feeling insecure in his masculinity.

@richtiktoxic

Stitch or Duet me with your favorite indicator!! #stitchthis #toxicmasculinity #peab

♬ Esco Like Yhop ft. Shawn P – Èsco Upp?

He also provided his own answer.

“I’ll go first. As soon as a man refers to himself as an ‘alpha,’ …”

In many circles, this is referred to as toxic masculinity.

Buzzfeed explains:

According to dictionary.com, toxic masculinity is defined as “a cultural concept of manliness that glorifies stoicism, strength, virility, and dominance, and that is socially maladaptive or harmful to mental health.”

Here are some of the top responses that @richtiktoxic, a photographer and environmentalist, received:

Mal: when they lift their cars/truck unnecessarily high to make their vehicle look bigger (laughing face with crying eyes). RichTikToxic: THIS.

Image credit: TikTok

A lot of the responses shared similar themes.

One indicator was an obsession with money:

“When they get upset at how much money you make.”

-@marin.hope

“I made more money than my ex, so I would pay for things. But he wouldn’t let me pay — as in, he wouldn’t let me physically hand my card over to the server. So when the server would come, my ex would look me straight in the eyes and say, ‘I got this, babe.’ Then, he would hand her my card.”

-@toxicatok

Another common theme was emphasizing their straightness.

Zsuuuuu: being weirdly specific about how he's not gay.

Image credit: TikTok

“When they refer to themselves as ‘super straight.’” —@reggieherold

A very common theme centered on a general aversion to anything associated with being female.

Redd: When they refuse to talk about anything relating to eMoTiONs because it's too girly.

Image credit: TikTok

“When he says, ‘Periods are gross.’”

-@basicminiwheats

“Whenever they find ANY reason to discredit women’s issues.”

-@nigelmylesgordon

Zeke Yeager: Refuse to do any form of self care because it's only for woman (rolling eyes emoji)

Image credit: TikTok

“When they hate or dislike something for the sole reason for it being a ‘girls thing.’”

-@cm12k

Many women found it was a big red flag if the guy won’t help you out with your bag.

user8830742952726: Omggggg if they refuse to hold your purse. (frowning face)

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And of course several reasons just fell into the category of having a generally gross personality.

“Whenever someone gets off on hating everything and constantly projecting toughness. I was like that when I was, like, 15, and my entire personality was a device to try and convince people I was tough in some way. Like, if a new song came out, I had to assert that it was terrible.”

-@cwelz_

“When they won’t date a tall girl.”

-@user715430319797

“Owning guns is a personality trait rather than just owning them.”

-@vicki.lester

“It was when he said ‘I’m the BOSS in this relationship’ for me ?

-@ninjaskuxx

These would definitely all be red flags for me. What do you think? What is the most obvious indicator for you?

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