If You Grew up Poor, What Were the Unwritten Social Expectations? Here’s What People Said.

Growing up in poverty has to be very tough on children.

In addition to going without material things, there are also certain expectations that they had to deal with because of their lack of money.

If you grew up poor, what unwritten social expectations did you have to deal with?

People shared their thoughts on AskReddit.

1. Ugh.

“I once told some friends we had mushrooms growing in our house. I thought it was cool. My mom was angry and told me to never tell anyone again. I realized as I got older why she was angry.

The floor of our house was rotting…thus the mushrooms. But she couldn’t afford to get it fixed. She was worried CPS would take me away for unsafe living conditions.”

2. Private.

“Do not answer the door. Do not answer the phone.

When the man is looking through the window, make sure you can’t be seen.

Do not tell anyone who knocks on the door where the parents work.”

3. Not enough to eat.

“Not eating lunch because it you either “just ate breakfast” or “dinner’s only a few hours away you’ll be fine”.”

4. No extra money.

“We weren’t allowed to do any kind of extra curricular activities.

So, no instruments, no joining any kind of sports or girl scouts or anything that required an upfront investment for uniforms or the season. Walmart shoes.

My dad once said I wasn’t really in need of glasses, that I just wanted to look like all my four eyed friends? lol (spoiler alert, totally needed them)

Off brand everything.”

5. We’re not trash.

“Keep your hair brushed, your clothes clean, and be articulate and polite in all circumstances. We were not going to be “trash” just because we were poor.

Also, no wearing ripped jeans, even if it’s the style. We’re not spending money on new pants that look like old worn out pants.”

6. Hot and sticky.

“A/C was only for company.

I lived in South Florida and didn’t know I could use the air conditioner without having someone over until I moved out of my parents’ home.”

7. Go cheap.

“If someone buys you food at a restaurant order as cheaply as possible even if they tell you order whatever you want.

Used to get glares from my parents if I ordered something 10 bucks or over at a place where average prices was 10 bucks.

If you can get a burger and fries for 8 you better be eating a burger.”

8. Better not get caught.

“Don’t do anything bad or illegal.

But if you do, don’t get caught.

Bail is expensive. Lawyers and court fees are expensive.”

9. Say nothing.

“Never tell your friends that you couldn’t afford food or give them any clue about what it’s like at home.

My mother used to ask me if I told anyone how we live and that’s when I questioned our situation.”

10. The rules.

“Never see a doctor or go to the emergency room unless you are actually d**ng.

And, if you touch the thermostat you will be d**ng.”

11. Don’t waste anything.

“Nothing wasted!

Mom had a dish called mixed-up stew which was basically a little mince beef, mashed potatoes and any leftovers from the fridge.

Good menu planning – she never called it that but one meal led to the next with last’s night leftovers included. Failing that, she always had a soup on the go using bones from chicken, dried barley and, yet again, leftovers.

Thing is they were all delicious, but that could be me just remembering her fondly.”

12. Not worth the bother.

“You never brought the field trip permission slips home because you knew better than to make your mom feel guilty she couldn’t pay the $5-20 fee to let you go.”

What are some more unwritten expectations of growing up poor?

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People Admit the Basic Facts They Learned Embarrassingly Late in Life

I had a friend who said something when we were in college that kind of blew my mind.

Someone referred to a celebrity as a “primadonna”, meaning someone who has a huge ego and is really impressed with themself.

My friend said he thought that term meant someone who was around “pre-Madonna.” Like the singer…

Hmmm…well, let’s just say we all had a good laugh at that one.

AskReddit users admitted what basic facts they learned WAY too late in life.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Ohhhh…

“I was 23 when I learned I was allergic to apples.

Someone was complaining about their throat closing up after s**king, and I responded with “oh yeah like when you eat an apple?”

You can imagine how the conversation went from there.”

2. A great drink.

“In my mid 20s I moved up the food chain from server to bartender at the restaurant I worked at. Someone ordered a Roman Coke. I didn’t know what was in a Roman Coke so I told him so and but that I would figure it out.

I figured out that what I had been understanding as a Roman Coke my whole drinking life, was in fact a Rum & Coke…that, I knew how to make!”

3. Oops.

“I’m from Pennsylvania. When they do the nightly lottery drawings on TV, they always add a reminder at the end: “Benefits Older Pennsylvanians Every Day!”

So, naturally, I just assumed that a lot of elderly people won the lottery. When I was a teen I made a joke to my dad about him turning 50 and having a better shot at winning the lottery, and he looked at me like I was nuts.

Turns out that “Benefits Older Pennsylvanians Every Day!” means that the lottery is a fundraiser for senior services, and here I was thinking that it meant Grandma was winning millions on her scratch-offs.”

4. From beyond!

“Space heaters are so named because they heat a room (a space), not because they look like futuristic devices from outer space.”

5. Good one, Mom!

“My mom used to tell me the car doesn’t start if the seatbelts aren’t buckled.

I didn’t know that wasn’t a real feature until I was 22.”

6. More lying moms…

“My mother told me that if you swallowed gum it would stick to your ribs.

I was in my second year of college in an Anatomy class when it hit me that this isn’t true.”

7. This is great!

“It took me an embarrassingly long time before I realized that when a movie had a blurb from Rolling Stone…it wasn’t The Rolling Stones reviewing it.”

8. Like unicorns, right?

“Reindeer are a real animal. When I found out about Father Christmas I thought that meant reindeer weren’t real.

I was very much an adult when I was very confused (and excited) to see one in real life.”

9. Don’t say that!

“When I was young, I found a Doobie bBrothers CD at a relative’s house.

I asked my mom what a Doobie was.

She said it’s a lady’s private parts and to never say it.

I was 17 before I saw someone call a joint a Doobie.”

10. Urban legend.

“There’s no chemical in the pool that reveals pee.

A buddy and I were talking about it and we both realized at the same time that nether of us have actually SEEN it.

We looked it up and felt dumb as hell.”

11. Billy goat.

“Ok so I grew up on a small farm.

We had cows, chickens, pig, rabbits and goats and more. On occasion we had to shear the goats, the goats would hold very still when being sheared. Like statue still. I saw this on pretty regular occasion.

When my parents would take me to get a hair cut they would tell the barber to give me a billy goat cut. Of course to me this meant hold really still, so I did. Had the same barber for a loooong time.

Eventually he passed when I was in high school. Leaving me to find a new barber. Imagine my and the new barbers surprise when he said “how do you want it cut” and I said I just want a normal billy goat cut….

This is one of those things that makes me cringe at night.”

12. Awkward!

“That Apollo 13 was an actual event and not just a movie starring Tom Hanks.

Would have been embarrassing in any context but all the more so when I was working with Cpt. James Lovell and asked him why he was signing new paperbacks of Apollo 13 with Tom Hanks on the cover, “Oh, did you work on that movie?” I asked. Beyond awkward.

We had an hour’s drive together and so after he patiently explained that he was on that mission and as I had not seen the movie, I asked if he would tell me the story. He laughed and agreed, “Ok! I’ve never met anyone who didn’t think they already knew the story…”

Hearing him tell it to me was riveting (and special) . 25 years later I still cringe but it was one of the best days in my life. He is truly an amazing human.”

13. Pretty confusing.

“The song “I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus” is not about creepy infidelity, but rather, hinges on the fact that dads sometimes dress up as Santa.

Which I realized in my 20s when I brought it up with my Catholic roommate.”

Have you ever learned any basic facts embarrassingly late in life?

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People Discuss the Women’s Issues That Are Often Overlooked

I’m not a woman, so I have no idea what they struggle with.

And I’m not going to pretend that I do.

But, I have a mom, two sisters, and a lot of female friends, so I do my best to try to understand the issues that they believe are important.

And I’m going to learn some more today, which is always a good thing.

AskReddit users talked about women’s issues that they believe are often overlooked.

Here’s what they had to say.

1. Don’t feel guilty.

“Postpartum Depression

It’s so much more common than people think but many mothers feel too guilty to reach out for help because they think everything is supposed to be amazing after getting the baby.”

2. Need to know.

“Prolapse!

I was properly shocked when I learned about this surprisingly somewhat common side effect from childbirth.”

3. The important stuff.

“Having access to pads and tampons.

Most women have access to pads and tampons in my country, but we often forget about the women who don’t.

Also s** education is not good. We need to be teaching about anatomy, periods, and menopause.”

4. Trauma.

“The time it takes to heal from trauma. And money.

I’ve been in therapy for 4 years, read a hundred books on healing, gone to retreats, etc. and I’m sitting there this Saturday in a circle of women who are about to talk and cry for 6 hours on a Saturday… like what are our r**ists doing right now?

Cause they aren’t sitting in a circle talking about their feelings trying desperately to feel good in life again.”

5. Keeping up appearances.

“The extra time, energy, and money that must be spent to look professional.

I sometimes try to throw my hands up and say “f**k it, let them think I’m ugly,” and I stop plucking my eyebrows for awhile, no makeup, etc… and I’m treated noticeably different.”

6. Ridiculous.

“I have endometriosis, terrible genetics, and my husband and I don’t want children.

Getting an IUD was still a pain in the a**.

Why must women suffer to avoid being even TEMPORARILY infertile?”

7. Cult-like.

“The cult/religion I was raised in taught little girls and young women that if they weren’t virgins(regardless of whether it was something they consented to) then they were worth less then a chewed piece of gum on the street.

I’m a dude and I was only taught that I should stay a virgin until marriage because it’s a sin. I didn’t learn what they taught to the women until a few months before I left that cult/religion while I was attending the college they own.

There’s also a ton of victim blaming. There was a girl who was kicked out of the cult/religion’s college because her r**ist said she drank al**hol on the night he r**ed her. The r**ist was allowed to stay, and as far as I know, didn’t get any serious consequences.”

8. THIS.

“The fact that s**ual harassment often starts before a girl is even an adult.

The fact that women grow up learning that their most important source of value is in their appearance, and other women also participate in reinforcing it.”

9. Never thought of this.

“Nearly every safety invention is designed for the average man. Airbags, seatbelts, dosages for drugs, safety bars on roller coasters, etc.

Look, I know we can’t all custom order cars with different sized belts and bags, etc, but women can sustain serious injuries because safety features aren’t meant for them.”

10. Definitely wrong.

“In my country feminine hygiene products are subject to the same tax as luxury items.

Something seems wrong there.”

11. Shouldn’t be this hard.

“My inability to get sterilized. I do not want children. I never have, never will. I will never have children to please a partner. If a partner wants children, they’re not the one for me.

I want to be sterilized so I have a very very very minimal chance of getting pregnant. But I cannot do it because I’m too young, I’ll change my mind, my partner might want kids, etc.

It shouldn’t be this hard for me to make a choice on my own body but I am sure about.”

12. The view from overseas.

“In my country, Bangladesh, women are blamed for everything wrong that happens.

For example if a girl marries a guy and after years the guy d**s of a disease or something people will say “the girl ate the guy” meaning anyone who marries the girl will d**.

Another example is that when women are s**ually assaulted people say stuff like “why did the girl go in front of guys? Why did the girls go out at night? why did the girl wear short dresses in front of guys?”

STOP.

This is what Asian girls go through. I hope one day girlblaming will come to an end.”

13. Scary stuff.

“Pregnancy consequences in general.

Pregnancy is scary.

I’ve decided not to have kids and some of it stems from absolute terror at all the stuff that can happen because of it.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what women’s issues you think are often overlooked.

Thanks in advance!

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People Discuss Glamorized Career Paths That Are Actually Total Nightmares

It’s interesting how we view certain occupations when we’re young. Things that seem glamorous and exciting can actually be, well, kind of s**tty.

And it’s also interesting how our attitudes change after we’ve actually worked a specific job and not read about it or daydreamed about it.

But I guess you never know until you’re in the middle of it.

Folks on AskReddit talked about career paths that tend to get glamorized but are actually total nightmares.

Let’s take a look.

1. In the kitchen.

“Chef.

Been in the business for 12 years. In the US, 8 hour days and paid overtime. In UK, I’m working 60 hour weeks, 13 hour days, on salary with no overtime.

My personal life has taken a nosedive and so has my health. The only time I have to go to the gym (a hobby I loved!) is after midnight after working all day. I don’t get scheduled breaks, and if I get a chance to eat, I’m shoving fries into my mouth.

For those who are interested in becoming a chef, it is not for the faint-hearted. Have a backup plan or some other marketable skills so you’re not up a creek if this industry does take its toll.”

2. Yikes.

“I don’t practice law anymore, but when I did I mostly did criminal defense and occasional civil cases. Almost all the attorneys I knew all had great professional lives and personal lives comprised of utter s**t.

Al**hol abuse was rampant. Drug use was frequent. I knew attorneys who had “pharmacy drawers” in their office that they consulted when they needed a specific remedy.

I knew a public defender who dropped d**d of a massive heart attack as he was leaving for court. One attorney I knew said he loved going to new restaurants because he and his wife didn’t have s** any more and that was his only real passion now.

And I’m sure there are some attorneys who love their job. I’m sure there are many who are satisfied. But glamorous? Not in my experience.”

3. Insane.

“My sister just left her dream job as a Zoo Keeper so that she could go work at Petco.

Pays twice as much and has better benefits.”

4. Much better now.

“Working in film.

I thought I loved the job. And when I got out, I was floored by how much happier I was on a day-to-day basis. My standard for happiness was pretty much at ground level and I hadn’t even realized it.

When I did my last show, the folks there had worked with me for years at that point. They knew about what I had been doing the past few months, and that I was choosing to leave.

Multiple people, including the showrunner and that episode’s director (this was a huge network TV show), pulled me aside to give their well-wishes…and to say that I was living their secret dream of escaping the industry. Blew me away.

Guys with esteemed Hollywood careers that I thought were in love with the job, shaking their heads quietly and saying, “if only I’d have got out at your age.” Any lingering doubts about my choice vanished that day.”

5. Academia.

“Academia in general is potentially a garbage fire career path.

Namely because it’s so competitive that a lot of people burn out and become shells of human beings just from the stress and pressure of grad school and the job market.

A lot of people put pressure on themselves to end up in a top tier university when that just isn’t in the cards for everyone. So many people end up broken.

I’d just say that for anyone considering academia after a PHD, be ready to give a lot and get very little in return.”

6. Too bad.

“Being an architect is really bad.

Most people don’t complete it and the mental health issues are quite serious. There’s a lot of criticism and stress in the beginning, lots of late nights and hard work. At the end of the work you get insulted in public.

There’s no real reason for this. You aren’t going to be saving lives or anything, there’s no need to make it so expensive either.

So three years later, you get a degree and have to do a year of intern work, then it’s time for another year of study and projects and exams. Then two years of minimum wage work.

Then you come back for more exams, essays and projects.

It’s really too hard for what it is. I get paid very badly and I don’t really use any of my training. It was pointless really but girls like it at parties when I say I’m an architect. That’s a lie I don’t go to parties I have no social life.”

7. No fun.

“Investment Banking.

People talk about the fancy plane rides, expensive dinners, wild parties with your colleagues or a client. The reality of it is you’re never trully off work, always on-call like a surgeon.

Works weeks are usually 60-100 hours and can be brutal if one follows another.

It’s really more like working from 9AM-10PM in office and then get home to work another bit and have any given presentation ready stat.

I’ve gone all-nighters followed by client meetings where all I have time for is a quick shower and a 7/11 coffee.”

8. Hard to help people.

“Behavioral health.

I spent a long time working towards a career in therapy, and I’ve noticed that a lot of new people/people looking to get into the field go in with the starry-eyed “I want to help people” mentality. I did, too.

You do help people, but it is f**king hard to help people. A lot of jobs are high stress/low pay type of deals, because a lot of the jobs available are through nonprofits that only have so much funding to go around.

You are vicariously exposed to other people’s trauma, and it does affect you, no matter how good you are at creating boundaries and practicing self care. It’s an admirable profession, but a grossly under appreciated one, and it most certainly isn’t for everyone who wants to “help people” for a living.”

9. Too bad.

“The nonprofit sector.

You’re mostly putting a bandaid on issues. You go into it wanting to help people, but far too many people are ungrateful, not willing to help them selves, or complain no matter how much you’re trying.

I cannot tell you how many people have made threats even when you’ve gone well above and beyond for them. So many people abuse the system for freebies. I had people come in trying to get freebies who make over 100k a year.

The pay is always s**t unless you’re at the executive level. It is ridiculous how much executives make compared to the workers doing 90% of the work. The CEO of my organization makes well into the six figures while we have to work 3 years to get a 3% raise on our low salary.

They also devalue you constantly. You have people with master’s degrees working entry level positions being bossed around by some old lady with zero education but who’s friends with the CFO or something.

You’re constantly working with a ramen noodle budget expected to come out with steak and lobster results. 9/10 volunteers are only there because they’re trying to get hours or a reference and complain a lot.

You’re constantly battling other nonprofits even if you’re just trying to share resources. You can do completely different things and are just trying to refer clients back and forth so they can acess all available resources, but they’ll guard their clients like gold.

The amount of shady practices that occur as well… Inflation of numbers, total lies, etc… it is really sad how many places do nothing or very minimal, but are galmorized as “doing good”.”

10. This would be very difficult.

“Law Enforcement.

I went into it with the naive belief I would be making a difference. I wanted to protect people and make my community safer. Instead, I got to see the worst humanity has to offer day in and day out. Lets see if I can list all the negatives:

Most departments are filled with arrogant assholes with inflated ego’s that love to condescend to other officers or the public when they themselves can barley read.

Many officers have severe anger issues and love to take it out on the public (never saw it happen physically but verbally or by issuing ever ticket possible).

Try to suggest changes to bring about better relations with the public? Prepare to be ostracized and bullied till you tow the line.

The overall level of incompetence is staggering, with some officers barely knowledgeable of the firearms they carry everyday.

Your view of the public and people in general becomes very dark. The amount of EDP’s (emotionally disturbed persons), druggies and alcoholics you deal with each day is ridiculous and you start to wonder how society hasn’t collapsed.

You arrest a violent offender just to see them quickly released over and over, whats worse is how many times an abuse victim files a complaint because you arrested their “love” despite almost being k**led.

Very few people are actually grateful when you cut them a break. They DO take it as a sign of weakness and try to push the envelope. This is an often overlooked reason why some officers become a**holes. You try to help people out and they spit in your face (sometimes literally), this gradually tears you down until you can barely recognize what you are becoming.

The uniform is a target. You can be the nicest most patient officer in the world but to many the uniform means you are the enemy. You will get cursed at, attacked and have your private life laid bare.

Low pay not even remotely commensurate with what you have to deal with.

There is sooo much more but I was lucky enough to get out and change careers before it all really got to me.”

11. All or nothing.

“Professional sports.

People have no idea how much time, effort and resources goes into competing at elite levels of any sport/esport. It is soul-sucking. Think a 50hour work week is hard?

Nah fam, try living and breathing what you do. That’s why I h**e that people think talent is what gets you there, but in reality those people are just extremely dedicated to their craft.”

12. I can see this.

“The video game industry.

A lot of kids and teens want in it so bad because “I grew up playing games blah blah blah they take me to another world blah blah blah.” Then you become an adult and learn that it’s all math and physics, and making a video game has NOTHING to do with what you experienced growing up. It’s all black screens of code, polygons, and being criticized for your work.

What’s worse, if you make games you probably never have the time to play them anymore. The gaming industry is notorious for implementing 60-80 hour work weeks.

EVEN WORSE depending on what company you work for, you may never have stable work. You finish a project and then the company tells you “we don’t have another project for your particular skill set.” Then you gotta look for more work.

AND IF ALL THAT WASNT BAD ENOUGH, you’ll probably never work on a game you want to work on. All those big, fancy games and indie darling on Steam are a very small fraction of what exists. Barbie’s Horse Adventure? Those people got degrees and we’re inspired by the same games as you.

Crappy Candy Crush knock-offs? Same degree and inspiration. Stupid table-top games that you only see in the family section at Walmart? Those also utilize game designers/programmers.

Don’t get into videogames because you like videogames. Get into videogames because you’re passionate about math and science.”

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This Guy Got Revenge on Someone Who Was Vandalizing Mailboxes

If you act like a jerk, it’s eventually gonna come back to bite you.

And that goes double for folks who intentionally mess with other peoples’ property.

And, at least in my humble opinion, this person definitely got what was coming to him…

Take a look at this story from Reddit about a vandal who learned his lesson in a painful way.

Intentionally unintentional revenge on a mail box vandal.

“This is my dad’s revenge, not mine and this happened last summer.

My parents live out on a lake just outside of town. Their property extends to both sides of the road, and their mail box is on the opposite side of the lake and the house.Over the 4 years they had lived at the property, a black SUV has knocked down their mail box 6 times (they catch the vehicle on the security camera on the gate but get no identifying info).

My dad would report it every time, but not much could be done. It was knocked over by a drunk driver once as well, but he crashed a bit further down the road so that was the only time that my dad got reimbursed for the damage.Well after the seventh time it was knocked down, he had had enough.

The land on the opposite side of the road dropped off steeply immediately after the shoulder, so my dad contracted some guys to build out a small gravel pad (15 feet long and 3 feet deep or so) so he could set his mail box back from the road. My dad told me that if someone tried to knock it down now, they would regret it.Well about 4 months after the work was complete, my parents were awoken to a loud crash in the middle of the night.

They called the police and went out to investigate. They found the black SUV off the road and having crashed into a very large tree.The guy was taken to the hospital and was charged with a DUI from the crash as well as possession of drugs they found in the vehicle.By building out the gravel pad and moving the mail box back by just a few feet, it still appeared that the mailbox was on the shoulder, and still seemed like an easy target.

In reality, those 3 feet made all the difference. Because the pad was so short, the vandal left the roadway before the pad started, and when the right side of his vehicle went off the shoulder, he car went veering down the steep incline.

The dude was pretty badly injured, and I know my dad felt bad about this. I think this was much more effective than he had in his mind.

My dad isnt the kind of person to intentionally injure someone, so I am sure he was hoping to just cause damage to a vehicle and teach a lesson that way.”

Wow…what a story…

Now let’s take a look at how Reddit users reacted.

This reader said they wouldn’t feel bad at all about what happened because the person was driving under the influence of alcohol.

Justice was served!

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Another person argued that it didn’t really turn out the way the dad wanted, but the guy got what he deserved.

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This individual said there might be some potential legal problems here for the dad, so they offered up an excuse about an excuse he could use if asked about what happened.

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And finally, this Reddit user said that the dad was not to blame here and that this guy, who is obviously a jerk, did this to himself.

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This Woman Refused to do Extra Work After She Didn’t Get the Promotion She Was Promised

I think we’ve all been in this position before…

You’re promised something at work and then it doesn’t happen. It’s a bummer but we’ve all been there.

But a woman took matters into her own hands about how she’d work moving forward when this happened.

Let’s see what went down.

So I’m not getting the promotion you promised? Then I’m not doing the extra work.

“This isn’t my story, but my wife’s. She doesn’t have Reddit and said I could share her story with you lovely people. Allow me to set the scene.

My wife – Harper’s – official title is Mental Health Professional, or MHP, and she has been in this position for three years at a live-in care facility for adults with mental illnesses. Before that, she work for several years on the mental health ward at the hospital, so she had more experience walking into her current position than anyone else they had hired.

Within her first year, she got 2 lifers to progress in their treatment plans so thoroughly that they both got the okay to move out into the sister program that has more freedom and independence. She was working with a third “lifer” who was about ready to apply for the sister program when lockdown hit and the transfers between housing, or even non-AMA releases, were suspended.

All this is to say that she has made some very serious and positive changes for this facility from the moment she started working there. They made her the Lead MHP, and her direct supervisor’s boss started giving her more responsibilities; like the morning team report for the whole facility, handling client money, making decisions on big changes to help the overall workload, ect.

Her yearly review happened in December, which was promised to come with a large raise to reflect all the added responsibilities she has been gradually given. Of course, it didn’t. She stayed on HR about her raise for a month or so after the review itself until the big boss finally brought her into his office to discussed with her a promotion.

It would be a bit tricky because she has her Bachelor’s in psych and social work, but not her Master’s – which we’re working on getting her back in school soon to complete, and which she needs to officially fulfill the job title they had in mind.

Still, she was clearly leaps and bounds beyond her coworkers, often staying over to help clients or to help finish paperwork, filling in wherever she’s needed. So, promoting her would be cheaper than hiring on someone new, and of course this would come with an even better pay raise.

So, for the last few months my wife has been doing even more for her supervisor’s boss and the big boss. Anything they ask of her, dangling that official promotion over her head, constantly saying it would be a “gradual transition” and she needs to learn this or that – do this or that – to train for it. Out of her own pocket, she bought new binders and other supplies that made the various parts of her job and theirs easier.

She planned, reorganized, filled-in, whatever. The supervisor’s boss even told her verbatim “I don’t know what I would do without your help!” several times. All this with the promise of an official promotion and a raise.

Then it happened. Last week, Harper was tasked with sorting through potential new hires – as they had been hurting for more MHPs for some time, and the bosses had taken some of Harper’s clients off her work load to make room for the new responsibilities – she noticed that of the stack she was given, all applicants had a Master’s or qualifying credential in social work. Hmmm… Worrisome.

Two days ago, it was business as usually for most of the day until about an hour before Harper was supposed to clock out. She called me in angry tears ranting about the conversation she had just had with the supervisor’s boss. He told her she would unfortunately be taking on more clients, and the promotion would be put on hold for the time being.

She said he didn’t come right out and say he had decided to hire one of the people with a Master’s instead for the position, but what he did say was “you’ll have to relinquish any added responsibilities and return to being just an MHP”.

Okay. Bet.

After trying to calm her down, I gave my normally frustratingly accommodating wife a nudge in the malicious direction. One of the first added responsibilities she was given was the morning report. It was her job to have all the staff gather during the clients’ breakfast to relay what happened during 3rd shift, the plans for the day, coordinating client appointments, ect.

She would have to be in the facility before 3rd shift clocked out to get their notes, and then plan a traveling and gas budget for all the appointments, review any safety concerns or incidents, and this all added about an hour to her morning.

So, how happy was she the next morning when she got to snooze her alarm and sleep in a bit longer. When she got to the facility at her usual clock in time as an MHP, she said the place was already in chaos.

A fight had broken out and someone had some money stolen out of their room (all normal events for this place) but no one was exactly sure on the who or why of it because 3rd shift had had no one to pass along the notes so they just filed them and left. Of course Harper knew where they had been filed, because she organized the filing system no one had thought to check.

As soon as supervisor’s boss saw her clock in, he asked why she wasn’t there for report. See, he is always a seemingly sweet and soft spoken man, which made the sudden change of mind all the more surprising. Harper said she just stared him down, trying not to grin, and said “I’m just an MHP. I can’t handle the morning report.”

She then spent the rest of the day giving him the cold shoulder; relaying only necessary information to him while focusing on her clients and paperwork. I want to be clear, it isn’t that the chose a more educated person for the hire position.

That makes plenty of sense. It’s that they promised her that position, spent the last few months transitioning her responsibilities to that position, promised her the pay raise to go with it, and then ripped it out from under her. That’s some underhanded bulls**t.

Oh, and since she isn’t getting the promotion, she went to HR to see about her over due yearly raise. She was told no one is getting a raise at the moment because of Covid.”

Now let’s take a look at how readers responded to this story.

This person said that you should always be on the lookout for what else is out there in your field, no matter what.

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This individual said the woman needs to take advantage of her new title and start looking at other companies if her current boss is going to drag their feet.

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Another reader shared their own story: sometimes, you just have to play hardball.

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Finally, this person brought up a good point: these kinds of work experiences can actually cause PTSD for some folks.

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This Person Asked If They’re Wrong for Not Sharing Their Hotel Room With Their Family That Never Plans Ahead

This kind of stuff drives me up the wall.

I’m talking about when people keep putting stuff off, keep putting it off even longer, and then they turn to you to fix it…

Even though you were the one telling them to do it in the first place…

Take a look at this story from Reddit and see if you think this person acted inappropriately.

AITA for not sharing my hotel room with my family that never plans ahead?

“My family has a wedding coming up next month. Knowing I would be in the wedding I went to book my hotel room as soon as I knew the date, about six months ago.

I was shocked to see that all the nicer hotels in the area were going for $600 per night, which is too much especially since I’m in the wedding and will stay multiple nights. I ended up just getting at a room at an okay hotel near the venue. And for just ten dollars more a night at 150 I got an upgraded corner room. (Single room but larger with a pull out couch).

I told my family about the hotel situation and told them to book it now, especially since they wouldn’t be charged until check in and could cancel up until the day before check in.

At the time they made fun of me for staying at such a budget hotel. Basically saying they wouldn’t be caught dead in a place like that and if it’s their first hotel stay since covid they want to stay somewhere nicer.

A few months go by and the bride messages me to make sure I booked a room cause the hotel prices are ticking up, 800 for the nice hotels and 200 for the budget one. I tell her I am good and remind my family to book ASAP.

Well here we are a month before the wedding and they didn’t book a room. They thought the prices would come down as the date got closer. Now the budget hotel is fully booked and the only hotels within 30 minutes are 1000 per night.

They now want to stay in my room with my husband and I. It would be my parents, sister, brother and his girlfriend. They want to bring air mattresses. I mean technically we could fit but I just feel like they never plan ahead and I am always going out of my way to solve their problems. Plus my husband and I haven’t taken any time off since our wedding in 2019 and since we are saving for a house I don’t see us doing another trip anytime soon.

I told my family this but they think I think I am too good for them. I just want to spend some quality time with my husband and their lack of planning shouldn’t derail my weekend.

Am I the a**hole?”

Oh boy…let’s see how people reacted.

This reader had the perfect response for how the person should respond to their family member.

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Another person offered up a great quote.

Words to live by, in my opinion!

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And this individual brought up a very good point.

That room would be a madhouse!

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Lastly, this reader made it plain and simple: this isn’t their fault and they should be able to enjoy their vacation without these kinds of distractions.

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A Woman Wants to Know if She Was Wrong for “Using Hot Sauce Like an Idiot”

You learn something new every day…and now I know that you can use hot sauce like an idiot!

And I think I might be one of those people, because I’m pretty obsessed with hot sauce…just sayin’.

But this story from the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit is about more than just hot sauce, as you’re about to discover…

Let’s get started.

“I (f23) love hot sauce. My favorite is Tabasco, but I just f**kin love all hot sauce.

For years I’ve carried a mini bottle of Tabasco in my purse and some emergency mini packets in my wallet. I don’t pull it out at restaurants because it’s in poor taste in my culture and most restaurants don’t allow it. It’s mostly for take out eaten on the go or for when I go to spice intolerant close friend’s houses.

I’m also weird in that I don’t put it all over my food or mix it in, I’ll put a few drops or a squirt on individual bites of food because I like to alternate between spicy and regular bites. When I’m out at restaurants I tend to hog the bottle of hot sauce so I normally ask for two bottles so that other people that enjoy hot sauce aren’t inconvenienced.

With that background info out of the way, here’s what happened. Covid restrictions have loosened so my husband and some friends of ours went out to a restaurant with outdoor dining to get some drinks and dinner. One of our friends brought her new boyfriend, Jim, that none of us have met before, and honestly he seemed off from the start.

He openly ogled myself and other women in our group. He made a “joke” about how people with down syndrome are a drain to society after a friend updated us on how her daughter with down syndrome was doing, and he consistently talked down to my friend. When our food arrived, I asked for a second bottle of hot sauce and began to do my thing with it.

When he saw what I was doing, Jim gave me the dirtiest look then asked why I was “using hot sauce like an idiot”. I briefly explained to him why and he then turned to my friend/his gf and told her “you didn’t tell me your OP was a f**king r**ard”.

I’m not gonna lie, I saw red.

I told him off about everything wrong he’d done throughout our get together and that anywhere he was I would no longer be because he was so disgusting and disrespectful.

I then flagged down our waiter, got a to-go box for my hardly touched meal, paid my husband and I’s tab then walked out. I just couldn’t be around someone like him.

Later I got a text from my friend telling me I humiliated her and that all of our friends followed suit and left because they couldn’t stand him either, as well as told her that they refused to be around him. She told me I alienated her and made everyone hate her.

I feel like a total d**k now because I didn’t mean to hurt her, I just wanted to get away from her awful bf before I caused an even bigger scene. She now is begging everyone to give him a second chance and none of us will, and she’s been cursing us out and calling all of us heartless assholes.

So, AITA for this?”

Who knew hot sauce could be so divisive…?

Now check out what readers on Reddit had to say about this story.

This Reddit user stated the obvious: this guy is a creep and needs to be told off in a major way and he was totally inappropriate.

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Another person said that this guy is exhibiting potentially abusive behavior and the writer of the post should keep tabs on her friend.

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This individual said that the woman’s friend must be going through some kind of self-destructive phase if she’s with someone like this.

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And lastly, another person said that the friend owes this woman an apology and that they all might want to keep their distance from this person for a little while.

Yikes!

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Okay, you know the drill…

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This Woman Asked If She’s Wrong for Calling Out Her Friend for Not Buying Her House

It’s strange to me what people choose to get competitive about in life…

Especially with people who are supposed to be their friends…

But you see it all the time! And here’s another glaring example from the “Am I The A**hole?” page from Reddit.

Take a look at this story and tell us if it sounds familiar at all…

AITA for telling my friend her parents bought her house, not her?

“The title sounds bad but hear me out.

Backstory: I (F28) have a friend (F28) who purchased a house late last year. It’s an awesome 2 story town house and I’ve been over there plenty of times to help out with moving/decorating and for hanging out.

As mentioned in the title, her parents purchased the house for her and her partner. I truly have no issue with this as the housing market is terrible for buyers so more power to them for being home owners. I recently, unfortunately inherited my parents house, which is 3 bedroom, out in the sticks.

The issue: We went appliance shopping because most of the the stuff in the house was 10-15 years old. We were standing with an employee who I had asked to recommend some smaller items like toasters and kettles when the employee asked if I was moving out as general chit chat. I told him I was moving, and he asked whether I bought or rented.

I told him bought, because it was just easier and less awkward than telling him I inherited the house. He told me that was cool and began talking about the toasters again when my friend cut in that I had inherited my house, not purchased it. The employee went quiet and I gave her a “what was that” face. I was taken aback, she continued on saying “Yeah, I purchased my house”.

I asked “does it really matter? I’m here to buy some kitchen appliances not tell this guy my personal issues.” She grinned and said “it’s just for the record” which made me more confused and annoyed. (You can probably see where this is going) I replied “Oh okay then if it’s just for the record your parents purchased your house for you.”

The employee quickly retreated and she walked outside of the shop. I caught up with her and she said I was a massive a**hole for pointing out she couldn’t afford to own without her parents help. I returned with a very similar “my parents also helped me with getting a house too, just in a really terrible way.”

My partner agrees with me, saying that she’s the one that opened that door, but our other friends are split almost 50/50.”

Reddit users shared their thoughts about this story.

This reader said that the woman who wrote the post is not an a**hole and that her friend sounds very catty.

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Another person said that the woman should have defended herself.

I agree!

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This individual argued that this woman might want to reevaluate her friendship with this person…

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And this Reddit user shared their own personal story about how some “friends” can get pretty jealous and competitive when it comes to houses AND house sizes.

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Do you think this woman acted like a jerk?

Or was this no big deal?

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Was This Person Wrong for Telling Their Family the Real Reason They Wanted to Move In With Their Dad?

This story is a bit of a heartbreaker, FYI…

It involves family, stepparents, stepkids, and a lot of mixed emotions.

Take a look at this post from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page and read on to see how people reacted.

AITA for why I want to move in with my dad?

“My mom and stepdad are foster parents, but living with foster kids is kind of awful. Nothing against them and I really hope they’re getting the help they need, but it sucks. I was forced into the tiny room, which is fine, but I also cant really leave my room. I cant play music or video games, I always have to let them pick movies and tv shows.

I feel like a prisoner in my own home and I cant speak up about it because then I’m being ungrateful. I know its nowhere near what most kids experience, but I still h**e it.

For months I’ve been begging my dad to let me move in with him. I spend all my time there and it would just make more sense. Logically I know I’ll never be able to – he’s working seventy hours a week living in a one bed apartment. But its fun to pretend.

My mom and stepdad dont seem to understand where I’m coming from. I should be grateful – I have clean clothes on my back and food in my stomach. Whenever I try and explain they never listen and point out how much better I have it.

Anyway, I was talking to my cousin on Monday, and mentioned staying with my dad this weekend. She asked why, and I explained that I just dont like being at home. She asked why and if thats why I want to move in with my dad, and I said yes and explained how I felt. She eventually went home and told her mom (I guess?). Yesterday my aunt pulled up and basically demanded to know what was going on.

I dont know what exactly happened but they got into an argument and my cousin came up to help me pack some clothes for a few days. When we went down my parents accused me of making things up, saying that I had no need to feel the way I do.

My aunt didnt really give me a chance to reply before we left. I went home today to grab some stuff, and they called me selfish, saying I’d created an aggressive atmosphere which wasnt good for he foster kids. I said, “I dont care about the foster kids right now. Why do they matter more than me?”

My stepdad told me to get out and I did. A whole bunch of family has blocked me on socials and my foster sister has been posting about how I’m selfish and only care about my own feelings.

My dad is now clued in, and he and my aunt are both saying that I’m not in the wrong for feeling the way I do, but no one else seems to agree.

So, AITA?”

Let’s see what Reddit users had to say about this…

This reader said that the mom and the stepdad are clearly ignoring the mom’s biological son in this situation.

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Another person thinks the mom and stepdad might be fostering kids just to have some extra money rolling in…

Could be…

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This individual made it simple: the mom needs to put her biological son FIRST.

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And another reader said that this young person is not an a**hole at all and that they deserve to live with their dad where they’ll be taken care of in the right way.

Amen!

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How do you feel about how this person acted?

Were they a jerk?

Or did they act appropriately?

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