People Talk About What Needs to Stop Being Romanticized

Things always look better through rose-colored glasses.

You know that’s the truth!

Some things just seem to get better with time…even if they really don’t deserve it. And we’re about to get an earful about what people think about this!

AskReddit users talked about things they think should stop being romanticized. Let’s take a look.

1. In reality…

“Depression.

There’s nothing romantic about not showering for three days and forgetting what it’s like to be able to feel things.”

2. Don’t be a creep.

“Stalkers.

When a person says they are not interested in you, walk away. They are not playing hard to get. They are not pretending. They are not sending mixed-messages.

Don’t follow them around. Don’t call/message/email them. Don’t “accidently” run into them at different places. Don’t make them socialize with you.

No matter how hard Hollywood tries to sell it, there is nothing romantic about a guy who can’t take rejection or understand and accept the word “no”.”

3. Too much work.

“Overworking.

The people at my job seem to make it a contest of who sacrifices more for their job. Who works the most overtime? Who does things off the clock for work more? Etc.

It’s bullsh*t.

I have a life and a family I want to prioritize.”

4. It’s not real life.

“Many romance stories focus on a male character who is ‘broken’ and is ‘fixed’ by the female protagonist.

Women craft a relationship standard from this – a man cannot be for her if he is not damaged.”

5. Not fun for everyone.

“High school.

There is so much more bullsh*t in high school but the media decides to romanticize one TEENSY part of it.

Take it from a high schooler, romance is such a tiny part of it that it’s barely even recognized anymore.”

6. So true.

“Alcoholism.

I am thankful I never made it such a habit that it ever became a problem, but between the commercials urging you to buy beer and liquor, the movies and television that treat binges as always fun and always s*x-filled, and the general cultural passivity with it (the fact I can drink with my parents no problem but will likely never, EVER smoke weed with them) is just painfully misleading.

I think of the people who truly struggle with alcoholism and how much it must pain them to watch TV or even just be out anywhere it is served. Maybe someone with that sort of perspective here can correct or enlighten me, but it just seems like a very difficult world to recover from alcohol dependency.

To clarify, I’m not anti-drinking. I used to drink on a weekly basis, whereas now it’s on special occasions only. Idk, so many things about it just don’t appeal to me anymore.

The emotional and relational problems…the trauma drunk behavior can bring, the wake-up headaches that make your head feel split in half, the vast amount of car accidents and fatalities inebriation causes, the numbing of your emotions (for better or worse), the amount of weight it makes you gain, the number of people who feel they cannot have fun without it.

To me it’s legitimately tragic just how much society encourages us, whether culturally or economically, to drink. I would argue cigarettes in the same vain, however I think society has generally embraced the anti-cigarettes mantra much more in recent years, though it’s still bad.”

7. Toxic.

“”Struggle love” or whatever you wanna call toxic relationships that slowly suck the life out of you and ruin your mental health. Relationships are not the misery olympics where you get a gold medal in the end if you put up with the most bullsh*t.

Your partner should make you happy at least 95% of the time, if it’s the opposite then you need to get the hell out of there instead of endlessly trying to ‘make it work’.

There’s nothing romantic or glamorous about wasting the only life you have with a loser who lies, cheats, uses, and abuses you.”

8. Not a good life.

“The Mafia.

Media makes them out to be bad*sses who are making money hand over fist.

Go watch Donnie Brasco and Al Pachino’s character. A life-long mafioso who drives a sh*tty car, has an average at-best apartment, and is constantly wondering if he’s going to get killed every day he wakes up.

Who the hell would want that life? But, a lot of these guys are Neanderthal morons who only know crime.”

9. Bad boys.

“The whole concept of “bad boys”.

Why is manipulative and abusive portrayed as hot? If anyone abuses you in any way, it’s not hot, it’s a serious problem.

For some reason, many movie/book plots overly romanticize the concept and it’s sick. Same thing goes for Stockholm Syndrome.”

10. Enough of this.

“The tortured artist.

I hate the idea of “only those that suffer can make great art”. Yes, there are people who have a rough life and make amazing things but that is a small percentage of people who actually get noticed. You can be smart, passionate, sincere, dedicated, or creative and make amazing art.

If we promote the idea that true art only comes from people who have suffered then that promotes the idea of self inflicting suffering while detracting from those who have made really amazing art but haven’t “truly suffered” for it.”

11. Yikes.

“Public marriage proposals, where the other party is basically shamed into accepting.

I heard someone on a podcast years ago telling their story about being proposed to on a cruise ship in front of hundreds. She said she leaned in, kissed the man, whispered in his ear “no but keep smiling”.”

12. Stay home.

“Working while sick.

JUST STOP! It’s not tough of you. You’re not taking one for the team. You’re probably about to take the whole team out.

I get it. Some workplaces have punitive policies for taking sick days (scary sidenote: like every single hospital I’ve ever worked). Some of us can’t afford not to work that shift.

But those are policy questions we should be pushing back on as soon as this administration is in the history books and we can finally get back to boring policy making again.”

13. Glamour and glitz.

“Celebrities. Fake people living fake, manufactured lives, yet the media insists that we care what they think, what they wear, who they’re voting for, who they’re f*cking.

All because they were born with some genetic gift, or born into the right family, or some other twist of fate thrust them into the limelight. It used to just be Hollywood types.

Now we have this whole generation of insta models, reality stars, and other “influencers” whose only contribution to society is their shameless self promoting bullsh*t. And people eat it up.

Meanwhile we have skyrocketing rates of teen depression and suicide because kids are bombarded with these impossible standards of beauty and popularity in their formative years.”

Now we’d like to get your thoughts.

In your opinion, what do people need to stop romanticizing?

Tell us what you think in the comments!

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A Man Found His Nursery School “Bride” 16 Years Later on Twitter

Remember your first love?

No, not the person you met in your teens that may have set you up for relationship success or failure down the road, your real first love. We’re talking about the person you met in kindergarten or grade school that you just couldn’t stay away from.

We’ve all had crushes since our schoolyard days, but rarely did we “marry” them and reconnect later in life. Unlike the rest of us, UK resident Jack Callow, 20, had quite a different experience.

Callow married his first love in what appears to be a full-blown “wedding” celebration with his nursery school friends in attendance. After he posted the photos of their special day to Twitter, he was able to track down his long lost love.

Jack came across the adorable pictures while visiting his grandfather and decided to post them, but never dreamed his “spouse” would be found. Twitter, however, had different ideas, and his post went viral.

It didn’t take too long for the former object of his affection, Rena Jutla, 21, to pop up. The student from Buckinghamshire had forgotten all about the blessed event and didn’t even know photos existed. They absolutely made her day.

Callow says he doesn’t remember much about the day other than the proposal, which prompted the school to take things to another level for the kids.

Their parents joined in, a priest officiated, and 16-years-later, Twitterers everywhere heaved a collective sigh of “awwww.”

Maybe it’s not too late?

Do you remember the very first person who stole your heart?

Share your sweet childhood love story in the comments below!

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Netflix Codes That Allow You to Watch All the Romance Movies Your Heart Can Handle

Even if people don’t like to admit it, everyone loves a good romantic film once in a while.

And I am one of those people. The older I get, the more I find myself stopping on the Hallmark Channel when I’m looking for something to watch.

But I digress.

We’re here to load you up with codes on Netflix so you can enjoy all different kinds of romantic movies.

To access each of these individual categories, sign into Netflix and replace the “xxx” in this web address (www.netflix.com/browse/genre/xxx) with the corresponding code number below OR just click directly on the links we provided.

And away you go! Enjoy these flicks and be sure to have a bottle of wine and a box of tissues handy.

1. Romantic Favorites (502675)

Photo Credit: TriStar Pictures

Prepare to get all mushy and overcome with emotion when you use this code to tap into this category.

Enjoy such flicks as Silver Linings Playbook, She’s Out of My League, and As Good As It Gets.

2. Quirky Romance (36103)

Photo Credit: Netflix

Let’s get quirky! In a romantic way, I mean.

Use this code to watch such romantic flicks as Candy Jar, Mr. Right, and Can’t Help Falling in Love.

3. Romantic Independent Movies (9916)

Photo Credit: The Weinstein Company

There are a lot of good indie romance movies out there.

This category allows you to watch the very depressing Blue Valentine, the black-and-white smash hit from 2011 The Artist, and many others.

4. Romantic Dramas (1255)

Photo Credit: Paramount Pictures

What’s a little romance without some drama wrapped up in it?

Get romantic AND dramatic when you use this Netflix code and you can watch such films as The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, The Theory of Everything, and My Week With Marilyn.

5. Classic Romantic Movies (31273)

Photo Credit: Columbia Pictures

Yes, Groundhog Day came out 27 YEARS AGO, so it is now considered a “classic” film.

And it should be! Bill Murray has never been better!

Use this code on Netflix and you can watch this gem and others like Tootsie and Howard’s End.

6. Romantic Comedies (5475)

Photo Credit: Paramount Pictures

And, of course, we have the mother of all romantic films, the ROM-COM.

You know you can’t resist them, and at some point in your life, you’ll just give in and start enjoying them…I know I have.

Use this code to watch such romantic comedies as Failure To Launch, He’s Just Not That Into You, and Jerry Maguire.

Are you ready to fall in love, or what?

I know I am!

But before you do, please help us out with a favor.

If you know of any other good romantic films we should check out, please share them with us in the comments.

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Memes That Accurately Explain Marriage

I’m not married and have never been married. Good thing there are memes to teach me what it’s like.

Memes are truly the perfect expression of all of life’s most important experiences, including humanity’s oldest institution. Here’s what the internet has taught me about being married.

1. You gotta be the whole package

Source: Someecards

2. Keep ’em wanting more

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3. ALWAYS be true

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4. Keep things interesting

5. Look out for each other

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6. It’s till death don’t you part

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7. Be thorough

8. Don’t bother finishing each others’ sentences

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9. Be courteous

10. Keep each other in your thoughts

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11. Be ready to compromise

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12. Be open

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13. Stay close

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14. Spice things up

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15. Build each other up

Ok. I’m an expert now. All I’m missing is a spouse. Is that a big part of the whole thing?

What has marriage taught you?

Let us know in the comments.

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People Discuss What Makes Them Immediately Lose Romantic Interest in Someone

You’ve probably been here before: you’re talking to someone or maybe you’re on a first date, things seem to be going just fine and then, BOOM…they say or do something that immediately makes you lose interest.

You know what I’m talking about, right?

AskReddit users shared the things that make them immediately lose interest in a person…let’s take a look.

1. So, back to me…

“When you come to them with a problem and they turn it into a conversation about them.”

2. Pity party.

“If they constantly make you feel bad for them. Felt so bad and was so worried about him for so long that the one time I needed the emotion I couldn’t have it.”

3. Take it down a notch.

“When they don’t know the difference between being funny and being obnoxious.”

4. I’ll take your word for it.

“If they say the words “I know I’m an asshole/bitch”. Like okay I’ll take your word for it. Also if it becomes apparent that they have no self-awareness.”

5. Forget the haters.

“They enjoy putting other people and their hobbies down.”

6. I’m back!

“Ghosting you then suddenly popping up out of the blue when they want attention. Yes Brittany I know what is happening when you call me, you’re scraping the bottom of the barrel and I resent the fuck out of being the bottom (wait that could mean another thing but you know the thing I mean.)”

7. Lack of situational awareness.

“Don’t know how to act in public/ are unaware of feelings other than their own.”

8. Who is the real problem here?

“If ALL of their exes were “toxic” or “crazy”

We all have one or two bad ones, but seriously it’s not ALWAYS that.”

9. That’s gross.

“Doing dumb things and should know better. We had a new guy join our Friday social group. Very nice guy. Attractive. At the bar, he took his old gum out of his mouth and stuck it to the bottom of the table. Really? So trashy.”

10. Definitely not cool.

“Selfishness. I am very considerate of others and I am slowly learning that I think I need someone that is too.”

11. Gimme something!

“When they have seemingly no opinion, no voice. When every answer is “I don’t care” or “I don’t know.” Like Jesus Christ I’m trying to find out what you like so that we can talk. Gimme something!”

12. Sounds pretty classy.

“Chewing tobacco. I’m also not a fan of smoking, but it’s not necessarily an instant deal breaker like chewing tobacco is. The truth is, I have seen too many men who would sit there and chew tobacco and then spit it into an empty Dr. Pepper bottle, and it grosses me out more than I can express.”

13. Let’s not meet again.

“Went out with a guy once who talked 90% of the time, 85% of that being about how much money he had made, how much he spent on his now ex wife, all the nice cars he had… I picked HIM up because he didn’t have a ride to meet up. He was legitimately confused why I didn’t want to spend the night with him when I went to drop his ass off. Never saw him ever again.”

14. This! Yes!

“Being rude to customer service people.”

15. Ugh! Run for the hills!

“If they say I love you on the first date. Creepy AF.”

I had a feeling these responses would be pretty enlightening.

Now it’s your turn! What immediately turns you off from a person?

Tell us about it in the comments!

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