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Was This Man a Jerk to Put His Nanny (and Not His Wife) on a Family Membership?

Family dynamics are really tough and not something we can really comment on from the outside most of the time. Families not only look different than they used to, they function differently, too, with both parents working or the woman becoming the breadwinner, etc.

The people of Reddit being asked to weigh in on these situations aren’t the only ones still figuring out how to navigate things, either – so are the spouses and partners living it every day.

In this family, the wife has more responsibility at work and works more demanding hours, leaving the childcare to the father and the nanny most days.

I’m a father of 2 kids. Wife and I both work. She works considerably more than I do with less flexibility. She also has a ton of responsibility at her job where even if it’s her time off, if s*%t goes down, she has to handle it.

When the father took his two kids to a museum, he realized it would be cheaper to buy a membership than to just pay the admission fee a few different times.

Since the family membership included two adults and two children, he listed his kids, himself, and his nanny, since they would be the four people most likely to check out the exhibit.

So a few weeks ago I took my kids to a local museum that they LOVED so I joined for a membership. The membership is good for 4 people, you can add extras but it costs more. I just did the 4 but instead of adding my wife as the other adult, I added our nanny. 9/10 it’s either me or our nanny taking the kids somewhere so it made sense.

When his wife found out she was angry, and thought him choosing the nanny over her for the membership really said something about his feelings for her.

My wife discovered it after looking on our account because the kids and nanny are going today so she wanted confirm the membership was good. It hurt her feelings and I suppose she chose to take it out on me with anger.

She didn’t like my answer for why I did it and kept saying it “says a lot” that I just put our nanny in the “mom slot” instead of paying the extra $15 for her to be in there, too.

Now he’s wondering whether or not he was inconsiderate, and of course Reddit has thoughts.

This person wanted to give the dad the benefit of the doubt, because a) there is no “mom slot” and b) he was just trying to be practical.

That said, the parents really need to have a chat, because no one’s feelings should be hurt over saving a couple of bucks.

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There were several that concluded there are NAH (No A$$holes Here) because he was trying to be frugal but she’s also allowed to have her feelings on the matter.

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Others thought the wife was right, and the guy is a jerk for listing his nanny as part of his family.

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While others definitely think the wife is being too sensitive. (2)

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Just because the wife is hurt doesn’t necessarily mean the husband is the a$$hole. There are other options.

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I have to agree that no one is wrong here. The wife has the right to feel stung over the perceived slight, but that doesn’t mean the husband was wrong.

It probably just means they need to have a chat about the whole thing.

Tell us your thoughts down in the comments!

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Was This Kid Wrong for Moving Out and Leaving His Parents High and Dry?

Hopefully, parents can care and provide for their children as long as they need a hand – so, for most of us, until we graduate from college and find a job of our own. Honestly, with the economy the way it’s been for the past couple of decades, most kiddos need a bit of a hand even longer than that.

Life isn’t always ideal, though, and some parents are forced to depend on their kid’s full- or part-time jobs to help make up the difference when it comes to household bills.

This 18yo kid has graduated high school and is planning to attend community college. He has a full-time job that will become a part-time job when he starts classes.

I (18M) just graduated and gonna be starting community college in August.

Barely started doing full-time hours but that’ll change to part time again once I start my classes.

His parents have informed him that if he expects to continue living with them past his 18th birthday he’ll need to pay rent for his room, plus half of the utilities.

He thinks it’s a lot, since he shares a room with his brother and obviously doesn’t use half of the utilities in the house.

Before my 18th b-day over a month ago, my parents started talking about how they expect me to pay for rent then half the bills if I expect to stay there. That wasn’t the problem.

The issue was they were expecting me to pay $1,300 a month for my tiny ass room that I share with my little brother. Not including the half of the bills they expected me to pay .

In fact, apartments in his area go for far less, but when he tried explaining this to his parents, they didn’t want to hear it.

Most apartments in our city are around that range but that’s for a whole ass apartment, not a single bedroom plus sharing space with everyone else. Most of my paycheck would just be going to that then.

Like I asked my parents I don’t got a problem with helping with the bills and paying for my room if they made the rent to be lower.

They said that’s how much they agreed on so that’s what I’d have to pay if I wanna keep staying there.

So he went looking for a solution, and found a much cheaper one that also afforded him his own room and bathroom.

So I said fine and talked to one of my friend’s I already knew had his own place but was looking for a new roommate for the past 3 months.

Ended up going with him and he added me to the lease.

My own room and bathroom, plus the total for rent and my half of the bills it’s like wayyyy less than the rent by itself that my parents expected me to pay.

His parents are mad at him for moving out, saying that he abandoned their family and put them in financial hardship, and that he should have just helped them pay since they’re struggling.

Now he’s wondering whether it makes him a jerk that he left his parents high and dry, even though the situation is much better for him.

But the thing is they’re super mad at me for leaving. My mom ignored me when I moved out, my dad kept saying how he’s so disappointed in me.

For a while they were hoping to rely on me with helping out with their mortgage payments on the house also with the bills so now that I’ve chosen to leave instead my dad says I’m going to leave them really struggling and he can’t believe I decided to be selfish instead of helping my family out.

So that’s sort of why I’m asking if I’m TA. It was super high what they were expecting me to pay (literally whole paycheck would go to just that) but also I left them to struggle when they were hoping for me to help out so idk.

AITA?

Reddit is weighing in below!

The top comment pointed out that OP is under no obligation to help his parents out, and it’s pretty crappy that they presented everything to him this way and are now angry with him for taking care of himself. (2)

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Financial abuse is a thing, and everyone is proud of OP for not standing for it.

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It’s actually awesome that he was able to draw this very healthy boundary now.

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Parents are not supposed to take advantage of their own kids.

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It’s not the paying rent that’s the problem, per se.

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I totally agree that it’s fine to teach a kid about living expenses and the real world, etc, and to ask them to pitch in financially once they’re adults living at home, but that’s different than taking advantage of your kid and asking them to support you as soon as they’re able.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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People Discuss How Introverts Want to Be Socially Interacted With

I think the responses you’re about to read are going to be very helpful!

Because we all want to know how to interact with people who are different from us and how to make them feel comfortable, right?

Darn right! One of the best things about being alive is meeting a variety of folks!

Folks on AskReddit talked about how they think introverts really want to be interacted with.

1. They don’t like this.

“I don’t like when someone points out my quietness when I’ve been sitting there the whole time building up courage and/or waiting for the right moment to say something.

When someone points it out, I even become more quiet because now I’m nervous people are waiting for me to say something.

Then I would get teased by comments that I’m “making too much noise over there” when I’ve been sitting silently for what feels like hours. Now I just want to leave.”

2. Boundaries.

“Respect our boundaries and don’t be afraid to invite us left and right. Even if we don’t want to go we really do appreciate your offer, it shows you like us enough to wish for our presences.

Also, if things are becoming really awkward we will greatly appreciate any form of rescue that you could think of. And lastly, give us some time.

Once you get to know us we are pretty decent people, that can be pretty bas**t crazy as long as the occasion is favourable.”

3. Leave me alone.

“I just want to be left alone when I want to be left alone. If I say I don’t want to go out, don’t continue to pester me and make me feel bad about it.

Also, just because I don’t want to do something tonight doesn’t mean I won’t want to do things ever. Sometimes my friends will make plans on a day that I would like to go out and be around people, but they don’t invite me because they think I will just say no.

Social battery is real ladies and gents. Sometimes it needs to be recharged by being alone, sometimes it’s full.”

4. In a group setting.

“If we’re in a group conversation, give us the time and space to talk back/interact.

It’s not hard to recognize who is introverted and such, so make us a part of the conversation.”

5. Draining.

“Kind of an extroverted introvert so not sure if my experience will be the same as everyone else’s but I don’t really struggle with socialization its more that spending time with people is draining in a way.

I feel like I’m subconsciously paying attention to my posture or how I hold myself or a million other things and it just sucks the life out of me and I end up needing time to myself to let all those muscles relax and have my battery recharge.

So I guess what I’d say is pay attention to when introverts need some of that alone time because you people exhaust me”

6. Not a fan of the shallow stuff.

“The shallow conversations that are completely fake k**l me.

Like you say it’s great to see me, but I bet you never even gave me a thought. And you want to get together soon? I mean it when I say it so don’t say it if you don’t, and I know you don’t mean it because I never hear from you.

It’s okay to be nice, it’s okay to be respectful but don’t schmooze me with white lies that you think are necessary. They aren’t and you using them feels cheap. You can be polite and friendly without using these fake overtones you don’t mean. I do it so i know others can too.

I just want to talk to people who are genuine. I don’t understand those that aren’t.”

7. Advance warning.

“Don’t invite us to a group setting without telling us it’s a group setting! I have a friend that constantly invites me to do things. I have no issue with that as I’m comfortable around her.

However, she has started inviting me to hangout with her without the prior knowledge of the other 6 people there. May just be me but just because I’ll hangout with you, doesn’t mean I’ll hangout with you in a group”

8. Make it genuine.

“Have a genuine conversation. Polite small talk is taxing and pointless, and I can always tell when people approach me as a way of “doing me a favor” or out of pity bc they think i’m lonely.

The latter upsets me the most; people tend to talk to you like an awkward child. Being quiet doesn’t always mean shy – theres no need to force someone of their shell.

Take social ques. If the conversation is draining me or I wanna leave I let people know, subtly as to not hurt their feelings, but i notice they either don’t care or don’t pick up on it. I once had a friend stay an extra 2 hours at my house even tho i made it clear i was tired. She has not been back to my house since.

Just be respectful and understanding of how they deal with social situations.”

9. It’s the thought that counts.

“Invite me to things. Even if I might say no, invite me if you want me there. Make me feel like I am wanted.

It sucks being caught in the cycle of being scared to be in group settings but not getting invited and feeling like nobody likes me or wants to be around me.

Part of that is anxiety. But I want to feel wanted.”

10. I’m just a normal person.

“Treat me like normal.

I just get full of of social interactions, and need some quiet, or even better, someplace outdoors with lots of trees, to process the social interactions.

Usually, I’m pretty worn out by Friday, but I will still go out, I just may not stay out all night.”

11. Uncomfortable.

“Don’t force us into a position where we have to be social.

If we like you, talk to us, but if it’s just us doing something, don’t try to rope others into the plans without asking us first and getting approval.

That just makes socializing harder for us and can be really uncomfortable.”

12. FYI.

“From a respectful distance.

The worst thing people can do is get too far into my personal space. Thats an immediate nope out of the interaction if I can. (Although it depends on the company. It’s mostly ok if it’s someone we know well).

For as long as we can handle. Everyone is different, but long interactions can be exhausting.

Very important at least to me: no yelling/strong arguments/conflict in the presence. It can be catastrophicly frustrating, to the point of noping out of any form of interaction in the future.

Oh and another one: don’t be insulted if we talk only to one person in the big group. It’s hard to be involved with everyone at the same time.”

What do you think about this?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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People Talk About Subtle Things People Say That Are Red Flags

You have to pay attention or you might miss something…

I’m talking about when you have conversations with people and they drop little hints that should make you say, “uh oh…I’m not sure if I want to have anything to do with this person.”

People on AskReddit shared subtle things people say that they think are red flags.

Here’s what they had to say.

1. A terrible thing to say.

““Yeah, but YOU don’t act black.”

Literally heard this s**t my entire childhood. I got told I act “too white” because I enjoyed reading books.

WTF?”

2. Totally lame.

“When people say things like “I can say and do whatever I want” “it’s a free country. Ever hear of freedom of speech?” in order to justify s**tty things they say or do.

Like sure, you have the right to speak your mind, but people also have the right to judge you for what you say.”

3. Shows a lot.

“S**t talking other people (who aren’t there). Sometimes it’s fair.

But it does tell me there’s a lack of respect, and if they’re s**t talking a lot of people, I’m pretty sure I’ll be next on the list.”

4. Get ready for a lecture.

“”I’m always open to debate.”

I find most people that say that are open to lecture you, and closed to debate.”

5. An ugly way to look at things.

“When they disagree with someone, they default to attacking the person’s character instead of their actions. We all do this from time to time, but with some people it’s every time.

The guy who messed up their order is “an idiot”. Their boss is “an evil sociopath”. The person on Facebook who expressed a political view that opposes theirs is “a degenerate”. That new intern at work is “hopeless”.

In the end, the final result is that anyone they disagree with for any reason is either an inherently bad person who doesn’t really merit listening to.”

6. Yikes.

“When I started my new job the bubbliest girl who was loved by most of the staff and was also a HR manager would act like this when me and her were totally alone.

She would whisper ever so softly (to herself but to me) “you get no thanks around here, no one cares. You just wait and watch the knives stabbing when you least expect it”.

This is something she did on my first DAY!! I said to her everyone seems lovely and accepting and she said “well wait until you get to know them”.

This was the HR MANAGER!!”

7. Really weird.

“When someone says “they’re my karma child” and implies their child makes their life so hard it must be payback for a mistake they made in the past.

I usually discover this person has intense mental health or substance use history. It’s a s**tty way of mentioning their disdain for their kid.”

8. It’s who I am.

““I’m an empath” makes me want to get in my car and drive ten hours in the opposite direction while shoving wool in my ears.”

9. Here we go again.

“”With all due respect.”

I know a guy who says this so frequently that when he says it, I brace myself for the s**t to follow.”

10. Classy!

“When you (female) find a Tinder notification on your partner’s (male) phone while they’re in a near 6 year relationship with you and you ask them why they’re on tinder

“Doesn’t hurt to see what’s out there”.”

11. Messed up.

“I live in Canada.

My husband is a white immigrant with a charming accent.

I instantly h**e anyone who makes a comment about how they don’t mean “immigrants like him” when complaining about immigrants.”

12. That ain’t right.

““I know what I’m worth.”

Especially in a romantic setting, OLD or first date type stuff.

It’s good to have a strong sense of self but I’ve found when this exact phrase is stated/listed something ain’t right.”

13. Get out while you can.

“When you’re on a date/dating someone, and they incessantly bring up their ex.

This means two things: they’re still stuck on their ex, and they will always compare you to their ex.”

14. The worst.

“Not having basic manners as in please and thank you to service persons.

“That’s their job, I don’t have to be polite.”

Nope.”

Are there certain things that people say that you think are red flags?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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What Subtle Things Person Says Are Red Flags to You? Here’s How Folks Responded.

I know my answer!

If someone gives me WAY too much information about themselves or their problems the first time I ever meet them, I know that they are most likely a bit of a train wreck and they’re not exactly someone I’d love to be friends with.

But that’s just my take on it…

What subtle things people say are red flags?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts.

1. Take no for an answer.

“I used to go to the bar after work with coworkers. One of the managers didn’t go, but a coworker kept encouraging him to come out and party. He relented and said he’d come out for one drink.

At the bar, he took a sip and said “ah, I haven’t had a beer in 5 months”. No one else took notice of that, but it struck me. He was gone a week later after coming into work drunk and doing something inappropriate.

To anyone reading this: If someone doesn’t want to drink, accept no for an answer. They might have a very good reason to say no, and pressing them on it, especially when well intentioned, might make it much harder for them to say no.”

2. So rude.

“Never asking a question.

My husband realized his father never does this and now I can’t stop listening for this.”

3. No thanks!

“But you’re so good at it!

Aka, I’ll compliment you in the hope that you’ll take this task off my hands.”

4. Trashy.

“When people talk s**t on their spouses. Like even in the most subtle way it’s still not appropriate small talk.

If it’s my best friend and she’s telling me about a hardship or a fight, different.

But when I’m meeting you for the first time I shouldn’t be able to pick up that you dislike your spouse/SO.”

5. They won’t change.

“If they wronged you and say something like, “I’m such a terrible person, you should leave me.”

It’s them trying to force sympathy on them instead of genuinely apologizing to you. They’re not going to change if you stay.”

6. Hipster logic.

“Asking what music you listen to, then immediately critiquing it, especially when you like mainstream stuff.

I guess this applies to stuff other than music but that’s what annoys me the most.”

7. Uhhh, okay.

“Pretty much anytime somebody says something about themself when it’s not prompted or necessary.

Like “I’m an honest person”, “I’m a hard worker”, or “I’d never hit a woman”.”

8. Not cool.

““That’s just the way God made me,” as an excuse for being a jerk.

Like it’s just their personality and they can’t help it so we should all just accept it.”

9. Sketchy.

“Anything that exposes poor morals.

For example, “I’ll just say I never got it so they send me another one.”

When people show you who they really are, believe them.”

10. Lame.

“”Sorry I did this and that, It’s just my inner zodiac sign.”

Like, your zodiac sign doesn’t define you, you’re just being a sh**ty person and using that phrase as a cover up.”

11. Sketchy.

“Anyone who tries to convince you that you can trust them.

“Come on man, you can trust me. I’d never do that to you!”

People who are actually trustworthy don’t need to convince anyone of anything and they also know that real trust isn’t freely given to people you barely know and are not offended when they are not given it.”

12. Always the victim.

“When they are the victim in all of their stories.

I had a colleague who didn’t really have any friends outside of work. All of her stories were about how each of her friends had sta**ed her in the back at one time or another. She went travelling to Australia with 6 girls and left early because they didn’t want to do the things she wanted. It was glaringly obvious that she was the issue but still tried to play the sweet victim.

There is another girl from my high school who has gained quite a few followers on social media through sharing her stories of being bullied in school for being bald. No one can remember that ever happening, she was quite popular but had lost touch with her group as you do when you move away for college. Also, she was never bald.

Red flags when people enjoy pity.”

What red flags do you notice when people talk to you?

Fill us in in the comments!

We’d love to hear from you!

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This Person Asked If They’re Wrong for Not Sharing Their Hotel Room With Their Family That Never Plans Ahead

This kind of stuff drives me up the wall.

I’m talking about when people keep putting stuff off, keep putting it off even longer, and then they turn to you to fix it…

Even though you were the one telling them to do it in the first place…

Take a look at this story from Reddit and see if you think this person acted inappropriately.

AITA for not sharing my hotel room with my family that never plans ahead?

“My family has a wedding coming up next month. Knowing I would be in the wedding I went to book my hotel room as soon as I knew the date, about six months ago.

I was shocked to see that all the nicer hotels in the area were going for $600 per night, which is too much especially since I’m in the wedding and will stay multiple nights. I ended up just getting at a room at an okay hotel near the venue. And for just ten dollars more a night at 150 I got an upgraded corner room. (Single room but larger with a pull out couch).

I told my family about the hotel situation and told them to book it now, especially since they wouldn’t be charged until check in and could cancel up until the day before check in.

At the time they made fun of me for staying at such a budget hotel. Basically saying they wouldn’t be caught dead in a place like that and if it’s their first hotel stay since covid they want to stay somewhere nicer.

A few months go by and the bride messages me to make sure I booked a room cause the hotel prices are ticking up, 800 for the nice hotels and 200 for the budget one. I tell her I am good and remind my family to book ASAP.

Well here we are a month before the wedding and they didn’t book a room. They thought the prices would come down as the date got closer. Now the budget hotel is fully booked and the only hotels within 30 minutes are 1000 per night.

They now want to stay in my room with my husband and I. It would be my parents, sister, brother and his girlfriend. They want to bring air mattresses. I mean technically we could fit but I just feel like they never plan ahead and I am always going out of my way to solve their problems. Plus my husband and I haven’t taken any time off since our wedding in 2019 and since we are saving for a house I don’t see us doing another trip anytime soon.

I told my family this but they think I think I am too good for them. I just want to spend some quality time with my husband and their lack of planning shouldn’t derail my weekend.

Am I the a**hole?”

Oh boy…let’s see how people reacted.

This reader had the perfect response for how the person should respond to their family member.

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Another person offered up a great quote.

Words to live by, in my opinion!

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And this individual brought up a very good point.

That room would be a madhouse!

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Lastly, this reader made it plain and simple: this isn’t their fault and they should be able to enjoy their vacation without these kinds of distractions.

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Now we want to hear from you.

Do you think this person acted like a jerk in this situation?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know. Thanks!

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This Woman Asked If She’s Wrong for Calling Out Her Friend for Not Buying Her House

It’s strange to me what people choose to get competitive about in life…

Especially with people who are supposed to be their friends…

But you see it all the time! And here’s another glaring example from the “Am I The A**hole?” page from Reddit.

Take a look at this story and tell us if it sounds familiar at all…

AITA for telling my friend her parents bought her house, not her?

“The title sounds bad but hear me out.

Backstory: I (F28) have a friend (F28) who purchased a house late last year. It’s an awesome 2 story town house and I’ve been over there plenty of times to help out with moving/decorating and for hanging out.

As mentioned in the title, her parents purchased the house for her and her partner. I truly have no issue with this as the housing market is terrible for buyers so more power to them for being home owners. I recently, unfortunately inherited my parents house, which is 3 bedroom, out in the sticks.

The issue: We went appliance shopping because most of the the stuff in the house was 10-15 years old. We were standing with an employee who I had asked to recommend some smaller items like toasters and kettles when the employee asked if I was moving out as general chit chat. I told him I was moving, and he asked whether I bought or rented.

I told him bought, because it was just easier and less awkward than telling him I inherited the house. He told me that was cool and began talking about the toasters again when my friend cut in that I had inherited my house, not purchased it. The employee went quiet and I gave her a “what was that” face. I was taken aback, she continued on saying “Yeah, I purchased my house”.

I asked “does it really matter? I’m here to buy some kitchen appliances not tell this guy my personal issues.” She grinned and said “it’s just for the record” which made me more confused and annoyed. (You can probably see where this is going) I replied “Oh okay then if it’s just for the record your parents purchased your house for you.”

The employee quickly retreated and she walked outside of the shop. I caught up with her and she said I was a massive a**hole for pointing out she couldn’t afford to own without her parents help. I returned with a very similar “my parents also helped me with getting a house too, just in a really terrible way.”

My partner agrees with me, saying that she’s the one that opened that door, but our other friends are split almost 50/50.”

Reddit users shared their thoughts about this story.

This reader said that the woman who wrote the post is not an a**hole and that her friend sounds very catty.

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Another person said that the woman should have defended herself.

I agree!

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This individual argued that this woman might want to reevaluate her friendship with this person…

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And this Reddit user shared their own personal story about how some “friends” can get pretty jealous and competitive when it comes to houses AND house sizes.

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Do you think this woman acted like a jerk?

Or was this no big deal?

Sound off in the comments and let your voice be heard!

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Was This Person Wrong for Telling Their Family the Real Reason They Wanted to Move In With Their Dad?

This story is a bit of a heartbreaker, FYI…

It involves family, stepparents, stepkids, and a lot of mixed emotions.

Take a look at this post from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page and read on to see how people reacted.

AITA for why I want to move in with my dad?

“My mom and stepdad are foster parents, but living with foster kids is kind of awful. Nothing against them and I really hope they’re getting the help they need, but it sucks. I was forced into the tiny room, which is fine, but I also cant really leave my room. I cant play music or video games, I always have to let them pick movies and tv shows.

I feel like a prisoner in my own home and I cant speak up about it because then I’m being ungrateful. I know its nowhere near what most kids experience, but I still h**e it.

For months I’ve been begging my dad to let me move in with him. I spend all my time there and it would just make more sense. Logically I know I’ll never be able to – he’s working seventy hours a week living in a one bed apartment. But its fun to pretend.

My mom and stepdad dont seem to understand where I’m coming from. I should be grateful – I have clean clothes on my back and food in my stomach. Whenever I try and explain they never listen and point out how much better I have it.

Anyway, I was talking to my cousin on Monday, and mentioned staying with my dad this weekend. She asked why, and I explained that I just dont like being at home. She asked why and if thats why I want to move in with my dad, and I said yes and explained how I felt. She eventually went home and told her mom (I guess?). Yesterday my aunt pulled up and basically demanded to know what was going on.

I dont know what exactly happened but they got into an argument and my cousin came up to help me pack some clothes for a few days. When we went down my parents accused me of making things up, saying that I had no need to feel the way I do.

My aunt didnt really give me a chance to reply before we left. I went home today to grab some stuff, and they called me selfish, saying I’d created an aggressive atmosphere which wasnt good for he foster kids. I said, “I dont care about the foster kids right now. Why do they matter more than me?”

My stepdad told me to get out and I did. A whole bunch of family has blocked me on socials and my foster sister has been posting about how I’m selfish and only care about my own feelings.

My dad is now clued in, and he and my aunt are both saying that I’m not in the wrong for feeling the way I do, but no one else seems to agree.

So, AITA?”

Let’s see what Reddit users had to say about this…

This reader said that the mom and the stepdad are clearly ignoring the mom’s biological son in this situation.

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Another person thinks the mom and stepdad might be fostering kids just to have some extra money rolling in…

Could be…

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This individual made it simple: the mom needs to put her biological son FIRST.

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And another reader said that this young person is not an a**hole at all and that they deserve to live with their dad where they’ll be taken care of in the right way.

Amen!

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How do you feel about how this person acted?

Were they a jerk?

Or did they act appropriately?

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This Guy Asked if He’s a Jerk for Telling His Wife She’s Not the Boss

You’re not the boss of me, woman!

You know whenever you hear that, things are gonna get ugly…

And that’s what happened when a guy took to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page to ask readers about an argument he got into with his wife.

Let’s see what transpired…

AITA for telling my wife she’s not the boss?

“For starters my(M41) wife(F39) have been together 16 years. When she met me I was at the height of my business and starting to go up from there, even during the pandemic my business is still booming.

I had my own house(that I lived in by myself), a couple cars and a cottage although that is unrelated. I own my own factory refurbishing various re-engineered equipment, mostly HVAC stuff. About 3 years after we got married she decided she had enough of working odd jobs and making not-so-great money at it so she expressed she wanted to be a SAHW.

I had no problem with this, we don’t have kids and don’t plan on having any so I saw this as a win-win as she got to stay home, and I came home to a nice house. After 3 years of this she was tired of being a SAHW and wanted to re-join the workforce. Since she could really only find odd jobs I suggested she work at my shop.

I pretty much created a job for her doing small admin stuff, nothing crazy as I used to do all this myself plus work on the floor but this took a load off my shoulders; obviously she got paid a healthy wage for her work and I hired a cleaner to come in once a week to help us clean and maintain the house.

On to the problem: one of my workers accidentally order 20 of one part instead of 2. This was a bit of a big deal as now instead of being out a few hundred dollars I’m now out thousands. While I wasn’t royally pi**ed off this did put a large dent in my overhead so I had to offload these parts. Barely made my money back but that’s beside the point.

My wife however found out and absolutely BERATED this poor guy. I’ve had this guy work for me for over 10 years and his work is solid; he’s a hard working man, 2 kids, another on the way and he’s become my go-to guy for almost anything.

I didn’t hear any of the situation until I heard screaming from my wife that she was going to fire him and he cost her hours of re-work and budgeting etc…(this is simply not true as 2 phone calls and some editing on our books and everything would be right as rain, tops a 1 hour affair).

She and he finally filled me in and I told her to leave the room so I could talk to him. She refused; I asked again and once again she refused. I asked one more time and my worker was on the verge of tears and I yelled at her and told her “You’re not the boss, I am. I make these decisions, now LEAVE”.

I talked it over with him, we made amends as it was an honest mistake and he hasn’t had a screw-up like this since he started so I’m not concerned about it happening again.

My wife was livid and after yelling about his screw-up has refused to talk to me. I’m clearly in the dog-house here but I refuse to think I did anything wrong as she was, in my opinion, being needlessly unreasonable and on a power trip.

AITA?”

And here’s what folks on Reddit had to say about this story.

This reader said that the guy is not a jerk here and that his wife would be fired from any other job for pulling a stunt like this.

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Another person argued that married bosses shouldn’t be bringing their problems and their drama into the workplace. Because you know what that leads to…

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This person said that the man is in charge of this company and it’s up to him to lay down the lay. It’s NOT up to his wife.

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Finally, this person said that the man needs to do some more investigation because it’s likely that his wife has been bullying employees.

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What do you think about this?

Was this guy a jerk or were his actions justified?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know!

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Guy Wonders If He’s a Jerk to Choose Sleeping With His Dogs Over His Girlfriend

Most of us treat our dogs like family, but not everyone agrees that letting them sleep in the bed is the way to go.

We all make compromises when we enter into new relationships, especially when we get to the stage of moving in together, but for this guy, his new relationship with a woman and his decades-long relationship with his dogs have come to a head.

My girlfriend (20) and I (21) have been discussing moving in together in the same city, I have two dogs so we were discussing expectations and roles we’d play in the house. The dogs will be my responsibility only, not hers. She likes the dogs and is sweet to them. But last night we had a disagreement about sleep arrangements.

He has always slept with the dogs in his room. Not on the bed, mind you, but in the room, on the floor.

She says she’s not ok with this, and he’s obviously heartbroken at the thought of upending these dogs’ lives after they’ve been doing the same thing for their entire lives.

She said my dogs can’t sleep in our room. She doesn’t want them on the bed and neither do I, but she won’t even say yes to them on the floor. I have each of them for 8* years and they’ve spent almost every night of their life sleeping in the same room as me. If I were to kick them out of the room they would make a huge fuss and keep us up.

He came up with the solution of sleeping in the second room with the dogs, but she didn’t like that either – she feels like he’s choosing the dogs over her.

She said it’s non negotiable so i said I’ll just sleep in the second room with them, but that upset her too that i would sleep with them over her.

He wants to stand his ground for his heart and the dogs, but is wondering whether he’s making the wrong choice, here.

AITA for standing my ground about this? The dogs are my family, one of them is 11 and on his last few years and I’d feel mean for making my old pups change what they’ve been doing their entire life.

What does Reddit say? You know they love dogs, so…

They say she’s not wrong and neither is he, but this is an issue that could mean living together isn’t the right move. Womp-womp.

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People pointed out that, given the dogs’ ages, she could just compromise for now, and set the rule of no sleeping in the bedroom if there are future dogs.

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It’s probably good they’re having this “priorities and values” discussion now, actually.

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She’s not being cruel, but she’s also not showing a lot of empathy or willingness to compromise.

Just saying.

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This seems to be the general consensus.

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It might seem silly to think about ending an otherwise good relationship over where the dogs sleep, but listen – anyone who has been married or lived with someone knows how important it is to know where lines will be drawn ahead of time.

Should OP stand his ground? Give in? Give us your opinions in the comments!

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