People Think These Things Turn Hot People Ugly

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but what makes us change our minds?

That’s what Reddit user Antoinewhite wanted to get to the bottom of in their post:

What turns an attractive person ugly? from AskReddit

Let’s find out what the folks of r/AskReddit say turns hotties into notties.

1. P-U.

their smell

– WaterSpell

2. Give a little.

Selfishness.

– OutsideRich

3. Not so common.

lack of common sense and humanity.

– jhinleon

4. Hotty or haughty?

Arrogance is definitely a huge turn off.

– sea8cloud8

5. It’s very revealing.

Being an *sshole to waiters, janitors, and the like.

Or just being an *sshole and having a sh*t attitude about everything.

– CitizenHuman

6. Like and subscribe.

Social media obsession

– NuclearWinterGames

7. Manipulation.

Twisting a situation that they caused, so it’s more favorable for them.

– gliitch0xFF

8. Anybody home?

Personality of a wet mop

– alleycatt_101

9. “One of the boys.”

When I was 15, my cousins best friend was the cutest boy I had ever met… Until I got to know him. He was cocky and talked down to any girl that he didn’t deem beautiful enough to put his charm on. He was never really mean to me because I was “one of the boys” but that just let me see what he was truly like towards girls in general.

He quickly became the ugliest person I knew. In turn, one of the “funny looking” kids in my class quickly became my crush because he was just so nice!

His inner beauty outshined his big ears and crooked nose before the first week of school was over.

So yeah, personality is a game changer

– saymynamebastien

10. Learn something.

Ignorance. I hate people that don’t know anything and choose to not learn anything new.

People who think they’re better than others, who choose to not learn about cultures or people’s identities, it just makes me mad.

I can see no beauty in a closed off brain.

– JustAPlane22

11. Shut it.

Chewing with their mouth open

– BigIreland

12. Stuck in the old.

Not being willing to try new things. Went on one date with a guy who listed the 4 or 5 foods he eats then got mad that the Italian restaurant didn’t have any of them (I forget what they were but they were child foods like chicken fingers or something).

He then yelled at the waiter that he only eats “real american food”. Strike 2, treating people like sh*t. Strike 3, perception of American exceptionalism. I chugged my wine, paid, and left. 5 minute date.

While I was chugging, he asked if I could pop his back pimples. I almost puked on the table

– AhFFSImTooOldForThis

13. You’re not all that.

Really don’t want to sound like a douche, but for me it’s someone that are snobby, dumb or indecisive.

I don’t mean uneducated, I mean dumb.

Plain dumb.

– CupidXII

14. Calm down.

treating you like you’re lucky to be with them

– Brother_Bishop

15. Got anything else?

When being attractive is their only personality trait

– Black__Mesa

I’d say that’s a pretty good starter list, but it could be a lot longer.

What would you add?

Tell us in the comments.

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Major Red Flags That People in Relationships Have Ignored

I lived right by Lake Michigan for a couple of years in Chicago, and every time I would stroll over there I’d take note of the flag.

As anyone who lives near a large body of water knows, they use flags to signify the safety of being on the beach / getting in the water at that time.

A yellow flag meant proceed with caution. A red flag meant get the f**k away.

Unfortunately, when it comes to the metaphorical red flags in our lives, we don’t always listen, as pointed out by Twitter user @objsucks:

What else had people encountered? Let’s find out.

10. That’s permanent

“Hey cool but this is like our second date.”

9. Bad nuggs

What kind of sociopath…

8. That’s a big ego

Was he compensating for something?

7. Not guilty

Was she perchance a juror?

6. Bless up

Which I’m sure she repeatedly insisted was no such thing.

5. Parasocial

That’s a lot of weird rules.

4. Sing me a song

You would lose me at “watched Glee.”

3. Happily ever after?

“Hey, you wanna come pay $50 to freeze to death watching something we could see better at home on TV for free?”

2. Opposites attract

What’s to understand? It’s not complicated.

1. Bad taste

Prince wasn’t bad at anything, ya’ll. Anything musical, anyway.

As we make our way toward the beaches that are our relationships, we must watch for the red flags that are the…flags of…that thing.

GOD I’m bad at metaphors. That’s probably some kind of red flag.

What warning signs have you ignored?

Tell us in the comments.

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Absolutely Brutal Text Conversations You Need To See

I’ve been having one of those months that is full of brutal conversations. But I count myself lucky that none of them have been at the level of brutality presented in the screenshots of convos from these people on Reddit. Because holy crap.

Laugh, cry, and wince along as we look through some taxing texts.

10. Feelings are feelings

Wow, what did they do to deserve this war crime of a response?

9. Missed me

Sure hope you won, Caroline.

8. Ever-vigilant

When you’re very involved in your son’s life but not enough to know how old he is.

7. Comfort

To be fair, how does one respond to that?

6. Rachel

Yeah this has gotta be against like a dozen company/privacy policies.

5. Get it?

Move on honey, he’s not worth it.

4. Group projects

Arjun is never gonna recover from this one.

3. Caved

I think we can safely say reconciliation is off the table.

2. I am the night

Stick with the normal cliches like “It’s not you, it’s me” next time.

1. Face the facts

You both need to move away and start new lives somewhere.

I feel like I’m playing Mortal Combat because that was some brutality turned fatality right there.

What’s the most brutal exchange you’ve had lately?

Tell us in the comments.

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People Share The Biggest Red Flags They’ve Ever Ignored

Red flags are everywhere. Warning us that the person we’re getting involved with is bad news, no good, turn around, 0/10 do not attempt.

And yet, we so often ignore them, like Twitter user @objsucks did:

She’s not alone of course. Check out these other doozies.

13. A really bad start

Ah. So…racism then. Just…plain old racism.

12. Rap it up

I had a somewhat similar experience with a drunk friend I was driving home once, but the one getting burned was me.

11. Power trip

And *that* alone should disqualify you from any governmental position ever for the rest of your life.

10. A single chocolate

This has got some serious Bates Motel energy.

9. The sickness

That’s awful, I hope he got the help he needed.

8. Number one problem

Once I can understand as an embarrassing but forgivable incident – but REGULARLY?

7. Scoot on out

Wait, that’s a thing?

6. Egg me on

Gross.

5. Disney adult

The most tragical place on earth.

4. Watch out

Woof, a double-whammy.

3. Help yourself

Imagine being so selfish you won’t give your partner water.

2. Bless up

Oh, no.

1. Serious inquiries only

Is that your final answer?

If you see any of this: run.

What red flags have you ignored?

Tell us in the comments.

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People Shared the Wild Ways Their Grandparents Met

I don’t have many crazy “how we met” stories from my relationships. With maybe one notable exception, it’s pretty much just been “I do theatre and she does theatre so we met doing theatre.”

I wish I had some more memorable romantic anecdote to pull, like the one in this tweet:

Or the ones in the myriad of replies that followed:

10. So driven

Next stop, marriage.

9. Take me home tonight

Well, I guess that’s that.

8. Lap it up

When I do that I just get slapped but OK.

7. Look out for her

Buddy you better look out for you.

6. Dude had game

Dang.

5. Wait, how?

Don’t hate the player.

4. Do the math

I, too, am a little bit lost.

3. Breakdown break ups

Driving in cars with boys.

2. Grandpa Chet

Peace out, ya’ll.

1. I’m sorry?

She’s quite the wing lady.

I guess you never know where or how love might find you!

Do you know any cool real-life “how we met” stories?

Tell us in the comments.

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Couples Share the Best Parts of Intimacy After Getting Married

In the book Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, Sheila Wray Gregoire says:

Intimacy is about sharing something with your spouse that you don’t share with anybody else. It’s letting him in. It’s laughing together. And it’s also feeling that deep hunger for each other!”

But how long can that deep hunger for each other last? Conventional (some might say cynical) wisdom says that once you’re married, it’s just a downhill climb in true intimacy, or desire.

But if these thirteen real confessions from married folks are any indication, that’s far from the whole truth.

13. Too much of a good thing

What, are you like doing it on their laps at restaurants or something?

Image Credit: Whisper

12. Twenty five and still alive

Congratulations!

Image Credit: Whisper

11. The spice of life

It’s a pretty simple way to keep things fun.

Image Credit: Whisper

10. Get the message?

Nothing will make you feel like a teenager quite like that.

Image Credit: Whisper

9. Get your reps in

Four to six times? Dang, how?!

Image Credit: Whisper

8. One for the record books

Do you literally keep like a tab of them?

Image Credit: Whisper

7. Parking in cars with boys

Better be on the lookout for the mean old principal.

Image Credit: Whisper

6. Work it out

Now that’s some exercise we can all get behind.

Image Credit: Whisper

5. I get high

Ya’ll just keep going up, up, and away.

Image Credit: Whisper

4. Comfortable and rarin’ to go

It’s sort of the best of both worlds.

Image Credit: Whisper

3. Can’t wait

Traffic never feels so slow.

Image Credit: Whisper

2. Relieve the tension

Release the chill.

Image Credit: Whisper

1. Playing around

Just don’t let the neighborhood kids see you.

Image Credit: Whisper

Sounds like a wild ride, maybe marriage isn’t so mild after all!

Are you married? What’s your sex life been like?

Share if you dare in the comments.

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People Who Got Surprised By Their DNA Results Share Their Stories

Most people who decide to spit in a little tube and send it in to be analyzed just think it would be fun to find out what countries our ancestors hailed from – if the stories our parents and grandparents have always told are correct.

Some people who are adopted or who suspect they haven’t been told the whole story about their conception or heritage, might do so with a few more hopes.

Then there are people like these 14, who went in expecting a bit of fun and ended up with whole new families instead.

14. Is…is someone going to tell her?

My cousin took a test and goes on and on about how she’s almost completely Irish. Our grandpa was German.

I’d heard from my mom as a kid that my aunt’s biological father was probably her friend’s father.

I’ve looked the family up on Facebook and my aunt looks just that friend.

My cousin seems to have no idea of any of this.

I don’t think my aunt does either.

13. That’s an understatement.

Same here. At the age of 60, I discovered who my real father was and that I have 9 half-siblings.

He was a bit of a dog!

My father and I chatted a lot until he passed away last year.

One of my sisters lives nearby and we’ve spent quality time together.

12. Gonna have to find a new brag.

My ex-husband’s family were proud of their Dutch heritage and claimed to be one of the founding families of the historically Dutch Holland, MI.

His ancestry results didn’t show any Dutch ancestry.

Instead, he had primarily English/Irish ancestry.

11. A happy ending.

Not me, but a friend never knew who his father was (mom had a weekend fling in college and never contacted the guy after) and his wife helped him use ancestry.com to try and track him down. My friend reached out and the guy was obviously surprised, but flew across the country to meet him.

They have a great relationship now, the dad attended his wedding, and they try to get their families together a couple times a year or so

10. Sacre le bleu!

One of my best friends has a very French last name and her family was always very proud of their French heritage.

Until her dad took a DNA test and found no French in their background

9. This sounds awful.

A friend discovered that her father was not really her father.

Her mom had an affair and she was the result. It tore her family apart.

Her “father” did not know he was not really her father.

Note: she was 45 years old when this happened.

8. No one wants to hear that.

That my father is a registered sex offender (parents are divorced).

7. A brother!

Not me, but a family friend.

He did the test and found out he had a half-brother. Turns out his dad had an affair a while back, and that kid was a product of that affair.

6. People never change.

My dad and Aunt found out they had an older brother!

Long story, my grandfather had a fling before he met my grandmother, never even knew he had a son, went and lived his life and some near 60 years later, BOOM!

Ancestry test, here you go!

So another really good story from this one.

5. Aww, I love this story.

A full 100% older brother. My mother got pregnant by my father before the were married. Scandalous in 1960. So, with my father’s knowledge of the situation, mom left town, and lived with my aunt until the birth.

Mom gave the baby up for adoption, and then returned home.

A couple years later, she married my dad and had three more children together, including me. Fifty five years later, after both my parents had died, my aunt let it slip that me and my siblings that were not the only children of our parents. To paraphrase from Star Wars, there is another.

My sister took a DNA test, and a couple of year later she got a hit. Soon thereafter, we met our new big brother and his family (wife, kids) and have become quite close.

4. This is all very mysterious.

So, I did the health DNA one 18 months ago because I wanted to see if I had the breast cancer gene, as there is several incidences on both sides of my family. Got my results and became very confused, it claimed I had no Italian despite my father’s grandma literally coming over from Sicily in 1920.

It took me a few minutes to realize what that actually meant. My parents have been together since my mother was 14, I was born when she was 17, and my father joined the military and married my mother. Called my mom and she literally said “that’s interesting.” Then she asked me not to talk to my father and she would explain everything the next time I visited. She did not, and just refused i talk about it.

Honestly, I was just shook. I did not see it coming and it was never even presented to be a possibility to me. My sister ended up doing a DNA test and it showed that we were half siblings. I went no contact with my mother 4 months ago, due to this incident and several others.

I haven’t told my dad but I realize at some point the truth is going to come out, my sister matched with some of my fathers relatives while I did not so if anyone checks that shit, they’re gonna be asking questions.

3. Surprise!

My dad has a cousin living in Utah. The family has always lived in Pennsylvania.

For the timing to work, his grandfather hooked up prior to coming to the US in 1918 or his grandmother had a kid and gave it up when she was like 14.

Either way, that kid would have been my Dad’s aunt/uncle which we never knew about.

2. More family to love!

Not me, My wife

A few years ago my wife and I both took the 23 and me test. One of her matches came back with 23% which is high for someone non-family. She messaged him and they started talking. He was about 10 years older, said he was adopted and the only thing he knew was some basic biological info. From his age that would have put her mom at 14 but her mom never said anything about it. So the two options were her mom got knocked up young or Grandma had a secret love child.

So she asked her youngest Uncle who said when he was a kid he remembered his sister going away for a few months because she was “sick” and the family just pretended it never happened. He also said that before his mom (my wives Grandmother) passed she told him all about it.

So my wife now has a Brother, a sister in law and nieces and nephews.

1. Well that’s insane.

My son is my 4th cousin.

(We adopted him as an infant from an agency.)

Fun to find that we are actually related!

These kinds of stories are so fascinating, don’t you think?

If you’ve got one to toss on the pile, please do so in the comments!

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Women Talk About When They Knew They Wanted to Marry Their Husbands

Hey, there!

Today I met the boy I’m gonna marry…

Remember that song? It’s a good one! A golden oldie, if I do say so myself…

And we love it because it reminds folks about when they first knew that The One was really gonna be THE ONE.

Women on Buzzfeed talked about when they knew they were gonna marry their husbands.

Let’s take a look!

1. Comforting.

“A week after our first date, I got knocked over in a bike accident and ended up at the hospital with a broken neck and a fractured spine.

While visiting me in the hospital, he wasn’t allowed anywhere near my head, so since he couldn’t reach my hand, he held my foot the whole time instead.”

2. That’s nice.

“We were at brunch when a disabled vet came over and started a conversation with him about his motorcycle jacket.

My man had just gotten laid off, but he looked at his budget and bank app right there at the table to figure out where he could cut a corner to pay for that vet and his wife’s meals.

I almost cried.”

3. No walk of shame.

“I thought I was going to have to do the ‘walk of shame’ from his place at 6 a.m. one morning after we’d been out.

I was putting my dress back on when he got out of bed and put on jeans and a dress shirt to walk me home instead.”

4. First date.

“My (now) husband and I were on our first date, and we wandered into a café with a live band that was so loud we couldn’t hear each other at all.

Well, the music was really good, so rather than ignore me or suggest that we leave, he started texting me questions about my dreams, fears, and hopes for the future.”

5. The One.

“I found out I had cancer on our third date, and I found out a few months later that I probably couldn’t have kids.

I was crying during our car ride home when he took my hand and said, ‘We can always adopt.’”

6. A stand-up guy.

“We were supposed to have a fourth date when I called to tell him I couldn’t make it because my dad had just gone to the ER with metastatic colon cancer.

Well, he could tell in my voice how stressed I was about it, so he drove two hours to be with me at the hospital. And we had that fourth date in the hospital’s cafeteria.

We’ve been married for six years and have been through hell and back together. But we find new ways to love each other all the time.”

7. Animal lover.

“When I saw him chasing a random stray cat because he wanted to pet it.”

8. That came later.

“When we were chatting about amusement parks and he said, ‘I love…Universal Studios,’ and I realized that I thought he was going to say, ‘I love you,’ and that I wished he did.”

9. All about the soup.

“Neither of us likes soup. But we attend a lot of events that have soup courses.

So without a word, he’ll eat all his soup and quietly switch his finished bowl with my full bowl then eat mine, too.

Then he’ll whisper sweetly, ‘Good job eating your soup, hun!’”

10. Huey for the win!

“We had just moved in together, and I wanted to blast some Huey Lewis while washing my car, but my ex always made me feel silly for liking ’80s music, so I was embarrassed…

Well, I finally decided to just do it — and he looked at me and said, ‘Oh my god, I LOVE Huey! Are you playing ‘Hip to Be Square’?!’ I knew then that we were meant to be together.”

11. No problem.

“We were visiting his parents in the Bay Area, and just as we were leaving, his mom — who was very ill — asked him to cut her toenails.

Most men wouldn’t do that in front of a new girlfriend, but he just went into her bathroom, got the clippers, and cut her nails.

I knew that if he took care of her like that, he’d take great care of me. And he did.”

12. Authentic.

“My husband won my heart when he jokingly called me an *sshole on our first date.

I had been internet dating for a while, and first dates were usually stiff and felt like job interviews. So it was refreshing for someone to be authentic.

I felt like I knew him well as soon as I met him.”

13. That’s the good stuff!

“The first day I met him I noticed that the way he talked about the things he was passionate about was so moving.

His eyes lit up, and he smiled the whole time in a way that made my heart melt.”

14. Part of the family.

“My dad died a month ago at a routine hospital visit, and we had just signed the DNR when my husband walked into the waiting room and immediately took my mom into his arms.

That’s when I realized it isn’t just me he loves and cares for.”

Alright, folks, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us about when you knew that your partner was THE ONE.

Let’s get all lovey dovey!

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Folks Share the Most “Surprising” Advice They Got From Their Grandpa

I come from a pretty buttoned-up Midwestern family – we don’t talk openly about things like sex or…life, especially not with our grandparents.

But if Reddit is anything to go by, I’m practically alone in that. Look at this post:

My grandma once chastised me for wearing underwear to bed because I need to "let my taco air out". What bizarre advice have you gotten from the older and wiser? from AskReddit

To the delight and revulsion of all of us, there were thousands of replies in this thread. Here’s some input people received from their grandfathers in particular:

1. Amen.

My grandparents gave each of their grandkids money for college. Not a fortune, just a few hundred dollars a year to buy a couple books.

So I’m over my grandparents to get said money and my grandmother leaves the room to get her cheque book.

My grandfather motions me over and says, “Don’t make it with any Catholic girls because they don’t use birth control.” Nevermind the fact that we’re Catholic…

So my grandmother comes back and gives me a cheque and we talk and whatnot and as I go to leave, my grandfather yells out, “Get yourself some ‘jimmy-hats’ with that. F*ck I always hated those things, but these days they keep you from catching that AIDS.”

– Fuqwon

2. Bird is the word.

“If your bird touches the urinal, it will fall off.” -my grandfather

It took a while to shake the anxiety from peeing.

– [user deleted]

3.  Check out that username.

My entire family (50+ people) gathered for my Grandparent’s anniversary, as we knew my Grandma would not be with us much longer.

My Aunt asked my Grandpa the secret to their almost 60 year marriage.

The crowd of divorced and remarried and divorced and remarried hooligans hushed to hear his words. “Eat fish. And f*ck 5 times a week.”

My Grandma, barely awake due to the morphine, patted her husbands hand lovingly, nodded and gave me the last big grin I saw from her. She was gone a week later.

– Fish-x-5

4. Vroom vroom.

My grandfather once told me how to have sex on a motorcycle.

Awkward silence followed.

– ethnicallyambiguous

5. Them’s fightin’ words.

Always assume anyone who punches you has the will to kill you. Act accordingly and always treat a fight like its for your life. -Grandpa

– kegman83

6. Watch out.

My husband’s grandfather told us to never befriend any couples, because one wife will run off with the other husband and leave the other two sad and lonely.

We live with married housemates, I wonder what he thinks about us now…

– charcoal_feather

7. Um. Yes. Yes, I do.

Told my Grandfather that my wife was Pregnant again, a pause, a chuckle, “You know what causes that right? wink”

– zerbey

8. Cat got your tongue?

My grandfather is a very straight-laced individual. Was in the Navy in World War 2, raised a family of 7 kids, and in every other respect is just an older, Catholic Hank Hill minus the alcohol.

I was at his house helping him with a computer or something one day and his cat went up to its food bowl and started eating. My grandfather grabbed the cat’s tail and lifted its rear end a few inches off of the ground. The cat responded with a little meow/purr thing, a generally happy sounding noise. My grandfather turned to me slowly and said, “He likes it when I do that. I think it gives him some sort of…sexual thrill.”

Not sure if there’s any advice in there but it was pretty bizarre.

– mmmbacon914

9. Everything in moderation.

“Martinis are like t*ts. One isn’t enough and three is too many.” -grandpa b

– Dermisgermis

10. Light ’em up.

“A cigarette’s got fire on one end and a fool on the other.” –my grandpa when I was like 12

– Jim_Gaffigans_bacon

11. Wingman?

when i was in middle school, my grandfather told me, “get as much p*ssy as you can, as often as you can, for as long as you can. when you get to be my age, pretty girls ain’t nothin’ but eye candy.”

when i was a freshman in high school, he was visiting. my girlfriend was over, and my mom went to the store. she asked my grandfather to keep an eye on us, and informed him of the “open door” rule (about leaving my bedroom door open while she was over). he said, “what the h*ll? are you trying to raise an exhibitionist?” when my mom left, he called me downstairs and told me, “what the h*ll are you doin’ down here? get your *ss back up there and f*ck that little girl while you have the privacy to do it. who knows how long ’til your mother comes back?”

– yetzer_hara

12. Um…

Grandpas word of advice for me when I started dating a vegetarian “don’t let her lie to you, they may say they’re a vegetarian but at some point in their lives, all of them have meat In their mouths”

– neyxport

13. Gross.

Never tell your girlfriend/wife that she’s attractive. One day she’ll build up enough confidence to cheat on you with someone better looking.

Edit: For clarification; my recently divorced grandfather told me this. I don’t agree with it whatsoever.

– BroDontPokeThatBear

14. No use crying over it?

i was playing with flashlights at my grandfathers and he told me, ” stop spilling my milk.” he iterated further by saying, ” batteries are like milk. if you waste all your milk now you wont have any left for cereal later.”

– [user deleted]

15. Eternal mysteries.

My grandfather who died when I was four used to always walk tell people (including me) “Wet birds don’t fly at night.”

I still don’t know what the f*ck it means…

– OleToothless

I remember my grandpa once told me his mustache had special feelers. Not sure what that meant. Maybe I don’t want to know?

What’s a memorable bit of advice you’ve gotten from your grandpa?

Tell us in the comments.

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A Child-Free Woman Wants to Know if it Was Wrong to Give to Charity Instead of Her Friend’s Kids

It’s always sort an awkward thing when your friends have kids – whether you have your own or not.

Are they supposed to be friends just because you are? Do you have to act like you like their kids in order to stay friends? Do you exchange gifts on holidays? Send them birthday texts?

There aren’t any clear rules, and it probably depends on the type of friendship you have to begin with, I would think.

This woman makes good money and lives in a large city….

AITA for telling my friend it is not my job to get presents for her kids

I know it sounds bad but hear me out. Part of me feels like I could’ve just sucked it up. back story below.

I (27F) live in a major city. I moved out of my home town when I was 18 for college and upon graduation, got a full time job in said city. I have a great job in wealth management and make great money, this will come in to play later.

Since moving away I visit a few times a year. Kellie and I have been good friends for 6 years and she has a daughter and a son, aged 5 and 3. I love her kids and spoil them to no end. Every time I come up for a visit I am always bringing them presents of stuff I’ve accumulated in the months of my weekly tj maxx trips. I never show up empty handed for these kids and i love them.

Idk how to put this because I feel like a bad person saying this…but as the years go on we just don’t have much in common. I have a long term boyfriend and I’m constantly getting asked “when’s the engagement, you should get engaged soon so you can have kids ASAP”. I’m still young, i like being obligation free, going out, partying (pre covid obviously), I like having intellectually stimulating convos with people. I hope it doesn’t come off as shallow but I’ve just noticed lately I get incredibly bored because the conversations go no where.

Kellie and husband have finance troubles so when we go out I’m always offering to pay for dinner, always paying when we take her kids to activities like amusement parks or zoo’s. Although I’m not around as much in their life because I live out of state, I am ALWAYS insisting that I take them places or do fun things with the kids. They don’t struggle with money because they make minimum wage, they struggle because they don’t budget.

onto event. I went Black Friday shopping with her and was picking up a lot of toys for boys aged 8-15 (unlike her 3 year old son). When she asked what they were for, I explained to her that I “adopted” a family of underprivileged children to get presents for (I knew the toys would be going directly to said children and that it wasn’t some scam)

Especially given covid times I wanted to give back so I opted to shop for the three boys, and told her that since I have no kids of my own to shop for I wanted to spend my extra bonus money on them. She looks me dead in the eyes and goes “what do you mean you don’t have any kids to shop for? You could use it on my kids, you know how much we struggle sometimes and you make so much money”. Let me be perfectly clear; her two children are already spoiled beyond words, not just by me but EVERYONE. these kids have more than children frankly ever need. I’m trying to do the right thing for children who NEED IT, and I told her this much. I exploded and told her everything I said above and she started crying. I immediately felt like shit because she is a good friend and I love her kids, but I obviously already got them a few things and not all of my money needs to go to them.

When it came time for the commenters to weigh in, many people thought the friendship had probably run its course.

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Plenty of people pointed out that OP is doing a nice thing for kids who need it, and anyone who would be annoyed by that should probably re-examine their own priorities.

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Others were quick to remind OP that friendships have to go two ways, and it seems like she’s not getting much, if anything, out of this one anymore.

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OP is, of course, a good person.

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Then there was this well-timed (and true!) rant about society and child-free people.

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It’s not a friend’s job to make up for your own shortcomings re: caring for your children.

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I think OP is probably right to regret how things went down, and maybe some of the things that she said, but she’s not at all a jerk for adopting a family during the holidays instead of spending all of her extra money on her friend’s kids.

Right?

If you have a different opinion here, share it with me in the comments!

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