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Was This Woman Wrong for Telling Her Cousin the Truth About Her Heritage?

Most people are curious about where they came from – their ancestors, the timeline of events, names and places, that sort of thing. I image that being Native American, part of that curiosity is a bit of duty to carry on a culture that now belongs to far too few.

This family is Native American. The grandfather was part of the Sioux, tribe, and had two sons. Those sons each had a daughter, who are one-quarter Native American…or so they both thought.

OP, who is very light-skinned and doesn’t “look Native,” is actually the only one who is because her cousin’s father was not her grandfather’s by blood.

My (18f) grandfather was a full blooded Sioux Native American. He had two sons, my dad and my uncle. My uncle had a daughter named K (17). All of them except me are very dark skinned. My mom is a white lady, which turned out to be the dominant gene for me, so I am quite light skinned.

My dad is half Native American, and I am a quarter. K however, isn’t at all because of family drama surrounding her dad that K was never told about.

As they spent time together in the tribe, getting to know about their family and heritage, the cousin grew openly hostile about OP’s light skin, claiming she was an embarrassment to their culture and had no right to be there.

As we got older my dad and uncle wanted us to become more integrated with what is left of our tribe so we would visit Grandpa’s extended family often. We would go together in one car and every single time she would get pissed and throw a tantrum about me coming.

K was horrible to me about it every time and would tell me how stupid I am and how I’m an “ugly white bitch”. My dad and uncle always just brushed it off and I just had bite my tongue and take it.

Finally, after the cousin claimed she would refuse any more visits with their Sioux relatives if her “white” cousin was along for the ride, OP snapped and told her cousin the hard truth.

Things finally came to a head two weeks ago when she stopped us at the door and said she will not be going under any circumstances if I am also going.

K said that I am an embarrassment to our family and to the tribe because of how light skinned I am, and that my dad is a racist towards his own people for letting me be apart of this culture. This was the first time she had ever said anything like this where they could hear it, and I finally snapped. I was done letting this girl bully me, so I told her the truth about her heritage.

The story of her uncle’s parentage tumbled out, and her cousin lost her mind. Her aunt disowned OP and her father in the process, claiming her daughter was now having an identity crisis.

Her own father chastised her because it’s not her story to tell, but understands that she’s frustrated at being the one treated as not good enough all of these years.

I told her that she’s actually wrong. I am more Native American than she is because her dad isn’t Sioux AT ALL. My grandmother had an affair with the neighbor (he was Mexican) and kept the baby. Grandpa loved him like a blood son anyways and brought him up the same way he did for my dad, but my uncle was aware the entire time he is an “honorary Indian” (his words not mine).

K absolutely lost the plot and has completely disowned me and my dads side of the family. I haven’t heard from my uncle and my dad said that wasn’t my story to tell, but he understands why I did it. Grandpas family don’t care, they knew the whole time. K is apparently having a major identity crisis and my uncles wife cussed me out on the phone and she’s also disowned me and my dad.

So, what did the good people of Reddit think?

Let’s find out!

They say the cousin is simply reaping the rewards of years of horrid behavior, for one.

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This comment just made me chuckle.

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And yes, her father had years to tell that story himself, and put a stop to the cruelty.

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I think we can all agree the adults are really at fault, here.

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And then there’s this mic drop.

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I guess I agree that OP could have been more tactful, but the adults really should have made sure the pertinent family members were in on the big secret a long time ago – and they also shouldn’t have let racial bullying go on under their noses.

Where do you come down? Hit us with your thoughts in the comments!

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A Person Asked if it Was Wrong to Not Let Her Daughter Introduce Her Black Boyfriend to Her Grandparents

I think this is going to be a very divisive topic and story for a lot of people out there.

And rightfully so, because the headline makes this person seem like a total bigot.

But let’s give them a chance to tell the story for themselves on Reddit “Am I the *sshole” forum, okay?

AITA for telling my daughter she cannot introduce her African American boyfriend to her grandparents?

“Let me just preface this by saying this: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Now that the air is clear, let me continue.

My daughter (Anna) has recently started to date an African American man (Jamal). While I’m not exactly what you would refer to as “liberal”, he’s a nice young man and as long as my daughter is happy, I’m happy. The problem is Anna is rather naive about the community she lives in.

While her friends are quite content to see a relationship like hers, more than a few tongues are wagging in the community and a few people have privately expressed their concern to me. As I said, I have no problem with mixed relationships and I’ve set them straight, but I am painfully aware of how these matters are viewed by certain segments of the population.

My parents are planning to come and stay with us for a week and Anna expressed a desire to introduce Jamal to them now that things were getting more serious between them. I told her on no uncertain terms that this wasn’t going to happen.

I may have no problem with Jamal, but they absolutely will, and even when the relationship ends they won’t forget it. They might even go as far as to cut her off entirely. Anna was extremely upset by this and implied I was a racist and more concerned with what my parents think than how she feels.

As I said, I know my parents. They simply aren’t okay with mixed relationships and if Anna were to bring Jamal over even as a friend, they would be furious both at her and me.

Anna is currently staying with Jamal and doesn’t want to speak with me right now. My wife stands by me given she knows very well how my parents are (they had a problem with her for months over the length of the skirt she wore when I introduced her to them, for christs sake), but a close friend I confided in told me that I have behaved like an *ss and that I needed to focus more on my daughter than pleasing my parents.

No advice needed, but I have to know. Have I been an *ss?”

First of all, this person made a good point that this mother said “when” the relationship ends, and not “if.”

Hmmm. Is that coded language?

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This reader got straight the point. Brutally honest!

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And this Reddit user pointed out the most important thing: her daughter’s happiness should come first. Period.

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This person argued that the mother is to blame because in a way, she’s making the situation all about herself and how it will affect her.

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And finally, this individual made a great point about how racism works in our society.

Sorry, Mom, I think you got called out big time by these folks.

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Wow…now we want to get your take on this situation.

In the comments, tell us what you think.

We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks!

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Woman Asks if It’s Disrespectful for Not Wanting the Ring Her Fiancé Previously Gave to Someone Else

Let me say right off the bat that giving a woman an engagement ring that you already gave to someone else is not a great move.

I have a hard time believing that any woman out there would be really psyched about that…and that brings us to today’s story!

A woman shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page about an incident that set her off.

Here’s what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting a ring my fiancé already gave to another girl

“My now fiancé was engaged a couple years before we got together, and they broke up and she gave the ring back.

We’ve been together a few years and a few days ago, he proposed and I was super excited. The ring looked kinda familiar and when I asked him where it was from, he said it was the ring he gave to ex fiancé.

I immediately took it off and was like “I don’t want a ring you bought for someone else, it wasn’t meant for me.” He got upset and said it didn’t matter, because it’s not hers anymore it’s mine.

My family and friends are split in saying I’m the *sshole and I’m justified.

I don’t want him to spend a whole other thousand dollars on a ring for me, but I want a ring that was meant for me, not for someone else.

AITA?”

And the people of Reddit, as they like to do, weighed in with their thoughts.

This person got right to the point.

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This Reddit user said that she knew her husband would never do something like that and she let that fact be known loud and clear.

It’s bad juju!

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But this person came to the man’s defense and said he just made a mistake and that this incident is not worth breaking up over.

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Another person made a great point: rings don’t have to be pricey, but they have to be personal.

Preach!

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And this person called the guy’s move “tacky as hell.”

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But then another reader weighed in and said that the guy was not in the wrong and that both of them need to reevaluate the whole situation and not let a ring get in the way of their relationship.

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Okay, now we want to hear what YOU think about this situation.

In the comments, share your thoughts with us?

Is this woman an *sshole, or is she right on with her feelings?

Thanks in advance!

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Guy Asks if He’s a Jerk for Yelling at His Wife Over Two Dollars

I want my two dollars!

Sorry, I had to do it.

But let’s move on.

This story appeared on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” forum. A man asked folks if he overreacted and if he should feel bad about blowing up at his wife over what on the surface was a measly two dollars, but was actually the culmination of a lot of issues.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA for yelling at my wife over $2?

“My wife (38F) and I (33M) have been married for 8 years. We have one child together (5M).

Some background that might be relevant: I work full time. She works about 15 hours a week. Our finances have always been separate. However, I pay all the bills and for all our “fun stuff,” as well as give her an allowance of $1,000 per month. In fact, she currently has almost three times as much money saved as I do.

The fight: We were out for a walk and I wanted to get a holiday drink from a coffee shop for us to share. My wife told me not to get it. She said she had a gift card, but only for a certain location. So I waited until we walked past that location. My wife then said she would go in to get it and we would meet at home. I left with our son.

When my wife got home I noticed she was drinking a plain coffee. I asked her where my drink was and she said there wasn’t enough money left on her card to get me the kind that I wanted. I admit I kind of blew up at her.

I asked her why she didn’t just let me buy the drink myself then? Or why not use some of the money I gave her. Or even just let me know she couldn’t get it. Honestly, it’s like a $2 difference.

I was actually so mad I had to leave the house. I’m currently at my sister’s place, just hanging out in the front yard (because COVID). I don’t know if I should go home and apologize for yelling or stay until I’ve truly calmed down

My wife always makes me feel like I’m overreacting but I feel genuinely hurt.”

Hmmmm, this sure is a tricky situation….

Let’s see what other folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person said that the man was not wrong and that he’s clearly been giving and giving and not getting much back in return.

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And this person went so far as to even call his situation “financial abuse”.

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And this Reddit user brought up a very good point: who would actually do what the man’s wife did to someone they love? It sure struck me as odd.

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This reader didn’t beat around the bush AT ALL.

Take a look.

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And this individual stated the obvious: that the incident with the coffee triggered the emotional reaction that had been a long time coming.

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Here’s another person who laid out the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

And I agree, a $1,000 monthly allowance is pretty wild.

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What do you think?

Is this guy a jerk or was he justified in the way he acted?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks a lot!

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Was This Woman Wrong For Being Angry About Her Boyfriend’s “Guy Nights?”

Relationships are difficult. Anyone who tells you differently is either lying or they aren’t actually emotionally invested in the relationship at all.

I said what I said.

Which is not to say they’re hard all the time, but you know. It’s not always easy.

This girl is finding out that struggles can unexpectedly come out of nowhere now that a friend has become a boyfriend, and everyone is going out to have fun without her.

So me and my boyfriend, C, have the same friend group. There’s 5 guys and 3 girls including myself who are all dating guys in this group. For context I was introduced to the group 4 years ago and I started dating C over a year ago. He joined a year before we dated. Anyway onto the story.

They’ve all been friends for awhile, and OP is closer to the guys than the girls, but still, they don’t want to invite her along – because if she did, all the girls would be invited.

And no, it’s not every couple of months. It’s all the time.

So the boys in my friend group have started a thing called “guys night” where they go out and do everything we all do together but without us girls. Here’s the thing- ALL of my friends are the boys. I don’t know the girls in the group too well and while I have friends outside the group I’m no where near as close with them as I am this group.

They say they need to “spend some quality time with their friends” and that if I went they’d have to invite their girlfriends. And it’s not every so often, it’s every 2 weeks on a Saturday, which is the one day I can go out. So basically while my boyfriend goes out with all my friends I have to be stuck at home by myself. And what’s worse is when we all do hang out they constantly bring up stuff that happened on guys night saying “you had to be there”.

This had been going on months.

She got upset when he was giddy about another night out, and refused to take her along or just spend the night with her instead without even thinking about it.

Last night my boyfriend came over to mine from guys night really happy and was texting his friends when I asked him why I couldn’t go. He made a vague gesture at my chest and crotch saying I wasn’t a guy. I then asked him why he couldn’t skip it to spend the night with me and he rolled his eyes. I lost it.

I started crying and screaming at him calling him an asshole for allowing me to be completely isolated when I’ve told him how shitty it is. He ended up leaving and called me a bitch.

He’s staying with one of our friends who’s saying I was being the AH for yelling at him that way. The girls all agree with me though and I don’t know if I should apologise.

OP made an edit to explain that she’s not being possessive, and it’s fine if her boyfriend has hobbies, she just doesn’t want to constantly be excluded because she’s not a dude.

EDIT: I feel like everyone is confusing what I’m saying. I’m not mad he has his own hobbies- that’s amazing!! I’m just upset that I’m being excluded because of my gender from my friends who I introduced him to. I’ve been told explicitly this by him and his friends. Also we don’t live together and I only see him a few times a week.

And another one to say it’s not like he’s deprived or always working or anything.

EDIT 2: I should also add my boyfriend sees all his friends during the week but they schedule guys night on the one night I can go out. As I said in a comment I see him 2-3 times a week and he sees them at least 4 times, 5 on guys night. I see my friends once a fortnight.

TLDR: boyfriend goes out with my friend group while excluding me completely. I lost it at him and now I’m being called an AH

My gut reaction is that there are tons of red flags and this girl is not wrong, and there are plenty of commenters who agree with me.

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She probably needs to reassess her friendships…and her relationship.

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More than a few, though, voted that everyone sucks here.

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Something about the whole thing stinks, don’t you think?

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There were plenty of people who thought she was overreacting too, though.

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This one is more divisive than many posts on AITA, which makes it pretty interesting.

What’s your take? I personally think she’s better off finding a new boyfriend, but I don’t know….tell me what you think in the comments!

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A Man Asked if He’s Wrong To Keep His Terminal Diagnosis From His Wife

When I read that a man wants to keep the fact that he’s dying from his wife, I get a little judgy. You’re supposed to be each other’s person, their till-death-do-us-part, and to keep something that will ultimately affect you both a secret, well…that can’t be right.

Can it?

As with many Am I the A$shole posts, though, there’s always a bit more than meets the eye -and it should come as no surprise that dying can be intensely personal and varies from person to person.

The husband in question gives us a little background up front. A medical condition means he never expected to live a long life, but he says that a recent “complication” took his time from 20 or 30 years down to 1.

Male, 31 here. For the past 15 years, I’ve been dealing with a medical condition that requires constant medication and consistent doctor’s visits. I had always been projected to live until 50-60ish, however, a recent complication has cut that down to 12 months, 16 at best. In about 10 months, my condition should start getting a lot worse. After 12 months, I’ll essentially be living in the hospital.

He’s married and doesn’t know how to tell his wife, and all of this has (understandably) made him rethink his short future.

I am married of 4 years (no kids). I haven’t had the heart to tell my wife the news. I don’t even know how. We always knew I’d die younger than I wanted to, but we never expected it to be this soon.

As much as I know I should tell my wife, I don’t want my last year to be plagued with an impending doom.

My wife and I have always talked about living abroad somewhere, maybe Australia, but we’ve never found the time or money to do so. I’ve been saving up to go to graduate school, however, I don’t see much point in that now.

He wants to enjoy the time he has left, and to give his wife a nice time, a good memory, of this final year of his life, but wonders if he’s wrong to keep something this huge from her until their time is almost gone.

So here’s my idea: take some of that money, and take my wife to Australia for a few months, and enjoy the time together. I have a job I can work remotely from anywhere, and she has a job that she can easily find work anywhere. We can work part-time, and enjoy our time together. When we get back, or maybe towards the end of it, I will break the news to her. I just wouldn’t want the trip to be ruined for us by constant reminders of me dying. I know my wife, and she’s very emotional – to the point where I feel like she will be crying everyday and not enjoying herself. I want this memory to be a good one for her, and not plagued by my time ticking down.

As a note, he wants us to know he’s not a jerk – his wife will be taken care of in every way he can imagine after he’s gone. He just wants to live these last months on his own terms.

AITA for putting off telling her I am dying?

Note: I have life insurance that will take care of her, so I am not too worried about spending this money now on this trip. And I plan on talking to her about a sperm bank, just in case she decides she wants my kids in the future, as well as premised birthday cards and other things for her to have.

The people of Reddit were ready and waiting to weigh in, and as usual, they held nothing back.

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This person was a bit kinder, saying he doesn’t suck, but also saying that from personal experience, they think she deserves to know.

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Others pointed out that she’s going to need time to process, too, and he’s taking that away from her.

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And this very good point, which is that he might think he knows how she would choose to spend their last year together, but he doesn’t actually know unless he asks – and he never will.

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This excellent thought from a soft-hearted person says that OP is going to need his partner, that this isn’t something he should go through alone.

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I agree that this is just a sad situation all the way around, and I hope that he decides to tell her so they can do this together.

That said, he’s going through something most of us will thankfully never have to face, and so maybe he deserves some time and grace, too.

What are your thoughts? Drop them on us in the comments!

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A Guy Got Angry That His Girlfriend “Doesn’t Work Hard” for Her Higher Salary. People Reacted.

Without reading any further, you can probably guess that the “higher salary” part of this headline is what really got OP’s (original poster) panties in a twist.

There seems to be a certain kind of man who just can’t handle the idea of his female partner making more money than he does, regardless of their industries or how hard she works – and in the case of this dude, he’s decided that since, to his mind, she doesn’t work as hard as he does, she really shouldn’t be making so much money.

My girlfriend and I both work in tech, she’s a safety validator for software, working at a consulting firm, and I’m doing network infrastructure support.

When we both worked in different offices I didn’t know much about her day to day life at work.

I knew she made a lot more than me, 120k to my 66k, and she credits a lot of that to job hopping, she’s 25 and has had three full time jobs since college. I’ve been at one place since college.

But since we’ve been working from home, I’ve seen a lot of her daily schedule. And hers versus mine are really different.

Now that they’re working from home, he sees that she gets to sleep in before a meeting, works off and on the rest of the day while also taking care of herself and the house.

I guess that’s offensive.

She gets up at 9:15 to drag herself into the home office for her 9:30-10 daily meeting.

After the meeting she goes and showers and has breakfast from about 10 to 10:45, answering a few slack messages and emails on her phone but mostly just listening to podcasts and eating and doing her morning routine.

Then she works till noon, and takes a lunch break from noon till 1. Then she works from 1 to 4, often having meetings or working on her own stuff. And at 4 will spend an hour or so doing household chores and stuff while keeping an eye on her phone to answer emails.

And outside of 9 to 5 she blocks work related messages from her phone.

Reader, he called her a slacker.

So basically she actually works about 4 and a half hours daily, and does her own thing for about 2 hours, just paying enough attention to reply to emails that come in.

I basically work nonstop 8:30 to 5 or 6 pm, working 8.5 to 9.5 hours a day. I don’t take breaks in the workday to shower or eat breakfast and lunch or do household chores.

And a few weeks ago I got kinda frustrated with her for basically hardly doing anything for her job at all. And that they were overpaying her if she was spending half the day slacking.

She got frustrated and basically told him it was none of his business how many hours she works a day – her bosses are happy with her output and contributions and are the ones paying her salary.

She got frustrated with me and said that they hired her for her knowledge and it wasn’t my place to say what her time was worth, that if her boss and ceo saw the work she produced and chose to pay her what they chose to pay her that it wasn’t my place to undervalue her because i was being jealous.

And that she picked her job instead of one that might pay better because she wanted a good work life balance, she was sick of wasting her life away at work that was a lot more demanding.

He just kept at it, though, because *whines* how could this possibly be FAIR?

I said that she was being a little privileged, not a lot of people can just choose to make six figures and wander off from work for practically half the day, and that all I was saying was that she was working half as hard as a lot of people who earn a lot less.

She got mad at me and said that it’s not up to me to decide what her time is worth

AITA for what I said about my girlfriend’s work ethic?

Is this guy the a$shole?

I think we all know the answer to that, but here are some comments just to make us all feel vindicated.

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Yes! Be happy that your team is making more money and your partner was happy!

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More than one person pointed out that his girlfriend was pretty nice about the whole thing- nicer than she had to be, for sure.

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It’s true that working from home has made people more efficient and not less.

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He should just be living the good life.

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This guy sucks and I hope he either gets his act together or his girlfriend moves on to someone who won’t make her feel badly about all the ways she chooses to live her life – while making excellent money, I might point out.

What are your thoughts? Let’s pile on down in the comments!

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This is What Influencers Are Like in Real Life

It totally blows my mind that “influencer” is…

  • a) a recognized profession now
  • b) something people are actually proud to claim

“What do you do for money?”
“I try to be popular on the internet so people will buy the stuff I tell them to.”

It’s hard to imagine. So here’s a peek behind the curtain via Ask Reddit:

IRL friends of social media “influencers”: what is it like? from AskReddit

Let’s see what Redditors with the inside scoop had to say.

1. “A lot of getting ignored.”

I dated one. Not super popular but followers in the 100k range last time we spoke.

I remember a lot of getting ignored and only receiving nice gifts/acts of kindness when they could post about it.

Asking me to go to nice places (they didn’t drive) only to leave me on a bench somewhere while they took pictures.

Huge strain on the relationship, especially when they started to get bigger and there was more demand for content.

– 42charlemagne

2. “We’re all using each other.”

She hasn’t come to anything I’ve invited her to in 5 years because she only goes to events that “further her business.” Regularly says things like, “we’re all using each other for something.” Sometimes she texts me the same exact thing word for word over a couple of days, and it’s obvious she just copy/pastes the same thing and sends it to all of us and then forgets who she has sent it to.

She still reaches out to me multiple times a year and claims I’m one of her best friends, but it sure doesn’t feel like it.

I’ve told her as much, but she just says “this is my life now, my business comes first and if you can’t accept that, then I guess you’re not a real friend.”

– Cirrus-Ramparts

3. “Always on the phone.”

Friends with a high profile athlete who is pretty popular on insta…. he is always on the phone… never lives in the moment.

If we are doing anything fun? well, it basically didn’t happen unless the world knows about it.

Its just annoying …I cant imagine living for the approval or satisfaction of others.

– Neither-Act1355

4. “A wannabe.”

I know a wannabe influencer.

She will reply to her own posts from her husband’s account praising herself.

Then she will reply to those posts as herself thanking him, it’s hilarious, like inception for Facebook.

– Sydneyfigtree

5. “She quit her job.”

I post travel photos and have about two hundred followers. 200, not 2000 or higher.

My friend somehow thought that was influencer status and decided to copy me – except she quit her job so she could travel more and “grow her own brand”.

In 2020. She lost her apartment, her car, and still hasn’t found a job, but calls herself a professional influencer all the same.

– oikorapunk

6. “Awful.”

Awful. One of my best friends fell real hard into Instagram, and for a few years it was tolerable and understandable, albeit annoying and strange. Everything needed to be documented in specific ways, so lots & lots of photos, even if it took away from the moment. But the strange part was how, when she’d share things, the captions always told a slightly different story than what actually happened. Like just off enough for me and my other friends to say, huh, that has a weird quality to it.

Fast forward a couple years, and she gets engaged. Boom. This was the catalyst for the worst of the influencer mentality to come out. I was in the bridal party, and it was a nightmare. No gratitude, just demands. Demands for expensive trips and expensive parties and all kinds of things that were above and beyond the means of her closest friends. And all the demands were because she had a “following” and had certain expectations to meet.

It was really heart wrenching to witness someone belittle their best friend and maid of honor for trying to plan a sweet bridal shower because it wasn’t going to be at an expensive restaurant or art gallery.

It reached its peak for me when, after the in-state wedding became an expensive destination wedding, there was the demand for an out-of-town bachelorette party a few weeks before. I was honest and said I couldn’t afford the bachelorette (mind you, I made about a thousand sacrifices over those months to afford what I could), and was promptly bridezilla’d and told I ruined the whole experience and that I was an awful, fake, inauthentic person.

It got so bad that the bridal party fractured and disintegrated, she lost two of her best friends (myself and the MOH didn’t even attend the wedding after all her behavior and blow-ups), and we’ve barely spoken since. All so she could have an instagrammable wedding that would look good for the few photos she ended up sharing of it. And, true to the weird strange re-written reality ways she had, she published a public “apology” on her blog for her followers and family that completely distorted and rewrote what happened, painted herself as the victim, and got her the sympathy points she was looking for.

Ppl really lose themselves when they create an artifice for social media. I learned a lot from her.

– whenthesunrise

7. “Hasn’t changed her at all.”

I’m not sure if this counts as an “influencer” but one of my close friends is a small-ish music streamer on Twitch.

If I said her username you probably wouldn’t know her, but she’s successful/popular enough to where she makes a comfortable living from streaming.

She’s been doing it for several years now and it hasn’t changed her at all.

If anything she’s now just more willing to pay for stuff when we all hang out because of her newfound disposable income.

– DM_AOC_FEET_PICS

8. “To be honest…”

To be honest it’s really sh*t. I feel like I’ve been completely forgotten about and like I don’t matter anymore.

I think that’s just some weird misguided jealousy but it still hurts because I miss talking to my friend

– EmeraldSunrise4000

9. “Not worth it.”

Sad. In the beginning they started because they got offers from brands because they were so popular on Instagram and it was a lot of fun for them.

Now they don’t ever post pictures or videos without a filter. Rarely ever like a picture on the first try and don’t you dare post any pictures of them without getting their approval for it.

Imagine trying to get a group picture with all of your friends for your birthday but having you take almost one hundred shots to get one that your influencer friend is happy with.

Also in the beginning I would like and comment on all of their posts but now that’s not enough. They expect me message it others, share it on my stories and my page (something about new rhythms and likes not being important anymore). I hate posting stuff to my page but I do it any way to be supportive.

It is so tiring. They do get free things sometimes though that they sometimes share with me. Not worth it imo.

– yonewredditwhodis

10. “Pretty mundane.”

Pretty mundane, honestly. My friend is conventionally attractive, and if you look at her social media, you’d think she were a supermodel millionaire who goes on tons of trips.

She’s actually chronically unemployed, and has an income of less than 10k/yr. Her boyfriend makes about $60k/yr which is enough to afford them a very nice 3 1/2 bedroom apartment, and she has tons of props she uses to make each room look different from day to day so it seems like she’s always in a new, exotic place.

They take two trips a year to fun, tropical places, in which she takes many photos, and posts them as different places throughout the year.

She’s a very kind, considerate, sparkling personality, but whenever we hang out, I tend to be a shoulder to cry on as she laments about her lack of success in life. It’s quite sad, honestly.

But with her creativity and personality, I think she’ll achieve her dreams eventually.

– LemonFly4012

11. “Lost touch with reality.”

Two of my distant cousins, they’re sisters, and are relatively well known YouTubers. I remember the first time I met them, I was 9 years old and saw that one of them was fiddling with a program on her laptop. I asked her what it was, and she showed me her editing software (thinking back, it was probably iMovie) and basically told me about how she records videos and posts them to YouTube, and that she had about 5,000 subscribers. She was really passionate and excited about it, and it seemed like she could go on and on for hours. I don’t think she got paid a penny. I thought it was cool at the time but didn’t think much of it. Just a hobby, I figured.

Fast forward almost 10 years and she has nearly 9 million subscribers, lives in a beautiful house in LA, and makes more money than anyone else her age could dream of. Her sister graduated college, but she saw her success and fell into the same “influencer” trap as well, because that’s where the money was/is. So they both “influence” full-time and have a whole team of people to do editing, assistant work, PR, managing, etc.

I would say the most obvious thing is that the first sister I talked about seems to have lost touch with reality, simply because she’s been doing this for SO LONG. She acts much younger than her age to get views and maintain relevancy, and she’s gotten very used to living a privileged life, so much so that she frequently complains about “how difficult her job is” when there is no doubt in my mind that, if it were to all disappear tomorrow, she’d be like a deer in headlights working something like a 9-5. Considering she doesn’t even edit her own videos or set up her own camera, she has hardly a thing to complain about, especially sitting in front of your vlog camera and crying to the people who are watching your videos and essentially paying your bills about how stressful your job is. I mean this girl literally has an assistant to fetch her coffee and salads (as if she has no time to do it herself, maybe having an assistant is just an “influencer” or “status” thing to do??). She lives a very spoon-fed life, and seems to frequently forget it.

Fortunately the college-graduate sister is very down to earth, and even she seems to acknowledge the ridiculousness of the whole thing. But at the end of the day, they’re doing very well and I will always wish them the best. I just find myself wondering how much longer it will last for them.

– julesjules76

12. “Fake and staged.”

Exactly as fake and staged as you imagine it to be, the on-camera moments are completely non genuine.

It is in the end just an acting/modeling job and not their real personality.

– SagittariusA_Star

13. “Incredibly annoying.”

So incredibly annoying. I actually ended up cutting her off because everything had to be a photo opportunity. We could never just go out to lunch, or see a movie without it turning into a photoshoot. She never did anything with our friend group unless it was ‘aesthetic’, and even then, she was so focussed on getting us to take photos that a. she didn’t get to enjoy the activity, and b. it started bringing everyone else down because they couldn’t participate either.

And this sounds so petty, but she could never just show up in a t-shirt and leggings (because photos, obviously). Like even sleepovers and movie nights had to be a big production and sometimes you just need to stuff your face with popcorn and look like a slob! It’s good for the soul!!

She’d also complain a lot about how hard her job was… Our friendship group at the time consisted of an EMT, two nurses, a teacher, and me who was juggling university, tutoring, and working retail. Like, I’m sure she had challenges and all jobs are hard sometimes, but… girl…. you get paid to take selfies with free stuff, and show up at events looking pretty…

– MutedApricot

14. “Always bragging.”

a girl in my homeschool group in middle school was always bragging about how her parents had a youtube channel with thousands of subscribers.

she was really arrogant about it and i didn’t enjoy spending time with her because she was a brat.

the funny thing is nobody ever believed her (including myself) until one day i stumbled across a video of theirs while scrolling through youtube.

sure enough, they had thousands of subscribers. she hadn’t been lying and i was shocked. now they have well over a million. they dont upload very often anymore though

– Escapist7427

15. “Bully.”

She became a horrible self-centered bully.

– Gremlinnut

Sounds like it might not be totally worth it living life under the influence.

Do you know any “influencer” types?

Tell us your tales in the comments.

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Women Share the NSFW Questions They Have For Men

I’m a guy who’s bad at pretty much everything, but maybe I can be helpful when it comes to this post on Ask Reddit:

“Girls, what inappropriate questions about guys have you always wanted answered?”

Here are some questions. I’ll use my limited perspective and do my best to answer.

Content warning: most of these are pretty NSFW.

1. Ya just do your best.

So when guys crash at each other’s houses, what do you do when you wake up with morning wood? Do you have to hide it from each other?

– Tanarri27

2. Yes, the sensation is substantially dulled.

Does s*x REALLY feel different with a condom on?

Like, is there a noticeable difference and if so, is it bad or feel less pleasurable?

– UniqueUserName_93

3. Not as often as we should.

Do you actually wash underneath your balls

– juicy_fruitty_

4. When I was younger, maybe. Now? Nah.

Guys… You say you don’t care how many partners a girl has had…. But does it secretly bother you?

– nosh_dosh

5. Not since I was a teenager.

do you actually compare dong sizes with your friends?

– KeeganMargaret

6. A mature man can tell the difference.

How do I compliment you without thinking there’s more to it?

– dpnrte

7. Yes and it hurts.

Has a girl ever sat on your penis ‘the incorrect way’?

– kittycat2009

8. Not as much as you might think.

How much does boob size matter

– nosh_dosh

9. Any man who says they haven’t measured is lying to you.

Why do you say you don’t measure your d*ck? Some men have said “well it’s like you don’t measure your arm”.

But from my woman perspective, if I had something between my legs, I’d measure it. We know our bra and shoe size, why don’t you know your d*ck size??

– ditchinzimbabwe

10. Some deep, weird animal instinct.

When guys do the scratch ‘n sniff, what’re you guys actually sniffing for? Is it just a hygiene check?

– monik991

11. Like your crotch is trying to escape.

what does a boner feel like?

– ligmabeansthesecond

12. S*x is a part of love, it’s not the entire picture.

Is your love for your female partner based on how well she f*cks or you actually fall in love independently from it?

– KitchenBiscotti1

13. Worried about who your girlfriend hangs out with? Hmmm…

How do you guys feel about girls that hang out with a lot of guys.

Can you tell the difference between the pick me girls and the girls that are genuinely just more of a tomboy or just get along better w guys in a platonic way.

– katieewadee

14. The pain shoots up to your stomach, actually.

How does getting kicked in the balls feel?

– 23cacti

15. Once a year, it’s a family tradition.

How often do you accidentally sit on your nuts?

– Ran-Dizzy123

Welp, I hope that way-too-much-information was helpful.

What questions to you have about people?

Tell us in the comments.

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People Think These Things Turn Hot People Ugly

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but what makes us change our minds?

That’s what Reddit user Antoinewhite wanted to get to the bottom of in their post:

What turns an attractive person ugly? from AskReddit

Let’s find out what the folks of r/AskReddit say turns hotties into notties.

1. P-U.

their smell

– WaterSpell

2. Give a little.

Selfishness.

– OutsideRich

3. Not so common.

lack of common sense and humanity.

– jhinleon

4. Hotty or haughty?

Arrogance is definitely a huge turn off.

– sea8cloud8

5. It’s very revealing.

Being an *sshole to waiters, janitors, and the like.

Or just being an *sshole and having a sh*t attitude about everything.

– CitizenHuman

6. Like and subscribe.

Social media obsession

– NuclearWinterGames

7. Manipulation.

Twisting a situation that they caused, so it’s more favorable for them.

– gliitch0xFF

8. Anybody home?

Personality of a wet mop

– alleycatt_101

9. “One of the boys.”

When I was 15, my cousins best friend was the cutest boy I had ever met… Until I got to know him. He was cocky and talked down to any girl that he didn’t deem beautiful enough to put his charm on. He was never really mean to me because I was “one of the boys” but that just let me see what he was truly like towards girls in general.

He quickly became the ugliest person I knew. In turn, one of the “funny looking” kids in my class quickly became my crush because he was just so nice!

His inner beauty outshined his big ears and crooked nose before the first week of school was over.

So yeah, personality is a game changer

– saymynamebastien

10. Learn something.

Ignorance. I hate people that don’t know anything and choose to not learn anything new.

People who think they’re better than others, who choose to not learn about cultures or people’s identities, it just makes me mad.

I can see no beauty in a closed off brain.

– JustAPlane22

11. Shut it.

Chewing with their mouth open

– BigIreland

12. Stuck in the old.

Not being willing to try new things. Went on one date with a guy who listed the 4 or 5 foods he eats then got mad that the Italian restaurant didn’t have any of them (I forget what they were but they were child foods like chicken fingers or something).

He then yelled at the waiter that he only eats “real american food”. Strike 2, treating people like sh*t. Strike 3, perception of American exceptionalism. I chugged my wine, paid, and left. 5 minute date.

While I was chugging, he asked if I could pop his back pimples. I almost puked on the table

– AhFFSImTooOldForThis

13. You’re not all that.

Really don’t want to sound like a douche, but for me it’s someone that are snobby, dumb or indecisive.

I don’t mean uneducated, I mean dumb.

Plain dumb.

– CupidXII

14. Calm down.

treating you like you’re lucky to be with them

– Brother_Bishop

15. Got anything else?

When being attractive is their only personality trait

– Black__Mesa

I’d say that’s a pretty good starter list, but it could be a lot longer.

What would you add?

Tell us in the comments.

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