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Reasons Why People Still Hold Onto the Label of “Virgin”

When you think about it, what does virginity really mean, and why do we make such a huge deal out of it?

On the most basic level it’s a term to demarcate the time before you first had sex and after, but sex is a pretty normal part of life for most people. We don’t have a glossary of terms and labels for people who have or have not yet done other ordinary things, like ride a bike or swim in a pool or watch Die Hard.

Virginity is different though, at least in our heads, which is why some people would really rather hold onto the label.

13. Third time’s the charm

*Shrugs* you do you, I guess.

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12. What’s old is new again

It’s about how it strikes ya.

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11. What’s up with that?

Sounds like you’ve got a few hangups you need to explore.

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10. I want it

This sort of pressure makes me feel sad for people.

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9. Religious experience

Empowering act of faith or damaging artifact of cultural stigma?

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8. Against my will

I think that’s completely understandable.

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7. Take me back

I’d like to call a do-over, please.

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6. Reset the clock

Not sure that’s how time works but whatever.

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5. Revirginizing

That’s fine, but why does the wording even matter at this point?

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4. Crank it up

Gonna need a little more.

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3. True love waits

It’s everyone’s personal choice.

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2. New again

That’s an incredible gift.

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1. Real sex

Intimate, respectful, and loving.

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At the end of the day, call yourself what you want. It’s all a construct anyway.

Do you consider yourself a virgin? Why or why not?

Tell us in the comments.

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Person Calls Off Wedding After His Partner Nearly Gets His Pooch Killed

This is one of those posts where just reading the headline seems like it’s enough information to make a decision. Anyone who isn’t responsible for a beloved pet – or careful with the life of any animal, to be honest – isn’t the kind of person I’d want to spend my life with.

Sometimes the devil is in the details, though, so let’s hear these before we make a final call.

It began when OP (original poster) left his dog home with his fiancee during her bachelorette party.

He says he specifically told her to put the dog away in the bedroom once the party got going.

Me (28M) and fiancee (27F) have been together for 4 years, engaged for 6 months. I also have a 7 year-old lab mix who is the greatest dog in existence.

On Saturday, fiancee had a bachelorette party at home. I stayed with my parents but I left the dog with her because she likes having him there. However, I made sure to tell her to put the dog in our bedroom once the party gets going.

The next morning, OP got a frantic call that something was wrong with the dog. They both raced to the emergency vet, where she was clearly upset and her friends told him the dog was alive but sick.

5am on Sunday I get a frantic call that something’s wrong with the dog. She was drunk, so I told her to get a taxi and go to the emergency vet clinic. When I got there, she looked like she hadn’t stopped crying for hours and she couldn’t even speak.

Two of her friends were there so they told me my dog is alive but not well. I felt sorry for her for an entire 10 minutes while waiting for the doctor.

Then the doctor informed them the dog was sick because it had gotten into substantial amounts of both edibles and alcohol – they had failed to lock him up or watch him after they’d started drinking.

But then, the doctor told me my dog ingested large amounts of alcohol and chocolate edibles. The girls apparently thought it would be cool to leave everything out on short coffee tables, leave the dog to wander around instead of putting him in our bedroom, and then get wasted and not notice he was going to town with the booze and edibles.

At home, he told her to get out and that it was over, which she did.

Her friends and family think he’s nuts to end a 4-year relationship over a mistake, but also, they weren’t very nice about it.

When we got home, I told my fiancee to pack and get out of my house and my life. I told her to tell her guests the wedding is off, and I’ll tell mine. She was shocked, but she took her things and left.

2 hours later, I get bombarded by messages on Messenger, Whatsapp, by her sisters, brother, brother’s wife, her mom, her friends, telling me that I am insane to do this to her after 4 years. They started off defending her, but it quickly turned into insulting me.

And get this – his family agrees.

The dog is fine, so everyone thinks he should just forgive and forget, and his best man admitted that OP might have overreacted.

The logical thing for me to do was look for comfort in my friends and family. Nope. They all fucking agree. My mom said: “Well, it was a mistake, she didn’t do it on purpose, besides – the dog didn’t die!” Lucky me, eh? My dog didn’t fucking die!

My sister was appalled that I cancelled the wedding “over that?!” and even my best man said I might have overreacted. Yes, our relationship has had ups and downs, but it’s mostly worked fine. But I am so disgusted at my fiancee that I can’t even imagine looking her in the eye, let alone spending my whole life with her. She isn’t fucking 17, she is 27!

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s thought her actions were immature, and he worries that someone will eventually get hurt for real.

By the way, this is not the first dumb thing she has done. She likes to text while driving, she always leaves stuff on the electric stove (like kitchen towels, the cutting board etc.) even though she has turned on the wrong burner and burnt whatever was on it several times in the past, and similar DANGEROUS things. It’s not something I hold against her in the sense that I would ever mention in a fight, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried that she might end up killing herself or someone else. For example, my dog.

I’m 99% sure I will stand by my decision. But am I really an asshole? Literally nobody is on my side and I have no idea what to think.

He edited the post to add that he’s realized maybe it’s not about the dog at all, or at least, not just about the dog.

Posting here kind of triggered me to conclude this isn’t about the dog at all. She is negligent and irresponsible and I don’t want to stick around and possibly see our child die in a car accident some day because she was texting or she forgot to put his seat belt on. I’d rather be an asshole now than spend years of my life worrying every time our child is left alone with her.

If she’d accidentally killed a person while texting and driving, I would also leave her. I guess I realized I don’t want to spend my life with someone who has such blatant disregard for human (or animal) life.

But what did the general public have to say about his hardline approach?

Here we go!

This person pointed out that if you’re in a relationship with someone who means less to you than your pet, it’s probably not the right person for you.

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Plenty of people think Everyone Sucks Here because OP isn’t taking responsibility for his own poor decision to leave the dog there in the first place.

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They really don’t seem well-suited.

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They also suggested that if OP wants to avoid judgement, perhaps he shouldn’t divulge the details of their breakup.

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And yeah, a few people thought OP was way harsh, Tai.

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I’m still on the side of OP, because he has very good reasons for ending it, but I do think he probably could have been more considerate about it.

What do you think? Let’s hash it out in the comments!

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A Dad Asked if He’s Wrong to Still Cook Bacon in the House With His Vegan Daughter

More and more people are making different dietary choices lately – whether it’s for health reasons, because of a concern for the environment, or over moral objections – and many of those changes mean no longer eating meat (or any animal byproducts, in the case of vegans).

If you know a passionate vegan, there’s a good chance you also know many of them are not quiet about their choices, or about trying to convince you to make the same ones. Everyone has to decide for themselves, though, and what’s the best course of action when people who take different paths still live together under one roof?

That’s the question this bacon-loving father is asking now that his daughter is a practicing vegan.

Dad here, old fart, loves his daughter to pieces but I’m struggling to see eye to eye with my teenager and wife on this one.

As a Midwestern family, their meals have always revolved around meat and potatoes, but when his daughter decided to become a vegan, he jumped on board to help her make the switch.

We’ve always been a meat eating family, we live in the rural Midwest and bacon for breakfast is pretty much a given. This year my 14 y/o daughter decided to go vegan, and I jumped onto her support team with enthusiasm. We learned how to substitute ingredients, cook new things, try new things, I adjusted our budget to include more expensive vegan substitutes for her, etc.

Then, there was an incident with a pan.

None of this has been a problem for me until recently. She saw me cook bacon in a pan, and then I rinsed it out to load in the dishwasher. She exploded in anger (teen years, I’m not too fussed about the anger explosion, I know she doesn’t mean it) and said that that was HER pan for vegan food. I was completely floored and said, kiddo this here is a family pan, older than you, it’s not YOUR pan.

She asked for pans to be specifically designated for cooking vegan, and he agreed.

She asked me to purchase her a pan that she can solely use for vegan food. I didn’t want her to feel weird about food, so I said sure, and ordered her a few colored ones that are only for her. The reason they’re colored is so it helps me remember that I’m not to touch them unless I’m cooking vegan.

That wasn’t enough, though, and then she asked that they all stop eating meat at home to stop the cross-contamination.

That wasn’t good enough. Now apparently the dishwasher is ‘contaminated’ with animal product, and the fridge has ‘bacon grease fingers’ on it (because I eat bacon and then touch the fridge) and she’s asked me and her mom to completely stop eating meat at home. I don’t mean I literally touch the fridge with greasy bacon hands, because I wash my hands, but it’s clearly enough that it upsets my daughter.

He and his wife disagree on how to handle it – she thinks that they should make their daughter comfortable in her own kitchen while he says he’s not going to stop enjoying the things he loves in his own house.

frankly I’m on team hell no, her mom is much more amenable and strongly wants me to consider taking our daughter up on the request. My wife’s reasoning is that both our parents live close so we can eat meat products there, and that she doesn’t want our daughter to feel uncomfortable in the kitchen.

My daughter says she is fine with cheese and butter in the fridge, but it’s specifically meat products that make her feel sick. Now I’m sorry for her, but I feel like she just needs to adapt and live side by side, because I’m not going to stop eating bacon in my own house.

Look out, folks – here come the comments.

Mostly, people believe more compromises can be made so that everyone can continue to eat what they want.

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Others suggested the daughter needs a (kind) reality check about all of the ways the world is not going to change to accommodate her.

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And yeah, learning to cohabitate with people who don’t share each and every one of your beliefs is one of life’s necessary lessons.

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Other vegans weighed in, and they were surprisingly on the father’s side on this one.

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“Feeling sick” is something she’s definitely just going to have to get over.

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I’m definitely with the dad here – it’s his house, he pays the bills, he eats what he likes. Sure, it’s great that he’s willing to support his daughter, but he also needs to teach her that living with other people will always involve compromise.

What do you think? Let’s hash it out in the comments!

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Was This Woman Wrong for Telling Her Cousin the Truth About Her Heritage?

Most people are curious about where they came from – their ancestors, the timeline of events, names and places, that sort of thing. I image that being Native American, part of that curiosity is a bit of duty to carry on a culture that now belongs to far too few.

This family is Native American. The grandfather was part of the Sioux, tribe, and had two sons. Those sons each had a daughter, who are one-quarter Native American…or so they both thought.

OP, who is very light-skinned and doesn’t “look Native,” is actually the only one who is because her cousin’s father was not her grandfather’s by blood.

My (18f) grandfather was a full blooded Sioux Native American. He had two sons, my dad and my uncle. My uncle had a daughter named K (17). All of them except me are very dark skinned. My mom is a white lady, which turned out to be the dominant gene for me, so I am quite light skinned.

My dad is half Native American, and I am a quarter. K however, isn’t at all because of family drama surrounding her dad that K was never told about.

As they spent time together in the tribe, getting to know about their family and heritage, the cousin grew openly hostile about OP’s light skin, claiming she was an embarrassment to their culture and had no right to be there.

As we got older my dad and uncle wanted us to become more integrated with what is left of our tribe so we would visit Grandpa’s extended family often. We would go together in one car and every single time she would get pissed and throw a tantrum about me coming.

K was horrible to me about it every time and would tell me how stupid I am and how I’m an “ugly white bitch”. My dad and uncle always just brushed it off and I just had bite my tongue and take it.

Finally, after the cousin claimed she would refuse any more visits with their Sioux relatives if her “white” cousin was along for the ride, OP snapped and told her cousin the hard truth.

Things finally came to a head two weeks ago when she stopped us at the door and said she will not be going under any circumstances if I am also going.

K said that I am an embarrassment to our family and to the tribe because of how light skinned I am, and that my dad is a racist towards his own people for letting me be apart of this culture. This was the first time she had ever said anything like this where they could hear it, and I finally snapped. I was done letting this girl bully me, so I told her the truth about her heritage.

The story of her uncle’s parentage tumbled out, and her cousin lost her mind. Her aunt disowned OP and her father in the process, claiming her daughter was now having an identity crisis.

Her own father chastised her because it’s not her story to tell, but understands that she’s frustrated at being the one treated as not good enough all of these years.

I told her that she’s actually wrong. I am more Native American than she is because her dad isn’t Sioux AT ALL. My grandmother had an affair with the neighbor (he was Mexican) and kept the baby. Grandpa loved him like a blood son anyways and brought him up the same way he did for my dad, but my uncle was aware the entire time he is an “honorary Indian” (his words not mine).

K absolutely lost the plot and has completely disowned me and my dads side of the family. I haven’t heard from my uncle and my dad said that wasn’t my story to tell, but he understands why I did it. Grandpas family don’t care, they knew the whole time. K is apparently having a major identity crisis and my uncles wife cussed me out on the phone and she’s also disowned me and my dad.

So, what did the good people of Reddit think?

Let’s find out!

They say the cousin is simply reaping the rewards of years of horrid behavior, for one.

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This comment just made me chuckle.

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And yes, her father had years to tell that story himself, and put a stop to the cruelty.

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I think we can all agree the adults are really at fault, here.

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And then there’s this mic drop.

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I guess I agree that OP could have been more tactful, but the adults really should have made sure the pertinent family members were in on the big secret a long time ago – and they also shouldn’t have let racial bullying go on under their noses.

Where do you come down? Hit us with your thoughts in the comments!

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A Person Asked if it Was Wrong to Not Let Her Daughter Introduce Her Black Boyfriend to Her Grandparents

I think this is going to be a very divisive topic and story for a lot of people out there.

And rightfully so, because the headline makes this person seem like a total bigot.

But let’s give them a chance to tell the story for themselves on Reddit “Am I the *sshole” forum, okay?

AITA for telling my daughter she cannot introduce her African American boyfriend to her grandparents?

“Let me just preface this by saying this: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Now that the air is clear, let me continue.

My daughter (Anna) has recently started to date an African American man (Jamal). While I’m not exactly what you would refer to as “liberal”, he’s a nice young man and as long as my daughter is happy, I’m happy. The problem is Anna is rather naive about the community she lives in.

While her friends are quite content to see a relationship like hers, more than a few tongues are wagging in the community and a few people have privately expressed their concern to me. As I said, I have no problem with mixed relationships and I’ve set them straight, but I am painfully aware of how these matters are viewed by certain segments of the population.

My parents are planning to come and stay with us for a week and Anna expressed a desire to introduce Jamal to them now that things were getting more serious between them. I told her on no uncertain terms that this wasn’t going to happen.

I may have no problem with Jamal, but they absolutely will, and even when the relationship ends they won’t forget it. They might even go as far as to cut her off entirely. Anna was extremely upset by this and implied I was a racist and more concerned with what my parents think than how she feels.

As I said, I know my parents. They simply aren’t okay with mixed relationships and if Anna were to bring Jamal over even as a friend, they would be furious both at her and me.

Anna is currently staying with Jamal and doesn’t want to speak with me right now. My wife stands by me given she knows very well how my parents are (they had a problem with her for months over the length of the skirt she wore when I introduced her to them, for christs sake), but a close friend I confided in told me that I have behaved like an *ss and that I needed to focus more on my daughter than pleasing my parents.

No advice needed, but I have to know. Have I been an *ss?”

First of all, this person made a good point that this mother said “when” the relationship ends, and not “if.”

Hmmm. Is that coded language?

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This reader got straight the point. Brutally honest!

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And this Reddit user pointed out the most important thing: her daughter’s happiness should come first. Period.

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This person argued that the mother is to blame because in a way, she’s making the situation all about herself and how it will affect her.

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And finally, this individual made a great point about how racism works in our society.

Sorry, Mom, I think you got called out big time by these folks.

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Wow…now we want to get your take on this situation.

In the comments, tell us what you think.

We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks!

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Woman Asks if It’s Disrespectful for Not Wanting the Ring Her Fiancé Previously Gave to Someone Else

Let me say right off the bat that giving a woman an engagement ring that you already gave to someone else is not a great move.

I have a hard time believing that any woman out there would be really psyched about that…and that brings us to today’s story!

A woman shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page about an incident that set her off.

Here’s what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting a ring my fiancé already gave to another girl

“My now fiancé was engaged a couple years before we got together, and they broke up and she gave the ring back.

We’ve been together a few years and a few days ago, he proposed and I was super excited. The ring looked kinda familiar and when I asked him where it was from, he said it was the ring he gave to ex fiancé.

I immediately took it off and was like “I don’t want a ring you bought for someone else, it wasn’t meant for me.” He got upset and said it didn’t matter, because it’s not hers anymore it’s mine.

My family and friends are split in saying I’m the *sshole and I’m justified.

I don’t want him to spend a whole other thousand dollars on a ring for me, but I want a ring that was meant for me, not for someone else.

AITA?”

And the people of Reddit, as they like to do, weighed in with their thoughts.

This person got right to the point.

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This Reddit user said that she knew her husband would never do something like that and she let that fact be known loud and clear.

It’s bad juju!

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But this person came to the man’s defense and said he just made a mistake and that this incident is not worth breaking up over.

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Another person made a great point: rings don’t have to be pricey, but they have to be personal.

Preach!

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And this person called the guy’s move “tacky as hell.”

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But then another reader weighed in and said that the guy was not in the wrong and that both of them need to reevaluate the whole situation and not let a ring get in the way of their relationship.

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Okay, now we want to hear what YOU think about this situation.

In the comments, share your thoughts with us?

Is this woman an *sshole, or is she right on with her feelings?

Thanks in advance!

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Guy Asks if He’s a Jerk for Yelling at His Wife Over Two Dollars

I want my two dollars!

Sorry, I had to do it.

But let’s move on.

This story appeared on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” forum. A man asked folks if he overreacted and if he should feel bad about blowing up at his wife over what on the surface was a measly two dollars, but was actually the culmination of a lot of issues.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA for yelling at my wife over $2?

“My wife (38F) and I (33M) have been married for 8 years. We have one child together (5M).

Some background that might be relevant: I work full time. She works about 15 hours a week. Our finances have always been separate. However, I pay all the bills and for all our “fun stuff,” as well as give her an allowance of $1,000 per month. In fact, she currently has almost three times as much money saved as I do.

The fight: We were out for a walk and I wanted to get a holiday drink from a coffee shop for us to share. My wife told me not to get it. She said she had a gift card, but only for a certain location. So I waited until we walked past that location. My wife then said she would go in to get it and we would meet at home. I left with our son.

When my wife got home I noticed she was drinking a plain coffee. I asked her where my drink was and she said there wasn’t enough money left on her card to get me the kind that I wanted. I admit I kind of blew up at her.

I asked her why she didn’t just let me buy the drink myself then? Or why not use some of the money I gave her. Or even just let me know she couldn’t get it. Honestly, it’s like a $2 difference.

I was actually so mad I had to leave the house. I’m currently at my sister’s place, just hanging out in the front yard (because COVID). I don’t know if I should go home and apologize for yelling or stay until I’ve truly calmed down

My wife always makes me feel like I’m overreacting but I feel genuinely hurt.”

Hmmmm, this sure is a tricky situation….

Let’s see what other folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person said that the man was not wrong and that he’s clearly been giving and giving and not getting much back in return.

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And this person went so far as to even call his situation “financial abuse”.

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And this Reddit user brought up a very good point: who would actually do what the man’s wife did to someone they love? It sure struck me as odd.

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This reader didn’t beat around the bush AT ALL.

Take a look.

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And this individual stated the obvious: that the incident with the coffee triggered the emotional reaction that had been a long time coming.

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Here’s another person who laid out the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

And I agree, a $1,000 monthly allowance is pretty wild.

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What do you think?

Is this guy a jerk or was he justified in the way he acted?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks a lot!

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Was This Woman Wrong For Being Angry About Her Boyfriend’s “Guy Nights?”

Relationships are difficult. Anyone who tells you differently is either lying or they aren’t actually emotionally invested in the relationship at all.

I said what I said.

Which is not to say they’re hard all the time, but you know. It’s not always easy.

This girl is finding out that struggles can unexpectedly come out of nowhere now that a friend has become a boyfriend, and everyone is going out to have fun without her.

So me and my boyfriend, C, have the same friend group. There’s 5 guys and 3 girls including myself who are all dating guys in this group. For context I was introduced to the group 4 years ago and I started dating C over a year ago. He joined a year before we dated. Anyway onto the story.

They’ve all been friends for awhile, and OP is closer to the guys than the girls, but still, they don’t want to invite her along – because if she did, all the girls would be invited.

And no, it’s not every couple of months. It’s all the time.

So the boys in my friend group have started a thing called “guys night” where they go out and do everything we all do together but without us girls. Here’s the thing- ALL of my friends are the boys. I don’t know the girls in the group too well and while I have friends outside the group I’m no where near as close with them as I am this group.

They say they need to “spend some quality time with their friends” and that if I went they’d have to invite their girlfriends. And it’s not every so often, it’s every 2 weeks on a Saturday, which is the one day I can go out. So basically while my boyfriend goes out with all my friends I have to be stuck at home by myself. And what’s worse is when we all do hang out they constantly bring up stuff that happened on guys night saying “you had to be there”.

This had been going on months.

She got upset when he was giddy about another night out, and refused to take her along or just spend the night with her instead without even thinking about it.

Last night my boyfriend came over to mine from guys night really happy and was texting his friends when I asked him why I couldn’t go. He made a vague gesture at my chest and crotch saying I wasn’t a guy. I then asked him why he couldn’t skip it to spend the night with me and he rolled his eyes. I lost it.

I started crying and screaming at him calling him an asshole for allowing me to be completely isolated when I’ve told him how shitty it is. He ended up leaving and called me a bitch.

He’s staying with one of our friends who’s saying I was being the AH for yelling at him that way. The girls all agree with me though and I don’t know if I should apologise.

OP made an edit to explain that she’s not being possessive, and it’s fine if her boyfriend has hobbies, she just doesn’t want to constantly be excluded because she’s not a dude.

EDIT: I feel like everyone is confusing what I’m saying. I’m not mad he has his own hobbies- that’s amazing!! I’m just upset that I’m being excluded because of my gender from my friends who I introduced him to. I’ve been told explicitly this by him and his friends. Also we don’t live together and I only see him a few times a week.

And another one to say it’s not like he’s deprived or always working or anything.

EDIT 2: I should also add my boyfriend sees all his friends during the week but they schedule guys night on the one night I can go out. As I said in a comment I see him 2-3 times a week and he sees them at least 4 times, 5 on guys night. I see my friends once a fortnight.

TLDR: boyfriend goes out with my friend group while excluding me completely. I lost it at him and now I’m being called an AH

My gut reaction is that there are tons of red flags and this girl is not wrong, and there are plenty of commenters who agree with me.

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She probably needs to reassess her friendships…and her relationship.

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More than a few, though, voted that everyone sucks here.

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Something about the whole thing stinks, don’t you think?

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There were plenty of people who thought she was overreacting too, though.

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This one is more divisive than many posts on AITA, which makes it pretty interesting.

What’s your take? I personally think she’s better off finding a new boyfriend, but I don’t know….tell me what you think in the comments!

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A Man Asked if He’s Wrong To Keep His Terminal Diagnosis From His Wife

When I read that a man wants to keep the fact that he’s dying from his wife, I get a little judgy. You’re supposed to be each other’s person, their till-death-do-us-part, and to keep something that will ultimately affect you both a secret, well…that can’t be right.

Can it?

As with many Am I the A$shole posts, though, there’s always a bit more than meets the eye -and it should come as no surprise that dying can be intensely personal and varies from person to person.

The husband in question gives us a little background up front. A medical condition means he never expected to live a long life, but he says that a recent “complication” took his time from 20 or 30 years down to 1.

Male, 31 here. For the past 15 years, I’ve been dealing with a medical condition that requires constant medication and consistent doctor’s visits. I had always been projected to live until 50-60ish, however, a recent complication has cut that down to 12 months, 16 at best. In about 10 months, my condition should start getting a lot worse. After 12 months, I’ll essentially be living in the hospital.

He’s married and doesn’t know how to tell his wife, and all of this has (understandably) made him rethink his short future.

I am married of 4 years (no kids). I haven’t had the heart to tell my wife the news. I don’t even know how. We always knew I’d die younger than I wanted to, but we never expected it to be this soon.

As much as I know I should tell my wife, I don’t want my last year to be plagued with an impending doom.

My wife and I have always talked about living abroad somewhere, maybe Australia, but we’ve never found the time or money to do so. I’ve been saving up to go to graduate school, however, I don’t see much point in that now.

He wants to enjoy the time he has left, and to give his wife a nice time, a good memory, of this final year of his life, but wonders if he’s wrong to keep something this huge from her until their time is almost gone.

So here’s my idea: take some of that money, and take my wife to Australia for a few months, and enjoy the time together. I have a job I can work remotely from anywhere, and she has a job that she can easily find work anywhere. We can work part-time, and enjoy our time together. When we get back, or maybe towards the end of it, I will break the news to her. I just wouldn’t want the trip to be ruined for us by constant reminders of me dying. I know my wife, and she’s very emotional – to the point where I feel like she will be crying everyday and not enjoying herself. I want this memory to be a good one for her, and not plagued by my time ticking down.

As a note, he wants us to know he’s not a jerk – his wife will be taken care of in every way he can imagine after he’s gone. He just wants to live these last months on his own terms.

AITA for putting off telling her I am dying?

Note: I have life insurance that will take care of her, so I am not too worried about spending this money now on this trip. And I plan on talking to her about a sperm bank, just in case she decides she wants my kids in the future, as well as premised birthday cards and other things for her to have.

The people of Reddit were ready and waiting to weigh in, and as usual, they held nothing back.

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This person was a bit kinder, saying he doesn’t suck, but also saying that from personal experience, they think she deserves to know.

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Others pointed out that she’s going to need time to process, too, and he’s taking that away from her.

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And this very good point, which is that he might think he knows how she would choose to spend their last year together, but he doesn’t actually know unless he asks – and he never will.

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This excellent thought from a soft-hearted person says that OP is going to need his partner, that this isn’t something he should go through alone.

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I agree that this is just a sad situation all the way around, and I hope that he decides to tell her so they can do this together.

That said, he’s going through something most of us will thankfully never have to face, and so maybe he deserves some time and grace, too.

What are your thoughts? Drop them on us in the comments!

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A Guy Got Angry That His Girlfriend “Doesn’t Work Hard” for Her Higher Salary. People Reacted.

Without reading any further, you can probably guess that the “higher salary” part of this headline is what really got OP’s (original poster) panties in a twist.

There seems to be a certain kind of man who just can’t handle the idea of his female partner making more money than he does, regardless of their industries or how hard she works – and in the case of this dude, he’s decided that since, to his mind, she doesn’t work as hard as he does, she really shouldn’t be making so much money.

My girlfriend and I both work in tech, she’s a safety validator for software, working at a consulting firm, and I’m doing network infrastructure support.

When we both worked in different offices I didn’t know much about her day to day life at work.

I knew she made a lot more than me, 120k to my 66k, and she credits a lot of that to job hopping, she’s 25 and has had three full time jobs since college. I’ve been at one place since college.

But since we’ve been working from home, I’ve seen a lot of her daily schedule. And hers versus mine are really different.

Now that they’re working from home, he sees that she gets to sleep in before a meeting, works off and on the rest of the day while also taking care of herself and the house.

I guess that’s offensive.

She gets up at 9:15 to drag herself into the home office for her 9:30-10 daily meeting.

After the meeting she goes and showers and has breakfast from about 10 to 10:45, answering a few slack messages and emails on her phone but mostly just listening to podcasts and eating and doing her morning routine.

Then she works till noon, and takes a lunch break from noon till 1. Then she works from 1 to 4, often having meetings or working on her own stuff. And at 4 will spend an hour or so doing household chores and stuff while keeping an eye on her phone to answer emails.

And outside of 9 to 5 she blocks work related messages from her phone.

Reader, he called her a slacker.

So basically she actually works about 4 and a half hours daily, and does her own thing for about 2 hours, just paying enough attention to reply to emails that come in.

I basically work nonstop 8:30 to 5 or 6 pm, working 8.5 to 9.5 hours a day. I don’t take breaks in the workday to shower or eat breakfast and lunch or do household chores.

And a few weeks ago I got kinda frustrated with her for basically hardly doing anything for her job at all. And that they were overpaying her if she was spending half the day slacking.

She got frustrated and basically told him it was none of his business how many hours she works a day – her bosses are happy with her output and contributions and are the ones paying her salary.

She got frustrated with me and said that they hired her for her knowledge and it wasn’t my place to say what her time was worth, that if her boss and ceo saw the work she produced and chose to pay her what they chose to pay her that it wasn’t my place to undervalue her because i was being jealous.

And that she picked her job instead of one that might pay better because she wanted a good work life balance, she was sick of wasting her life away at work that was a lot more demanding.

He just kept at it, though, because *whines* how could this possibly be FAIR?

I said that she was being a little privileged, not a lot of people can just choose to make six figures and wander off from work for practically half the day, and that all I was saying was that she was working half as hard as a lot of people who earn a lot less.

She got mad at me and said that it’s not up to me to decide what her time is worth

AITA for what I said about my girlfriend’s work ethic?

Is this guy the a$shole?

I think we all know the answer to that, but here are some comments just to make us all feel vindicated.

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Yes! Be happy that your team is making more money and your partner was happy!

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More than one person pointed out that his girlfriend was pretty nice about the whole thing- nicer than she had to be, for sure.

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It’s true that working from home has made people more efficient and not less.

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He should just be living the good life.

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This guy sucks and I hope he either gets his act together or his girlfriend moves on to someone who won’t make her feel badly about all the ways she chooses to live her life – while making excellent money, I might point out.

What are your thoughts? Let’s pile on down in the comments!

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