Person Wonders if They Have a Right to Be Mad After Getting Patted Down at Their Sister’s Wedding

I can’t say I’ve ever heard this one before…

Getting patted down at a wedding? That’s a new one!

But it happened and the woman who went through it took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to see if she was wrong for getting upset about it.

Take a look.

AITA for getting upset that my sister’s fiancé pulled me aside and patted me down at their wedding?

“The title sounds so stupid but here we go anyways.

I’m 24 and I’m an addict who has been in recovery for the past six months.

I used and used until I was basically in poverty and my older sister helped bail me out more than once.

She’s my best friend and I know it hurt her a lot to see me like that.

She also met her fiancé two years ago and he really only knew me as the junkie brother then. He’s not my biggest fan to say the least considering how much I put my sister through.

Despite this she still invited me to her wedding last week because I am her brother and she wanted me to be there.

When I get to the reception, my brother in law is greeting people as they walk in.

When I walk by he pulls me to the side and in front of everyone starts patting me down and says that he needs to check me to make sure I “didn’t bring anything in”. I instinctively pull away, because why wouldn’t I, and I tell him not to touch me.

He tells me to “calm down” and that if I want to be here then he needs to do this. I tell him he’s being ridiculous and I try to push past him. He stops me and tells me that he doesn’t want to throw me out but he “will if he has to.” I told him that he’s trying to look tough but it’s just making him look stupid.

At this point I’m getting more and more angry and I’m practically yelling in his face at this point. Bystanders came between us and separated us and told my BIL to just “drop it.” He said he would but that “they can deal with it when I get out of hand.”

I just went to go find a seat after that.

After the reception, a lot of my family told me that I should’ve let him just do it and that I was acting like a huge *sshole and like I had “something to hide.”

I don’t think he had any right to pat me down, especially in front of people and I don’t think my reaction was over the top. If anything, he was the one acting like a huge douche by trying to start drama so he can look tough. My sister has refused to take any sides in this.

AITA?”

And here’s how folks responded.

This reader said that the man’s reaction was totally out of line and he made a scene for no reason.

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Another person pointed out that this could have been handled in so many different ways.

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Another reader had a totally different opinion and said that everyone was to blame in this situation.

They pointed out that the woman has been violent in the past but it probably could have been handled differently.

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Another reader said that the woman is to blame for getting that angry and that addicts just can’t be trusted at all.

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One reader made a great point: if they didn’t want the drama, they probably just shouldn’t have invited the woman in the first place.

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Well, that sure was a weird one…

And now we want to get your take.

Tell us what you think of this situation in the comments. We’d love to hear from you!

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Is It Normal to Feel Like Everyone’s Secretly Mad At You?

There’s a saying that gets attributed to a lot of different people though its true origin is murky. It’s one that I come back to in my mind pretty often and it goes like this:

“You’ll worry less what others think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”

At first it feels cold and cynical, maybe even nihilistic, but that’s not how I interpret it.

We tend to live in this constant fear of the judgement we might be receiving from our peer groups, but the truth is, everyone else out there is also worried about themselves and their own issues. They’re probably not putting a ton of energy into evaluating you – they’re too busy for that.

And yet, thinking like this comes up all the time:

Is it normal to feel like everyone secretly dislikes you, being your friend only out of pity or kindness? If so, how did you over come this? from AskReddit

So what do we do about it? Here are ten pieces of seemingly solid advice from the people of Reddit.

1. Get some counseling.

Counseling – there is pure magic in moving your anxious thoughts into spoken word; once I heard myself speak these anxieties, they became kinda silly.

There is also magic in being able to bounce my anxious thoughts off of someone who is trained not to react to them. They are listening for the meaning and motivation behind your thoughts. Basically it’s like a doctor listening to your list of symptoms and determining what may be causing them.

I can remember being afraid of going to counseling because they might think I was stupid or crazy. It would be embarrassing!

Shift that thought…..it’s also embarrassing to have some weird thing going on in an unmentionable area, but you’re gonna go to a doctor because you’ve been to a doctor and know they are professionals that aren’t going to act like a 5 year old.

Counselors and Therapist are they very same.

– bostonbean7904

2. Remember, they’re busy.

[Something that helped was] the realization that I was giving people way too much credit believing they spent that much time thinking about me.

Seriously! We are pretty much the same in that when we walk away from some socially awkward conversation, that person is doing the exact same thing as you; worrying about how they sounded, looked, acted, what you must being thinking of them, analyzing every word and injecting (most often) wrong perspective, etc.

Their minds are no different than yours in that they shift to self more times than not. I call that little voice in my mind that creeps in my “Inner *sshole”.

I would never speak to a dearly loved companion the way that I talk to myself. I’ve learned to shift my perspective.

– bostonbean7904

3. It’s an ongoing process.

I have to do the work in my mind to keep [the good work] up.

Some people can just flip a switch and let that sh*t go, but i can guarantee that they didn’t just let it go that one time and then the anxiety never crept back in. Nope.

It just gets easier to let that sh*t go after you do the work and train your thought patterns.

The visual analogy that I use for something that I’m perseverating on is driving and seeing a billboard that catches my eye. It’s got this message that i just have to read and study so I pull over and just keep looking at it and I just get stuck at this billboard not being able to divert my attention enough to get back on the road.

And sweet Jesus, sometimes I just plow my car right into that mother f*cker and I’m really stuck. That billboard is not gonna move. I have to move. I have to shift my thought process just enough to get back on the road. The best is when you can see that billboard up ahead (because anxiety be what it be), roll down the window, and flip it off as you punch the gas.

– bostonbean7904

4. Communication is key.

Ask them!

I’ve really done my work on feeling like an imposter. […] I was one of those kids in class that was afraid of their own voice, never asking any questions, because what if they know I don’t know how to do this thing?

See

#1 on giving voice to your thoughts and realizing how silly they sound and then

#2, most people are stuck on self.

Ask them.

– bostonbean7904

5. Therapy won’t bite.

I was feeling like sh*t my whole life, but I also was afraid of therapy bc I thought that it would be too expensive, that I need years to find the one therapist who can help my very bad condition etc….

Instead I tried to cure myself with alcohol and drugs, you can guess how that worked. After 20 years of thinking about going to therapy, I finally did it, it was just how you say: hearing myself speaking out these thoughts was half of the rent.

It took me four sessions, best 500 bucks I ever invested, know I’m full of energy and good thoughts.

It happens from time to time, that the anxiety is crawling back, but therapy gave me the right instruments to deal with it

– fluent_sleeper

6. Calibrate your warning systems.

Sometimes it’s helpful to know why the anxiousness keeps creeping up, and it’s even more important to have a positive attitude towards its presence.

I’m not saying trick yourself into enjoying something unpleasant, because that’s inauthentic. But the anxiety is coming from our internal warning system, whose only two main functions are to keep us safe and productive.

Our minds know we function better with human connection, so sometimes the warning systems that need a little “calibration” go into overdrive pointing out things that aren’t necessary threats.

Like thinking everyone in your friend group pities you. Our minds know it’s within the realm of possibility for that to be a reality; it would be naive to think there aren’t any people on Earth who do that.

So go easy on your warning system, be sure to thank it from time to time, and press forward with that compassion for yourself.

[…]consistent practice WILL make good results come to fruition. Thank you again for discussing this.

– ur_therapist_says_hi

7. It’s not all about you.

I will say a big thing for me was about 6 years ago I asked a friend if they were mad at me because I felt like I had upset everyone. I hadn’t done anything, just that feeling.

He said something that hit me like a ton of bricks. He said ” No, im not mad and nobody is thinking about you.”

It didn’t all change right then, I’ve learned alot about my own self centeredness and I’ve done a lot of therapy in the past 6 years.

Its freeing to realize everyone is concerned with themselves just as you are.

– RangerDull4048

8. Don’t be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Let me be clear: If people are in your company, THEY LIKE YOU.

That feeling you have, though? That is going to keep worming its way into your mind, looking for confirmation that it’s right, even going so far as to cause you act in ways that make it right.

You might make negative faces you don’t realize. You might not respond in the way a friend needs when they need it because you miss it wondering if it was about you. You might just act weird sometimes.

When people react accordingly, you will take it as confirmation that the feeling was right all along and these people were just faking their friendship.

You would do well to heed the therapy advice and get a handle on how to recognize that feeling as nothing more than an inner guide, and to take it under advisement without trusting it, or worse, acting on it.

– jt004c

9. Watch out for substance abuse.

The answer is not drugs or alcohol, right off the bat. I struggled with this for years. I wish I could saw I woke up and brushed it off but honestly when I was around 21 I just stopped caring what people thought.

It got to the point where the friends I previously thought only liked me because they “had to” starting calling me and asking me what’s wrong and if I could meet up with them.

It showed me in the end that I needed to stop worrying about things that made me unhappy or upset because they were issues that were created by me in my mind to feel bad about myself.

Not that I pitied myself or think that you may be doing the same. But my advice I guess would be to just relax friend. Things are rarely as bad as you make them out to be in your mind.

The mind is a powerful thing, and what you force into it can affect you in a monstrous way. You don’t deserve that. You deserve to know that you matter, and your friend recognize that.

– charres1020

10. Grateful vibes.

What’s been helping me is trying to act on grateful vibes but commenting or messaging on social media posts or commenting or even texting the person off social media to say I saw a post or something made me think of them.

I like the good feeling of someone I know taking the time to send a message or post a comment or a special “like” on a video or something I’ve posted so I love tried to practice not hesitating and if something makes me think of them.

I purposely don’t ask people “how they are” because it opens up the door to me having to explain my life if I’m bummed, but it opens up the door for a little appreciation both ways.

Once I started doing that I was getting more interaction back from them which helped create a positive cycle and a feeling of connection.

– Venting2theDucks

I think those are all pretty great pieces of advice. And if it turns out that it wasn’t in your head, that you’re just friends with a bunch of jerks, find new friends. You don’t need ’em. You deserve better.

Do you have any other thoughts on this topic?

Share them with us in the comments.

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Was I Wrong for Kicking My Cousin off My Sister’s Wedding Zoom Call? Here’s How Folks Responded.

Family drama alert! And it’s comin’ in really hot!

And, because of the world we currently live in, we’re having family drama on Zoom! Of course, this was going to happen…

Anyway, take a look at this person’s story about what went down during a monumental zoom call and check out the reactions from Reddit users on the other side.

Let’s check it out.

AITA for kicking my cousin off of my sister’s wedding Zoom call?

“My [27M] older sister [30F] and her fiancé [31M] were planning for over a year for their wedding to be this month.

Obviously, they can’t have the wedding as planned, but they still would like to get married, so they decided on a “Zoom” wedding where all of the family/friends would just call in to watch the officiant, my sister, and her fiancé.

My sister didn’t want to be in charge of hosting the Zoom call because she thought it would stress her out, so she asked me to and I gladly accepted.

She and her fiancé decided to invite everyone they originally wanted to, and it was a very big list. When we were going over the list, my sister mentioned to me that she wanted everyone else to be muted for the majority of the wedding as she was worried that others would talk over her and her fiancé and quote “overshadow” them on their big day “that was already scaled down”.

However, her and her fiancé said that I should unmute everyone at one point so everyone could talk and have a nice time with each other.

Fast-forward to the day of the wedding—everyone is muted during the ceremony which goes great, and so I then unmute everyone and ask to please raise a hand if they’d like to talk so it doesn’t get confusing. My cousin (around my age) starts waving his hand crazily, and he’s with his longtime girlfriend (also similar age I guess).

He’s a very gregarious guy, so I was not surprised. Then, he says stuff like “(my sister) and (her husband) are such an inspiration, it’s given me the courage to do this….” then turns to his girlfriend and pulls out a box that is the size of an engagement ring box??

I immediately saw this as him trying to steal the spotlight (something that he’s done since we were kids, ex: he would secretly mess up my sister and I’s drawings if the adults would praise ours) and booted him off of the call.

Then I quickly announced that my cousin had technical difficulties and would not be joining again. Everyone else accepted this and went about talking, and my sister and her husband did too.

The rest of the wedding went smoothly—except for the fact that my cousin kept texting me angrily saying that he finally wanted to propose as a surprise with family all around and I ruined it.

My aunt and uncle texted me the same. AITA??”

And here’s what people on Reddit had to say about what happened…

This person praised the Lord Almighty that the cousin was banished from the call!

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Another Reddit user said that the person did the right thing for their sister…and I’m inclined to agree with them.

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A reader said that it’s a good thing the wedding was on Zoom, because if the cousin had pulled this in-person it could have been a lot worse.

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A reader commented that people who make these kinds of huge gestures on someone else’s special day are 100% wrong all the time.

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So what do you think?

Is this person a creep? Or not a creep at all?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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A Waitress Asked if She Was a Jerk for Refusing to Return a Tip to a Customer

Waiters and waitresses really have to put up with a lot of bullsh*t, don’t they?

The folks who work in the back of the house in restaurants have their own sets of problems, but those who are out front and center have to deal with all the drama from customers…and you better believe that there is plenty of it.

A waitress shared a story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page about dealing with certain customers that frankly sounds like kind of a nightmare.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for refusing to return a tip AND telling a couple that I don’t have time to play mediator?

“I’m a 22 year old, female waitress at Texas Roadhouse. This is one of my two jobs to put myself through college. Most days are fine but other days are a living hell.

Yesterday I was assigned a table that had a husband, wife and what appeared to be a teenage daughter (maybe 17). Everything was going smooth at first and the wife ordered a margarita. The husband then tried ordering a beer. The wife instantly lost her noodles and said “Uh, no. He will not have a beer. He will have a water.”

She then turned to him and said something along the lines of him not needing to drink because he was driving. He said no, the daughter could drive. It was childish.

Anyways, he keeps telling me he wants a beer. She keeps telling me no. In this industry, situations like this are a lose/lose for waitresses. If I get him the beer, wife wont tip. If I dont get him the beer, he wont tip. D*mned if I do, d*mned if I dont. So while they were arguing AT me, I said “Listen, I really dont have time to play mediator here.”

They went silent. I went and got both of them their alcohol. Daughter gives me an apologetic look upon my return, presumably because her mother was acting batsh*t crazy upon seeing me bring a beer in tow.

Flash forward to after their meals. Husband has had 2 beers at this point. Wife has stopped drinking and glares at me everytime I return. Wife and daughter go to the car while husband pays. Husband drops me a $40 tip on a $68 tab. I told him I couldnt accept it. He insisted. Eventually I pocketed it.

Wife comes in an hour or so later demanding that I give her the $40 her husband gave me, stating that I was a terrible host and went against her and I dknt deserve a tip.

She got my manager involved who said “She is not obligated to give you her tip. You left the restaurant and the tip has already been processed. Have a nice night.” She was fuming, screaming at me about how much of an AH I was for supplying her husband alcohol after she said no.

Other guests started chiming in saying that she was being ignorant and that I was doing my job, which is to provide guests with what they want and said that it wasnt MY fault that she was a controlling wife. She storms out.

Given the fact that I was put on the spot like that, I feel insanely guilty. AITA?”

And here’s what people had to say about her story.

One person brought up how bad they feel for the couple’s child.

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Another person said the woman did the exact right thing in this strange situation.

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This individual said there is absolutely no way the woman was wrong in this situation.

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And this person pointed out that she was just doing her job and that she didn’t do anything wrong.

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Finally, this Reddit user said that they also feel sorry for the husband in this situation.

The wife sounds like a real treat, huh…?

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Now we want to hear from all the readers out there.

Tell us what you think about this situation in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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Am I a Jerk for Being Mad at My Husband Who Was Going to Give $10,000 to His Sister Without Asking Me? Here’s What People Said.

When money gets involved in any situation, things can go off the rails in a hurry.

And this story is a doozy.

A woman shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole” forum on Reddit to ask the readers there if she was wrong for getting mad at her husband for going behind her back to give a family member A LOT of money.

Here’s how it all went down…

AITA For being mad at my husband who was going to give away $10,000 to his sister without even asking me about it?

“On Saturday morning, I noticed my husband was sending a lot of text messages back and forth. He is usually not much of a texter. He left the phone next to me to charge while he as in the other room.

The phone kept lighting up with text messages when I decided to open it up to see what the big discussion was about.

I know some couples view it as big breach of trust to read through a significant other’s phone, but my husband and I do it regularly so this was not a huge invasion of privacy on my end. We both have nothing to hide and it has never been an issue before.

Anyway, of course I saw something on the phone that I shouldn’t have that got me upset. For background, my husband is 34, I am 32, and his sister is 31 (she’s in this story). Husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for the last four years.

We are all college educated with jobs now. My husband and I each make good salaries around $150k each. We own our house. I still have about $60,000 in student loans I am working to pay off (luckily low interest rates so I just pay the minimum).

We have about $40k liquid in savings. So we are doing good financially but still need to build up more savings as we will probably try to start a family in the next 1-2 years and want to be prepared for an emergency and have a rainy day fund. Anyway, my husband’s sister is trying to buy a 1 bedroom apartment in NYC.

I saw in the text messages that my husband offered to give her $10,000 for her down payment. The money is our savings is OUR money. Our bank accounts are 100% combined. My husband manages 99% of the finances because I prefer not to deal with it. However, it is understood we consult each other regularly on major purchases.

He did not ask me if I was OK with him giving this money to his sister. She didn’t ask, he offered. I immediately confronted him (calmly) and was like, “Hey – Did you tell your sister you would give her $10,000?” He said yes. I asked him when he was going to tell me.

He said, he probably wasn’t. He figured I wouldn’t notice and said he didn’t think I would care about “the details”. I said, “Um, do you think $10,000 is a detail?” He said, “No, that is lot of money. I should have told you about it. Are you OK with it?” I said, “No, I don’t think I am.”

Anyway we decided in that moment not to give the money. He said he would tell his sister and she would understand. He wanted the issue to go away after that.

But I am still mad. I said this was a big breach of trust. I let him control all finances because I trust him to never, ever take advantage of my ignorance. Shouldn’t you be able to trust your husband?

So now, I don’t have that full amount of trust I had before and I want to open my own bank account (which frankly, I should have anyway). But AITA for being totally upset and feeling betrayed about this?

I grew up poor and $10,000 is a ton of money to me (I mean, to most people right?!). I am horrified he would consider gifting it away and not even telling me.

Wow…let’s see what folks on Reddit said about this.

This person didn’t think the woman was wrong at all for being angry at her husband.

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Another person made a good point: what else has her husband done with their money…?

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Another reader called the husband’s actions “a lie by omission”, and I think they’re right about that.

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This Reddit user called it “financial infidelity.” I’ve never heard that one before…

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And finally, this reader said that $10,000 is a huge chunk of money and that the woman and her husband might want to think about getting separate accounts after this incident because there are clearly some trust issues here…

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Now we want to get your take on the situation.

Do you think this woman was justified in her anger or did she overreact?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

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Really Wonderful Cringey Looks Back in Time

As a kid I was kind of obsessed with recording things. I was into multimedia endeavors in a big way. I had my tape recorders, my family’s giant camcorder, and some fairly primitive software to play around with as well.

The upside of this is that I have a TON of preserved record of my childhood with all of my tastes and attempts at expression.

The downside of this is that I have a TON of preserved record of my childhood with all of my tastes and attempts at expression.

Most of it is, how do I put this, the cringiest cringe that ever cringed. And I’m genuinely torn between burning it all in a fire and backing it up forever because of my previously mentioned obsession with all things multimedia.

Maybe I should just dump it all on r/blunderyears like these Reddit people did.

14. Apology accepted

“My name is Kate and I’m here to say /
I’m unwittingly problematic in a major way…”

I’m sorry guys, I was like 9 and loved rap. I truly apologize. from blunderyears

13. Baby bat

Hey, at least it looks like you’re having fun.

Baby bat me was something else huh… from blunderyears

12. Mood swinging

What really sells this is the editing.

I have no words to explain my younger self from blunderyears

11. Ashlee Simpson phase

Yo, you had a blitz phone?

At a sleepover with my blitz phone during my Ashlee Simpson phase circa 2008 from blunderyears

10. The death of MySpace

Wait? What’s Stickam? [Googling intensifies.]

My last MySpace photo, probably getting ready to login into Stickam. The streaks are plastic hair clip ins. from blunderyears

9. Official Campion

You’re the real winner here, friend.

Feeling confident AF in my Reign Man sneakers, official Champion Charlotte Hornets game shorts, and a polo shirt for added grown-up sophistication from blunderyears

8. Grunge phase

“Yeah, I’ve seen some stuff. Like water. And rocks. And picturesque pastel riverlines.”

I went through my grunge phase when I was 7 from blunderyears

7. Absolutely br00tal

Stay away from this kid, he WILL hit you with that guitar.
Because he can’t see a f*ckin’ thing.

br00tal ’09 core kid reporting for duty from blunderyears

6. The whole package

Hollister at ya boy.

Circa 2006 – freshman year of high school. Hollister shirt, Hollister necklace, and I would straighten my hair. from blunderyears

 

5. Hottest cowgirl fashion

Yeehaw to you, young lady!

The year is 1993, I am fresh from the salon with the $50 perm I begged my mom for, and JCPennys hottest cowgirl fashion (look it up sweaty). from blunderyears

4. Ride it

They’re both just like “Who is this? Why is this happening?”

Me and flo rida. I did not listen to flo rida. from blunderyears

3. Embrace it

You look like a character in a Fry & Laurie sketch, my guy.

I had embraced my nerdy outcast status and went to school like this, sadly the trench coat was soon banned after ’99 from blunderyears

2. Recent developments

This kid crawled so that Insta selfies could run.

Got a disposable camera as a child and decided to take a selfie. I was very pleased with it after getting it developed. from blunderyears

1. Totally subline

Rock on!

Sublime shirt: check. Bandana: check. Self awareness: not found from blunderyears

In the end, the only thing we have to cringe is cringe itself.

What was your past self like?

Tell us about ’em in the comments.

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People Share Photos From Their Very Awkward Pasts

For a generation that’s as nostalgic as mine is, we rarely actually wanna look at what we were like back in the day.

Because the past, by and large, is not pretty. Though it is frequently hilarious.

Enter a fascinating rabbit hole on Reddit called r/blunderyears, where people voluntarily post relics of their own cringey past that they may be mourned and celebrated communally.

Let us enter the zone now, and try to survive.

13. Guess who?

I’ll tell ya who still probably didn’t know: that boy.

Guess which boy I liked from blunderyears

12. Choice

Look,, we all make choices.

15yo me, I thought this outfit was choice. from blunderyears

11. Done

“I’m just old for my age, you wouldn’t understand.”

I was 100% done with life at the age of 4. from blunderyears

10. Phase out

Got some serious rawr XD energy going on here.

Thankfully, it WAS a phase mom. from blunderyears

9. Bang bang

Nevermind that, the rest of your hair is trying to escape.

1989… I cut my own bangs for picture day from blunderyears

8. What a performance!

Who doesn’t love the utility of a good fanny pack?

1992, the peak of my theatre kid years. from blunderyears

7. Beat that

If that kid wasn’t drowning in ladies I’d be shocked.

Every year my mom would photoshop my Valentine’s Day cards for me to hand out in school. (Circa 2006) from blunderyears

6. Sticking together

Ah yes, I remember these.

Duct tape prom, why did I think this was a good idea from blunderyears

5. Danger zone!

It’s hardly fair, there’s one of me, and yet only four of me.

Four times the danger…. from blunderyears

4. Taste the difference

Why does he look like he just caught those drums from horseback?

The days when I was a performing Pepsi can. from blunderyears

3. Blunderbuss

Hanson in a very alternate reality.

My three brothers. Three times the blunder. from blunderyears

2. Eye see you

“Nice try God, I’ll take it from here.”

At 15, I thought if I shaved my eyebrows off it would be easier to make them symmetrical. For this heinous act, I am sorry. from blunderyears

 

1. Oh brother

I…kind of need to hear this immediately.

Found this at a friends house. Her little brothers made a rap album when they were younger from blunderyears

If heartwarming cringe could be converted to electricity, this page could power a city.

What were your blunder years like? What did you wear? What did you do for fun?

Tell us all about them in the comments.

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Person Calls Off Wedding After His Partner Nearly Gets His Pooch Killed

This is one of those posts where just reading the headline seems like it’s enough information to make a decision. Anyone who isn’t responsible for a beloved pet – or careful with the life of any animal, to be honest – isn’t the kind of person I’d want to spend my life with.

Sometimes the devil is in the details, though, so let’s hear these before we make a final call.

It began when OP (original poster) left his dog home with his fiancee during her bachelorette party.

He says he specifically told her to put the dog away in the bedroom once the party got going.

Me (28M) and fiancee (27F) have been together for 4 years, engaged for 6 months. I also have a 7 year-old lab mix who is the greatest dog in existence.

On Saturday, fiancee had a bachelorette party at home. I stayed with my parents but I left the dog with her because she likes having him there. However, I made sure to tell her to put the dog in our bedroom once the party gets going.

The next morning, OP got a frantic call that something was wrong with the dog. They both raced to the emergency vet, where she was clearly upset and her friends told him the dog was alive but sick.

5am on Sunday I get a frantic call that something’s wrong with the dog. She was drunk, so I told her to get a taxi and go to the emergency vet clinic. When I got there, she looked like she hadn’t stopped crying for hours and she couldn’t even speak.

Two of her friends were there so they told me my dog is alive but not well. I felt sorry for her for an entire 10 minutes while waiting for the doctor.

Then the doctor informed them the dog was sick because it had gotten into substantial amounts of both edibles and alcohol – they had failed to lock him up or watch him after they’d started drinking.

But then, the doctor told me my dog ingested large amounts of alcohol and chocolate edibles. The girls apparently thought it would be cool to leave everything out on short coffee tables, leave the dog to wander around instead of putting him in our bedroom, and then get wasted and not notice he was going to town with the booze and edibles.

At home, he told her to get out and that it was over, which she did.

Her friends and family think he’s nuts to end a 4-year relationship over a mistake, but also, they weren’t very nice about it.

When we got home, I told my fiancee to pack and get out of my house and my life. I told her to tell her guests the wedding is off, and I’ll tell mine. She was shocked, but she took her things and left.

2 hours later, I get bombarded by messages on Messenger, Whatsapp, by her sisters, brother, brother’s wife, her mom, her friends, telling me that I am insane to do this to her after 4 years. They started off defending her, but it quickly turned into insulting me.

And get this – his family agrees.

The dog is fine, so everyone thinks he should just forgive and forget, and his best man admitted that OP might have overreacted.

The logical thing for me to do was look for comfort in my friends and family. Nope. They all fucking agree. My mom said: “Well, it was a mistake, she didn’t do it on purpose, besides – the dog didn’t die!” Lucky me, eh? My dog didn’t fucking die!

My sister was appalled that I cancelled the wedding “over that?!” and even my best man said I might have overreacted. Yes, our relationship has had ups and downs, but it’s mostly worked fine. But I am so disgusted at my fiancee that I can’t even imagine looking her in the eye, let alone spending my whole life with her. She isn’t fucking 17, she is 27!

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s thought her actions were immature, and he worries that someone will eventually get hurt for real.

By the way, this is not the first dumb thing she has done. She likes to text while driving, she always leaves stuff on the electric stove (like kitchen towels, the cutting board etc.) even though she has turned on the wrong burner and burnt whatever was on it several times in the past, and similar DANGEROUS things. It’s not something I hold against her in the sense that I would ever mention in a fight, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried that she might end up killing herself or someone else. For example, my dog.

I’m 99% sure I will stand by my decision. But am I really an asshole? Literally nobody is on my side and I have no idea what to think.

He edited the post to add that he’s realized maybe it’s not about the dog at all, or at least, not just about the dog.

Posting here kind of triggered me to conclude this isn’t about the dog at all. She is negligent and irresponsible and I don’t want to stick around and possibly see our child die in a car accident some day because she was texting or she forgot to put his seat belt on. I’d rather be an asshole now than spend years of my life worrying every time our child is left alone with her.

If she’d accidentally killed a person while texting and driving, I would also leave her. I guess I realized I don’t want to spend my life with someone who has such blatant disregard for human (or animal) life.

But what did the general public have to say about his hardline approach?

Here we go!

This person pointed out that if you’re in a relationship with someone who means less to you than your pet, it’s probably not the right person for you.

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Plenty of people think Everyone Sucks Here because OP isn’t taking responsibility for his own poor decision to leave the dog there in the first place.

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They really don’t seem well-suited.

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They also suggested that if OP wants to avoid judgement, perhaps he shouldn’t divulge the details of their breakup.

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And yeah, a few people thought OP was way harsh, Tai.

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I’m still on the side of OP, because he has very good reasons for ending it, but I do think he probably could have been more considerate about it.

What do you think? Let’s hash it out in the comments!

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People Share Uses and Features of Products That You Might Not Be Familiar With

I never realized until the last year or so how many uses gasoline has.

Gasoline!

I mean, besides putting it in my car and making it go…but I’m assuming you already know about that one.

My point is, that a lot of products we use can be used for all kinds of different stuff.

What are some uses and features of common products that a lot of people don’t know about?

Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say about this.

1. Free air!

“Most gas station coin operated air compressors have a button on the back.

Press this button three times and the pump starts automatically.”

2. Good one!

“Baby onesies have the overlap at the shoulders so you can pull it down the kids and off if they have a diaper blow out.

So much better than trying to get a sh*t covered onesie over their head.

I’m so annoyed that I found out about this after I was done with the baby stage.”

3. Warm it up!

“There’s sometimes a “warming” drawer underneath some ovens. Looks like a regular cabinet/skirting that people overlook.

Obviously depends on what kind of oven and where it’s positioned, but is quite common in UK households, especially with smaller kitchens.”

4. Perfect portions.

“Most spaghetti forks (that funky utensil you use to pick up cooked spaghetti) have one large round hole in the center.

Aside from helping it drain, it is also sized to be exactly one serving of uncooked spaghetti.”

5. Very handy!

“Find parking function on Google Maps.

When you park in a stadium or airport parking lot or a city you unfamiliar with: Open Google Maps, hit bullseye (location) then the blue dot.

Pinpoints location and gives option to add notes for garage level etc.”

6. Make your life a little easier.

“Many dustpans for brooms have a jagged section for scraping clumps of hair off the broom bristles.

I didn’t know this for the longest time but since I figured it out it’s made sweeping up all the fur in the house much easier!”

7. Saves time!

“Vegetable peelers work in both directions.

Most of the time you don’t have to lift them up, you can just go all the way back and keep peeling.”

8. Brilliant!

“Soda cans.

The tab can be turned around and used to hold a straw in place after popping open the can.”

9. For foggy driving.

“If your vehicle has fog lights, (those lights on the bottom of your bumper), those lights are meant for driving in fog.

A simple experiment, go out at night, stop your car, turn your low beams on, fog lights off, see where your eyes are drawn to. Now, turn your fog lights on, and watch your eyes get drawn to a point closer to your vehicle. You can actually see less when you have your fog lights on, when it isn’t foggy.

I think vehicles shouldn’t even have fog lights, because the majority of people don’t seem to understand them.”

10. Booyah!

“You can lift the silverware basket OUT of the dishwasher to put away your utensils or make more space if you don’t have utensils to wash that round.”

11. Just in case.

“Not sure if this has been posted but your seatbelt buckle is designed to break your car window if and when underwater or trapped in the vehicle.”

12. Find the leak.

“If you think you have a leak in your house, shut off everything inside. Even the washer.

Go outside to your water meter. All water meters have a spinning shape that signifies when water is going through.

So if everything is shut off in the house and the shape is spinning you have a leak.”

13. And then there’s this…

“If you put a toothbrush to the the top of your vibrator, it’s a free vibrating toothbrush.”

Do you know about any cool uses or features for products?

If so, please tell us about them in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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Mothers-in-Law Shared Their Crazy Stories About Daughters-in-Law

We always hear about “crazy mother-in-law” stories, but now the tables are about to be turned, everyone!

Because it’s time for the mothers-in-law out there to let loose on the daughters-in-law of the world and tell us how those younger women can also be nuts sometimes.

This should be fun!

Let’s dig into some crazy stories about daughters-in-law from mothers-in-law from AskReddit users.

1. Wish they’d never met.

“We lived on the other side of the country from them so we didn’t have many visits — one or two a year. When we visited, all was well — the house was clean, the kids were cared for, etc. She was fun to be around.

However, once we left, life went back to “normal” for my son and grandkids. She would say she was going to the store and would not come home for 2 to 4 days. She did drugs. She did not clean — anything.

My son traveled for business and when he was gone she had many different men in the house. He would come home to a trashed house, trashed car, trashed everything. She would put the kids to bed, then leave to party. She kept the two oldest kids home from school when he traveled — she was too busy sleeping from partying all night to take them to school.

As he was making plans to leave her and take the kids, she killed the youngest child and is now in jail awaiting trial. all of this came out after she died. I wish they had never met.”

2. Hateful.

“When I first met her, she was a tweaker.

She knew I knew and she hated me. Now she stays home and knits and crafts and I have not seen my grandson in 3 years.

She still hates me.”

3. Walking out.

“My DEL decided, after years of manipulating my son, to walk out on him and their two kids.

A few hours later she changes her mind and bombards him with all kinds of cr*p for a week. And then she gains access to the house when he’s out and changes the locks causing him and their two young kids to be homeless.

She sucks!”

4. A tight leash.

“The stories I’ve heard of my aunt’s DIL are the worst. She’s kept my cousin on a tight leash after marriage.

Banned my aunt from communicating with him from any social media acct. It’s so bad whenever my cousin happens to see my aunt he acts like he doesn’t know her.

All this due to the DIL. Just hurts to see my aunt not see her own grandkids.”

5. I’ll take it from here.

“I will respond for my mother.

She hates the fact that her daughter in law does not respond to phone calls or texts. She understands that she is a new mom but how long does it take to reply to a text message.

I also want to add that she’s turned the holidays from a casual wear you PJs & bust out your paper plates into a sit down event with formal place settings. I don’t enjoy getting together to eat with my family during Thanksgiving and Christmas anymore.

This year I was at least smart enough to bring salt packets.”

6. Sounds like a real treat.

“My sons GF practically lives with us. After she graduates from college they will get married.

Things I HATE: I text him; she responds like she’s him.

We are doing major renovations on the house. She didn’t help AT ALL. I understand if renovation is not your thing. But I was running in and out of the house switching laundry and cleaning up little messes.

She didn’t even offer to help.”

7. Scary lady.

“Happened to a friend. Her brother married this girl who was his college friend.

Very happy, have a baby girl… Suddenly her father passed away so her mother went to stay with son and DIL. At first she was ok. But after like a month, DIL started to lock the fridge ( in india fridges come with internal locks) and pantry doors.

She started cutting down MIL’s food. When my friend came to know about this, we went to her brothers place, packed her mom’s stuff and brought her back to my friends house.

Scary lady that DIL. Brother didn’t say sh*t to his wife.”

8. A real catch.

“I’m gonna speak for my aunt: my cousin is a party guy. He married a party girl.

I met her the day of my grandfather’s funeral. She was dressed like Betty Boop; too much makeup and balloon-sized fake t*ts in a sheer, black tube dress stretched too far for the imagination. She was sitting at my grandparents’ table as I walked bleary-eyed into the kitchen for a bowl of cereal; half-awake, I barely stopped myself from exclaiming “what the f*ck!?”

After the funeral, we held a sort of Irish wake at my uncle’s house, whereupon she tried to hook up with every male cousin, one-by-one asking them to do shots with her. I avoided her, so I was last. She got to me when I was having a beer in the driveway with two other cousins. One she’d already tried. She went to my more attractive cousin-in-law first.

He shot her down with “The Mother. Of. My. Newborn. Child. Is. Inside.” (I like him) I’m less assertive, so I tried the “if you ignore bullies, they’ll get bored and leave you alone.” She tried grinding up and down my front. I ignored her and hoped she would leave me alone. She moved around to try slithering up and down my back. I pretended she wasn’t there. She slithered down my back one last time, and then-She bit my *ss.

I hopped across the driveway doing the Goofy yell. I honestly don’t remember what happened after that. Somehow she left. I had a dental impression in purple bruise on my *ss cheek the next morning. Let me remind you, this was my grandfather’s funeral.

I’m told that the morning of their wedding, my aunt offered to pay for 100% of the wedding if he wanted to back out.”

9. Let’s mix it up a little bit.

“How about a crazy daughter, son-in-law story?

So I have one daughter who at 20 “came out” to me. As gay? No. As a polygamist. A pregnant one. Pregnant by a 40 year old dude with a wife and three grown kids. I was 44 at the time. Long story short, the original wife got sick of all the crazy and left.

Now my daughter and the son in law are monogamous with five kids and I have a son-in-law who is 4 years younger than me.”

10. On behalf of my mother.

“I’m writing on behalf of my mother.

My SIL is a lazy, obnoxious cow. She hasn’t worked in 10 years, while my brother works 60 hrs a week minimum. Even though she gets an allowance for being a stay at home mum, that goes to cigarettes and until recently a sh*tload of pot. My brother went years without a birthday/Christmas/fathers day card or gift from her. (Like… not even a card?!?!)

So my mum used to come down for weeks at a time whenever my SIL was ‘unwell’ (read: withdrawing). Last year, my mum bought my brother a big, expensive, kick *ss birthday present. He’s worth it, we always try n show him what he’s worth. Well, Mrs SIL chucked a wobbly. “You need to stop buying him sh*t, or you n me will be having words OUT THE FRONT!!”

Mum looked dead at her, “you wanna beat me up because I treat your husband better than you?!” That’s just one story.”

11. Almost there.

“Not a DIL yet (my stepsons girlfriend and mother of my 2 grand babies) but I’m 19 years younger than my husband but 12 years older than my stepson.

She thinks I want to sleep with my stepson ( never gave her any reason to think this, I do not want to). She keeps the babies from us, rarely we get to see them unless of course she has a circumstance that were her only option for a babysitter. We’ve tried very hard to have a good relationship but she just hates me.

I once even stopped by their house to visit, she was cordial but my stepson got an earful when he got home from work. Just sad all around- she doesn’t want us in their lives.”

Okay, all the ladies out there, it’s your time to shine!

Do you have any crazy stories about your mother-in-law or your daughter-in-law?

If so, tell us all about it in the comments. Thanks!

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