Am I Wrong for Wanting My Daughter’s Boyfriend to Know Her Dark Secret Before Marriage? People Weighed In.

This is a tricky one

Have you ever had someone get involved with a friend or family member of yours and you…kind of felt sorry for the other person because they didn’t know what they were getting into?

It’s sad, but it happens a lot.

And a father took to Reddit to ask folks about a very hard situation that he’s dealing with. Here’s what he had to say.

AITA for wanting my daughter’s boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance to know her dark secret before marriage?

“I’m the dad of a 25 year old young woman who I love very much.

I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause – she is a diagnosed sociopath.

She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse towards her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help. Throughout her elementary years she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty and all other types of misbehaviors.

With an enormous amount of therapy & support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older. She received an ASPD diagnosis at 18, and I had suspected it for long prior.

After her aggressive behavior was tamed, her following years were much more fruitful. She’s law-abiding; has a decent job and a good education; and has many good friendships and admirers. Especially male admirers; she is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest. S

he uses that old dating guide “The Rules” like a Bible. She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who’s crazy about her, and who I have a very strong relationship with (we live in the same area and spend time together regularly). He is a great guy, very kind, funny and intelligent.

But I doubt she loves him. We’ve had some very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she’s been open with me that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family.

When she acted very sad and broken up over the death of one of her closest friends at the funeral, she confessed to me privately that it was all a put-on, and that she felt “pretty neutral” about the whole thing. She has also stated she has never once felt guilty about anything she’s ever done, and doesn’t know what guilt feels like.

While she enjoys being around her boyfriend and is s*xually attracted to him, I highly doubt she feels much of anything towards him love-wise.

Her boyfriend (who might propose soon) has no idea about her diagnosis, and she’s been very upfront with me that she has no plans to ever tell him, thinking it’ll scare him away.

I’ve made it clear to her that she needs to tell him the truth before they marry; that he has the right to know and consider it; or I will; to which she always responds, “I know you wouldn’t dare.” I actually would – I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this “secret” from him, and letting him walk into a marriage without this piece of knowledge.

I’m not trying to sabotage my daughter’s future. Maybe her boyfriend’s love of her personality and other aspects is enough that it won’t end the relationship. It’s his decision to make; but he deserves all the facts. Someday he’s bound to find out she’s a bit “off”; it can’t be kept a secret forever. AITA?”

That’s a tough one, indeed.

One reader said it’s best for the dad to just stay out of the situation.

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Another person argued that the soon-to-be fiancé needs to know about the daughter’s past.

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This person made a good point about the potential danger the boyfriend could be in.

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Another Reddit user said that NOT telling the boyfriend would basically mean the entire marriage starting off on the wrong foot.

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This reader spoke from experience about the terror of being involved with someone like the man’s daughter.

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And finally, this person said that it’s up to dad to tell the boyfriend the truth, no matter how hard it might be.

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What do you think?

Did this dad make the wrong move?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know what you think. Thanks!

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Am I a Jerk For Telling My Daughter to Cancel Her Wedding? Here’s How People Responded.

You can’t marry them!

You might think this kind of thing only happens in movies, but it does happen in real life. And here’s yet another example of it.

A mother shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole?” forum on Reddit to see if she was wrong for telling her daughter that she should cancel her wedding.

Oh, boy…let’s see what happened.

AITA for telling my daughter to cancel her marriage?

“I have a daughter(27) who was with her boyfriend for 7 years and they got engaged not long ago(just a small party, not many guests).

She always talks to me about how she loved him, how he always listens to he and he was made for her. I have agreed with her, since I found him to be a good natured man, he was kind and humble and was always respectful to our family.

We’ve met his parents for dinner twice or thrice and they hit me as a little s*xist, asking questions to my wife like “I don’t know why you’re working, isn’t that the husband’s job? It’s the mothers job to be taking care of the children”.

Now that they wanted to make it more serious, they planned a marriage. Anyways we have been planning about the marriage, and one day her boyfriend comes to me and says that his parents want to talk to me. I was going to call my daughter too, but he said that she wasn’t allowed.

I went with him and his parents started talking with me about DOWRY. I was confused and said that there was no dowry and in 2020 who even gives dowry?? But boyfriend and his parents started lecturing me about how necessary it was and how my daughter would be a stay at home wife(my daughter has told me that she wants to continue her dreams so I don’t know what this is).

Anyways they told me that I should give it a thought and told me not to tell my daughter for the time being. However I immediately told my daughter about it, and she started crying saying she didn’t know that her boyfriend was so s*xist. She asked me what she could do now, and I told her that she wasn’t being forced and could cancel her marriage if she didn’t want it.

Well, that is exactly what happened and now her boyfriend and his parents are calling me saying I took away the love of his life etc… On top of that, some of her friends (some were bridesmaids) said that I was an *sshole for breaking up what would’ve been a “healthy marriage”.

But it’s my daughter’s happiness that matters. AITA?”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded to the woman’s story.

This person said the woman was not wrong and that she “saved her daughter from a life of hell.” Tell us how you really feel…

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Another reader pointed out that the daughter probably already had major doubts about the whole situation and the wedding.

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This person remarked that this kind of parenting is what is needed in today’s world.

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An individual said that the mother absolutely did the right thing in this situation.

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And this response perfectly hit the nail on the head.

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What do you think about this whole thing?

Tell us in the comments!

We’d love to get your take on the situation!

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What Would You Save if the Internet Was Going Away Forever?

Reddit’s got a horrific scenario it wants you to consider, and then it’s gonna ask you to make a tough decision about it.

You ready? Prepare yourself. Here we go.

The internet is scheduled to go down forever. You have a week to prepare and download anything from the web you think is necessary to have for the rest of your life. What do you download and why? from AskReddit

So, the time constraint is the interesting part. That would mean that the biggest determining factor in how much you’d be able to get is how good your internet connection is.

My home PC, when plugged straight into the router, pulls down about 450mbps. Of course, actual download speeds are almost never that fast, because it depends on what the host is giving you, so let’s slow it down to 100. Allowing for a couple of hours of downtime each day of the week allotted, that means I could nab around 50 terabytes – assuming I ran out and bought some new drives so I had somewhere to put it all.

That’s way more than enough to nab all of wikipedia. Nice.

Let’s see what other nerds thought.

1. Do it yourself.

Every How-To book ever written.

At this point, the only way the internet is shutting down is if the world is ending.

Gotta know how to start over.

– cbite

2. A nice start.

The Pirate Bay’s top 100 in each category for the kneejerk shotgun approach.

After that an offline copy of Wikipedia, my entire GOG library, and everything from Project Gutenberg.

– Aperture_Kubi

3. Play on!

Download all of the roms I would play

– ninjaboss1211

4. That…would be helpful.

Maps.

I got lost in the middle of nowhere this summer, had no cell service or internet access, and realized it would have useful to have offline road maps on my phone.

Anyone have recommendations for a good and/or free source?

– BlueMacaw

5. Bring it back!

Everything I need to know on how to build the Internet

– SubcooledBoiling

6. Ya’ll realize we had houses and stuff before the internet, right?

I’d start with books on how to live off grid. How to dig wells set up irrigation. Gardening and food preservation. 3D printer plans for all sorts of tools and equipment. Animal husbandry and everything I would need to set up my own cnc shop.

I would also be downloading science databases, sewing, leather making etc. I was 27 before I ever had access to the internet and I had already graduated with a B.S. and at first it was a novelty but I soon realized how powerful it was when I realized that you get access to a lot of knowledge that normally would be unavailable to the average person.

The internet became the ultimate do it yourself book.

– Maxtrt

7. Make that money.

That’s about 70TB I can download so I’d probably go with all the music ever made and then get rich selling bootlegs because everyone else is downloading wikipedia and p*rn.

– antaryon

8. Good priorities.

All of the medical, history and math books that I can find.

And every song I can think of.

Aaaaand “Bartender – the right mix”

– JosheeFence

9. Better read up.

Well since I work in IT, specifically network infrastructure, I’ll be out of a job.

So I guess some books on welding or something.

– [User Deleted]

10. A digital survivalist.

This is literally why I have about 3TB of lossless music copied to four different hard drives. I also have thousands of books too.

I simply do not need any corporation, record label, or anyone deciding how I consume music content for me.

I have a backlog of thousands of albums I will never hear even though the majority of the things I haven’t heard I very much would love to hear…just not enough time or motivation for it.

So, I guess if I had to, I would download whole albums of lyrics since I know where to get them and I’ve done that in the past. It’s an achievable goal.

– RageForOrder17599

11. That’s sweet.

A video of my dad talking to my first grandchild.

It is the only recording I have of his voice.

– katneedle

12. Oh, finally!

I find out who all these hot singles in my area are and why they want to meet me.

– Shinespark7

13. Yikes, it’s true.

The real ones are going to use that time to commit all the cyber crime possible ( steal money, hack and steal information of bank accounts, financial statements, dirt on ppl etc)

it’s the ePurg

– -knight-who-says-ni

14. Do do do dooo.

I would just invest in a good pair of prescribe glasses for reading.

I do not want end up like that dude from the Twilight Zone.

– davidwal83

15. What a twist!

Plot twist, everyone downloading everything is what causes the internet to go down.

– RedditUsername42

Honestly, thinking about this is just making me anxious, so I’m gonna stop doing that now.

But I’m curious – what would your answer be?

Tell us in the comments.

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Telling Their Cousin That She’s Committing a Sin

I am not a religious person and I don’t really have any religious friends or family members. And when I hear stories like the one you’re about to read, I’m kind of glad about that. Because it seems like it can get in the way of a lot of relationships.

A young woman took to Reddit to get advice about the way that she’s treating her cousin. Let’s see what she had to say.

AITA for telling my cousin she’s committing a sin?

“I’ll try to keep this straight to the point but I (18F) can answer any questions you have.

A year and a half ago, my cousin (17f) and aunt (50+) immigrated from Saudi Arabia. They have been living with my family and I in Canada ever since. It’s been a real struggle for everyone to adjust. Because they are way more religious than me, they see themselves as more superior.

I can’t read or write Arabic properly, so they say “Oh poor OP, losing her faith and culture because she was born here” or they comment on the fact that I can’t read the Qur’an in the original language.

Everything I do, they comment on. I watch a show, listen to music, dye my hair, wear skinny jeans, or anything remotely fun in front of them, and they give their opinion. ” Darling, this is Haram”, “sweetie, doing this is actually not permitted” , ” OP, you can’t do this unless you want to go to hell”.

My parents have told me to keep the peace and that they’ll soon get their own place. Since the whole lockdown, my cousin has taken up a new hobby- painting. She’s actually really talented and I’m surprised she’s never painted before. I was watching anime in our shared room when she told me to turn it off. She said she can’t concentrate listening to something Haram while she painted.

I told her that she’s also committing a sin by painting a girl. (In Islam, drawing/painting any living thing is a sin) This lead to a whole fight and our parents got involved. Basically, they’re telling me to apologize because her painting isn’t harming anybody.

My cousin has stopped talking to me because my aunt made her stop painting. This caused problems between my parents and aunt because they’re telling my aunt it’s fine if she paints. Now there’s tension in our house and my parents are kind of p*ssed at me.

AITA for causing this fight? I admit I lost my temper, but after a year and a half of this, I couldn’t take it anymore. Also, my cousin was really good at painting and it was a way for her to get creative. I feel really bad now that she’s not allowed.”

Let’s see what the folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person thinks that the woman didn’t do anything wrong and that her cousin needs to be able to take some of her own medicine.

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This person stated the obvious: the woman’s cousin is very judgmental…and hypocritical.

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Another reader who is a Muslim said they think the woman’s family might be going overboard in the religion department.

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And another individual again brought up the hypocrisy of the whole situation.

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And another Muslim person said that they think the woman’s cousin and aunt are just being downright disrespectful.

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What do you think about this story?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

Thanks in advance!

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Parent Asks if They Made a Mistake by Telling Their Son’s Wife She Wasn’t a Beautiful Bride. People Weighed In.

I’m sure you already know how fragile women can be on their wedding day.

And the LAST thing you probably want to do is tell them that they don’t look absolutely stunning in their dress on their big day.

But that’s what happened with this man and they shared his story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page to get some feedback about what went down.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my son’s wife that she wasn’t a beautiful bride?

“I’m very p*ssed off over this, so maybe it is more of a misstep than I originally thought. My son got married eight months ago, to a woman we’ve never liked.

They had a surprise wedding, meaning none of us knew we were going to a wedding and we were told it was just a cocktail party. My wife wore white, now that I think of it my wife wears a lot of white and that makes DIL even more of a dumb*ss for never warning us.

Well for eight months she has been trying to spin it to make my wife look like some crazed MIL who showed up in a wedding dress. She had a wedding picture on social media and when someone commented who wore white, she wrote back “that’s my mother in law, she doesn’t like me” and a laughing emoji.

My wife called her out on it and she played the victim and whined about my wife trying to upstage her. She has made a couple snide comments, and told people who weren’t at the wedding that it was intentional.

My son knew how much this was p*ssing me off, and pulled me aside. He said that she is insecure because when she showed the wedding pictures to her best friend, who couldn’t make it, the friend immediately commented that my wife is gorgeous.

I guess her mom said something too. My wife used to model and not to be an *ss, but she draws your eye much more than DIL. He said that she is insecure, and she has always felt insecure around my wife. Also we are hispanic and she is white, and I guess her own mom was telling her she should tan and she was going to look pasty compared to everyone.

I don’t really care. I have a 15 year old daughter, so i certainly get that woman struggle with body issues, but you don’t get to take that out on someone else and spread lies.

She made another comment recently, about the picture being proof that she is the innocent one in the relationship, and I snapped at her that I am sick of hearing about the white dress, and that maybe if she put more effort into her own appearance she would have been a beautiful bride and people wouldn’t be looking at her MIL.

She stormed off and my son is mad. He actually said his mom has great self esteem (she doesn’t) so we should take the high road.”

Uh oh…family drama!

Let’s see how Reddit users responded.

This reader made it pretty clear: this guy is an *sshole.

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Another person remarked that the father was also wrong for his actions.

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This individual believes that the dad is definitely in the wrong here and that he was cruel on purpose.

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This person thinks everyone involved in the story is pretty bad…and that they’re all kind of *ssholes.

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Finally, this reader made a good point: you should always take the high road and not resort to insults.

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Oh boy…what a weird story…

Now we want to hear from you.

Tell us what you think about this situation in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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This is Why Hackers Aren’t Stopped by the “5 Attempts” Limit

I’ve found myself saying it as I sweat over trying to remember what my stupid password is on some seldom-used site I need info from:

“If even I can’t figure out how to log in to my account, how could any hacker have a chance?”

How can hackers try thousands of passwords when trying to hack something, but my account gets locked after 5 tries when I do it? from NoStupidQuestions

Well hold on, because we’re about to get technical with the help of Reddit.

1. Hashing it out.

Usually sites don’t store your password directly, they store a hash of your password. The hash is a number which is derived from your password using an algorithm.

When you log in, it’s very easy to convert your password to a hash and check it matches. But it’s very, very difficult to figure out what the password was from a hash. Generating a hash is a one-way operation.

So if someone hacks into a website they might be able to get those password hashes. That by itself isn’t enough to break into your account because they still need a password, the hash alone isn’t enough.

But what it does mean is they can keep hashing lots and lots of passwords to try to find one which generates a matching hash. They don’t need to actually enter passwords into the site to do that, they can run the hashing algorithm themselves. So it gets around any limitations like account locking.

– Psyk60

2. There are many ways.

Yeah there are tons of ways [to hack in].

Many sites only block you from trying multiple passwords on 1 account let’s say 5 times. But they don’t block you from trying 1 password on multiple accounts at all. So people can gather a very large list of login names (such as emails or just account names) and then try 5 commonly used passwords on that very large list of login names.

– GreenBlueEyedDog

3. Trade up.

Another easy way is to first target fan sites/forums/message boards. For example (and I’m just making this all up), there are tons stock trading forums. Almost every forum software has public exploits which can allow someone to gain access to the database which will then give access to emails and passwords.

You can then theoretically take those lists of emails and passwords and make a program to try them on common trading platforms such as Robinhood, etrade, or anything. People tend to use their same email and password pretty much everywhere, and when you’re working with that large of a dataset you’re bound to get hits.

And again, most websites don’t have any block protection for trying different login names so it’s fast and easy to do this.

– GreenBlueEyedDog

4. Proxy magic.

Another option is to use proxies. It can be quite a bit slower but there are places you can purchase large amounts of IP addresses and ports that a password cracker can connect to which allows the login attempt to be made through that IP.

With a list of 2000 IPs, you can theoretically make over 100k login attempts in an hour, or running 24/7 2.4 million attempts in a day.

– GreenBlueEyedDog

5. Outdated methods?

So the approach you’re describing essentially involves some code that just tries a metric f*ckton of possible passwords in the hope that the correct password is guessed eventually through brute force. This approach used to be quite effective but nowadays most major websites and organisations have limits on how often you can fill in a password for this exact reason.

Some older websites will not have the limit and I believe others have a system where you can only try a password once every few seconds because the code that the hackers use to brute force their way in usually tries thousands of combinations a second.

– diatomicsoda

6. Thieves in the night.

They steal the data they need to break in (like your hashed password, what the site stores), and work on it remotely, where there is no 5-try limit.

– bazmonkey

7. Weaker websites.

They try to break passwords on weaker websites or on leaked hashes and then escalate the attack to other websites hoping you use the same password (way too many people do).

Use a password manager and random passwords everywhere.

– akulowaty

8. Gone phishing.

Phishing: Often hackers don’t even both guessing- they’ll create fake web pages or inject scripts into website that will just send your password directly to them.

This is why you should be very hesitant when clicking on links you don’t trust.

– AudreyIsDumb

9. It’s not about you.

The trick is they don’t want a particular account. If they tried brute forcing YOUR account. They’d be blocked like you.

So you have version one of this which is called password spraying. This usually goes along with having a bunch of usernames available to them. So they brute force attack the password, but they run every iteration across all accounts they have a username for. This spreads things out and avoids triggering action for a lot of places because often it is tries in a short time period, not an absolute number of consecutive wrong attempts.

If the system has an absolute number of failed consecutive attempts set up for lock out, they will trigger lock out of your account.

Version two of brute forcing requires them to have the encrypted password file. In this case, they get all the tries in the world until the heat death of the universe. If they manage to match it, they then go to the UI and log in. No failed attempts to lock you out.

Alternatively, you did something stupid like reuse passwords and username. You set up a log in over on some low quality web site like a cheap phpbb forum for fans of rainbow colored lemurs. They compromise that, have your password for that site and an email address, and then hit up everything interesting like banks, credit card sites, gmail, etc with that pair. It works or it doesn’t and the hit and run attempt isn’t likely to trigger a block.

– raz-0

10. What’s the hardware?

Depends on the hardware/OS platform that handles the log in. Back when I was a sysadmin, the best security software in the industry ran on IBM mainframes. If you ever hit a three strikes and you’re out situation, a mainframe was handling your login.

If it were a UNIX box or god-forbid a Windows server, have at it. Nothing was counting.

Most websites use SQL to handle anything typed into a field, and that could connect to anything. But most servers on the Net are either UNIX or Windows machines.

That tells you most you need to know.

– newsjunkie102

11. Social engineering.

The Brute Force method isn’t used nearly as much anymore. The new trick is to is what is called Social Engineering to get people to divulge their passwords or other info. “hacking” is not a real thing. Nowadays security breaches happen because of human failings.

If I wanted to “hack” someones accounts I wouldn’t set up a complex algorithm, I’d set up a complex lie.

– NRG_Factor

12. PSA!

PSA: As long as we’re talking about hacking passwords, I’d like to discuss the importance of 2-factor authentication.

Even if a hacker finds your password, a properly implemented 2FA methodology will still prevent them from accessing your account.

Username / password alone is not safe.

– Beauregard_Jones

13. Close calls.

My computer at work has 3 wrong times and then you are locked out resulting in a lengthy phone call to the help centre in India to unlock it.

The other day i mistakenly entered the old password twice without thinking, realising what i had just done meant i have never entered the third try so carefully as that time as i had a conference call scheduled in a few minutes time with my boss.

– moondog1967

14. Of course!

Because they’re hackers, duh

– thesleepingtigress

15. That’s good hash.

I like salt and a little pepper on my hash browns

– benmarvin

So the important takeaways here seem to be:
• Don’t repeat your passwords on different sites
• Use a password manager to help make this easier
• Turn on two-factor authentication wherever you can
• If strangers on the internet start asking you weirdly personal questions…don’t answer them.

What are some other password best practices?

Drop ’em in the comments.

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Not Giving Their Brother and His Wife Any Privacy

People sure can be pushy,  huh?

You give someone an inch and they take a mile, right?

Well, you just might feel that way after reading this person’s account of what’s going in with his brother and his wife in a place that seems a little bit too close for comfort.

Read on, friends, and we’ll see how Reddit users reacted to this story.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife any privacy?

“My brother lost his job along with all his savings several months ago, and soon after he asked me if it would be okay if he (28M) and his wife (30F) stayed with me until they could afford their own place again.

I hesitated at first, considering I only have a 1 bedroom apartment, but according to them they had ‘no other options’ so of course I invited them over and bought a blow-up mattress for the living room.

For the first month things were manageable, although admittedly cramped. Then my brother told me that sleeping on the mattress was giving him back pains, so he asked if he could buy a small double bed for the living room.

The living room is by far the biggest room I have, so I told him that would be fine as long as there was still room for my couch/TV/bookshelves. The living room is also connected to my kitchen in an open plan style, so I reminded my brother to leave walking space around the bed.

It’s now been 2+ months and things have gotten a lot worse. When they first moved in, I would still use the living room every day to unwind on the couch after work. Now whenever I go in, there’s a strange vibe like I’m intruding.

My brother and his wife are often sitting in bed together when I go in (I always knock) and stare at me pointedly until I leave. Sometimes when I sit down they will directly ask me for some ‘alone time’ and say they would like the room to themselves.

This came to a head yesterday when my sister-in-law messaged me with a ‘timetable’ she’d made of when it would be ‘a good time’ for me to use the living room. The timetable basically says that they will allow me into the room for an hour each evening, plus 20 minutes around mealtimes.

I basically shut her down instantly and told her there was no WAY I’d be following the timetable since in the end it’s my apartment. She sent me back a HUGE message with a dozen paragraphs about how my constant presence was ‘ruining’ her marriage with my brother and they feel like they have no privacy.

I tried to talk this over with my brother that night, but when I got home neither my brother/SIL were talking to me, so he’s clearly just as p*ssed.

Today an Amazon parcel arrived for my brother with a lock for the living room door, which I told him there’s ‘absolutely no way’ I will allow him to install. My brother says I’m ‘creepy’ for wanting constant access to where they sleep and he’s insisting on installing the lock anyway.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife their privacy?”

Hmmmm…let’s see what people had to say about this.

This Reddit user said that the man’s brother and wife might be gaslighting him and that they should probably get their own place ASAP.

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And this person made a very good point: this guy is doing them A FAVOR. And this is how he gets repaid…?

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Another person pointed out that they’re staying for free in a tight space, so what the hell is this guy supposed to do about it?

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Another person on Reddit pointed out that this guy has gone above and beyond the call of duty in this situation. And they said the couple should probably vacate the premises sooner than later.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Is this guy being a total weirdo or is he not doing anything wrong?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks in advance!

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Folks Discuss the Real Reasons Printers Still Suck

I have spent a good chunk of my life yelling at printers.

My roommate took the last printer I’d been using when we parted ways, and the only thing I miss about it is that it had the little automatic feeder tray to scan documents.

Because we shouldn’t even be BOTHERING with putting data on physical paper, we should be shoving whatever paper is still lying around back into digital form, right?

I mean, RIGHT?

Why, after so many fucking years, do printers still work like overpriced pieces of shit? from NoStupidQuestions

So why are printers so horrible? Let’s see if we can get a consensus from Reddit.

1. “Complicated moving parts.”

They have lots of complicated moving parts that can jam and break and go wrong.

Meanwhile the business model is to sell the printer as cheap as possible (maybe even at a loss) and make up the money on ink cartridge sales, so there’s incentive to cut every corner on build quality if it makes it possible to sell the end result even cheaper.

If you want a reliable printer, look for one that just does one thing (all the multifunction printer/scanner/copier/fax/shredder/espresso stuff just adds more complications and things that can go wrong) and be prepared to spend extra for quality.

Or buy a laser printer – toner cartridges last way longer than ink cartridges, which flips the business model away from selling refills. Colour lasers are pricey, but a black and white laser printer can be reasonably inexpensive and is a better bet for reliability than an equivalent inkjet.

– noggin-scratcher

2.”Just save everything.”

I work in IT and the one technology I hate more than anything is printers – god f*cking d*mn it why cant people just save everything online, send them in emails and let us trash the bleeding things.

Join the paperless revolution now and yeet your printer out the window

– Bisqutz

3. “Paperless is not an option.”

I’m in IT too, Unfortunately paperless is not an option (yet) in the industry. Best solution is Lease, You save on time and money, Printers are managed offsite by the provider, The consumables are automatically ordered when needed and the printers can log they own tickets!

I saved my last company 1/3 the usual yearly spend in the first year. Now in a new place with 10 year old printers I’m trying to do the same, Why it’s a hard sell is way beyond me.

– drumanddrummer

4. (That’s over a thousand pounds of paper per month.)

Used to repair industrial copiers. You’d hate being IT for the railroad then.

Only place I ever serviced where it was when, not if one would break. They had 3 huge Monochrome printers for their Engineers and Conductors work orders. Things spat out 120K pages a month, each. Full service was needed every 2 months minimum. Then you had the fact that if it did jam, some idiot would stick their grease coated hand in, grab whatever they touched and rip it out.

I arrived once to find a fuser unit just chilling on top of the machine. Those are pretty hard to get out on the models they had even using tools.

Even I wished they’d go digital.

– McDicklesP1ckle

5. “Printer = inkjet?”

Every single thread about printers being sh*t is either about inkjets breaking or about cost of inkjet cartridges. Then comes a hero and suggests laser.

I wonder whether the word “printer” = “inkjet” for americans. Do most people just buy them dirt cheap, throw away and replace? Because in my limited 3rd world experience, laser cartridges are cherished, loved, refilled and refurbished till their last black breath. And most 8+ years laser printers can be repaired for cheap.

– TrueMinoshiro

6. “What the monopoly wanted.”

Walmart.

My father worked for Lexmark for most of his working life. According to him, the big box stores came along and dictated the price of goods. They told single-stream businesses like Lexmark that they would only sell printers that cost $50 or less.

As Walmart is roughly 30% of all sales of anything in the United States (at the time) you had to do what the monopoly wanted. So factories were exported overseas, R&D budgets were slashed, and the ‘we will have to make our profit off ink cartridges instead’ model was implemented.

So the printers had to be made a sh*tty and cheaply as possible in order to be allowed to sell them at all.

All his years at Lexmark turned him to hating capitalism and the unfree market.

Once a Chinese conglomerate offered to buy Lexmark, he was happy to take the contract buyout and leave early.

– Farmerssharkey

7. “It’s a workhorse.”

A few years ago I purchased an All-in-One HP laserjet printer – copy, scan, fax, and print, including automated double-sided printing. I have not had a single problem with it. It connects to my home network via wireless. It prints color as well as black and white.

The toner cartridges are expensive, but (a) print some huge number of pages, and (b) are stable for years. I read about a man who maintained computer equipment for a small firm that found 10yo cartridges for his printers that had been stored and forgotten, he put them in and they worked without a hitch. The toner cartridge technology has gotten perfected, even to the point of making them easy to install.

I don’t remember how many years I used this before I needed to replace the B&W cartridge. It’s a workhorse.

I just looked up the price of this, retail — it’s just under $500. You can buy an inkjet for a quarter of that, and the ink is much cheaper, but they dry out while you aren’t using them, I used to have annoyingly frequent trouble with mine jamming and smearing, the printouts smear if touched too soon after printing, and also if they get wet. None of this has been true with my laser printer.

I’m afraid you’ve been buying the wrong printers.

– arghvark

8. “Worse than glitter.”

Yeah I think about that often. We have VR glasses, hoverboards and Sophia the robot, but printing is still a huge pain in the *ss.

Even at work, it’s just such a pain. There is always something with it and this is coming from a graphic designer that has learned to fix printers.

Like ever had a broken toner cartridge explode in your face? Worse than glitter.

– Twirlingbarbie

9. “Never buy a printer.”

Pro tip: Never buy a printer, go to FedEx Kinkos and pay $1.50 for the once or twice a year you actually need to print something.

– trush44

10. “Ink is expensive.”

First off, ink is one of the most expensive liquids in the world.

Printers are there to sell ink, and basically nothing else. If you want to buy a printer that’s big enough for a small to medium office setting these days they almost always come with a subscription to a maintenance and ink refill program to make sure you continue buying the “correct” ink and do regular maintenance (aka spending money)… A lot of printers won’t even accept any cartridges other than the ones made specifically for that printer anymore.

But apparently that’s not enough, because they want you to also buy a new printer every few years, meaning the printer is made with incredibly cheap parts and lasts about 1/10th as long as it could. Planned obsolescence is far from an uncommon business practice, but the real problem is that every printing company is buying into the business model.

Is it possible to make a superior product that doesn’t break down as often? Is it possible to make a universal ink cartridge or even one that works across all [OG printing company]? Do even the printers at [OG printing company] break down all the time? The answer to all of these questions is “yes, but money is more important”.

The one place all the printing companies actually compete is in the large scale printing production market, any machine made for a large office or printing central company is made to last and costs a fortune.

– Lesbionical

11. “Cheaper to just buy a whole new printer.”

In college I would buy the cheapest printer that only printed (no scanning no fax) and when the cartridges that came with it ran out, it was cheaper to just buy a whole new printer than new ink cartridges

– PapaRed18

12. “Actual good software.”

If you’re an actual good software engineer, you don’t get a job designing software for a printer.

– Lobanium

13. “People treat copiers like trash.”

As a MFP repairman, I can tell you the 2 most common issues I see with printers.

A, most people treat the copiers like trash (using paper with the wrong settings, over working it, never having it pm’d, using crappy paper, running unauthorized objects like paper clips and sticky notes through the document feeder, skyshots, etc.), and wonder why it breaks down.

B, they go with the cheap option which either means the machine is 5-7 years old, not the right model for their workload, or is a HP.

– BloodNinja87

14. “Include a trigger warning.”

Please include a trigger warning for questions like this in the future.

Asking my dad this question started a 5 minute rant that I’m pretty sure will repeat itself in about 10 minutes.

– lantana88

15. “In spirit.”

All printers are from 2005 in spirit.

– malatropism

So, taken together, the solution to this enigma seems to be:

If you want a printer that doesn’t drive you insane, spend the money on a decent laser model instead of picking up the cheapest possible scam of an inkjet and expecting it to not destroy your marriage.

What’s your printer approach?

Tell us in the comments.

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Guys Admit What They’d Do if They Were Women for a Day

I’m a dude. And I have oft wondered what it would be like to be, say, not a dude. A woman, perchance.

My musings on this topic have ranged from how it might feel physically, to how much I would like it, to what my external treatment would change to, etc.

But this is the internet and there’s not a lot of space for nuance here, so let’s get to the weirdness.

If you were the opposite sex for a day, what would you do? from AskReddit

Here’s what some of my fellow men said they’d do given 24 hours as a woman. I’m sure they’re not gonna embarrass me at all. Let’s find out.

1. Off to a great start.

Play with my woman boobs for a day instead of my man boobs like normal.

– d*ck-nipples

2. Yeah, that’s the technical term.

I believe the appropriate response is: be a hoe.

But with my luck I’d be on my period.

– Sh*ttinwithmykitten

3. What the f*ck.

I’d probably end up in the hospital for sticking so much stuff up my vagina

– beerknowswhen

4. Ok, this is…cute?

Find out what the girls really do at sleep overs, it’s a mystery that has to be revealed

– Anon_nomy

5. A valid social experiment.

Male at the moment, so would become female.

Aside from all of the obvious sex things, I’d love to walk into a computer or gaming store, with the knowledge I have, and see if/how differently I’d be treated.

– Ratfor

6. And we’re back to weird Freaky Friday sequels.

Go on tinder and swipe right on lesbians, hopefully can have lesbian sex before my day up.

Would be awkward if my day was up mid sex

– oknh

7. Guys.

Poop so I could see if it’s true that women don’t poop

– watches_yousleep

8. Aw, this is actually kinda sweet!

Depends.

If my wife and I switched roles, I would just have sex with her so she understands my adoration for it with her.

– mountiemotorsports

9. Again, a valuable lesson I’m sure.

Assuming I’m a good looking lady go to a bar and see what it’s like to get a ton of unwanted attention.

– PoliticalNerd87

10. …Reddit, everyone.

I know many people will say this, but have sex with my best friend, but in this case not cuz he is a virgin, since he is not, but cuz even though he had sex, he never felt truly loved, his longest relationship lasted about 2 months. Since I support him and care for him, I would let him silly f*ck me, just saying.

Also, none of this is gay.

– CoffeeK_

11. Science, of course.

Get naked and touch every part of my body. For research purposes.

Cos when I revert I want to have a whole lot more intimate knowledge of female sexual responses.

– Duck_Kak

12. Ya’ll are really scared of this, huh?

Being the lucky piece of sh*t I am, I’d probably get a period

– EnderCorePL

13. I just…

I’d post my t*ts on reddit for karma.

My current tits don’t get much traction here.

– [User Deleted]

14. THE WHOLE TEAM?

Play with the new plumping, then go f*ck a soccer (football) team.

– Chrome_Armadillo

15. You’ve…you’ve already thought about this a lot.

am I hot/attractive? I’d drive to walmart, get a high quality camera and some bananas. then make some “asmr” videos. like 50 of them. 20 with my clothes on and 30 topless. and then maybe 10 more full frontal nude. just recording and storing the footage all day. if i can do more, i’ll do more. in different rooms so it looks like different days.

Then when I’m back to being a guy, I’d slowly release the videos on youtube and start a patreon and onlyfans. and then upload the nude ones to those sites. and i’d do this over the span of a few years, uploading each video once every month, sometimes twice a month. some months being skipped.

Then when I’m down to my last video, I tell people that I’m moving and need some funds to move to another state to get a ton of money from my simp army. Then when I get as much money as possible, I upload a video of my male self saying that she’s taking a break for mental health reasons and that she’ll be back. but she never comes back. and then I’d leave the donation stuff open for those who want to keep simping for no more content.

– MyStationIsAbandoned

Well. That was…enlightening. I’m gonna go see what women had to say about becoming men. I’m sure it’s…better?

What would you do if you swapped sexes for a day?

Tell us in the comments.

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Am I Wrong for Banning My Husband From the Bedroom?

Pal, it looks like you’ll be spending some time on Sofa City.

Hey, it happens sometimes, right?

And a woman wants to know if she’s wrong for making her husband sleep elsewhere on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

Let’s take a look at her story and see how people responded to it.

AITA For Barring My Husband From The Bedroom Tonight?

“So here is the situation.

Me: nurse. Working 50ish hours a week in pediatric ICU. Cry at least once a week because that sh*t is hard. My salary pays our bills. All of them.

Husband: 25M. Has a degree but isn’t looking for a job. Works 2 days a week at the grocery store. Spends most of his time playing LoL.

Btw all events here are in accordance with Covid Legislation.

Today was supposed to be A Good Day. I had been begging my husband to swap his Saturday shift to literally anything else so that we could have days off together. We haven’t had a weekend together since our wedding, 18mo ago.

Today was supposed to be our first Saturday off together. We were going to go to an animal sanctuary.

He starts the day by going to breakfast. With his best mate. Leaving before I even wake up. I wake up around 9 and realize he is not home. Call. He says he’s helping his mate set up some lights and that the weather is too rainy for the animal sanctuary anyway.

He gets home at 1 ish. Lies around. Plays some video games, promising we would cook dinner together tonight.

Leaves again at 5 to help the same mate with something else.

I go grocery shopping. I don’t drive because of medical issues, but I walk there and back in the rain. I get home, realize I’ve left my keys inside. Call husband, knowing he’s 5min away.

He says he will leave in a minute. I sit in the rain and the cold (southern hemisphere). 45 min later, I call again. He hasn’t left yet. He finally agrees to come and let me in the house, so he drives up, presses the clicker to let me in the garage and leaves again.

At 10, I I called to see where he is. His friend answers. Says he is driving out to do something an hour away.

It’s 10.30. I am going to bed. I have sent him a txt that I am upset and don’t want to speak to him tonight and would rather he left me alone.

As far as I am concerned, if he can’t value me more than his best mate on the first day off he and I have shared in a year and a half, he can go sleep in his bed instead. (Btw, his friend doesn’t work, so they hang out all the time when I am at work).

He is going to be upset. And he is gonna tell his mate and his mate is going to tell him I’m being a b*tch.

AITA

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

One person said she should ban him for longer than one night for his behavior.

Photo Credit: Reddit

Another Reddit user thinks that she might want to think about getting rid of the guy altogether…

Photo Credit: Reddit

Another individual said that she thinks the husband might have a side piece…something to think about…

Photo Credit: Reddit

And this person said the guy is really nothing more than a big kid that the woman has to take care of.

Photo Credit: Reddit

Do you think this woman stepped over the line or was this an acceptable response?

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