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Vet Explains Why It Bothers Him When Owners Aren’t There for Their Pet’s Final Moments

Owning a pet is a huge responsibilty. It starts with things like housebreaking, training, and bonding, and for a lot of people, being there to make sure they’re comfortable at the end is included in the list of things that must be done, no matter how hard.

My first dog died almost a year ago, and as he declined in age and health, one of my biggest fears was not being with him when he went. We were best friends for fifteen years; he didn’t trust or love or need anyone the way that he needed me. After everything, how could I leave him to face those final moments alone?

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Luckily (in that aspect, anyway) I was the one to recognize when he was ready to go and to take him to that final appointment. It was one of the hardest days of my life, but I am comforted to know that I didn’t let him down in the end.

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So, it’s hard for me to believe that there are people who love their pets but opt to leave them alone to die with their vet and staff instead of being in the room. My personal feelings are backed up by not one, but two different vets who have had posts go viral on the very topic – this one on Facebook…

And this one on Twitter.

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I don’t want to believe that 90% of people leave their pet to face their final moments alone, but if it’s true, maybe these vets – and the sweet owners who posted in response – will change some hearts and minds.

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Boost Your Toddler’s IQ Simply by Talking to Them

Toddlers are a fount of endless questions. They want to know everything about the world around them and you’ve got the answers. So, if you’re one of those parents with plenty of patience who is willing to answer any question they throw your way, then you’re doing them a great service by engaging with them. In fact, a recent study showed that talking to your toddler can boost their IQ.

But head’s up: the study showed the benefits came from holding actual conversations with your toddler, not merely speaking to them.

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The study, published in the journal for the American Academy of Pediatrics, was run by Jill Gilkerson. She and her team studied kids between the ages of 18 months and 2 years for six months, then brought them back to test their IQs and language skills when they were between the ages of 9-14. Gilkerson spoke with the Evening Standard about the results, which showed that toddlers who took more turns speaking when having conversations with an adult scored an average of 14-27% higher on IQ tests, verbal comprehension, and receptive and expressive vocabulary.

“Parents need to be aware of the importance of interacting with children who are very young and not necessarily even talking. The more interaction, the better.”

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Researchers also wrote that their study showed “early talk and interaction, particularly during the relatively narrow developmental window of 18-24 months of age, can be used to predict school-age language and cognitive outcomes.”

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The time in a child’s life the research focuses on – from a year and a half to two years of age, can be a challenging one for parents for so many reasons.

New siblings are often added, sleep issues abound, and there will certainly be days when the last thing that appeals to you is having a mostly one-sided conversation with your toddler about blocks or dogs or bubbles or poop (all favorites in my house!), but hopefully this study will encourage parents to remember that every little chat could help your child have a more positive experience years down the road.

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Use These 13+ Questions to Get to Know Someone Better

In this day and age, it’s easy to feel like we know everyone around us thanks to social media. But that can’t compare to getting to know someone through face-to-face interactions. So, what one question could help you get to know someone quicker?

Well, these 13+ people are here to weigh in with their advice – take it or leave it.

#15. The absolute truth.

“If you could ask the universe one question and get the absolute truth, what would you want to know?”

#14. A bit of humor never hurt anyone.

“Can I see your browsing history?”

#13. A more genuine answer.

“My boyfriend is an assistant manager at a bookstore. So when he is giving interviews for jobs, instead of asking someone what their favorite book is, he asks them what book did they hate. First of all no one ever expects that question, everyone is used being asked their favorites. So you get a more genuine answer instead of a scripted one. Also I think you can tell a lot from a person from what they dislike.”

#12. More interesting conversation.

“My hometown was small, but I enjoyed growing up there. How about you?”

Asking where they grew up and their experiences usually opens the door to a wider, more interesting conversation.”

#11. That told me a lot.

“When I was still dating my husband, I asked him: “If you could see one measurement or statistic over everyone’s heads, what would you want it to indicate?” And his answer was: “How happy they are.”

I feel like that told me a lot about the kind of person he is.”

#10. The dream…

“I ask about their dream vacation.”

#9. If you had the money…

“If you had the money to quit working, what would you spend tomorrow doing?”

#8. An intergalactic voyage.

“If you could take five non-replaceable personal artifacts on an intergalactic voyage, what would you take?”

#7. Quirky but fun. Also, don’t pick mine.

“What character do you use in Mario Kart?”

#6. Find their passion.

“What are you passionate about? I’m passionate about whiskey and distilling, but also about pushing others to find their passion.”

#5. What scares you?

“Maybe not the most important but definitely useful. I usually try to find out pretty early on if anything scares or weirds the person out. For example, I’d say something like “Man, I couldn’t get into (show) because I can’t stand seeing people bleed. It sucks when a little thing ruins the whole show for you.” They’ll usually respond with something like “Oh, right? I hated (other show) because I can’t handle creepy children! They just freak me out too much.” Then I mentally file that away for later so that I don’t decide on Creepy Children Attack 3 for our next movie night or outing. Nothing is an evening ruiner like putting on Moana when someone’s grandma just died or something.”

#4. Some drama.

“Ask them about their relationships with others in their lives (in general). If they say that everyone in their life is toxic and full of so much drama, then there is a good chance that they may come with some drama.”

#3. I love this question.

“How do you spend your time? I love this question because “what do you do” is so work-centric, and many people don’t work (whether their choice or not).”

#2. What would you regret?

“If you were to die tomorrow what would you regret not having told someone?”

#1. What would you choose?

“Once I read over there a ice breaking question: “If you have to choose between a well paid work in europe or going to mars, what would you choose?”

It seems a pretty stupid question, but if you focus in what questions the people ask back usually tells a lot of things. What they choose is not so important, but usually the people will start asking questions like:

But how dangerous is to go to mars?

Can I come back?

Can I have children and a family in mars?

Can I take my dog with me?

For how long is the work?

How much I will be making?

How many hours/days I have to work?

Its a good work? What I have to do?

And that questions tells a lof about if they are focused on family, on work, if they are adeventoruos, if they already have a life plan established and a lot of things – just try to read between the lines.”

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Poor People Share What They Think Would Shock Someone Who’s Never Been In Their Position

People like to say that it’s important to “walk a mile in another person’s shoes” to understand their position in life. Obviously, this is not meant to be taken literally, which is why it can be tough to fully grasp what other people are going through.

That’s why even a peek behind the curtain of what it’s like to live as a poor person can go a long way in encouraging kindness and grace, even if our true understanding is still lacking.

#15. Just to stay above water.

“The mental and emotional weight. It feels like you’re just going from crisis to crisis, expending all your effort just to stay above water, always knowing that something else is just around the corner, and it might be the big one that puts you down for good.

When I finally saved up enough to live on for a couple months, just the security that I could handle a crisis if needed was a huge load off my mind and significantly improved my happiness and mental health.”

#14. The embarrassment.

“The embarrassment of having to remove things from the belt at the cash register.”

#13. Another fee.

“It costs money to be poor. Don’t have enough in your bank account: get charged a fee. Can’t afford to pay rent on time: another fee.”

#12. A big part of it.

“I think hiding the embarrass that can be a big part of it. When your friends want to do things and you can either admit you’re poor, make an excuse to not go, or go and sit there and buy nothing.”

#11. The cheap stuff.

“Being told that you should invest in more expensive clothes and shoes because they last long than cheap stuff. I could barely afford the cheap stuff.”

#10. Take your pick.

“Picking what bill to pay based on what is about to be turned off.”

#9. The fear never goes away.

“Once you’ve been homeless, the fear of becoming homeless again never goes away. Stability, good credit, a little bit in savings will never be enough to soothe that gnawing stress that an injury or illness could land you there again.”

#8. No good option.

“Choosing between dinner and rent.”

#7. How hopeless it can seem.

“How hard it is to live week to week, and hope you have enough money to cover basic needs until your next payday.

How soul-crushing it can be when you realize do not have enough to make it to next payday, and you have to decide whether or not to get a cash/payday advance, even though you know that will be worse for you in the long run.

How hard it is to get out of it, and how hopeless it can seem. There is usually no end in sight.

How depressing it is, and how worthless it makes you feel, when you cannot make it and need to ask for help – and then have those who have never dealt with the same issue condemn you for needing it in the first place.”

#6. For months on end.

“Ignoring a reoccurring toothache for months on end…”

#5. It’s only a dollar.

“When someone says “It’s only a dollar” and you literally don’t even have a dollar in change bc that went into your gas tank.”

#4. Just enough to feed you.

“That it is impossible to save when you haven’t got enough. You can’t accumulate capital when everything you have is just enough to feed you (in the case of invisible poverty).”

#3. They still look so hungry.

“Giving the rest of your food to your sibling cause they still look so hungry and might start crying, which upsets your mother even more. Plus you are already in the euphoric stage.”

#2. Guarantees misery.

“Money does not buy happiness, but being too poor to eat some nights almost guarantees misery.”

#1. My feet still have problems.

“Wearing shoes that are too small. As a kid I got 2 pairs of shoes at the beginning of the school year. One for school, one for gym. Didn’t matter how much I grew, those were my shoes until the next September. My feet still have problems from this.”

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Why It Seems Impossible to Only Buy One Item at Target, According to an Expert

If you shop at Target then you are well familiar with the experience of stopping by to pick up one or two things, only to make it to the checkout with a cart full of items. What did I need these dumbbells and spray cheese for? Who knows…but they were on sale!

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Now, the experts interviewed by Refinery29 – including Tom Meyvis, a New York University marketing professor – are backing us up with some science.

According to Meyvis, the Target juju starts with the enticing layout.

“Stores have an idea about the path shoppers take. Walmart was once famous for doing things like putting Band-Aids next to fishing hooks and things like that. Something you don’t naturally associate, but once you see them there, it makes sense. So when people come in for something in one category, you can cross-sell, you can sell them something that compliments in the next product category by making sure they’re right next to each other.”

Basically, Target designs their stores to help you find – and buy – what you didn’t realize you actually needed when you came into the store. Or something. A fact that seems to be confirmed by Refinery29’s interview with Target’s VP of Store Design, Joe Perdew.

“We know that some guests want to grab a coffee at Starbucks and explore the aisles, so we’ve added features like dynamic product vignettes throughout the store that help guests envision how things will fit into their lives. …in Home, products are cross-merchandised and displayed in lifestyle settings, so guests can imagine what they’ll look like in their own homes.”

It’s the reason you don’t see just a chair. You see a chair with a cute throw pillow sitting next to an end table with a picture frame and a lamp that complements everything else perfectly.

The bottom line, though, is that the layout, design, and colors at Target are inviting – they make us happy, which makes us want to stay, and the longer we stay, the more things go into our cart. At least, that’s what Kentucky psychologist Dr. Kevin Chapman says.

“It’s really well lit at Target, right? There’s a lot of color at Target. It’s pretty consistent throughout the store and generally that’s going to make people feel happier.”

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No one loves forking over their cash, but the experts seem to agree that all of the store’s design and marketing makes it hard for us to resist doing just that, and to feel good while we do it. I’m not sure whether that’s supposed to make me feel better or worse, but one thing’s for sure – heading to Target seems to be a recipe for a happy day.

At least, until you get your bank statement.

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15 People Share The One Thing That Saved Them from Suicide

Mental illness and the mental health crises in the United States are reaching epidemic levels, but there are still stigmas and unfounded opinions that can halt progression – and getting people the help they need. If you’ve got someone in your life you’re worried about, or think you should be worried about – or if you’re worried about yourself – read through these 15 honest confessions.

You might realize that you, too, have something worth living for.

#15. Even if she has no idea.

“I tried to commit suicide this time roughly 2 years ago. I had taken all the pills in the vicinity and was ready to nap when I had a sudden anxiety thought of ‘if I die, I can’t take my niece to Disney on Ice!’ To this day she’s still my little saviour, even if she has no idea.”

#14. It might get better.

“I struggle with this at times. What I do is, I tell myself that I can always commit suicide later. I tell myself to just keep trying and see what happens. It might get better. (Spoiler: it always does.) But if it doesn’t, then I can kill myself, knowing I gave it my best try.

It’s still difficult to get through, yes. But realizing that I have a choice, that the choice is mine, to do it or not, and I’m making an active choice to stay alive and see what happens, helps a lot.”

#13. It’s slow but it’s good.

“I had May 19th as my suicide day. The long weekend. Always a lonely time for me. On the Monday leading up to that Saturday, a friend dropped by and found me in a bit of a state. Sitting on the floor in my ginch crying and surrounded by letters to people. He knows that I’ve always struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts. When he left, he called my Ma who came over. She called the cops who took me in to a secure psychiatric hospital. I stayed for a week and was inundated with therapists and Drs. Finally got a proper diagnosis and actually started taking meds. When I got out I vowed to never go back to who I’ve always been. I see a therapist often, have opened up to friends, family and my GP. It’s slow but it’s good. I wish you the best.”

#12. The painful choice.

“My husband saved my life. He had me involuntarily admitted to the hospital. I spent 9 days there and underwent treatment. I am now on medication for depression, anxiety and sleep. I also see a psychiatrist. This may not be for everyone but it helped me tremendously. If not for him and the painful choice he had to make, I would not be here.”

#11. Comfortable with living.

“I read an article that explored people who didn’t become successful until their 40s. It made me think that my life might still have some purpose. I was 22 then. I never tried killing myself again. I’d previously tried a couple of times.

It will sound cliche, but each time I feel like ending it I think of all the things I wouldn’t have done, seen, etc if I’d died at 22.

As someone else said, suicidal people never stop being suicidal. I’ve just become comfortable with living.”

#10. Meditation and Buddhism.

“Buddhism saved my life – well first it was drugs – but then it became meditation and Buddhism.”

#9. Gently.

“I started being nicer to myself. It feels fake and dumb at first. “Its okay I didnt do anything today. My soul is hurting. It’s okay to rest when you’re hurting.” Stuff like that. Then gently get yourself to do things. “Okay baby. Let’s brush our teeth. Dont have the energy? That’s okay. Just put your leg outside the bed. Okay. Can we stand up? Just for a second. Then we can go back to sleep if we want.” 9 times out of 10, I would end up doing the hard thing I didnt think I had enough energy to do. It’s all about baby steps and momentum.

The more I did, the better I felt. It’s really fucking hard. Especially in the beginning. But I went from being a NEET to travelling to the other side of the country and working/living in a National Park and meeting lots of cool people on the way. We’re more capable than we think we are.”

#8. Hurting her too.

“I suffer from depression and attempted suicide when I was 15. Stayed in a mental hospital for a week. Depression started back up again a year ago when I first started college and I started giving up on life. Got home for thanksgiving break and almost cried when i saw my dog. All she did was follow me around and wanted to sleep in my bed. Could never hurt myself because i’ll end up up hurting her too.”

#7. Talk to people.

“The suicide attempt of a good friend. I was close, real close. Then she tried to kill herself and I felt the gravity of the entire situation. All of us were devastated and she still hasn’t physically recovered from everything. She wasn’t able to dance ever since, which was somethibg she loved doing but… she got better. And then I knew I couldn’t. I couldn’t hurt the people around me so much and there is sometjing worth living. It got a lot worse first, bit I’m slowly getting better.

Honestly, just talk to people. They love you, they care for you, they don’t want to lose you. Cut out the one’s that are toxic and find yourself a second family. You wouldn’t want to hurt them, would you? Then don’t. Live for yourself, live for them. It will always get a lot worse before it gets better, but at a certain point, it’ll be worth it.”

#6. Be honest and easy.

“My dumbass couldn’t position the gun correctly and that is how I survived.

Loads of therapy helped me not try a second time.

Removing, getting rid off, and burning all toxic people in your life.

More therapy.

Being honest and easy with yourself.

Speaking out with close friends about your issues.”

#5. My brother called.

“My brother called me while I was driving around, looking for a place to park and shoot myself. He called me because he missed me and wanted to hang out that night. I went over to his place and basically broke down. Up until that moment, he didnt know about the depression and suicidal thoughts I’ve been having. Ever since I’ve been accepting his help, things have gotten a whole bunch easier. He helped me confront some unresolved things that I could not have done myself. Went a long way.”

#4. Come down and play.

“My 6 year old niece yelled upstairs to me to come down and play, while I had my gun in my mouth.

Kick anyone with a toxic or negative attitude out of your life. Then put people who truly love and appreciate you in that place.”

#3. Man’s best friend.

“I got a dog.”

#2. Professional help.

“I suffered from depression for many years before I got help. In high school it was just thoughts of, “what would really happen if I let my car drift into the other lane or if I drove into that tree?” but without any real plan or intent to take action. I kept on going, just journaling a lot and hiding my pain. I honestly didn’t understand that I was depressed. I just thought I was weak and needed to toughen up.

Then I went to college and in some ways it got better. I escaped my old environment and started over. However, the thing is, I couldn’t run away from my depression forever. It then got so much worse. I started actively planning how I wanted to kill myself, how to tell my family (note, not beforehand), and where to do it. The things that held me back: the pain I knew I would cause my family and knowing someone would have to find my body. I didn’t want to do that to my roommate (or a stranger) but also wanted to be comfortable. At this point it still never really crossed my mind that I should get help. Most people were entirely oblivious to what was going on inside and the couple people who did know I was unhappy had no clue as to the extent. I never told a single person about my suicidal thoughts. The thing was, I wanted to erase myself without impacting anyone at all. I wasn’t trying to get attention – far from it.

By the beginning of my senior year in college I would get physically ill leading up to having to head back to school. I had my first panic attack and finally went to go get help. Once I could breathe again, I went to my school’s counseling office and asked for an emergency appointment. That day was the day that broke me and made me see that I needed help. Once it wasn’t “just my brain,” (the panic attack) I realized that I wasn’t just weak, but that my body was failing me.

Day one, the day I broke down, started me spiraling. It was like something physically cracked. I couldn’t keep my emotions bottled up anymore. I sobbed and sobbed like never before. Prior to that day, none of my peers had seen me cry. I’ll never forget the concerned looks and the one gentleman who told me that I looked terrible. 😂 I lost my appetite and had a few saltines over the course of the next week. I really only ate because my therapist insisted I eat something. I stopped getting out of bed entirely unless it was to go to counseling.

The worst part of the experience was probably having to tell my parents. My therapist wanted me to start taking antidepressants and I knew that if I used my dad’s insurance, he might be informed. I called my parents and told them the short story. At first they were angry – I had hidden this part of my life from them (long story as to why I felt that I couldn’t talk to them) and they took it as me blaming them for the situation. In the end, it ended up being very positive. My parents became a lot kinder to me and I slowly regained some control over my life.

I still ended up having another panic attack, almost failed my senior year (shout out to the wonderful professors who worked with me to help me scrape out that year), and didn’t walk away happily ever after. However, I did talk out a lot of my past pain and realize things about myself.

My therapist said that, “depression is anger turned inwards.” At first I thought that was total garbage. I wasn’t angry. I was sad. And hurt. And lonely. And scared. Then I thought about it and she was at least a little right. I was angry. I was angry that I had lived so long with so much pain. I was angry that no one had helped me. I realized that it was unreasonable, but I still felt betrayed. I was angry that out of everyone I knew, and everyone who had taught me, no one saw what was going on or taught me about depression and what signs to look for. I thought I was just too weak and not that my brain chemistry was out of balance.

Today I am honestly happy. I’m not claiming things are perfect or that I haven’t had down times. In the end though, I no longer think of ending my life and I smile sincerely. If you are struggling, my advice is to talk to someone. At first I managed with just journaling. It was a way to stop from drowning in my feelings. However, I really only got better when I had a proper sounding board, one who could ask me the right questions and validate my feelings. That and get me on antidepressants. Part of my issue was definitely that my brain chemistry was not right. If you are thinking suicide, find a counselor. If it doesn’t help, try a different one. Feel free to message me if you want. Good luck. You can get through it.”

#1. What tomorrow brings.

“Oh I’ve tried. Numerous times. Never works though. I stopped one day when I had a thought. Why not see what happens next? Nothing’s matters any ways so why not see what tomorrow brings?

I don’t really have any advice because I still consider it multiple times a day, every day. Just, talk to someone. Any one. There are people who will find you fascinating if you’d only talk to them.”

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10 Parents Who Don’t Like Their Children Share Their Stories on Reddit

It’s not an easy topic to bring up. We’re supposed to like our kids, right? Well, these AskReddit users went on record and divulged their personal stories.

Hold on tight for this one.

1. Downward spiral

“My middle son (19) stole a 9mm pistol from my 82 year old father. When I confronted him about it he said I didn’t understand, he needed the money and if I had given him more he might not have done it. 2 months later got caught on video stealing the candy money jar from a Mexican restaurant, again says if I’d had given him money ( because he’s completely cut off at this point) wouldn’t have done it.

Downward spiral continues, he takes no responsibility for anything . He’s a selfish a–hole who won’t take care of his kids much less himself. I never thought I’d say this about my own child but F-CK THAT GUY.”

2. Stepkids

“Stepkids are really really really difficult. Sometimes I dislike mine, too. And sometimes I dislike my own kid. I love all of them and would tear the world in half if anyone tried to hurt them. But sometimes I just want to tell them to stop acting like sh-theads.My husband said it best when he described parenting as 95% misery and 5% bliss. That 5% keeps you going somehow.”

3. Disconnected

“It’s not that I dislike him, I just don’t feel connected. I wanted kids my whole life and then I had him and it feels like I’m waiting for his real mom to pick him up sometimes”

4. Not parent material?

“It’s not my son exactly, because I love him more than I can even express, but I think I dislike the act of being a parent.

I didn’t know how much I’d lose, how tired I would be, how other parents treat you.. I have to be positive all the time to keep him secure and happy even when I feel like death.”

5. Don’t like kids

“I realized it recently, in therapy.

It’s not really them, per se. I realized about myself that I dislike children, period. That said, the presence of my kids in my life 24/7 has led to a great deal of resentment under the surface that I am now finally in touch with, which means now I’m also trying to deal with the guilt of feeling this way about the people I brought into this world.

I want – desperately – to be able to get in my car and drive to Alaska back just because I can. But I can’t. I want to be able to have something called a “quiet weekend”, assuming there is such a thing. I want to have money in the bank, better prospects for career advancement, the ability to take a risk like starting my own business. But I can’t. I need the stable paycheck so that I can keep food on the table for the people in my house who took my wife away from me.

Meanwhile, my oldest is consistently lying to my face, my oldest two are constantly at war with each other over stupid sh-t, my third is special needs, I’ve got two in diapers, and this was all stuff that my wife and I walked into thinking it would be wonderful.

Worst of all: for her, it is wonderful, and that makes me the bad guy for having these feelings, since I’m obviously just being incredibly selfish.

You know what? She’s right. I do feel like the bad guy for having these feelings, and I do feel like I’m being selfish, but I can’t just snap my fingers and make these feelings go away.

I’m just hoping that one day, these children will grow up and get out of my house so I can have my wife back, assuming they don’t kill her first.”

6. Trapped

“I dont dislike my kids, but I really do hate the life i have. People say the kids don’t need to change your way of living. But they do. They really do. Everything gets more expensive, you can’t be spontaneous in the same way as before kids etc. There are so much things that are so much harder to do now and I feel so trapped and lonely.”

7. Nobody’s perfect

“I disliked my 19-year-old for a while. He lost his d-mned mind; lied to me and his mom (my ex-wife) repeatedly over everything, got married without telling us to some girl he was friends with on FB (at 19, mind you), cheated on his wife of a month, got another girl pregnant not a year later, and complained for the longest time that it was my ex-wife and I’s parenting that caused all this.

Now, I’m more than aware that we weren’t perfect parents, highlighted by our divorce a few years ago late into his teen years (16 years old), but that sure as sh-t doesn’t give him the right to be such a sh-tty person and treat others this way. These were only the highlight examples I gave, not even all the minor bullsh-t lies and shenanigans he was into. I totally get being angry with us but the amount of damage that he’s caused others really made me dislike him as a person.

At almost 21 he’s gotten his life a little more together this last year, finally getting a job, trying to take care of the girl he impregnated and take care of his divorce from his ‘wife’. It’s just rough… In about 4 months I’m going to be a grandparent and I don’t even know the girl he knocked up and he doesn’t think he’s going to stay with her (as a couple, not abandoning his child).

It’s really sullied the experience of finding out you’re going to be a grandparent. I’m not even mad that he’s young and doesn’t have his sh-t together, it’s all the lies and bullsh-t that his relationship(s) are predicated on and that he has no real reservations about hurting others (through lies, not physically) if it means getting his own way. He just has a long way to go in being a person I can actually respect. I love my son, I really really do, but I find that respecting him is something I just can’t really do right now. I hope this changes soon if only for his child to grow up in a stable environment.”

8. Lashing out

“My feelings changed the moment my (then 17 year old) daughter sucker punched me on side of my head during an argument about her cleaning her room.

I guess in my mind she did something taboo. You never, ever hit your mom…but she did. I love her but she broke my heart that day and I can’t seem to get over it.”

9. Personality disorder

“I have a 7 year old daughter. I think she has some kind of personality disorder. Some days she’s her normal loving, goofy self. Then there are other days where she is manipulative, mean, and hysterical. She says things to hurt you on purpose and will freak out if she doesn’t get her way, hurting herself in the process. But if I call her dad and FaceTime with him she stops on a dime and says I was lying and I hit her and don’t love her.

I didn’t even know a kid that young could lie like that. She does this to me, my husband, and her stepmom. Her dad honestly believes we are all lying when we say something is wrong. She’s been to 3 therapists and they all act like we’re crazy because she puts on a good act. It makes me sick sometimes that I am happy when she goes to her dads house. I have a 1 year old son with my husband and I don’t want her to do to him what she does to me or her other family members. I don’t know what to do 😞.”

10. A**hole

“After just having a massive fight with my 19 year old, I can honestly say that I am one of these parents.

I love him to death, I would die for him, but I dont like him too much. He is a narcassistic a**hole. I am hoping beyond hope he changes his ways or he is in for a rude awakening.”

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These 10+ People Got Epic Revenge on Those Who Did Them Wrong

When you feel you’ve been wronged, there’s only one thing to do. You gotta make it right…with sweet, sweet revenge.

Remind me never to mess with anyone on this list.

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Redditors Share Some of the Little Things That Make a Person More Attractive

We all find different qualities attractive, and sometimes it’s hard to put your finger on what exactly it is about someone that you can’t help but love.

It’s those little things that you find irresistible that make being in love so much fun. In this article, AskReddit users open up and share the small things they find extremely attractive in another person.

1. Caught in the act

“When they smile when they think no one is looking. Then you catch them.”

2. The little things

“Their mannerisms. I love watching the way people move and talk, just the little ways they do things. I’ve been attracted to a lot of people who aren’t entirely conventionally attractive, but there’s just something about the way that they move that is.”

3. Time to cut loose

“Goofy dance moves. When someone opens up on the dance floor and gives NO F***S about how they look. Love it!”

4. Pay attention

“Eye contact. Really its more than that. When she notices things about me, lets me know she is paying attention and likes what she sees.”

5. This is important

“I love it when my boyfriend sings loudly and poorly in the car with me.”

6. Animal lover

“Likes animals. I went home with this guy from the bar once and we were doing that weird thing where both of us know why I’m there but no one wants to make the first move. So he was giving me a tour of his house, and I’m pretending I’m all into architecture and shit. He showed me the back yard and explained that he’d just installed this big privacy fence. While he’s showing me this, an adorable cat comes bounding across the yard.

He explained that it was his neighbors cat but it likes to come visit him, so he had the fence installer build a cut out in the fence so the cat could come over any time he wanted. Long story short, I think my ovaries may have literally exploded.”

7. The hair is important

“When one side of a woman’s hair hangs in front of her face and she looks at me.”

8. Suddenly…

“Stubble! A guy I have absolutely no interest in can pop up one day with a couple of days worth of stubble and suddenly I find them attractive.”

9. Crinkle eyes

“When their eyes crinkle when they laugh. It makes the person instantly more attractive.”

10. Focus

“That look girls get when they’re super focused on something can be damn hot. And when you catch a glimpse of her eyes, they look like daggers and the moment something distracts them, they soften right back to normal. I love the little details.”

11. Motherly

“A caring woman. Like someone who has that motherly instinct and tries to take care of people. It honestly makes me feel warm inside.”

12. Imperfections

“Little ‘imperfections’ like a crooked nose or a scraggle tooth.”

13. Roasted

“Really weird but when a guy is making fun of me (but not in a mean way).

I have no idea why but a guy becomes instantly 10 times hotter when he starts roasting me. Maybe it’s because most guys only ever compliment the girls they are trying to get with & getting compliments make me act extremely awkward.”

14. Multi-lingual

“The number of languages they speak.”

15. Social butterfly

“Someone who isn’t afraid to be social. I didn’t realize it until I met my husband, who will talk to anyone. He isn’t afraid of any social situation and never shy’s away from a conversation with anyone. It’s the best.”

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15 People Reveal the One Personal Rule They Will Never Break

Whether you think of them regularly or not, we all have our own personal rules that we live by. We don’t break them ourselves, and we don’t like it when other people do, either. These things tend to be pretty personal though, so you may be surprised to learn what these 15 people would never consider throwing out the window!

#15. Feeling included.

“If im in a group of 3+ people, i will always talk to everyone. There’s usually always 1 person who is quiet because of some reason…maybe wasnt there for something we talked about or just cant find a way to contribute. I know that feeling all too well, just standing there with nothing to say feels awkward and uncomfortable. I dont want anyone to feel like how I used to. I know it doesn’t seem like much, but to that one person, it might’ve made their day feeling included.”

#14. It grosses me out.

“I can let my room get messy at times, but I always make sure that unfinished food and plates that had food on them are taken care of right away. It just grosses me out to leave that stuff around my room.

I also make sure to drink water after every meal and really, every drink I have that isn’t water.”

#13. Littering.

“I don’t litter.”

#12. Where I came from.

“Remember where I came from. 33 years ago I was a college failure with no job, no food, no money and no future. People helped me who didnt have to. I owe them to help others to pay back what they did for me. If I can help, I have to help.”

#11. Never make fun.

“Never make fun of somebodies weird laugh, as it could be the only time somebody is truly happy, and to take that away from somebody else is just unnecessary.”

#10. Kindness.

“Same rules I raise my sons by: 1. Kindness matters even if no one else will see it 2. Kindness will not always mean niceness. 3. Kindness starts with yourself, you cannot give what you do not have.”

#9. Neat and tidy.

“Keep a neat and tidy work space. I build cabinets and furniture for a living. Having your work space and tools in disarray can lead to mistakes easier than one might think.”

#8. Intentions.

“I never get angry at accidents or punish people for something they didn’t intend to happen.

Along the same lines, I don’t care who’s fault it is, I just want to know what happened and how it’s being fixed.”

#7. The toilet paper.

“always replace the toilet paper if you used the last of it

if you pee on the seat, clean it up

do your own dish

don’t litter”

#6. My good word.

“If you make a promise to someone make sure its one you can keep. If its something that might not happen I’ll say “I will do my best on this but I can’t promise anything.” I try very hard to keep my word good.”

#5. Say thank you.

“If someone does something well – I tell them / thank them. People are genuinely surprised when others take the time to give positive feedback.

Edit: Hey thanks everyone, glad you all liked my ‘rule.’ :)”

#4. The keys.

“Never lock the car door without my keys in my hand.”

#3. Even if I don’t feel like I need to.

“Always pee before going to bed. Even if I don’t feel like I need to.”

#2. Work at work.

“I walk into work leaving emotion at the door and walk out of work, leaving work at work.

Its easier said then done, but it allows for a great work life balance.

Edit: can’t believe how high this is! Going to try and answer some of the questions!”

#1. Don’t wear out your welcome.

“Never over stay your welcome. Always leave way before your welcome has expired.”

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