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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Not Giving Their Brother and His Wife Any Privacy

People sure can be pushy,  huh?

You give someone an inch and they take a mile, right?

Well, you just might feel that way after reading this person’s account of what’s going in with his brother and his wife in a place that seems a little bit too close for comfort.

Read on, friends, and we’ll see how Reddit users reacted to this story.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife any privacy?

“My brother lost his job along with all his savings several months ago, and soon after he asked me if it would be okay if he (28M) and his wife (30F) stayed with me until they could afford their own place again.

I hesitated at first, considering I only have a 1 bedroom apartment, but according to them they had ‘no other options’ so of course I invited them over and bought a blow-up mattress for the living room.

For the first month things were manageable, although admittedly cramped. Then my brother told me that sleeping on the mattress was giving him back pains, so he asked if he could buy a small double bed for the living room.

The living room is by far the biggest room I have, so I told him that would be fine as long as there was still room for my couch/TV/bookshelves. The living room is also connected to my kitchen in an open plan style, so I reminded my brother to leave walking space around the bed.

It’s now been 2+ months and things have gotten a lot worse. When they first moved in, I would still use the living room every day to unwind on the couch after work. Now whenever I go in, there’s a strange vibe like I’m intruding.

My brother and his wife are often sitting in bed together when I go in (I always knock) and stare at me pointedly until I leave. Sometimes when I sit down they will directly ask me for some ‘alone time’ and say they would like the room to themselves.

This came to a head yesterday when my sister-in-law messaged me with a ‘timetable’ she’d made of when it would be ‘a good time’ for me to use the living room. The timetable basically says that they will allow me into the room for an hour each evening, plus 20 minutes around mealtimes.

I basically shut her down instantly and told her there was no WAY I’d be following the timetable since in the end it’s my apartment. She sent me back a HUGE message with a dozen paragraphs about how my constant presence was ‘ruining’ her marriage with my brother and they feel like they have no privacy.

I tried to talk this over with my brother that night, but when I got home neither my brother/SIL were talking to me, so he’s clearly just as p*ssed.

Today an Amazon parcel arrived for my brother with a lock for the living room door, which I told him there’s ‘absolutely no way’ I will allow him to install. My brother says I’m ‘creepy’ for wanting constant access to where they sleep and he’s insisting on installing the lock anyway.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife their privacy?”

Hmmmm…let’s see what people had to say about this.

This Reddit user said that the man’s brother and wife might be gaslighting him and that they should probably get their own place ASAP.

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And this person made a very good point: this guy is doing them A FAVOR. And this is how he gets repaid…?

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Another person pointed out that they’re staying for free in a tight space, so what the hell is this guy supposed to do about it?

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Another person on Reddit pointed out that this guy has gone above and beyond the call of duty in this situation. And they said the couple should probably vacate the premises sooner than later.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Is this guy being a total weirdo or is he not doing anything wrong?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks in advance!

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Am I Wrong for Banning My Husband From the Bedroom?

Pal, it looks like you’ll be spending some time on Sofa City.

Hey, it happens sometimes, right?

And a woman wants to know if she’s wrong for making her husband sleep elsewhere on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

Let’s take a look at her story and see how people responded to it.

AITA For Barring My Husband From The Bedroom Tonight?

“So here is the situation.

Me: nurse. Working 50ish hours a week in pediatric ICU. Cry at least once a week because that sh*t is hard. My salary pays our bills. All of them.

Husband: 25M. Has a degree but isn’t looking for a job. Works 2 days a week at the grocery store. Spends most of his time playing LoL.

Btw all events here are in accordance with Covid Legislation.

Today was supposed to be A Good Day. I had been begging my husband to swap his Saturday shift to literally anything else so that we could have days off together. We haven’t had a weekend together since our wedding, 18mo ago.

Today was supposed to be our first Saturday off together. We were going to go to an animal sanctuary.

He starts the day by going to breakfast. With his best mate. Leaving before I even wake up. I wake up around 9 and realize he is not home. Call. He says he’s helping his mate set up some lights and that the weather is too rainy for the animal sanctuary anyway.

He gets home at 1 ish. Lies around. Plays some video games, promising we would cook dinner together tonight.

Leaves again at 5 to help the same mate with something else.

I go grocery shopping. I don’t drive because of medical issues, but I walk there and back in the rain. I get home, realize I’ve left my keys inside. Call husband, knowing he’s 5min away.

He says he will leave in a minute. I sit in the rain and the cold (southern hemisphere). 45 min later, I call again. He hasn’t left yet. He finally agrees to come and let me in the house, so he drives up, presses the clicker to let me in the garage and leaves again.

At 10, I I called to see where he is. His friend answers. Says he is driving out to do something an hour away.

It’s 10.30. I am going to bed. I have sent him a txt that I am upset and don’t want to speak to him tonight and would rather he left me alone.

As far as I am concerned, if he can’t value me more than his best mate on the first day off he and I have shared in a year and a half, he can go sleep in his bed instead. (Btw, his friend doesn’t work, so they hang out all the time when I am at work).

He is going to be upset. And he is gonna tell his mate and his mate is going to tell him I’m being a b*tch.

AITA

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

One person said she should ban him for longer than one night for his behavior.

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Another Reddit user thinks that she might want to think about getting rid of the guy altogether…

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Another individual said that she thinks the husband might have a side piece…something to think about…

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And this person said the guy is really nothing more than a big kid that the woman has to take care of.

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Do you think this woman stepped over the line or was this an acceptable response?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments.

We really appreciate it!

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Woman Asks if It’s Disrespectful for Not Wanting the Ring Her Fiancé Previously Gave to Someone Else

Let me say right off the bat that giving a woman an engagement ring that you already gave to someone else is not a great move.

I have a hard time believing that any woman out there would be really psyched about that…and that brings us to today’s story!

A woman shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page about an incident that set her off.

Here’s what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting a ring my fiancé already gave to another girl

“My now fiancé was engaged a couple years before we got together, and they broke up and she gave the ring back.

We’ve been together a few years and a few days ago, he proposed and I was super excited. The ring looked kinda familiar and when I asked him where it was from, he said it was the ring he gave to ex fiancé.

I immediately took it off and was like “I don’t want a ring you bought for someone else, it wasn’t meant for me.” He got upset and said it didn’t matter, because it’s not hers anymore it’s mine.

My family and friends are split in saying I’m the *sshole and I’m justified.

I don’t want him to spend a whole other thousand dollars on a ring for me, but I want a ring that was meant for me, not for someone else.

AITA?”

And the people of Reddit, as they like to do, weighed in with their thoughts.

This person got right to the point.

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This Reddit user said that she knew her husband would never do something like that and she let that fact be known loud and clear.

It’s bad juju!

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But this person came to the man’s defense and said he just made a mistake and that this incident is not worth breaking up over.

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Another person made a great point: rings don’t have to be pricey, but they have to be personal.

Preach!

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And this person called the guy’s move “tacky as hell.”

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But then another reader weighed in and said that the guy was not in the wrong and that both of them need to reevaluate the whole situation and not let a ring get in the way of their relationship.

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Okay, now we want to hear what YOU think about this situation.

In the comments, share your thoughts with us?

Is this woman an *sshole, or is she right on with her feelings?

Thanks in advance!

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This Woman Kicked Her Sister Out for Flirting With Her Husband. Was This the Wrong Move?

There’s nothing quite like a sibling rivalry, don’t you think?

And you’re about to hear a real doozy!

Call me old-fashioned, but I think there are unwritten rules when it comes to hitting on or trying to steal a sibling’s significant other. Do you agree?

A woman ended up kicking her sister out for flirting with her husband…

Things are really heating up on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” forum. Check out this story.

AITA for kicking my sister out because she tried flirting with my husband ?

“I(27F) have a little sister, Emily (20F). My husband (27M) and I have been together since our college days.

Back when we started dating, Emily, who was 13-14 then, seemed to have this little crush on my husband (then boyfriend). She would blush in his presence, stutter while talking to him etc; we assumed that the crush went away as she grew older and her behaviour indicated so.

My husband thinks of Emily as the little sister he never had, and treats her as such. We’ve not had much contact with Emily over the years, as we live in a different state at the other side of the country and she’s been busy with her schooling. Last week, my parents and Emily were visiting our house for my birthday weekend.

From the moment Emily arrived, she would not stop flirting with my husband. From excessively complimenting everything he did to proclaiming things like they would make a great pair etc etc. My husband looked very uncomfortable; and so did my parents. I don’t know how we got through the dinner.

After the evening was done, my husband asked me if there was something wrong with Emily and that why was she behaving like THAT? He said she made him very uncomfortable and asked me to talk to her.

So I found her alone, and tried telling her that it was fine if she had/has a crush but it’s never fine to make anyone uncomfortable. I told her that it would be nice if she kept her distance for the remaining two days they were here, since he was NOT okay with this behaviour.

She said she wasn’t being flirty or improper. I told her that she was indeed being inappropriate and it was very creepy that she would try to flirt with my husband.

She got very defensive and said that I was being insecure and I quote, “If I was really flirting with him, you wouldn’t stand a chance.” I lost it as this point and told her that she’s no longer welcome in our house and should f*ck off the first thing in the morning.

Emily and my parents left the very next day; even though my dad agreed that Emily’s behaviour, throughout the evening, was very inappropriate, and that she should apologize to my husband.

Mom thinks nothing of that sort happened and all three of us are being delusional and that it was a d*ck move to kick Emily, and by extension her, out of my house when they’d travelled all the way here.

AITA?”

Wow…

Well, as you know, people on Reddit LOVE to share their opinions. Let’s see what some of them had to say.

This person clearly didn’t think the woman was in the wrong.

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And this person made a great point about how gender plays into this whole situation.

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Another Reddit user pointed out that the little sister’s rude (and scandalous) comment shows what kind of a person she really is.

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A person argued that the little sister obviously has some issues and she refused to change her behavior even though she had been told that she made her brother-in-law uncomfortable.

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And then this person brought up an excellent point: maybe this woman should have told her sister to stop immediately instead of waiting for a while.

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And finally, another Reddit user said that since the younger sister is only 20-years-old, maybe this is a maturity problem and her sister needs to grow up and respect your household.

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Okay, friends, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, let us know what you think about this situation and if this woman was wrong for what she did to her sister.

We look forward to it!

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Guy Asks if He’s Wrong for Not Telling His Wife Her Underage Daughter Got Drunk

I always find it to be so interesting to see how moms and dads react so differently to underage drinking.

Some are completely mortified by it and act like the world might be ending, and others just seem to take it in stride and not let it ruin their day…or their year…

This story comes to us from Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page and it involves underage drinking and some secrets…

Let’s see what this guy had to say.

AITA for not telling my wife that I picked her daughter up drunk from a house party?

“I’m going to try to keep this short and simple.

I always tell my daughter and my stepdaughter if they’re ever in a situation that they need to get out of, just call me and I’ll drop whatever I’m doing and I will pick them up no questions asked no judgments made.

I let them know that I used to be a teenager once before, I told them everyone is entitled to make bad decisions every now and then. We’re only human and it’s a part of life.

Last weekend I got a call from my stepdaughter (17), she told me she snuck out of the house and went to a party and had too much to drink. She was scared of passing out at the party because there was people there she didn’t know.

I got there just in time, she was so drunk she couldn’t even walk. I had to pick her up and carry her to the car. I told her I was disappointed that she snuck out, but I also told her I was glad she made the right choice, the safe choice to have me pick her up.

I haven’t told my wife about it, because I don’t want to violate the deal I made with her. I want her to know that she can trust me. I just hope I’m making the right choice.”

Uh oh…sounds like a pretty sticky situation to me. Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say about this.

One person argued that the trust between the man and his stepdaughter should not be broken.

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Another reader responded with some very good advice about what the man should do next regarding his stepdaughter.

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And a woman who is also a mom offered up her thoughts about how she would have handled the situation.

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Another Reddit user talked about how keeping secrets is not a good thing…and it could lead to trouble.

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Lastly, this person did not agree with the others who responded and thinks that the man did indeed act like an *sshole in this situation.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Should he have filled his wife in about this situation, or kept her in the dark?

Sound off in the comments and let us know what you think!

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Guy Asks if He’s a Jerk for Yelling at His Wife Over Two Dollars

I want my two dollars!

Sorry, I had to do it.

But let’s move on.

This story appeared on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” forum. A man asked folks if he overreacted and if he should feel bad about blowing up at his wife over what on the surface was a measly two dollars, but was actually the culmination of a lot of issues.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA for yelling at my wife over $2?

“My wife (38F) and I (33M) have been married for 8 years. We have one child together (5M).

Some background that might be relevant: I work full time. She works about 15 hours a week. Our finances have always been separate. However, I pay all the bills and for all our “fun stuff,” as well as give her an allowance of $1,000 per month. In fact, she currently has almost three times as much money saved as I do.

The fight: We were out for a walk and I wanted to get a holiday drink from a coffee shop for us to share. My wife told me not to get it. She said she had a gift card, but only for a certain location. So I waited until we walked past that location. My wife then said she would go in to get it and we would meet at home. I left with our son.

When my wife got home I noticed she was drinking a plain coffee. I asked her where my drink was and she said there wasn’t enough money left on her card to get me the kind that I wanted. I admit I kind of blew up at her.

I asked her why she didn’t just let me buy the drink myself then? Or why not use some of the money I gave her. Or even just let me know she couldn’t get it. Honestly, it’s like a $2 difference.

I was actually so mad I had to leave the house. I’m currently at my sister’s place, just hanging out in the front yard (because COVID). I don’t know if I should go home and apologize for yelling or stay until I’ve truly calmed down

My wife always makes me feel like I’m overreacting but I feel genuinely hurt.”

Hmmmm, this sure is a tricky situation….

Let’s see what other folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person said that the man was not wrong and that he’s clearly been giving and giving and not getting much back in return.

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And this person went so far as to even call his situation “financial abuse”.

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And this Reddit user brought up a very good point: who would actually do what the man’s wife did to someone they love? It sure struck me as odd.

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This reader didn’t beat around the bush AT ALL.

Take a look.

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And this individual stated the obvious: that the incident with the coffee triggered the emotional reaction that had been a long time coming.

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Here’s another person who laid out the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

And I agree, a $1,000 monthly allowance is pretty wild.

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What do you think?

Is this guy a jerk or was he justified in the way he acted?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks a lot!

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Couples Share the Best Parts of Intimacy After Getting Married

In the book Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, Sheila Wray Gregoire says:

“Intimacy is about sharing something with your spouse that you don’t share with anybody else. It’s letting him in. It’s laughing together. And it’s also feeling that deep hunger for each other!”

But how long can that deep hunger for each other last? Conventional (some might say cynical) wisdom says that once you’re married, it’s just a downhill climb in true intimacy, or desire.

But if these thirteen real confessions from married folks are any indication, that’s far from the whole truth.

13. Too much of a good thing

What, are you like doing it on their laps at restaurants or something?

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12. Twenty five and still alive

Congratulations!

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11. The spice of life

It’s a pretty simple way to keep things fun.

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10. Get the message?

Nothing will make you feel like a teenager quite like that.

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9. Get your reps in

Four to six times? Dang, how?!

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8. One for the record books

Do you literally keep like a tab of them?

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7. Parking in cars with boys

Better be on the lookout for the mean old principal.

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6. Work it out

Now that’s some exercise we can all get behind.

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5. I get high

Ya’ll just keep going up, up, and away.

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4. Comfortable and rarin’ to go

It’s sort of the best of both worlds.

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3. Can’t wait

Traffic never feels so slow.

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2. Relieve the tension

Release the chill.

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1. Playing around

Just don’t let the neighborhood kids see you.

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Sounds like a wild ride, maybe marriage isn’t so mild after all!

Are you married? What’s your sex life been like?

Share if you dare in the comments.

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Women Talk About When They Knew They Wanted to Marry Their Husbands

Hey, there!

Today I met the boy I’m gonna marry…

Remember that song? It’s a good one! A golden oldie, if I do say so myself…

And we love it because it reminds folks about when they first knew that The One was really gonna be THE ONE.

Women on Buzzfeed talked about when they knew they were gonna marry their husbands.

Let’s take a look!

1. Comforting.

“A week after our first date, I got knocked over in a bike accident and ended up at the hospital with a broken neck and a fractured spine.

While visiting me in the hospital, he wasn’t allowed anywhere near my head, so since he couldn’t reach my hand, he held my foot the whole time instead.”

2. That’s nice.

“We were at brunch when a disabled vet came over and started a conversation with him about his motorcycle jacket.

My man had just gotten laid off, but he looked at his budget and bank app right there at the table to figure out where he could cut a corner to pay for that vet and his wife’s meals.

I almost cried.”

3. No walk of shame.

“I thought I was going to have to do the ‘walk of shame’ from his place at 6 a.m. one morning after we’d been out.

I was putting my dress back on when he got out of bed and put on jeans and a dress shirt to walk me home instead.”

4. First date.

“My (now) husband and I were on our first date, and we wandered into a café with a live band that was so loud we couldn’t hear each other at all.

Well, the music was really good, so rather than ignore me or suggest that we leave, he started texting me questions about my dreams, fears, and hopes for the future.”

5. The One.

“I found out I had cancer on our third date, and I found out a few months later that I probably couldn’t have kids.

I was crying during our car ride home when he took my hand and said, ‘We can always adopt.’”

6. A stand-up guy.

“We were supposed to have a fourth date when I called to tell him I couldn’t make it because my dad had just gone to the ER with metastatic colon cancer.

Well, he could tell in my voice how stressed I was about it, so he drove two hours to be with me at the hospital. And we had that fourth date in the hospital’s cafeteria.

We’ve been married for six years and have been through hell and back together. But we find new ways to love each other all the time.”

7. Animal lover.

“When I saw him chasing a random stray cat because he wanted to pet it.”

8. That came later.

“When we were chatting about amusement parks and he said, ‘I love…Universal Studios,’ and I realized that I thought he was going to say, ‘I love you,’ and that I wished he did.”

9. All about the soup.

“Neither of us likes soup. But we attend a lot of events that have soup courses.

So without a word, he’ll eat all his soup and quietly switch his finished bowl with my full bowl then eat mine, too.

Then he’ll whisper sweetly, ‘Good job eating your soup, hun!’”

10. Huey for the win!

“We had just moved in together, and I wanted to blast some Huey Lewis while washing my car, but my ex always made me feel silly for liking ’80s music, so I was embarrassed…

Well, I finally decided to just do it — and he looked at me and said, ‘Oh my god, I LOVE Huey! Are you playing ‘Hip to Be Square’?!’ I knew then that we were meant to be together.”

11. No problem.

“We were visiting his parents in the Bay Area, and just as we were leaving, his mom — who was very ill — asked him to cut her toenails.

Most men wouldn’t do that in front of a new girlfriend, but he just went into her bathroom, got the clippers, and cut her nails.

I knew that if he took care of her like that, he’d take great care of me. And he did.”

12. Authentic.

“My husband won my heart when he jokingly called me an *sshole on our first date.

I had been internet dating for a while, and first dates were usually stiff and felt like job interviews. So it was refreshing for someone to be authentic.

I felt like I knew him well as soon as I met him.”

13. That’s the good stuff!

“The first day I met him I noticed that the way he talked about the things he was passionate about was so moving.

His eyes lit up, and he smiled the whole time in a way that made my heart melt.”

14. Part of the family.

“My dad died a month ago at a routine hospital visit, and we had just signed the DNR when my husband walked into the waiting room and immediately took my mom into his arms.

That’s when I realized it isn’t just me he loves and cares for.”

Alright, folks, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us about when you knew that your partner was THE ONE.

Let’s get all lovey dovey!

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14 Wild Things Couples Really Fight About

There’s this weird phenomenon on Twitter where people share the funny little things they fight about with their significant others, and sometimes they’re so weird that you’re not sure whether to laugh or message them and ask if they’re ok.

Where’s the line for that?

Let’s see if we can find out with these tweets.

14. If you have to ask

This is what we in the business call a no win situation.

13. Once you pop…

It’s the little things you learn to cherish.

12. What a headache

I think I can see where the pain is coming from.

11. Team thingee

This is also my understanding of the hobby and I’m as disappointed as you are.

10. How boring

Now you’re ready to take on the final boss.

9. Communication is key

“But like, why can’t guys just talk about their feelings?”

8. Rice is nice

Are you opening a soup kitchen or?

7. Well that’s just grate

And once again, the cheese stands alone.

6. The sacred cloth

That is a napkin for the TABLE ONLY.

5. Give me some shade

Little did they know how much they’d miss this season the following year.

4. Nothing to sneeze at

“Oh what I don’t get to sneeze?”

3. Root for the home team!

Look man, I don’t know, I’m just going by jersey color.

2. When life gives you lemons

Hahahahaha (dude run.)

1. All you can eat

Of all the problems to have, this one doesn’t sound too bad.

Remember, if you’re actually fighting all the time about everything, that’s not quirky, that’s toxic.

What’s the silliest thing you and your S/O have fought about?

Tell us in the comments.

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