Things That Are Supposed to Be Hot, But Really Aren’t At All

You wanna try out some things that probably the internet convinced us would be hot, only to find out that they’re really difficult and disappointing and gross?

Then come with me to this Reddit thread…

What’s supposedly sexy but really isn’t? from AskReddit

Ah yeah. That’s right. This is gonna suck in all the wrong ways.

1. Using whipped cream in bed.

Stick away from whipped cream. Go for non-dairy. The milk products can give you a yeast infection. Cool whip is a better choice.

ETA: Apparently anything with sugar can give you an infection. Play safe y’all.

– Mrs-CMR

2. Doin’ it in a hot tub.

Putting it in while submerged shoves the water up in there and creates pressure which causes a lot of problems for her.

I know so many random things thanks to Dr. Sue….. That show was great.

– 0kokuryu0

3. Sessions that last for hours.

She gets very turned on when I don’t last as long as I would like to.

But she takes pride in the shortness of it all.

She would rather go for multiple short rounds than one long one

– dndascher

4. The banana thing.

Maybe this is just me but I don’t find it s**y when someone “suggestively” eats a phallic food item like sausage, bananas, popsicles, etc. It just looks silly.

Not to mention the fact that most people end up biting into those foods when they eat them, so if it’s supposed to be a stand-in for your d**k, it’s not an arousing thought.

– Omny87

5. Baby talk.

A friend of mine told me about going on a date with a woman and how it was going pretty well until they ended up having s** and she started doing all this cringey pursed-lips p**n actress stuff and ooohing in a baby doll voice.

His imitation was hilarious.

– monkeyhind

6. Big cosmetic surgery.

Huge lips, massively sharpened nose and face, breast or butt implants that could be used as a life raft.

Like, you look like some kind of uncanny valley s** doll monster instead of a human being.

– 4zero4error31

7. Super loud moaning.

like the fake p**nstar level moaning and above.

A guy (my neighbor) and a girl in my building are dating, and I constantly have to hear her near-screaming through the wall.

I don’t know how anyone can get off hearing that, it’s so annoying.

– Sunn_Flower_Jin

8. Increasingly unrealistic expectations.

Imagine being exposed to the kind of p**nography available today at the age that you were exposed to p**nography.

Unsettling stuff.

– frenchpotatoedip

9. Family connections.

I’ll talk about this here, but really it could also go in a post about “what do movies always get wrong”. It goes like this:

[Male character walks over to talk to attractive female character]

Man – ‘what’s your name’?

Woman – ‘(insert female name here)’.

Man [now slightly more interested] – ‘that was my mother’s name!’

I’m sorry, but I for one am NOT looking for a woman who shares the same name as my mother. In fact, for me that would be a bit of a turn off. Even if you were just looking for a one night stand, I don’t want to picture my mother when I’m with a woman in bed.

– Group_of_no_one

10. Those ahegao faces.

Plenty of people cross their eyes slightly when something hits just right, but it’s usually as their eyes roll back and close.

And yeah, a lot of us open our mouths when we’re getting into it (mostly because we’re breathing heavily), but sticking the tongue out? No thank you.

– anxiousthespian

11. American strip clubs.

Sooooo not s**y.

I did have a great experience at a club in Amsterdam though.

That club had a circular bar and both nude men and women would dance across it.

So interesting, just had to keep covering my beer…cause….pubes.

– Seattle_sucks

12. Feet.

I read on a different subreddit the other day that explained that the parts of the brain that correlate with genitals is very close to the one that correlate with feet.

Sometimes those areas get a little too close which causes the attraction.

Don’t know how accurate this is because I really have no desire to science this.

– -Four-Foxx-Sake-

13. Power dynamics.

I’m not into aggressive people at all, and I don’t think it’s “hot” when someone is always trying to wrestle you for some kind of imaginary control.

I know others get turned on by this, but it’s one of my bigger red flags.

– SiddharthaSuburbia

14. Making a big show of jealousy.

It can be insecurity in the relationship and/or themselves. For myself my partner was my first relationship and sometimes you think you want a romantic gesture and for love to be more movie-like, when in reality it’s not really what we were sold growing up (whether that’s from parents, media, etc).

Also if you’re bored, drama is fun. Shades of borderline personality tendencies. Also needing attention.

I didn’t have a relationship til I was 25, and I feel confident if I had in teenage or college years I would’ve been a h**la toxic partner.

– notnotaginger

15. Too much cologne/perfume.

I like equating it to how much attention a person thinks they deserve.

Too little and you don’t want any attention and it’s more for your own enjoyment.

Just enough and it’s for the people around you (or the people you want around you) to notice.

Too much and everyone in the rooms knows that you want to be the centre of attention.

– Tolvat

Welp, difficult to kill the mood any harder than that.

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June 7, 2021

Women Discuss the Nonsense They’re Still Expected to Put Up With

As a male, I have never once envied women. I know that some guys say they do, but I’ve never understood that. And the more I learn, the truer that is.

women, what is something that women experience and is seen as “normal” but is actually very wrong/shouldn’t be as accepted as it is? from AskWomen

Here are just a few of the awful impediments associated with womanhood, as laid out by the women of Reddit.

1. Downplaying how bad periods are.

I hate this, I was so used to thinking it was normal to feel horrible pain and I was being a baby, I remember several times I kept on with my plans although I felt like dying because I was taught I had to.

Turns out I have endometriosis and It makes me so mad.

– eatingcookiesallday

2. The s**pectations.

Feeling “expected” to have s** and having their pleasure being secondary.

I experienced this a lot when I was younger and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Like, I thought if I was kissing a guy “well, now I’m expected to have s** with him because he’s turned on. I guess I have to.” And also thinking that during s**, the end goal was really mostly about him.

It wasn’t until I was older than I realized how flawed it was for me to think that way and for men to have reinforced that thinking via their actions.

– GreenMountain85

3. “Boys will be boys.”

inappropriate behavior from men, especially from a young age.

If a boy hits a little girl he “just likes her”. That little boy grows up thinking there’s no repercussion for violence, and keeps hitting women.

The cycle just goes on.

– professional_joe

4. Restricted movement.

dressing little girls in a way that makes it difficult for them to move around. your four year old should not miss out on valuable play because she doesn’t want to mess up her clothes or hair. her appearance should be the last freaking thing on her mind.

it makes me so angry to see little girls having to sit on the sidelines while their brothers and male cousins play rambunctiously because their parents put them in a dress and expensive shoes. i hate the bulls**t propaganda that little girls “naturally” prefer playing quietly indoors and/or alone.

sure, it may be true for some little girls (just like it’s also true for some little boys), but you cannot tell me that socialisation doesn’t play a massive role in what kind of play children “naturally” prefer.

– [deleted user]

5. Mansplaining.

That condescending and infuriatingly arrogant tone that some men take on when explaining something (be it a hobby, some interesting fact, or the fundamentals of this and that) when their listener is a woman.

I understand that this may simply be done to impress rather than be irritating, but just knowing that they wouldn’t dare talk this way to male friend or colleague is…well, irritating.

– Marjory_SB

6. Degrading terminology.

Women being called “girls.” Whether it is conscious or not, it implies a lack of maturity and, therefore, deserved respect. Among countless other places I have heard this, I attempted to watch a season of The Bachelor (bad decision for many reasons) and I could not stand how often the women were called “girls.”

I couldn’t bring myself to check out The Bachelorette, but I suspect the men are never called “boys.”

– merrypoppin

7. “Why don’t you smile?”

When I was a kid, I usually cried when they insisted me to smile. I have millions of pictures of me crying, with watery eyes or looking really mad on family weddings.

There’s this one picture that I specifically remember my mother asking me to smile “cmon, show me some teeth!” And I literally just showing my teeth, no smile. What a brave little girl I was.

I started to smile by obligation later on, after my first job

– an_angry_kirby

8. Constant scrutiny.

The constant picking apart of women’s appearance by basically everyone and holding women to insane beauty standards.

Extensions, false lashes, makeup, drawn on eyebrows, contouring tricks to change your face, dye your hair, dress s**y, don’t dress too s**y, wax your privates, dye your hair, stay in shape, have a big butt, tiny waist, push up bras, get fake nails, on and on and freakin on.

– Snoo55011

9. Bizarre expectations.

I find it a bit insulting when you see a picture of a woman who is really pretty and you find out that she’s a top scientist or engineer or a doctor, something very prestigious, and a person says “ Wow, She’s pretty, I wasn’t expecting that!”

What, like are smart people usually butt ugly? pretty girls can’t be smart? Wtf! I feel like that’s really common and needs to end.

– itsrachyrach

10. Absorbing men’s dysfunction.

He was abused? She’ll talk him through the best therapy she can manage.

He was never taught how to (normal life skill here)? She’ll do it for him.

He’s too macho to take care of himself? She’ll nag him till he does, and she better be a good sport and laugh as she’s ridiculed for “being a nag”.

– plotthick

11. Harassment in the workplace.

Obviously harassment in ANY workplace is vile and wrong, but my aunt once told me to except to be flirted with, hit on, and harassed if I continued to work in kitchens/restaurants.

She said it was “just part of the territory” and that I needed to just “understand that that’s the environment.”

Excuse me? No. I don’t care what the environment is, women shouldn’t have to put up with harassment in the workplace.

– landw497

12. Not being listened to.

Seriously; I recently had a two-minute conversation with four of the men in my department (only woman there), and I had three of them in series each claim I was wrong about a different technical point, then immediately tell me the “correct” answer which was exactly what I had just told them.

I looked to the fourth man and asked him, “Did that just happen?” He agreed. Lots of pouty faces that day for being called on it in front of the boss.

– Arbiter_of_Balance

13. “The body count.”

I love s**. I need s**. If I met a guy I like (at least he’s hot, let’s put intelligence to the side).

I want him. I flirt with him. He wants me too. We f**k. I am happy. He is happy. We don’t want the relationship to go any further and maybe we even stop talking and never see each other again.

Who is seen as a slut? Me.

Who is seen as a hero? Him.

Wtf?

Even if it was me seducing him? Even if it was consent from both sides? Even though it was two people just wanting to f**k each other and nothing more?

I think to be a slut you have to sleep around with guys you don’t even like, and maybe when you regret your hookups, but it doesn’t belong to any gender. Guys can be sluts too. And I knew many that are, I mean, they f**k girls once and they say they didn’t even like them? They say they are ugly etc.

What the f**k?

– -acidlean-

14. “When a boy is mean to you, that means he likes you…”

JUST NO!!!

Anyone that truly loves you will not hurt you mentally, physically, or verbally. EVER!!! They tell you this s**t when you’re young to prepare your for a dirtbag husband in the future and some women never get the common sense to see that it’s actually a bully!

Ugh, this totally just grinds my gears!!!!!

– Chuck2025

15. Being treated like you’re frail.

When people won’t let you do things because you’re a woman or tell you to wait for or get your male partner to do that thing.

I know it might be put across, commonly, as a care or consideration, but it’s condescending, diminishing and a deprivation, at times.

– riverkaylee

We all need to do better.

What would you add to this list?

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June 7, 2021

Misogynistic Things That Women Have to Deal With All the Time

The older I get, the more amazed I am at the sheer depths of the nonsense women still have to put up with in this world.

And a little trip to Reddit sure isn’t helping things.

women, what is something that women experience and is seen as “normal” but is actually very wrong/shouldn’t be as accepted as it is? from AskWomen

Here’s just a small sampling – there’s plenty more where this came from.

1. Relaxing too much around guy friends being interpreted as a signal.

One time I thought I was just hanging out with a guy outside of work. When he picked me up in the parking lot of our job he had a rose in his hand. I had never even hinted that I was interested or that our hang out was a freaking date!!

The worst part is that he went in for a kiss later and I had to tell him I wasn’t interested. It was awkward.

– ohshizzit

2. Medical ignorance.

The way the medical community seems to approach childbirth.

I’ve watched documentaries etc (no kids myself) and what really struck me is how patronising everyone was to these women who are going through perhaps the worst pain of their life, and how things like LITERALLY CUTTING THEIR GENITALS are seen as no big deal.

In what situation would you ever be able to cut a penis and shrug it off as nothing?! Madness.

– AirStoned

3. The work expectations.

I know way too many women who think it’s normal to have to do most of the housework and childcare, plus the mental and emotional load of household management, even if they also have an outside job.

Also to manage their husbands as if they are children who can’t be expected to remember to make appointments or buy their own clothes or things for the children or holidays or take care of menial tasks without reminders and help.

– FranzLuciferdinand

4. The boundary push.

Men pushing boundaries without consent during s**. “Accidentally” putting it in the wrong hole. Strangling. Hitting. Abusive misogynistic language.

Pretty much every woman I know has had a man do these things out of nowhere towards them and they are supposed to accept it because it’s “kinky” or something.

And now it’s literally 15 years old girls who are dealing with this trauma because of p**n normalizing it as something boys are supposed to do to women, its completely disgusting.

– OrangeyPanda

5. Having to be polite to creepy men.

I had a guy who wouldn’t take “I’m married “ for an answer. I even showed him my ring. He stopped me in the parking lot right in front of my car and wouldn’t let me leave until I gave him two hugs and agreed to go on a date with him.

Then when I unlocked my car and tried to get in he opened the car door for me. I was terrified.

I’ve never been back to that Starbucks because I agreed to meet him there the next day at the same time.

– [deleted user]

6. Uninvited comments.

That people think they have the right to comment on how a women looks or what she is wearing.

There have been way too many times where someone feels they need to point out my “physical flaws” just because, ex. acne, dark circles under my eyes, body/ facial hair, too pale, etc.

– mermaid_with_pants

7. “Don’t say no.”

When I was growing up, a family member had a band that would play around the area and we’d try to make it every time.

I enjoyed dancing. I would dance with my cousins or family members or family friends my age.

However, I was told I couldn’t say no if someone asked me to dance and that it was rude. This included creepy old men.

I can’t tell you how many times throughout my preteens/teens I had to bear through a song with an old man pushed up against me telling me I was pretty.

– anavocadotornado

8. The constant danger.

I’m in the UK, I love running but I pretty much can’t train past a few months as when my fiancé is home at 4:30pm it’s dark, I can’t run on our old railway path when it’s dark!

It’s annoying but normal to me now, but for a man? Yep run on your own at 5pm no worries

– UnderstandingCheap57

9. Putting up with too much.

Tolerating partners who drain your energy, put you down, and don’t put in effort to your relationship and/or household because you believe what you should be doing is trying to fix them or figure out how to make them behave.

Relationships ARE work and conflict is bound to happen, but I see so many women doing all of the work all the time and blaming themselves when their men don’t get better.

– ohdearsweetlord

10. Pregnancy being treated like an illness.

I feel like if men had to go through childbirth there would be more medical advancements in the field.

Also, women’s childbirth injuries are often never treated seriously because the child is prioritized.

Many never fully recover.

– purplesky23

11. Dealing with manbabies.

Ladies it is not normal to be with someone who argues with you, never cleans up after himself and expects you to do all of the housework.

It is mind boggling to me the amount of time I see women dealing with lazy manbabies on Reddit who can’t be bothered to treat them with respect, be empathetic and understand and can empty the dishwasher and do the dishes and clean up.

– Csherman92

12. Emotional burdens.

Having to carry the emotional burdens of children more than men because we are the “sensitive” and “emotional” ones. Like please, men have just as many emotions as we do, yet women are expected to do all the emotional lifting when it comes to raising children, we are expected to handle the tantrums and soothe the crying of children.

Like no, how about the man shows his son how its okay to talk in a soft voice and let them cry in their lap, like yes please, more of that, thank you.

– prettyxxreckless

13. The image problem.

Women are over s**ualized in everyday life and in media. I remember playing video games as a kid and internalizing a lot of harmful ideas of what a woman should be because the thread of constant non stop s**ualization was everywhere. Even as a child I would be creeped on by predatory men.

When I went online, it seemed p**n was everywhere and the vast majority of it is so disgusting in its portrayal of women. We are fantasy material and our pleasure is secondary to men’s, for some reason in p**n we all must get off on being jackhammered and degraded. I don’t doubt some of that can be s**y to women in the right context (respectful safe BDSM) but how often do you see the man focusing on her after his orgasm and providing aftercare? Why is normalized that we are constantly expected to be s**ually appealing and have our entire gender portrayed so fanservice-y at all times… It’s exhausting!

– filthy_kasual

14. Let people like things.

There is NOTHING a woman can like without being made fun of (and this is especially bad for teenage girls).

I remember hearing this question for the first time and I genuinely couldn’t think of something that I would be able to like without someone mocking me

– tiredseoul

15. The intrusive pass.

In public spaces, when men put their hands on you so they can pass by. It’s common in clubs and bars, but happens elsewhere, too.

Funny thing is, a guy can’t get past you without putting his hands on your waist.

But, he can navigate a wall of men totally touch free. So creepy and intrusive …

– RasSass_01

Take all that with you, fellow dudes. We gotta do better.

What would you add to this list?

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June 3, 2021

These Half-Brothers Learned Sometimes the Money Just Isn’t Worth the Trouble

Money changes things between people, which is why things like inheritances can be tricky moments to navigate within family life.

This guy learned the hard way that his half-brothers cared more about a few thousand dollars than they did about their relationship or family ties, and that’s gotta sting.

When OP’s grandparents died, they set up an account that he would access when he turned 18. It was to share with any siblings of his mother and father.

When I (25f) was 3, my grandparents passed away. They set up a savings account in my name. The account was meant to be accessed by me when I was 21. At that point it contained just over 300k. My grandparents left me a letter saying they would like me to share the money fairly with any other “Smith-Jones” children, meaning my full siblings (dad’s a Smith, mum’s a Jones). By “fairly” they meant that they wanted me to assess the situation and judge for myself what was fair.

He never ended up having any siblings, but his father and eventual stepmother had two sons, OPs half-brothers.

He considers them his brothers, and so he decided the fair thing to do would be to split the money 3 ways.

I never had full siblings, but I have 2 half brothers, “Mack and Joe Smith”, who are dad and stepmum’s kids. Due to the specific wording my grandparents used, I legally never had to give Mack or Joe any money.

However, I see Mack and Joe as my brothers, and as the money came from our grandparents, I felt that the fairest thing would be to assign each of us 100k, so we all got an equal sized lump sum, and I figured that when Mack (the youngest) turned 21 and took his 100k, we could split any remaining money.

OP was the first to turn 18 and used the money to buy a house. Instead of borrowing an additional 30k he borrowed it from the fund, planning to pay it back (with some interest) but the time his youngest brother would come into his inheritance.

When I turned 21, dad suggested I buy a house with my 100k. I found a place I loved but it was 130k and I couldn’t get a mortgage, so dad said I should borrow 30k from the account. I did, figuring I could pay it back before my brothers turned 21, and I have been repaying it. The account should be at 208k right now, but due to me withdrawing and then repaying that money it’s at 195k, so I still owe 13k.

When the second brother realized there wasn’t as much in the account as there should have been, OP explained what happened and said the money would be there when their youngest brother received his share.

The brothers flipped, treating OP more like a lawyer or accountant than family.

Joe turned 21 recently, and as I was giving him his 100k, Joe noticed that there was less in the account than there should be. I explained and said I was going to put it all back before Mack (now 19) turns 21.

Joe told Mack and both boys said I stole from them and owed them the full 13k back plus 3 grand of interest that they felt they would have gotten, and they wanted it all paid by this summer, which gave me less than 6 months to bring the account up to 211k. I said I’d do it, but over 2 years as planned.

They threatened to sue, and so OP decided he was done – done being nice, done giving them money. He wasn’t legally required to, after all, so they reaped what they sowed.

The boys then wrote up a contract to that effect. I went to sign it, until I saw that it said 6 months to pay it all back. I wouldn’t sign as we agreed on 2 years. They said I should figure it out as they were entitled to that money and would be seeking legal advice. Later that day I got an email, clearly written by them, saying that they intend to sue me for the 16k, plus whatever is currently in the account, and additional “damages” and “emotional distress” on top of that.

At this point in time, I’d given Joe about 50k of his 100k, because he wanted it in installments. I responded that legally, they were never entitled to any of it, and given their attitudes, I’d say they’ve already received an amount I deem fair, so that 50k was all they were getting. I then got a barrage of texts, calls, and emails yelling at me for going back on our “deal”. I blocked them.

The boys didn’t take it well, trashing OP on social media and turning certain family members against him. Their father also supported their quest online, which is how another half-brother emerged from the woodwork.

They then took to social media, saying that I was trying to screw them out of their inheritance and rallying our extended family into harassing me over this, and it mostly worked as a lot of people messaged me. However, I got a message from this guy called “Chris Smith”. Chris said he was 27, and claimed to be my half brother.

I had never met him before, but he sent me photos of him as a kid with our dad, grandparents, and me. He showed me that he also had an account with 150k in it, and a scan of a letter from our grandparents, saying this money was meant to be shared fairly among dad’s illegitimate children. Chris also told me we have another half sibling, who is 18. He’d been looking for me for a while, but only found me when dad shared Joe’s post which had me tagged.

He had some money from their grandparents, too, but it was for any other illegitimate kids (and there was more than one), so the half-brothers didn’t qualify for that, either.

Oops.

We checked with a solicitor to make sure, and as the boys are legitimate, they aren’t entitled to anything in Chris’ illegitimate kid fund, and as they are my half siblings, they aren’t entitled to anything in my Smith-Jones kids fund, either. I sent the boys a letter formally telling them to back off, stop posting about me online, and enjoy the 50k because it’s all they’re getting. The day they received the letter, Chris got a PM from dad, asking if the boys can have some of Chris’ fund. Chris also said no, and told dad we’d met. I told Mack and Joe about Chris and our other half sibling, with Chris’ permission.

So it looks like my grandparents, knowing about Chris before they passed, set up 2 funds. One for the kids dad had with my mother, who was still his wife when they passed, and one for children born out of dad’s affairs, presumably to make sure no one tried to screw anyone else over out of hurt feelings.

Now the boys aren’t getting any more money and their parents marriage is probably over because all of the skeletons have been loosed from the closet.

I’m getting a lot of shit, but holding firm on my decision. The boys have realized that I won’t back down on this and it sounds like I’ve caused a schism at their house, as Joe has all the money and no intention of sharing so Mack is now feeling twice as screwed, plus stepmum apparently did not know about the other half siblings, or that my half sister was born after she and dad got married, and she’s made dad move into a hotel.

It sounds like dad is looking for a long term living arrangement outside of the family home, because it looks like she is not letting him move back in. Dad is begging me to reconsider, but honestly I’m done with all of them except Chris and my sister.

So… what did the internet think? Plenty!

Some were really feeling this story.

Image Credit: Reddit

And some really think these folks got their justice.

Image Credit: Reddit

Actually, everybody thought they got what was coming to them.

Image Credit: Reddit

This is a cautionary tale, y’all, against being greedy and against being a jerk to family over money.

Even if they’d managed to get what they wanted, they still would have lost something more valuable than money.

Don’t be like these kids, y’all.

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June 3, 2021

13 People Discuss What Folks Say Is Bad For You but Is Actually Good

This promises to be an interesting discussion, don’t you think?

Because if we’ve learned one thing in the age of social media, it’s that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has an opinion about pretty much EVERYTHING.

Y’all ready for this?

AskReddit users discussed what people say is bad for you but they think is actually good.

Let’s take a look.

1. In moderation.

“Fat, as in in food products.

You still shouldn’t just gorge yourself on fattening foods, but our bodies can process regular fat in food. What it can’t process is the insane amounts of sugar that’s in practically everything, which is what makes people fat.

Your body doesn’t know what to do with it, so it just stores it away as the blubber we all cry about.”

2. The good stuff!

“Coffee, as long as you’re not packing it with a s**tload of sugar and cream and as long as you don’t have the genetic variant which causes your body to metabolize caffeine poorly.

There’s even been some robust meta-analyses on the subject.”

3. Only avoid it if…

“Gluten.

People give it up thinking it makes you fat, but actually, gluten free food has more fat in it. It’s just a protein, people.

The only people who should avoid it are people who have celiac disease.”

4. Gaming.

“Playing video games.

A lot of people seem to think that video games are a waste of time and cause violent tendencies, yet this is completely wrong. Video games are actually good for both children and adults. They help improve reflexes, hand-eye coordination, improve your memory, improves focus, and other benefits as well.

While too many video games can cause bad habits and lead to adverse effects, in moderation they are good for you.”

5. Get out of it.

“Quitting a toxic relationship.

Not all but some people stay in a toxic relationship thinking that it’s the right thing to do and it might help their partner to change. No.

Leaving is actually good for the both of you.”

6. Sober is good.

“Not drinking.

People for some reason assume you can’t have fun without al**hol but me and my friends have always preferred having a chill reunion and talking over partying.

I thought a**ohol was supposed to be generally a toxic substance but apparently not drinking automatically makes you a degenerate hermit where I live.”

7. Just go easy on it.

“Cheese.

I mean you don’t want to eat an entire block but if you shred an ounce or so over your salad or put some over your roasted vegetables it’s still good for you so long as you aren’t lactose intolerant or your doctor hasn’t told you to not eat it for some reason.

It makes vegetables more palatable and it’s a good source of calcium. It’s not completely negating the effects of eating healthy like I’ve seen some people claim, just don’t over do it and stick to the serving size since it’s a high calorie food group.”

8. MSG.

“Monosodium Glutamate (MSG/Ajinomoto)

Maybe you can’t technically say “good for you” but it’s a lot better for you than too much salt and you only need a fraction of the amount vs salt for the same amount of flavor.

The negativity associated with MSG is rooted in racism.”

9. Some people need to do it.

“Divorce.

It’s definitely stigmatized, but it is a really good thing. Sorry, I didn’t know my ex-husband would become a raging al**holic that refused to get help.

Things were good when we got married, he always liked to drink, but he wasn’t downing a fifth every day like he was at the end. I tried to help him, but he refused any treatment or therapy.

No one deserves to just have to suffer and live with that. I am very happy I got divorced, and have never regretted it.”

10. Give it a shot.

“Fasting.

A lot of people think it is bad for the body meanwhile there are a lot of proof that it has a lot of advantages for the body.”

11. Crack away!

“Cracking your bones.

It doesn’t cause arthritis like widely speculated and it’s just the release of gases from joints.

Chiropractors are actually great to see as they can treat back pain, migraines, whiplash and other conditions.”

12. Here we go again.

“Carbs!!

Carbs do not make you fat. Fat does not make you fat. Sugar does not make you fat.

Eating more calories than you use, day after day will make you fat. Doesn’t matter what the hell you eat.”

13. Builds character.

“Having your feelings hurt.

Obviously not on a constant 24/7 basis, but getting your feelings hurt helps you in the long run because you’ll be able to handle it better down the line, ideally.

If you’re constantly coddled and no one ever upsets you, then you step out into the real world with a very, VERY warped perspective.

And the first time you inevitably do not get respected the way you feel you deserve, you throw a childish tantrum even though you’re almost in your forties.”

Now we want to hear from you.

Tell us some more things people think are bad for us but are actually good.

Do it in the comments, please!

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June 3, 2021

What’s the Biggest Scam You Ever Fell For? People Shared Their Stories.

It always breaks my heart when I hear about people (particularly older ones) who get bilked out of all their money because they fell for a scam.

And it also makes me want to find the people responsible for those scams so I could have a few words with them.

Bottom line: there are a ton of scammers out there doing everything they can to try to separate you from your money.

What’s the biggest scam you ever fell for?

AskReddit users admitted their shame.

1. That’s too bad.

“There was a company advertising that they would help people wipe out predatory student loans.

Long story short I blew $800 on a company that got shut down by the Gov’t for fraudulent practices and was denied a refund.”

2. Talkspace.

“Spent $250 on Talkspace (got $200 back because I demanded a redund).

They (their therapists) waste a week of your time to reply once and reply with a canned response of, “oh that sounds stressful, how is your sleep schedule?”

I cannot stress enough how much of a waste of time and money that s**t was.”

3. Bummer.

“These people called me with one of HMRC numbers telling me I didn’t pay some taxes, saying they sent lots of letters to my old address to which I never responded.

I didn’t know they could make me see the number they wanted. After a quick check on the government website I saw that the number was the same and I believed them. I was 20 years old and living in London on my own.

I gave them 1000£ and never felt so stupid in my life.”

4. Could have been worse.

“Not too bad I lost 35 bucks. I fell for those stores on Instagram.

I was just getting on it so I didn’t know most were scam stores. Because I followed some small retailers that I already bought from.

I thought it was the same thing. Website was or looked legit but I never got my boots.

Smart too because I got it from them because they were 15 bucks cheaper. Not some crazy amount that made you question it.

Luckily I paid with PayPal. It could’ve been worse if they had my credit card information.”

5. Ugh.

“My former best friend and his dad cheated me out of my money to invest in their company.

When I asked for a contract, his dad said, “Between true friends, words aren’t necessary.”

When they started making money, I asked for my money back, and they said they didn’t owe me a thing.”

6. Scammed!

“There was a company advertising that they would help people wipe out predatory student loans.

Long story short, I blew $800 on a company that got shut down by the government for fraudulent practices and was denied a refund.”

7. Oh, no.

“Right after my dad died I got a call from a number I didn’t know.

They left a voice mail saying they needed my social security number so they could pay out a life insurance policy to me. I was 21 and super inexperienced with stuff like this. So I did what any real adult would do. I asked my mom for advice.

She told me it was legit and to give them my SS number. I had a weird feeling about it but if my mom said it was ok then it must be ok. I did it. I called back and gave the guy that answered my SS number.

I never got a check but my mom suddenly did from a policy my dad “forgot” to take her off of even though they had been divorced years before.

She did give my 10k but I’m 100% positive it was worth way more and she had something to do with it all. We don’t talk anymore for various reasons including this one.”

8. VIP.

“I went to buy a Rolling Stones ticket from a scalper years ago (i know, i know) and he talked me into a VIP Backstage Pass. He said that’s all I need!

Free food, booze, all the perks. He insisted the sticker was all I needed to get in, no paper ticket necessary.

So a few hours later I go to the show, obviously can’t get in – it was a VIP pass from the night before. There was no date on it, just a different shape.

I try every single gate hoping someone won’t notice/not care and finally try the media entrance. The nice lady ushered me right in, I took an elevator up to the main concourse and I was free as a bird. I didn’t have a seat obviously but I snuck down to the floor and ended up having a great show.

Still feel burned by the stupid f**k to this day though. I’ve seen him at other shows (nice neck tattoo of a fish, you fu**in’ pr**k) and I always f**k with him.”

9. Felt like an idiot.

“It happened while I was at work in a grocery store (no longer working there for unrelated reasons). Overworked, stressed out of my mind, and probably had some form of sleep deprivation going on at the time.

Answered a customer service call for Western Union during a very busy time and had a severe lapse in judgement that resulted in me doing a transaction over the phone (the biggest thing they drill into our heads NOT to do).

I thankfully didn’t get any further (only one transaction went through rather than several) before things clicked and I hung up on them horrified. Reported it asap for damage control and spent the next few days praying that I wouldn’t lose my job for it (transaction over the phone = fire-able offense).

Thankfully, since I didn’t have a problematic work history my boss was able to save my job with the only caveats being retraining and a note being on file for at least a year. Huge self-esteem and mental health loss though, felt like a gigantic idiot for months afterwards.”

10. A hassle.

“I was in Rome walking around when a guy came up to me and handed me a rose saying it was a gift. I took it, and then he demanded money.

I refused to pay, and tried to give it back (should have just placed it on the floor). Long story short, my friend saw me from across the plaza arguing and came over.

The guy wouldn’t leave me alone, so my friend paid him off. I felt so bad.”

11. Phishing.

“An email something like:

“You’re paypal has been accessed from an unknown source, click here to update your password.”

It looked official and asked for me to login to update my password. When I realized the website didn’t allow me to view my profile I panicked. I then spent the day taking the nessassary precautions.

Lesson, always go to the website yourself and don’t click links in emails.”

Have you ever been scammed before?

If so, please tell us all about it in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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June 3, 2021

What Do Folks Think Is Bad For You but It’s Actually Good? Here’s What People Said.

It’s kind of funny how trends catch on and everyone seems to get really into them…and then a little while later, most people wise up and realize that maybe that thing wasn’t so great, after all…

Life is weird.

What do people think is bad for us that is actually good?

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. We all fail.

“Failure.

I used to get punished for failure as a kid. Bad grades? Punished. Made any kind of mistake? Punished.

This is a horrible way to raise a kid because instead of learning to try until you succeed, or ask for help when you can’t succeed without it, they lie and cover up failure to avoid punishment.”

2. Gotta face it.

“Feeling painful emotions instead of distracting yourself from them.

Yeah, it’s not good to face them all of the time, but ignoring them all of the time isn’t really good either.”

3. It’s necessary sometimes.

“Quitting or knowing when to quit.

This one, 10/10. I just quit a job that shattered my mental and physical health. It was the competitive, well-paying “dream job” that I wanted more than anything when I was just starting out in my field.

Left it all behind for complete uncertainty, but an uncertain future is better than a certain and miserable future. As scary as it was (and is), quitting was the best and bravest thing I’ve ever done.

Not sure where I’m heading, but I know what I’m choosing to leave behind, and I know I don’t want to go back in that direction–and that’s a good enough start. Take care of your current selves and take care of your future selves, quitting can be an act of courage.”

4. Let it all out.

“Crying.

It’s very healthy and a natural reaction to emotions but people think it makes them weak and vulnerable.”

5. We all need it.

“Alone time.

I’ve had countless times when I found myself alone and wanted to do so.

It is perfect when you need to reflect on yourself and your life and find some answers.”

6. A good thing.

“Going to the Psychologist.

Fortunately, many people are starting to open their minds to it.”

7. Release.

“S** and mast**bation.

You can avoid a lot of health issues by doing those.

It also helps a lot with depression and anxiety as it releases a lot of endorphine and dopamine.”

8. Works for some people.

“Being single.

Not being attached/responsible for other human lives gives you the ultimate freedom to risk it all and do what you actually want.”

9. Bring on the salt.

“Salt/sodium

It’s one of the most common electrolytes that people consume, and in the case of those with iodine-deficiency, iodized salt is a safe effect way to supplement iodine into your diet, and prevent goiter. Salt often gets vilified, because it can, but not necessarily will, elevate your blood pressure.

Electrolytes are necessary for the electrochemical processes in your body to operate. Not enough electrolytes can cause organ, nerve, and metabolic dysfunction, leading to coma, seizure, and cardiac arrest.

The misconception is that salt causes high blood pressure/hypertension, which is false. A possible effect of consuming salt is a temporary elevation of blood pressure.

Doctors recommended following a low-sodium/salt diet, if you already have hypertension or if you’ve undergone heart surgery, because they don’t want you to risk increasing stress on an already stressed heart, or unnecessarily stressing a recovering heart.”

10. Time to relax.

“Not being busy. Not constantly hustling or trying to do it all.

Not living for the weekend.

Down time can be a good thing.”

11. Take it easy.

“Not sanitizing everything.

If you sanitize every surface you touch, it destroys your immune system, as well as causing issues due to the chemicals used to sanitize things.

Just wash your hands, counters, and other surfaces when they’re dirty, or after sickness.

Use normal soap, and it’s all good.”

12. Gotta have a balance.

“Taking a break from exercise every now and then to focus on my mental health.

Being mentally fit is more important to me than being a gym fiend.”

What do you think?

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June 3, 2021

People Talk About Things That Are Considered Wholesome but Are Actually Toxic

I’m gonna go ahead and just say it…

No, I don’t have children, but I think people who use their children as tools and pawns on social media to get likes and try to become “influencers” are honestly kind of sick.

But a lot of people out there think it’s wholesome and cute…and that’s just plain weird to me.

AskReddit users talked about what is considered wholesome but are actually toxic.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Not healthy for them.

“Unfortunately, many people do think that feeding their pets on demand is loving them.

The rationale tends to be that depriving pets of food at any given time is neglecting or abusing them.

One of my aunts thought this way with her previous pup and had a significant wake-up call when said dog’s vet told her that he had weight issues and other concerns once he reached his middle years because she was overfeeding him.

She was, understandably, upset and has since realized the value of scheduled feedings.”

2. Totally toxic.

“Kids having lemonade stands to pay for cancer treatment, etc.

Any of those stories about children working to pay for a family member’s medical costs, pay off their friends’ school lunch debt, etc. is absolutely NOT wholesome.

That is not something a child should have to worry about.”

3. Gross.

“As a former homeless person, I can’t put into words how annoying the people who film themselves handing out food for a viral video with some emotional pop song overlaid on it are.

It’s 100% “look at me, look how cool and HELPFUL I am” while honestly not giving a real d**n about the homeless.

It’d be one thing if you’re putting your fame and money back into funding a shelter, or true change and volunteering and charity efforts but not just dropping $20 on some McDonalds meals to drive around LA filming strangers sleeping on the street for a bit.”

4. Outdated.

“Dating advice that includes relentlessly pursuing a woman who has made it clear that she doesn’t like you.

Lot of the blame for this is old rom coms that basically show that stalking a woman will always end up with love.”

5. Stressful for animals.

“Every so often I’ll see a ‘cute wildlife’ photo that is very obviously staged, probably to the stress of the animal/s in question.

It’s absolutely fu**ed up, but because people keep sharing them on social media, some a**holes out there will keep on essentially torturing animals just so we can go ‘Awww!’.””

6. Run for it!

“”We’re all just one big family!”

If anyone tells you this in a workplace setting, run.

They’re only like a family in the sense of the most toxic parts of one that exploit you.”

7. Not always a good thing.

“Supporting someone no matter what choices they make.

You can love someone to the ends of the earth, that doesn’t mean they will 100% be right all of the time, no matter how much you love or admire them.”

8. Can it!

““Good Vibes Only” postings.

Let people experience real emotions, Sarah, not insta-perfect emulations of surfer chill.”

9. Very weird.

“Proposing in front of a crowd.

Puts a lot of pressure on the person being proposed to.”

10. People can be upset.

“Toxic positivity.

Like when someone’s having a really hard time and you tell them to stay positive or try to look at the bright side.”

11. Sad state of affairs.

“School fundraisers.

If the government can’t give schools enough funds, then everything is wrong.”

12. Agreed!

“The general idea our society and culture have of “relationship goals”.

Not being able to eat/sleep/think/function without your partner is not healthy.

Being obsessed with your partner is not healthy.

Looking to your partner to complete you or make you feel whole is not healthy.

Changing who you are for your partner is not healthy.

Looking to your partner as the person who is responsible for your happiness is not healthy.

Being two people, supporting each other’s goals and individuality is healthy.”

13. Annoying.

“When people who are super spiritual and love love love all the time judge and ridicule you for not being in a good mood or for needing space.

“You’re ruining the vibe” “this isn’t a hostile environment”- gaslighting is wrong and these people do it ALL THE TIME! I call them “the love police”.”

What do you think about this?

Let us know in the comments.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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June 3, 2021

Deaf People Open Up About What Their Inner Voices Are Like

If you’ve never experienced it, how would you know?

That can apply to many things in life, but I’ve often wondered what deaf people “hear” in their heads.

Inner dialogue? Silence? I really have no idea.

But that’s about to change.

Let’s hear what deaf people had to say about this on AskReddit.

1. Thinking in sign language.

“My mom is profoundly deaf and I asked her this same question (totally not a stupid question!)

She said she thinks in ASL.

I have caught her signing to herself just like I sometimes talk to myself.”

2. Imaginary world.

“For the first 5 years of my life i was technically deaf.

I couldn’t hear anything.

I remember thinking by closing my eyes and imagining the thing I wanted to think. So I would close my eyes and see my own imaginary world.

I can still do it but only in complete silence. It’s a trait I will forever hold but I’m not mad at it.

It can be very helpful in some situations!”

3. The inner voice.

“I can hear my own voice in my head, or the version of it that I hear, but the inner voice thing only happens when I am thinking about conversation or actively thinking about that voice.

Most of my thoughts are images or words and ideas without a voice attached.”

4. Reimagining images.

“Before I got surgery for my cochlear implant/before learning ASL, I don’t exactly recall knowing about any “mental functionalities” like using a thinking voice.

Most of my mental uses were re-imagining images in visual thoughts (if I wanted a hotdog, I’d visualize a hotdog). Besides that, my dreams were like silent films (and 95% still often are silent even after my surgery to help me hear).

After that and being able to hear for some years, at some point, I developed an “inner voice” which just… doesn’t have any clear vocal sound to it? Yet, at the same time, kind… of… does? Kinda weird/hard to explain.

It’s a jump between “muffled ‘speaking’ sound as I think” and “hollow echoes” for my normal thinking voice, and when I read fiction with characters, for those who have pre-set voiced I re-imagine them in my head as to how they would act it out and it would ‘sound’ just like the tone I’d hear from the media they’re from.

For the stories that aren’t adapted into any audio format, I make them up in my head and try to make them sound distinct if I felt like it, haha.

My friends (non-CI) have told me they either don’t mentally see/”hear” anything at all and have no idea the concept I’m trying to explain or they visualize floating hands signing to them in their mind space. I don’t think in the latter at all, except when there are signs I’m trying to remember/reference.”

5. Deep and high pitches.

“Naturally we can’t even describe what it sounds like as we don’t really understand sound in the way you do.

Maybe the basics like deep and high pitches but the difference between notes or octaves are something only understood through theory (i.e. reading about them).

We don’t understand what makes a singer good but we for sure know how to tell if it’s a good beat (provided it’s loud enough to feel).

As such, speaking for myself here – my inner voice is more literally like thinking. A mixture of instinctual understanding and the words that describe the meaning I want to express.

I am a writer so words are quite colorful to me. They convey a myriad of imagination. I also am a philosopher so I admire and observe closely the metaphysics at play here.

Words can occasionally come out in English as it is best expressed through English. Some come out as sign language as there are sayings that only make sense in sign language. It’s a blend of both as well as the raw emotional output that form my thoughts.

Also, there is the silence in between the thoughts. Depends on how much you pay attention I suppose.”

6. Raised in a hearing world.

“Was born profoundly deaf. Wore hearing aids from 6 months old and replaced it with a cochlear implant at 15. I only have one, don’t hear out of the other ear unless I opt to get another one for bilateral hearing. I was never taught how to sign.

I was raised in a hearing world. People don’t even realize I’m deaf most of the time until they see the implant. I’m a bit of an outlier I guess. I’m not involved in the deaf community though I do have a couple of deaf friends who both talk and sign.

My voice sounds a lot cooler in my head than what it really is, probably the same for most people.”

7. How you’re raised.

“Deaf profound here, did surgery on right ear at 2, later left ear at 14 or so, I have inner voice whole time.

Never ASL, I learned basic of ASL in high school. So not surprised, consider I started hearing sound when very young. Its a good question.

I supposed its related to how we was raised, if we was raise ddoing ASL, then we might ASL in our head, otherwise it’s a voice.”

8. Interesting.

“Born profoundly deaf here. Used hearing aids for the first 20 or so years of life, and also used American Sign Language.

Since I was able to use hearing aids and get a general idea of what words and phrases sound like, my inner voice speaks. However, when I dream- it’s a combination of both spoken language and ASL.

Sometimes my dreams are even subtitled! Growing up watching tv with the captions and subtitles on all the time had an effect I guess.”

9. Thinking in ASL.

“I’m profoundly deaf, grew up with deaf parents.

ASL is my first language, “mother hands” lol. Anyway, I noticed that I often think either in ASL or written English. Sometimes English words have no ASL signs for some English words, basically untranslatable so I often think in English words if no ASL sign are available.

Sometimes it’s more abstract. But very often it’s ASL in my mind. I also have an inner voice where I sometimes have a conversation with myself in ASL.”

10. Adapted.

“I asked my niece this.

She said she had an inner voice but it was more a feeling than a voice. She described it as feeling the vibrations from loud music.

When she had her surgery, and she heard voices for the first time, her inner voice.”

We’d like to hear from more deaf people.

If this means you, please tell us what your inner voice sounds like.

Talk to us in the comments, thanks!

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June 3, 2021

Let’s Clear Up Some Misconceptions About Chickens, Eggs, And Honey

There are a lot of misconceptions about farming, buying local, what it means to support the healthy production of animal byproducts that in no way harms animals, et al. Many vegans make the life choice not to eat any animal byproduct, even things like honey – when bees make more than they need and are not at all bothered if we take some away.

This thread is clearly motivated by someone promoting supporting local farmers, but it also has a lot of good facts in it – so if that’s your jam, you’re going to love it!

It points out first that if you refuse to eat things like eggs that you know are sourced ethically, you’re really doing nothing but hurting the animals you’re intending to help.

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Someone, though, tried to argue (without any facts on their side).

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Which led to some serious knowledge being dropped – from an actual beekeeper – about how the practice of growing and protecting hives works.

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In truth, beekeepers do more to sustain the honeybee population than they would dream of doing to harm it, and without them, the species would likely be much worse off.

Down with misinformation!

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While what the arguer said about chicken farming and egg production is true, she’s missing the point – that supporting local, ethical farms is one way to stand against factory farming and unethical practices

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Like beekeepers, farmers do everything they can to make sure they’re treating their hens (and their eggs) well.

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There’s no real conspiracy here.

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There you have it!

If you’ve been avoiding foods like eggs and honey thinking that you’re helping poor, abused animals, it sounds like it’s time to think again.

Spread the truth, my friends!

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