When Did Your Gut Feeling Turn Out To Be Right? People Responded.

Trust your gut. Always.

If you only listen to one piece of advice in your life, I think that’s one of the better ones to take seriously.

And we’re about to hear some good stories about why it’s important.

AskReddit users talked about when their gut feelings turned out to be accurate.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Scary.

“When I was pregnant for the first time, something just felt off. I knew from the very beginning it wasn’t going to end well.

A few weeks later, I started cramping and spotting, which can be normal in early pregnancy. I ended up going to the ER. They couldn’t find any evidence of a pregnancy in my uterus and decided it was a missed miscarriage, and wanted to send me home. But, that gut feeling that something was very wrong was still there, and ai listened to it.

I demanded that I be seen by my OB who was head of obstetrics at that hospital and wouldn’t leave until he saw me. He had me in emergency surgery 4 hours after he came to examine me to remove my ruptured fallopian tube and stop the internal bleeding. Had I not listened to my gut, I’d be d**d.”

2. Bad driver.

“Was driving, got an odd feeling about this car behind me.

No telltale signs, the lady wasn’t texting or anything. So I moved lanes and got a car ahead of her.

Rear ended that car promptly at the next light.”

3. Looking for you.

“I had this random friend I’d just met kind of a weird dude, no real family so once he met my group of friends he just kind of followed us everywhere. He was one of those people who just had a bullseye for bullies on him.

I was living in the hood in LA, we’re walking over an overpass and a car full of cholos slowly passes us, eyes on us. As soon as the car passes my friend was like let’s hide under this bridge, we book it hide in the dark under the bridge and just a few seconds later the car full of cholos slowly drives down where they assumed we were going to be walking.

We can see them looking everywhere cruising slowly, wondering where we were. As soon as they left the street we booked it back to my house staying in the shadows until we were safe.”

4. A set up.

“Twice, while delivering pizza to shady neighborhoods. Things didn’t look right, I trusted my instincts and booked.

Both times, no one ever called back to ask about their food never arriving. That’s all the proof I need.”

5. That’s history right there.

“When I was a kid, I was doing my first ever deep clean of my bedroom getting rid of old clothes and toys and such.

While cleaning out my closet, I found an old picture cut out from the local newspaper of Lyndon Johnson visiting my parent’s home town. The picture was taken outside with some locals in the background. I was going to throw the picture away, but suddenly got the strongest feeling not to do it, so I set it aside. Later I showed it to my mom and asked her about it. She freaked out and showed my grandma, who also freaked out.

Turns out one of the locals in the background of the picture was my grandpa. He d**d when my mom was 12. That picture was one of only a handful we had of him. I had never seen a picture of him before this. I was so glad I didn’t throw that clipping away.”

6. On the road.

“Driving in Pittsburgh.

I stop at a red light. Hill goes up on my left, downhill on my right. Poor visibility to the left.

The light turns green, but my brain tells me “Hey bud wait a sec.”

I think this is a little weird, but I don’t go yet.

A millisecond later, a massive navy blue F-350 comes barreling downhill through the intersection from my left, blowing past the red light at about 45, then trundles down the hill.

If I’d have gone, I would have been destroyed by 3 tons of Ford truck, for sure. Instead I trusted the Spider-sense.”

7. Creepers.

“I stopped at Home Depot to pick up an item so I knew it was going to be a quick trip. I’m in the store and notice I’m pretty much the only girl in there besides employees. I couldn’t find what I was looking for and had to ask multiple employees before I found it.

I check out and as I’m heading out to my car I notice a shady dude standing against a tree on one side of my car. On the other side of my car is another shady guy sticking his arm outside of his car window. When I walked out they both turned and stared at me.

My heart dropped, I started to feel queasy, and my mind instantly knew to turn around and go inside. I stood there shaking at the front of the store until I could get the courage to ask an employee to walk me to my car.

As soon as they saw me walking out with an employee, the guy standing by the tree walked around my car and into the drivers side of the car parked next to me. To this day I swear I was a short walk away from being kidnapped.”

8. Overwhelming dread.

“Used to work in the ER. Had a man come in with ripping chest pain that started not but 30 minutes prior after he moved something heavy at his office. I knew he was going to d** just by looking at him. Massive overwhelming dread just seemed to engulf me.

I did his EKG and I hoped something would be wrong with it so we could get him a bed. His EKG was perfect. Not 5 minutes later he went into cardiac arrest on our waiting room floor. After running the code for 45 minutes, he didn’t make it. He had a massive aortic dissection. There wasn’t much hope.

This was almost 3 years ago and I’ve seen more s**t since then, but the memory is still burned in my mind, and it hurts knowing I was the last person to speak to him.”

9. Sketchy.

“I was 18 and and I was walking home from a friend’s house at 2 am in the middle of the summer. He only lived 6 blocks away.

I was about halfway home when a pickup truck drives by with 2 guys in the cab and 2 in the bed. I immediately felt like I was in danger. I saw the truck turn the corner, and I dove over some hedges in the closest yard I could find. I hid under them.

I saw the truck come back around the corner and slowly drive down the street. When it got to where I was hiding, I heard one of the guys say, “Where did he go?” and another respond that he didn’t know. They kept driving, and I didn’t see them again.

I stayed hidden for a good 15 minutes before getting up and running the rest of the way home.

I’m certain they would have jumped me if they found me.”

10. Glad you interfered.

“I had been living and working in Korea, and one day I was coming up out of a subway station and saw a man talking to another foreign woman.

She had that polite, frozen smile on her face – the why-is-this-guy-talking-to-me smile. I walked up to her, linked my arm with hers, and said “Hey, Sarah! There you are! Are you ready to go?” And just started walking. The guy followed us, but I sped up, and made an abrupt turn into a coffee shop. We hid, and I saw him walk past, still looking for her.

We ended up getting coffee and chatting for a bit, and I found out that he had followed her off the train, and had been getting increasingly aggressive for the last ten minutes. I don’t know what might have happened, but I’m really glad I interfered!!”

11. Wow.

“Helped a victim of human trafficking get to a shelter.

I was a medical student at the time (now a resident) and the city my school was in is a hub for human trafficking. I noticed a patient in the ER who had a pretty bad injury to her face was with a sketchy looking guy who was not related to her.

She wasn’t my patient, but I brought my gut feeling up to her doctor who then made up some excuse to talk to the patient alone and got her to help. I never talked to her myself, but I couldn’t shake the vibe I got from looking at her and the man she was with.”

12. Settling the score.

“There are a bunch of bars right next to my university here where I live. At the start and the end of the semester everybody, thousands of students, start gathering around the street where most bars are located and just parties all night.

On one of these occasions, in 2019, it was the end of the semester. I had just got there a bit late because I was working on the lab at the uni and the moment I got there something just didn’t feel right. The people there, how they were acting, how they were moving, how they were talking. Something felt different in the air.

We were crossing through the giant group of people since we were looking for my girlfriend at the time and the people who we were expecting to meet there. I froze in place and, I can’t really explain why to this day, but I just felt something really bad was about to happen and my friend noticed how I was too atentive and kind of in panic. He snapped me out of it and I told him that we needed to find everyone and leave that place.

For my surprise he just agreed. I think he noticed something was wrong with me and probably just went for it so I could calm down.

My girlfriend and our friends didn’t take long to find and they were confused because I was acting so erratic and I was kind of having a panic attack. But they eventually followed me out of the crowd and right as we were out of the “bar area” we started hearing a bunch of g**shots and people started screaming. Shortly after the police was rushing into the area.

What happened was that some gang members decided to use the party to settle some score, probably hoping the crowd would help them get out unoticed. 5 people were ki**ed and 3 injured that day. The police apparently caught them but I’m not sure about that part. After that those periodical parties at this street were never the same. Way less people and now they don’t even close the streets anymore because its not that big of a crowd. Who would have thought.

To this day my friends like telling this story about how I “saved their lives” and, on rare occasions, someone asks me if I knew about the gang fight that was going to happen or something like that.

I honestly don’t know what triggered me that day. But myself and the people with me are really glad it did. I think I might have caught view of a g** while crossing the crowd and didn’t conciously notice it but kicked some sense of danger on me.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us your stories about when you trusted your gut in a good way.

Please and thank you!

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People Talk About What They Think Everyone Should Experience in Their Lives

Everyone has their own opinions about what they think everyone needs to experience in their lives.

Sky diving? Stargazing? Visiting another country? Swimming with dolphins? Getting married?

The possibilities are endless!

What should everyone experience in their lives?

People on AskReddit offered their opinions. Let’s take a look.

1. Yes!

“Work in fast food

Not because it gives you some experience with fast paced, low wage, horribly managed fun.

But it gives you the sense that this happens to everyone in retail or fast food. Be nice to the person behind the counter because you’ve been in their shoes before.”

2. Go see some stuff!

“Travel. Even if it’s within your own state.

Because if it’s bad, you’ll appreciate your home so much more. If it’s good, you will broaden your horizons and take home a bit of inspiration.

Either way, it’s important to see how other people live in order to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around you, and your perspective.”

3. PAIN.

“Significant physical pain.

Some people don’t seem to understand how pain can reshape your entire world, your view of yourself, and how you think/react.

I lived with chronic pain for years (femoral head ground away most of what was left of my hip socket) and I know I was a very different person then.”

4. Changes your perspective.

“Knowing someone with a disability.

My life completely changed when I became disabled, and it introduced me to some amazing disabled people.

You learn a lot about empathy and just how creative and ingenious people can be. You also see how cruel people can be.”

5. The great outdoors.

“Camping.

Even if you are a fussy clean freak who loves a five star hotel, there is a simplicity of life that everyone should experience.

I love it so much.”

6. Try it out.

“Therapy!

Even if you don’t think you need it, if you have access to it you 100% should take advantage and go.

It’s just a good way to get to know yourself and what you want. I wish it was free for everyone.”

7. That’ll teach you.

“A week taking care of a baby and a toddler.

Just so people can see how it really is. I work with a lot of people who were shocked at how much work it is. Which is fine. But parental regret is a real thing.

I think people would be more cautious about birth control if they knew or had experience.”

8. Heartbreak.

“Complete and total heartbreak.

Nothing makes you get your s**t together & become a more rounded person like someone you thought you’d spend your life with up & leaving.”

9. Time to move on.

“Moving away.

Narrow world views are some serious progress ki**ers for yourself and for the human species as a whole. Stop making excuses. Move out of your hometown.

You might be extremely surprised at how much is out there if you just let go and leave!”

10. Desperate times.

“Real hunger, real desperation.

I grew up very poor but got a scholarship to a ritzy school for college and a large portion of my classmates had literally never worked or struggled for anything in their lives. They’d never been dependent on another person’s kindness for their continued existence, and it showed in their absolute absence of empathy.

These were the kinds of college kids who call the cops if they see a homeless person going through a dumpster on campus. It was jarring to me how much basic human compassion they were missing.

They’ve never experienced real hunger so of course they don’t understand digging in the trash for a meal. Being rich literally strips your humanity away as far as I can tell- there was a reason I transferred out and it wasn’t the price of tuition.”

11. There you go.

“Three things:

Crippling Poverty.

Service industry employment.

One solid beatdown.”

12. Trippin’.

“I think a comfortable dose of psilocybin in a safe setting would do wonders for a lot of people.

Lose a little ego, appreciate nature much more, and just experience a sense of connection and bliss.”

13. Good learning experience.

“Own a small business. Everyone should do it.

Nothing has FULLY had me understand my finances like that.”

14. All the emotions.

“We should all experience joy, happiness and love. Unconditional love.

Maybe this is an unpopular opinion, but also heartbreak, sadness and all other bittersweet emotions.

Actually scratch that, we should experience all the emotions we can!”

15. Glorious!

“Unfiltered nature, in all her glory:

-A trip to the beach to smell the salty air…to feel some fine, soft beach sand between your toes…to have a seagull steal your food and then take a massive s**t on your shoulder…

-A trip to the mountains to feel the exhilarating crisp pine air enter your lungs…to find a quiet stream to relax by…to hear a growl somewhere nearby, and to skin your knees on the trail back to your car because you tripped over a rock looking behind to make sure that whatever growled isn’t following you…

-A trip to the desert to witness that life, indeed, (uh) does find a way…to witness the most glorious colors at sunrise an sunset, to balance off the somewhat boring shades of brown…to get stung by a scorpion as you awe over the immaculate horizons…

Nature. Experience it!”

What do YOU think everyone should experience in their lives?

Let us know what you think!

Talk to us in the comments!

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Person Asks if They Were Wrong to Let Their Mother’s Hospital Bills Go Unpaid

Family can be a tricky thing for a lot of people. Society says that we’re supposed to be close with our families, to support them when we can, and to love them unconditionally, but life (and human beings) are too complicated for blanket statements like that to really apply.

This guy’s past really isn’t complicated – it’s just horrible.

He was the youngest child, and when his father found after five years that he wasn’t biologically his, they were cast out into a small apartment.

His mother and siblings blamed him for the whole mess, basically because he existed.

Shortly after my fifth birthday my dad found out that I was not biologically his, he immediately threw me and my mother out of his life which now looking back I can’t really blame him. It would be a nightmare to raise someone who was a constant reminder of your wife cheating.

Shortly after that, we moved from a mansion to a very small apartment and my life has been absolutely lonely and horrible since then, the love that my mother had for me disappeared in an instant and she and my half siblings(constantly blame me for being the reason for the divorce)have hated me since, I was constantly told by my own family including my mother that they all wish that I would die and would have never been born and things like that.

I try not to get my half siblings words get to me since they were kids as well, but it still hurts to this date.

When his mother got remarried, things did not get any better. He became like their Cinderella, doing all of the chores and being left at home while they took extravagant vacations and their expensive electronics piled up.

My mother married my stepdad when I was 10 and he and his kids, my step-siblings, have made it very clear they didn’t like me and things got even worse, I was given the smallest room, no new clothes or things, and constantly ignored if not being bullied by my family. Both my stepfamily and half siblings went on great and fantastic trips and were given all the latest gadgets and everything as well while I was left behind.

It actually came to the point where no one had wished me even a happy birthday since I was 8 years old. I had no friends at school as well, I was that ’quite’ kid who was always isolated and left out of everything.

He got out on his own, getting a scholarship to college, finding a woman he loves and having a child together. He’s going to therapy and generally happy with his life.

I(27M now) managed to get a full ride to dream college and am now financially quite secure. I now have very good friend and an amazing fiancé with whom I have a 3 year old son and her family has adopted me as one of their own.

My finance also convinced me to go to therapy for which I am very grateful as well and I am basically doing great in life and have moved past everything.

Enter his mother again, who is struggling with cancer and needs help paying for treatment.

He told her no.

Recently my mother contacted me a few days ago saying she needed my help (money actually) cause she has cancer and I firmly but politely refused her saying that while I sympathize with her situation, it is not my responsibility and she should lose my number and never contact me again.

I am now hounded by my stepfamily and even my half siblings that I shouldn’t refuse and my response was pretty much the same and have blocked them as well.

Yesterday my mother called me from her friends phone this time ordering me to pay since she has sacrificed so much for me to which I replied, “You never sacrificed anything, you gave away everything you had cause you just couldn’t keep your legs closed.” And hung up on her.

Now his siblings and other family are giving him a hard time, saying he’s awful, etc, but he doesn’t feel like he owes her anything.

I have blocked them all’ and now just keep receiving messages calling me an asshole among other things from new numbers which I promptly block, but now occasionally I feel quite guilty, what my mother did was horrible yes, but no one deserves to die for such things.

So, reddit AITA for refusing to pay my mothers hospital bill even though it may lead to her death?

What does Reddit think? Let’s find out!

Short answer? He was abused his entire life and he doesn’t owe the people who hurt him a gall-darned thing.

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Apparently she picked the wrong kids to favor, since the rest of them can’t afford to help.

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Monsters don’t deserve forgiveness, and they don’t deserve your hard-earned money or mental health, either.

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Don’t be afraid to legally put your foot down, either.

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Family doesn’t mean you have a blank check to treat people however you want.

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I have to agree with all of these people. It’s never cool to wish death or ill will on anyone, but this woman made her bed.

Anyone who treats their own child like that gets no sympathy from me.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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A Boyfriend Cut Off His Girlfriend’s Diet Soda Habit Until She Finds a Job. Was He Wrong?

I know the title sounds bad, but relationships are tough and financial stuff can be even tougher, so let’s hear the man out, shall we?

These two have been dating for around three years, and when they got together (and moved in together), they were both working.

She left her job because her boss was mistreating her and he supported the move, assuming she would find something else right away.

I (26m) have been with my girlfriend (27f) for over 3 years, and we’ve been living together for almost 2 years of that time.

Not long after she left her job. This was before Covid so it had nothing to do with that; she just couldn’t deal with her boss anymore.

I supported her leaving the job because her boss really was mistreating her.

I do OK financially but I’m not making a ton of money in my career yet, but I thought she’d hit the pavement right away and start looking for something else.

She didn’t even look, and since then has had a ton of excuses as to why she’s not working. This has put financial strain on their relationship – strain he’s bearing alone and having mental health struggles because of.

Well, that didn’t happen. For the first few days she just hung around the apartment. After those few days I asked her if she was going to start looking for something else. She answered “Really? I just quit my job. Can you just give me a week or two to catch my breath?”

After that whenever I asked she began to cite anxiety and depression as the reason she couldn’t look for or take a job.

While I’ve tried to be supportive and understanding it’s been hard as we’ve more or less lived paycheck to paycheck while I’ve often felt anxious and depressed myself but having had no choice but to go to work.

The pandemic relief didn’t apply to her, though she used the situation as yet another excuse as to why she’s not able to go back to work.

Once Covid hit she tried to get relief but was denied because she’d already been out of work too long and her unemployment had nothing to do with the Pandemic. She then began to use Covid as an excuse why she couldn’t work.

Things came to a head when he went to go grocery shopping and told her ‘no’ when she asked for more Diet Dr. Pepper. He has no problem with her drinking it, but informed her it’s a luxury item and not in the budget.

He’s still providing for her basic needs all alone, but feels like he has to draw the line somewhere.

She feels like he’s controlling her.

This brings us to a few days ago. I went to do some grocery shopping and my girlfriend asked me to pick up a case of Diet Dr. Pepper for her. She is addicted to the stuff. To her credit, she doesn’t drink or smoke or eat much junk food at all; Diet Dr. Pepper is basically her only vice. But she’ll easily drink 6-7 cans of it in a day.

Anyway I refused to buy it for her. I told her on the way out the door “Nope, that’s a luxury item. I’m not paying for that.” Long story short when I got home without the DDP we got into a huge argument. She accused me of “financially controlling her.”

I told her that from now on I would only provide for her completely basic needs but that if she wanted any treats beyond that she’d need to get a job and pay for them herself.

AITA?

What does Reddit say? Is this guy the a$$hole? Let’s find out!

This first commenter feels like she’s taking advantage of him – or she needs professional help.

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I think we can all agree it’s not about the Diet Dr. Pepper. Not really.

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There are ways to do what she did but still behave like an adult.

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To put it bluntly.

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This is definitely not what they discussed.

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I think I agree with OP and the majority of the commenters, here. There’s nothing wrong with quitting your job and a loved one supporting you while you find a new one…as long as you’re actually trying to find a new one.

What are your thoughts here? Share them with us in the comments!

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A Widow Tried to Take Major Advantage of Her Best Friend. Is She the A-Hole?

Grief makes people do weird stuff, and everyone responds differently to a major loss in their life. If we’re friends with someone going through a hard time, most of us try our best to be empathetic and to be there for whatever they need, because we love them and also assume they have our best interests at heart.

What if they don’t, though? What if while we’re being good friends they’re trying to devise the best way to take advantage of us, or maybe they see the situation in a totally different light?

That’s what happened to this woman, who moved in with her best friend to help out after the friend’s husband passed away.

My friend is a recent widow. It’s been a long time coming but that hardly makes it easier, her husband passed away at the end of February and she has been understandably distraught since. I have tried my best to support her through this even though I can’t possibly understand what she’s going through.

At the beginning of the March she asked me if I’d stay over during the night because she couldn’t stand sleeping alone in an empty house. I obliged and temporarily moved in once I was sure my husband was okay with it.

Because the friend is struggling with her loss, the friend-turned-roommate is doing the cooking and cleaning, as well as encouraging her friend to take care of herself physically and mentally while she’s there.

She’s not been taking care of herself so I have been doing 100% of the household chores and taking care of her and all her responsibilities as well as working full time.

Then, the bereaved friend accused her bestie of taking advantage of her and trying to live in her house for free, and demanded that she pay rent for the two months she had been there and, of course, going forward.

What on earth? What is happening here?

Well last week she spring on me how much she’ll be expecting in rent from here on out. She heavily implied I was taking advantage of her in her grief trying to live in her house for free and that she expects me to backpay her rent for the two months I’d already been there.

OP was insulted (I should hope so) and told the friend she would pay the back rent (what? why?) but that she would be moving out.

She promised to still help with things like grocery shopping (what? why?) in the future but that she couldn’t stay there anymore, as she already pays rent on her own house with her own husband.

I was extremely insulted by this and told her I’d transfer her the money she wanted but I would be moving back to my own house (where I am also paying rent). I got my stuff and was out within a couple of hours.

She has since asked me to come back but I have refused, I told her I’d still do her shopping and I’ll come over to help her with a few bits but I’m not spending another night in that house.

AITA?

The friend is asking her to come back, but OP is refusing and now wondering whether or not she’s being a jerk.

I think we all know the answer, but let’s see what Reddit had to say, too!

More than a bit, I say.

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This person thinks we should cut her some slack, because she’s grieving and probably not thinking straight.

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But that doesn’t mean OP can’t set some healthy boundaries.

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If she wants to try to get her to come around to how ridiculous she’s being in a more subtle way…

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Others definitely have a more cynical view of things.

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I guess you can probably tell that I think this woman, grieving or not, was totally out of line.

Do you agree with me? Have a different view? Tell me where you come down in the comments!

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People Explain Why They Chose To Be Sterilized

Maybe it’s because it flies in the face of evolution, but people tend to be shocked when they find out others don’t want children.

They assume you’ll grow out of it or change your mind, but for some, the desire to remain childless is as strong as others’ biological urge to procreate.

These 12 people express their feelings about living a child-free life.

1. Pets are better than kids

Except that you can’t really send them to their rooms.

I got a vasectomy and my wife got her tubes tied. We would rather have pets than kids.

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2. Bodily autonomy can be a powerful drug

That’s when you know you’ve made the right decision.

I got my tubes tied a couple months ago. Doctors said I was going to be depressed but I have never been this happy about anything.

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3. Double win, really

Especially when it’s your choice and not the slow march of time.

I had a hysterectomy a month ago. It was liberating to throw away all my tampons today.

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4. It really is hard for people to believe

And it’s easier if they think it’s not a choice.

I cannot have children and people always express sympathy when I tell them. I never bother to clarify that I had myself sterilized.

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5. Lots of people feel the need to keep it secret

No reason to upset the folks. They’ll figure it out eventually.

Got a vasectomy yesterday. Definitely not going to tell parents they're not getting grandkids.

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6. Some secrets are more concerning than others

I guess she’ll figure it out eventually too…

I had a vasetomy 2 years ago. My wife has no idea. She wants more children, and I think 1 was enough.

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7. It’s a great alternative to oral contraception

More effective too.

I just got my appointment for tubal ligation (tubes tied) next Friday. I'm 26 and I never want kids. I'm so excited for my child-free life with no medication!

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8. Definitely cheaper than a lifetime of birth control, too

1 box of condoms is about $7. Pays for itself in no time.

My vasectomy was the best $15, (the consult was $15, the procedure itself was FREE under insurance), I've ever spent. #nokidding.

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9. And there’s so much less worry

In that respect, you could say it pays for itself every month.

Best part of having my tubes tied? You don't freak out as much over late periods.

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10. Of course there are other ways of looking at it

That’s definitely one of them.

The best part of having my tubes tied and having an ablation? Cheating won't end in a positive pregnancy test!!

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11. Some people can’t accept that it’s what you want

As though it affects them somehow.

When I told people I was getting a hysterectomy for some reason they got really mad. Why would MY choice make you mad?

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12. And usually they don’t trust you to know your own mind

It’s the lucky few who are listened to.

One good thing that happened to me in 2016: I got my tubes tied. Everyone told me a doctor wouldn't do it until I was 35. Kiss my a**, I got it done at 23! :D

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Those reasons all make a lot of sense to me. Do you think they made the right choices? Tell us in the comments.

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People Explain Why They Chose To Be Sterilized

Maybe it’s because it flies in the face of evolution, but people tend to be shocked when they find out others don’t want children.

They assume you’ll grow out of it or change your mind, but for some, the desire to remain childless is as strong as others’ biological urge to procreate.

These 12 people express their feelings about living a child-free life.

1. Pets are better than kids

Except that you can’t really send them to their rooms.

I got a vasectomy and my wife got her tubes tied. We would rather have pets than kids.

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2. Bodily autonomy can be a powerful drug

That’s when you know you’ve made the right decision.

I got my tubes tied a couple months ago. Doctors said I was going to be depressed but I have never been this happy about anything.

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3. Double win, really

Especially when it’s your choice and not the slow march of time.

I had a hysterectomy a month ago. It was liberating to throw away all my tampons today.

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4. It really is hard for people to believe

And it’s easier if they think it’s not a choice.

I cannot have children and people always express sympathy when I tell them. I never bother to clarify that I had myself sterilized.

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5. Lots of people feel the need to keep it secret

No reason to upset the folks. They’ll figure it out eventually.

Got a vasectomy yesterday. Definitely not going to tell parents they're not getting grandkids.

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6. Some secrets are more concerning than others

I guess she’ll figure it out eventually too…

I had a vasetomy 2 years ago. My wife has no idea. She wants more children, and I think 1 was enough.

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7. It’s a great alternative to oral contraception

More effective too.

I just got my appointment for tubal ligation (tubes tied) next Friday. I'm 26 and I never want kids. I'm so excited for my child-free life with no medication!

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8. Definitely cheaper than a lifetime of birth control, too

1 box of condoms is about $7. Pays for itself in no time.

My vasectomy was the best $15, (the consult was $15, the procedure itself was FREE under insurance), I've ever spent. #nokidding.

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9. And there’s so much less worry

In that respect, you could say it pays for itself every month.

Best part of having my tubes tied? You don't freak out as much over late periods.

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10. Of course there are other ways of looking at it

That’s definitely one of them.

The best part of having my tubes tied and having an ablation? Cheating won't end in a positive pregnancy test!!

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11. Some people can’t accept that it’s what you want

As though it affects them somehow.

When I told people I was getting a hysterectomy for some reason they got really mad. Why would MY choice make you mad?

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12. And usually they don’t trust you to know your own mind

It’s the lucky few who are listened to.

One good thing that happened to me in 2016: I got my tubes tied. Everyone told me a doctor wouldn't do it until I was 35. Kiss my a**, I got it done at 23! :D

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Those reasons all make a lot of sense to me. Do you think they made the right choices? Tell us in the comments.

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People Show the Bitter and Sweet Sides of Sterilization

One of the most invasive questions people can ask you is about your plans to have children…or not.

It’s no one’s business but the people making the choice–and sometimes it’s not even a choice.

But that doesn’t stop people from asking.

At family functions and even in the workplace, if you’re in a committed relationship and over the age of 24, the awkward questions abound.

It’s time to stop asking such personal questions. People don’t have kids for all kinds of reasons.

Fertility issues aside, 10 people explain the myriad emotions surrounding sterilization.

1. Sometimes, it’s a choice you make together

I hope karma, at least, was very sweet.

I got my tubes tied because my husband didn't want more kids. He had an affair and she got pregnant.

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2. Sometimes, it’s the mature thing to do

We don’t know their life.

I went and got sterilized after my abortion. I made the right choice to end my pregnancy, but I never want to have to make that choice again.

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3. No matter what you say, it’s going to be the wrong thing

Even when you mean well, better just to go about your day.

When a nurse tells you how lucky you are to have had a hysterectomy so young, not knowing that you wanted a child and having it wasn't by choice but necessity.

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4. Some people can laugh it off easier than others

But why should they have to?

Thefunniest thing about getting my tubes tied is how much other people think it's okay for them to comment. It's my body, my decision. Kindly f*** off?

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5. Taking “it’s none of your business” to a whole new level

Because safety is about more than just preventing pregnancy.

I got sterilized 4 years ago and can't get pregnant. But I won't tell a guy I'm dating that because I don't want to fight with him over wearing a condom. I want him terrified that he could get me pregnant.

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6. It could become a dangerous game.

Like at some point you have to tell them right?

My secret is that I've had a vasectomy but I never tell any girls that I date.

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7. There are times when it makes total sense

And you end up regretting it anyway.

I had my tubes tied when I was with my abusive ex-husband and now that I'm with the love of my life, I regret it. I want to have a baby with him.

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8. But there is still joy, even with regret

Fertility treatments, foster parenting, adoption, pets.

I adopt animals because I regret having my tubes tied.

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9. Choice is the key

When you don’t get one, either way, it hurts.

I was given a certain amount of time to have a kid before I'm basically forced to get a hysterectomy... I hate this forced feeling and my life is an absolute disaster...

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10. The important thing is doing what’s right for yourself

And living the life you want to live.

I got a vasectomy at 25 and I have zero regrets about it. I have dogs that will never complain about wanting clothes, cell phones, or need to go to college.

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These posts show that people are childless for all kinds of reasons, and that everyone should mind their own business until it affects them.

Do you know of other reasons for not having kids that you want to share? Drop them in the comments.

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Check out This Video That Shows How Fast Bacteria Can Spread “Down There”

Knowledge is power and sure, one of the best and coolest things about the internet is that we can learn just about anything with the click of a few buttons. Some posts, though, leave me wondering if life wasn’t just a bit happier when we didn’t know everything, because some things…I’d be ok maintaining my ignorance.

Because after you realize something, of course, you feel compelled to, you know…take care of it.

Which is exactly how you might feel after watching this TikTok about how quickly bacteria and bacterial infections can spread in the vagina.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

The TikToker, Roxanne Ramsey, is going to use a zucchini, water, and ranch dressing to make her demonstration about bacterial vaginosis really pop, so consider the squeamish among you warned.

She grabs three bowls and names them – Ashley, the bowl of clean water, Ashley’s boyfriend Brandon, the zucchini, and Britney, the ranch dressing, who always wipes back to front.

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“Even though Ashley and Brandon’s relationship is really healthy, Brandon went to the market one day and just couldn’t help himself…”

She goes on to show what Brandon looks like after his experimental dip…and what Ashley looks like after Brandon comes home, sheepish and mum about the whole thing, and dips back into her.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Ashley gets medicine for the vaginosis, but lo and behold, look what happens in Part 2 of Roxanne’s video…

The vaginosis comes back, even though Brandon has been faithful since that one encounter with infected Britney.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Roxanne spoke to Buzzfeed about why the topic was important for her to inform others about online:

“I began to notice I would only get it after s^x with my partner. I had been to so many doctor’s appointments searching for answers, but to no avail. Every doctor told me I was suffering because of my soap and detergent. Finally, I decided to participate in a study for bacterial vaginosis because I thought something was terribly wrong with me.”

A doctor in the study told Roxanne that she thought her boyfriend was probably the reason, but that there were little to no tools for diagnosing bacterial vaginosis in men, and no treatment options, because many doctors didn’t believe men could get or pass the infection along.

Roxanne, though, knew it was at least worth exploring, since she’d tried everything else.

“It’s funny because I’ve struggled with BV for so long, I feel like I have a bacterial vaginosis degree… Once I learned information from the specialist, I knew that treatment was a possibility. She prescribed me meds, and I simply gave them to my partner. I was so shocked because it worked! It was such a simple fix that could’ve saved me years of struggling.”

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

She wanted to share not only the visualization of how easily bacteria can spread and her own experience, but the message that we know our bodies better than anyone else, and when you’re talking to your doctor, it’s important to remember to advocate for yourself.

Ask the questions, listen to the answers, but remember that you’re in charge of your body and your treatment, so if you feel like something more needs to be done, don’t stop pushing until you don’t feel that way anymore.

Be safe out there friends, and remember to love yourselves all the way up and down.

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Check out This Video That Shows How Fast Bacteria Can Spread “Down There”

Knowledge is power and sure, one of the best and coolest things about the internet is that we can learn just about anything with the click of a few buttons. Some posts, though, leave me wondering if life wasn’t just a bit happier when we didn’t know everything, because some things…I’d be ok maintaining my ignorance.

Because after you realize something, of course, you feel compelled to, you know…take care of it.

Which is exactly how you might feel after watching this TikTok about how quickly bacteria and bacterial infections can spread in the vagina.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

The TikToker, Roxanne Ramsey, is going to use a zucchini, water, and ranch dressing to make her demonstration about bacterial vaginosis really pop, so consider the squeamish among you warned.

She grabs three bowls and names them – Ashley, the bowl of clean water, Ashley’s boyfriend Brandon, the zucchini, and Britney, the ranch dressing, who always wipes back to front.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

“Even though Ashley and Brandon’s relationship is really healthy, Brandon went to the market one day and just couldn’t help himself…”

She goes on to show what Brandon looks like after his experimental dip…and what Ashley looks like after Brandon comes home, sheepish and mum about the whole thing, and dips back into her.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Ashley gets medicine for the vaginosis, but lo and behold, look what happens in Part 2 of Roxanne’s video…

The vaginosis comes back, even though Brandon has been faithful since that one encounter with infected Britney.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Roxanne spoke to Buzzfeed about why the topic was important for her to inform others about online:

“I began to notice I would only get it after s^x with my partner. I had been to so many doctor’s appointments searching for answers, but to no avail. Every doctor told me I was suffering because of my soap and detergent. Finally, I decided to participate in a study for bacterial vaginosis because I thought something was terribly wrong with me.”

A doctor in the study told Roxanne that she thought her boyfriend was probably the reason, but that there were little to no tools for diagnosing bacterial vaginosis in men, and no treatment options, because many doctors didn’t believe men could get or pass the infection along.

Roxanne, though, knew it was at least worth exploring, since she’d tried everything else.

“It’s funny because I’ve struggled with BV for so long, I feel like I have a bacterial vaginosis degree… Once I learned information from the specialist, I knew that treatment was a possibility. She prescribed me meds, and I simply gave them to my partner. I was so shocked because it worked! It was such a simple fix that could’ve saved me years of struggling.”

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

She wanted to share not only the visualization of how easily bacteria can spread and her own experience, but the message that we know our bodies better than anyone else, and when you’re talking to your doctor, it’s important to remember to advocate for yourself.

Ask the questions, listen to the answers, but remember that you’re in charge of your body and your treatment, so if you feel like something more needs to be done, don’t stop pushing until you don’t feel that way anymore.

Be safe out there friends, and remember to love yourselves all the way up and down.

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