People Explain Why They Chose To Be Sterilized

Maybe it’s because it flies in the face of evolution, but people tend to be shocked when they find out others don’t want children.

They assume you’ll grow out of it or change your mind, but for some, the desire to remain childless is as strong as others’ biological urge to procreate.

These 12 people express their feelings about living a child-free life.

1. Pets are better than kids

Except that you can’t really send them to their rooms.

I got a vasectomy and my wife got her tubes tied. We would rather have pets than kids.

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2. Bodily autonomy can be a powerful drug

That’s when you know you’ve made the right decision.

I got my tubes tied a couple months ago. Doctors said I was going to be depressed but I have never been this happy about anything.

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3. Double win, really

Especially when it’s your choice and not the slow march of time.

I had a hysterectomy a month ago. It was liberating to throw away all my tampons today.

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4. It really is hard for people to believe

And it’s easier if they think it’s not a choice.

I cannot have children and people always express sympathy when I tell them. I never bother to clarify that I had myself sterilized.

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5. Lots of people feel the need to keep it secret

No reason to upset the folks. They’ll figure it out eventually.

Got a vasectomy yesterday. Definitely not going to tell parents they're not getting grandkids.

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6. Some secrets are more concerning than others

I guess she’ll figure it out eventually too…

I had a vasetomy 2 years ago. My wife has no idea. She wants more children, and I think 1 was enough.

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7. It’s a great alternative to oral contraception

More effective too.

I just got my appointment for tubal ligation (tubes tied) next Friday. I'm 26 and I never want kids. I'm so excited for my child-free life with no medication!

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8. Definitely cheaper than a lifetime of birth control, too

1 box of condoms is about $7. Pays for itself in no time.

My vasectomy was the best $15, (the consult was $15, the procedure itself was FREE under insurance), I've ever spent. #nokidding.

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9. And there’s so much less worry

In that respect, you could say it pays for itself every month.

Best part of having my tubes tied? You don't freak out as much over late periods.

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10. Of course there are other ways of looking at it

That’s definitely one of them.

The best part of having my tubes tied and having an ablation? Cheating won't end in a positive pregnancy test!!

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11. Some people can’t accept that it’s what you want

As though it affects them somehow.

When I told people I was getting a hysterectomy for some reason they got really mad. Why would MY choice make you mad?

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12. And usually they don’t trust you to know your own mind

It’s the lucky few who are listened to.

One good thing that happened to me in 2016: I got my tubes tied. Everyone told me a doctor wouldn't do it until I was 35. Kiss my a**, I got it done at 23! :D

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Those reasons all make a lot of sense to me. Do you think they made the right choices? Tell us in the comments.

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People Show the Bitter and Sweet Sides of Sterilization

One of the most invasive questions people can ask you is about your plans to have children…or not.

It’s no one’s business but the people making the choice–and sometimes it’s not even a choice.

But that doesn’t stop people from asking.

At family functions and even in the workplace, if you’re in a committed relationship and over the age of 24, the awkward questions abound.

It’s time to stop asking such personal questions. People don’t have kids for all kinds of reasons.

Fertility issues aside, 10 people explain the myriad emotions surrounding sterilization.

1. Sometimes, it’s a choice you make together

I hope karma, at least, was very sweet.

I got my tubes tied because my husband didn't want more kids. He had an affair and she got pregnant.

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2. Sometimes, it’s the mature thing to do

We don’t know their life.

I went and got sterilized after my abortion. I made the right choice to end my pregnancy, but I never want to have to make that choice again.

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3. No matter what you say, it’s going to be the wrong thing

Even when you mean well, better just to go about your day.

When a nurse tells you how lucky you are to have had a hysterectomy so young, not knowing that you wanted a child and having it wasn't by choice but necessity.

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4. Some people can laugh it off easier than others

But why should they have to?

Thefunniest thing about getting my tubes tied is how much other people think it's okay for them to comment. It's my body, my decision. Kindly f*** off?

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5. Taking “it’s none of your business” to a whole new level

Because safety is about more than just preventing pregnancy.

I got sterilized 4 years ago and can't get pregnant. But I won't tell a guy I'm dating that because I don't want to fight with him over wearing a condom. I want him terrified that he could get me pregnant.

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6. It could become a dangerous game.

Like at some point you have to tell them right?

My secret is that I've had a vasectomy but I never tell any girls that I date.

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7. There are times when it makes total sense

And you end up regretting it anyway.

I had my tubes tied when I was with my abusive ex-husband and now that I'm with the love of my life, I regret it. I want to have a baby with him.

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8. But there is still joy, even with regret

Fertility treatments, foster parenting, adoption, pets.

I adopt animals because I regret having my tubes tied.

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9. Choice is the key

When you don’t get one, either way, it hurts.

I was given a certain amount of time to have a kid before I'm basically forced to get a hysterectomy... I hate this forced feeling and my life is an absolute disaster...

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10. The important thing is doing what’s right for yourself

And living the life you want to live.

I got a vasectomy at 25 and I have zero regrets about it. I have dogs that will never complain about wanting clothes, cell phones, or need to go to college.

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These posts show that people are childless for all kinds of reasons, and that everyone should mind their own business until it affects them.

Do you know of other reasons for not having kids that you want to share? Drop them in the comments.

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Check out This Video That Shows How Fast Bacteria Can Spread “Down There”

Knowledge is power and sure, one of the best and coolest things about the internet is that we can learn just about anything with the click of a few buttons. Some posts, though, leave me wondering if life wasn’t just a bit happier when we didn’t know everything, because some things…I’d be ok maintaining my ignorance.

Because after you realize something, of course, you feel compelled to, you know…take care of it.

Which is exactly how you might feel after watching this TikTok about how quickly bacteria and bacterial infections can spread in the vagina.

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The TikToker, Roxanne Ramsey, is going to use a zucchini, water, and ranch dressing to make her demonstration about bacterial vaginosis really pop, so consider the squeamish among you warned.

She grabs three bowls and names them – Ashley, the bowl of clean water, Ashley’s boyfriend Brandon, the zucchini, and Britney, the ranch dressing, who always wipes back to front.

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“Even though Ashley and Brandon’s relationship is really healthy, Brandon went to the market one day and just couldn’t help himself…”

She goes on to show what Brandon looks like after his experimental dip…and what Ashley looks like after Brandon comes home, sheepish and mum about the whole thing, and dips back into her.

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Ashley gets medicine for the vaginosis, but lo and behold, look what happens in Part 2 of Roxanne’s video…

The vaginosis comes back, even though Brandon has been faithful since that one encounter with infected Britney.

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Roxanne spoke to Buzzfeed about why the topic was important for her to inform others about online:

“I began to notice I would only get it after s^x with my partner. I had been to so many doctor’s appointments searching for answers, but to no avail. Every doctor told me I was suffering because of my soap and detergent. Finally, I decided to participate in a study for bacterial vaginosis because I thought something was terribly wrong with me.”

A doctor in the study told Roxanne that she thought her boyfriend was probably the reason, but that there were little to no tools for diagnosing bacterial vaginosis in men, and no treatment options, because many doctors didn’t believe men could get or pass the infection along.

Roxanne, though, knew it was at least worth exploring, since she’d tried everything else.

“It’s funny because I’ve struggled with BV for so long, I feel like I have a bacterial vaginosis degree… Once I learned information from the specialist, I knew that treatment was a possibility. She prescribed me meds, and I simply gave them to my partner. I was so shocked because it worked! It was such a simple fix that could’ve saved me years of struggling.”

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

She wanted to share not only the visualization of how easily bacteria can spread and her own experience, but the message that we know our bodies better than anyone else, and when you’re talking to your doctor, it’s important to remember to advocate for yourself.

Ask the questions, listen to the answers, but remember that you’re in charge of your body and your treatment, so if you feel like something more needs to be done, don’t stop pushing until you don’t feel that way anymore.

Be safe out there friends, and remember to love yourselves all the way up and down.

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Check out This Video That Shows How Fast Bacteria Can Spread “Down There”

Knowledge is power and sure, one of the best and coolest things about the internet is that we can learn just about anything with the click of a few buttons. Some posts, though, leave me wondering if life wasn’t just a bit happier when we didn’t know everything, because some things…I’d be ok maintaining my ignorance.

Because after you realize something, of course, you feel compelled to, you know…take care of it.

Which is exactly how you might feel after watching this TikTok about how quickly bacteria and bacterial infections can spread in the vagina.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

The TikToker, Roxanne Ramsey, is going to use a zucchini, water, and ranch dressing to make her demonstration about bacterial vaginosis really pop, so consider the squeamish among you warned.

She grabs three bowls and names them – Ashley, the bowl of clean water, Ashley’s boyfriend Brandon, the zucchini, and Britney, the ranch dressing, who always wipes back to front.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

“Even though Ashley and Brandon’s relationship is really healthy, Brandon went to the market one day and just couldn’t help himself…”

She goes on to show what Brandon looks like after his experimental dip…and what Ashley looks like after Brandon comes home, sheepish and mum about the whole thing, and dips back into her.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Ashley gets medicine for the vaginosis, but lo and behold, look what happens in Part 2 of Roxanne’s video…

The vaginosis comes back, even though Brandon has been faithful since that one encounter with infected Britney.

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

Roxanne spoke to Buzzfeed about why the topic was important for her to inform others about online:

“I began to notice I would only get it after s^x with my partner. I had been to so many doctor’s appointments searching for answers, but to no avail. Every doctor told me I was suffering because of my soap and detergent. Finally, I decided to participate in a study for bacterial vaginosis because I thought something was terribly wrong with me.”

A doctor in the study told Roxanne that she thought her boyfriend was probably the reason, but that there were little to no tools for diagnosing bacterial vaginosis in men, and no treatment options, because many doctors didn’t believe men could get or pass the infection along.

Roxanne, though, knew it was at least worth exploring, since she’d tried everything else.

“It’s funny because I’ve struggled with BV for so long, I feel like I have a bacterial vaginosis degree… Once I learned information from the specialist, I knew that treatment was a possibility. She prescribed me meds, and I simply gave them to my partner. I was so shocked because it worked! It was such a simple fix that could’ve saved me years of struggling.”

Image Credit: Roxanne Ramsey

She wanted to share not only the visualization of how easily bacteria can spread and her own experience, but the message that we know our bodies better than anyone else, and when you’re talking to your doctor, it’s important to remember to advocate for yourself.

Ask the questions, listen to the answers, but remember that you’re in charge of your body and your treatment, so if you feel like something more needs to be done, don’t stop pushing until you don’t feel that way anymore.

Be safe out there friends, and remember to love yourselves all the way up and down.

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“Choosing Beggars” That Make Our Blood Boil

There are so many people out there who feel entitled to people’s time, products, attention, etc when there’s absolutely no reason they should feel that way. Anyone who works in a creative field can tell you that too many folks have the idea that “exposure” is worth actual money, even though we can’t eat it or sleep under it, or benefit in any sort of real way.

It might surprise you, though, to learn that good-sized companies also act foolish and entitled, trying to get people do things for them for free.

If you’re in the mood for some righteous anger, these 20 examples should definitely rev you up.

20. I don’t think this person understands how websites work.

Or maybe how anything in life works, tbh.

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19. Do you think they realize how ironic this is?

And no, not in a good way at all.

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18. Harsh, but I mean…

We might need to have another chat about wants and needs.

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17. It doesn’t always pay to be subtle.

In fact, most of the time it definitely doesn’t.

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16. Whoops. Maybe should have modified that audience.

Now I am also curious what happened to the first one.

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15. You have to remember that some things are just not your problem.

In fact, most things are not your problem.

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14. You have to know how far you can push people.

The first chance was the time to grab it and run, it seems.

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13. Be careful who you try to scam.

It just might end up costing you even more.

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12. RIP to this friendship.

Friends support each other’s endeavors, they don’t try to take advantage, y’all.

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11. I mean technically, sure.

But I hope you can calculate percentages accurately.

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10. Sure, it would be nice if things matched.

But she didn’t have to be so ugly about it.

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9. The last bit is my favorite.

Just absolute proof that you have no idea what’s going on in the world.

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8. That escalated quickly.

As things like this often seem to do.

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7. When something is free you shouldn’t question it.

And you definitely shouldn’t complain.

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6. That…seems like quite a lot of food?

I guess I could be wrong?

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5. Panhandling is not a job.

But also, maybe $10/hr ain’t gonna pay the bills.

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4. I would also like to know if this strategy works.

For reasons.

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3. I would have loved to see the response.

I’m guessing it contained a fair amount of cursing.

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2. Play stupid games.

Win stupid prizes. Every single time.

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1. It’s free. FREE.

The want…something else for free?

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I swear, some of this stuff is just hard to believe!

If you’ve got a great (aka terrible) story in this vein, tell us about it in the comments.

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“Choosing Beggars” That Make Our Blood Boil

There are so many people out there who feel entitled to people’s time, products, attention, etc when there’s absolutely no reason they should feel that way. Anyone who works in a creative field can tell you that too many folks have the idea that “exposure” is worth actual money, even though we can’t eat it or sleep under it, or benefit in any sort of real way.

It might surprise you, though, to learn that good-sized companies also act foolish and entitled, trying to get people do things for them for free.

If you’re in the mood for some righteous anger, these 20 examples should definitely rev you up.

20. I don’t think this person understands how websites work.

Or maybe how anything in life works, tbh.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

19. Do you think they realize how ironic this is?

And no, not in a good way at all.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

18. Harsh, but I mean…

We might need to have another chat about wants and needs.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

17. It doesn’t always pay to be subtle.

In fact, most of the time it definitely doesn’t.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

16. Whoops. Maybe should have modified that audience.

Now I am also curious what happened to the first one.

Image Credit: 50 Nerds of Grey

15. You have to remember that some things are just not your problem.

In fact, most things are not your problem.

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14. You have to know how far you can push people.

The first chance was the time to grab it and run, it seems.

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13. Be careful who you try to scam.

It just might end up costing you even more.

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12. RIP to this friendship.

Friends support each other’s endeavors, they don’t try to take advantage, y’all.

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11. I mean technically, sure.

But I hope you can calculate percentages accurately.

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10. Sure, it would be nice if things matched.

But she didn’t have to be so ugly about it.

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9. The last bit is my favorite.

Just absolute proof that you have no idea what’s going on in the world.

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8. That escalated quickly.

As things like this often seem to do.

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7. When something is free you shouldn’t question it.

And you definitely shouldn’t complain.

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6. That…seems like quite a lot of food?

I guess I could be wrong?

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5. Panhandling is not a job.

But also, maybe $10/hr ain’t gonna pay the bills.

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4. I would also like to know if this strategy works.

For reasons.

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3. I would have loved to see the response.

I’m guessing it contained a fair amount of cursing.

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2. Play stupid games.

Win stupid prizes. Every single time.

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1. It’s free. FREE.

The want…something else for free?

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I swear, some of this stuff is just hard to believe!

If you’ve got a great (aka terrible) story in this vein, tell us about it in the comments.

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These Entitled People Will Ignite Your Righteous Anger

There are a lot of good things about the way the internet connects us, both with people we know and love and with complete strangers all around the globe.

There are downsides, too, like realizes just how many people in this world are completely clueless, or who expect things from others that they have no reason to dole out for free – actual items, but also expertise and the like.

If things like that burn your britches, these 18 people’s begging is going to light your booty on fire.

18. He just kept digging himself deeper and deeper.

And it’s like he didn’t even realize it.

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17. There are a bizarre number of people who expect strangers to care about their kid’s Christmas.

I mean, I like kids but it’s really not my problem.

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16. People will always surprise you.

And not in the best way.

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15. An honor you say?

Take that mess and stuff it in a sack, sir.

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14. Here’s hoping he saw this post.

Imagine having the gall to crab about getting a nice gift.

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13. I guess I don’t have any real “mates” either.

Those are tough to come by, I would think.

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12. Maybe they…forgot?

This does not seem like the start of a beautiful friendship.

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11. Do they imagine people want to be in weddings?

I need to know whether they had a wedding party at all.

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10. Well, he got his hopes up.

Kind of hard to blame him on that one.

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9. We all have to draw the line somewhere.

I guess for some people, that boundary is mayonnaise.

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8. Someone needs lessons on negotiations.

And also not begging strangers for expensive things.

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7. It’s not worth trying to talk sense with some people.

Apparently she didn’t really want to get there.

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6. Her poor dad.

I hope he had her when he was young and still has a strong back.

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5. Well ok then bye bro.

This is like a rude slap in the face at exactly the wrong time.

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4. Someone’s time was wasted, that’s for sure.

Not ours, though. I don’t think.

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3. I wouldn’t even know how to respond to that.

Fork over the $2, ma’am.

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2. Demanding AND rude.

He seems nice.

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1. Sounds like they have a good thing going.

I’m just saying, I’d pay way more to see the mullet guy go flying.

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I have no idea what’s wrong with people, y’all.

Tell us your best (worst) choosing beggar stories in the comments!

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Stockton, California Gave Residents $500 a Month. Here’s How It’s Going.

There are a lot of conversations happening in politics these days about how we can better take care of everyone in our society. What can we afford, how can we re-allocate funds, who deserves what, and what history says about supporting people with a safety net when times are hard.

Michael Tubbs, though, the young mayor of Stockton, CA, is done talking – in 2020, he decided to start doing, instead. He and the city council approved a budget measure that would give 125 randomly selected residents with a median household income below $50k a year an extra $500 a month.

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There were no strings attached. No drug tests, no requirements to work or be actively looking for a job. Very little monitoring was done at all.

Tubbs is heavily invested in Stockton, having grown up there below that median income line himself, and was so dismayed in 2012 to hear Forbes call it one of “America’s Most Miserable Cities” that he ran for mayor. He was elected at the age of 26, making him one of the youngest mayors in the country – but also perhaps, one of the most forward-thinking ones in the crowd.

He founded the Stockton Empowerment Distribution (SEED) in 2019. The funding comes from philanthropic donations, and when a team of independent researchers heard about the initiative, they couldn’t get there to conduct a parallel experiment fast enough.

Researchers Stacia West of the University of Tennessee, and Amy Castro Baker of the University of Pennsylvania, worked together to collect data from those who received the money, and also established a control group of people who were not selected.

What they found was that, instead of “squandering” the cash – a worry of some who thought there should be some requirements and stipulations placed on it – what the extra month did was reduce people’s income volatility compared to those in the control group.

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Basically, unexpected expenses up to $400 in a month would be able to be handled instead of causing an issue that could take months to straighten out, which also improved people’s mental health.

One recipient said that she “had regular panic attacks and anxiety. I was at the point where I had to take a pill for it” but after the checks, “I haven’t even touched the pills in a while. I used to carry them on me all the time.”

The study found that families typically spent the money on essential items like food, home goods, utilities, and gas, and that instead of encouraging people to stay home, the extra cash did the opposite – after one year, the percentage of recipients who were employed full time grew from 28% to 40%, more than twice the rate for the control group.

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Baker believes that having something of a safety net makes it easier to not only imagine a different job or future, but also to take the risks that are often associated with interviewing for new jobs.

“People were able to apply for jobs they knew they were eligible for but just literally could not take a shift off work to do so.”

She adds that people who don’t have enough money almost always don’t have enough time, either.

“When you live in constant scarcity your entire day is taken up with battling poverty and trying to make ends meet.

You literally don’t have the capacity, or the time to even breathe and reset and think about what a different goal might be.”

Extra money, according to the study and also this participant, made a huge difference in that area.

“I was able to finally take time off work to study and complete my real estate license and even pursue an associate degree.

I have more time and net worth to study…to achieve my goals.”

This experiment joins many others that are seeking ways to alleviate poverty around the world, and the idea of a universal basic income is gaining some traction. We’re seeing the needle move in the States with the stimulus checks and also the recent changes to the child tax credit, both of which were given to people without any strings attached as to how they would spend it.

The full analysis from this study will be available in 2022, and in the next few years, researchers agree that there will be a good knowledge base across diverse populations that can be used to make an assessment.

We’ll just have to keep our fingers’ crossed that good policy follows.

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People Confess the Things They Know They Should Understand, But They Don’t

I think every adult in the world has those things they know they should get by now, but since they don’t, they’re too embarrassed to ask because they feel like it’s too late.

Well, folks, listen up – it’s never too late. All you have to do is fine the courage to ask, like these 18 people did, and someone on the internet will be happy to explain it to you.

And since we’re online, you don’t even have to see them roll their eyes first.

18. How were you not prepared?

After waiting in a long line to check out, why is it that people don’t have their money ready?

They get to the register and have to search for a credit card or look for coupons. (All that time in line they could have had it organized and ready to go.)

17. You’re never going to stop thinking about it, now.

Why does the word “fridge” have the letter “d” in it, while “refrigerator” does not?

I only know it because I’ve typed “refridgerator” and gotten the squiggly red line about a million times lol

16. It really is baffling.

How these dogs that have these dense bangs hanging over their eyes can see a single goddamn thing.

I work with dogs, and there’s a family with two Maltese. One they keep very trim with no bangs around the eyes. The other one they keep with very long, dense bangs.

It took me awhile to realize that the one with bangs had no eyes. They keep the bangs long because it’s “less alarming” and people don’t ask as many questions lmao

15. We really can’t wrap our minds around it.

Space, it makes my brain hurt trying to figure out things like stars and black holes etc.

The size and distances with space are hard to fathom. The time it takes to get anywhere is depressing.

The sizes and distances of it all is absolutely mind-boggling. It’s so massive and far that it has to be measured in the amount of distance that light can travel in a year. And light travels 186,000 miles per second. I feel so insignificant just thinking about it.

But it can also be kind of comforting in a way, because that means that all my problems are also insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

14. Human brains are not the kindest.

Why do I trust myself to fail so much and like myself so little? Why do I hate “positive attitude” advice from people?

I hated almost everything about myself until a little over a year ago, now I mostly feel neutral about those things.

I realized that I know every weird quirk and flaw about me and that’s why I can’t see myself as beautiful or pleasant.

I decided to stop overthinking and just accept all my flaws and quirks as what they are. As long as it doesn’t hurt anyone and I’m comfortable, it shouldn’t matter.

13. You’ll never be able to find yourself.

That no concept of an absolute position in space exists.

If it helps, we have lots of guide posts. Pulsars spin VERY consistently and we have documented and mapped out a lot of them. We can use these as place markers to orient ourselves if we ever become a galaxy faring species (big ‘if’ there)

12. I honestly haven’t even tried.

Cryptocurrency.

I’ve it explained to me numerous times but it still goes right over my head.

11. I think it’s complicated.

Why do people who seem miserable as parents decide to have more kids…?

I’d like to direct this question towards the parents I currently nanny for. The father clearly doesn’t like his kids, has said before he never even wanted kids, and yet they have three.

Three children that are quite honestly some of the worst behaved kids I’ve ever worked with, and I’ve been working with kids in and out of a school setting going on 15 years now.

Why didn’t you stop after the first one???

10. Being more aware doesn’t usually lead to happiness.

Existence and self aware, the more you think the more the concept of “I” is creepy

My consciousness was ripped from the void and shoved into this body. Does it go back when I die? Is it nothingness, or something more?

9. Does anyone really get it, though?

Quantum physics.

But mostly how there could ever be a smallest thing. Like everything is made up of something else. Zooming down how could there be something that’s not made up of smaller parts?

Like string theory right, smallest thing is supposed to be vibrating strings of energy? Like what is that energy made of? I don’t get it.

8. But I mean…does it matter?

Where we are, all of us, right now.

Like, where are we?

What is this..?

You know?

7. Science isn’t for everyone. To understand, at least.

Chemistry. I only passed because my professor curved every F to a C.

My best friend has her PhD in organic chemistry and she gave me her dissertation in a bound book. Made the mistake of opening it once and was like, what the heck, this is all gibberish.

6. Not so simple.

How to socialize.

How the heck do I start and keep a conversation going? Or talk to people that I don’t know?

I’ve been thinking about this for a while and have slightly improved imo, but still can’t figure it out lol. I feel like at some point I just run out of things to talk about. I guess that can be attributed to the fact that I only have a few hobbies though.

Hanging around my friends who are around their friends that I don’t know just makes me feel like a third wheel because they’re all pretty different from me, and talking to people I don’t know is just uncomfortable.

5. Money is confusing.

The stock market.

My understanding of it is it works because everyone says it does. In fact, all money works that way.

4. Mind over matter?

Why I continue to procrastinate and self sabotage.

I started noticing this happened during job applications and university study.

The common denominator? Perfectionism. I wanted my resume to be perfect before submitting it to a potential employer and I wanted my assignments to be perfect before submitting them for grading.

As a result the process for both was extremely stressful and I would go out of my way to avoid that stress.

3. Don’t strain yourself trying to figure it out.

How light is both a particle and a wave.

Or maybe it’s neither. It’s something that we don’t have a word for and that doesn’t exist in a way that we can sense directly. But this unnamed thing happens to act in a way similar to a wave in some situations and like a particle in others.

A cylinder will roll like a sphere in one direction but not roll like a cube in the other. That doesn’t make it a sphere and a cube at the same time. It makes it something different.

2. Do we really need to understand it, though?

Computers, even though I own one I literally don’t know how to build one or fix one when needed.

1. Can they really not see it?

People that treat everybody around them terribly then complain that nobody likes them.

Honestly I vastly prefer when people wave red flags in your face like that. Saves me a lot of time, energy, and hurt.

I’ll go ahead and admit that I’ve just learned a thing or two, how about you?

Tell us in the comments what question you’ve been too afraid to ask, and maybe we can get it answered!

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Was This Daughter Wrong to Call Out Her Father’s Fragile Masculinity?

The world was a certain way for many years, at least when it comes to the idea of “respecting our elders” and keeping our mouths shut in order to keep the peace, even if we really, really don’t agree with the rude and harmful things they say.

This woman grew up with a homophobic father, one who would make snide comments that everyone just ignored because they were “respecting their father.”

So my whole life I’ve known that my dad was a homophobe. No one else in my immediate family is, and no one really talks about any kind of lbgtq+ topic around him so it doesn’t really come up a lot with him. But whenever anything “gay” happens around him he starts on a small rant.

Now that she’s older and has a daughter of her own, she can see how harmful that can be, and is less willing to let things slide for a second generation.

When her father made a comment about The Wiggles.

So anyway. After living with this my whole life, I am now 24(F) and I have a one year old little girl who LOVES the Wiggles (a kids show). Sometimes when I’m visiting my parents we’ll (me and my mom) turn on Wiggles for her on Netflix and it keeps her entertained while we visit.

Her father made a few snide comments about how they were “gay” and it wasn’t “normal” and those were the “kind of people” who should be influencing kids, etc.

She’d had enough, and snapped that maybe their “masculinity isn’t as fragile as yours.”

My dad is always commenting on how he doesnt like the wiggles and its creepy. I usually ignore him but yesterday I decided to ask why. And he said “Because, to sing and dance and smile like that as a full grown man, you have to be gay.

That’s not the kind of people you want around kids.” I was kind of in shock at what he said and I was like “its just something funny and colorful for the kids.” I dont even remember what he said afterwards but it was another gay comment and I said “well maybe their masculinity isn’t as fragile as yours.”

Dad was upset, and though her mother laughed initially, she later said her daughter shouldn’t have said it. Her sister agrees she should have stayed quiet, too, because of “respect.”

My mom laughed at my comment but my dad was less than amused and was in a really bad mood and snapping at everyone so I decided to leave early. My mom told me he’s still mad this morning and that I really shouldn’t have said anything because “I know how he is.”

She also told my sister about it who texted me to tell me I should be more respectful to our dad (she’s always been a daddy’s girl) and basically that I was being an AH.

So AITA?

Now OP is wondering if she should have continued to just let her dad be a jerk unchecked, and Reddit has some really great thoughts on the matter (as usual!).

It’s been coming for awhile, honestly. Maybe he should get used to it.

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Seriously, stop letting people off the hook this way.

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It might be time to get into some good trouble.

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Perhaps they should stop being that way?

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Stop making excuses for poor behavior!

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It’s about time we all start putting our feet down and stop letting people like this get away with their bs.

I’m just saying.

Was she disrespectful? Firm? Right? Wrong? Sound off in the comments!

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