Having a crush on someone is delightfully painful in all of the best possible ways. It usually doesn’t end that well, but as you get older, you realize that’s okay – sometimes it’s better to have the illusion of something than the reality, after all.

If you’re wanting to shoot your shot with your crush but aren’t sure how to start the conversation, here are 16 suggestions from people who have been there.

15. Learning more about them is always a great way to start.

Ask them about their hobbies/passions/interests.

Not only will you learn more about them but it will make them happy and enjoy your company more.

People like talking about things they love.

I could talk about sewing and beekeeping all day.

14. If you’re looking for a certain type of person.

Who was your favorite figure that contributed to the fall of the Byzantine Empire?

13. That’s how you know whether to walk away.

Ask 3 questions

Ask them what they have done today

Ask a follow up question or relate it back to something if you can before asking a follow up (Did it take long? I use to do insert what crush did here. Was it difficult?)

If they gave an answer longer than a sentence, then ask them a question about themselves but have this set up beforehand depending on how long you have known this individual.

If they give a sentence answer, try another follow up question.

If they give one to two word answers, it means they’re either busy or not interested so you’re shit out of luck.

12. I can actually see how this could lead to a fairly hilarious conversation.

I don’t like sand.

11. To be fair, that’s an interesting topic.

A few years ago I ran into my crush and the only thing I could think to ask him about was to ask how much he knew about squatters rights law.

We’re married now. 10/10 would recommend this channel of discussion.

10. Anyone who can’t sympathize isn’t worth your time.

You heard about Pluto? It’s messed up, right?

9. Not enough people get asked this question as adults.

What is your favorite dinosaur?

8. You need to know right away what sort of person you’re dealing with.

Do you like cheese?

7. Listen – what a novel idea!

Compliment them on something they’ve accomplished not a physical trait they were born with. For example, don’t compliment their eyes but rather their running ability or singing etc. Then say you wanted to get to know them better. And then ask questions and listen. Good luck!

6. Things are classics for a reason.

How u doin’.

5. …so maybe we could watch the show together sometime?

“i wish they taught us more about vikings”

4. Go with what we all have in common.

Idk, I matched with a girl on Tinder and simply opened up with “How’s the apocalypse going?” and we had an amazing conversation.

3. Only use this if you’re a Psycho…

Do you like Phil Collins? I’ve been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn’t understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where Phil Collins’ presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group’s undisputed masterpiece. It’s an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Christy, take off your robe. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. Sabrina, remove your dress. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. Sabrina, why don’t you, uh, dance a little. Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as anything I’ve heard in rock. Christy, get down on your knees so Sabrina can see your asshole. Phil Collins’ solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and Against All Odds. Sabrina, don’t just stare at it, eat it. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is Sussudio, a great, great song, a personal favorite.

2. If this works just go ahead and propose.

Wanna see my Gundam collection?

1. It’s tried and true for a reason.

What music do you listen to?

If you can establish some common ground, you have an excuse for conversation whenever a new album you both like is released.

Ah, these take me back to the exciting/terrifying days of being single!

Do you think any of these would work? Do you have any tried-and-true approaches that do? Share with us in the comments!

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It can be difficult to approach someone you like, whether it’s a crush you’ve had for a while or someone you’ve spotted from across the room. Pickup lines are great…if they work.

If you don’t have a good one of your own and don’t want to fall back on cliches, check out these 14 pieces of advice (of varying degrees of seriousness, of course – this is Reddit!).

14. It’s a Sith legend, let me tell you about it.

Have you ever heard the tragedy of Darth Plagueis, the Wise?

13. Definitely avoid yes or no questions.

Presumably you already run in some circles with and/or know something of the interests of your crush.

When asking about your crush’s interests, avoid yes/no questions or list requests; instead, ask for explanations, insights or stories.

For example, rather than ask what your crush’s favorite movies or musicians are, ask how your crush became interested in a certain kind of music or the movies of a certain director or actor.

12. Definitely a good one right now.

What TV shows are you watching right now?

11. I’m pretty sure this is the premise of a Seinfeld episode.

capitalism or communism?. So you know what you’re dealing with

10. Like a job interview, but worse.

Step 1: Ask him/her what their biggest flaw is

Step 2: Interrupt him/her with something you think is lackluster.

Step 3: Offer several recommendations to fix said flaw

9. The question is fun, and the answer could actually tell you a lot about a person!

I do questions similar to a voight kompff test.

You receive a windfall of money, and can go on any trip anywhere in the world for a month. Where do you go and what do you do?

8. If you want to date someone who can bullshit like mad.

Take any object and debate on whether it’s a salad, a soup, or a sandwich

7. Do you like jazz?

Depending on the response you know everything you need to know. If they like jazz and/or if they like the Bee Movie. What more do you need to know.

6. This sounds…kinda douchey.

I’d always jokingly ask if she missed me. This annoys her so much she asks me something in return.

Cue a nice, old casual conversation between the two of us that usually lasts half an hour as that’s the time it takes for the next student to arrive and, depending on who it is, either joins the conversation, doesn’t care, or drags one of us away.

5. It must be a match made in heaven.

So we both got buckets of chicken…

4. This is such a hard question to answer.

Top 4 favorite movies of all time, it’s the best when it’s a movie you wouldn’t really expect from them or haven’t heard of.

3. All valid questions if you ask me.

What is your name?

What is your quest?

What is the air speed velocity of an unladen swallow?

2. I feel like this could go either way.

If she/he is quite attractive, during a conversation that involves a bit of more in-depth talk, like aspirations and what not, find a good way to segue into “What do you feel are 3 amazing things about you that have nothing to do with your looks”.

It’s a good one. Leaves a solid impression if you actually genuinely wish to know her/his feelings on themselves. They’ll remember it and that’s a good thing.

1. Bahahaha make them laugh.

Do you work at the zoo?

Because you look like a keeper.

We cannot be held responsible for what does or doesn’t happen if you pull any of these out of your pocket!

What’s your most effective pickup line? Funniest? Share it with us in the comments!

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