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Night Owls Talk About the Things They Love About Being Awake All Night

There are two kinds of people out there – people who love to get up early and get things done, and people who love to stay up late, work all night, and let the rest of us have the daylight hours to ourselves.

Well, I guess technically there are three kinds of people, because there are always those who would rather be night folks but are forced by society to operate in daylight hours. Boo for them.

If you’re a day person and wondering what it is that night people love so much about the dark, here are 18 people willing to share their very favorite things.

18. It just smells different.

Night air has a different smell, especially in Spring. Flowers, rain, wet earth… all smell different at night to me.

I feel the same about night winter air, particularly when it’s snowing. Everything is calm and quiet, with a slight glow from lights being reflected between houses and clouds, and the soft sound of snowflakes hitting the ground. I used to stand at my bathroom window for ages in the middle of the night, leaning on the windowsill and breathing in the crisp cold air that just smells like snow (if you know, you know), watching the snow fall, with the occasional snowflake making its way through the screen to hit my face.

Such a sense of peace, it slows down my brain and I can stop thinking for awhile, just enjoy the silence and totally relax. Best way to wind down for a good sleep, nothing can match it. I miss that.

17. It would be easier to work from home in the middle of the night, for sure.

I can do whatever I want without anyone interrupting me.

I wish I lived alone in the middle of nowhere so whatever ruckus I make wouldn’t bother anyone.

I have more energy at night than at daytime.

16. Even some flowers come out to play.

I have flowers that bloom at night, so I love to sit on my back porch in the middle of the night, listen to the crickets chirp, and seeing the moonlight reflect off of my garden. 0

There’s nobody else around, it’s quiet, and it’s the only time I feel at peace.

During the day I feel like I need to be productive, there’s traffic and people and kids playing and tons of stuff to do, but like right now, 1:30am, I can sit on my porch and just be.

15. Which is hard to find these days.

Nobody else is awake. It’s true privacy.

Cruising around town at some odd hour of the night is a serene experience. It’s almost surreal.

I do this pretty often. A lot of late nights at the studio or other places and then I’m on my way home at 2 or 3am, enjoying the peaceful drive.

It’s really something else.

14. The pull of the moon.

The peace and quiet, it’s cooler ( temperature wise ) and I love the moonlight shining in my room.

It’s the peace for me. Nothing is more relaxing than being alone to recharge and just exist. No entertaining or compromising, just you doing you

It’s like the inside version of a breath of fresh air.

I prefer the porous rock to the giant searing ball of hatred in the sky.

13. Peace abounds.

the general lack of people. I work 3rd shift, and unlike my daywalking cohorts, I can listen to a podcast and do paperwork in relative peace because there’s a solid 3 hours in the middle of the night where I am left the heck alone.

I work 1930-0800 with a small crew and can pop in earbuds or whatever. Then on days off, I could be found running on one of the random country roads around my house at 2am but it’s rare anyone is out there.

I usually just run in the moonlight and only turn on my headlamp if a car is coming. I like my solitude.

The pandemic has been just fine on me.

12. Just enjoy the present.

The calmness, the serenity.

The night drive with windows open, no music, just the sound of my tires hitting the ground.

Man i could hear the brakes sound, i could hear the wheel turn.

Night time is like, we forget the problem of the world and just enjoy the present.

11. As long as your neighbors sleep.

It’s so quiet. And peaceful.

It feels like during the day the world is so busy and chaotic. At night it’s all zen.

This is why I want a house… my neighbors in the apartment complex are so damn loud. On one side is a twitch streamer and she’s screaming at her games until 4 or 5am most days. Above me is a couple that works opposite shifts so there’s always someone awake listening to music, vacuuming, doing the dishes, or… moving furniture around I guess, in the middle of the night.

If I leave my bedroom window open for some cool air, I’ll probably end up hearing the couple across the way fighting in their bedroom, which then makes other people’s dogs start barking.

I really miss being able to stay up a bit late to get some peace and quiet. Now I gotta turn on all the fans and a white noise machine to drown everything else out enough to sleep.

10. Unrequited love.

The stars.

I’ve got a big crush on stars.

9. The wildlife is adorbs.

The quiet, the lack of people, the wildlife is more active.

There are possums (Australian possums) living in our roof, and at night they like come out and sit on the verandah railings. I love leaving the curtains open so I can watch them play. They’ve all got names, they’ve got their own personalities and quirks.

There’s a family of wombats living in a burrow under the garden shed, and a couple of wallabies that visit at night. We also get visits from flying foxes, owls, tawny frogmouths.

8. It’s a different world.

The calmness and quietness of the surroundings, especially when places that are usually crowded are completely empty.

7. The nighttime sounds are soothing.

I just love the serene feeling during the night.

The gentle sounds of crickets are calming to the ears.

6. Lots of heaven-gazers, here.

The night sky is a huge sell for me.

Especially storm season. That and less people around

5. It eases the anxiety.

No expectations.

Daytime feels like I’m expected to do productive life things.

Nighttime, all I have to do is be quiet and no one expects anything else from me.

I can knit or read for hours and not feel like I’m “wasting the day.”

4. If people just aren’t your thing.

Day people are all asleep. Stores aren’t crowded. Less traffic.

I always do my grocery shopping late at night, so much more peaceful.

I just turn on my headphones and wander around a close to empty store.

3. There is downtime for everyone.

I think I was always a night person vs a morning person.

But it only got to very much be the case after I started working in high-stress jobs with long hours. Where despite being exhausted, I would still stay up for a few more hours into the night than I should have just to watch TV or read or clean or anything. It was my way of carving out at least a few hours of my day that were entirely mine to control and to do what I wanted to do, even if I knew it would make me miserable in the morning.

(I also know for a lot of people the gym can be that period too, and even though I was obviously under no obligation to go to the gym and always felt better after, it never really felt like “me” time as much as something I still felt like I had to do to stay in shape)

2. Nothing is a waste of time.

You have no obligations and no one expects anything of you.

You can stare at a wall for three hours or count blades of grass on your lawn and you don’t feel like you’re wasting time.

i’ve started doing stretches outside in my yard at 1am and i just love the sound and feel of night— the owls hooting, the coyotes howling, the calm of the wind.

I love the stars and the moonlight, it’s like magic to me for 30 minutes

1. You can just relax.

Does anyone else feel anxious that they need to be doing something productive while the sun is out? At night I feel relaxed. Office is closed. Everyone is asleep. No one is going to bug me, and there’s nothing I can do about particular problems even if I wanted to, so no one is going to mind if I’m just here chilling out doing nothing… right?

Only time I’ve really been able to get work done since the pandemic started is at night. My parents have a dog that barks a lot and even with (cheap) noise cancelling headphones, I can still hear him. Before covid, I could at least go somewhere quieter to study. When he and my parents are asleep, I know he won’t be barking. Of course, I can’t do that if I need to be in a call, so I either need to mute my mic and get flack for not participating much, or let everyone hear him bark constantly.

I can definitely see the appeal, but with kids and school and a job, there are only a lucky few who can pull it off.

Are you a night owl? Early bird? Tell us your favorite part of the day in the comments!

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Night Owls Talk About the Things They Love About Being Awake All Night

There are two kinds of people out there – people who love to get up early and get things done, and people who love to stay up late, work all night, and let the rest of us have the daylight hours to ourselves.

Well, I guess technically there are three kinds of people, because there are always those who would rather be night folks but are forced by society to operate in daylight hours. Boo for them.

If you’re a day person and wondering what it is that night people love so much about the dark, here are 18 people willing to share their very favorite things.

18. It just smells different.

Night air has a different smell, especially in Spring. Flowers, rain, wet earth… all smell different at night to me.

I feel the same about night winter air, particularly when it’s snowing. Everything is calm and quiet, with a slight glow from lights being reflected between houses and clouds, and the soft sound of snowflakes hitting the ground. I used to stand at my bathroom window for ages in the middle of the night, leaning on the windowsill and breathing in the crisp cold air that just smells like snow (if you know, you know), watching the snow fall, with the occasional snowflake making its way through the screen to hit my face.

Such a sense of peace, it slows down my brain and I can stop thinking for awhile, just enjoy the silence and totally relax. Best way to wind down for a good sleep, nothing can match it. I miss that.

17. It would be easier to work from home in the middle of the night, for sure.

I can do whatever I want without anyone interrupting me.

I wish I lived alone in the middle of nowhere so whatever ruckus I make wouldn’t bother anyone.

I have more energy at night than at daytime.

16. Even some flowers come out to play.

I have flowers that bloom at night, so I love to sit on my back porch in the middle of the night, listen to the crickets chirp, and seeing the moonlight reflect off of my garden. 0

There’s nobody else around, it’s quiet, and it’s the only time I feel at peace.

During the day I feel like I need to be productive, there’s traffic and people and kids playing and tons of stuff to do, but like right now, 1:30am, I can sit on my porch and just be.

15. Which is hard to find these days.

Nobody else is awake. It’s true privacy.

Cruising around town at some odd hour of the night is a serene experience. It’s almost surreal.

I do this pretty often. A lot of late nights at the studio or other places and then I’m on my way home at 2 or 3am, enjoying the peaceful drive.

It’s really something else.

14. The pull of the moon.

The peace and quiet, it’s cooler ( temperature wise ) and I love the moonlight shining in my room.

It’s the peace for me. Nothing is more relaxing than being alone to recharge and just exist. No entertaining or compromising, just you doing you

It’s like the inside version of a breath of fresh air.

I prefer the porous rock to the giant searing ball of hatred in the sky.

13. Peace abounds.

the general lack of people. I work 3rd shift, and unlike my daywalking cohorts, I can listen to a podcast and do paperwork in relative peace because there’s a solid 3 hours in the middle of the night where I am left the heck alone.

I work 1930-0800 with a small crew and can pop in earbuds or whatever. Then on days off, I could be found running on one of the random country roads around my house at 2am but it’s rare anyone is out there.

I usually just run in the moonlight and only turn on my headlamp if a car is coming. I like my solitude.

The pandemic has been just fine on me.

12. Just enjoy the present.

The calmness, the serenity.

The night drive with windows open, no music, just the sound of my tires hitting the ground.

Man i could hear the brakes sound, i could hear the wheel turn.

Night time is like, we forget the problem of the world and just enjoy the present.

11. As long as your neighbors sleep.

It’s so quiet. And peaceful.

It feels like during the day the world is so busy and chaotic. At night it’s all zen.

This is why I want a house… my neighbors in the apartment complex are so damn loud. On one side is a twitch streamer and she’s screaming at her games until 4 or 5am most days. Above me is a couple that works opposite shifts so there’s always someone awake listening to music, vacuuming, doing the dishes, or… moving furniture around I guess, in the middle of the night.

If I leave my bedroom window open for some cool air, I’ll probably end up hearing the couple across the way fighting in their bedroom, which then makes other people’s dogs start barking.

I really miss being able to stay up a bit late to get some peace and quiet. Now I gotta turn on all the fans and a white noise machine to drown everything else out enough to sleep.

10. Unrequited love.

The stars.

I’ve got a big crush on stars.

9. The wildlife is adorbs.

The quiet, the lack of people, the wildlife is more active.

There are possums (Australian possums) living in our roof, and at night they like come out and sit on the verandah railings. I love leaving the curtains open so I can watch them play. They’ve all got names, they’ve got their own personalities and quirks.

There’s a family of wombats living in a burrow under the garden shed, and a couple of wallabies that visit at night. We also get visits from flying foxes, owls, tawny frogmouths.

8. It’s a different world.

The calmness and quietness of the surroundings, especially when places that are usually crowded are completely empty.

7. The nighttime sounds are soothing.

I just love the serene feeling during the night.

The gentle sounds of crickets are calming to the ears.

6. Lots of heaven-gazers, here.

The night sky is a huge sell for me.

Especially storm season. That and less people around

5. It eases the anxiety.

No expectations.

Daytime feels like I’m expected to do productive life things.

Nighttime, all I have to do is be quiet and no one expects anything else from me.

I can knit or read for hours and not feel like I’m “wasting the day.”

4. If people just aren’t your thing.

Day people are all asleep. Stores aren’t crowded. Less traffic.

I always do my grocery shopping late at night, so much more peaceful.

I just turn on my headphones and wander around a close to empty store.

3. There is downtime for everyone.

I think I was always a night person vs a morning person.

But it only got to very much be the case after I started working in high-stress jobs with long hours. Where despite being exhausted, I would still stay up for a few more hours into the night than I should have just to watch TV or read or clean or anything. It was my way of carving out at least a few hours of my day that were entirely mine to control and to do what I wanted to do, even if I knew it would make me miserable in the morning.

(I also know for a lot of people the gym can be that period too, and even though I was obviously under no obligation to go to the gym and always felt better after, it never really felt like “me” time as much as something I still felt like I had to do to stay in shape)

2. Nothing is a waste of time.

You have no obligations and no one expects anything of you.

You can stare at a wall for three hours or count blades of grass on your lawn and you don’t feel like you’re wasting time.

i’ve started doing stretches outside in my yard at 1am and i just love the sound and feel of night— the owls hooting, the coyotes howling, the calm of the wind.

I love the stars and the moonlight, it’s like magic to me for 30 minutes

1. You can just relax.

Does anyone else feel anxious that they need to be doing something productive while the sun is out? At night I feel relaxed. Office is closed. Everyone is asleep. No one is going to bug me, and there’s nothing I can do about particular problems even if I wanted to, so no one is going to mind if I’m just here chilling out doing nothing… right?

Only time I’ve really been able to get work done since the pandemic started is at night. My parents have a dog that barks a lot and even with (cheap) noise cancelling headphones, I can still hear him. Before covid, I could at least go somewhere quieter to study. When he and my parents are asleep, I know he won’t be barking. Of course, I can’t do that if I need to be in a call, so I either need to mute my mic and get flack for not participating much, or let everyone hear him bark constantly.

I can definitely see the appeal, but with kids and school and a job, there are only a lucky few who can pull it off.

Are you a night owl? Early bird? Tell us your favorite part of the day in the comments!

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People Talk About When Their Gut Feeling Turned Out to Be Right

Life can be a game of inches sometimes.

And a lot of it comes down to decisions that we make at various forks in the road where we can take one or two paths.

And if I’ve learned one thing, it’s that you gotta listen to your gut. ALWAYS.

When did your gut feeling turn out to be right?

AskReddit users shared their stories.

1. GTFO.

“Last time I was hired for a job. Had it during the final interview with my soon-to-be boss.

My gut told me to GTFO even though everything about that job seemed great. To be fair, in the first few days is was, but then the reality of how poorly organized everything is came crashing down on me and my enthusiasm for working in a toxic environment that was being fueled by boss’s incompetence was gone.

Ended up quitting after two months.”

2. Ouch.

“A few years back I was dating a girl who went camping with “a friend” for a couple weeks, I didn’t mind cause I trusted her.

But I started to get a gut feeling she was cheating on me while she was gone. Shortly before she was supposed to come back into town she called and dumped me over the phone.

Bonus points since I had literally just had brain surgery that she didn’t bother to come back into town for.”

3. Scam.

“I was about to go to ITT Tech. I spoke to a bunch of teachers there. NONE of them seemed to know anything about basic computer stuff. Part of me was thinking these people don’t know what they’re talking about….but maybe I’m just crazy.

A month or two later, they shut down all the schools. When i decided not to go, my family berated me and called me lazy. I explained that school could not offer me any kind of education that would help me.

None of them are computer literate and they they though they could tell ME what I needed/wanted. pfft. When the news came out, and i showed them, they just shrugged it off like they never tried to convince me and berate into going to a scam school.”

4. OMG.

“I’m 14 and was all alone in a dirt path in India and some guy was just sitting on a rock in the middle of the forest.

I didn’t make eye contact but I could see he was crying I wanted to help but my gut told me not to.

3 days later was caught for m**dering his wife and 5 year old daughter.”

5. Close call.

“15 years ago.

My wife and I were leaving the house to drive several hours to go see her brother. We both looked at each other and admitted that something felt…off. No real reason, it just did. Weird, right?

2 ½ hours later, doing 70 odd mph eastbound on I-80 and a tire & wheel landed square in the middle of the hood of our brand new car.”

6. Unhinged.

“My cousin introduced me to her “friend” and I told her idk I dont really like him he seemed nice but he gives off a really weird vibe.

I think I even avoided shaking his hand, I coughed into it and said sorry I need to wash my hands.

Later found out she was dating him and he was abusive and threatened to k**l her and was unhinged.”

7. Horrible.

“Worked with an older guy, he was quiet/skittish, and polite. He strived to be helpful as the work was very group/teamwork oriented.

I couldn’t stand him. I loathed working with him, I even felt the whisper of an urge to fight the d**n guy – and I’m an average-small chick. Very out of character for me, I am absurdly non-confrontational.

My feelings and reaction to the guy puzzled both my husband and I. He would often tell me the dude has never done or said anything to me off color, and he’s right. I still couldn’t like the guy.

One day the coworker doesn’t show up, which is unusual since he almost never called out or was ever late. Later we catch sight of him on the news, busted for an extensive child p**n ring.

Guess my gut knew. On the plus side, I get to gleefully hate any one I want without reason and my husband can’t argue against it.”

8. The accident.

“When I was 14 in the summer before high school, my family lived on the outskirts of town. One night I heard sirens, and naturally as a Midwesterner, I went onto the porch to see what I could see.

It was ambulances, fire trucks and police cars, speeding past my house farther out of town. I had a horrible feeling I’d never had before, gut wrenching.

It turned out to be correct. I learned the next morning that my friend had d**d after being ejected through the windshield onto a fence post.”

9. Scary incident.

“Living in Seattle, running to catch a bus. Just about to catch it and suddenly I thought STOP AND my body just stopped. I let the bus go. I was pi**ed that I missed the bus.

2 stops after mine a guy got on the bus and shot the driver. The bus went off a bridge and landed on an apartment building. Ki**ed a couple people.”

10. Summer camp.

“Was the first day of a summer camp.

Something felt off and my stomach got queasy immediately after getting out of the car. I was told I’d be sleeping with about 14 other boys my age under a old, crusty, tent with no floor, or screen door to keep bugs out during the hottest and most humid month in recent years. I asked to go to the bathroom because I was feeling sick.

Then I told my dad who was with me that I had a stomachache and that I needed to go home. We packed our things and left. My dad told me as we got in the car “thank goodness you felt it was off there too and I didn’t feel comfortable with you in the crappy tent while I was in a cabin almost 2 miles away.”

A massive storm hit the campsite that night, possible tornadoes in the area too, after everything calmed down there the cabins and buildings were untouched while things like the tent I would’ve been asleep in wasn’t even on the camp grounds anymore.

Thanks gut feeling.”

11. Armed robbery.

“A few years back I was babysitting my niece and nephew while their parents went out for date night. It was later in the evening and everything was quiet outside, but I had this overwhelming feeling of dread and anxiety that something bad was going to happen.

I locked all the doors and windows and made sure the kids were safe while I paced the house waiting for the feeling to subside. Not 5 minutes later I get an emergency alert on my phone (we were bordering a college campus) that there had been an armed robbery not 2 blocks from my location. That event gave me more trust in my gut instinct than anything to this day.”

12. You knew.

“I was 26 (roughly 10 years ago) and went on a date with a very successful property developer. He held my hand so strongly it actually hurt and when we kissed goodnight I felt sick.

Didn’t go on another date with him and he was in the news recently for family v**lence/stalking and then st**bing his ex fiancée.”

13. Totally crazy.

“So me and my family were helping out my stepdad daughter (she’s 30 btw and has been on drugs for a while) and she had claimed shed been sober with her boyfriend, at first I payed no mind to them or her boyfriend at all because it wasn’t really my business anyway.

I started getting a bad vibe from her boyfriend after a while, come to find out he was actually wanted and was a hard career criminal and was robbing people behind our backs and,selling the stolen stuff, pretty crazy if u ask me.”

Have you ever trusted your gut and it turned out to be a good thing?

If so, tell us your stories in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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People Discuss the “Bad Guys” From History They Think Were Actually Okay

They say that history is written by the victors…

And yes, a lot of history’s “bad guys” have that reputation because they were terrible people, but there are some men and women from the past who have gotten a raw deal in the history books.

What “bad guys” from history are getting a bad rap?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts.

1. Russian leader.

“Khrushchev was actually the bigger man during the Cuban missile crisis.

He initiated the negotiations and even let Kennedy look like the hero by keeping America’s side of the bargain secret.

Not to mention all the measures he took afterwards to prevent something like it from happening again.”

2. Chamberlain.

“This is a complicated one, and not necessarily “okay,” but Neville Chamberlain is a fairly good example of this.

For context, Chamberlain is generally known (notoriously) as being the prime minister prior to WW2 that ‘let Germany rise to power through appeasement.’ Because of this he’s seen as weak, and virtually the poster-child tagged tethered to the quote “all it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”

In actuality, if you dive into history of the time, in the late thirties the UK was so wildly behind Germany’s war machine that there wasn’t anything they could do that wouldn’t be blatant suicide; their manufacturing was leagues behind, and their front was in no way organized.

So during the time of appeasement behind Chamberlain, the UK was rapidly building up its armies and navies in attempt to compete and, well, not get utterly flattened, which of course ultimately led to victory against the Axis. But during the time of appeasement as the armies were built, yes, he was viewed as weak and cowardly as a result.”

3. Here’s a hot take.

“Brutus.

He’s gone down as committing one of history’s greatest betrayals, but what he actually did was choose his Republican ideals over a man he personally loved (who had sparked a civil war with an illegal invasion of Italy, and was unquestionably acting like an autocrat).”

4. Interesting.

“Draft dodgers in Vietnam.

They have forever been painted as cowards or traitors but let’s be honest they didn’t believe in the fight/want to d**.

I am a combat vet myself and it took me a lot of years to realize this.

Hell I no longer know what the point of Vietnam, Afghanistan, or Iraq were (minus the rich getting richer).”

5. Bombshell.

“Marilyn Monroe.

A lot of people think she was just a vapid s**t, when she was really a kind and powerful woman who used her talents to get to the top.

She was a bit promiscuous, but since when does being s**ual make you a bad person?

She was also against rac**m before it was popular.”

6. Nero.

“Nero has been vilified as an evil tyrant who burned Rome down while he played the lyre, had Christians covered in pitch and set alight to act as torches for his gardens and overall has been portrayed as an insane lunatic who was deeply depraved.

He certainly wasn’t a saint, as he did have his own mother m**dered, but Nero, like Caligula, were both slandered by the Senatorial class, who despised both of them.

Nero was actually relatively well-liked by Roman commoners and while he probably wasn’t the best ruler, he is not the borderline villainous monster he is portrayed to be in the media. And his fiddling while Rome burned is most definitely made up.

It’s funny because Constantine the Great, who is venerated by Christendom, actually boiled his wife alive in a bathtub, but you never hear anything about that… hmm.”

7. Grant.

“Not a bad person, but I feel like Ulysses S Grant is seen as one of America’s worst presidents and I dont know why.

He tried his best to oversee reconstruction and was undermined, hired a lot of black people to his staff, he appointed Sherman General-In-chief, called for better treatment of the native Americans, and signed the legislation for Yellowstone Park. I get the feeling his hatred was disseminated from the South, as was love for Robert E. Lee.

Also, his whole reputation for being an al**holic was bulls**t too. Most accounts was that he wasn’t a drunkard, its just when he would get drunk, he’d get WASTED, because he was a lightweight when it came to drinking.

He was kind of anti-semitic, but he didn’t try to k**l Jews or deny them rights- He had an admittedly ra**st notion that Jews were en masse involved in the slave trade. There were some, but actually more Jews fought for the north than the south. But thats excusable.”

8. Were they extremists?

“Fred Hampton and the Black Panthers.

They’ve been smeared as “extremists” by the usual suspects for fifty years, but I’ve read that the Panthers had health clinics, fed the hungry and did a lot more for their community than the f**king cops.”

9. Abolitionist.

“John Brown.

Usually omitted in American textbooks and all but ignored by modern government (compared to commemorations of other notable Americans), even though he was one of the most famous Americans of his time and the raid he led (Harper’s Ferry) was one of the final straws leading up to the Civil War.

In some textbooks in southern states, he is still referred to as a treasonous lunatic (which he was, if you were a slave owner or fighting on behalf of slave owners).

In reality he was an abolitionist of the highest integrity (even if judged by modern standards), a constitutional literalist, and considered it his mission from god to dismantle the abomination of slavery.

He was the first American ever convicted of and hanged for treason, which should be yet another reminder of this country’s legacy of white supremacy and nightmarish civil rights record.

Frederick Douglass called him “a brave and glorious old man. History has no better illustration of pure, disinterested benevolence.”

In my opinion, the erasure of John Brown from American education is almost as great a crime as vilification.”

10. Times have changed.

“Al Jolson.

Guy was basically the king of blackface in the 1930’s. Although at the time no one saw him as a bad guy, many modern people would consider him as having made a career off of racist portrayals of black people.

While blackface was his schtick, he was actually a big fan of black music and entertainers and would regularly help out black artists in the industry when almost no other white people would do so.”

11. Take some time with this one.

“Benedict Arnold’s name is synonymous with “traitor” but his actual story is pretty complicated.

He was born in Connecticut to a family who was basically American nobility. His great-grandfather had come from England in 1635 and went on to become the governor of the Colony of Rhode Island, and by the time Arnold was born his family was “old money” in America.

Arnold was told for much of his youth that he’d go to Yale. Unfortunately his father drank their entire fortune away, and Arnold himself had to start from scratch and support his family. He obtained apprenticeships with an apothecary and merchant and went on to become a very successful businessman. That was only the beginning.

The Sugar Act of 1764 and the Stamp Act of 1765 put his business at risk and he resorted to open smuggling to save his fortune and publicly protest the extra taxes, solidly on the American side of the debate. He also joined the Sons of Liberty.

In 1775 when the Revolutionary War was beginning he signed on to the militia and was made Captain, and immediately suggested an attempt to take Fort Ticonderoga, which he was instrumental in doing. After the capture he found out his wife had d**d earlier that same month.

He then suggested an invasion of Quebec, but was passed over to lead the expedition in favor of Philip Schuyler (father of the famous Schuyler Sisters for all you Hamilton fans out there), so he pressed to be allowed to join the invasion by moving toward Quebec City.

He was allowed that post, but it was a grueling journey that lost him some men, and their contracts being close to expiring forced him to press an unsuccessful attack that resulted in his left leg being shattered.

Then he was assigned to manage the defense of Rhode Island, and passed over for a promotion to Major General while five of his juniors were promoted above him. He discovered the British were headed to Connecticut and lead a contingent of militia to stop or slow them down, his left leg was injured again.

Due to those actions he was promoted to Major General, but not given equal or senior rank to those promoted before him. He attempted to resign but George Washington refused his resignation.

In 1777 he disobeyed orders and took to the battlefield in the Battles of Saratoga and was considered instrumental in the American’s major victory there. He sustained more major damage to his left leg. Congress gave him the seniority he felt entitled to when initially promoted, but Major Horatio Gates took most of the credit for the victory, even though he’d ordered Arnold not to attack.

Due to the extreme damage it had sustained over the years, Arnold’s leg was poorly set, which resulted in it being 2 inches shorter than his right leg. While recovering from his injuries he was sent to be military commander of Philadelphia, a city that had been strongly occupied, and recently evacuated, by the British. The city was extremely politically divided.

While there he came up with various business propositions in the hopes of encouraging the local economy and maybe building some of what he’d lost during the war. He was publicly accused of abusing his position, and was court-martialed and convicted of two minor charges, despite it being fairly common practice for officers to make business dealings in war trade.

In general all those beneath him thought he was a valiant war hero, and many equal to and above him thought he was outspoken and whiny, but still in many cases a war hero. His constant unreserved politics and self-advocation made him difficult to like, and so there were those who didn’t like him. There were even smear campaigns organized over the years. George Washington was among those who liked him a lot, but Arnold was starting to feel he’d been kicked too many times.

Bitter about his personal lot in life and disenchanted with the direction America was moving in, it was about here that he started to consider changing sides.

Of course it can be hotly debated, but he’s not as black and white as most people think.”

12. Total BS.

“William Bligh, of Mutiny on the Bounty fame.

In pretty much every movie adaption of the story, Bligh is depicted as a cruel slave-driver who has men mercilessly whipped for the slightest infraction, and the crew finally had enough of his tyranny and mutinied.

Utter and complete bullsh**t.

In reality, Bligh was notably easy on his men for the day, and there is no record he ever ordered a flogging. He was known to allow men on watch in bad weather to come and warm up inside his own cabin. He and Fletcher Christian had been long-time BFFs before the Bounty.

The mutiny happened because after long, hard months at sea, the Bounty had a five-month layover in the tropical paradise of Tahiti, where many men in the crew began to live ashore with native women, and military discipline started to come unglued.

Bligh had to enforce increasingly-harsh restrictions, because the natives were eager for any sort of trade, and to get a little native tail, sailors were actually pulling nails out of the ship for trade. He came down hard on Christian because it was his duty to keep the crew in line and he was failing at it.

So Christian and about half the crew mutinied, and set Bligh and 18 followers adrift in a small, dangerously-overloaded boat. In one of the most mind-boggling feats of survival seamanship in history, Bligh managed to navigate the boat some 3,500 miles to safety.”

Who do you think has gotten a raw deal in history?

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People Discuss the “Bad Guys” From History They Think Were Actually Okay

They say that history is written by the victors…

And yes, a lot of history’s “bad guys” have that reputation because they were terrible people, but there are some men and women from the past who have gotten a raw deal in the history books.

What “bad guys” from history are getting a bad rap?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts.

1. Russian leader.

“Khrushchev was actually the bigger man during the Cuban missile crisis.

He initiated the negotiations and even let Kennedy look like the hero by keeping America’s side of the bargain secret.

Not to mention all the measures he took afterwards to prevent something like it from happening again.”

2. Chamberlain.

“This is a complicated one, and not necessarily “okay,” but Neville Chamberlain is a fairly good example of this.

For context, Chamberlain is generally known (notoriously) as being the prime minister prior to WW2 that ‘let Germany rise to power through appeasement.’ Because of this he’s seen as weak, and virtually the poster-child tagged tethered to the quote “all it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”

In actuality, if you dive into history of the time, in the late thirties the UK was so wildly behind Germany’s war machine that there wasn’t anything they could do that wouldn’t be blatant suicide; their manufacturing was leagues behind, and their front was in no way organized.

So during the time of appeasement behind Chamberlain, the UK was rapidly building up its armies and navies in attempt to compete and, well, not get utterly flattened, which of course ultimately led to victory against the Axis. But during the time of appeasement as the armies were built, yes, he was viewed as weak and cowardly as a result.”

3. Here’s a hot take.

“Brutus.

He’s gone down as committing one of history’s greatest betrayals, but what he actually did was choose his Republican ideals over a man he personally loved (who had sparked a civil war with an illegal invasion of Italy, and was unquestionably acting like an autocrat).”

4. Interesting.

“Draft dodgers in Vietnam.

They have forever been painted as cowards or traitors but let’s be honest they didn’t believe in the fight/want to d**.

I am a combat vet myself and it took me a lot of years to realize this.

Hell I no longer know what the point of Vietnam, Afghanistan, or Iraq were (minus the rich getting richer).”

5. Bombshell.

“Marilyn Monroe.

A lot of people think she was just a vapid s**t, when she was really a kind and powerful woman who used her talents to get to the top.

She was a bit promiscuous, but since when does being s**ual make you a bad person?

She was also against rac**m before it was popular.”

6. Nero.

“Nero has been vilified as an evil tyrant who burned Rome down while he played the lyre, had Christians covered in pitch and set alight to act as torches for his gardens and overall has been portrayed as an insane lunatic who was deeply depraved.

He certainly wasn’t a saint, as he did have his own mother m**dered, but Nero, like Caligula, were both slandered by the Senatorial class, who despised both of them.

Nero was actually relatively well-liked by Roman commoners and while he probably wasn’t the best ruler, he is not the borderline villainous monster he is portrayed to be in the media. And his fiddling while Rome burned is most definitely made up.

It’s funny because Constantine the Great, who is venerated by Christendom, actually boiled his wife alive in a bathtub, but you never hear anything about that… hmm.”

7. Grant.

“Not a bad person, but I feel like Ulysses S Grant is seen as one of America’s worst presidents and I dont know why.

He tried his best to oversee reconstruction and was undermined, hired a lot of black people to his staff, he appointed Sherman General-In-chief, called for better treatment of the native Americans, and signed the legislation for Yellowstone Park. I get the feeling his hatred was disseminated from the South, as was love for Robert E. Lee.

Also, his whole reputation for being an al**holic was bulls**t too. Most accounts was that he wasn’t a drunkard, its just when he would get drunk, he’d get WASTED, because he was a lightweight when it came to drinking.

He was kind of anti-semitic, but he didn’t try to k**l Jews or deny them rights- He had an admittedly ra**st notion that Jews were en masse involved in the slave trade. There were some, but actually more Jews fought for the north than the south. But thats excusable.”

8. Were they extremists?

“Fred Hampton and the Black Panthers.

They’ve been smeared as “extremists” by the usual suspects for fifty years, but I’ve read that the Panthers had health clinics, fed the hungry and did a lot more for their community than the f**king cops.”

9. Abolitionist.

“John Brown.

Usually omitted in American textbooks and all but ignored by modern government (compared to commemorations of other notable Americans), even though he was one of the most famous Americans of his time and the raid he led (Harper’s Ferry) was one of the final straws leading up to the Civil War.

In some textbooks in southern states, he is still referred to as a treasonous lunatic (which he was, if you were a slave owner or fighting on behalf of slave owners).

In reality he was an abolitionist of the highest integrity (even if judged by modern standards), a constitutional literalist, and considered it his mission from god to dismantle the abomination of slavery.

He was the first American ever convicted of and hanged for treason, which should be yet another reminder of this country’s legacy of white supremacy and nightmarish civil rights record.

Frederick Douglass called him “a brave and glorious old man. History has no better illustration of pure, disinterested benevolence.”

In my opinion, the erasure of John Brown from American education is almost as great a crime as vilification.”

10. Times have changed.

“Al Jolson.

Guy was basically the king of blackface in the 1930’s. Although at the time no one saw him as a bad guy, many modern people would consider him as having made a career off of racist portrayals of black people.

While blackface was his schtick, he was actually a big fan of black music and entertainers and would regularly help out black artists in the industry when almost no other white people would do so.”

11. Take some time with this one.

“Benedict Arnold’s name is synonymous with “traitor” but his actual story is pretty complicated.

He was born in Connecticut to a family who was basically American nobility. His great-grandfather had come from England in 1635 and went on to become the governor of the Colony of Rhode Island, and by the time Arnold was born his family was “old money” in America.

Arnold was told for much of his youth that he’d go to Yale. Unfortunately his father drank their entire fortune away, and Arnold himself had to start from scratch and support his family. He obtained apprenticeships with an apothecary and merchant and went on to become a very successful businessman. That was only the beginning.

The Sugar Act of 1764 and the Stamp Act of 1765 put his business at risk and he resorted to open smuggling to save his fortune and publicly protest the extra taxes, solidly on the American side of the debate. He also joined the Sons of Liberty.

In 1775 when the Revolutionary War was beginning he signed on to the militia and was made Captain, and immediately suggested an attempt to take Fort Ticonderoga, which he was instrumental in doing. After the capture he found out his wife had d**d earlier that same month.

He then suggested an invasion of Quebec, but was passed over to lead the expedition in favor of Philip Schuyler (father of the famous Schuyler Sisters for all you Hamilton fans out there), so he pressed to be allowed to join the invasion by moving toward Quebec City.

He was allowed that post, but it was a grueling journey that lost him some men, and their contracts being close to expiring forced him to press an unsuccessful attack that resulted in his left leg being shattered.

Then he was assigned to manage the defense of Rhode Island, and passed over for a promotion to Major General while five of his juniors were promoted above him. He discovered the British were headed to Connecticut and lead a contingent of militia to stop or slow them down, his left leg was injured again.

Due to those actions he was promoted to Major General, but not given equal or senior rank to those promoted before him. He attempted to resign but George Washington refused his resignation.

In 1777 he disobeyed orders and took to the battlefield in the Battles of Saratoga and was considered instrumental in the American’s major victory there. He sustained more major damage to his left leg. Congress gave him the seniority he felt entitled to when initially promoted, but Major Horatio Gates took most of the credit for the victory, even though he’d ordered Arnold not to attack.

Due to the extreme damage it had sustained over the years, Arnold’s leg was poorly set, which resulted in it being 2 inches shorter than his right leg. While recovering from his injuries he was sent to be military commander of Philadelphia, a city that had been strongly occupied, and recently evacuated, by the British. The city was extremely politically divided.

While there he came up with various business propositions in the hopes of encouraging the local economy and maybe building some of what he’d lost during the war. He was publicly accused of abusing his position, and was court-martialed and convicted of two minor charges, despite it being fairly common practice for officers to make business dealings in war trade.

In general all those beneath him thought he was a valiant war hero, and many equal to and above him thought he was outspoken and whiny, but still in many cases a war hero. His constant unreserved politics and self-advocation made him difficult to like, and so there were those who didn’t like him. There were even smear campaigns organized over the years. George Washington was among those who liked him a lot, but Arnold was starting to feel he’d been kicked too many times.

Bitter about his personal lot in life and disenchanted with the direction America was moving in, it was about here that he started to consider changing sides.

Of course it can be hotly debated, but he’s not as black and white as most people think.”

12. Total BS.

“William Bligh, of Mutiny on the Bounty fame.

In pretty much every movie adaption of the story, Bligh is depicted as a cruel slave-driver who has men mercilessly whipped for the slightest infraction, and the crew finally had enough of his tyranny and mutinied.

Utter and complete bullsh**t.

In reality, Bligh was notably easy on his men for the day, and there is no record he ever ordered a flogging. He was known to allow men on watch in bad weather to come and warm up inside his own cabin. He and Fletcher Christian had been long-time BFFs before the Bounty.

The mutiny happened because after long, hard months at sea, the Bounty had a five-month layover in the tropical paradise of Tahiti, where many men in the crew began to live ashore with native women, and military discipline started to come unglued.

Bligh had to enforce increasingly-harsh restrictions, because the natives were eager for any sort of trade, and to get a little native tail, sailors were actually pulling nails out of the ship for trade. He came down hard on Christian because it was his duty to keep the crew in line and he was failing at it.

So Christian and about half the crew mutinied, and set Bligh and 18 followers adrift in a small, dangerously-overloaded boat. In one of the most mind-boggling feats of survival seamanship in history, Bligh managed to navigate the boat some 3,500 miles to safety.”

Who do you think has gotten a raw deal in history?

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How Do You Take Selfies When You Feel Awkward About Them? People Share Their Feelings.

Selfies have become ubiquitous, and as someone who grew up in the 1980s and still kind of has a weird relationship with photographs of herself, I’ve gotta say, I don’t hate it. Confidence is beautiful, and being about to see a photo of yourself and not only smile, but want to share it, could never be a bad thing.

That said, it can still be hard for some people to get there – and this guy finds the whole process so awkward he can’t even snap one, never mind sharing them online.

Anybody else feel super cringey when taking selfies and therefore take none? from NoStupidQuestions

He wants to know if he’s not alone, so Reddit’s No Stupid Question forum is the place to be!

15. Is anyone looking?

I always try to hide that I’m doing it, if I do it at all haha.

I took a plant selfie not long ago. I turned beet red in the face when I asked my husband to help me take the photo. I even lashed out at him when he told me how cute that was because I didn’t like that he was “making it a thing”. When I was totally making it a thing….

14. Do it for your mom.

I feel too vain when I take selfies… then end up having like no pictures of myself for my mom.

I’ve had a few girlfriends now that have tried to help me shake my hate. Even after breaking up a few have recommended taking my mom out to different spots (she loved spending time with me more than anything).

When I asked to take pictures with her she was beaming… I’m tearing up just typing this… Actually I just ugly cried for a bit.

I need to tell my mom.

13. Being silly works every time.

The only way I have ever taken the very few selfies I have is if it’s a silly one. That way I feel like “haha see, I’m not taking myself seriously with this”. Feels like it aligns more with who I am.

Social media selfie posts are so prevalent that I was just wondering if there were other people who feel the way I do. Clone #1564 confirmed.

12. Yeah you do.

I am not photogenic so I have never taken a selfie in all of my many years on this earth until last year. I must have been bored or something because I put on makeup which I don’t usually do and took some selfies that included my dogs. I was pleasantly surprised how the photos turned out. I didn’t even really know how to take a selfie.

I posted the pics on Facebook and everyone complimented me on them. The people I have known since high school hadn’t seen me since high school so they really liked my photos. The friends I have made over the years and have never met in person liked my photos as well. In fact, when I said how old I am they couldn’t believe it.

One guy was like, “no way!!!” Yep. I guess I look pretty good for an old lady. Lol.

11. It does take practice.

Yes! I feel like I look awful in any picture, TBH. One eye squinted shut, weird pasted-on smile, awkward posture…like, every single time. Can’t seem to look natural or relaxed in a picture. So I figure if I’m gonna look bad, I may as well be obvious about it and look bad on purpose. I’m not exaggerating when I say that there are more pictures of me with goofy faces than “nice” faces.

Selfies are just…100x worse, for some reason. Take all those issues from above, and then make it look just plain bad. I don’t know why my (very few) selfies have turned out absolutely terrible, but that’s how it is. I’m sure I’m overly-critical of myself, but even putting that aside, I honestly cannot figure out how to get a selfie to turn out ok. So I just don’t do them, except in very rare cases.

10. Also, do it for your kids.

The only reason I can stomach the occasional picture is so my kids know what I looked like back in the day because my parents have hardly any pictures from their youth and It makes it harder to connect… if that makes sense.

9. This makes me sad.

All the time, I never see my pics and think, “hey I look good in this one.” So I assume other people see me the same way and I don’t care to have other people see my flawed face.

Same for me. I can’t stand to look at myself in pictures or videos. For video conferences/Teams meeting, I use my avatar.

But I’m ok with my face in the mirror when I wash up/comb my hair/brush my teeth.

Go figure.

8. Don’t worry about what people think.

You just gotta not care what other people think. I have this problem too.

If I’m feeling particularly confident and attractive, then yeah I kinda wanna post a selfie. Who cares if it’s for attention – it’s human nature to want to attract positive attention sometimes.

So who cares if someone thinks “omg Stacy just wants attention from her selfie” like yeah maybe Stacy is depressed and wants some positive attention who cares?

7. Other people really don’t think that much about you.

You need to realize people don’t care about your appearance. Life’s too short to be afraid of showing your face in social media. I used to be like you until I finally got the courage to use a real pic of me and found out people either will ignore you or type something nice but never will type something mean or rude.

And I am sure you are not ugly but just lack self confidence.

6. Come up with a reason.

I used to as well. But recently I started taking selfies to show off my weird graphic t shirt collection (fish with gun, raccoon with “eat trash hail Satan”, etc.) and honestly having a “reason” for the selfie makes me feel better.

I’m a dancer so most of my pics and videos of me are me dancing and I just want pictures of me doing other things. For myself and for my family.

5. It can depend on who your friends are.

It can also depend how normalized it is in your social circles and social environment. If people around you, your friends and family all did it on a regular basis you’d probably worry less.

I have a mixture of friends. Some take, some don’t.

4. Have a little confidence.

I think it speaks to our lack of ego.

The entire concept of selfies is so self indulgent, I think it’s so weird how often people stare at their own face. Like I couldn’t think of a less interesting picture to look at than one of just somebodies face. But people crave that validation from others so it stuck.

I wish people could be happy on their own.

3. But also, don’t judge others.

Love that for you but it doesn’t mean selfies are inherently bad or egotistical.

People hate themselves daily but when they finally feel good enough to appreciate their appearance, it’s wrong?

If you don’t wanna see selfies on your timeline then dont follow people who take selfies.

You shouldn’t need to invalidate how certain people choose to express their confidence in order to make yourself feel better.

That’s not a lack of ego, it’s just being a jerk.

2. If it makes you happy.

I used to feel that way but then I saw people doing “duck lips” and I tried and each time I ended up laughing , that ended up turning out to produce pictures of me happy and smiling and I started to enjoy seeing those moments.

I’m glad those trends have died, I couldn’t with those faces. Smiling is classic, can’t beat it.

1. OP is definitely not alone.

Me too. I also can’t film myself talking like everyone seems to do these days. I just feel cringy walking and talking to a phone.

Literally started photography because I hated being in photos. If people think you’re good at taking photos they won’t question it when you volunteer to take it instead of being in the photo.

I fall somewhere in the middle on this – sometimes getting a selfie I like feels impossible, but other times it’s fun to share.

If you also hate selfies, tell us how you get around those feelings (if you do) in the comments!

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How Do You Take Selfies When You Feel Awkward About Them? People Share Their Feelings.

Selfies have become ubiquitous, and as someone who grew up in the 1980s and still kind of has a weird relationship with photographs of herself, I’ve gotta say, I don’t hate it. Confidence is beautiful, and being about to see a photo of yourself and not only smile, but want to share it, could never be a bad thing.

That said, it can still be hard for some people to get there – and this guy finds the whole process so awkward he can’t even snap one, never mind sharing them online.

Anybody else feel super cringey when taking selfies and therefore take none? from NoStupidQuestions

He wants to know if he’s not alone, so Reddit’s No Stupid Question forum is the place to be!

15. Is anyone looking?

I always try to hide that I’m doing it, if I do it at all haha.

I took a plant selfie not long ago. I turned beet red in the face when I asked my husband to help me take the photo. I even lashed out at him when he told me how cute that was because I didn’t like that he was “making it a thing”. When I was totally making it a thing….

14. Do it for your mom.

I feel too vain when I take selfies… then end up having like no pictures of myself for my mom.

I’ve had a few girlfriends now that have tried to help me shake my hate. Even after breaking up a few have recommended taking my mom out to different spots (she loved spending time with me more than anything).

When I asked to take pictures with her she was beaming… I’m tearing up just typing this… Actually I just ugly cried for a bit.

I need to tell my mom.

13. Being silly works every time.

The only way I have ever taken the very few selfies I have is if it’s a silly one. That way I feel like “haha see, I’m not taking myself seriously with this”. Feels like it aligns more with who I am.

Social media selfie posts are so prevalent that I was just wondering if there were other people who feel the way I do. Clone #1564 confirmed.

12. Yeah you do.

I am not photogenic so I have never taken a selfie in all of my many years on this earth until last year. I must have been bored or something because I put on makeup which I don’t usually do and took some selfies that included my dogs. I was pleasantly surprised how the photos turned out. I didn’t even really know how to take a selfie.

I posted the pics on Facebook and everyone complimented me on them. The people I have known since high school hadn’t seen me since high school so they really liked my photos. The friends I have made over the years and have never met in person liked my photos as well. In fact, when I said how old I am they couldn’t believe it.

One guy was like, “no way!!!” Yep. I guess I look pretty good for an old lady. Lol.

11. It does take practice.

Yes! I feel like I look awful in any picture, TBH. One eye squinted shut, weird pasted-on smile, awkward posture…like, every single time. Can’t seem to look natural or relaxed in a picture. So I figure if I’m gonna look bad, I may as well be obvious about it and look bad on purpose. I’m not exaggerating when I say that there are more pictures of me with goofy faces than “nice” faces.

Selfies are just…100x worse, for some reason. Take all those issues from above, and then make it look just plain bad. I don’t know why my (very few) selfies have turned out absolutely terrible, but that’s how it is. I’m sure I’m overly-critical of myself, but even putting that aside, I honestly cannot figure out how to get a selfie to turn out ok. So I just don’t do them, except in very rare cases.

10. Also, do it for your kids.

The only reason I can stomach the occasional picture is so my kids know what I looked like back in the day because my parents have hardly any pictures from their youth and It makes it harder to connect… if that makes sense.

9. This makes me sad.

All the time, I never see my pics and think, “hey I look good in this one.” So I assume other people see me the same way and I don’t care to have other people see my flawed face.

Same for me. I can’t stand to look at myself in pictures or videos. For video conferences/Teams meeting, I use my avatar.

But I’m ok with my face in the mirror when I wash up/comb my hair/brush my teeth.

Go figure.

8. Don’t worry about what people think.

You just gotta not care what other people think. I have this problem too.

If I’m feeling particularly confident and attractive, then yeah I kinda wanna post a selfie. Who cares if it’s for attention – it’s human nature to want to attract positive attention sometimes.

So who cares if someone thinks “omg Stacy just wants attention from her selfie” like yeah maybe Stacy is depressed and wants some positive attention who cares?

7. Other people really don’t think that much about you.

You need to realize people don’t care about your appearance. Life’s too short to be afraid of showing your face in social media. I used to be like you until I finally got the courage to use a real pic of me and found out people either will ignore you or type something nice but never will type something mean or rude.

And I am sure you are not ugly but just lack self confidence.

6. Come up with a reason.

I used to as well. But recently I started taking selfies to show off my weird graphic t shirt collection (fish with gun, raccoon with “eat trash hail Satan”, etc.) and honestly having a “reason” for the selfie makes me feel better.

I’m a dancer so most of my pics and videos of me are me dancing and I just want pictures of me doing other things. For myself and for my family.

5. It can depend on who your friends are.

It can also depend how normalized it is in your social circles and social environment. If people around you, your friends and family all did it on a regular basis you’d probably worry less.

I have a mixture of friends. Some take, some don’t.

4. Have a little confidence.

I think it speaks to our lack of ego.

The entire concept of selfies is so self indulgent, I think it’s so weird how often people stare at their own face. Like I couldn’t think of a less interesting picture to look at than one of just somebodies face. But people crave that validation from others so it stuck.

I wish people could be happy on their own.

3. But also, don’t judge others.

Love that for you but it doesn’t mean selfies are inherently bad or egotistical.

People hate themselves daily but when they finally feel good enough to appreciate their appearance, it’s wrong?

If you don’t wanna see selfies on your timeline then dont follow people who take selfies.

You shouldn’t need to invalidate how certain people choose to express their confidence in order to make yourself feel better.

That’s not a lack of ego, it’s just being a jerk.

2. If it makes you happy.

I used to feel that way but then I saw people doing “duck lips” and I tried and each time I ended up laughing , that ended up turning out to produce pictures of me happy and smiling and I started to enjoy seeing those moments.

I’m glad those trends have died, I couldn’t with those faces. Smiling is classic, can’t beat it.

1. OP is definitely not alone.

Me too. I also can’t film myself talking like everyone seems to do these days. I just feel cringy walking and talking to a phone.

Literally started photography because I hated being in photos. If people think you’re good at taking photos they won’t question it when you volunteer to take it instead of being in the photo.

I fall somewhere in the middle on this – sometimes getting a selfie I like feels impossible, but other times it’s fun to share.

If you also hate selfies, tell us how you get around those feelings (if you do) in the comments!

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People Tell Stories About When They Trusted Their Gut Feeling and They Were Right

Have you ever known something was really wrong and you turned out to be right?

Maybe it’s about a person or about a potentially sketchy situation, but you know when your gut tells you that something isn’t right.

Folks on AskReddit talked about when their gut feelings turned out to be right.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Ugh.

“Spent two years itching for no reason. Hypochondria gut told me it was cancer. Further research confirmed it for me.

Told doctors for two years I had lymphoma. I was right, but they didn’t figure it out until I was stage 4 advanced.”

2. Stranger danger.

“When I was a young kid back in the 1980s I was playing on my front lawn when this van pulled up on the road and the sliding door opened.

A guy about 19-20 aggressively waved at me to come to the van and I immediately knew something wasn’t right so I ran inside and told my parents and they freaked out and ran outside but they were gone by then..

Stranger danger wasn’t really a thing back then and I had no idea what an abduction was at the time but looking back on it my life could’ve ended that day had I chose to go over to the van. I often wondered after that day if they ever did get a kid to get into their van.”

3. You knew.

“Last year, I was staying up late watching Rick and Morty. My mom had been battling stage four metastatic breast cancer for a while.

That night, she walked downstairs and just sat there with me until I decided to go to bed. I looked at her and in my heart I knew she was close to leaving. So I said goodnight. And she said goodbye, which confused me.

Until the next morning when my dad woke me up and told me she had passed away over night. It still makes me wonder how we both knew.”

4. Creepy uncle.

“Growing up, I was always wary of my uncle on my dad’s side of the family.

Even as a young child, I just knew that I didn’t like being around him. He never gave me any reason to feel this way, and I never voiced it to anyone.  As I grew older, my family moved away and I saw less of him, but anytime my extended family met for holidays I would see him and avoid him.

Couple years down the track, I was around 12 or 13 when my parents sat me and my older brother down and told us that my cousin (my uncle’s daughter) had been r**ed and mo**sted by him from a young age.

This had all come to light when my aunt caught it happening (later found out she was abused by him too). Really wish my gut feeling hadn’t been right about that one.”

5. Bad news.

“The woman who became my former best friend’s step mother. Met her and had instant alarm bells going off in my head that said “keep away from her”. I ignored them because c’mon, friend’s dad isn’t an idiot and he dated her for a year.

My gut was more than right. That woman made Cinderella’s step mother look tame. She would throw things at my friend’s dad, she would scream at my friend. She blamed everything on my friend, even when there was no way she could prove it. She even verbally abused her own biological, autistic, son.

She once screamed at me, and when my mom confronted her she screamed at my mom. My friend was the scape goat and virtually a slave. She called her lazy for being tired after working two jobs and going to college full time. She tried to get the wifi shut off so my friend “would stop wasting her time playing on her computer all day” when my friend was actually doing homework.

She is a monster, and I’m pretty sure she’s the reason my friend cut ties with me and all our mutual friends She had to get away from anything and everything that reminded her of that monster.”

6. A feeling…

“Had a gut feeling my sister relapsed in her drug/alcohol addiction.

Through the Pandemic, We usually talked about once or twice a month, but we went a couple month without talking. I put it on my schedule to do visit her.

Turns out, not only did she relapse, but beat up her daughter for m**h money. Tried to rob our parents.”

7. Home alone.

“I was a twenty year old student, alone in my apartment one evening.

I was expecting the cable guy so when I heard a knock at the door I opened it. I saw an older man that definitely was not the cable guy as he did not have a uniform on. I asked him what he wanted. He said he was going around the apartments installing security alarms. I right away did not trust him and told him that is was a bad time and that my roommate was on the phone long distance( when long distance was expensive) with her parents and was going through some personal stuff.

She was not there but I did not want him to think I was alone. He said where is she….I just closed the door in his face and said not a good time. I called my landlord the next morning and asked her about installing security alarms and she had no idea what I was talking about and did not authorize it.

Women, if you ever get into a situation where it looks like you are alone really try to convince the person that is making you feel uneasy that you are not alone. Another time when I was young walking home in the dark and two men stopped there car and started saying lewd things to me I just walked up to a house and knocked on the door and they drove off quickly. Way more vulnerable when you are alone.”

8. Wow.

“When I was 13, we went to an outdoor school camp for a week.

The week included an overnight canoe trip. I went with my best friend, and the morning of the trip I had a horrible feeling that things were going to go badly and that we should stay back but I ignored it because I was 13 I was doing what I was told.

Long story short, our boat hit a log jam, we went under, I came up, my best friend didn’t. She d**d on the logs that day.”

9. Terrifying.

“One of my last weekends studying abroad in Costa Rica.

My friend / classmate wanted to go out drinking / dancing, but I and the rest did not as we were tired. Friend convinced me to go as it was one of the last times we would get to. I didn’t feel right the entire time I was getting ready. Just terrible gut feeling. As I was walking to the bus stop to meet him, a huge wave rushed over me & I thought “I’m going to be robbed tonight”.

I wanted to turn around, but my friend saw me at the moment & we just continued on. We got kidnapped / robbed that night, and it was terrifying. I will never ever not listen and react to my gut feelings again.”

10. Weird teacher.

“Freshman year of high school, we had this really weird digital arts teacher.

He’d go up and randomly massage students shoulders, and make comments like “How about you and (other student) take your anger out in a mud pit?”, or similar things if students argued with each other. He was just genuinely weird, standing over students, mainly girls, and just very handsy..

A few months into the school year, they transferred everyone out of the class, and we didn’t see the teacher any more. Some of us went to wood shop, or metal work, etc. but that teacher was just gone. I don’t actually know what happened to him, but I can only assume that what he was doing finally got to him.”

11. Be careful out there.

“Was with my mom in the woods in eastern Quebec.

I heard something break a rather large branch just over the hill maybe 50m away. I told her we have to leave right away because I think it’s a bear. She tells me how no bears been in area for 20 years.

She listens to me anyways and we go back down the mountain and home. Next day a bear was hit by a car just on other side of mountain.”

12. Good dog.

“When I was a young woman my husband and I lived on a military base. At the time, the base was wide open and many local people used it as a shortcut from one town to another.

The base also had free base newspapers available at many places on base. One week the newspaper said that Facilities Engineers (base maintenance) were going to begin installing attic fans in our townhouses.

Sure enough, someone banged on my door later in the week and announced that he was there to install my attic fan. I was immediately suspicious — he was not military, dirty, scraggly beard, paint-stained clothes. But mostly it was my dog’s reaction. Candy was a husky-shepherd mix, so not a small dog. She’d put herself between me and him as best she could, her hackles were up, and she was growling, that deep bass in-the-chest growl that you feel more than hear.

I asked to see a work order and ID. He said “I don’t need no f**king work order” and yanked open the screen door. (It was latched, but those kind of latches are meant to keep toddlers and dogs in, not grown men out.)

Candy roared and went for his throat. He jumped back and slammed the screen. I grabbed Candy, dragged her back, slammed and locked the door, ran to the back and slammed and locked that. Then I called the MPs.

They came out, verified that my street was not due to get attic fans for a couple of weeks, and took all the information I could give them, which wasn’t much. I never heard anything back, so they probably never identified him.

Two or three weeks later, the real installers came from Facilities Engineers, in uniform. They promptly produced work orders and ID. Candy looked at them and went back to playing with the baby.

I’m absolutely certain that she saved me from r**e, possibly from m**der.”

Do you have any stories about trusting your gut?

If so, please share them with us in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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What Advertisement Made You Avoid a Certain Product? People Spoke Up.

I have a confession: the Discover “Cashback Match” commercials have made it absolutely certain that I will never, ever use Discover in my life because I find their commercials to be so incredibly annoying.

Do you have any products that you’ve been turned off of completely because you can’t stomach their advertisements?

AskReddit users discussed the advertisements that made them NOT want to buy certain products.

Let’s dive in!

1. Old and new.

“All time: Chevy “real people”

Recently: that Kraft singles commercial with that stupid grilled cheese song.”

2. Gross.

“There is a phone company here in Australia that runs an ad where two sisters/friends are shown partying and generally having a good time, then one gets diagnosed with an illness, presumably cancer.

The camera cuts back and forth to one of them in a hospital bed and the other getting her long hair cut off, then an emotional reunion where the one with her hair cut off visits the one in hospital who has lost her hair.

The tagline is “it starts with yes”. It uses the emotional trauma of terminal illness to try to get people to sign up for a phone service. Utterly disgusting.”

3. Hmmm…

“A local car dealer decided to put their catchphrase to the tune of Baby Shark.

Then they made a follow-up commercial apologizing for how annoying the Baby Shark spot was, but still ended it with the Baby Shark jingle.”

4. Fear mongering.

“Those multiple Volvo commercials that have been on Hulu forever.

Same premise- “if you don’t buy our brand new Volvo you’ll k**l a kid, yours or someone else’s”.

Fear mongering at its finest.”

5. Little brat!

“The one with the bratty kid and broccoli.

“Then I guess we’re gonna sit here all night!”

If I pulled a stunt like that as a kid my mom wouldn’t go put cheese on my broccoli, she’d cook broccoli for every meal.”

6. No escape.

“Surprised I haven’t seen Grammarly mentioned anywhere here.

I’ve never felt a need to use their product in the past, but their ads are so intrusive, annoying, and frequent that I’ll guaranteed never use it.”

7. WTF?

“That Marine recruiting commercial where he fought a dragon.

I never got to fight a dragon when I was in, that was bulls**t.”

8. Hahaha.

“Volvo.

That f**king commercial where someone tells the car’s google assistant to “turn up the heat” at their house.

My google reacts by upping the heat every. Single. Time.”

9. Annoying.

“Reese’s (Cups, Pieces, etc.)

I h**e the voice of whoever narrates the commercials

The low-effort lines…ughhhh

The speaker delivers the lazy writing as if the audience is meant to find it clever

The next time you see a Reese’s commercial on TV, you’ll notice what I’m talking about..”

10. Shameless.

“Mesothelioma.

Massive expenditure targeting a tiny population.

The return on investment must be HUGE.

Shameless rainmaking.”

11. All of these.

“The Google Fi ads on youtube. Terrible songs and terrible animation.

Also, Old Navy ads are garbage.

And McDonalds has somehow been incapable of making a good ad for like 20 years or longer.”

12. Not a fan.

“Well, whenever I hear the KARS for Kids jingle, I think about swerving into oncoming traffic.

So I guess you could say it turns me off.”

13. Are we being scammed here?

“All the brand name medication commercials with fake people living fake lives with wild side effects worse than the original diagnosis.

And how dumb the names sound made on some name generator.

Trulicity comes to mind.”

Are there any ads that really turned you off of certain products?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

We look forward to it!

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When Did Your Gut Feeling Turn Out To Be Right? People Responded.

Trust your gut. Always.

If you only listen to one piece of advice in your life, I think that’s one of the better ones to take seriously.

And we’re about to hear some good stories about why it’s important.

AskReddit users talked about when their gut feelings turned out to be accurate.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Scary.

“When I was pregnant for the first time, something just felt off. I knew from the very beginning it wasn’t going to end well.

A few weeks later, I started cramping and spotting, which can be normal in early pregnancy. I ended up going to the ER. They couldn’t find any evidence of a pregnancy in my uterus and decided it was a missed miscarriage, and wanted to send me home. But, that gut feeling that something was very wrong was still there, and ai listened to it.

I demanded that I be seen by my OB who was head of obstetrics at that hospital and wouldn’t leave until he saw me. He had me in emergency surgery 4 hours after he came to examine me to remove my ruptured fallopian tube and stop the internal bleeding. Had I not listened to my gut, I’d be d**d.”

2. Bad driver.

“Was driving, got an odd feeling about this car behind me.

No telltale signs, the lady wasn’t texting or anything. So I moved lanes and got a car ahead of her.

Rear ended that car promptly at the next light.”

3. Looking for you.

“I had this random friend I’d just met kind of a weird dude, no real family so once he met my group of friends he just kind of followed us everywhere. He was one of those people who just had a bullseye for bullies on him.

I was living in the hood in LA, we’re walking over an overpass and a car full of cholos slowly passes us, eyes on us. As soon as the car passes my friend was like let’s hide under this bridge, we book it hide in the dark under the bridge and just a few seconds later the car full of cholos slowly drives down where they assumed we were going to be walking.

We can see them looking everywhere cruising slowly, wondering where we were. As soon as they left the street we booked it back to my house staying in the shadows until we were safe.”

4. A set up.

“Twice, while delivering pizza to shady neighborhoods. Things didn’t look right, I trusted my instincts and booked.

Both times, no one ever called back to ask about their food never arriving. That’s all the proof I need.”

5. That’s history right there.

“When I was a kid, I was doing my first ever deep clean of my bedroom getting rid of old clothes and toys and such.

While cleaning out my closet, I found an old picture cut out from the local newspaper of Lyndon Johnson visiting my parent’s home town. The picture was taken outside with some locals in the background. I was going to throw the picture away, but suddenly got the strongest feeling not to do it, so I set it aside. Later I showed it to my mom and asked her about it. She freaked out and showed my grandma, who also freaked out.

Turns out one of the locals in the background of the picture was my grandpa. He d**d when my mom was 12. That picture was one of only a handful we had of him. I had never seen a picture of him before this. I was so glad I didn’t throw that clipping away.”

6. On the road.

“Driving in Pittsburgh.

I stop at a red light. Hill goes up on my left, downhill on my right. Poor visibility to the left.

The light turns green, but my brain tells me “Hey bud wait a sec.”

I think this is a little weird, but I don’t go yet.

A millisecond later, a massive navy blue F-350 comes barreling downhill through the intersection from my left, blowing past the red light at about 45, then trundles down the hill.

If I’d have gone, I would have been destroyed by 3 tons of Ford truck, for sure. Instead I trusted the Spider-sense.”

7. Creepers.

“I stopped at Home Depot to pick up an item so I knew it was going to be a quick trip. I’m in the store and notice I’m pretty much the only girl in there besides employees. I couldn’t find what I was looking for and had to ask multiple employees before I found it.

I check out and as I’m heading out to my car I notice a shady dude standing against a tree on one side of my car. On the other side of my car is another shady guy sticking his arm outside of his car window. When I walked out they both turned and stared at me.

My heart dropped, I started to feel queasy, and my mind instantly knew to turn around and go inside. I stood there shaking at the front of the store until I could get the courage to ask an employee to walk me to my car.

As soon as they saw me walking out with an employee, the guy standing by the tree walked around my car and into the drivers side of the car parked next to me. To this day I swear I was a short walk away from being kidnapped.”

8. Overwhelming dread.

“Used to work in the ER. Had a man come in with ripping chest pain that started not but 30 minutes prior after he moved something heavy at his office. I knew he was going to d** just by looking at him. Massive overwhelming dread just seemed to engulf me.

I did his EKG and I hoped something would be wrong with it so we could get him a bed. His EKG was perfect. Not 5 minutes later he went into cardiac arrest on our waiting room floor. After running the code for 45 minutes, he didn’t make it. He had a massive aortic dissection. There wasn’t much hope.

This was almost 3 years ago and I’ve seen more s**t since then, but the memory is still burned in my mind, and it hurts knowing I was the last person to speak to him.”

9. Sketchy.

“I was 18 and and I was walking home from a friend’s house at 2 am in the middle of the summer. He only lived 6 blocks away.

I was about halfway home when a pickup truck drives by with 2 guys in the cab and 2 in the bed. I immediately felt like I was in danger. I saw the truck turn the corner, and I dove over some hedges in the closest yard I could find. I hid under them.

I saw the truck come back around the corner and slowly drive down the street. When it got to where I was hiding, I heard one of the guys say, “Where did he go?” and another respond that he didn’t know. They kept driving, and I didn’t see them again.

I stayed hidden for a good 15 minutes before getting up and running the rest of the way home.

I’m certain they would have jumped me if they found me.”

10. Glad you interfered.

“I had been living and working in Korea, and one day I was coming up out of a subway station and saw a man talking to another foreign woman.

She had that polite, frozen smile on her face – the why-is-this-guy-talking-to-me smile. I walked up to her, linked my arm with hers, and said “Hey, Sarah! There you are! Are you ready to go?” And just started walking. The guy followed us, but I sped up, and made an abrupt turn into a coffee shop. We hid, and I saw him walk past, still looking for her.

We ended up getting coffee and chatting for a bit, and I found out that he had followed her off the train, and had been getting increasingly aggressive for the last ten minutes. I don’t know what might have happened, but I’m really glad I interfered!!”

11. Wow.

“Helped a victim of human trafficking get to a shelter.

I was a medical student at the time (now a resident) and the city my school was in is a hub for human trafficking. I noticed a patient in the ER who had a pretty bad injury to her face was with a sketchy looking guy who was not related to her.

She wasn’t my patient, but I brought my gut feeling up to her doctor who then made up some excuse to talk to the patient alone and got her to help. I never talked to her myself, but I couldn’t shake the vibe I got from looking at her and the man she was with.”

12. Settling the score.

“There are a bunch of bars right next to my university here where I live. At the start and the end of the semester everybody, thousands of students, start gathering around the street where most bars are located and just parties all night.

On one of these occasions, in 2019, it was the end of the semester. I had just got there a bit late because I was working on the lab at the uni and the moment I got there something just didn’t feel right. The people there, how they were acting, how they were moving, how they were talking. Something felt different in the air.

We were crossing through the giant group of people since we were looking for my girlfriend at the time and the people who we were expecting to meet there. I froze in place and, I can’t really explain why to this day, but I just felt something really bad was about to happen and my friend noticed how I was too atentive and kind of in panic. He snapped me out of it and I told him that we needed to find everyone and leave that place.

For my surprise he just agreed. I think he noticed something was wrong with me and probably just went for it so I could calm down.

My girlfriend and our friends didn’t take long to find and they were confused because I was acting so erratic and I was kind of having a panic attack. But they eventually followed me out of the crowd and right as we were out of the “bar area” we started hearing a bunch of g**shots and people started screaming. Shortly after the police was rushing into the area.

What happened was that some gang members decided to use the party to settle some score, probably hoping the crowd would help them get out unoticed. 5 people were ki**ed and 3 injured that day. The police apparently caught them but I’m not sure about that part. After that those periodical parties at this street were never the same. Way less people and now they don’t even close the streets anymore because its not that big of a crowd. Who would have thought.

To this day my friends like telling this story about how I “saved their lives” and, on rare occasions, someone asks me if I knew about the gang fight that was going to happen or something like that.

I honestly don’t know what triggered me that day. But myself and the people with me are really glad it did. I think I might have caught view of a g** while crossing the crowd and didn’t conciously notice it but kicked some sense of danger on me.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us your stories about when you trusted your gut in a good way.

Please and thank you!

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