A Widow Tried to Take Major Advantage of Her Best Friend. Is She the A-Hole?

Grief makes people do weird stuff, and everyone responds differently to a major loss in their life. If we’re friends with someone going through a hard time, most of us try our best to be empathetic and to be there for whatever they need, because we love them and also assume they have our best interests at heart.

What if they don’t, though? What if while we’re being good friends they’re trying to devise the best way to take advantage of us, or maybe they see the situation in a totally different light?

That’s what happened to this woman, who moved in with her best friend to help out after the friend’s husband passed away.

My friend is a recent widow. It’s been a long time coming but that hardly makes it easier, her husband passed away at the end of February and she has been understandably distraught since. I have tried my best to support her through this even though I can’t possibly understand what she’s going through.

At the beginning of the March she asked me if I’d stay over during the night because she couldn’t stand sleeping alone in an empty house. I obliged and temporarily moved in once I was sure my husband was okay with it.

Because the friend is struggling with her loss, the friend-turned-roommate is doing the cooking and cleaning, as well as encouraging her friend to take care of herself physically and mentally while she’s there.

She’s not been taking care of herself so I have been doing 100% of the household chores and taking care of her and all her responsibilities as well as working full time.

Then, the bereaved friend accused her bestie of taking advantage of her and trying to live in her house for free, and demanded that she pay rent for the two months she had been there and, of course, going forward.

What on earth? What is happening here?

Well last week she spring on me how much she’ll be expecting in rent from here on out. She heavily implied I was taking advantage of her in her grief trying to live in her house for free and that she expects me to backpay her rent for the two months I’d already been there.

OP was insulted (I should hope so) and told the friend she would pay the back rent (what? why?) but that she would be moving out.

She promised to still help with things like grocery shopping (what? why?) in the future but that she couldn’t stay there anymore, as she already pays rent on her own house with her own husband.

I was extremely insulted by this and told her I’d transfer her the money she wanted but I would be moving back to my own house (where I am also paying rent). I got my stuff and was out within a couple of hours.

She has since asked me to come back but I have refused, I told her I’d still do her shopping and I’ll come over to help her with a few bits but I’m not spending another night in that house.

AITA?

The friend is asking her to come back, but OP is refusing and now wondering whether or not she’s being a jerk.

I think we all know the answer, but let’s see what Reddit had to say, too!

More than a bit, I say.

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This person thinks we should cut her some slack, because she’s grieving and probably not thinking straight.

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But that doesn’t mean OP can’t set some healthy boundaries.

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If she wants to try to get her to come around to how ridiculous she’s being in a more subtle way…

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Others definitely have a more cynical view of things.

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I guess you can probably tell that I think this woman, grieving or not, was totally out of line.

Do you agree with me? Have a different view? Tell me where you come down in the comments!

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Was This Daughter Wrong to Call Out Her Father’s Fragile Masculinity?

The world was a certain way for many years, at least when it comes to the idea of “respecting our elders” and keeping our mouths shut in order to keep the peace, even if we really, really don’t agree with the rude and harmful things they say.

This woman grew up with a homophobic father, one who would make snide comments that everyone just ignored because they were “respecting their father.”

So my whole life I’ve known that my dad was a homophobe. No one else in my immediate family is, and no one really talks about any kind of lbgtq+ topic around him so it doesn’t really come up a lot with him. But whenever anything “gay” happens around him he starts on a small rant.

Now that she’s older and has a daughter of her own, she can see how harmful that can be, and is less willing to let things slide for a second generation.

When her father made a comment about The Wiggles.

So anyway. After living with this my whole life, I am now 24(F) and I have a one year old little girl who LOVES the Wiggles (a kids show). Sometimes when I’m visiting my parents we’ll (me and my mom) turn on Wiggles for her on Netflix and it keeps her entertained while we visit.

Her father made a few snide comments about how they were “gay” and it wasn’t “normal” and those were the “kind of people” who should be influencing kids, etc.

She’d had enough, and snapped that maybe their “masculinity isn’t as fragile as yours.”

My dad is always commenting on how he doesnt like the wiggles and its creepy. I usually ignore him but yesterday I decided to ask why. And he said “Because, to sing and dance and smile like that as a full grown man, you have to be gay.

That’s not the kind of people you want around kids.” I was kind of in shock at what he said and I was like “its just something funny and colorful for the kids.” I dont even remember what he said afterwards but it was another gay comment and I said “well maybe their masculinity isn’t as fragile as yours.”

Dad was upset, and though her mother laughed initially, she later said her daughter shouldn’t have said it. Her sister agrees she should have stayed quiet, too, because of “respect.”

My mom laughed at my comment but my dad was less than amused and was in a really bad mood and snapping at everyone so I decided to leave early. My mom told me he’s still mad this morning and that I really shouldn’t have said anything because “I know how he is.”

She also told my sister about it who texted me to tell me I should be more respectful to our dad (she’s always been a daddy’s girl) and basically that I was being an AH.

So AITA?

Now OP is wondering if she should have continued to just let her dad be a jerk unchecked, and Reddit has some really great thoughts on the matter (as usual!).

It’s been coming for awhile, honestly. Maybe he should get used to it.

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Seriously, stop letting people off the hook this way.

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It might be time to get into some good trouble.

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Perhaps they should stop being that way?

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Stop making excuses for poor behavior!

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It’s about time we all start putting our feet down and stop letting people like this get away with their bs.

I’m just saying.

Was she disrespectful? Firm? Right? Wrong? Sound off in the comments!

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Is It Wrong For a Mechanic To Wear Makeup?

As a female, I will be the first person to say how far we have come when it comes to empowering girls and women. We can be what we want, do what we want, say what we want, and wear what we want, and no one is allowed to say anything.

Of course, people still do say things, but we’ve been taught (and sometimes we even believe) that we shouldn’t listen to any criticism.

That said, boys and men don’t often have this luxury. There are still ways a boy is supposed to act, things he’s supposed to wear, and things he’s definitely not allowed – and sadly, wearing makeup is one of those things men are made to feel badly for enjoying.

This man, a mechanic, started wearing makeup to cover the bags under his eyes and then added some mascara. He feels more confident wearing it, and none of the other mechanics (or anyone else) at work have mentioned it.

I am a mechanic at a fairly large workshop and recently I started to use makeup as I found it was boosting my confidence.

I started with something to cover my eye bags but later on also tried mascara and a few other subtle things. Surprisingly I didn’t get any comments from the other mechanics and everything seemed fine, my confidence was skyrocketing.

He doesn’t regularly have contact with customers, and has rare contact with the two women who work at the desk and do most of the interacting with the public.

Because of how large the workshop is, we mechanics have little to no contact with customers. Customers are handled by two ladies working the front desk and we just go out to pick up the cars. Very rarely we have to talk to customers to figure out the problem.

I also have not much contact to the front desk ladies as we have different break times and our system is automated so we don’t have to talk in person.

Then one day both of the front desk ladies ambushed him, saying that his wearing makeup was unprofessional and causing them trouble at work.

Yesterday I was approached by both of them which is very unusual and they both laid into me, that my makeup is highly unprofessional. Seems like a customer who had seen me had made a comment abouth me.

They were both quite rude, telling me I needed to skip out on the makeup as it was so unprofessional and they had to deal with the customers all the time so they were affected by it. I was stunned as we are usually on friendly terms and them going off at me left me speechless.

Initially he was so shocked that he apologized, but in the aftermath, he realized the request wasn’t fair and doesn’t want to stop. He also doesn’t want to cause them trouble, though, so he’s asking Reddit if he’s the a-hole here.

I apologized in the moment but later on I thought about it and I don’t want to stop wearing makeup. I feel confident with it and I feel like I should be able to put it on. On the other hand they are right that they have to deal with the customers and I don’t want to make it harder for them.

Yes, I’m a guy.

Let’s see what Reddit had to say in response!

This person has probably hit it close to home, saying they’re jealous he looks so nice.

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Some people figured it should be NAH (No A$$holes Here), but this person thought the front desk ladies were definitely in the wrong.

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There are always better ways to handle delicate subjects.

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Others agree that the women probably made up the customer complaint altogether.

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The women were wrong in so many ways.

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The world would be much better off, in my opinion, if everyone would just mind their own business unless someone is being hurt.

What do you think? How would you have handled this? Tell us in the comments!

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Woman Asks If She’s Wrong For Refusing To Feed Her Sister’s Eating Disorder

Living with family members who have mental health issues can be extremely challenging. We want the best for the people we love, but sometimes it can be hard to know what that is – and when different family members have different takes on how best to help, things can get complicated fast.

In this poor woman’s case, she’s living in her childhood home with her sister, who has a significant eating disorder that’s affecting everyone in her life.

OP has managed the situation by keeping a small fridge and snacks in her locked bedroom and eating meals at work or with her boyfriend. Their parents bring her sister (and sometimes her) meals, and those are all gone within minutes.

I love my sister, but she eats everything in sight the moment she finds it. I have a lock on my door and have gotten a small fridge. I keep fruit and water in there, some snacks, and then I will go to my boyfriend’s to eat. My sister is unemployed at the moment and my parents bring her meals (about 1200 calories per meal) and she will scarf it down. If they leave something for me, she eats that as well.

She’s tried talking to her sister, begging her to get help, keeping groceries in the fridge, etc, and nothing has worked. Her sister is caught in a binge/purge cycle that never ends, and all their parents do is enable her.

She once got so hungry she ate parmesan cheese from a shake bottle. As much as I love my sister, she has eaten about $400 in groceries this month alone. I tried so hard to refill it, talk it out with her, and she just binges, purges, binges more. She couldn’t even be measured on my scale, which goes up to 450 pounds.

OP says she’s done buying food for her sister, who obviously has a problem.

Their parents are going out of town, and everyone is wondering what the sister is going to eat after she inevitably eats everything her parents leave in the first couple of days.

I told her that I was done feeding her. She can talk to our parents and figure it out. I was done. I have the lock-in in my bedroom, which has always been there, and I eat with my boyfriend. I eat at work. But there is nothing but bottled water in the fridge for her right now.

My parents are going out of town next week and have agreed to buy her food for the week. I told them that if she eats it all, she is going to be hungry the rest of the days.

OP is the only one pushing for treatment, and is about at the end of her rope. She’s going to kill herself without help, and OP is ready to move out and in with her boyfriend to remove herself from having to watch it all go down.

I have been very clear with them that she needs to go to some kind of therapy/clinic. There has to be something to be done for someone with her issues. But she ignores it. It is at the point where she cannot get into my Corolla to drive anywhere because she is too big.

The house we live in is my childhood home and I lived there with Ashley because she is my sister. But now it’s to the point where my boyfriend has said to just move in with him. Which would mean my parents would have to watch her because her health is so bad she can’t do a lot of things without help.

I didn’t sign up to be her saviour.

AITA?

She’s wondering if she’s wrong to walk out, or to stop feeding her sister in the first place, so let’s see what sort of advice Reddit has, hmm?

I really don’t think there’s any arguing against this point.

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It’s sad, but you can’t help people who aren’t willing to help themselves.

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Everyone needs to be on board, otherwise nothing is going to change.

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Therapy sounds like the obvious answer, and I really hope for this family’s sake that the sister makes her way there, and soon.

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Maybe the parents should stay out of town a bit longer.

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I feel for the sisters here, and want to smack the parents up the head. I hope the story has a happy ending, but it’s not looking like it right now.

What do you think OP should do? Is it her responsibility? Let’s hash it out in the comments!

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A Cop Learned the Hard Way That Sometimes Asking for Proof Backfires

I don’t know anything about the world of over-the-road trucking, but apparently there are pretty strict rules for how to log your time, when and how often you have to stop, and the like. This guy doesn’t like having to pull off the highway every time he has to use the restroom, so he’s devised a different sort of ritual that works.

A little bit of background for anyone, like me, who needs it.

This malicious compliance has brought to you by my trip from Chicago, IL to Los Angeles, CA.

Background: I’m an over the road truck driver and most of the time, it’s more convenient for me to do my “business” on the highway shoulder. I don’t have to drive around & around just to park to use the restroom. Just a quick 30 second emergency stop, do my business (either on the side of the road or empty bottles that I’m saving up [gotta do what you gotta do when you’re on the road]), then off driving again. I’m sure I’m not the only over the road truck driver who have done these, it’s very common.

Side note: According to FMCSA, by law, we have to carry log books to calculate our driving & on duty time. This is relevant to the story.

He either pees on the side of the road (if no one is about) or pees in an empty bottle and stores it to throw away later. Every time he stops he logs his time off the road, as required, but the quick stops don’t add up to as much down time, allowing him to travel further without a break.

On to the story:

This happened just a few hours ago somewhere in I-40 WB in New Mexico. I was suddenly in need to relieve myself badly, so as usual, I pulled over to a clean, wide highway shoulder, then I put my log book to “Off Duty”.

Note: this isn’t my first time today doing my business.

I have a habit of being very meticulous with my driving time. Which means, when I’m not doing anything, even for 30 seconds, I put my time in off duty. I tried to save as much driving time as possible, those multiple 30 seconds can add up to a lot to avoid doing 34 hours reset too soon.

I looked at the passenger side window & sees multiple cars passing by. Turns out, there’s a road where cars drive by on the side of the highway. Doing my business on the highway shoulder, nope! Instead, I did the alternate route, do it in a bottle, seal it, and stow it for trash later.

On one of these stops, an officer pulled him over and asked to see his log book, so the trucker, of course, complied.

Just as I finish doing my business, I heard a knock on my passenger door. Very weird, because this is at the highway shoulder, where no one should randomly be walking around. I stow away the bottle and go look who it is and it’s a cop. I was thinking, crap, this isn’t happening.

I switched my log book to “On Duty – Inspection” and go answer the cop. Before I could say anything, the cop asked me to see my log book (it’s part of their job to check whether we comply to the rules or not) so I show it to him. The graph looks like a heart monitor, as I was relieving myself probably 4 or 5 times per day (tiny bladder problem).

The officer had some questions, namely that the trucker was stopping for 30 seconds to a minute every hour. He was suspicious that he was falsifying his records.

The trucker explained that he had a small bladder that required more pit stops, but the officer wasn’t buying it, and asked for proof if the trucker wanted to avoid a ticket.

The cop questioned why I was off duty for 30 seconds to 1 minute every 2-3 hours almost everyday (electronic log book can be backtracked up to 14 days). I explained to him that I have to relieve myself every 2-3 hours, give or take. The cop didn’t believe me and assume that my truck had a problem, that’s why I have to stop every 2-3 hours. I repeated myself about my bladder issue but the cop still didn’t believe me. Instead, he said:

-Cop: Unless you have proof that you’re actually relieving yourself, I’m afraid I have to give you a ticket for false usage of log book.

Cue malicious compliance.

Proof, the trucker had, though the cop wasn’t expecting the exact form it would take.

I told the cop to wait a moment and went back inside my cabin. I grabbed every single bottle of urine that I’ve been collecting today and the previous day (I haven’t had the chance to throw it away), put it in a plastic bag, and for extra measure, grabbed the newest one out of the plastic bag (it was still warm). I showed the whole bag to the cop, plus the warm bottle, told him it’s the newest one I just did a few seconds ago, and asked if he would like to hold it for further inspection.

The cop had the mixed look of disgust & horror. He was literally gagging, so I put back the evidence back inside my truck so he can recover.

The rest of the conversation went about as well as expected, since the guy didn’t end up getting a ticket (and he got a laugh, instead).

Then the cop says:

“I was expecting doctor’s note or something like that. What you showed me was disgusting!”

-Me: But you asked for proof that I was, in fact, relieving myself.

I was holding back my laughter so hard that my cheeks started to hurt. Then he gave me back my log book and told me to have a good day, then drives off. Have a good day, indeed!

I took an extra 1 minute on the shoulder to laugh until I’m satisfied, then I’m off to drive again.

File this one under: be careful what you ask for.

Or maybe: always remember to think ahead and keep a little proof on hand, just in case.

Either way, thanks for the giggles, good sir! Safe driving!

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Man Refuses to Pay for Anything Anymore for This Stepdaughter. Is He Wrong?

Every parent is different when it comes to how far they’ll go money-wise for their kids or their stepkids.

And we’re about to read a story from a guy on the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit because he’s locked in a battle about how much he’s willing to pay for his teenage stepdaughter.

Let’s see what he had to say.

AITA for not paying for anything anymore for my stepdaughter?

“My stepdaughter (14) who we’ll A doesn’t like me because she thinks her real dad is better but he doesn’t do anything to help. All he does is do crack and use his girlfriends for money.

A believes her dad buys all the things she gets. Her birthday presents, toys, clothes, and gadgets are from all from me or her mom but she honestly believes he gets them for her. She isn’t just rude to me, she’s rude to everyone. Like her mom or neighbor, or just people that bump into her.

My wife has tried counseling and therapy but it’s only effective for a couple of days before she snaps. I haven’t grounded her or anything. I leave the punishing to her mom but she still can’t behave. Recently her birthday came up and I bought her a phone she had been wanting and she called her dad and thanked him while still being rude to me.

I honestly am at my limit. I can’t take this disrespect anymore. I know she’s just a child but it stills gets to me. I told my wife I won’t be paying for anything she needs or wants anymore.

I’m not going to tolerate disrespect while still being financially responsible for her. My wife is saying I’m insensitive and an a**hole but I completely disagree.

AITA?”

Now let’s take a look at how people responded on Reddit.

This reader said that this can be fixed in one very easy step…

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Another Reddit user said that people can be delusional and can create their own realities in their heads.

And that might be what’s going on here…

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This person said that maybe the stepdad needs to do some things with his stepdaughter instead of not giving her gifts anymore and maybe that would make her realize what’s really going on with her father.

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Finally, this person who is an admitted addict said that people who are addicts become very good at lying. And you know the dad in this story is most likely feeding his daughter all kinds of BS.

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What do you think?

Is this guy being a jerk or is his behavior justified?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks!

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This Person Asked if They’re a Jerk for Not Getting Their Own Streaming Services

I’ve heard countless stories about people figuring out how to use the streaming services of their friends and family members…and sometimes people get really upset at folks who aren’t buying these services on their own.

And here’s another tale of streaming service drama from a girl whose being called out for using their boyfriend’s passwords to watch all kinds of content.

Check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page.

AITA for getting my own streaming services?

“My boyfriend (28m) has given our streaming service passwords to several of his friends (Netflix, Hulu, HBO Max, Disney+, etc).

If you’re someone who shares a streaming service with several people, you’re probably aware that there’s a cap on how many people can stream at once. Since our streaming services are being shared with so many people (he doesn’t remember how many people and which of his friends he shared it with.) It’s very difficult to watch anything since there’s always multiple people at any given time.

Whenever we try to watch a show or movie together and we can’t proceed because of limitations, he’ll excuse it by saying “we’ll just try later when they’re not watching.” The issue is someone is always watching lol.

My patience began to wear thin. So I told my boyfriend “I don’t mean to be nasty, but your friends are being freeloaders. They have jobs and if they want to use HBO Max, they can pay for their own subscription. It’s really hard to watch anything I, or we want to watch with so many people on.”

He told me I was being selfish and that since he pays for it, he can share it with whoever he wants to. So I subscribed to a few services on my personal devices and paid for them.

I was watching a show that I had been dying to watch on my laptop and my boyfriend asked if I wanted to watch something with him. I said “No thanks, I’ve been dying to catch up on this.” He then said “See? Just be patient, not everyone is watching all the time.”

I said “Oh actually I made my own account.” He got offended because he said he already pays for subscription services, so i’m just wasting my money and being childish.”

Now let’s see how readers responded to this story on Reddit.

This person said this person isn’t an a**hole and they can do whatever the hell they want with their own money.

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Another Reddit user agreed they aren’t wrong in this story and they offered a possible plan of attack to fix the situation.

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This individual said that the boyfriend in this story just seems to be majorly disconnected.

Here here!

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And this person said that they could relate because they had a similar situation…and they quickly realized how to fix it.

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Do you think this person is acting like a jerk?

Sound off in the comments and let us know.

We’d love to hear from you!

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Was This Person a Jerk For Telling Their Daughter She’s Getting What She Deserves? People Weighed In.

You deserve it!

Nobody ever wants to hear those words directed at them and now a dad is second-guessing what he said to his daughter.

He took to Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page to see what readers there thought about what he said.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my daughter that she’s getting what she deserves?

“I (58m) have two daughters. One from a previous marriage and another from my wife’s previous marriage. Both daughters are around the same age (think mid-twenties).

My daughter Allie has never gotten along with her stepsister Johanna. If Johanna invited Allie to a movie, Allie was suddenly super busy and had no time. If Johanna wanted to come with Allie to a party, Johanna wasn’t invited and there was no way she could bring her. She’d rip up Joanna’s things and would blame Johanna when she’d be grounded.

Just the run of the mill petty teenager bullstink. Johanna was a good sport and always seemed to take things on the chin. Her explanation was always that “sisters fight”. Until about maybe three or four summers ago Allie was home from college and was going through a rough breakup that was causing her grades to tank which put her on academic probation.

Allie was upset and was taking it out on everyone, especially Johanna. My wife and I told her to cut it out and she seemed to catch on that her behavior wasn’t gonna be accepted.

Come to find out after Allie leaves to go back to college that she’d completely destroyed Johanna’s scrapbook with pictures of her dad and destroyed a lot of the shirts she had left of his. Johanna didn’t make a stink about it in front of us but that night the house stunk of E6000 and mod podge.

You could guess what she spent the night doing. After that incident Johanna had completely given up on Allie. Allie has a birthday coming up, Johanna wouldn’t even sign the card. Allie is in town for the weekend, unless it’s a holiday or family event, Johanna wasn’t there. And honestly we didn’t blame her.

Now the issue is that Allie wants Johanna to let things go and let bygones be bygones. Johanna is getting married soon, and Allie wants an invite. It was brought up this past week at a family dinner (Johanna and her fiance as well as their son attended/Allie and her wife and two girls attended as well).

Allie brought up how the kids were the same age and how it’d be cool after the wedding if the kids could hang out. Allie also asked what she should wear to Johanna’s wedding and if she’d be a bridesmaid. Johanna pretty much laid it out for Allie that she wasn’t coming and that the kids wouldn’t be seeing each other outside of family events.

The night was pretty tense afterwards and I asked Johanna if there was any way she could forgive Allie. She said she wanted nothing to do with her and I told her I fully understand that she carries a lot of hurt from how Allie treated her. Allie came to me after Johanna left and pretty much begged me to convince Johanna to move past things.

I told her that had she been a more considerate and kind person back then that maybe she’d have a chance at a relationship with her stepsister. I told her that she made her bed and she needs to lay in it. She said I’m a a-hole and that any good father would want to see his kids reunite.

AITA for telling her she deserves this?”

And here’s how folks reacted on Reddit.

This reader said, quite simply, that everyone except Johanna SUCKS in this situation. Ouch…

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Another person agreed and thinks that Allie needs to make peace with her sister.

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This individual said that these actions were simply sadistic. Thoughts on this comment?

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And finally, this reader pointed out that this isn’t the first time this has happened and that the dad seems to let Allie do whatever the hell she pleases. Not cool!

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Was this dad too harsh?

Or were his actions justified?

Speak up in the comments and let us know what you think!

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This Person Got Revenge When Their Boss Demanded They Work Overtime for Free

You want me to do what, boss?

For free?!?!

In case you haven’t been paying attention, some employers out there like to do everything they can to take advantage of their workers.

And that includes asking them to work overtime for no pay.

Let’s see what happened in this story from Reddit.

You demand we work overtime for free? Enjoy trying to open the store with no employees.

“I’ve met Grumpy in Narcotics Anonymous. He volunteered there after they helped him and became my sponsor.

Seeing that I was trying to get my s**t together, he offered me my first job out of high school. Grumpy was the manager of a store for a company that sold everything you needed to build a house. From cement and bricks, to custom made cupboards. I started as a “loader”, filling the trucks that were making deliveries.

A little background for the company (it plays an important for later). When they started, back in the early 1980s, they sold everything you needed to build a brick and mortar home wholesale to professionals.

During their first expansion, they got a really good reputation for their prices of power tools, custom cupboards and landscaping (including custom made garden furnitures). The stores were basically big warehouses. In mid ’90s, they opened their doors to the general public, which accompanied by a rising tent of DIY, skyrocketed their sales.

That brought a second, smaller wave of expansion and the opening of the online store (first only with phone orders and later with a proper site). When I joined, they were doing a third shift on their business plan.

They had cut down on things that weren’t a big seller (like bricks and concrete) and were focusing more on the big sellers (custom made furniture, landscaping, tools and, for some weird reason, plumbing).

My first 8 months on the job was a dream. Grumpy was an excellent manager. Having started in the company roughly the same age I was and being promoted through the ranks, had developed a very distinct managerial style. His concept was simple: “if my employees are happy, they work better and provide better services, which leads to better sales”.

That meant that while Grumpy managed one of the inner city stores, meaning medium to small size compared to others, we were fourth in revenue nationwide and first in customer happiness.

And then the reason for his nickname stroke. While everyone called him Grumpy (a nickname he was kind of proud of), he was far from it. The reason was he had a medical condition that affected his nerves and had left him with a permanent frown on his face.

He had declined promotion due to that condition (knowing the extra stress would make his condition flair up, meaning he wouldn’t be as effective as he would like). His medical condition flaired up unexpectedly and Grumpy had to be hospitalized and be on sick leave for a time. HQ decided to not have one of Grumpy’s assistants be an Acting Manager for the duration, but bring in a regional manager to take over the store for the duration. Let’s call him Wilhelm.

Wilhelm was the exact opposite of Grumpy. He was younger than Grumpy (he was in his late 20s, Grumpy was in his late 30s), had a business degree and he hadn’t worked the floor at all.

He was hired from the beginning as an office drone and climbed his way to regional manager. The reason he was put in charge of our store had to do with the change of the business plan of the company.

You see, the change of focus had created a lot of empty space in the stores. A supermarket chain had approached the company with an offer to rent the empty space, especially for inner city stores.

The company had accepted and placed regional managers in key stores to help with integration. The thing is, the supermarket chain had a reputation of being bad employers. That was reinforced by one of our tellers, who had worked for them for three years before quitting to join us.

Wilhelm didn’t help also. His managerial style was based in only one concept: make more money in any way possible. He started by changing our schedule from monthly to weekly, raising the sales targets to unrealistic heights and always demanded more. In the first two weeks, six experienced people had left (four quitted and two fired) and replaced by young, inexperienced people that were easier to manipulate.

And then, the integration happened. The floor was the first to feel the problem. The supermarket opened its doors and was understaffed. Wilhelm started sending people over to “help” for four to six hours, while also demanding to work their regular shifts. If someone declined, he/she was written up. Two write ups in six months and you were fired.

Then Wilhelm came to “lay the law” in the loading bay. The loading bay was shared between the two stores. Wilhelm declared that we had first help the two guys of the supermarket unload their trucks first, because their products were “perishable”, and then started loading our own trucks.

That would throw our delivery schedule to the wind. The loading crew worked 05:00 to 13:00. We loaded first the trucks that had longer to travel, so they will be ready to leave at 07:00 at the latest (the company had a next day delivery policy for a 150 miles radius).

What Wilhelm declared meant we couldn’t start loading our trucks before 07:30 and they couldn’t start their route before 09:30. We said as much, but Wilhelm didn’t care. He said we had to do both jobs. When someone inquired about overtime, Wilhelm said no. He said we already made too much money with unsocial hours (05:00 to 08:00) and leaving “early”, so he wouldn’t approve overtime.

So, from a nice environment that you wanted to work for, we all started getting miserable. We lost ten people in the loading crew in a month because of the new rules. The new hires didn’t last long.

The floor was a mess also, started turning personnel faster than a dollar hooker. Anyone who is staying is either looking for another job, is afraid of unemployment or is too young to know better. The sales had a very small decline, but customer happiness is plummeting fast.

After almost six months, all the “Old Guard” that was left, was ready to quit. But our “savior” came back. Almost six months from the day he was hospitalized, Grumpy walks in the store to claim his rightful position.

He isn’t a knight in shining armor, riding a pure white horse, carrying a legendary sword. He is in a normal attire, slightly limping and holding a cane. We have a “welcome back” party and have a small glimmer of hope now he is back. We are informed that Grumpy will be on light duties for two weeks, before he becomes the manager again.

Despite Grumpy being back, Wilhelm still remains the regional manager, which means he outranks Grumpy and makes it very clear in private meetings with all of us. If he caught as complaining to Grumpy, we were as good as gone. Still, a few of us are planning to have a meeting with Grumpy after the weeks (letting him get his “sea legs” back). But another department had other ideas.

During his “Reign of Terror”, the only department that Wilhelm couldn’t control was the workshop. He knew that if he treated them as bad as he did to us, they would quit and the sales would go from a small decline to bottom of the barrel real quick (as I said, custom made furniture was the number one seller).

So, the head carpenter has a meeting with Grumpy on his second day talking about “the future of the workshop”. In reality, the guy spilled the beans on Wilhelm.

With the pretext of “catching up” with the changes, Grumpy has meetings with everyone, learning what Wilhelm had done and why we had so many new staff. You could feel he was getting angrier with every meeting. He had also had an eye opening meeting with the manager of the supermarket. Finally, the time had come that he is the manager again.

The Revenge

On his first day back as a manager, Grumpy notifies everyone of a mandatory meeting after the store is closed. He has a solution. So gather in the store after closing hours. And Grumpy lays out the plan.

For the next couple of days, nobody except him is coming to the store. If anyone calls us, we should direct them to him. Which we did, when we started getting calls about the store being closed.

Grumpy’s answer to the HQ was simple: the staff was working on a second job during their shifts, which is a breach of contract, so I had to fire them all and find new staff.

That caught HQ’s attention, because nothing of the sort was reported in the past six months. They asked Grumpy for evidence, which he happily provided with our written testimonies. Which brought a s**tstorm on Wilhelm.

You see, Wilhelm had an “arrangement” with the supermarket manager. He got a kickback from our unpaid labor for the supermarket and the manager offered the same thing to Grumpy. He also included that Wilhelm regularly declined to sign overtime, which meant that if any one of us went to the Labor Department, the company would get a really huge fine.

The Aftermath

Wilhelm quickly got fired. We all received calls to “interview” with the company for an open position. We all received severance pay for our “firing” plus most of the unpaid overtime (about 80% of it). Almost all of us went back to work with a small pay raise based on experience.

The company took a long, hard look on the supermarket chain and distanced themselves from them (they stayed until their lease was over, but no shared employees anymore and a lot of theirs jumped ship to our side). Next time Grumpy had to take time off, one of his assistants took over.

Two did a stellar job, leading to be promoted to managers in other stores. Grumpy brought back his usual managerial style, leading again to a rise of sales and customer happiness.

I left the job three years later for a better paying position, but I still remember Grumpy as one of the best managers I ever had.”

Now it’s time to see how folks on Reddit responded to this story.

This reader said it should be obvious to all employers that happy workers are better workers.

No doubt about it!

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This reader said just because you have a business degree, it doesn’t mean you’re going to know how to work with folks…or to manage them.

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Another person said the old adage that “anyone can be replaced” is outdated and backward. And it hurts companies in the long run.

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And finally, this Reddit user said that, unfortunately, as long as sales are good, bad behavior in the workplace usually doesn’t go unpunished.

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In the comments, tell us about your bad work experiences.

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This Person Wonders if They’re a Jerk for Asking Their Friend to Pay for Their Dog’s Surgery

If you happen to have pets, then you already know that vet bills can be astronomical.

And this situation involving a dog from a person on Reddit seems like it might just end a friendship.

Let’s see what went down…

WIBTA for asking my friend to pay for my dogs surgery after she almost k**led him?

“One of my good friends came to my apartment to go out together one night, let’s call her Lauren. I also have a 20 week old puppy.

Lauren is notoriously messy when visiting. She will go through her clothes, my clothes and just about everything to find an outfit to go out. However, now that I have my puppy I reminded Lauren when she first came in the apartment to please keep everything off of the ground and out of reach of my puppy.

I told her that he will chew/eat anything left on the ground, so for anything she cared about & for my puppies safety, to keep it up high.

Lauren continued to have her clothes and miscellaneous items from her bag sprawled out everywhere. So instead of reminding her after the 2nd or 3rd time, I just started putting her items in another room and closing the door for her to pick up later.

While getting ready Lauren decided to take a shower and she brought her own shaving razor. When she mentioned shaving, I told her to be careful because my puppy had tried to get ahold of my razor before, so be careful.

Long story short, I crate my dog and we go out. I come back and he is having bloody diarrhea and squealing. At 4 AM, I rush to the emergency vet. They tell me he’s probably constipated and to monitor him. I questioned this but didn’t know what he could’ve ate yet, so I take him home and watch him closely.

After coming home and making sure he is okay. I do a quick sweep of my house and try (emphasis on try, there were crop tops, socks, etc. flung all around my room) to find all the items she had left around my apartment. Lauren picks up her stuff and leaves.

The next day when I am taking a shower I notice she left her razor on the ground by my shower. It looked a bit off so I sent her a picture and asked if a part was missing. She says the bikini shaver of it is missing and seems unconcerned. I tell Lauren I think my puppy may have ate it.

So I go to my local vet to have another checkup and they take X-rays. The vet tells me he indeed ate the razor and that he needs to go to another vet over an hour away for emergency surgery, or he would not make it through the night. Of course, I rush there and they do the surgery.

Later I text Lauren that he is having surgery because he swallowed her bikini razor. Lauren tells me she is sorry for leaving it out and didn’t ever mean for this to happen.

We are good friends, I would like to still be. My question is would I be the a**hole it I asked her to cover part of the costs from his surgery?

My puppy is obviously a bit at fault here for eating it, I’m at fault for not searching my apartment well enough after she made a mess, but I believe she is at fault for leaving a razor out where he could get to it after being reminded SEVERAL times.

I’m not intending on asking her to cover full cost, but would I be the a**hole for asking for anything?”

And here’s how people on Reddit reacted.

This person doesn’t think the writer of the post is in the wrong at all for asking her friend to help pay the bills for the dog.

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Another reader couldn’t believe that the friend didn’t offer to pay the whole amount!

I think I agree!

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This Reddit user said the person’s friend is obviously not a responsible individual.

At all.

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And this reader went so far as to say that they might’ve dodged a bullet with this “friend.”

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Lastly, this individual made it quite clear and simple: this is not how real friends treat each other.

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