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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Telling Their Cousin That She’s Committing a Sin

I am not a religious person and I don’t really have any religious friends or family members. And when I hear stories like the one you’re about to read, I’m kind of glad about that. Because it seems like it can get in the way of a lot of relationships.

A young woman took to Reddit to get advice about the way that she’s treating her cousin. Let’s see what she had to say.

AITA for telling my cousin she’s committing a sin?

“I’ll try to keep this straight to the point but I (18F) can answer any questions you have.

A year and a half ago, my cousin (17f) and aunt (50+) immigrated from Saudi Arabia. They have been living with my family and I in Canada ever since. It’s been a real struggle for everyone to adjust. Because they are way more religious than me, they see themselves as more superior.

I can’t read or write Arabic properly, so they say “Oh poor OP, losing her faith and culture because she was born here” or they comment on the fact that I can’t read the Qur’an in the original language.

Everything I do, they comment on. I watch a show, listen to music, dye my hair, wear skinny jeans, or anything remotely fun in front of them, and they give their opinion. ” Darling, this is Haram”, “sweetie, doing this is actually not permitted” , ” OP, you can’t do this unless you want to go to hell”.

My parents have told me to keep the peace and that they’ll soon get their own place. Since the whole lockdown, my cousin has taken up a new hobby- painting. She’s actually really talented and I’m surprised she’s never painted before. I was watching anime in our shared room when she told me to turn it off. She said she can’t concentrate listening to something Haram while she painted.

I told her that she’s also committing a sin by painting a girl. (In Islam, drawing/painting any living thing is a sin) This lead to a whole fight and our parents got involved. Basically, they’re telling me to apologize because her painting isn’t harming anybody.

My cousin has stopped talking to me because my aunt made her stop painting. This caused problems between my parents and aunt because they’re telling my aunt it’s fine if she paints. Now there’s tension in our house and my parents are kind of p*ssed at me.

AITA for causing this fight? I admit I lost my temper, but after a year and a half of this, I couldn’t take it anymore. Also, my cousin was really good at painting and it was a way for her to get creative. I feel really bad now that she’s not allowed.”

Let’s see what the folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person thinks that the woman didn’t do anything wrong and that her cousin needs to be able to take some of her own medicine.

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This person stated the obvious: the woman’s cousin is very judgmental…and hypocritical.

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Another reader who is a Muslim said they think the woman’s family might be going overboard in the religion department.

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And another individual again brought up the hypocrisy of the whole situation.

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And another Muslim person said that they think the woman’s cousin and aunt are just being downright disrespectful.

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Parent Asks if They Made a Mistake by Telling Their Son’s Wife She Wasn’t a Beautiful Bride. People Weighed In.

I’m sure you already know how fragile women can be on their wedding day.

And the LAST thing you probably want to do is tell them that they don’t look absolutely stunning in their dress on their big day.

But that’s what happened with this man and they shared his story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page to get some feedback about what went down.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my son’s wife that she wasn’t a beautiful bride?

“I’m very p*ssed off over this, so maybe it is more of a misstep than I originally thought. My son got married eight months ago, to a woman we’ve never liked.

They had a surprise wedding, meaning none of us knew we were going to a wedding and we were told it was just a cocktail party. My wife wore white, now that I think of it my wife wears a lot of white and that makes DIL even more of a dumb*ss for never warning us.

Well for eight months she has been trying to spin it to make my wife look like some crazed MIL who showed up in a wedding dress. She had a wedding picture on social media and when someone commented who wore white, she wrote back “that’s my mother in law, she doesn’t like me” and a laughing emoji.

My wife called her out on it and she played the victim and whined about my wife trying to upstage her. She has made a couple snide comments, and told people who weren’t at the wedding that it was intentional.

My son knew how much this was p*ssing me off, and pulled me aside. He said that she is insecure because when she showed the wedding pictures to her best friend, who couldn’t make it, the friend immediately commented that my wife is gorgeous.

I guess her mom said something too. My wife used to model and not to be an *ss, but she draws your eye much more than DIL. He said that she is insecure, and she has always felt insecure around my wife. Also we are hispanic and she is white, and I guess her own mom was telling her she should tan and she was going to look pasty compared to everyone.

I don’t really care. I have a 15 year old daughter, so i certainly get that woman struggle with body issues, but you don’t get to take that out on someone else and spread lies.

She made another comment recently, about the picture being proof that she is the innocent one in the relationship, and I snapped at her that I am sick of hearing about the white dress, and that maybe if she put more effort into her own appearance she would have been a beautiful bride and people wouldn’t be looking at her MIL.

She stormed off and my son is mad. He actually said his mom has great self esteem (she doesn’t) so we should take the high road.”

Uh oh…family drama!

Let’s see how Reddit users responded.

This reader made it pretty clear: this guy is an *sshole.

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Another person remarked that the father was also wrong for his actions.

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This individual believes that the dad is definitely in the wrong here and that he was cruel on purpose.

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This person thinks everyone involved in the story is pretty bad…and that they’re all kind of *ssholes.

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Finally, this reader made a good point: you should always take the high road and not resort to insults.

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Oh boy…what a weird story…

Now we want to hear from you.

Tell us what you think about this situation in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Not Giving Their Brother and His Wife Any Privacy

People sure can be pushy,  huh?

You give someone an inch and they take a mile, right?

Well, you just might feel that way after reading this person’s account of what’s going in with his brother and his wife in a place that seems a little bit too close for comfort.

Read on, friends, and we’ll see how Reddit users reacted to this story.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife any privacy?

“My brother lost his job along with all his savings several months ago, and soon after he asked me if it would be okay if he (28M) and his wife (30F) stayed with me until they could afford their own place again.

I hesitated at first, considering I only have a 1 bedroom apartment, but according to them they had ‘no other options’ so of course I invited them over and bought a blow-up mattress for the living room.

For the first month things were manageable, although admittedly cramped. Then my brother told me that sleeping on the mattress was giving him back pains, so he asked if he could buy a small double bed for the living room.

The living room is by far the biggest room I have, so I told him that would be fine as long as there was still room for my couch/TV/bookshelves. The living room is also connected to my kitchen in an open plan style, so I reminded my brother to leave walking space around the bed.

It’s now been 2+ months and things have gotten a lot worse. When they first moved in, I would still use the living room every day to unwind on the couch after work. Now whenever I go in, there’s a strange vibe like I’m intruding.

My brother and his wife are often sitting in bed together when I go in (I always knock) and stare at me pointedly until I leave. Sometimes when I sit down they will directly ask me for some ‘alone time’ and say they would like the room to themselves.

This came to a head yesterday when my sister-in-law messaged me with a ‘timetable’ she’d made of when it would be ‘a good time’ for me to use the living room. The timetable basically says that they will allow me into the room for an hour each evening, plus 20 minutes around mealtimes.

I basically shut her down instantly and told her there was no WAY I’d be following the timetable since in the end it’s my apartment. She sent me back a HUGE message with a dozen paragraphs about how my constant presence was ‘ruining’ her marriage with my brother and they feel like they have no privacy.

I tried to talk this over with my brother that night, but when I got home neither my brother/SIL were talking to me, so he’s clearly just as p*ssed.

Today an Amazon parcel arrived for my brother with a lock for the living room door, which I told him there’s ‘absolutely no way’ I will allow him to install. My brother says I’m ‘creepy’ for wanting constant access to where they sleep and he’s insisting on installing the lock anyway.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife their privacy?”

Hmmmm…let’s see what people had to say about this.

This Reddit user said that the man’s brother and wife might be gaslighting him and that they should probably get their own place ASAP.

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And this person made a very good point: this guy is doing them A FAVOR. And this is how he gets repaid…?

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Another person pointed out that they’re staying for free in a tight space, so what the hell is this guy supposed to do about it?

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Another person on Reddit pointed out that this guy has gone above and beyond the call of duty in this situation. And they said the couple should probably vacate the premises sooner than later.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Is this guy being a total weirdo or is he not doing anything wrong?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks in advance!

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Am I Wrong for Banning My Husband From the Bedroom?

Pal, it looks like you’ll be spending some time on Sofa City.

Hey, it happens sometimes, right?

And a woman wants to know if she’s wrong for making her husband sleep elsewhere on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

Let’s take a look at her story and see how people responded to it.

AITA For Barring My Husband From The Bedroom Tonight?

“So here is the situation.

Me: nurse. Working 50ish hours a week in pediatric ICU. Cry at least once a week because that sh*t is hard. My salary pays our bills. All of them.

Husband: 25M. Has a degree but isn’t looking for a job. Works 2 days a week at the grocery store. Spends most of his time playing LoL.

Btw all events here are in accordance with Covid Legislation.

Today was supposed to be A Good Day. I had been begging my husband to swap his Saturday shift to literally anything else so that we could have days off together. We haven’t had a weekend together since our wedding, 18mo ago.

Today was supposed to be our first Saturday off together. We were going to go to an animal sanctuary.

He starts the day by going to breakfast. With his best mate. Leaving before I even wake up. I wake up around 9 and realize he is not home. Call. He says he’s helping his mate set up some lights and that the weather is too rainy for the animal sanctuary anyway.

He gets home at 1 ish. Lies around. Plays some video games, promising we would cook dinner together tonight.

Leaves again at 5 to help the same mate with something else.

I go grocery shopping. I don’t drive because of medical issues, but I walk there and back in the rain. I get home, realize I’ve left my keys inside. Call husband, knowing he’s 5min away.

He says he will leave in a minute. I sit in the rain and the cold (southern hemisphere). 45 min later, I call again. He hasn’t left yet. He finally agrees to come and let me in the house, so he drives up, presses the clicker to let me in the garage and leaves again.

At 10, I I called to see where he is. His friend answers. Says he is driving out to do something an hour away.

It’s 10.30. I am going to bed. I have sent him a txt that I am upset and don’t want to speak to him tonight and would rather he left me alone.

As far as I am concerned, if he can’t value me more than his best mate on the first day off he and I have shared in a year and a half, he can go sleep in his bed instead. (Btw, his friend doesn’t work, so they hang out all the time when I am at work).

He is going to be upset. And he is gonna tell his mate and his mate is going to tell him I’m being a b*tch.

AITA

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

One person said she should ban him for longer than one night for his behavior.

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Another Reddit user thinks that she might want to think about getting rid of the guy altogether…

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Another individual said that she thinks the husband might have a side piece…something to think about…

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And this person said the guy is really nothing more than a big kid that the woman has to take care of.

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Do you think this woman stepped over the line or was this an acceptable response?

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Person Wonders if They Have a Right to Be Mad After Getting Patted Down at Their Sister’s Wedding

I can’t say I’ve ever heard this one before…

Getting patted down at a wedding? That’s a new one!

But it happened and the woman who went through it took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to see if she was wrong for getting upset about it.

Take a look.

AITA for getting upset that my sister’s fiancé pulled me aside and patted me down at their wedding?

“The title sounds so stupid but here we go anyways.

I’m 24 and I’m an addict who has been in recovery for the past six months.

I used and used until I was basically in poverty and my older sister helped bail me out more than once.

She’s my best friend and I know it hurt her a lot to see me like that.

She also met her fiancé two years ago and he really only knew me as the junkie brother then. He’s not my biggest fan to say the least considering how much I put my sister through.

Despite this she still invited me to her wedding last week because I am her brother and she wanted me to be there.

When I get to the reception, my brother in law is greeting people as they walk in.

When I walk by he pulls me to the side and in front of everyone starts patting me down and says that he needs to check me to make sure I “didn’t bring anything in”. I instinctively pull away, because why wouldn’t I, and I tell him not to touch me.

He tells me to “calm down” and that if I want to be here then he needs to do this. I tell him he’s being ridiculous and I try to push past him. He stops me and tells me that he doesn’t want to throw me out but he “will if he has to.” I told him that he’s trying to look tough but it’s just making him look stupid.

At this point I’m getting more and more angry and I’m practically yelling in his face at this point. Bystanders came between us and separated us and told my BIL to just “drop it.” He said he would but that “they can deal with it when I get out of hand.”

I just went to go find a seat after that.

After the reception, a lot of my family told me that I should’ve let him just do it and that I was acting like a huge *sshole and like I had “something to hide.”

I don’t think he had any right to pat me down, especially in front of people and I don’t think my reaction was over the top. If anything, he was the one acting like a huge douche by trying to start drama so he can look tough. My sister has refused to take any sides in this.

AITA?”

And here’s how folks responded.

This reader said that the man’s reaction was totally out of line and he made a scene for no reason.

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Another person pointed out that this could have been handled in so many different ways.

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Another reader had a totally different opinion and said that everyone was to blame in this situation.

They pointed out that the woman has been violent in the past but it probably could have been handled differently.

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Another reader said that the woman is to blame for getting that angry and that addicts just can’t be trusted at all.

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One reader made a great point: if they didn’t want the drama, they probably just shouldn’t have invited the woman in the first place.

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Well, that sure was a weird one…

And now we want to get your take.

Tell us what you think of this situation in the comments. We’d love to hear from you!

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Was I Wrong for Kicking My Cousin off My Sister’s Wedding Zoom Call? Here’s How Folks Responded.

Family drama alert! And it’s comin’ in really hot!

And, because of the world we currently live in, we’re having family drama on Zoom! Of course, this was going to happen…

Anyway, take a look at this person’s story about what went down during a monumental zoom call and check out the reactions from Reddit users on the other side.

Let’s check it out.

AITA for kicking my cousin off of my sister’s wedding Zoom call?

“My [27M] older sister [30F] and her fiancé [31M] were planning for over a year for their wedding to be this month.

Obviously, they can’t have the wedding as planned, but they still would like to get married, so they decided on a “Zoom” wedding where all of the family/friends would just call in to watch the officiant, my sister, and her fiancé.

My sister didn’t want to be in charge of hosting the Zoom call because she thought it would stress her out, so she asked me to and I gladly accepted.

She and her fiancé decided to invite everyone they originally wanted to, and it was a very big list. When we were going over the list, my sister mentioned to me that she wanted everyone else to be muted for the majority of the wedding as she was worried that others would talk over her and her fiancé and quote “overshadow” them on their big day “that was already scaled down”.

However, her and her fiancé said that I should unmute everyone at one point so everyone could talk and have a nice time with each other.

Fast-forward to the day of the wedding—everyone is muted during the ceremony which goes great, and so I then unmute everyone and ask to please raise a hand if they’d like to talk so it doesn’t get confusing. My cousin (around my age) starts waving his hand crazily, and he’s with his longtime girlfriend (also similar age I guess).

He’s a very gregarious guy, so I was not surprised. Then, he says stuff like “(my sister) and (her husband) are such an inspiration, it’s given me the courage to do this….” then turns to his girlfriend and pulls out a box that is the size of an engagement ring box??

I immediately saw this as him trying to steal the spotlight (something that he’s done since we were kids, ex: he would secretly mess up my sister and I’s drawings if the adults would praise ours) and booted him off of the call.

Then I quickly announced that my cousin had technical difficulties and would not be joining again. Everyone else accepted this and went about talking, and my sister and her husband did too.

The rest of the wedding went smoothly—except for the fact that my cousin kept texting me angrily saying that he finally wanted to propose as a surprise with family all around and I ruined it.

My aunt and uncle texted me the same. AITA??”

And here’s what people on Reddit had to say about what happened…

This person praised the Lord Almighty that the cousin was banished from the call!

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Another Reddit user said that the person did the right thing for their sister…and I’m inclined to agree with them.

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A reader said that it’s a good thing the wedding was on Zoom, because if the cousin had pulled this in-person it could have been a lot worse.

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A reader commented that people who make these kinds of huge gestures on someone else’s special day are 100% wrong all the time.

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So what do you think?

Is this person a creep? Or not a creep at all?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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A Waitress Asked if She Was a Jerk for Refusing to Return a Tip to a Customer

Waiters and waitresses really have to put up with a lot of bullsh*t, don’t they?

The folks who work in the back of the house in restaurants have their own sets of problems, but those who are out front and center have to deal with all the drama from customers…and you better believe that there is plenty of it.

A waitress shared a story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page about dealing with certain customers that frankly sounds like kind of a nightmare.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for refusing to return a tip AND telling a couple that I don’t have time to play mediator?

“I’m a 22 year old, female waitress at Texas Roadhouse. This is one of my two jobs to put myself through college. Most days are fine but other days are a living hell.

Yesterday I was assigned a table that had a husband, wife and what appeared to be a teenage daughter (maybe 17). Everything was going smooth at first and the wife ordered a margarita. The husband then tried ordering a beer. The wife instantly lost her noodles and said “Uh, no. He will not have a beer. He will have a water.”

She then turned to him and said something along the lines of him not needing to drink because he was driving. He said no, the daughter could drive. It was childish.

Anyways, he keeps telling me he wants a beer. She keeps telling me no. In this industry, situations like this are a lose/lose for waitresses. If I get him the beer, wife wont tip. If I dont get him the beer, he wont tip. D*mned if I do, d*mned if I dont. So while they were arguing AT me, I said “Listen, I really dont have time to play mediator here.”

They went silent. I went and got both of them their alcohol. Daughter gives me an apologetic look upon my return, presumably because her mother was acting batsh*t crazy upon seeing me bring a beer in tow.

Flash forward to after their meals. Husband has had 2 beers at this point. Wife has stopped drinking and glares at me everytime I return. Wife and daughter go to the car while husband pays. Husband drops me a $40 tip on a $68 tab. I told him I couldnt accept it. He insisted. Eventually I pocketed it.

Wife comes in an hour or so later demanding that I give her the $40 her husband gave me, stating that I was a terrible host and went against her and I dknt deserve a tip.

She got my manager involved who said “She is not obligated to give you her tip. You left the restaurant and the tip has already been processed. Have a nice night.” She was fuming, screaming at me about how much of an AH I was for supplying her husband alcohol after she said no.

Other guests started chiming in saying that she was being ignorant and that I was doing my job, which is to provide guests with what they want and said that it wasnt MY fault that she was a controlling wife. She storms out.

Given the fact that I was put on the spot like that, I feel insanely guilty. AITA?”

And here’s what people had to say about her story.

One person brought up how bad they feel for the couple’s child.

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Another person said the woman did the exact right thing in this strange situation.

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This individual said there is absolutely no way the woman was wrong in this situation.

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And this person pointed out that she was just doing her job and that she didn’t do anything wrong.

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Finally, this Reddit user said that they also feel sorry for the husband in this situation.

The wife sounds like a real treat, huh…?

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Now we want to hear from all the readers out there.

Tell us what you think about this situation in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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Am I a Jerk for Being Mad at My Husband Who Was Going to Give $10,000 to His Sister Without Asking Me? Here’s What People Said.

When money gets involved in any situation, things can go off the rails in a hurry.

And this story is a doozy.

A woman shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole” forum on Reddit to ask the readers there if she was wrong for getting mad at her husband for going behind her back to give a family member A LOT of money.

Here’s how it all went down…

AITA For being mad at my husband who was going to give away $10,000 to his sister without even asking me about it?

“On Saturday morning, I noticed my husband was sending a lot of text messages back and forth. He is usually not much of a texter. He left the phone next to me to charge while he as in the other room.

The phone kept lighting up with text messages when I decided to open it up to see what the big discussion was about.

I know some couples view it as big breach of trust to read through a significant other’s phone, but my husband and I do it regularly so this was not a huge invasion of privacy on my end. We both have nothing to hide and it has never been an issue before.

Anyway, of course I saw something on the phone that I shouldn’t have that got me upset. For background, my husband is 34, I am 32, and his sister is 31 (she’s in this story). Husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for the last four years.

We are all college educated with jobs now. My husband and I each make good salaries around $150k each. We own our house. I still have about $60,000 in student loans I am working to pay off (luckily low interest rates so I just pay the minimum).

We have about $40k liquid in savings. So we are doing good financially but still need to build up more savings as we will probably try to start a family in the next 1-2 years and want to be prepared for an emergency and have a rainy day fund. Anyway, my husband’s sister is trying to buy a 1 bedroom apartment in NYC.

I saw in the text messages that my husband offered to give her $10,000 for her down payment. The money is our savings is OUR money. Our bank accounts are 100% combined. My husband manages 99% of the finances because I prefer not to deal with it. However, it is understood we consult each other regularly on major purchases.

He did not ask me if I was OK with him giving this money to his sister. She didn’t ask, he offered. I immediately confronted him (calmly) and was like, “Hey – Did you tell your sister you would give her $10,000?” He said yes. I asked him when he was going to tell me.

He said, he probably wasn’t. He figured I wouldn’t notice and said he didn’t think I would care about “the details”. I said, “Um, do you think $10,000 is a detail?” He said, “No, that is lot of money. I should have told you about it. Are you OK with it?” I said, “No, I don’t think I am.”

Anyway we decided in that moment not to give the money. He said he would tell his sister and she would understand. He wanted the issue to go away after that.

But I am still mad. I said this was a big breach of trust. I let him control all finances because I trust him to never, ever take advantage of my ignorance. Shouldn’t you be able to trust your husband?

So now, I don’t have that full amount of trust I had before and I want to open my own bank account (which frankly, I should have anyway). But AITA for being totally upset and feeling betrayed about this?

I grew up poor and $10,000 is a ton of money to me (I mean, to most people right?!). I am horrified he would consider gifting it away and not even telling me.

Wow…let’s see what folks on Reddit said about this.

This person didn’t think the woman was wrong at all for being angry at her husband.

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Another person made a good point: what else has her husband done with their money…?

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Another reader called the husband’s actions “a lie by omission”, and I think they’re right about that.

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This Reddit user called it “financial infidelity.” I’ve never heard that one before…

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And finally, this reader said that $10,000 is a huge chunk of money and that the woman and her husband might want to think about getting separate accounts after this incident because there are clearly some trust issues here…

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Now we want to get your take on the situation.

Do you think this woman was justified in her anger or did she overreact?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

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Person Calls Off Wedding After His Partner Nearly Gets His Pooch Killed

This is one of those posts where just reading the headline seems like it’s enough information to make a decision. Anyone who isn’t responsible for a beloved pet – or careful with the life of any animal, to be honest – isn’t the kind of person I’d want to spend my life with.

Sometimes the devil is in the details, though, so let’s hear these before we make a final call.

It began when OP (original poster) left his dog home with his fiancee during her bachelorette party.

He says he specifically told her to put the dog away in the bedroom once the party got going.

Me (28M) and fiancee (27F) have been together for 4 years, engaged for 6 months. I also have a 7 year-old lab mix who is the greatest dog in existence.

On Saturday, fiancee had a bachelorette party at home. I stayed with my parents but I left the dog with her because she likes having him there. However, I made sure to tell her to put the dog in our bedroom once the party gets going.

The next morning, OP got a frantic call that something was wrong with the dog. They both raced to the emergency vet, where she was clearly upset and her friends told him the dog was alive but sick.

5am on Sunday I get a frantic call that something’s wrong with the dog. She was drunk, so I told her to get a taxi and go to the emergency vet clinic. When I got there, she looked like she hadn’t stopped crying for hours and she couldn’t even speak.

Two of her friends were there so they told me my dog is alive but not well. I felt sorry for her for an entire 10 minutes while waiting for the doctor.

Then the doctor informed them the dog was sick because it had gotten into substantial amounts of both edibles and alcohol – they had failed to lock him up or watch him after they’d started drinking.

But then, the doctor told me my dog ingested large amounts of alcohol and chocolate edibles. The girls apparently thought it would be cool to leave everything out on short coffee tables, leave the dog to wander around instead of putting him in our bedroom, and then get wasted and not notice he was going to town with the booze and edibles.

At home, he told her to get out and that it was over, which she did.

Her friends and family think he’s nuts to end a 4-year relationship over a mistake, but also, they weren’t very nice about it.

When we got home, I told my fiancee to pack and get out of my house and my life. I told her to tell her guests the wedding is off, and I’ll tell mine. She was shocked, but she took her things and left.

2 hours later, I get bombarded by messages on Messenger, Whatsapp, by her sisters, brother, brother’s wife, her mom, her friends, telling me that I am insane to do this to her after 4 years. They started off defending her, but it quickly turned into insulting me.

And get this – his family agrees.

The dog is fine, so everyone thinks he should just forgive and forget, and his best man admitted that OP might have overreacted.

The logical thing for me to do was look for comfort in my friends and family. Nope. They all fucking agree. My mom said: “Well, it was a mistake, she didn’t do it on purpose, besides – the dog didn’t die!” Lucky me, eh? My dog didn’t fucking die!

My sister was appalled that I cancelled the wedding “over that?!” and even my best man said I might have overreacted. Yes, our relationship has had ups and downs, but it’s mostly worked fine. But I am so disgusted at my fiancee that I can’t even imagine looking her in the eye, let alone spending my whole life with her. She isn’t fucking 17, she is 27!

The thing is, this isn’t the first time he’s thought her actions were immature, and he worries that someone will eventually get hurt for real.

By the way, this is not the first dumb thing she has done. She likes to text while driving, she always leaves stuff on the electric stove (like kitchen towels, the cutting board etc.) even though she has turned on the wrong burner and burnt whatever was on it several times in the past, and similar DANGEROUS things. It’s not something I hold against her in the sense that I would ever mention in a fight, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried that she might end up killing herself or someone else. For example, my dog.

I’m 99% sure I will stand by my decision. But am I really an asshole? Literally nobody is on my side and I have no idea what to think.

He edited the post to add that he’s realized maybe it’s not about the dog at all, or at least, not just about the dog.

Posting here kind of triggered me to conclude this isn’t about the dog at all. She is negligent and irresponsible and I don’t want to stick around and possibly see our child die in a car accident some day because she was texting or she forgot to put his seat belt on. I’d rather be an asshole now than spend years of my life worrying every time our child is left alone with her.

If she’d accidentally killed a person while texting and driving, I would also leave her. I guess I realized I don’t want to spend my life with someone who has such blatant disregard for human (or animal) life.

But what did the general public have to say about his hardline approach?

Here we go!

This person pointed out that if you’re in a relationship with someone who means less to you than your pet, it’s probably not the right person for you.

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Plenty of people think Everyone Sucks Here because OP isn’t taking responsibility for his own poor decision to leave the dog there in the first place.

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They really don’t seem well-suited.

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They also suggested that if OP wants to avoid judgement, perhaps he shouldn’t divulge the details of their breakup.

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And yeah, a few people thought OP was way harsh, Tai.

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I’m still on the side of OP, because he has very good reasons for ending it, but I do think he probably could have been more considerate about it.

What do you think? Let’s hash it out in the comments!

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A Dad Asked if He’s Wrong to Still Cook Bacon in the House With His Vegan Daughter

More and more people are making different dietary choices lately – whether it’s for health reasons, because of a concern for the environment, or over moral objections – and many of those changes mean no longer eating meat (or any animal byproducts, in the case of vegans).

If you know a passionate vegan, there’s a good chance you also know many of them are not quiet about their choices, or about trying to convince you to make the same ones. Everyone has to decide for themselves, though, and what’s the best course of action when people who take different paths still live together under one roof?

That’s the question this bacon-loving father is asking now that his daughter is a practicing vegan.

Dad here, old fart, loves his daughter to pieces but I’m struggling to see eye to eye with my teenager and wife on this one.

As a Midwestern family, their meals have always revolved around meat and potatoes, but when his daughter decided to become a vegan, he jumped on board to help her make the switch.

We’ve always been a meat eating family, we live in the rural Midwest and bacon for breakfast is pretty much a given. This year my 14 y/o daughter decided to go vegan, and I jumped onto her support team with enthusiasm. We learned how to substitute ingredients, cook new things, try new things, I adjusted our budget to include more expensive vegan substitutes for her, etc.

Then, there was an incident with a pan.

None of this has been a problem for me until recently. She saw me cook bacon in a pan, and then I rinsed it out to load in the dishwasher. She exploded in anger (teen years, I’m not too fussed about the anger explosion, I know she doesn’t mean it) and said that that was HER pan for vegan food. I was completely floored and said, kiddo this here is a family pan, older than you, it’s not YOUR pan.

She asked for pans to be specifically designated for cooking vegan, and he agreed.

She asked me to purchase her a pan that she can solely use for vegan food. I didn’t want her to feel weird about food, so I said sure, and ordered her a few colored ones that are only for her. The reason they’re colored is so it helps me remember that I’m not to touch them unless I’m cooking vegan.

That wasn’t enough, though, and then she asked that they all stop eating meat at home to stop the cross-contamination.

That wasn’t good enough. Now apparently the dishwasher is ‘contaminated’ with animal product, and the fridge has ‘bacon grease fingers’ on it (because I eat bacon and then touch the fridge) and she’s asked me and her mom to completely stop eating meat at home. I don’t mean I literally touch the fridge with greasy bacon hands, because I wash my hands, but it’s clearly enough that it upsets my daughter.

He and his wife disagree on how to handle it – she thinks that they should make their daughter comfortable in her own kitchen while he says he’s not going to stop enjoying the things he loves in his own house.

frankly I’m on team hell no, her mom is much more amenable and strongly wants me to consider taking our daughter up on the request. My wife’s reasoning is that both our parents live close so we can eat meat products there, and that she doesn’t want our daughter to feel uncomfortable in the kitchen.

My daughter says she is fine with cheese and butter in the fridge, but it’s specifically meat products that make her feel sick. Now I’m sorry for her, but I feel like she just needs to adapt and live side by side, because I’m not going to stop eating bacon in my own house.

Look out, folks – here come the comments.

Mostly, people believe more compromises can be made so that everyone can continue to eat what they want.

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Others suggested the daughter needs a (kind) reality check about all of the ways the world is not going to change to accommodate her.

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And yeah, learning to cohabitate with people who don’t share each and every one of your beliefs is one of life’s necessary lessons.

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Other vegans weighed in, and they were surprisingly on the father’s side on this one.

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“Feeling sick” is something she’s definitely just going to have to get over.

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I’m definitely with the dad here – it’s his house, he pays the bills, he eats what he likes. Sure, it’s great that he’s willing to support his daughter, but he also needs to teach her that living with other people will always involve compromise.

What do you think? Let’s hash it out in the comments!

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