A Person Wants to Know if They’re a Jerk for Messing With Their Ex and His Assistant

It kind of blows my mind sometimes when people talk about how much time they have to mess with people…

Why aren’t you people working?!?!

But that’s another story…

This story comes to us from Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page and is pretty interesting…

Let’s take a look at what happened and how people on Reddit responded to this situation.

AITA for screwing with my ex and his assistant?

“My ex’s assistant has disliked me since she started working for him. I have to stay in touch with my ex because we have a 9-month-old together.

His schedule changes a lot so his assistant is supposed to let me know if there’s a change which will mean he can’t use his visitations and if he wants to reschedule the time.

She’s started “accidentally” sending me his personal things. If he’s making dinner arrangements with his current flavour of the week, she “accidentally” sends it to me asking to confirm when it’s meant for someone else. She “accidentally” got two gifts mixed up, so she ended up sending me/our baby lingerie. There have been other things, but you get the idea.

Last Tuesday, she “accidentally” called me whilst my ex was having a pretty sexual conversation with his best friend in which I came up an uncomfortable number of times. It was muffled but I heard way more than I wanted to.

In the past, I would complain to my ex, but he always laughs her mistakes off and promises he’ll have a word with her, but she keeps doing it.

I was supposed to see my ex last Friday, but I was kind of annoyed with him, so I decided to screw with his assistant and him. I called her and told her he couldn’t come on Friday because I had a date. On Friday, I called him when he didn’t show and asked him why he didn’t come.

He ended up coming over later than he was supposed to, and he was sulking the whole time and kept complaining that he thought I was going on a date and he’d need to have a word with his assistant about making mistakes because he had to cancel “important” plans to come over last minute.

I did end up telling him the truth after our son went to sleep and I confronted him about what he said. He denied it but then got angry at me for wasting his time and making him miss time with his son. He said I was being petty over small mistakes.

I told my best friend what I did, and she said I was an AH because his assistant could get fired over this and I shouldn’t have told him about hearing the call.

I do feel kind of bad now but I’m really sick of her making mistakes when it comes to me and getting away with it.

So, [am I the a-hole]?”

Here’s how people responded.

This person said that she is not in the wrong in this situation.

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This person thought the whole thing stunk of immaturity and pettiness.

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Another person also argued that she was not the *sshole in this situation and that she needs to be very deliberate with keeping records about this whole situation.

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Finally, this person said (and I agree) that everyone involved in this situation kind of sucks and they’re all playing immature games.

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Do you think this person is a jerk?

Or is this whole thing really no big deal?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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Professor Asks if It’s Wrong to Tell a Student That They Just Don’t Care

I used to think that being a college professor would be one of the best jobs ever.

You get a flexible schedule, you get to read about, publish, and teach about something you’re super into (you would have to be to get a Masters or PhD), and your students are old enough to be considered adults, so you wouldn’t have to deal with parents the way high school teachers do.

Then I learned about all of the politics that are involved with University teaching, and I’m kind of glad I petered out 80% of the way through my MA.

This professor is having an attack of a guilty conscience after following a school’s policy to not give deadline extensions on certain assignments without an excuse (and proof).

Happened a month ago but I still feel guilty over it. I’m a professor & my students had an assignment due on the week I was on bereavement leave. I informed my students of this, and let them know that I would be answering emails/ requests late, so it was better to inform the other professor in charge of the unit.

This assignment was given at the beginning of the semester & they were informed that no deadline extension would be provided unless there was an emergency (with proof) or requested in advance cause it was the school’s policy.

He had one student who emailed him timely, said her grandmother had passed, and was given the extension (pending proof).

One of student’s grandmother passed the day the assignment was due, so she emailed me & CCed the other lecturer. I happened to see the email in time, & I made a note in the system of her case & the deadline was extended with subsequent action pending the submission of proof.

Then another student emailed, citing “personal reasons,” but the professor did NOT see the email in time to stop him from getting an automatic fail because he was on bereavement leave (the students were informed ahead of time).

The student became upset and elevated the matter to both the professor’s superior and the dean, and he was forced into an online meeting while he was supposed to be grieving his brother’s death.

A day after the deadline, another student emailed me (only) saying that he couldn’t submit his assignment due to personal reasons & asked for a backdated extension. I didn’t see the email until a couple of days later. Because of the delay, he received an automatic fail. I emailed him back explaining what had happened but if he could provide proof of the emergency I may be able to find a solution where he won’t be failed (but won’t be given high marks).

He sent a really nasty reply & CCed the dean & my superior (the other lecturer in charge of the unit). I was dragged into an online meeting to sort this issue (while on my bereavement leave).

The conversation got a bit heated, with both parties saying things they probably shouldn’t have.

He called me a sh%tty professor because I was on leave the week the assignment was due & I was playing favourites cause I gave an extension to his classmate but not him & didn’t answer his email on time. He also said that I had no right to ask for proof because it was personal. I interrupted him to tell him off, saying that I honestly don’t give a shit about what excuses he has because I have proof that he acknowledged my emails.

I also said that I’m sorry that my brother’s death inconvenienced him but that it was his responsibility to keep track of dates & understand that certain things were out of my control because it’s the school’s policy, not mine. I also reminded him that I did say that I would try to not fail him but I couldn’t do that if I didn’t have proof.

I admit I was not as polite as I normally would be, & I was visibly upset by the time the Dean cut in.

The Dean excused the professor from the conversation, since he was on bereavement leave, saying the others would settle the matter. The prof found out later that the student came from a rough background and was already on academic probation, and now he’s feeling badly about the entire thing.

The Dean apologised to me first because he had no clue I was on bereavement leave (apparently my superior didn’t tell him for whatever reason). He then said I could excuse myself from the meeting cause he would settle this matter with my superior. I left the meeting & I found out later that the student was already on academic probation & would possibly be expelled cause he failed my unit (assignment was 60% of overall grade). He also came from a troubled background, which explained the personal reasons.

I really do care for my students, & knowing I may have contributed to him being expelled from the university does not sit well with me.

He did do his best to advocate on the student’s behalf, he said in an edit, but isn’t sure what will come of the whole thing.

I did write my superior a recommendation that he still be able to submit the assignment at a later date. My superior told me that because he was on academic probation, there would be another meeting to decide but they would take my suggestion into account.

The internet was ready to give their verdict on this one, though I honestly think everyone involved was a little bit right – and also a little bit wrong.

This fellow prof said the original poster wasn’t wrong, but that in the future he should work harder to be the bigger person as far as how he treats his students.

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Several people pointed out that his superior should have been more involved, and that he never should have been expected to handle things like this while grieving his brother in the first place.

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Everyone should have taken a few deep breaths before getting together.

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A few people thought the professor’s tough love might have been just what this kid needed to keep things together in the future.

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In the end, the professor is human and doing his best – and he’s done his best to correct things, too.

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I think the very first response on this one was the best – the professor wasn’t wrong, but he could have handled it better.

Let’s hope everyone involved has learned a little something for the next time, eh?

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If Your Roommate Asked For Some of Your Hair for a Spell, Would You Give It to Them?

Different strokes for different folks. That’s what I say.

At least, that’s what I say most of the time, but when it comes to evil spirits and pieces of my body, I don’t know…maybe that seems like it’s a bit more of my business.

This woman is young and lives with roommates, one of whom never hid her interest in the occult. Which wasn’t an issue for anyone until an evil ghost popped up and demanded an audience.

I (22f) live with three girls. One of them (Susan) firmly believes in the existence of ghosts and paranormal events. This wasn’t an issue at the start. However over the last few months Susan became convinced that an “evil spirit” lives with us.

According to her, this ghost would visit her room at night and just stand in the corner and tell her things.

The roommate was freaked out (understandably so) and freaked out OP by crawling into bed with her in the middle of the night like a frightened child.

Because she was so scared she would constantly leave her room at night and climb into my bed. The first time this happened I freaked out when I woke up. I got mad at her but she started crying and said she felt scared.

OP offered to switch rooms, which is when the roommate dropped the bombshell that the evil spirit was actually attached to OP, not to her at all.

To solve this problem I told her we should swap rooms. She insisted that the spirit was actually attached to me so it would be a waste of time to swap rooms. I (jokingly) asked her if this entity was low key racist (the other girls are white, I’m mixed). She was angry and said that my negativity is inviting more bad spirits.

Things came to a head when the roommate asked for some of OP’s hair in order to try to get the spirit to go away, and OP blew up and suggested her roommate get help for her “delusions.”

Anyway a few days ago she claimed she found my hair in her room (which doesn’t make sense as I have curly brown hair, she found straight blonde hair. She has straight blonde hair.). Apparently this was a sign that she should use my hair to communicate with the spirit. So she literally asked me if I’d be willing to help her out.

I got pissed and told her that she needs to seek professional help instead involving me in her delusions. I also said that she has serious problems she needs to address.

Now the roommate is even more upset and complaining online about what a horrible bully OP is, and our poster, who doesn’t want to be bald or be involved with any sort of spirit, is wondering whether or not she should have just played along.

She had a complete meltdown and cried HARD. She thinks that I’m not taking her seriously, that I think she’s a bad person (racist etc) and that I “hate” her. She told everyone that I’m a bully and even talked about it on her YouTube channel.

Also, if you think it’s relevant, apparently the ghost-seeing roommate has an unrequited crush on OP.

I think that she should seek help. However my other roommates thinks that she just has a crush on me and I need to address that first. They said that I broke Susan’s heart and should be more mature about this situation.

First of all, I think that’s pretty ridiculous and unrealistic and not relevant to the actual problem. It’s frustrating because they keep bringing that up. Secondly, I don’t think any of this is my fault. Somehow I’m the asshole and Susan is the victim.

The commenters are ready to weigh in, y’all – let’s go!

First, a reminder about what we can control and what we cannot.

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Plenty of folks backed up the idea that the roommate should probably seek professional help.

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It’s worth a shot, I guess.

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It might even be worse than OP imagines…

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There’s no good option.

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I thought this was going to be a bit of a lark at first, but the more I read through the comments, the more I think OP should probably take this seriously.

What do you think? Should she run? Stand her ground? Drop your opinion in the comments!

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A New Dad Wondered Whether He Was Wrong Not to Let Anyone Else Hold His Newborn Before His Wife Could

Being a mom for the first time is one of the most emotional, wild rides a woman will ever take in her life. The hormones, the fears, the joy, and yes, the changes – it’s a ton to handle all at once, and if there’s one thing I think is true across the board, it’s that most of us are doing our best to manage it all.

This woman had a complicated pregnancy and delivery, and when she realized that she might not be able to hold her son immediately, asked that no one else (other than her husband, I assume) get to meet and hold him before she did.

My wife gave birth to our son November 2019. She had a very complicated pregnancy and ended up needing an emergency c-section which we were aware could happen. We had talked about it for a while and she admitted hating the thought she would be the last to hold our son.

So when he was born and she was still unconscious I did not allow anyone in our families to hold him, or even meet him really. They saw me but that was about it. She was unconscious for four days but thankfully recovered and was able to meet and hold our son. It was about a day after everyone else got to meet and hold him for the first time.

Our families were upset but nothing really kicked off except for my mom and sister who were kinda pushy about it.

The husband complied, which meant the baby went four days before meeting his mother, and then the rest of their family.

Now that family is spouting off online, calling them terrible for “robbing” them of the opportunity to meet their grandson/nephew for several days and that the parents were being selfish, putting the mother’s feelings before the baby’s well-being.

Then around January we had an incident. My wife put up some photos of her holding our son for the first time and talked about how traumatic the birth had been and wanted to raise awareness of how dangerous pregnancy and birth can be and basically just saying how grateful she was to have them both be okay.

My mom and sister then really started acting like kids. Saying it wasn’t fair and we robbed them of those first few days with their grandson/nephew. I told them plenty of people meet grandkids and nieces/nephews days or even weeks or months after birth and had this been Covid times it would not have happened for a lot longer.

But they said I was selfish and should not have done that just because my wife couldn’t meet or hold our baby.

It’s the last part that has him thinking, since we all know early touch and interaction is important for baby’s bonding, and so he asked the internet what they thought about his decision to honor his wife’s wishes.

I am only conflicted on this because someone else suggested I robbed my son of having more interaction early on and I should have thought of him over my wife’s feelings on the whole thing and while most of me is screaming hell no, I wanted to see what a bunch of internet strangers would think.

AITA?

Here’s what the internet strangers had to say.

This seems like such an easy response that the family are the ones looking like the a$sholes.

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The bottom line is that THEY are his parents and other people had better learn to accept that means what they say goes right from the start.

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No new mom needs to deal with extra drama.

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This dad did everything right.

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It’s high time we start treating these mothers like autonomous people with rights and not just bodies who delivered babies for the rest of the family.

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The more I thought about this one, the madder I got – and the prouder I got of these new parents sticking to their guns.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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This is Why You Should Always Ask Someone if They Need Help Before Just Giving It

People sure like to be helpful. We like to imagine that we’re the knight in shining armor, that we see someone in need and swoop in without needing to be asked, but the truth is that consent isn’t just for sexual or romantic situations (or at least, it shouldn’t be).

This woman’s post about the unsolicited “assistance” she and her disabled fiancee get when they’re out and about perfectly illustrates why you should always ask before helping a stranger.

A little background; I am engaged to (I’ll call him Frank) a full time wheelchair user. We have been together for 2 years, he is mostly independent but obviously does struggle with things, especially when we’re out.

This is something that has happened more than once, and every time we get the same reaction when we ask people to stop; very annoyed strangers.

She describes how, when they’re out and people perceive that her fiance is struggling, they help without asking – and when her fiance asks them to stop, they get offended.

When we’re out shopping or walking or on holiday sometimes things like curbs, getting in and out of the car if we’re on a slope or getting up and down small steps gets tricky. Now Frank knows what he’s about, he’s pretty nifty in his wheelchair and doesn’t often need help with these things. BUT people go up to him, grab his chair and pull him / push him without asking, because they think they’re helping.

He always says something along the lines of “please let go, I don’t need help” if they had asked he would just say “no I don’t need help”, and that would be the end of it. Sometimes he does get a bit cross (I say a bit, he doesn’t shout or swear, it just annoys him), and asks them to leave him alone they normally get super defensive and get cross back.

A recent incident, where a stranger actually grabbed her fiance and wouldn’t let go, despite him asking her to repeatedly, had her in tears.

What prompted me to write this here is what happened a few days ago. He was getting in the car in a car park and a stranger literally walked up behind him, grabbed his back and pushed him into the car. I was loading the boot and hadn’t noticed her walk over to us, but she definitely didn’t ask permission because the first I knew anything was happening was Frank saying “get off me, I don’t know you and don’t want you touching me.”

I looked up and she was still holding him round his waist. I said something along the lines of “what are you doing, could you let go please”, she didn’t let go, continued to “help” him in and replied “well if you were helping I wouldn’t have needed to. His chair was tipping onto the floor” (when he gets in the car without help, his chair does a bit of a wobble, but it won’t fall)

This made me feel pretty angry and Frank wasn’t happy either, as you can probably guess being in a relationship with someone in a wheelchair can be tough, and having strangers judge me is not fair at all. We didn’t say anything back to her, I put his chair in the car, got in the car myself and cried.

She’s wondering whether or not the right thing to do is to just remember that people are well-meaning, grit her teeth, and bear it.

Now I understand that these people might think they’re helping, but I also think that because he’s seen as “disabled” somehow that takes away his right to refuse help. And I do think that if we say no this isn’t ok they might rethink their actions if they are in the same situation again.

Are we the assholes for being annoyed? Should we just accept they mean no harm? Sometimes I do think to myself they don’t mean to be harmful, and it happens so often I do wonder whether we’re in the wrong to be cross about it.

The people of Reddit have some thoughts, and they’re nearly as indignant as my own.

I had no idea this was a thing but it for sure needs to stop.

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Apparently humans in general need this training.

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The bottom line is that it’s harmful behavior.

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He should just scream bloody murder.

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My mouth is just hanging open right now.

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Do we need some kind of PSAs about this stuff? I would have thought “don’t touch strangers without asking” was like, understood, but apparently not.

If you’ve got a bright idea for how to mitigate this for folks, tell me about it in the comments.

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Is This Working Mom Wrong for Thinking Her Unemployed Husband Should Be Doing Chores?

It’s not a secret that there’s an imbalance in how household chores and childcare are shared in American households. When both parents work, women are shouldering way more than their share across income levels and cultures.

That said, what happens when the husband isn’t working and the kids are away in school or daycare during the day? Should he be doing all of the housework himself, and prepping meals besides?

This working mom says why not, because if the roles were reversed, she would have plenty of time to get it all done every day – her husband has other ideas, which leaves her wondering whether or not she’s expecting too much from him.

I can’t believe I was able to type that the way my eyes were rolling, y’all.

Since we got married in Feb 2020 he has not worked due to work permit issues. He got a permit and job in November and was let go after two months. Now the laundry piles up and I have to ask him to do the vacuuming, etc.

He says the housework should not be his responsibility because he would rather work in the garden. But imo the housework is more important and I’d rather not have to do it after work or on weekends when I want us to hang out and have fun.

Here’s what the commenters have to say (though I’m quite sure you could guess).

I mean, we all have things we’d rather be doing than laundry, sir. Does he think it’s some people’s idea of a fun hobby?

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He should probably start counting his blessings instead of the number of times he has to vacuum every week.

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I was waiting for someone to point out that they could be saving big money keeping the child home from daycare.

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Just like you would explain to your child who wants to play before doing their homework.

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He should really consider the housework his “job”for the time being.

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No way this woman is in the wrong and I hate that our society has even made her consider that she might be.

Chip in your two cents down in the comments!

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Person Asks if Their Joke About Only Eating Apples Went Too Far

Apples are my favorite fruit and I really like the idea of making a joke about it, but I would never pull the kind of prank I’m about to tell you about.

Judging by the comments, a lot of other people are also not fans of what this person did to their friends, but a lot of people also found it really funny.

This person wrote about the incident in the the “Ask the ***hole” Reddit page and asked people if this prank crossed a line.

AITA for pretending to be an “Appletarian” (eating only apple derived foods/drinks) for 3 weeks as a prank, causing my friends to have an intervention for me?

I got the idea a few weeks ago to prank my friends my pretending to be an “Appletarian”, meaning somebody who only eats food products that are derived from apples and would only drink apple juice or apple cider.

I told them them all that I had read on the internet that eating only apples was the healthiest thing for you. When I first told them they thought I was joking, but they underestimated how committed I would be to a joke. So, whenever in the presence of one of my friends (or friend-of-friends/coworkers/etc who knew them) I was very careful to only be seen eating apples or drinking apple juice/cider.

Apples whole, apples diced, apple sauce, the inside of an apple pie, baked apples, candy apples with the chocolate shaved off, etc.

Finally after about a week they bought that I had become an Appletarian. They started giving me information about how unhealthy it was to only eat apples, and growing increasingly exasperated by it. Some of them even got angry.

But I wanted to stick with the joke. Finally, after the end of 3 weeks, I walked into what I was told was a movie night but was actually an intervention for me.

They were all super concerned about my well being and had all sorts of information or whatever. Finally I started laughing hysterically. They were confused as hell so I told them I had been faking it the whole time and had been eating real meals outside their knowledge. I even took out some beef jerky from my pant pocket to prove it and munched it.

I thought they’d appreciate the joke but they were actually really annoyed. My girlfriend even broke up with me over this because a few days ago I had ruined our date night when I told the waiter I only wanted apples because I was an Appletarian and had “embarrassed her for a dumb joke”.

In my opinion the joke was solid and they should appreciate my commitment to the prank.

But, did I go too far?

This person didn’t feel he went too far at all.

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This Reddit user understands the value of pranks, but is not happy with the pain the OP caused.

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Read your audience — that’s this user’s message.

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This person tells the OP to think about how worried his loved ones must have been for his mental health.

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However, at least one more person didn’t think this guy was an a-hole.

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It was nice to see so many people in the comments advocating sympathy for friends instead of disregard for their feelings. I would have liked to see ideas in the comments for harmless alternative pranks.

Share a time with us when you pulled a prank and it failed.

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Girl Asks if She’s an A-Hole for Resisting Adoption

Family dynamics are strange, especially when you’re a teenager.

But when you’ve lost someone close to you, or you live in a blended family, there really are no clear cut answers in life, as shown in this recent AITA conversation.

AITA for not going along with being adopted to make everyone happy?

I hate to post here because I know there are so many of these but I really need to hear what you all think.

I (16f) lost my mom when I was 7. My sister was 2 at the time and my brother was a a few months old. Our dad met my stepmom about a year later, started dating her six months after they met (it was a thing for single parents). She had two kids who were close in age to my siblings. After they got married things were fine at first and then they wanted to adopt each others kids. Her kids were excited as were my siblings but I did not want to be adopted. This wasn’t made into a huge deal but they really quizzed me on why and tried to figure out if they could change my mind. They weren’t able to and I know this really hurt her feelings. Over the years it was let go. They adopted the other kids and everyone was happy. Or so I thought. It seems like it made them unhappy I said no to the adoption and my siblings have wondered why I didn’t want to be adopted too.

I love my stepmom. I get along with her really well. I think she’s great. But I don’t love her the same as I love my mom or dad. It’s different with her. Not bad just not as close. And that for me was reason enough to not be adopted. But there’s also the fact I don’t want my mom’s name erased from everything. I know they’re not trying to replace her but if I’m adopted her name is no longer the legal name I put down, it doesn’t change biology but it does make my stepmom my mom and no matter how much I care about her I just don’t want her to be my mom in all official senses of the word.

It has come up again because they offered the adoption again and my answer was the same. My dad decided we needed to go to therapy (the three of us) and the therapist told them they couldn’t therapy me into agreeing. My stepmom said it’s not about that for her, she just wants to know what she did wrong, and why I’m opposed. My dad said he feels like I’m holding back and he said there is an unhappiness with the fact I have kept myself on the outside by not becoming a more official part of the family unit.

It bothers me. But part of me feels bad that this is something that makes them so unhappy.

AITA?

So many feels on every side of this one. The original poster went on to add:

I feel like I could be the asshole because I know how much this means to them and I know it might make some things easier for them if we were all legally the kids of both my dad and stepmom.

Readers, however, felt differently, and the consensus was strongly in favor of the teen.

Many reacted negatively towards the parents, labeling them as the real problems in the situation, such as this respondent who felt the parents should back off:

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And this one, who agreed that the parents were drifting towards AH territory themselves.

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Others pointed out that everyone’s heart was in the right place, and the family just needed to continue working to understand each others’ points of view:

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Many shared their own similar experiences, including a widow who sided with the teen:

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An adult chimed in with a story about their friend, who chose to be adopted later:

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And another shared her painful story of giving into the parental pressure:

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But while many expressed their dismay at the parents’ insistence, a few readers offered a potential explanation for their behavior:

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There’s no right or wrong answer here, but two things are clear. Adoption is a very personal matter for both the parent and the child, and people can’t just change their feelings to suit others.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments.

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Am I Wrong for Wanting My Daughter’s Boyfriend to Know Her Dark Secret Before Marriage? People Weighed In.

This is a tricky one

Have you ever had someone get involved with a friend or family member of yours and you…kind of felt sorry for the other person because they didn’t know what they were getting into?

It’s sad, but it happens a lot.

And a father took to Reddit to ask folks about a very hard situation that he’s dealing with. Here’s what he had to say.

AITA for wanting my daughter’s boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance to know her dark secret before marriage?

“I’m the dad of a 25 year old young woman who I love very much.

I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause – she is a diagnosed sociopath.

She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse towards her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help. Throughout her elementary years she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty and all other types of misbehaviors.

With an enormous amount of therapy & support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older. She received an ASPD diagnosis at 18, and I had suspected it for long prior.

After her aggressive behavior was tamed, her following years were much more fruitful. She’s law-abiding; has a decent job and a good education; and has many good friendships and admirers. Especially male admirers; she is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest. S

he uses that old dating guide “The Rules” like a Bible. She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who’s crazy about her, and who I have a very strong relationship with (we live in the same area and spend time together regularly). He is a great guy, very kind, funny and intelligent.

But I doubt she loves him. We’ve had some very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she’s been open with me that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family.

When she acted very sad and broken up over the death of one of her closest friends at the funeral, she confessed to me privately that it was all a put-on, and that she felt “pretty neutral” about the whole thing. She has also stated she has never once felt guilty about anything she’s ever done, and doesn’t know what guilt feels like.

While she enjoys being around her boyfriend and is s*xually attracted to him, I highly doubt she feels much of anything towards him love-wise.

Her boyfriend (who might propose soon) has no idea about her diagnosis, and she’s been very upfront with me that she has no plans to ever tell him, thinking it’ll scare him away.

I’ve made it clear to her that she needs to tell him the truth before they marry; that he has the right to know and consider it; or I will; to which she always responds, “I know you wouldn’t dare.” I actually would – I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this “secret” from him, and letting him walk into a marriage without this piece of knowledge.

I’m not trying to sabotage my daughter’s future. Maybe her boyfriend’s love of her personality and other aspects is enough that it won’t end the relationship. It’s his decision to make; but he deserves all the facts. Someday he’s bound to find out she’s a bit “off”; it can’t be kept a secret forever. AITA?”

That’s a tough one, indeed.

One reader said it’s best for the dad to just stay out of the situation.

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Another person argued that the soon-to-be fiancé needs to know about the daughter’s past.

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This person made a good point about the potential danger the boyfriend could be in.

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Another Reddit user said that NOT telling the boyfriend would basically mean the entire marriage starting off on the wrong foot.

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This reader spoke from experience about the terror of being involved with someone like the man’s daughter.

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And finally, this person said that it’s up to dad to tell the boyfriend the truth, no matter how hard it might be.

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Did this dad make the wrong move?

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Am I a Jerk For Telling My Daughter to Cancel Her Wedding? Here’s How People Responded.

You can’t marry them!

You might think this kind of thing only happens in movies, but it does happen in real life. And here’s yet another example of it.

A mother shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole?” forum on Reddit to see if she was wrong for telling her daughter that she should cancel her wedding.

Oh, boy…let’s see what happened.

AITA for telling my daughter to cancel her marriage?

“I have a daughter(27) who was with her boyfriend for 7 years and they got engaged not long ago(just a small party, not many guests).

She always talks to me about how she loved him, how he always listens to he and he was made for her. I have agreed with her, since I found him to be a good natured man, he was kind and humble and was always respectful to our family.

We’ve met his parents for dinner twice or thrice and they hit me as a little s*xist, asking questions to my wife like “I don’t know why you’re working, isn’t that the husband’s job? It’s the mothers job to be taking care of the children”.

Now that they wanted to make it more serious, they planned a marriage. Anyways we have been planning about the marriage, and one day her boyfriend comes to me and says that his parents want to talk to me. I was going to call my daughter too, but he said that she wasn’t allowed.

I went with him and his parents started talking with me about DOWRY. I was confused and said that there was no dowry and in 2020 who even gives dowry?? But boyfriend and his parents started lecturing me about how necessary it was and how my daughter would be a stay at home wife(my daughter has told me that she wants to continue her dreams so I don’t know what this is).

Anyways they told me that I should give it a thought and told me not to tell my daughter for the time being. However I immediately told my daughter about it, and she started crying saying she didn’t know that her boyfriend was so s*xist. She asked me what she could do now, and I told her that she wasn’t being forced and could cancel her marriage if she didn’t want it.

Well, that is exactly what happened and now her boyfriend and his parents are calling me saying I took away the love of his life etc… On top of that, some of her friends (some were bridesmaids) said that I was an *sshole for breaking up what would’ve been a “healthy marriage”.

But it’s my daughter’s happiness that matters. AITA?”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded to the woman’s story.

This person said the woman was not wrong and that she “saved her daughter from a life of hell.” Tell us how you really feel…

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Another reader pointed out that the daughter probably already had major doubts about the whole situation and the wedding.

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This person remarked that this kind of parenting is what is needed in today’s world.

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An individual said that the mother absolutely did the right thing in this situation.

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And this response perfectly hit the nail on the head.

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