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Was This Person a Jerk for Throwing Away a Cake Someone Made for Her? People Responded.

It’s time to hang on tight for another great story from the archives of Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” page!

And this one has to do with a discarded birthday cake that led to some hurt feelings.

Let’s see what transpired…

AITA for throwing out a birthday cake that was made for me?

“Last week was my (17F) and my twin brother’s birthday.

Our family wanted to throw us a small party and we thought it’d be a great idea since we’ve hardly gotten to see anyone in our extended family for the last year. I was particularly excited because our aunt owns a bakery and makes the most delicious cakes and I wasn’t able to get one last year.

The day of the party comes and my family members arrive. My aunt comes up to me and my brother with her daughter, Averi (9F), in tow. Both my aunt and Averi have a small box in their hands and Averi is absolutely beaming.

My aunt says, “Here are your cakes! I hope you like them!” and Averi immediately chimes in “And I made yours OP!” When my brother opens his box there’s the world’s most beautiful white chocolate cake. Absolutely supreme work by my aunt, it’s even got raspberry filling. My brother’s favorite. I couldn’t wait to see mine.

Needless to say when I opened my box I was quite disappointed. When Averi said that she made the cake she meant it. I don’t think my aunt had any involvement with my cake at all and it showed. The cake was lopsided, the icing noticeably uneven, and looked like it was decorated by a blind and/or drunk monkey that had access to sprinkles.

To be nice I took a bite. Lemon favor, which I detest. Even if it were a flavor that I liked it was dry and could barely qualify as edible. I set it aside, hugged and thanked my cousin for the cake, and continued with the party despite my disappointment.

After the party was over my aunt and mom were talking on the phone and my aunt asked to speak with me. She asked me what did I think about the cake and I was brutally honest. I told my aunt that I couldn’t eat the cake and had to throw it out and that I wished she had made a cake for both my brother and I and just let Averi have her little side project.

Unfortunately my aunt had put me on speakerphone so that my cousin could hear my answer and I gave the worst answer possible. Now Averi doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and my aunt and mom are upset with me. My brother called me and a** and said I should have just said I liked the cake but how was I supposed to know my aunt would put me on speakerphone like that?

Was I the a**hole?”

Hmmm….now let’s take a look at how folks responded on Reddit.

This person said that the girl’s aunt was to blame here. And I think I agree with them!

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Another reader said that you gotta be careful with speaker phones…you never know who’s listening or what you might say!

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This Reddit user said that the girl’s aunt really blew it on multiple fronts and is to blame for the situation.

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This person blamed the aunt as well…and sprinkled in a bunch of fun puns. Take a look!

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Finally, this person also agreed that the aunt is to blame for this entire fiasco.

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What do you think?

Was this young woman wrong in her actions?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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This Person Is Angry Because Their Boyfriend Puts Things in Their Food They Don’t Want. Are They Wrong?

Never mess with someone’s food!

I believe in this and I think everyone else should, too.

But some people cross that line and, as you can imagine, it’s never a good thing.

Let’s see what happened in this story from a man who shared his story on the “Am I the *sshole?” page on Reddit.

AITA for getting upset at my bf for putting things I dont like in my breakfast?

“I (20M) go to a culinary arts university in America and stay with my bf L(21M).

He is American and an atheist while i’m born and raised a Turkish Muslim. Since we both go to cooking school, we change the cooking chore daily without a problem. Also last bit, i’m a rather progressive person and i cut ties with my uber-religious dad and J knows this.

So onto the story, it was J’s turn to cook and he told me he would make breakfast for the weekend. So Saturday morning (which was my birthday) he comes to my room with some food and blindfolds me saying there is a surprise. Then he says he made something on the table and we walk there. I take a bite and it was pork.

From a pig ofc. so i was of course incredibly aggravated. I took the blindfold immediately and asked why he did this. He was in hysterics and thought this was SOO funny. I told him it was disrespectful and he shouldn’t disrespect my religion.

He scoffed off saying i was overreacting and that i wasn’t that religious anyway so he thought it wouldn’t be an issue.

I’m currently thinking of moving to a new room/house but my brother who i vented to is saying that’s too much of an overreaction so AITA for maybe reacting too much?”

And here’s how folks on Reddit responded.

This reader said that the man needs to be in a relationship with someone who is going to be respectful and have boundaries. PERIOD.

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Another Reddit user said that the man’s boyfriend sounds like a total psycho.

I mean, who does something like this?

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This person said that the boyfriend is obviously pushing boundaries just to see how far he can take it…and that’s a really bad sign.

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Another reader said the guy who wrote the post should straight up dump the chump.

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And lastly, a person argued that the boyfriend’s actions clearly prove that he has no respect for the man’s religious background…and it might be time to break up.

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Okay, you’re up!

In the comments, tell us what you think about this woman’s story.

We’d love to hear from you!

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Not Wanting to Be Around Girlfriend’s Little Sister

When you’re in a relationship with a person, you’re also in a relationship with their family. At least on some level.

Most of us have experienced this in some way and this woman is having a major issue with her girlfriend’s little sister.

Let’s take a look at the story.

AITA for not wanting to be around my GF’s little sister and causing a rift in the family?

“I met my girlfriend when we were 11. We were on the same basketball team so I met her family at the games.

Her sister “Sammi” was 8 back then and I guess her family used to like teasing that she has a little crush on me and she’d get all shy whenever I hung out with them. They made jokes about me being her “little boyfriend.”

Then we got together when we were 13. So the whole Sammi crushing on me got more obvious. Everyone in her family says it’s cute. Sometimes Sammi would come with us to the movies and I’d buy them stuff. Whenever I go with her family anywhere Sammi always wants to sit nxt to me or on my lap. Never said anything back then since she was a little kid and didn’t mean anything.

Now she 15 and feel like the crush has got worse. To a point where it is awkward and uncomfortable for me. She doesn’t hide that she gets jealous of my GF or when I’m at their place she’s like glued to me, gets mad if we wanna be alone in my GF’s room, wants to go with us wherever we go.

Everyone always treated it like Sammi being herself. But now it makes me super uncomfortable her wanting to be all over me sometimes and I purposely sit somewhere she won’t have space to be near me.

We just learned recently that my girlfriend is pregnant and we moved into our own place to get ready for our baby. Sammi straight up lost it when we told our families we’re pregnant. I’m serious she locked herself in the bathroom crying for an hour yelling that she hates everyone.

So yeah with her reaction I wannabe around her even less. I told my GF how I’ve been feeling uncomfortable with her sister for s long time and I should’ve said all this sooner. My girl apologized because she always thought I was ok with some of the sh*t her sister does but says I don’t have to interact with her if I don’t want to.

She also talked to her family about getting Sammi to start respecting my boundaries and let it go with the boyfriend jokes already. They don’t think Sammi is doing anything wrong since the crush is innocent so they pretty much don’t wanna tell her keep some distance from me when we come over. Her parents started coming at me to stop making a big deal and punishing Sammi for how she feels.

I showed my GF the txts they sent me and she got p*ssed. So now she won’t go either until they start getting her Sammi to behave right around me but they won’t do that. The whole family is attacking us especially my girlfriend and it’s making me feel guilty.

They’re saying I’m terrible for ruining things between my GF and them. They don’t get why I’m being this way. My girlfriend is so mad she don’t wanna talk to them, they’re saying it’s my fault.

AITA for starting this whole thing by not wanting to be around Sammi anymore?”

And here’s how folks responded on Reddit.

This person said that the girlfriend’s family is to blame for this situation and they let the whole thing with the little sister go on for way too long.

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Another reader added that the little sister is way too old to be behaving like this and she needs to learn some life lessons.

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This person said that everyone in the family could probably use some therapy. That doesn’t sound like a bad idea…

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Another Reddit user argued that the younger sister is obviously pretty delusional about this whole state of affairs and that the parents should have had a talk with her a long time ago to set the record straight.

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Finally, this reader agreed that the girl’s family is to blame here and that this whole thing has gone on for way too long and, as a result, has been blown out of proportion.

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What about you?

Do you think this person is wrong?

Sound off in the comments and let us know!

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Woman Asks if She’s a Jerk for Taking Her Son to Get a Pedicure Instead of Her Husband

I can’t say that I’ve ever heard a story like this one…but there’s a first time for everything!

Are you ready to read about some family drama that involves PEDICURES?

Let’s see what went down…

AITA for taking my son to get pedicures instead of my husband?

“For the first time since last year, my 46F husband 48M have a three day weekend! We were discussing what we wanted to do that day, and i suggested that we go get pedicures since I wanted to get a manicure that day anyway.

My husband normally goes with me every other month to get pedicure, so I made the appointment. We also made plans to do some shopping and go to a late lunch/early dinner when we were done.

Last week my husband told me that his friend Jeff needed his help on Friday (the same day that we had our pedicure/shopping date), and I told him that we had plans that day. My husband asked if I could change the appointment time, so I called the salon and they said they were booked full until the following day.

I told my husband this and he said that his friend needs his help, maybe we could go another time. So I told him that was fine, he could go help his friend and asked my son 18M if he wanted to go instead. My son agreed and we have a whole mother/son day planned.

My husband is now upset with me, and basically said that I was being over dramatic and inconsiderate. I disagreed and told him that this is not the first time he has ditched me for Jeff.

Last month we had plans to take care of a project in our house, and he ditched me to go bring Jeff a ladder and help him clean his gutters so I ended up doing the project myself. He also brings him to date nights because “he is all alone and has no girlfriend or other friends.”

I told my husband that I was tired of him putting his friendship with Jeff over spending time with me, and that it only seems like he needs his help on days when we have something planned to do together.

This has happened at least 15 times in the last 6 months. The first couple times, I was okay with it because i feel like if someone needs help, and you can help, it is a nice thing to do, but after the 4th or 5th time, I felt like he was taking advantage.

My husband said that we could go again next weekend, and I told him that we could do something else, but that I am now looking forward to my mother/son day and that I wasn’t canceling. Now he is pouting and making me feel guilty about it.

AITA for changing our date to a mother/son day because he wants to help his friend?”

Now it’s time to see how Reddit users responded to this story.

This reader doesn’t think that the woman was wrong and that her husband needs to step up and set some boundaries.

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This Reddit user said that the whole idea of bringing a friend to date night is just plain weird.

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Another individual argued that the woman’s husband sounds negligent AND entitled. Boom!

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This person went so far as to suggest that the husband might be having an affair.

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And this person seems to have the same idea…are we sure that this Jeff fellow is just a friend? Inquiring minds want to know!

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Do you think this lady acted like a jerk?

Or is this no big deal?

Talk to us in the comments and share your thoughts!

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Woman Won’t Allow Her Mother-in-Law Watch Her Son. Is She Wrong?

You’re not watching my kid!

You know that any story that includes this line is gonna be ugly.

A young woman took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to air her grievances about the situation she’s dealing with regarding her mother-in-law.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA For not wanting my MIL to watch my son?

“My (27f) son is three months old. My husband (34m) and I tried for three years to have a baby and suffered two miscarriages in 2019 that were devastating.

We live in an area where COVID restrictions have lifted, so we are slowly introducing our baby to family. We have introduced him to my MIL, and since then she’s been very pushy about babysitting him for us.

The issue is, my husbands family is very chaotic. His stepbrother is a heroin addict who has robbed their family home on several occasions and has the tendency to hide his needles around the house. He doesn’t live there, but my MIL has not stopped him from coming around.

My husbands sister lives at the family home. She does not work or pay rent, and she has a big jealousy issue with my husband. He goes over to the house on a regular basis to help with yard work, etc. And she always makes a scene about not wanting him there.

Last October when I was eight months pregnant, I was dropping my husband off at his moms to clean the gutters for her. His sister came home while I was in the driveway and started screaming at my husband about how they don’t need his help. She was triggered by me blocking her spot. My husband pointed out that he wouldn’t need to come by if she stepped up and helped my MIL.

She then said that she hopes I have another miscarriage, which was disgusting and hurtful. As always, MIL stuck up for her and said she didn’t mean it.

At this point, there’s too much chaos in the house and I don’t feel like it’s a safe place for my baby, especially without my husband and I. My MIL doesn’t understand this at all. I know she isn’t responsible for her stepsons addiction and her daughters awfulness, but I don’t trust her judgment. AITA?

Some people are also questioning why my husbands sister has such a hate on for him. She’s been like this since they were kids, according to many people in the family.

In my opinion, he’s the only one that calls her on her shi*t, and she doesn’t know how to handle her emotions.”

And here’s how folks on Reddit responded to this story.

This person said that the woman’s mother-in-law is obviously a doormat and that she doesn’t have to comply with her wishes if she doesn’t want to.

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Another reader said that the woman is under no obligation to let anyone, not even her mother-in-law, watch her kid unsupervised if she doesn’t want to.

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This reader said that this just sounds like a bad situation all around and that the woman shouldn’t even let her child near her in-laws.

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Another individual argued that if she does agree to let her mother-in-law watch her child, everything needs to be in writing and she needs to be very careful about every little detail.

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And lastly, this person thinks that the mother-in-law may be well-meaning, but she obviously has a few screws loose and can even be considered delusional.

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Would you let this mother-in-law watch your kid?

Talk to us in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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A Woman Asked, “Am I Wrong for No Longer Cleaning Up After My Boyfriend?”

I know that everyone can be lazy, and that we all have those down days when we don’t feel like being a responsible adult and taking care of ourselves and our space.

That said, across the board, it seems like while the women in relationships have days like these, the men in those relationships have fewer responsible days than the other way around.

Just my personal observations, you understand.

This woman is finding herself in one of these all-too-common relationships, where she’s been the one cleaning up after her partner like she’s the only adult in the home.

She gives a few specific examples, like how he refuses to put the scoop for the cat food back where it goes. She’s started leaving it where he did, which he, of course, finds annoying.

I have come to realize my bf rarely moves items back to their original homes. Yes, I have talked to him about this and we haven’t resolved anything, hence the post here.

So, my boyfriend will not put anything back to where it should be. This includes kitchen utensils (I’m not OCD, I just think the cutting knives should go near the cutting board), toilet paper, qtips, and most recently, the cat food feeding scoop.

Specifically, he feeds the cats in the morning, and leaves the scoop by whoever he feeds last (they’re all fed in separate rooms, we have a fast eater). I feed the cats at night, and have to wander around until I find it, and then I put it back in with the cat food, which is where he goes in the morning. I started replacing it to exactly where he leaves it now, and he’s getting annoyed it’s not in with the food in the morning.

Then there’s the toilet paper, which she now totes around to see how long he will go without replacing the roll, and the Q-tips he would rather forgo than replace.

Toilet paper. He will never replace it. So I started bringing my own roll into the bathroom, and if the bathroom roll is empty, I don’t replace it. This goes for the qtips as well. He won’t replace them in the bathroom. I have not replaced them in a month and it seems like he just stopped using them…

He doesn’t even empty the grocery bags, just shoves them in their general locations and assumes she will empty and organize things later.

Things came to a head, here, when he accidentally put some chicken into the pantry that went bad.

Finally, when we go grocery shopping, he just shoves all the bags into the fridge/freezer/pantry for me to empty later. I have stopped emptying the bags and organizing the fridge, and just remove my item from a bag and leave it as it was.

This probably upsets him the most, since last time he put a pack of chicken in the pantry last time, that I “didn’t notice”. I really didn’t notice it though, that’s what he said to me. I assumed he at least checked the bags to be going in their general locations.

Is she wrong? Is he right to be upset?

Anyway, we have been fighting about this and today he got upset the cat food scoop was not with the food, and in the kitchen (where he left it).

AITA for trying to make a point that I can’t constantly be fixing everything?

I think (hope) you all know the answer to this one, but let’s check out the comments just the same.

The grocery bag thing is just a whole new level of lazy.

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And no, it’s not her job to “raise” him. His mother should have done that.

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Every action has consequences. It’s about time he learned that, even the hard way.

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There did seem to be a consensus on where at least part of the blame here does reside.

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It’s the infuriating expectation that SHE do it that really did people in.

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I think the fact that they’ve already had discussions about this actually makes it worse. She’s told him it bothers her, and not only does he not make an effort to change, he expects her to pick up his slack.

Big ol’ nope.

Give us your take on it in the comments!

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A Woman Asked, “Am I Wrong for No Longer Cleaning Up After My Boyfriend?”

I know that everyone can be lazy, and that we all have those down days when we don’t feel like being a responsible adult and taking care of ourselves and our space.

That said, across the board, it seems like while the women in relationships have days like these, the men in those relationships have fewer responsible days than the other way around.

Just my personal observations, you understand.

This woman is finding herself in one of these all-too-common relationships, where she’s been the one cleaning up after her partner like she’s the only adult in the home.

She gives a few specific examples, like how he refuses to put the scoop for the cat food back where it goes. She’s started leaving it where he did, which he, of course, finds annoying.

I have come to realize my bf rarely moves items back to their original homes. Yes, I have talked to him about this and we haven’t resolved anything, hence the post here.

So, my boyfriend will not put anything back to where it should be. This includes kitchen utensils (I’m not OCD, I just think the cutting knives should go near the cutting board), toilet paper, qtips, and most recently, the cat food feeding scoop.

Specifically, he feeds the cats in the morning, and leaves the scoop by whoever he feeds last (they’re all fed in separate rooms, we have a fast eater). I feed the cats at night, and have to wander around until I find it, and then I put it back in with the cat food, which is where he goes in the morning. I started replacing it to exactly where he leaves it now, and he’s getting annoyed it’s not in with the food in the morning.

Then there’s the toilet paper, which she now totes around to see how long he will go without replacing the roll, and the Q-tips he would rather forgo than replace.

Toilet paper. He will never replace it. So I started bringing my own roll into the bathroom, and if the bathroom roll is empty, I don’t replace it. This goes for the qtips as well. He won’t replace them in the bathroom. I have not replaced them in a month and it seems like he just stopped using them…

He doesn’t even empty the grocery bags, just shoves them in their general locations and assumes she will empty and organize things later.

Things came to a head, here, when he accidentally put some chicken into the pantry that went bad.

Finally, when we go grocery shopping, he just shoves all the bags into the fridge/freezer/pantry for me to empty later. I have stopped emptying the bags and organizing the fridge, and just remove my item from a bag and leave it as it was.

This probably upsets him the most, since last time he put a pack of chicken in the pantry last time, that I “didn’t notice”. I really didn’t notice it though, that’s what he said to me. I assumed he at least checked the bags to be going in their general locations.

Is she wrong? Is he right to be upset?

Anyway, we have been fighting about this and today he got upset the cat food scoop was not with the food, and in the kitchen (where he left it).

AITA for trying to make a point that I can’t constantly be fixing everything?

I think (hope) you all know the answer to this one, but let’s check out the comments just the same.

The grocery bag thing is just a whole new level of lazy.

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And no, it’s not her job to “raise” him. His mother should have done that.

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Every action has consequences. It’s about time he learned that, even the hard way.

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There did seem to be a consensus on where at least part of the blame here does reside.

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It’s the infuriating expectation that SHE do it that really did people in.

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I think the fact that they’ve already had discussions about this actually makes it worse. She’s told him it bothers her, and not only does he not make an effort to change, he expects her to pick up his slack.

Big ol’ nope.

Give us your take on it in the comments!

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Was This Woman Wrong to Tell Sibling Her Body Hair Was Standing in the Way of Love?

When it comes to people’s physical appearances, keeping mum is often the best and really only course of action. When someone you love comes to you asking for advice or opinions – or is lamenting a problem when you think their appearance might solve the issue – the advice to keep silent isn’t always the best course of action.

This woman and her sister have a condition called PCOS that affects their body hair, leading to a thick, dark covering that society often doesn’t expect to see on women. Both girls used to shave/remove it but recently her sister has decided she wants to live more naturally – which is fine.

My sister (22F) and I (26F) both have PCOS. As a result we have very thick, dark body hair and facial hair that can honestly rival some men’s. I personally choose to shave regularly because I can’t stand how it looks and feels. My sister used to shave but about a year ago decided she wanted to stop. Of course I support her 100% and think she’s beautiful! What she does with her body is her business.

When the sister posts pictures of herself on dating sites, however, she uses old photos from when she was clean-shaven. Her dates often leave in the middle or refuse a second meeting, leaving the sister wondering exactly what she is doing wrong.

OP thinks she knows why, but stopped short of saying it for some time.

However, there is an issue. My sister uses old pictures of herself back when she was shaving on dating apps. This has led to a lot of problems in her romantic life. She often complains she never gets a second date and sometimes people even leave mid-date.

I think this is kind of her fault because she’s being disingenuous about her appearance which is a sh%tty thing to do. I have always bit my tongue and just supported her about this topic until recently.

When OP finally broke down and suggested she update her profile pictures, because leaving them gives her dates expectations that are not being met, her sister flew into a hurt rage, arguing that the right person won’t care.

OP agrees, but doesn’t think that’s really the point.

The other day she was venting again about another failed date. She asked me why this keeps happening to her. I told her she should consider updating her profile pictures. She got defensive and asked why she would need to do that. I told her that it would probably help so people know what she looks like since she looks a lot different than when they were taken.

She started getting extremely angry and said that “a little body hair doesn’t make that much of a difference” and “the right person won’t mind a little hair.”

Again, our body and facial hair is very thick and dark, and (imo) definitely makes a difference. When I don’t shave, I get a full mustache and beard, and my sister is the same. The people she’s going on dates with aren’t expecting her to show up with a full mustache and beard because her pictures show her clean-shaven.

The sister and even their family think OP was shaming her, which she maintains she was not. She was only encouraging her sister to be herself from the start if she truly wants to find the right guy.

I told her that she’s beautiful but she’s giving people false expectations which is why she’s having bad luck dating. She should just be honest from the start and the right one will come along! But she was infuriated and said I was being unsupportive and misogynistic. She has refused to talk to me since and my family is now calling me an asshole too because they think I was shaming her.

My sister even posted on social media that “body hair is beautiful, the stigma attached to it is misogynistic, it sucks when your own family won’t support you.”

Now she’s wondering whether or not she was wrong to say anything at all, but she still feels like her sister is in the wrong – not because she’s being herself, but because she’s misleading people and then blaming them for her mistake.

Did I go wrong somewhere here? I love my sister and don’t think body and facial hair is a bad thing at all! But I don’t think it’s right to basically catfish people and then blame them for not being interested, and treating them like they’re horrible people when you misled them…

AITA?

The internet, of course, has some thoughts, so let’s hear them out!

The top comment pointed out that her sister is obviously not as ok with how she looks now as she thought, so there are probably some deeper-seated issues at play.

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She’s attracting the wrong people, not the right ones, and the sooner she realizes that she’s the one at fault there, the better.

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And I mean, no one really likes a liar.

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Deceiving people isn’t the way to start any sort of experience.

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No one likes having their time wasted, you know?

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There you have it! I have to say that I agree with OP on this one.

What about you? Drop your opinions in the comments!

 

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Was This Woman Wrong For TellingHer Fiancée She Used to Work as an Escort?

Honesty might be the best policy, but we all know that can get complicated when we’re talking about relationships that are important to us – relationships we really don’t want to lose.

We’re not all proud of our pasts, or sometimes we’re ok with them, but we expect that other people will judge the choices we’ve made previously – and that’s exactly the struggle this woman was having when she wondered whether keeping her former profession as an escort from her husband-to-be.

She did it because she wanted to, it wasn’t scarring or horrible the way it can be for some, and eventually she just decided to move on and do something else.

I (35F) just got engaged. I’ve been with him for two years and he’s amazing and think he’d be a great father to my children. There is however a secret I haven’t revealed. About three years ago before I met him I briefly worked as an escort. It wasn’t long (about 4 months) and I don’t have some sob story about how I felt abused and exploited because frankly I didn’t.

Like any job it had its good and bad parts. I don’t have some dramatic story about escaping it, I stopped simply because I didn’t want to do it anymore. I didn’t require therapy or rehab, I just moved on and got a normal job.

OP knows that she is healthy and has no baggage from a previous life, and she’s been honest as far as her number of sexual partners. That said, she doesn’t feel quite right about keeping something from him for the rest of her life.

She’s worried it will impact the way he sees her, though, and asks the internet for their opinions.

I have been regularly tested and have no STIs, nor so I have any emotional scars from it, so I told myself it’s now no one else’s business because it won’t impact any other relationships. However it feels wrong I can’t share this.

He once asked how many s^xual partners I had and I simply said “a lot” and told him technically the truth: that I was prolific at one point in my life but no longer am and don’t intend to do so.

I’m still scared to potentially ruin a great thing if I reveal it but I’m also not looking forward to keeping this a secret for life.

AITA for keeping it secret?

As always, they’ve got plenty to give, so let’s hear them out!

Basically, a lot of people think she’d be better off finding out how serious of a partner he’s going to be now, and not later.

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It’s less about her needing to be ashamed, and more about what type of man she’s found herself.

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If it’s a dealbreaker, he’s allowed to call it off before paperwork is signed.

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The bottom line is that it’s complicated.

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They both deserve to know what they’re getting into, right?

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I think that she’s the a$shole, not because she was an escort, but because she allowed things to get this far without coming clean.

I hope things work out when she tells him

What are your thoughts on this one? Drop them in the comments!

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A Woman Told a Social Worker the Truth About Sister and Ruins Her Adoption Chances. Was She Wrong?

Families are tricky. Those of us with excellent parents and siblings and extended family are the lucky ones, though we often don’t realize that sometimes, family aren’t people you are proud to claim.

That’s the case here, with a sister who spent some time living with her sister and brother-in-law-, niece and nephew, and did not come out thinking highly of the adults in the situation.

They treated her basically like Cinderella – free labor and childcare, and demanding she pay rent besides.

I’m a 28F and I have a sister (36F) For the sake of story, I’ll just call Jane. Jane is married to “Bob” and they have two kids, boy and a girl. My niece and nephew are wonderful kids and no trouble at all. They fight as siblings do but nothing big. I love them. Now for about two years, I did live with my sister. It was a miserable time that really affected our relationship. She saw me as free labor, money and babysitting.

Even when I managed to get a small part time job, she demanded I hand over nearly half my pay or get out. It was hell as she took completely advantage of me. I moved out as soon as I could and we have little contact outside of family gatherings.

After OP moved out, the sister realized how tough it is to not have a free babysitter et al in the house, and OP has set some firm and healthy boundaries of her own.

Now after I moved out, she started complaining how “She has no help with the kids and never gets a break!” I babysit sometimes but I have made it clear, just cause I am off work, doesn’t mean I want an 8 hour day with my niece and nephew.

Then, the sister started talking about how she wanted to “get” a foster kid – a teenager, to live in the garage, maybe, and do all of the cooking and cleaning babysitting because they’d be so “grateful” to have a roof and a bed.

Y’all, my face right now.

Anyway she started talking about how she wanted to foster a kid. Not a kid but a teenager. I pressed her for more info on this. She wants to adopt a teenager so she has a live in babysitter for her kids. This is her logic: “I want a kid around 16 or 17, you know someone who may have been in the system for awhile. They can share a room with your nephew (she only has a three 3 bedroom house) or sleep in the garage. They can help me with house work, chores, cook and help me with my business.(She bakes and sells cookies)

Also babysit the kids so me and Bob can go out sometimes or have some alone time. They’ll be so grateful for a home and won’t complain. I won’t have to pay them at all. And then when they turn 18, I can just sign up for another foster kid! A teenager will be so much easier than a little kid, they will be grateful just to have a roof, food, siblings if they have been separated from their real ones and clothes.”

OP was also horrified, and when a social worker came to interview her as a character witness, she told the the truth about why her sister was applying to be a foster parent.

I was horrified! Told her it was a horrible idea! She didn’t listen to me. She went on with it anyway. About a month ago, a social worker showed up at my apartment to ask me some questions about my sister. She had put me down as a character witness or something like that.

I immediately told the social worker why my sister really wanted to foster a kid and how she treated me when I lived with her. The lady thanked me.

The sister and her husband were denied, and when OP told her sister the truth about her conversation with the social worker, the sister just blew up.

Her family also thinks OP was out of line.

My sister called crying saying that she wouldn’t be considered for any adoptions or fosters. The social worker told her that they felt her home and her weren’t a good fit. She asked if I said anything and I told the truth. She went off on me, hung up and we haven’t spoken since. She has sent some angry texts.

A couple family members are on her side. They think foster kids are fucking dogs or something and would be so happy just to have a roof and would gladly do all the housework.

So AITA here?

I think we can all guess how the internet is going to feel about treating kids like dogs in a shelter, but let’s peruse these responses anyway, hmm?

OP did the right thing for a child in a precarious situations, so there’s no way she could be wrong.

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She might have saved her sister from an even more awkward moment in the future, too.

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Apparently this is a thing people do? What the heck.

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All kids deserve a helping hand, not just the ones who are little and cute.

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It makes me want to throw up, honestly.

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I hate that there are so many people in the world who try to take advantage of kids, and especially kids who have barely had a chance in life the way it is.

What’s your opinion of this situation? Tell us about it in the comments!

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