Check Out the Wild Science Behind the Creepy “Thatcher Effect”

There’s absolutely no shortage of weird things the human brain will do if you put it in a scenario it doesn’t expect, or hasn’t been primed to expect.

It’s not that our brains don’t like surprises, exactly, it’s more that they just act like they don’t exist if they’re not sure how to handle them.

Case in point, the Thatcher Effect – sometimes known as the Thatcher Illusion.

According to clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Smith, whose video showcasing the oddity has earned over 33 million views, the Thatcher Effect is  “a phenomenon in which changes in facial features that are very obvious in an upright face are much more difficult to identify when the face is upside down.”

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In her video, she vertically flipped people’s eyes and mouths in photographs, and even though the changes “seem obvious” in an upright photos, look normal when the picture is flipped upside down.

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Psychology professor Peter Thompson was the first person to point it out, back in 1980.

He used pictures of British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher for his demonstration, which is how the effect got its name.

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Even though we’ve had a few decades to puzzle it out, Dr. Smith tells Buzzfeed we’re still not sure exactly how it works.

“This is thought to happen because our brains are so finely tuned to recognizing faces in the upright position.

This enables us to identify many faces that are very similar as unique individuals very easily.

It has been hypothesized that the cognitive processes involved in face recognition rely as much on the structural relationship between features as the features themselves.”

No matter the reason, seeing it for yourself is interesting, to say the least.

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OMFG. That is terrifying.

Those weird-looking organs running our bodies and lives for us never cease to amaze – even when they’re technically misfiring.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments!

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People Discuss Things They Really Don’t Like That Seem to Be Universally Loved

I know what I have to say about this…

And I know that I’ll probably get some grief for this…but here we go.

I don’t like The Big Lebowski. I don’t think it’s funny and I just can’t seem to get into it…and I’ve tried more than once…

But the ENTIRE REST OF THE WORLD seems to think it’s just the funniest and most brilliant movie ever. So what am I missing here…?

What are some things that people really love that you REALLY DON’T?

AskReddit users went on the record and shared their thoughts.

1. No big deal.

“My birthday.

I like to just have a normal day.

I don’t care that X years ago I was forcefully brought into this world…

Just leave me be.”

2. Take that back!

“Having everything on a burger.

It just creates a big mess whenever I bite into it and I hate it.”

3. Not a fan of the heat.

“Summer / hot weather!

I’m admittedly such a miser during summer, I’d happily skip straight to Autumn (best season). The only thing I enjoy about summer are intense thunderstorms!

It seems like most people feel more depressed in Autumn/Winter, but I’m the opposite, Summer makes me feel worse for some reason.

Everyone talks about how they can’t wait to get away on holiday to really hot countries so they can lay in the sun and tan. That just sounds like my worst nightmare!”

4. I don’t like it either.

“Reality TV.

Everyone I know tells me they watch it to relax but it just stresses me out!

Everyone is so upset with each other all the time, what’s relaxing about that?”

5. No thank you!

“Going out to clubs.

It’s my nightmare.

So boring, so sweaty, hard to dress for, heels hurt my feet, drinks are expensive, guys can be sleazy

I’m sure girls too, I just don’t have that problem…”

6. Not gonna happen again.

“Bacon.

Sometimes I tell people that I grew up orthodox Jew because they accept that fairly easily.

The real reason is when I was a kid I accidentally ate some bad bacon and it made me so sick I still can’t stand the smell/taste, my brain just says “this will make you puke for three days.””

7. This!

“Literally worshipping celebrities like gods.

It’s just creepy to me I don’t get it.

I get if u do something super amazing, but being the 7th richest person on earth isnt that important, and a bit sketchy.”

8. Bored to tears.

“Superhero movies.

They’ve just become so cliche and formulaic.

I don’t need to see yet another origin story where someone develops powers, gets beat at the start, learns how to better control them, and then beats the bad guy an hour later.”

9. I pass on grass.

“Marijuana.

Most people I know smokes/has smoked it. But when I get even the slightest whiff of the smoke, I get bad migraines that lasts 30 mins.. and I do mean literally EVERY single time. I don’t know how I get sick or why it happens.

Every time I would hang out with my Family/Friends, I would feel guilty because they would move to the window or they just usually stop coz they know that I get sick.”

10. Kind of weird.

“Disney.

The cult worship of everything Disney is f*cking weird, especially by adults, the workers at the parks are treated awfully by patrons and corporate alike

The movies are generic and suck, the parks are bullsh*t and everything is ridiculously overpriced.

I’m also from Florida so maybe I’m biased.”

11. Too commercialized.

“How commercialized the Holidays have become.

I love Christmas, Easter, Independence Day, and Halloween.

What I hate is how commercialized they have become.

I have heard people see Christmas decorations being sold before HALLOWEEN! Last month, I walked into a store and saw Halloween crap! Dude! Stay in your lane! If you start selling Christmas stuff before Advent starts, you need to check yourself!

Also, those people who are like “Only 275 days until Christmas!”

Stop. Please stop.”

12. You’re missing out!

“Eggs.

I absolutely cannot stand eggs, but EVERYONE ELSE loves them. It’s annoying and embarrassing going out for breakfast and trying to find something that isn’t f*cking eggs.

“I’ll just have the pancakes with a side of ham”

“How do you want your eggs?”

“I don’t want eggs””

13. Enough!

“Musicals.

I just don’t care for them.

Yes that included all the old Disney movies that everyone obsesses over.”

14. Keep it down!

“Birds chirping in the morning.

I’m not an angry person at all and have never been in a fight or felt the urge to hit anyone, but if I had a gun on my bedside table the birds of Oslo would not be safe between 5 and 7 am.”

15. Okay, take it easy.

“Babies. I hate babies.

They are annoying, loud, and always have something gross coming out of them. I never want to have one in my house.

I’d be less annoyed if people weren’t so obsessed with babies. I don’t need to know about the color of your babies poop. I don’t need to know about your baby who pees everywhere when they are changed. BABIES ARE EXHAUSTING AND I DON’T NEED THAT IN MY LIFE.

I’m already tired from existing and having sh*tty mental health.”

What do you despise that everyone else on the planet seems to adore?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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People Talk About What the Crazy Year of 2020 Has Taught Them

What else could possibly happen in 2020?

Actually, I don’t even want to say that out loud because if we’ve learned one thing this year, it’s to expect the unexpected…and that’s a pretty scary thought, considering all the things we’ve gone through so far since January 1.

We’ve all learned a lot about ourselves this year, every single one of us.

What has this year taught you?

Here’s what people had to say on AskReddit.

1. Not so much.

“That I’m nowhere as much of a loner as I thought I was.

I may not be the most sociable person of the universe, but spending months holed up in my room with basically no IRL human contact got old fast.”

2. This is huge.

“Not to take travel for granted.

I am trying to learn French as something to keep distracted with, and to feel like I am doing something which will pay off when traveling in the future, but would give anything for a worry-free week abroad right now.

Getting very sick of the inside of my flat.”

3. All of it.

“That there are so many horrible people in the world, oblivious to everything around them and only concerned with themselves.

And also that there are so many kind and loving people in the world that are willing to help anyone.”

4. Hugs.

“Hug your spouse more.

Man on man woman on woman man on woman whatever hug those who are there for you. Wife’s an ER nurse I’m a firefighter working through covid non sense. The forced quarantine after contact with a positive pt has ripped us apart.

It’s hard to cope when your coping mechanism is behind glass out of reach. Hug your peeps.”

5. Keep your fingers crossed.

“That people will genuinely believe bad events will end just because the year is over.

Its overwhelming how many times I hear things like: “omg I cant wait for 2021, everything will be a fresh start” or “2020 can just leave”

Like, what do you really expect? All issues reset every January the 1st? Wtf.”

6. Keep your head up.

“That I can be a lot stronger and confident than I give myself credit for…

Gotta look for the positives, right?!”

7. Not prepared at all.

“That the United States is really REALLY not prepared for real sh*t to happen.

Most of the world is not.

We are held together by threads of a stretched out cloth ready to tear.”

8. Even worse now.

“The rich get richer while the poor get poorer.

It’s already bad enough under normal circumstances but in global crisis situations this applies even more.”

9. The process of weeding out.

“It showed me who my real friends are.

And some stuff about how stupid some people are, even if it is to protect the people who are at risk due to coronavirus.”

10. That is very true!

“People don’t know what Socialism really means.”

11. Hard knock life.

“That life is tragic, cruel, and absurd, to the point where it can completely break you.

But also that no matter how bad it all gets, there is genuine peace and comfort in real, platonic love and my friends are the light of my life. We have each other’s backs and we adore each other.

So in a way, despite having lost nearly everything, I am incredibly lucky. I’m never really alone.”

12. Sad.

“A common hardship won’t bring people together, like in Independence Day or Watchmen.

Rather, it’ll drive them to care only about their own interests.”

13. Big money.

“That big corporations that say they care about their customers don’t give a sh*t. All they care about is money.

When small businesses went bankrupt during the pandemic the big corporations amassed billions in wealth.”

14. Not much different.

“That my family would be fine on a confined spaceship traveling to Mars or somewhere else distant.

The lockdown has had little effect on us.”

15. Here’s the deal.

“Life is short.

There are too many things in this world that are out of your control that can punch you in the guts. So live your life, enjoy your family and friends, enjoy good food, focus on what’s important.

Save for the future but not at the expense of living a meaningful and rewarding life now. Money is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

Also, on the flip side from a cynical point of view, this past year has reaffirmed that the world is full of stupid people.

Opinions do not override scientific facts and the anti science agenda of those in power today takes advantage of the uneducated and those who give into fear mongering too easily.”

Now it’s your turn.

In the comments, tell us what this crazy year has taught YOU.

Please and thank you!

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People Who Have Lived in Haunted Houses Talk About Their Experiences

Just to be clear, we’re not talking about the haunted houses you pay to go into during October to be scared, friends.

We’re talking about legit haunted houses where people thought they were being tormented to ghosts, spirits, demons, and anything else that goes bump in the night.

Do you believe in ghosts? Well, maybe you will after reading these posts.

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say about their creepy encounters.

1. Away at college.

“I lived in at an old house in Birmingham (UK) when I was at Uni.

I can’t say for certain it was haunted but we got it dirt cheap as no-one wanted to stay there and it was definitely…odd.

I’m fairly certain I saw the old man, I was up late at my desk finishing an essay and got a weird buzzing in my ear. I turned round to see an old mans face grinning at me.

I fell of my chair and through myself across the room falling and subsequently breaking my bedside lamp. I honestly could not stop shaking and stayed up all night chainsmoking.

My housemate, witnessed her bathroom door flying opening and lights flickering.

We all started getting really low and arguing (normal i guess) but we dreaded the house, some of stayed over at others so we could sleep better. Started becoming reclusive.

My other housemate was downstairs (bedroom) she used to wake up to knocks all the time. You could hear it from upstairs, she moved out first.

I’m sure there are other things that I’ve blocked out and I’m sure all these can be rationally explained but we were all very happy when we left. It was sold after we went.”

2. Unexplained.

“Growing up my father saw a home as an investment, so we would typically buy and live in fixer uppers until renovations were done, then sell for a profit after the capital gain tax was no longer in effect.

So, I’ve lived in 10 different residences, nothing newer than 1968. My first house is now 110 years old, was a former bookie joint with a colorful history and I lived there alone for several years and never experienced anything weird there or anywhere else, except for the house I lived in from 8-16 years old.

It was a huge ranch house built in the 1950s, with half of the cellar being a one bedroom apartment with a private entrance and a bar and library. A pretty cool setup. I typically had friends over for sleepovers and we would use the vacant apartment to stay out of my parents hair, most would only stay once, maybe twice because they felt weirded out in the apartment and I would always go to their place after that.

It always felt like someone was right behind you or just out of eyesight watching you. I always avoided being anywhere downstairs unless all the lights were on or someone else was in the room with me. It was just this heavy, uneasy feeling that I have never experienced elsewhere 25 years since.

Other weird experiences there was the night the doorbell rang in the middle of the night and all the pictures fell off the walls in the hallway, and another time everyone in the house awoke at once when we all heard someone running down the same hallway.

We kept in touch with the neighbors next door, and the house has had several different owners since the late 1990s. But they said a few of them asked about the history of the house because of unexplained phenomenon.

My parents current home abuts the property of the place and they have yet to ask the couple the bought it about it. I hope to hear that they feel the same way.”

3. Unsettling.

“When I was 13, I couldn’t sleep one night so I went into my mom’s room to sleep on this loveseat she had. On the ceiling directly above the loveseat was a wooden door to the attic.

I had been lying there for about 10 minutes when I got this really eerie feeling. I looked up to the attic door and I sh*t you not, it was being lifted up from the inside. I repeat, LIFTED UP BY SOMETHING ON THE INSIDE OF THE ATTIC.

Immediately, my 13-year old self shut her eyes. When I opened them, everything was back to normal. I’ve always chalked it up to sleep deprivation, but I don’t really know.

There’s a bunch of other stuff that happened, too. When my sister was one, she would stare at the top of the stairwell and laugh at absolutely nothing. She did this almost 4 times a day. My little ankle biting dog would stand at the edge of my bed, stare at my doorway, and growl for minutes at a time.

One of the showers would turn on at random times during the day. Keep in mind this was an old shower, you had to use a pretty good amount of force to get it to turn on. I would hear footsteps and doors opening and closing when I was alone at home.

Easily the most unsettling experience, though, happened when I was 17. I was just about to fall asleep when I heard a loud voice right in my ear say “HEY!”

Needless to say, I didn’t sleep that night.”

4. Didn’t feel right…

“Growing up I lived in a small house that was built in the 1920’s as a cabin. I NEVER felt right in that house.

I always felt like something was watching me growing up. Something bad. I only felt safer when I was outside. The last time I was alone in that house I was in my 20’s, living away from home but had came back for the day to take care of my parents dogs while they were out of town.

It was night, I only had one light on in the living room where I was and I was petting the two dogs. I was just sitting on the couch, no tv on or anything, just silence. All of a sudden, the dogs turned, looked at each other like they were silently communicating.

One dog walked over and sat in front of my old bedroom door, the other dog stepped in front on me and sat. Everything started crashing around in that room. Its like they were trying to protect me and I took them and ran out. Years later I was told by a medium that my step dad had a demon inside of him.

It would make sense considering his horrible behavior growing up and the other freaky things that happened in the house. Something was there.”

5. This old house.

“My house is around 140 years old.

A couple years ago I was sitting in my room at midnight, reading. I heard footsteps in the hall which I thought were my mom’e. My door was closed and my lights were off (I was reading on my phone) and suddenly the door opened and the lights turned on, but nobody was there and I noticed that my mother was still downstairs because I could hear her talking.

Then I heard my keyboard start having keys pressed but couldn’t see anything. I checked on my monitor a few minutes later and nothing had changed.

That’s the only paranormal experience I’ve had.”

6. Peacefully coexisting.

“I live in a house from 1926, when we dug our pool in the backyard we found the almost fully decomposed head (yes just the head…) of a horse.

That’s not the haunted part just the “this place has more history to it than meets the eye” moment. When my grandma died when I was 14 I decided to try and contact her, for whatever reason. Searched up a yes and no thingy online using a candle.

Didn’t think much of it, whatever I asked didn’t really get answered. Just as I decided to call it quits, the candle spun around and died out, shortly after that a gust of icy wind swept through my living room (has made sure all doors and windows were shut, no ac no source of outside air).

I thought that was weird, opened all the doors to let some warm summer air in. Went back to clean the candle away. Just as I reached for it I thought to myself “what if that was grandma”. Same instant, the landline rings exactly three times. I walk up to get it but the line goes dead after the third ringing.

Usually the phone blinks when someone called and you missed it. But then and there, Nothing. Looked into the missed calls history only to find the last call being four hours ago. I put the phone down with shivers running down my spine, turn around to see all three of my cats sprint out through the door.

They sat outside looking back in the house as if they had been scared by something, wide eyes bushy fur and wouldn’t be moved back inside, clawing at me if I tried to take them inside (until this day they are the sweetest things, wouldn’t bite or scratch or hiss at me). Took me hours later to get them back.

I’m pretty sure my house is haunted by some spirit, but I’m not scared of it anymore. It’s not malevolent and especially when I’m alone at home for multiple days I just kind of converse with it.

For example, was going to bed one night and the bathroom lights flickered ever so slightly. I said “if there’s a spirit here, I will count down from 3 and then you’ll flicker the light”. Sure enough, when I got to 0 and pointed at one light, jt flickered.

Thought it was pretty cool, but it wouldn’t stop. I told it to stop the bullsh*t and it did. Now we just peacefully coexist.”

7. Lightning strike.

“I had one really weird experience, there’s a massive sliding glass door that plainly shows the lake nearby and the balcony where I was sleeping and I couldn’t sleep that night because the thunder was really loud, so I started staring out on the balcony.

And I could’ve sworn there was a figure standing out there on the balcony, then lightning struck somewhere nearby and there was enough light for me to go “Holy sh*t there is something out there!”

And I turn the other way, nothing else really creepy has happened to me though, other people living in that house are another story entirely.”

8. It happened one night.

“I remember one night specifically.

I was in second grade and my room was small and also we’re the entrance to the attic was (never was able to open it no matter how hard we tried.) It was about 1:30ish and I some up so I can go to the bathroom. My bed was next to the wall on one side but next to my bed on the other side was the door which was a sliding door and had a gap on the bottom to see light.

I swing my feet over to get sit up but instead of the floor, I hit the wall. Not thinking much of it and believing I was on the opposite end of the bed I kick to the other side and again my feet hit a wall. At this point, I was starting to panic but not enough to where I still had since to try both ends of the bed and again. Walls.

Once I realize this I look at my hand and try to adjust my sight but nothing it is picked black to the point where I can’t even see my hands. I start kicking at the walls and screaming and crying. Even with as much noise as I was making no one came to get me as no one heard me. I was like this for what felt like hours until.

Finally. I see the light under my door and am able to escape. I get out and go to the bathroom with tears still running down my face. In later years I told my mom about it and she said that she never heard me make any noise at all. I’m 20 almost 21 now and I still remember to this day.

And just as a fact no, I’m still not and have never been claustrophobic.”

9. That’s spooky.

“My old childhood house was haunted.

It was built over an old wheat field and according to the neighbors, some local children would walk into the field and never come out.

I never saw anything, but according to my mom, she would see random children running through the house at night.”

10. The man made of shadows.

“My first house I bought at 23, there was a man made of shadows who lived in the corners of the rooms.

He never faced the room – he faced the wall. I started have intense sleep paralysis several times a night when I moved there – I never had that before that house, and never had it after I left either. I lived there 6 years and basically finally just fled. I only went back for the last of my stuff because my mom made me.

While I lived there, the neighbors acted all weird. The lady across the street thought I was the caretaker for some old woman. I lived alone. I told her so. She called me a liar because they could all see the old woman sitting in the big front window watching them and such, glaring. She was supposedly a grouchy old woman who never waved back, and always glared and looked angry.

That neighbor spread some BS small town gossip about me being mentally handicapped. Another neighbor told everyone that I didn’t actually buy the house, my dad did, and I lived there – again – with the old woman because I wasn’t capable of living alone. Like I lied about the woman to cover my mental handicap?

IDEK. I never, ever, ever saw this supposed old woman. I never thought there was anything in that house with me but the shadow man, and he was in different rooms than the one the neighbors said the lady sat in.

When I finally fled that house, I moved to Cleveland. I got a really nice apartment on the lake. It was golden. I made friends with the lady in the apartment next door. She asked me one day who stays at my apartment when I’m at work. I was like no one, wut? I live alone.

No one but me has keys. It’s an old building and me and the lady share a bathroom vent so she said no, there is someone walking around my apartment during the day when I’m at work. It’s clear as day – she can see my room lights through that shared vent, and there’s no soundproofing in a building that old. She swore for a year that there was someone walking around my apartment when I was at work. I figured she was just hearing things.

I moved again to a townhouse down the street. This was on a corner of the street, and across the street was another townhouse. Neighbors and I would wave back and forth from our porches or dining room windows. It was really close, we were all really friendly. One day, the lady in that other townhouse asked me how my mother is doing.

I was like WTF, fine? (She lives an hour away, and only visited my apartment once for like 30 minutes. We don’t get together much.) Then my neighbor proceeds to tell me about how when “we” first moved in (I live ALONE, ya’ll), they all thought we were b*tches because my “mom” was so unfriendly.

Sat in the dining room window all day glaring, wouldn’t wave back at them when they walked outside or past her on the sidewalk – like right under the window, mind – they could tap the window as they walked by, like right by her nose where she sat, they were that close.

I tried to explain that I live alone. Neighbor didn’t believe me. So I dragged her into my place and demanded to know where this second person was sleeping. Where her things were. Where SHE was. Etc.

Neighbor never came into my home again after that, but she and her husband would mention offhand now and then that the old lady “mom” was still in my place, they saw her that morning, etc.

I bought my next house two years later and moved about a mile away. I’d been there a week when my new neighbor knocked on my door (it was snowing) and asked if I knew the old lady in the driveway between our houses. I was like wut?

He said that there was an old lady in the driveway between our houses a few minutes ago, and it was snowing, and they thought she must live with me, like my senile mom or something. They were about to call the cops, but wanted to check first in case she just wandered outside. I told them to call the cops, because I live alone.

That was the last time anyone ever saw her. My actual mom visited a few days later, I told her the story, and she went around my house shouting at the “old lady” to leave me alone.

Like, it was weird – my mom is not that kind of person, doesn’t believe in that kind of things, etc., but people have been telling me for years and multiple houses that the old woman lives with me. After my mom shouted all over the house, she seemed to be gone. It’s been 4 years since anyone saw her, and I’ve moved again.

My current house is 202 years old, and quiet.”

11. The haunting.

“The house that I lived in last year was haunted.

I no longer live there and I am a lot more into cleansing and protection now, so I no longer experience any of this, which honestly makes it even weirder.

I lived in a 5 bedroom house with 4 other people, my boyfriend, his cousin, my best friend and her boyfriend. We started realizing immediately that the house was a bit off in terms of energy, but we always put it up to the fact that this many people living together can do that to an environment.

Me and my best friend were the first ones to start experiencing things. Cupboards would be wide open in the mornings, drawers too. A kite on our wall would blow around randomly. We’d see shadows in the corner of our eye constantly. We’ve heard huge bangs on the walls and something even strummed a string on my boyfriends guitar in the middle of the night.

My boyfriend and I were also very active sleep talkers at the time. I would record us every night on a sleep recording app so we could listen again later. We would always act super disoriented and confused, like we were learning how to speak words again. It was really weird and I still have all the recordings.

My best friend and I put two and two together that there were 2 main spirits in the house. Both male, they tend to stay in different areas of the house. The more malicious one was upstairs while the more playful one was in the kitchen.

But we do think that we heard the two spirits conversing a few nights before moving out. It was just my best friend and I and we were home alone. We heard two male voices approach the door and chat with each other. My dog was barking up a storm and freaking out. We waited about 5 minutes until we opened the door to see who it was, thinking it was my boyfriend and a friend of his.

There was nobody outside our door, not even our motion sensor light was on. We had heard the voices right before opening the door. My boyfriend was a 20 minute drive away, and it was 2 in the morning. Edit: I wanna add that ever since we moved, I’ve been sleeping with selenite and tourmaline by our bedside.

We rarely , if ever, sleep talk now. Not sure what to do with that information…”

Now we want to hear from you.

Have you ever lived in a haunted house? Or maybe been in one?

Tell us about your experiences in the comments! Thanks!

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People Share What They Wish More People Understood

Life can be frustrating…

Especially when it comes to trying to get people to understand you. And that can mean a lot of things and it varies from person to person.

But everyone has those things that really drive them up the wall that they wish other folks could comprehend.

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. Educate yourself.

“History and it’s repetition.

This. People tend to think that people who lived hundreds of years before us were stupid because they didn’t have our technology and were superstitious. Humanity has always been the same.

In the words of Mark Twain, “History doesn’t repeat itself, but it often rhymes”.”

2. Different for everyone.

“Mental health can look different for everyone.

Just because my depression or anxiety looks different from yours doesn’t make it any easier to deal with.”

3. True.

“Just because you work harder doesn’t mean you’ll make more money or be more successful.

Alternatively, just because you work from home doesn’t mean you’re lazy, broke, and unsuccessful.”

4. A lot of work goes into it.

“The effort it takes to make things.

Like movies, games, books, physical handmade items.

I detest armchair specialists who have a 5min solution to everything they see as a problem despite it being obvious design decision be it for ease, cost or straight up creator preference.”

5. Ignorant.

“Accepting you were wrong when presented with new evidence is a sign of intelligence.

Never being wrong is a sign of ignorance.”

6. It ain’t everything.

“Money, prestige, etc. do not make you happy. In my opinion, time and lack of stress are worth more than money and prestige any day.

I just left a job with a fancy law firm to work with a nonprofit in June. My salary was cut 22%, and I went from a supervising associate to the bottom of the ladder.

And I would do it again in a heartbeat. The time I spent at the office or stressed out beyond belief was so taxing on me. I work a little more than half the hours I used to work, and I believe in my organization’s mission and work.

There’s a lot to be said for those things.”

7. That would be nice.

“How to drive like a normal human.

Including the use of turn signals, observance of proper following distance, and not constantly blinding everyone coming the other way with your brights when driving at night.”

8. Amen to this!

“Opinions don’t equal facts no matter how much you want it to.

And your “research” on the internet is not the equal of educated professionals in their field.”

9. Interesting.

“Animals don’t think like people.

Stop anthropormorphizing their personalities. No, your dog did not sh*t on the floor because he felt like being rebellious that day.

And he is not hiding under the bed because he “feels guilty,” he is hiding because you are yelling and waving things around like a lunatic.

Sincerely, a vet tech.”

10. Is it too late?

“Climate crisis is real and we need to take action.

And there’s a significant chance that it’s already too late.”

11. Loneliness.

“That loneliness can actually have great long term effects if you use your loneliness to your advantage.

Being alone may suck but it also gives you the opportunity to work on yourself and it often means you have little to no obligation to others, giving you more freedom to discover yourself.

Although being around people and not being lonely can help, I believe that being alone to the point of feeling lonely can also have some advantages.”

12. Cutting ties.

“That not all people have relationships with their parents/family that are sustainable or even manageable.

And that sometimes a person’s only option is to remove themselves.”

13. Let it all out.

“Emotions don’t make you weak.

I think men are conditioned to feel this.

In a couple months I knew 2 men to commit suicide and another one attempted. Breaks my heart.”

14. Agree to disagree.

“That we can disagree about something and not become *ssholes to each other about it.

I can’t tell you how many people have stopped talking to me because I don’t share their line of thinking.

It’s really frustrating.”

15. Don’t give up!

“Failing something isn’t the end.

Failing is the beginning.

In order to learn how to do something, you have to try, try, try. You have to get it wrong hundreds of times before you can get it right.

Da’Vinci didn’t learn how to paint the first time he put the brush to the canvas. But for some reason people expect themselves to be able to do so.”

What do YOU wish more people understood?

Let us know what you think in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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13 Life Skills That Might Change or Save Your Life

There’s no shortage of advice on how to improve or change your life. Some of it is better than others, of course, and some is straight bunk.

We think these 13 skills would be pretty useful to have, though, and not just today – for always.

13. They should teach this in high school.

Basic foundations of personal finance.

12. And if your parents suck, check your DNA.

Ask your parents if there are any medical issues in your family (cancer, diabetes, heart problems, depression, etc).

This could save your life, but it is not something commonly talked about.

11. How to get richer.

I’ve noticed that plenty of people find this simple concept counter-intuitive:

Doing somebody a favor is like earning money, not like spending money. You become richer by doing favors to people, not by getting them to do favors to you.

Money itself is just a formalized way of tracking who owes favors and who is owed favors.

10. Why?

How to bypass a lock.

It’s actually very easy to get through most locked doors. Any kind of card (license, credit card, whatever) can open a regular latch. If the door opens away from you just slide it in between the door jam and door handle. The card will slide in between the mechanism and open it. If the door opens towards you it doesn’t always work but you can slide the card in and down at an angle to get behind the latch and open it that way.

Most pad locks take less than 10 seconds to get into as well but I don’t know how to describe the technique with words

9. Have a level head.

When considering a different path, always ask:

(1) “At what cost?”

(2) *Compared to what?”

(3) ” What is the real evidence?”

8. Just cut your losses.

If something or someone is sketchy, roll out!

Will save your life for years to come…

7. If your parents didn’t teach you.

How to correctly brush your teeth.

6. It’s simple to learn.

CPR you might save someone’s life with it.

Push hard, push fast

Ribs WILL break if you’re doing it properly on an adult (it is the most bizarre creepy thing). Kids are very bendy and you may not get that sensation if you need to do CPR on them)

If you need to do CPR, the person you are doing it to is dead. You can’t make them more dead. You might be able to bring them back to life if you try. Do not feel bad if you can’t. If you fail, you didn’t kill them. They were already dead.

If you don’t have a one way valve to administer rescue breaths, STILL GIVE CHEST COMPRESSIONS. Chest compressions alone are better than nothing- you’re still pumping oxygen to the areas that need it and it will suffice until EMS/help arrives.

Giving CPR is stressful as hell. If you need to do CPR, it’s likely going to be on someone you know. Sometimes gallows humour is necessary for your brain not to freak out. Chest compressions to “Another One Bites The Dust” is the right rhythm and might get you smirking long enough to make you smirk/laugh (to yourself!) to take your mind off of what’s actually happening.

Even if a cardiac arrest happens IN hospital, their odds of survival are only about 10%- so much less so if it’s outside a hospital. I say this not to make you think “why bother” but so you know that if you are unable to resuscitate the person, it’s OK and was nothing you did wrong- by even trying CPR, you gave them their best chance at life.

5. Not ever not one word.

Don’t answer the questions of a law enforcement officer without a lawyer present.

4. Love yourself.

Your self is the only person who is guaranteed to be with you 24/7, and you can’t get rid of it.

Treat your self nicely.

3. If social interactions are hard for you.

How to talk to strangers in mundane interactions.

“Hello” “Beautiful day” “Thank you very much” “My pleasure” “Enjoy your day” “I appreciate that” “Great shoes!”

FYI It is always sage to complement a woman or mans shoes.

It’s non-sexual and show an appreciation of their fashion choice.

2. How to fix a zipper.

If it comes apart in the middle, take care that the zipped part remains zipped, and slowly but firmly move the head back down over the fault. If the split is uneven (i.e. one side between the fault and the head is longer than the other), hold the zipper at the fault and try to pull the longer side upwards through the head to make it even (all this before trying to move the head down over the fault). Unless the zipper is physically damaged, this should allow you to normally zip it back up.

If it comes completely apart where it shouldn’t (like e,g. on pants), work both sides into the head in parallel, zip it up and sew or otherwise fix the bottom to prevent it happening again.

If it’s not running smoothly and tends to get stuck, rub it with soap.

1. Doing this right now.

It probably won’t take that little time, but you can learn to manually mentally release the muscles in your head that cause tension headaches.

Good luck figuring it out because finding the method is hard due to the fact that you have to make an effort to stop the muscles’ efforts; so you have to apply a sense of letting go like a clenched fist relaxing to the muscles.

When you start to get it, there is a feeling of relief, and like the back top of your throat behind where your tongue can touch relaxes and lowers a bit.

It helps a lot, once you can notice and let got of those headaches, and it helps with fever headaches, but you have to constantly maintain focus to keep them relaxed so the pain from the heightened blood pressure(due to inflammation) is cut in half.

I need to start learning how to do some of these things; I’m not getting any younger!

Which of these do you think is first on your list? Tell us in the comments!

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People Discuss the Biggest Bullets They Ever Dodged in Their Lives

Life can be a game of inches…

Sometimes that can be taken literally, and other times figuratively.

But the fact is that we’ve all dodged a bullet or two in our lives. And, based on the company you keep, you might have even been in WAY more stickier situations than most folks out there.

As my Dad used to say, “nothing good happens after midnight.” It turns out he was pretty much right about that.

What’s the biggest bullet you’ve ever dodged?

Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say about this.

1. Good thing you found that.

“I found a carbon monoxide detector in our garage, brand new, unopened one day.

I thought, this isn’t doing us any good here, so I took it to the basement and hooked it up.

2 days later it went off as our furnace got clogged with something and our basement filled up with fumes. We evacuated and the fire department came and blew out the house with some big fans.

Then some guy came on an emergency service call and fixed our furnace.

My wife, 3 kids, dog, and I may have all died if I hadn’t hooked that thing up.”

2. Cult-like.

“My dad had died recently, I realized my crush didn’t have the slightest sympathy for me, and my academic performance was crumbling.

One day after an exam I broke in tears and some dude from my department (Computer Science) approached and comforted me. He invited me to some amazing help group that was “changing his life”. The only downside is that it was expensive as f*ck, “but it’s totally worth it”. I had some savings and took some days to decide if I enter.

Before I could give an answer, I got H1N1 (yep, that was in 2009) and fell in bed for two weeks, then I got varicella and fell another two weeks. By then the group thing had faded and I lost contact with the dude.

I found out later that the d*mn group was a cult-like LGAT scam. Everyone who entered (a big chunk of the CS department) wasted lots of money and f*cked up their lives at different levels. Many took long time to recover, some of them are still nuts.

Of course the most damaged were the emotionally weakened… just like me at that point. Big bullet dodged.”

3. On the road.

“I was in my teens, riding as a passenger in my grandmother’s car.

I heard a little high pitched scraping noise on the car roof briefly. Looked out behind us and there’s a tree about a meter and a half wide down on the road behind us.

The scrape was the tips of the outer branches making contact before the trunk didn’t quite kill us.”

4. Scary.

“A couple of years ago I went camping with my parents.

My dad was setting up the camper on blocks while it was still attached to the back hitch. I was talking with my dad while he was removing the hitch and casually had my hand on the edge of the truck bed.

I moved my hand to gesture something, and about 2 seconds later the camper fell off the blocks and fell onto the truck bed.”

5. Motorcycle accident.

“Approaching an intersection late at night on my motorcycle.

Didn’t see the massive patch of sand that had somehow been spread out across the road. Went to brake, rear wheel locked and I slid into the intersection. Came to a stop in the middle of the first lane.

Saw something big and white out of the corner of my vision. Was a truck. Gassed it just a bit to get out of the way, and the bike was clipped a couple inches behind my body, hard enough for the muffler to be pushed up against the chain.

Impact threw me over the handlebars. Time slowed down while I was in the air and I remember thinking “it’s taking a really long time to hit the ground.”

Flew completely over two lanes of traffic and landed on my hands and feet in the middle of the intersection with cars traveling in opposite directions on either side of me.

Stood up. No sliding, not a scratch on me. Helmet never touched the ground.”

6. Creep.

“Used to flirt with this guy at work. He was a single dad, I’m a single mom (though his kids are much older).

He was always asking about my kids and once, I ran into him at Target when they were with me and he was super nice to both of them. My daughter even asked me why I didn’t date him when he was so nice and he seemed like he liked me.

When I saw him at work the next day, he asked me to come hang out with him sometime soon. I didn’t give him a solid yes because I really don’t think dating someone you work with is a good idea, but he was winning me over.

A few months after that I go into work and he’s suddenly being escorted from the building by security. Turns out he was rooted out in an FBI sting for soliciting underage girls in chat rooms – he even used his work computer for a lot of his activity.

He was sending videos of himself rubbing one out to girls as young as eleven (or so he thought). My daughter was close to that age. He was convicted on fivr or six counts (I forget) and all I can think about is my obviously horrible taste in men.”

7. Good timing.

“4th grade I rode my bike home everyday.

This day I decided I was gonna wait outside to ask a girl out. It took 5 min. As I got home I saw 3 dudes hauling *ss out of my house into a white van.

Our house was robbed. Of I had gotten home earlier they may have robbed my house as I was eating my daily bowl of frosted flakes.”

8. Drugged.

“I was 27, too old, really, for the college bar I was in.

But it was walking distance to my apartment. And it was Thursday might and the well drinks were four hot bucks. So I ordered a cheap shi*ty well drink and then went to go smoke a cigarette outside.

Everybody says that getting Roofied isn’t a thing. That it’s women who can’t handle their liquor. Bullsh*t. I came back in, finished that one watered-down ladies’- night drink…and suddenly I couldn’t stand up. My legs were just useless.

My roommate at the time saw two guys trying to haul me out of the bar. (I vaguely remember this.) She screamed at the bouncer not to let them take me, then fireman-carried my *ss a mile home and put me to bed. Terri, you da real MVP.”

9. Mother Nature.

“A lightning strike.

I was 16ish and my mom was naaaaagging me to take the dinner scraps out to the backyard to toss in the compost bin. I asked if it could wait till the next day, a storm was rolling in and I really didn’t feel like getting caught in it.

I argued (read: I whined) with her for only a few moments when we heard a huge BOOM and felt the house shake. The house illuminated in that moment, a huge flash of light and sound, silencing us. We gingerly open the sliding glass door and look in the backyard.

Lightning struck the house/ground right by the house. Right where I would have been standing if I was dumping scraps in the compost bin.

The ground was scorched, and all I did was triumphantly announce “SEE? PROCRASTINATION SAVES THE DAY”.”

10. Very lucky.

“I once woke up in a house that was on fire.

We were all up until about 4 am drinking. The fire started in a wall around 6 am, so everybody was totally passed out.

By the time a random passerby kicked the door in and woke us up, the smoke was so thick I couldn’t see my hand in front of my face.

We all nearly died, so I’d say that qualifies as dodging a bullet.”

11. WOW.

“Was supposed to be at meeting in the World Trade Center on Sept 11, 2001.

Decided on the weekend to travel home and cancelled the meetings.

If I hadn’t I would have been right there when the planes hit.”

12. Could have had a different life.

“Me, at 16, started dating a girl who would go on to be my long term high school gf. She was about 1 year younger.

We were toxic, but I thought she was hot and we took each others virginity. At the time we started dating, she was about 5’2″, maybe 90 lbs soaking wet. Fast forward to when I was 17, getting ready to leave for the service in a couple months.

GF turns up pregnant, had stopped taking birth control because she wanted my baby. Literally was going to marry her because her father threatened me. She miscarried the baby about 2 months into it.

Called off the wedding and wound up leaving for the service. I broke it off with her 6 weeks later. She is now about 350 lbs and has 5 kids (with 3 different dads).

Major sigh of relief.”

13. Close call.

“I was 8 and when i went to stay with my dad on the weekend visits, i would sleep in his camper.

The door was broken and you had to stick a knife in it and pry it open. Being only 8 I wasn’t strong enough to open it by myself no matter how hard I tried. and had to get my dad to do it.

One weekend I stayed with my dad and went to a family members party. Being Mexicans, the party went on thru the night. About midnight or so he came and asked me if I was ready to go home. He said he would drop me off so I could get some sleep but i was having a good time and opted to stay.

A couple hours later he came and got me and we headed home to see the camper fully engulfed in flames. My grandma was outside and had burns all over her hands and forearms and a big one on her scalp from trying to get inside.

She was sure I was still in there and was sobbing hysterically when we pulled up.”

Okay, now it’s your turn.

What are some of the scariest bullets that you’ve ever dodged?

Tell us your stories in the comments!

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Former Goody-Two-Shoes Describe What Happened When They Finally Snapped

Some people spend their whole young adulthood lives buttoned up and locked down – no dating, no parties, no drinking, no fooling around, nothing.

That usually doesn’t last forever, though, because life has plenty of ways of reminding us that it’s too short to not really live at all – and these 14 people have some pretty great (or at least memorable) moments when they finally had that realization themselves.

14. Watch how you parent, my friends.

I come from a strict asian family that emphasized education above all else. Even before my sister I were born, they already started planning financially for our higher education and choosing the schools we would go to. They spared no expense for our education.

I am blessed that they are very supportive and responsible but this also brought immense pressure to me and my sister. We always needed to be top of the class or else face their disappointment. We both got into the best high school and university of the country, but unlike my sister, I snapped in university.

Due to pressure to do well in school, I got depressed and suicidal. I would get drunk all the time and skip class. Ultimately, I dropped out of university. It was the hardest thing to tell them that I would not be going back to school anymore. I thought they would cast me out of the family due to shame and disappointment. I never thought they would welcome me back with understanding and open arms, but they did. I stayed at home for 1 year and did nothing. They allowed me to heal.

Finally, I went back to school by my own accord and finished university. They encouraged me to go to law school and here I am. Suicidal drop-out to being a student in the one of the best law schools in the country. I just very thankful for their support.

13. It’s always a good day to stand up for yourself.

I don’t know if I’d say I was a goody two shoes, but I definitely was always taught to be polite and not make waves, and it took me a long time to learn how to stand up for myself.
My turning point was at the airport – it was my first time flying alone with my infant daughter, and we were heading to a funeral so I wasn’t in a great place to begin with.

I was lined up waiting for a self-check in machine, and was next in line. Some asshole older white dude decided that the one line for 6 machines didn’t work for him, and he was going to start a line behind the machine he wanted. Meaning he attempted to just jump in front of me.

Normally I would have just rolled my eyes and huffed and dealt with it. But not this time. I’m real soft spoken, but I got LOUD. “Excuse me! There’s a line. I was next.” Now everybody is looking. He starts muttering and then calls me rude. “Yeah, it is rude to cut off a mother with a BABY.” He was still muttering but he retreated to the back of the line.

I don’t want my daughter to grow up as a doormat, so she needs to see me modeling strength and boundaries.

12. Go girl.

I was suffering abuse.

I couldn’t take it anymore and decided to put myself first instead of pleasing the people around me.

11. I want to give this person a high-five.

My friends were just joking around and I knew they were but I couldn’t help but finally snap at their silly remarks towards me. I yelled, went silent and just wanted to be alone for a minute. When I checked my phone they had been trying to contact me to see if I was alright.

They said they felt awful, understood why I was angry and apologized. I felt bad that I snapped but they said it was fine and that we all have a breaking point.

10. Figure out who you are.

All throughout high school, I was the perfect student. Good grades, played sports, played cello, cared alot about what everyone thought of me, so I tried really hard to be ‘perfect’. I was planning on going to the university my parents and everyone expected me to go to.

The summer after high school I began getting really depressed, and wasn’t sure what I really wanted out of life. That fall I decided not to go to university, but moved to a ski resort instead. Best decision of my life. 5 years later, I have lived in 3 different countries and have a better understanding of what I want out of life.

I am planning on going back to school for the subject I want. I also stopped caring what people thought of me a long time ago!

9. It’s ok to make mistakes.

Honestly it made me more human and more accepting of myself.

We’re not perfect, we make mistakes, and that’s perfectly okay.

We don’t have to prescribe to labels that people put on us, or even labels that we put on ourself. We’re allowed to change and grow.

8. She told him to get lost.

Tired of being the “cool” girlfriend, the one who doesn’t demand anyone’s time. I cooked, cleaned and did laundry. This was forced into me since childhood being the oldest female child. When I got into a relationship I assumed a mom role.

When I stood up for myself and held conversations with my ex about needing more than s*x from him, he promised he would change. He never changed and after a while he said well if I had a problem with him, that’s just something about myself that I have to deal with.

I became fed up with it and broke it off and he never contacted me again thank god. I’m single now, take care only of my needs and you can be da*n sure I expect other people to handle their sh*t like I handle mine. I don’t know if I snapped at all, I just told him to get lost and I moved on.

7. At least there’s a happy ending.

I snapped at work after five years, left work in the middle of the day and went straight to the doctor.

He gave me sick leave for three weeks, I had a total break down.

The aftermath?

I used those weeks to find a new job. It’s hard and I’m not doing as well as I wished, still afraid I will break down again at any time.

Shi**y mental health!

6. They should be proud of themselves.

I have not been getting the promotion at work that I have been promised so many times, and I have been there the longest from all the people i worked with.

I snapped and am handing in my resignation letter next month…

5. Perception vs. Reality.

I was always perceived as a goody-goody at my jobs, though it wasn’t actually the case with me. I partied almost every week through college, went to concerts every month with friends, drank heavily. I’ve never been a pot smoker, but only because I tried it a few times and didn’t like it.

But I also have always been a believer that it’s inappropriate to talk about your personal life at work. It’s not my coworkers’ business how drunk I got Saturday night or how many people I’ve slept with, so if someone asks me about plans or what I did last week, I tend to “grey rock” and skip over any discussion of anything unusual. This lead to all my coworkers thinking my weekends are nothing but Netflix and books.

The thing that started to bother me, though, was that my coworkers were all hanging out outside of work, and even though they talked about going drinking together and sh*t, none of them ever bothered to invite me. That stung. I liked my coworkers and wanted to be friends, wanted to be included, I just didn’t want to discuss s*x and parties at work.

Finally one day I got rude. My manager mentioned going drinking with some of the other workers, and I straight up asked why I was never invited. He replied that none of them thought I drank or partied, so I corrected the record, and he happily invited me to the next get-together.

The night out was fun, and I definitely got to know my coworkers better. That was great. Unfortunately, getting to know them better also resulted in two of the guys – one of them my manager – repeatedly hitting on me and hassling me through text for a hookup. The manager in question even had a girlfriend at the time who regularly popped by work to bring him stuff.

I was relieved when I left that job a month later, and I went back to letting people think I’m a stick in the mud.

4. I hope they’re ok.

I graduated a year early in the top of my class. Never drank or did drugs, never even had a boyfriend.

Then I snapped.

I moved out at 17 and became a homeless bulimic drug addict living with three men.

My bender ended with a suicide attempt and subsequent psych ward stay.

3. Life has its reasons.

My husband cheated on me and we got divorced. Up until that point, I had tried to do everything to be perfect, look good to others, and please my ulta-Christian family. I was very judgmental of others during that time. I was judgmental of myself too, it was all around a bit unhealthy.

When my husband cheated and I filed for divorce I, for the first time, had to deal with public shame/gossip, the feeling of letting my family down, and the stigma of being in my early 20’s and a divorcee. I learned a lot and I’d say it all made me a much better person.

I’m very uplifting of other women, I don’t judge people so much anymore, and I’m way more laid back. And I don’t worry about living my life to please others anymore (well, I still worry a little, it’s always a work in progress). It took a hardship to knock me down a peg and teach me grace.

2. Don’t carry more than you can handle.

LOL I was very prim in high school, ran track and played field hockey, played violin and piano, was on every committee, volunteered, all honors / AP classes with good grades, long-term BF (voted class couple), a ton of friends, etc. BUT I was not happy in the small town and always wanted to move to a nearby big city.

I moved and went HAM. got my tongue pierced, drank a ton, had a BLAST. Then my parents cut me off, I moved into a horrible studio, worked full-time (at 17) and dropped out of college, only to resume at a community college at night. Even did a stint as a stripper lol

Finagled my way into the finance industry, graduated from a good school, work at a prestigious firm now, travelled by myself to 40+ countries, had a TON of experiences that I wouldn’t have had if I took the path everyone expected me to (college, grad school or med school). I’m now very easy going, still really organized and productive, but more focused on my own happiness than what others think of me. But my relationship with my parents never recovered, we’re still strained 10 years later.

I think it’s all about finding that you’re carrying more than you should. Like I hand made a canoe to get me through high school / childhood, and it was beautiful. But once I crossed the lake I didn’t need it anymore and it just weighted me down. So I let it go.

1. When life hands you lemons.

I always had an odd relationship with my parents for various reasons when growing up and always did the things I thought I should do rather than the things I wanted to do. I was the perfect, hard working, diligent student but quiet and socially awkward. Silently judgmental of others but really hard on myself. I was bullied at school and that lead to me just trying to melt into the background and not get noticed.

When I went to uni I met my ex. He was someone I never in a million years thought would be attracted to me. We were together for nearly 10 years and I spent the whole time trying to be whatever it was I thought he wanted. As a result I never really knew myself or what I wanted out of life. He left me one day (literally moved to another continent over night). It was pretty traumatizing at the time. I was also being treated badly (I thought it was me being not good enough – it wasn’t) at work and that came to a head too not long after my ex left me.

Losing my ex and then my job was what did it for me. I actually thought about what I wanted out of life. I started dating, took up a couple of new hobbies and gained loads of confidence. I decided that I was in the wrong career and got my masters degree in mental health, something I would have written off as impossible previously. To pay for my masters I had to do temp work in my previous field and found that I actually really like it and I’m quite good at it too when I’m not being told I’m rubbish all the time.

I am now engaged to a really supportive, caring man. I have a job that I love and have got better at as my confidence has grown. My current partner sees me as really confident and quite outgoing, and my colleagues respect me for my work. I’m even looking for opportunities to take on more responsibility in my job. I recently ended up paired with someone for a particular project I haven’t worked with before and when I turned up she was really relieved to see me and said she was glad she was put with someone good. A small thing but made me look back at how things had been in my previous job.

I don’t know if this really counts as snapping as such. It certainly wasn’t instant but the difference is massive. I even have a much better relationship with my parents. I disagree with them where they can hear me and everything! Lol

I can definitely relate to some of these, how about you?

If you’re a former goody-two-shoes, tell us your own story in the comments!

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If You Can Learn These 10 Minute Lessons, You Might Use Them Forever

There are a million pro-tips and hacks and piece of advice on the internet, and if I had to guess, I’d say very few of them would remain evergreen for the rest of our lives.

These 15 lessons, though, probably will – and some of them just might save your life, too.

15. Mr. Miyagi left this one out.

How to properly stretch your hands and forearms.

Stretch arms straight out forward, point fingers up, then without moving arms ball a fist downward.

Repeat as fast as possible.. taught indirectly from Bruce Lee.

14. Street smarts!

If you ever fall through the ice and are trapped underwater, aim for a dark spot. A hole in the ice will look dark.

And if someone tries to abduct you fight like hell even if they have weapon. Your situation will not improve if they get you to a more private location.

13. Just a few things.

I mean, they’re skills and not really wisdom but…

Warning signs of a stroke

How to use a fire extinguisher

Rolling your clothes after folding gives you more room in a drawer/suitcase. It’s life changing.

Righty tighty, lefty loosey

How to change a tire, check your oil and jump a car

Also changing headlights without using your fingers because the oils will damage the bulbs

How to start a campfire and put it out

The Heimlich maneuver

How to tie a knot more than one way

How to sew a basic stitch

The basics of emergency first aid

How to spot a rip tide and how to escape

How to shut off and turn on a circuit breaker and where they’re located

What to do in an earthquake, tornado, tsunami and hurricane.

12. Fight for your life.

One of the best lessons I learned from a movie, specifically Miss Congeniality, was SING (and that movie came out in 2000, to illustrate how well I remember that hahahhahaha *cries at the loss of time*).

Solar plexus, Instep, Nose, Groin.

I also took a few self defense classes with a krav maga teacher, and they taught to aim for anything you can get, and do whatever you can.

Poke their eyes, pull their hair, grab at their throat, stick your fingers in their ears/nose/mouth and scratch them, bend back their wrists, stomp on their feet, scratch them with your nails, jab them with your car keys…essentially, whatever you can do and get at, do it and do it repeatedly. While doing this, scream FIRE, and make as much noise and commotion as you possibly can.

Also, if someone tries to take your purse/phone/wallet, don’t chase them down. Let it go, because your life isn’t worth whatever was in there.

11. This would have saved me in high school.

If you’re somewhere quiet and your stomach is growling loudly DON’T tense up your tummy muscles.

Push your stomach out instead and it will make the growl quieter.

10. Maybe your kid’s, or someone else’s.

How to spot someone choking and how to help them.

Takes 10 minutes to learn and could save a life.

9. You can even save yourself.

If you yourself are choking, a lot of people have heard the use a chair to heimlich yourself trick.

To me the better and easier method is to get into a position on the ground face down arms up like your going to do a push-up.

Then drop yourself to the ground to force pressure through the diaphragm.

8. Essential knowledge, really.

How to spot someone legit drowning. It looks nothing like the movies. Head will be barely above water, with mouth bobbing slightly in and out of the water, opening and closing like a fish would.

Probably won’t see their hands (because they’ll be moving wildly underwater), they won’t be making much sound, if at all, they’ll have glassy eyes with a faraway stare.

All this adds up to a very non-Hollywood look that we’re all used to. This person looks “calm” in the water because their amygdala has taken over and they are on auto-pilot to simply stay alive. This is one of the reasons why they don’t speak…speech isn’t important at this point, so their brain shuts it down.

This is also why it’s extremely dangerous to personally engage a drowning person. They will drown you to save themselves and probably have no recollection of doing it. Always use a long pole, rope, flotation device, or something else onto which they can grab.

7. Words to live by.

If you think everyone hates you, you need to sleep.

If you think you hate everyone, you need to eat.

6. Learn something new every day.

Grasp the idea that everyone you meet knows something you do not.

5. Knots in general I should think.

How to tie a slip knot.

The slip knot is a “stopper knot” which is easily undone by pulling the tail.

4. This just blew my mind.

Percentage is interchangeable.

8% of 25 is hard to do in your head but 25% of 8 is easy, and they both equal the same. works every time.

3. Being dead is worse than being embarrassed.

Nurse here.

Sadly many ppl who are choking get embarrassed and go away from ppl. I have actually seen this happen.

They get calmly up from the table and walk away, thinking they can cough it out or something.

So remember, if you are choking don’t leave because of embarrassment, it could cost you your life.

2. For my fellow social anxiety sufferers…

The phrase:

“It probably isn’t about you”

Applies to Most everything.

1. Stop the fires!

Your washing machine has several filters that need to be cleaned regularly

You ac unit is the same, not only do the dust filters but the inside underneath the plastic body has several spots.that need cleaning.

I’m definitely putting some of these in my back pocket!

If you were going to add something to the list, what would it be? Tell us in the comments!

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Hilariously Honest Reviews of Famous Books That Hit the Nail on the Head

Just because books are “must-reads,” considered classics or some other distinction that I haven’t yet thought of… doesn’t mean they should be a) taught in schools b) are any good or c) easy reads. It’s as likely, to be honest, that they’ll end up being a slog, not fun, boring AF and generally not worth your time.

Yeah, I said it. Classics are boring AS F**K. Books can be considered classics for all kinds of reasons, and as far as I can tell, “readability” typically isn’t one of them.

These 12 people, at least, seem to agree.

12. Chekov: The Complete Short Novels

Sure, dunk on a dead guy.

Goodreader annihilates Chekhov from BadReads

11. Wuthering Heights

There are lots of dead angry people.

People die when they are angry from BadReads

10. The Trial

It’s hard to argue with that.

I feel like this is an allegory for something from BadReads

9. Of Mice and Men

We’ve got this depression things, down.

I’ll just think, not read. from BadReads

8. Poetics

I mean. Yeah. But still.

Aristotle is pretentious from BadReads

7. Sex at Dawn

A question for the ages, really.

IT’S OKAY TO BE A VIRGIN from BadReads

6. Adolphe

This is all true. Don’t @ me.

Men are whiny babies from BadReads

5. All the Pretty Horses

When you find a sentence that just does you in.

All the Pretty Horses: Goodreaders have a lot of beef with McCarthy’s punctuation from BadReads

4. Ulysses

Gone by an act of God.

Ulysses: gone the way of Matcham’s Masterstroke from BadReads

3. The Tempest

And this is the best Shakespeare.

The Tempest: If your English teacher assigns you this KILL. THEM! from BadReads

2. 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea

That’s one theory, I suppose.

scientific hypothesises from BadReads

1. The Island of Dr. Moreau

Quick and succinct.

"More like Dr. BORE-O" from BadReads

It’s kind of hard to argue with these, don’t you think? And if you want to argue, please do on that on Facebook. We don’t need that here.

Alright… give us your own honest review of a famous book in the comments – we want to hear it!

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