Month: May 2021

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Check It Out! Martial Arts Classes Aren’t Just for Kids Anymore!

It can be difficult to find hobbies as an adult. In between work and taking care of our families and trying to exercise, who has time for one more thing?

That’s why so many people turn exercise into a hobby.

Whether it’s playing a pickup game with your friends, golfing on the weekends, or coaching your kid’s soccer team, it’s important to enjoy the things that keep us fit.

One potential exercise that’s often overlooked by adults is martial arts, a term that can encompass a wide variety of activities. But these classes are not just for kids with bullies. Adults can gain a great many benefits from practicing martial arts as well, which many people realize once they enroll their children.

With that in mind, here are the top 5 reasons adults should consider taking up martial arts too.

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1. Stress relief

We all feel it. According to the Mental Health Foundation:

In the past year, 74% of people have felt so stressed they have been overwhelmed or unable to cope.

Caused by any number of things, from debt, the health of a loved one, housing worries, or even body image, we all feel stressed out.

Along with stress comes depression and anxiety.

Having something to focus on and getting moving in a supportive and healthy environment can do wonders for all kinds of stress.

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2. Community support

If the past year showed us anything, it was how important having a community can be.

Whether you needed to rely on your herd to help take care of your kids while you were working, to get you groceries when you were sick or in quarantine, or just to chat and boost you up when you were feeling down and disconnected, I bet you realized who was important in your life.

Taking martial arts classes can offer you a supportive community outside of work and home, new friends, facing challenges together, and encouraging each other in solidarity.

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3. A sense of accomplishment

There’s nothing quite like setting tangible goals and meeting them to feel accomplished.

As explained by Happiness On:

Research has shown that personal goals that are congruent with your interests increase your emotional well-being.

This means that working on your goals makes you happy.

And martial arts with progressing “belt” levels, like Karate, Judo, and Taekwondo are all about setting clear, concrete goals.

Meet your goals and progress to the next level, with a fancy new belt to show off your skills.

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4. Self esteem

Just as it feels good to make progress towards a goal, martial arts can make you feel more confident.

Whether it’s because you feel safer in your environment or because you’re more in touch with your body and its place within the world, there is something to be gained for everyone.

As Life Hacker points out:

Moreover, you’ll learn how to cultivate a sense of resilience when placed under pressure.

Training can be grueling (if you take it seriously), and you might find yourself under more physical strain than you ever have been before, but you’ll also find that you have the fortitude to keep going in the face of that exertion, and that you can stay calm amid the intensity of a sparring round.

And not only that, but the work out can help you get in great shape, too, which can also boost self esteem.

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5. Self defense

Okay, I saved the obvious one for last.

But we’ve all felt threatened from time to time, especially if you’re a woman who has ever walked to your car alone after dark.

Learning self defense moves, no matter your age, can go a long way to assuaging those little fears.

But knowing what to do is not always obvious, especially in a moment of panic.

The discipline and training of martial arts can help you keep a cool head, and fall back on your training in a crisis.

For a few great tips that you could learn thanks to martial arts, watch this excellent YouTube video on self defense for women, made by women:

Those are all excellent reasons to sign up for a martial arts class.

It’s an idea I’ve had kicking around in the back of my mind for awhile. Maybe it’s finally time to take the leap.

(Sorry.)

What about you? Would you consider taking a class? Tell us in the comments.

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Notes Left By People Who are Doing Parenting the Right Way

In the age of texting, it may seem weird that parents would even still bother with leaving notes around. After all, if you’ve sent it right to someone’s phone, they’re definitely gonna see it, and shooting off a text certainly takes less time than, say, printing and cutting out instructions.

But then again, there’s something so much more personal and tactile about the actual note. It lets your kids know that you care, and more importantly, it gives a sense of foreboding, like they’re really there in the room with you, even if they’re not.

Watching. Judging. Expecting.

That’s why these notes from parents are the best.

10. Is that you, Alf?

Even I’m too young to be making Alf references, what’s wrong with me?

My parent went out of town, he left me a note.

9. Oh, baby

Look your life is your business but I ain’t taking care of no grandkids right now.

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8. Three in one

That’s pretty optimistic, dad.

7. Towel off

It’s not that funking hurd.

6. Compare and contrast

Something tells me Eric will very much be smoking the stank and hoodlum-doing.

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5. Get Daniel at 6

I love how this shifts from a note of concern to a burn on a dime.

4. Spoiler alert

Spark notes is getting lazier and lazier.

3. That summer breeze

Or terribly wrong, I don’t know.

2. Bean thing

The best part of waking up is probably not this.

1. The connection games

True innovation right here.

clever motherhood

I guess modern problems do call for modern solutions.

What’s the best note you’ve written/received?

Tell us in the comments, fam!

Thanks!

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Guy Asks if He Was Wrong to Kick a Co-Worker Out of His Wife’s Baby Shower

This story is really strange…

I understand that we all spend a lot of time at work, but when people start calling themselves someone’s “work wife” or “work husband”, I can see how that would make some folks uncomfortable.

And a man took to Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page to ask if he was wrong for the way he treated such a co-worker. Let’s see what happened.

AITA for kicking my coworker out of my wife’s baby shower?

“I (29m) work in a pretty tight workspace. We have about 9 of us in my department and it’s a pretty even split between men and women.

There’s one coworker “Eva”(20f) who started working here a few months back. She’s really good at her job and seems to get along with everyone. We get along well as we work on projects together and are usually in the group of people that are the last to leave most days. I learned some weeks ago that she was calling herself my “work wife”. I knew what the term meant, the sentiment wasn’t shared and I’ve expressed as much.

I don’t think I’ve been rude about it, I just let her know that I’d prefer for her to keep things a bit more professional. There’s no real harm in the term, but for someone who doesn’t understand the joke, it just looks and sounds wrong. I’m also a happily married man, and my coworkers including Eva know this.

I thought I had done a pretty good job nipping things in the bud after our conversation [I no longer heard the jokes from her] so I didn’t think it would be an issue to invite her to my wife’s baby shower. My coworkers are all vaccinated (our job helped us get them) and my wife WFH so there wasn’t much concern for the sickness that shall not be named.

Eva comes in and immediately starts back up with the jokes. “You’re OP’s home wife? Nice to meet you!”, “it’s so nice to see who takes care of my hubby when I send him home!” My wife is a very sweet and patient woman so she just laughed it off, albeit uncomfortably and moved on. However the jokes got worse and wouldn’t let up.

At one point Eva was telling people she would be our baby’s second mom. My wife’s friends and family were annoyed and my wife looked very uncomfortable. I had pretty much had it by then, and took her aside and told her that the jokes weren’t funny and that she could either apologize to my wife right now for being so inconsiderate and gross, or she could just leave. She chose to leave.

Word got around to our coworkers what happened and while they agree that she was acting inappropriately, that I should have let her down a little easier, as it was “obvious she likes you OP”.

Am I really the a**hole for kicking her out?

And here’s what folks on Reddit had to say about the man’s story.

This reader said that the man is not to blame and he needs to make sure human resources at his company knows all about this…just in case…

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Another Reddit user said that anyone who “likes” a married co-worker and makes it known is pretty gross.

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This person said that the other co-workers are also to blame for their behavior.

No, he shouldn’t be nice to her because of this!

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And this Reddit user agreed that the other co-workers seem to be part of the problem.

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Finally, this individual made a very good point: if a man acted like this toward a married woman at work, they would definitely be labelled as a creep.

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Do you think this guy was out of line?

Or did he do the right thing?

Let us know in the comments! Thanks!

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A Person Put Their Sister-in-Law in Her Place for Complaining About Food. Did They Act Like a Jerk?

People get worked up about all kinds of things, and one of the big ones folks complain about is FOOD.

And a person got pretty offended and spoke out against her sister-in-law after she complained about the food she made…but I have a feeling there’s a lot of tension bubbling under the surface here…

Here’s what happened.

AITA for telling my SIL to shut it when she complained about my food?

My SIL and I got along really well when my husband and I first met and were first married.

Then she took offense when I ended up missing her 30th birthday party because I already had pre-arranged, pre-paid plans with a couple of my friends. To clarify, the party was not on her actual birthday, it was two weeks earlier and so I didn’t see any reason to check the date with her.

But she could not accept me picking them over her which is how she views it. Even my husband told her it wasn’t fair to expect me to lose out when it’s not like I planned it on her actual birthday. But it hasn’t been the same since.

Ever since, whenever we’re hosting my ILs or whenever we bring food, she criticizes it. My husband and the rest of the family have called her out on being ungrateful. They have told her she should let the party thing go but she doesn’t. My cooking or baking was never an issue before she got pi**ed about me not being there for her birthday. She used to ask me for recipes and we’d cook together for Christ sake.

This past weekend we hosted a small dinner with family (both sides) to celebrate the impending arrival of mine and my husbands first child. Kind of like a baby shower but smaller and much less fuss. SIL was going off on the food again and I had enough.

I told her nobody was forcing her to come if she hated my food so much and maybe we would all be better off without her constantly s**t talking me through everything, even such a happy occasion.

She was pi**ed. She was so pi**ed. Even more when only one relative (another SIL) came to her defense or called me out. It’s now created tension between the family and I’ve been called a bi**h, an a**hole, a petty bi**h, all sorts of other stuff and I feel bad for lashing out the way I did.

AITA?”

And here’s how folks responded on Reddit.

This person said that person was not an a**hole and that the sister-in-law was put in her place the right way.

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Another reader thought up a fun idea about the SIL.

How about they make a game out of her bad attitude?!?!

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This individual said that no one should have to put up with rude behavior in their own home.

Amen!

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Lastly, a Reddit user said that the person’s family should have stuck up for them in this situation and that the SIL needs to know what the consequences are for being rude.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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This Person Asked if They’re Wrong For Not Paying Neighbor’s Vet Bills After Dog Attacked Cat

Things always get heated when animals are involved…and you’re about to read quite a story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page.

It features dogs, cats, and a dispute over some vet bills.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA for not paying the medical bills for my neighbor’s cat?

“Let me start off by giving the details.

My backyard is completely fenced in with a metal 6 ft high fence, and so is my neighbor’s. I have a 3 year old husky, they have a cat. My dog has full 24/7 access to my backyard through the use of a doggy door for 2 years now, and we’ve had no issue before.

Every now and then my neighbor’s cat would be sitting on top of the fence and my dog would bark at it, but the cat would run off. Not really an issue.

So now we’re at the part where I’m being accused of being an a**hole, a terrible person, and my neighbor is rallying up the whole block against me.

THEIR cat came through MY doggy door. My dog was alerted within seconds and reacted way faster than I could ever. The cat did recieve some damage, but I managed to save it from my dog. I then rushed it to the neighbor’s, and I drove them to the vet (they didn’t have a car.)

Their cat was okay, hurt, but okay. I brought them home and as I was saying my goodbyes and giving my condolences, they asked about medical expenses. I have pet insurance for my own dog, so I had reassurance that I would be able to afford my own animal’s medical expenses.

I wasn’t financially prepared to handle someone else’s. And I told my neighbor this, but they told me I’m at fault because it was my dog who attacked their cat. I failed to see how it was my fault, as the animal was trespassing in my own home, and my dog was reacting because it’s territory was being infiltrated.

They said same choice words but I ended up refusing to pay by saying “I’m not paying for your cats medical bills, forget it” and I walked away. Other neighbors are now giving me dirty looks and I just don’t feel welcomed here.

I do plan on replacing my doggy door with an electronic one that will only open for my own dog, so I’m not ignoring the issue. I just don’t think I’m to blame, especially when I did what I could to help.

So, AITA?”

Hmmmm. Let’s see how people responded on Reddit.

This reader said that, while they love cats, the cat in the story entered the house so you can’t blame the dog for attacking.

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Another person argued that people who let their cats roam free are nothing but selfish and they do a lot of damage outside.

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This individual said that cats tend to terrorize their neighborhoods and that this owner only cared when bad something to their cat…while ignoring everything else it does.

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This reader said that outdoor cats are nothing but a nuisance.

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And lastly, this person basically said that if you’re gonna play with fire, sometimes you’re gonna get burned.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Sound off in the comments and let us know!

Thanks in advance!

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Enjoy These Hilariously Passive Aggressive Exchanges That Went Viral

We all have times when we can be passive aggressive. I’m not proud of it.

I think it’s sort of a natural extension of being told all our lives that we need to be nice, or to hide our feelings, to avoid conflict at all costs. There has to be an outlet somewhere, and so the snark makes it way out as passive aggression.

Sometimes it’s an attempt to be funny, to make a point while smoothing over conflict. Other times, laughter may not be the intention, but it’s good when the rest of us can see the humor in it anyway.

Here’s a roundup of some of the best passive aggressive moments out there.

1. The bumper sticker: a reliable classic

I used to think that it would be a good idea if we could easily put scrolling messages on the front or back of our cars. You know, to tell people their gas tank is open or thank them for letting you into traffic. In retrospect, it’s probably better that we don’t.

2. People really can say a lot with their cars

It’s definitely a favored form of passive aggression. Or even just outright aggression.

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3. The bathroom sign

Not to be confused with the writing inside the stall. Those messages may or may not be passive aggressive.

4. Or this other amazing bathroom sign

We had some of these at a place that I worked.

I’m having flashbacks.

 

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5. The office break room

I think people are at their most passive aggressive at work.

You can’t outright go at someone because you still have to work together.

 

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6. But sometimes things just have to be said

I kind of like it when people think outside the box.

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7. Sometimes businesses take matters into their own hands

They definitely know their clientele.

8. Just remember that the customer is ALWAYS right

And they might decide to get even in the end.

9. And sometimes it’s just a matter of protecting your home turf

Whether you rent and have shared facilities or not…

 

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10. Homeowners can be especially tetchy

I don’t actually MIND that people turn around in my driveway so much…

But it does feel like we’re the chosen ones and I don’t understand WHY.

11. It’s hard to know how to talk to your neighbors

You just never know how they’ll react.

12. Don’t forget about spouses

I bet almost no one is as passive aggressive as a spouse. You think you’re doing a good thing by avoiding a fight…

13. Or anyway, you’re making your point

That’s definitely one way of doing it. If the other person actually CARES that the bed isn’t made.

14. Living with other people is just hard

It helps to get creative and add a touch of humor. But did they DO the dishes?

15. Hopefully you can laugh about it

Because the humor takes the sting out of the conversations we’re not having. This one is next-level though.

16. Just remember, the kids are watching and learning

They hear what you say and they see what you do, and then they repeat it and it’s hilarious.

My dad found my passive aggressive note that I wrote the toothfairy. It was better than I remembered.

These are all so amazingly passive aggressive that I almost feel sad not to work in an office with people anymore.

Did we miss any great opportunities or responses? Leave them in the comments.

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What Personality Traits Are People Proud Of That They Really Shouldn’t Be?

It’s kind of funny what folks out there like to brag about.

Whenever I hear someone say, “‘I’m brutally honest”, my immediate reaction is, maybe you’re just a total a**hole?

But, I guess everyone out there is different, right?

What personality traits do you think people are proud of that they really shouldn’t be?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Not cool at all.

“Being ‘tough’ and threatening or intimidating to others to be ‘cool’ or ‘funny’.

It’s not called being cool, it’s called being an a**hole.”

2. Sounds like a blast.

“Have a friend who is proud of her ability to talk over others in a conversation until they give up and let her dominate the conversation from then on.

Extremely rude and annoying, but she has a very charitable spirit and I wouldn’t trade her friendship for the world.”

3. You’re really not weird.

“People who describe themselves as weird are not really weird and just pretending to be, believing maybe that it makes them cool.”

4. You call that leading?

“There’s a big shift happening right now from telling girls that they’re “bossy” to saying they’re “leaders” instead.

That’s nice and all, but some people aren’t good leaders. They’re legitimately just bossy.

People who are proud of that are annoying.”

5. It’s not a huge deal.

“Being bad at and hating “small talk.”

It’s fine not to like it, but bragging about hating it and being bad at it baffles me.

Yeah, heaven forbid someone try to engage with you using some light conversation.”

6. It’s chill, bro.

“I find that many “go with the flow” types are often disorganized and have an inability to follow through with a plan.

A certain amount of flexibility is a good thing, but I find that some ‘laid back’ people are often kind of spineless and/or meep around waiting for someone else to make it happen.”

7. Might be a bad thing.

“Always being busy, multitasking, going on little or no sleep because you were so busy all night & got up so early.

Don’t be proud of this, don’t brag about this. You’re doing several things poorly instead of doing one or two things well.

You’re doing your physical, mental and emotional health a massive disservice by stretching yourself so thin. One way or another, this always catches up with you.”

8. They don’t need to talk about it.

“”The Strong Woman” persona.

My sister does this. Loves to emasculate and jump all over dudes who suggest she is anything other than a strong woman, despite all the adversity in her life being entirely her fault, and despite her having MULTIPLE fallback people to help her out of her messes anytime.

You’d think she was Precious to hear her tell it. Plays victim any time anyone disagrees with her. Draws lines in the sand. You know, the typical “I hate drama” basic bi**h you see on FB every day but still insists she is a STRONG woman.

Guess what? Strong women don’t need to tell anyone about it.

People know.”

9. You don’t even know…

“”I’m ADD.”

“I’m OCD.”

Usually they’ve not been diagnosed nor do they know the depths of the problems these disorders bring those who are.”

10. This one…

“If you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best!”

11. Toxic.

“Being a “thug” or anything similar.

The culture surrounding that is filled with negativity, like disregarding everyone around you because you “only need you”.”

12. Just plain rude!

“”I am blunt. I’m a b**ch. I’m not afraid to speak my mind, sorry if I hurt your feelings, princess!!!”

Translation : “I was never taught proper social skills! When people are upset with me I become defensive! I never learned to curate and speak decently to people!

I’m hoping people can like me despite being like this, because changing myself is too hard and I rebel against the idea that people need to be pleasant to be liked!!!””

What do you think about this?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know!

We look forward to it!

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Dachshunds Went Viral for “Helping” To Save the Suez Canal

I really love a good dog story.

Crusoe the Dachshund is no stranger to the camera.

A spunky little dog who, like many dachshunds, suffers from Intervertebral Disc Disease (IVDD), he and his canine siblings, Oakley and Daphne, are internet-famous across multiple platforms, and where they recently went viral because of one of their adventures.

The three doxxies make lots of videos, which can be found under their Instagram handle @crusoe_dachshund.

The pups often play dress-up in their videos, like this one where they posed as a zebra, a lion, and a monkey for Earth Day this year:

And donned their favorite Star Wars costumes on May the 4th:

These intrepid little dachshunds just like to have a good time, whether it’s filming a makeup tutorial:

Or a mock ad for a jewelry store:

And they are no strangers to the art of the green screen!

So when that massive container ship got stuck in the Suez Canal, blocking more than 400 other vessels for several days, their fans knew just who to call to dig it out.

Originally posted on TikTok, with a slightly longer version available on YouTube, these little diggers did what dachshunds do best.

When he’s not busy posing for the camera, Crusoe also acts as the CEO for the company DoggoRamps, which was founded by his owner Ryan Beauchesne.

According to their website, the company was started when little Crusoe underwent surgery on his back in 2016.

Crusoe loves to spend time with us on the bed and couch, and I still wanted him to be able to do that without always worrying he might jump off.

So, through much trial and error and many iterations, I finally designed the original small dog bed ramp, which I used for Crusoe for a couple years before even bringing it to market.

Nowadays Crusoe is doing just fine. (He did help dig out that container ship after all. Ahem.)

And the ramp that Ryan invented for him has helped over 10,000 other dogs and their families.

How’s that for a good-boy story? Let us know what you think of Crusoe in the comments.

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Woman Asks if She’s a Jerk for Refusing to Celebrate Mother’s Day With Her Mother-in-Law

You know that if you’re gonna read a story about in-laws on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page, that it’s gonna be pretty ugly.

And we got a good one for you today, folks!

It revolves around a woman who doesn’t want to spend Mother’s Day with her mother-in-law…and she wants to know if she’s a jerk for it.

Take a look.

AITA for telling my husband I won’t be visiting his mother for Mother’s Day?

“My husband is gone for military duties and he called me today to ask if I would be going over next weekend to visit his mother for Mother’s Day. To which I said no. Then I had to rehash what happened last year for my first Mother’s Day.

Back story. Last year was by first Mother’s Day. My baby girl was born September 2019 so May 2020 was my first Mother’s Day. During a pandemic. My husband spent the day with me but his mother called him and complained that we had not gone over to her house for Mother’s Day.

I told him he was more than welcome to go but that baby and I were staying home and hanging out and enjoying my first Mother’s Day. He had gone to his mothers on Friday for Mexican Mother’s Day. I ordered her mother’s day card and flowers and he took them to her.

She never acknowledged the gifts, to me anyway. On the day of Mother’s Day the only people to contact me from my husbands family were my FIL and BIL and they both wished me a happy first Mother’s Day. I was beyond grateful and expressed that to them.

Shortly after MD, MIL called me and told me she was upset that I didn’t go to her house on MD. I politely told her that I too was hurt that she didn’t even acknowledge me on my first Mother’s Day.

I also told her how the year prior when I was pregnant she went out of her way to make comments to me about not being a mother yet when my FIL wished me a happy almost Mother’s Day (I was extremely hurt but kept it to myself. I had miscarried two babies prior to finally having my baby. I always felt like a mother. Her comments were hurtful).

MIL then proceeded to tell me that she didn’t need to acknowledge me on Mother’s Day because I’m not her mother. I told her fair enough but don’t expect me or my child to celebrate you because by your definition you are not my mother and you are not the mother of my child.

She never apologized for her hurtful comments. We are cordial now a year later but after that I decided that I didn’t want to spend any Mother’s Day with her ever again.

I brought this up to my husband and he told me I need to suck it up, move on, and go over to his moms. I said NO. I am celebrating with my daughter and my own mother and I have plans during the weekend anyway.

AITA?”

Here’s how folks responded on Reddit.

This reader said that the woman’s husband seems controlling and that the situation is also kind of weird.

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This person called the woman’s husband a MOMMA’S Boy…and they argued that the woman needs to put her foot down about this kind of behavior or it’s just gonna get worse.

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This Reddit user argued that the husband might be even more controlled by his mother because of his military background. Something to think about…

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Another individual said that the husband seems to know that his wife will bend to his controlling ways because she’s more logical and mature.

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Lastly, a person said that the woman was not to blame for her actions and that, compared to some other women in her position, she is standing her ground just fine.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to sound off.

In the comments, let us know if you think this woman was out of line or she was justified in her actions

We look forward to hearing from you!

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A Woman Asked if She Was Wrong for Telling Her Dad He’s Not Entitled to a Relationship

No doubt about it, family dynamics are always tricky.

And they’re especially tricky when parents get divorced and the kids have to deal with the fallout… and that damage can last for years.

A 27-year-old woman shared a story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page about a sticky situation with her father.

AITA for telling my dad he’s not entitled to a relationship with me?

“When i (27f) was around 10 my parents divorced, it was a messy thing, no one ever told me the reason and i do not really care. My mom won custody because she was able to prove in court that my father was an unfit parent.

My father never took it well and it showed whenever i had visitation at his house (2 weekends a month). Instead of spending time with me he would spends hours playing video games, order take out and the only time he would ever take me somewhere was when my grandma forced him, needless to say i never had a very close relationship with him

Then once i got older he started to bring up a college fund he had set aside for me and he always said that if my grades stayed up and i do well in school the money would be mine, and i did just that.

I got good grades, was part of many clubs in school and never got into trouble, i was basically the kid your parents brought up when they were comparing you to your friends.

In my senior year my dad got married to his current wife, it was a beautiful and extravagant ceremony. I’m pretty sure some of the arrangements were more expensive than my phone but whatever, i didn’t think much of it.

It wasn’t until i went to talk to my dad about my college fund that i found out he had used it to pay for his ceremony. I was in disbelief when he said it and the more he explained the more i wanted to cry, he didn’t even apologize, he said it with all causality of “Oh, you were looking for that thing you left in the fridge? Sorry, i ate it”

When he realized that i was upset he turned it around on me and told me that i was being selfish and that i was not entitled to his money.

Luckily, got scholarship that covered my entire tuition. Also, my mom and stepdad also had a fund set aside for me, they apparently knew my dad would pull that on me, so i was able to go to college without a lot of debt.

Since then i’ve been distant from my dad, i’ll not lie, i feel conned. If the money was always his, why did he bother mentioning it to me? I don’t care if he used it or not but to promise someone something, hold it over their heads for years, and not give it to them when you should because they’re “not entitled to it” is just a way too lengthy way to say that you’re an unreliable *ss in my eyes.

My dad has tried to reconcile but he still claims that i was not entitled to that money and even says that the money was not needed because i got a scholarship. The last time he said that to me was when i was at his house, visiting my new baby brother, and i got so d*mn annoyed that i said “I’m not entitled to your money but you’re also not entitled to a relationship with me so i guess we’re in a stalemate here”, i guess that hurt him because he got quiet until i left.

I’ve been remembering what i said for a while so i wonder if i was way too out of line in my statement? I was annoyed and wanted him to stop bringing it up but i didn’t want to hurt him.”

Here’s how people responded to the story.

This person said that the woman is not the jerk in this situation and that her father seems to be gaslighting her.

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Another person argued that they could sympathize with the woman because they had a similar upbringing.

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Another reader said they had a similar situation with their father and it took them years to finally come to terms with it.

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This Reddit user said that the woman’s father is clearly the *sshole in this situation for his actions and that she needs to cut him out of her life.

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Finally, this individual said that the woman really doesn’t owe her father anything because he’s been…well, less than an ideal parent.

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