Month: March 2021

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Folks Discuss the Real Reasons Printers Still Suck

I have spent a good chunk of my life yelling at printers.

My roommate took the last printer I’d been using when we parted ways, and the only thing I miss about it is that it had the little automatic feeder tray to scan documents.

Because we shouldn’t even be BOTHERING with putting data on physical paper, we should be shoving whatever paper is still lying around back into digital form, right?

I mean, RIGHT?

Why, after so many fucking years, do printers still work like overpriced pieces of shit? from NoStupidQuestions

So why are printers so horrible? Let’s see if we can get a consensus from Reddit.

1. “Complicated moving parts.”

They have lots of complicated moving parts that can jam and break and go wrong.

Meanwhile the business model is to sell the printer as cheap as possible (maybe even at a loss) and make up the money on ink cartridge sales, so there’s incentive to cut every corner on build quality if it makes it possible to sell the end result even cheaper.

If you want a reliable printer, look for one that just does one thing (all the multifunction printer/scanner/copier/fax/shredder/espresso stuff just adds more complications and things that can go wrong) and be prepared to spend extra for quality.

Or buy a laser printer – toner cartridges last way longer than ink cartridges, which flips the business model away from selling refills. Colour lasers are pricey, but a black and white laser printer can be reasonably inexpensive and is a better bet for reliability than an equivalent inkjet.

– noggin-scratcher

2.”Just save everything.”

I work in IT and the one technology I hate more than anything is printers – god f*cking d*mn it why cant people just save everything online, send them in emails and let us trash the bleeding things.

Join the paperless revolution now and yeet your printer out the window

– Bisqutz

3. “Paperless is not an option.”

I’m in IT too, Unfortunately paperless is not an option (yet) in the industry. Best solution is Lease, You save on time and money, Printers are managed offsite by the provider, The consumables are automatically ordered when needed and the printers can log they own tickets!

I saved my last company 1/3 the usual yearly spend in the first year. Now in a new place with 10 year old printers I’m trying to do the same, Why it’s a hard sell is way beyond me.

– drumanddrummer

4. (That’s over a thousand pounds of paper per month.)

Used to repair industrial copiers. You’d hate being IT for the railroad then.

Only place I ever serviced where it was when, not if one would break. They had 3 huge Monochrome printers for their Engineers and Conductors work orders. Things spat out 120K pages a month, each. Full service was needed every 2 months minimum. Then you had the fact that if it did jam, some idiot would stick their grease coated hand in, grab whatever they touched and rip it out.

I arrived once to find a fuser unit just chilling on top of the machine. Those are pretty hard to get out on the models they had even using tools.

Even I wished they’d go digital.

– McDicklesP1ckle

5. “Printer = inkjet?”

Every single thread about printers being sh*t is either about inkjets breaking or about cost of inkjet cartridges. Then comes a hero and suggests laser.

I wonder whether the word “printer” = “inkjet” for americans. Do most people just buy them dirt cheap, throw away and replace? Because in my limited 3rd world experience, laser cartridges are cherished, loved, refilled and refurbished till their last black breath. And most 8+ years laser printers can be repaired for cheap.

– TrueMinoshiro

6. “What the monopoly wanted.”

Walmart.

My father worked for Lexmark for most of his working life. According to him, the big box stores came along and dictated the price of goods. They told single-stream businesses like Lexmark that they would only sell printers that cost $50 or less.

As Walmart is roughly 30% of all sales of anything in the United States (at the time) you had to do what the monopoly wanted. So factories were exported overseas, R&D budgets were slashed, and the ‘we will have to make our profit off ink cartridges instead’ model was implemented.

So the printers had to be made a sh*tty and cheaply as possible in order to be allowed to sell them at all.

All his years at Lexmark turned him to hating capitalism and the unfree market.

Once a Chinese conglomerate offered to buy Lexmark, he was happy to take the contract buyout and leave early.

– Farmerssharkey

7. “It’s a workhorse.”

A few years ago I purchased an All-in-One HP laserjet printer – copy, scan, fax, and print, including automated double-sided printing. I have not had a single problem with it. It connects to my home network via wireless. It prints color as well as black and white.

The toner cartridges are expensive, but (a) print some huge number of pages, and (b) are stable for years. I read about a man who maintained computer equipment for a small firm that found 10yo cartridges for his printers that had been stored and forgotten, he put them in and they worked without a hitch. The toner cartridge technology has gotten perfected, even to the point of making them easy to install.

I don’t remember how many years I used this before I needed to replace the B&W cartridge. It’s a workhorse.

I just looked up the price of this, retail — it’s just under $500. You can buy an inkjet for a quarter of that, and the ink is much cheaper, but they dry out while you aren’t using them, I used to have annoyingly frequent trouble with mine jamming and smearing, the printouts smear if touched too soon after printing, and also if they get wet. None of this has been true with my laser printer.

I’m afraid you’ve been buying the wrong printers.

– arghvark

8. “Worse than glitter.”

Yeah I think about that often. We have VR glasses, hoverboards and Sophia the robot, but printing is still a huge pain in the *ss.

Even at work, it’s just such a pain. There is always something with it and this is coming from a graphic designer that has learned to fix printers.

Like ever had a broken toner cartridge explode in your face? Worse than glitter.

– Twirlingbarbie

9. “Never buy a printer.”

Pro tip: Never buy a printer, go to FedEx Kinkos and pay $1.50 for the once or twice a year you actually need to print something.

– trush44

10. “Ink is expensive.”

First off, ink is one of the most expensive liquids in the world.

Printers are there to sell ink, and basically nothing else. If you want to buy a printer that’s big enough for a small to medium office setting these days they almost always come with a subscription to a maintenance and ink refill program to make sure you continue buying the “correct” ink and do regular maintenance (aka spending money)… A lot of printers won’t even accept any cartridges other than the ones made specifically for that printer anymore.

But apparently that’s not enough, because they want you to also buy a new printer every few years, meaning the printer is made with incredibly cheap parts and lasts about 1/10th as long as it could. Planned obsolescence is far from an uncommon business practice, but the real problem is that every printing company is buying into the business model.

Is it possible to make a superior product that doesn’t break down as often? Is it possible to make a universal ink cartridge or even one that works across all [OG printing company]? Do even the printers at [OG printing company] break down all the time? The answer to all of these questions is “yes, but money is more important”.

The one place all the printing companies actually compete is in the large scale printing production market, any machine made for a large office or printing central company is made to last and costs a fortune.

– Lesbionical

11. “Cheaper to just buy a whole new printer.”

In college I would buy the cheapest printer that only printed (no scanning no fax) and when the cartridges that came with it ran out, it was cheaper to just buy a whole new printer than new ink cartridges

– PapaRed18

12. “Actual good software.”

If you’re an actual good software engineer, you don’t get a job designing software for a printer.

– Lobanium

13. “People treat copiers like trash.”

As a MFP repairman, I can tell you the 2 most common issues I see with printers.

A, most people treat the copiers like trash (using paper with the wrong settings, over working it, never having it pm’d, using crappy paper, running unauthorized objects like paper clips and sticky notes through the document feeder, skyshots, etc.), and wonder why it breaks down.

B, they go with the cheap option which either means the machine is 5-7 years old, not the right model for their workload, or is a HP.

– BloodNinja87

14. “Include a trigger warning.”

Please include a trigger warning for questions like this in the future.

Asking my dad this question started a 5 minute rant that I’m pretty sure will repeat itself in about 10 minutes.

– lantana88

15. “In spirit.”

All printers are from 2005 in spirit.

– malatropism

So, taken together, the solution to this enigma seems to be:

If you want a printer that doesn’t drive you insane, spend the money on a decent laser model instead of picking up the cheapest possible scam of an inkjet and expecting it to not destroy your marriage.

What’s your printer approach?

Tell us in the comments.

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Guys Admit What They’d Do if They Were Women for a Day

I’m a dude. And I have oft wondered what it would be like to be, say, not a dude. A woman, perchance.

My musings on this topic have ranged from how it might feel physically, to how much I would like it, to what my external treatment would change to, etc.

But this is the internet and there’s not a lot of space for nuance here, so let’s get to the weirdness.

If you were the opposite sex for a day, what would you do? from AskReddit

Here’s what some of my fellow men said they’d do given 24 hours as a woman. I’m sure they’re not gonna embarrass me at all. Let’s find out.

1. Off to a great start.

Play with my woman boobs for a day instead of my man boobs like normal.

– d*ck-nipples

2. Yeah, that’s the technical term.

I believe the appropriate response is: be a hoe.

But with my luck I’d be on my period.

– Sh*ttinwithmykitten

3. What the f*ck.

I’d probably end up in the hospital for sticking so much stuff up my vagina

– beerknowswhen

4. Ok, this is…cute?

Find out what the girls really do at sleep overs, it’s a mystery that has to be revealed

– Anon_nomy

5. A valid social experiment.

Male at the moment, so would become female.

Aside from all of the obvious sex things, I’d love to walk into a computer or gaming store, with the knowledge I have, and see if/how differently I’d be treated.

– Ratfor

6. And we’re back to weird Freaky Friday sequels.

Go on tinder and swipe right on lesbians, hopefully can have lesbian sex before my day up.

Would be awkward if my day was up mid sex

– oknh

7. Guys.

Poop so I could see if it’s true that women don’t poop

– watches_yousleep

8. Aw, this is actually kinda sweet!

Depends.

If my wife and I switched roles, I would just have sex with her so she understands my adoration for it with her.

– mountiemotorsports

9. Again, a valuable lesson I’m sure.

Assuming I’m a good looking lady go to a bar and see what it’s like to get a ton of unwanted attention.

– PoliticalNerd87

10. …Reddit, everyone.

I know many people will say this, but have sex with my best friend, but in this case not cuz he is a virgin, since he is not, but cuz even though he had sex, he never felt truly loved, his longest relationship lasted about 2 months. Since I support him and care for him, I would let him silly f*ck me, just saying.

Also, none of this is gay.

– CoffeeK_

11. Science, of course.

Get naked and touch every part of my body. For research purposes.

Cos when I revert I want to have a whole lot more intimate knowledge of female sexual responses.

– Duck_Kak

12. Ya’ll are really scared of this, huh?

Being the lucky piece of sh*t I am, I’d probably get a period

– EnderCorePL

13. I just…

I’d post my t*ts on reddit for karma.

My current tits don’t get much traction here.

– [User Deleted]

14. THE WHOLE TEAM?

Play with the new plumping, then go f*ck a soccer (football) team.

– Chrome_Armadillo

15. You’ve…you’ve already thought about this a lot.

am I hot/attractive? I’d drive to walmart, get a high quality camera and some bananas. then make some “asmr” videos. like 50 of them. 20 with my clothes on and 30 topless. and then maybe 10 more full frontal nude. just recording and storing the footage all day. if i can do more, i’ll do more. in different rooms so it looks like different days.

Then when I’m back to being a guy, I’d slowly release the videos on youtube and start a patreon and onlyfans. and then upload the nude ones to those sites. and i’d do this over the span of a few years, uploading each video once every month, sometimes twice a month. some months being skipped.

Then when I’m down to my last video, I tell people that I’m moving and need some funds to move to another state to get a ton of money from my simp army. Then when I get as much money as possible, I upload a video of my male self saying that she’s taking a break for mental health reasons and that she’ll be back. but she never comes back. and then I’d leave the donation stuff open for those who want to keep simping for no more content.

– MyStationIsAbandoned

Well. That was…enlightening. I’m gonna go see what women had to say about becoming men. I’m sure it’s…better?

What would you do if you swapped sexes for a day?

Tell us in the comments.

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Am I Wrong for Banning My Husband From the Bedroom?

Pal, it looks like you’ll be spending some time on Sofa City.

Hey, it happens sometimes, right?

And a woman wants to know if she’s wrong for making her husband sleep elsewhere on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

Let’s take a look at her story and see how people responded to it.

AITA For Barring My Husband From The Bedroom Tonight?

“So here is the situation.

Me: nurse. Working 50ish hours a week in pediatric ICU. Cry at least once a week because that sh*t is hard. My salary pays our bills. All of them.

Husband: 25M. Has a degree but isn’t looking for a job. Works 2 days a week at the grocery store. Spends most of his time playing LoL.

Btw all events here are in accordance with Covid Legislation.

Today was supposed to be A Good Day. I had been begging my husband to swap his Saturday shift to literally anything else so that we could have days off together. We haven’t had a weekend together since our wedding, 18mo ago.

Today was supposed to be our first Saturday off together. We were going to go to an animal sanctuary.

He starts the day by going to breakfast. With his best mate. Leaving before I even wake up. I wake up around 9 and realize he is not home. Call. He says he’s helping his mate set up some lights and that the weather is too rainy for the animal sanctuary anyway.

He gets home at 1 ish. Lies around. Plays some video games, promising we would cook dinner together tonight.

Leaves again at 5 to help the same mate with something else.

I go grocery shopping. I don’t drive because of medical issues, but I walk there and back in the rain. I get home, realize I’ve left my keys inside. Call husband, knowing he’s 5min away.

He says he will leave in a minute. I sit in the rain and the cold (southern hemisphere). 45 min later, I call again. He hasn’t left yet. He finally agrees to come and let me in the house, so he drives up, presses the clicker to let me in the garage and leaves again.

At 10, I I called to see where he is. His friend answers. Says he is driving out to do something an hour away.

It’s 10.30. I am going to bed. I have sent him a txt that I am upset and don’t want to speak to him tonight and would rather he left me alone.

As far as I am concerned, if he can’t value me more than his best mate on the first day off he and I have shared in a year and a half, he can go sleep in his bed instead. (Btw, his friend doesn’t work, so they hang out all the time when I am at work).

He is going to be upset. And he is gonna tell his mate and his mate is going to tell him I’m being a b*tch.

AITA

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

One person said she should ban him for longer than one night for his behavior.

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Another Reddit user thinks that she might want to think about getting rid of the guy altogether…

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Another individual said that she thinks the husband might have a side piece…something to think about…

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And this person said the guy is really nothing more than a big kid that the woman has to take care of.

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Do you think this woman stepped over the line or was this an acceptable response?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments.

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Person Wonders if They Have a Right to Be Mad After Getting Patted Down at Their Sister’s Wedding

I can’t say I’ve ever heard this one before…

Getting patted down at a wedding? That’s a new one!

But it happened and the woman who went through it took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to see if she was wrong for getting upset about it.

Take a look.

AITA for getting upset that my sister’s fiancé pulled me aside and patted me down at their wedding?

“The title sounds so stupid but here we go anyways.

I’m 24 and I’m an addict who has been in recovery for the past six months.

I used and used until I was basically in poverty and my older sister helped bail me out more than once.

She’s my best friend and I know it hurt her a lot to see me like that.

She also met her fiancé two years ago and he really only knew me as the junkie brother then. He’s not my biggest fan to say the least considering how much I put my sister through.

Despite this she still invited me to her wedding last week because I am her brother and she wanted me to be there.

When I get to the reception, my brother in law is greeting people as they walk in.

When I walk by he pulls me to the side and in front of everyone starts patting me down and says that he needs to check me to make sure I “didn’t bring anything in”. I instinctively pull away, because why wouldn’t I, and I tell him not to touch me.

He tells me to “calm down” and that if I want to be here then he needs to do this. I tell him he’s being ridiculous and I try to push past him. He stops me and tells me that he doesn’t want to throw me out but he “will if he has to.” I told him that he’s trying to look tough but it’s just making him look stupid.

At this point I’m getting more and more angry and I’m practically yelling in his face at this point. Bystanders came between us and separated us and told my BIL to just “drop it.” He said he would but that “they can deal with it when I get out of hand.”

I just went to go find a seat after that.

After the reception, a lot of my family told me that I should’ve let him just do it and that I was acting like a huge *sshole and like I had “something to hide.”

I don’t think he had any right to pat me down, especially in front of people and I don’t think my reaction was over the top. If anything, he was the one acting like a huge douche by trying to start drama so he can look tough. My sister has refused to take any sides in this.

AITA?”

And here’s how folks responded.

This reader said that the man’s reaction was totally out of line and he made a scene for no reason.

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Another person pointed out that this could have been handled in so many different ways.

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Another reader had a totally different opinion and said that everyone was to blame in this situation.

They pointed out that the woman has been violent in the past but it probably could have been handled differently.

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Another reader said that the woman is to blame for getting that angry and that addicts just can’t be trusted at all.

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One reader made a great point: if they didn’t want the drama, they probably just shouldn’t have invited the woman in the first place.

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Well, that sure was a weird one…

And now we want to get your take.

Tell us what you think of this situation in the comments. We’d love to hear from you!

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Is It Normal to Feel Like Everyone’s Secretly Mad At You?

There’s a saying that gets attributed to a lot of different people though its true origin is murky. It’s one that I come back to in my mind pretty often and it goes like this:

“You’ll worry less what others think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”

At first it feels cold and cynical, maybe even nihilistic, but that’s not how I interpret it.

We tend to live in this constant fear of the judgement we might be receiving from our peer groups, but the truth is, everyone else out there is also worried about themselves and their own issues. They’re probably not putting a ton of energy into evaluating you – they’re too busy for that.

And yet, thinking like this comes up all the time:

Is it normal to feel like everyone secretly dislikes you, being your friend only out of pity or kindness? If so, how did you over come this? from AskReddit

So what do we do about it? Here are ten pieces of seemingly solid advice from the people of Reddit.

1. Get some counseling.

Counseling – there is pure magic in moving your anxious thoughts into spoken word; once I heard myself speak these anxieties, they became kinda silly.

There is also magic in being able to bounce my anxious thoughts off of someone who is trained not to react to them. They are listening for the meaning and motivation behind your thoughts. Basically it’s like a doctor listening to your list of symptoms and determining what may be causing them.

I can remember being afraid of going to counseling because they might think I was stupid or crazy. It would be embarrassing!

Shift that thought…..it’s also embarrassing to have some weird thing going on in an unmentionable area, but you’re gonna go to a doctor because you’ve been to a doctor and know they are professionals that aren’t going to act like a 5 year old.

Counselors and Therapist are they very same.

– bostonbean7904

2. Remember, they’re busy.

[Something that helped was] the realization that I was giving people way too much credit believing they spent that much time thinking about me.

Seriously! We are pretty much the same in that when we walk away from some socially awkward conversation, that person is doing the exact same thing as you; worrying about how they sounded, looked, acted, what you must being thinking of them, analyzing every word and injecting (most often) wrong perspective, etc.

Their minds are no different than yours in that they shift to self more times than not. I call that little voice in my mind that creeps in my “Inner *sshole”.

I would never speak to a dearly loved companion the way that I talk to myself. I’ve learned to shift my perspective.

– bostonbean7904

3. It’s an ongoing process.

I have to do the work in my mind to keep [the good work] up.

Some people can just flip a switch and let that sh*t go, but i can guarantee that they didn’t just let it go that one time and then the anxiety never crept back in. Nope.

It just gets easier to let that sh*t go after you do the work and train your thought patterns.

The visual analogy that I use for something that I’m perseverating on is driving and seeing a billboard that catches my eye. It’s got this message that i just have to read and study so I pull over and just keep looking at it and I just get stuck at this billboard not being able to divert my attention enough to get back on the road.

And sweet Jesus, sometimes I just plow my car right into that mother f*cker and I’m really stuck. That billboard is not gonna move. I have to move. I have to shift my thought process just enough to get back on the road. The best is when you can see that billboard up ahead (because anxiety be what it be), roll down the window, and flip it off as you punch the gas.

– bostonbean7904

4. Communication is key.

Ask them!

I’ve really done my work on feeling like an imposter. […] I was one of those kids in class that was afraid of their own voice, never asking any questions, because what if they know I don’t know how to do this thing?

See

#1 on giving voice to your thoughts and realizing how silly they sound and then

#2, most people are stuck on self.

Ask them.

– bostonbean7904

5. Therapy won’t bite.

I was feeling like sh*t my whole life, but I also was afraid of therapy bc I thought that it would be too expensive, that I need years to find the one therapist who can help my very bad condition etc….

Instead I tried to cure myself with alcohol and drugs, you can guess how that worked. After 20 years of thinking about going to therapy, I finally did it, it was just how you say: hearing myself speaking out these thoughts was half of the rent.

It took me four sessions, best 500 bucks I ever invested, know I’m full of energy and good thoughts.

It happens from time to time, that the anxiety is crawling back, but therapy gave me the right instruments to deal with it

– fluent_sleeper

6. Calibrate your warning systems.

Sometimes it’s helpful to know why the anxiousness keeps creeping up, and it’s even more important to have a positive attitude towards its presence.

I’m not saying trick yourself into enjoying something unpleasant, because that’s inauthentic. But the anxiety is coming from our internal warning system, whose only two main functions are to keep us safe and productive.

Our minds know we function better with human connection, so sometimes the warning systems that need a little “calibration” go into overdrive pointing out things that aren’t necessary threats.

Like thinking everyone in your friend group pities you. Our minds know it’s within the realm of possibility for that to be a reality; it would be naive to think there aren’t any people on Earth who do that.

So go easy on your warning system, be sure to thank it from time to time, and press forward with that compassion for yourself.

[…]consistent practice WILL make good results come to fruition. Thank you again for discussing this.

– ur_therapist_says_hi

7. It’s not all about you.

I will say a big thing for me was about 6 years ago I asked a friend if they were mad at me because I felt like I had upset everyone. I hadn’t done anything, just that feeling.

He said something that hit me like a ton of bricks. He said ” No, im not mad and nobody is thinking about you.”

It didn’t all change right then, I’ve learned alot about my own self centeredness and I’ve done a lot of therapy in the past 6 years.

Its freeing to realize everyone is concerned with themselves just as you are.

– RangerDull4048

8. Don’t be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Let me be clear: If people are in your company, THEY LIKE YOU.

That feeling you have, though? That is going to keep worming its way into your mind, looking for confirmation that it’s right, even going so far as to cause you act in ways that make it right.

You might make negative faces you don’t realize. You might not respond in the way a friend needs when they need it because you miss it wondering if it was about you. You might just act weird sometimes.

When people react accordingly, you will take it as confirmation that the feeling was right all along and these people were just faking their friendship.

You would do well to heed the therapy advice and get a handle on how to recognize that feeling as nothing more than an inner guide, and to take it under advisement without trusting it, or worse, acting on it.

– jt004c

9. Watch out for substance abuse.

The answer is not drugs or alcohol, right off the bat. I struggled with this for years. I wish I could saw I woke up and brushed it off but honestly when I was around 21 I just stopped caring what people thought.

It got to the point where the friends I previously thought only liked me because they “had to” starting calling me and asking me what’s wrong and if I could meet up with them.

It showed me in the end that I needed to stop worrying about things that made me unhappy or upset because they were issues that were created by me in my mind to feel bad about myself.

Not that I pitied myself or think that you may be doing the same. But my advice I guess would be to just relax friend. Things are rarely as bad as you make them out to be in your mind.

The mind is a powerful thing, and what you force into it can affect you in a monstrous way. You don’t deserve that. You deserve to know that you matter, and your friend recognize that.

– charres1020

10. Grateful vibes.

What’s been helping me is trying to act on grateful vibes but commenting or messaging on social media posts or commenting or even texting the person off social media to say I saw a post or something made me think of them.

I like the good feeling of someone I know taking the time to send a message or post a comment or a special “like” on a video or something I’ve posted so I love tried to practice not hesitating and if something makes me think of them.

I purposely don’t ask people “how they are” because it opens up the door to me having to explain my life if I’m bummed, but it opens up the door for a little appreciation both ways.

Once I started doing that I was getting more interaction back from them which helped create a positive cycle and a feeling of connection.

– Venting2theDucks

I think those are all pretty great pieces of advice. And if it turns out that it wasn’t in your head, that you’re just friends with a bunch of jerks, find new friends. You don’t need ’em. You deserve better.

Do you have any other thoughts on this topic?

Share them with us in the comments.

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Was I Wrong for Kicking My Cousin off My Sister’s Wedding Zoom Call? Here’s How Folks Responded.

Family drama alert! And it’s comin’ in really hot!

And, because of the world we currently live in, we’re having family drama on Zoom! Of course, this was going to happen…

Anyway, take a look at this person’s story about what went down during a monumental zoom call and check out the reactions from Reddit users on the other side.

Let’s check it out.

AITA for kicking my cousin off of my sister’s wedding Zoom call?

“My [27M] older sister [30F] and her fiancé [31M] were planning for over a year for their wedding to be this month.

Obviously, they can’t have the wedding as planned, but they still would like to get married, so they decided on a “Zoom” wedding where all of the family/friends would just call in to watch the officiant, my sister, and her fiancé.

My sister didn’t want to be in charge of hosting the Zoom call because she thought it would stress her out, so she asked me to and I gladly accepted.

She and her fiancé decided to invite everyone they originally wanted to, and it was a very big list. When we were going over the list, my sister mentioned to me that she wanted everyone else to be muted for the majority of the wedding as she was worried that others would talk over her and her fiancé and quote “overshadow” them on their big day “that was already scaled down”.

However, her and her fiancé said that I should unmute everyone at one point so everyone could talk and have a nice time with each other.

Fast-forward to the day of the wedding—everyone is muted during the ceremony which goes great, and so I then unmute everyone and ask to please raise a hand if they’d like to talk so it doesn’t get confusing. My cousin (around my age) starts waving his hand crazily, and he’s with his longtime girlfriend (also similar age I guess).

He’s a very gregarious guy, so I was not surprised. Then, he says stuff like “(my sister) and (her husband) are such an inspiration, it’s given me the courage to do this….” then turns to his girlfriend and pulls out a box that is the size of an engagement ring box??

I immediately saw this as him trying to steal the spotlight (something that he’s done since we were kids, ex: he would secretly mess up my sister and I’s drawings if the adults would praise ours) and booted him off of the call.

Then I quickly announced that my cousin had technical difficulties and would not be joining again. Everyone else accepted this and went about talking, and my sister and her husband did too.

The rest of the wedding went smoothly—except for the fact that my cousin kept texting me angrily saying that he finally wanted to propose as a surprise with family all around and I ruined it.

My aunt and uncle texted me the same. AITA??”

And here’s what people on Reddit had to say about what happened…

This person praised the Lord Almighty that the cousin was banished from the call!

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Another Reddit user said that the person did the right thing for their sister…and I’m inclined to agree with them.

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A reader said that it’s a good thing the wedding was on Zoom, because if the cousin had pulled this in-person it could have been a lot worse.

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A reader commented that people who make these kinds of huge gestures on someone else’s special day are 100% wrong all the time.

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So what do you think?

Is this person a creep? Or not a creep at all?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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A Waitress Asked if She Was a Jerk for Refusing to Return a Tip to a Customer

Waiters and waitresses really have to put up with a lot of bullsh*t, don’t they?

The folks who work in the back of the house in restaurants have their own sets of problems, but those who are out front and center have to deal with all the drama from customers…and you better believe that there is plenty of it.

A waitress shared a story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page about dealing with certain customers that frankly sounds like kind of a nightmare.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for refusing to return a tip AND telling a couple that I don’t have time to play mediator?

“I’m a 22 year old, female waitress at Texas Roadhouse. This is one of my two jobs to put myself through college. Most days are fine but other days are a living hell.

Yesterday I was assigned a table that had a husband, wife and what appeared to be a teenage daughter (maybe 17). Everything was going smooth at first and the wife ordered a margarita. The husband then tried ordering a beer. The wife instantly lost her noodles and said “Uh, no. He will not have a beer. He will have a water.”

She then turned to him and said something along the lines of him not needing to drink because he was driving. He said no, the daughter could drive. It was childish.

Anyways, he keeps telling me he wants a beer. She keeps telling me no. In this industry, situations like this are a lose/lose for waitresses. If I get him the beer, wife wont tip. If I dont get him the beer, he wont tip. D*mned if I do, d*mned if I dont. So while they were arguing AT me, I said “Listen, I really dont have time to play mediator here.”

They went silent. I went and got both of them their alcohol. Daughter gives me an apologetic look upon my return, presumably because her mother was acting batsh*t crazy upon seeing me bring a beer in tow.

Flash forward to after their meals. Husband has had 2 beers at this point. Wife has stopped drinking and glares at me everytime I return. Wife and daughter go to the car while husband pays. Husband drops me a $40 tip on a $68 tab. I told him I couldnt accept it. He insisted. Eventually I pocketed it.

Wife comes in an hour or so later demanding that I give her the $40 her husband gave me, stating that I was a terrible host and went against her and I dknt deserve a tip.

She got my manager involved who said “She is not obligated to give you her tip. You left the restaurant and the tip has already been processed. Have a nice night.” She was fuming, screaming at me about how much of an AH I was for supplying her husband alcohol after she said no.

Other guests started chiming in saying that she was being ignorant and that I was doing my job, which is to provide guests with what they want and said that it wasnt MY fault that she was a controlling wife. She storms out.

Given the fact that I was put on the spot like that, I feel insanely guilty. AITA?”

And here’s what people had to say about her story.

One person brought up how bad they feel for the couple’s child.

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Another person said the woman did the exact right thing in this strange situation.

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This individual said there is absolutely no way the woman was wrong in this situation.

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And this person pointed out that she was just doing her job and that she didn’t do anything wrong.

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Finally, this Reddit user said that they also feel sorry for the husband in this situation.

The wife sounds like a real treat, huh…?

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Now we want to hear from all the readers out there.

Tell us what you think about this situation in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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Am I a Jerk for Being Mad at My Husband Who Was Going to Give $10,000 to His Sister Without Asking Me? Here’s What People Said.

When money gets involved in any situation, things can go off the rails in a hurry.

And this story is a doozy.

A woman shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole” forum on Reddit to ask the readers there if she was wrong for getting mad at her husband for going behind her back to give a family member A LOT of money.

Here’s how it all went down…

AITA For being mad at my husband who was going to give away $10,000 to his sister without even asking me about it?

“On Saturday morning, I noticed my husband was sending a lot of text messages back and forth. He is usually not much of a texter. He left the phone next to me to charge while he as in the other room.

The phone kept lighting up with text messages when I decided to open it up to see what the big discussion was about.

I know some couples view it as big breach of trust to read through a significant other’s phone, but my husband and I do it regularly so this was not a huge invasion of privacy on my end. We both have nothing to hide and it has never been an issue before.

Anyway, of course I saw something on the phone that I shouldn’t have that got me upset. For background, my husband is 34, I am 32, and his sister is 31 (she’s in this story). Husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for the last four years.

We are all college educated with jobs now. My husband and I each make good salaries around $150k each. We own our house. I still have about $60,000 in student loans I am working to pay off (luckily low interest rates so I just pay the minimum).

We have about $40k liquid in savings. So we are doing good financially but still need to build up more savings as we will probably try to start a family in the next 1-2 years and want to be prepared for an emergency and have a rainy day fund. Anyway, my husband’s sister is trying to buy a 1 bedroom apartment in NYC.

I saw in the text messages that my husband offered to give her $10,000 for her down payment. The money is our savings is OUR money. Our bank accounts are 100% combined. My husband manages 99% of the finances because I prefer not to deal with it. However, it is understood we consult each other regularly on major purchases.

He did not ask me if I was OK with him giving this money to his sister. She didn’t ask, he offered. I immediately confronted him (calmly) and was like, “Hey – Did you tell your sister you would give her $10,000?” He said yes. I asked him when he was going to tell me.

He said, he probably wasn’t. He figured I wouldn’t notice and said he didn’t think I would care about “the details”. I said, “Um, do you think $10,000 is a detail?” He said, “No, that is lot of money. I should have told you about it. Are you OK with it?” I said, “No, I don’t think I am.”

Anyway we decided in that moment not to give the money. He said he would tell his sister and she would understand. He wanted the issue to go away after that.

But I am still mad. I said this was a big breach of trust. I let him control all finances because I trust him to never, ever take advantage of my ignorance. Shouldn’t you be able to trust your husband?

So now, I don’t have that full amount of trust I had before and I want to open my own bank account (which frankly, I should have anyway). But AITA for being totally upset and feeling betrayed about this?

I grew up poor and $10,000 is a ton of money to me (I mean, to most people right?!). I am horrified he would consider gifting it away and not even telling me.

Wow…let’s see what folks on Reddit said about this.

This person didn’t think the woman was wrong at all for being angry at her husband.

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Another person made a good point: what else has her husband done with their money…?

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Another reader called the husband’s actions “a lie by omission”, and I think they’re right about that.

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This Reddit user called it “financial infidelity.” I’ve never heard that one before…

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And finally, this reader said that $10,000 is a huge chunk of money and that the woman and her husband might want to think about getting separate accounts after this incident because there are clearly some trust issues here…

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Now we want to get your take on the situation.

Do you think this woman was justified in her anger or did she overreact?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

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