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What Advice Would You Give Students About to Start High School? Here’s What People Had to Say.

High school is a special time in a young person’s life.

You make new friends, have all kinds of new experiences, and, for some of us, it sets us on a path to what we’re going to be like for the rest of our lives.

So we want you young whipper snappers out there to sit up straight, pull up your pants, and listen to what these people have to say. Because they’ve been there and done that.

Here are some tips from folks on AskReddit.

1. It’s true.

“You don’t need to impress everyone.

Pretty much everyone you meet in high school won’t matter in your life after you graduate.”

2. Listen up!

“School drama is a fruitless endeavor that will likely only leave you stressed and exhausted. Your mental effort is far more effectively spent following what you enjoy rather than worrying about if jack is going out with susie or what Dylan said to Michael.

Find something you enjoy, and follow that; you’re far more likely to find people you enjoy being around when you can start with a common ground. If you like anime, find an anime club. If you like sports, try out for a team. Theatre? High school is a great time to try it out.

Kind of piggybacking off of that last point: high school is a point where you start to get more options. You have the opportunity to try new things and you may be surprised if you go out of your comfort zone.

I decided to try volleyball for the first time my freshman year, and I ended up playing every season through high school and making some of my best friends. It’s important to follow what you like, but don’t be afraid to try new things as well.

High school is important because it’s a time when you start to try to figure out who you are; don’t box yourself in.

Work hard and don’t procrastinate. I know it’s easy; it’s amazingly, devilishly easy to put something off “till x”. You will save yourself so much stress and pain if you do a little bit at a time and be regimented and disciplined in that. I guarantee you’ve heard this but it’s so incredibly true.

Get sleep. Sleep is amazingly important, and it should be a priority. People will almost brag about not getting enough sleep like it’s a measuring contest. It’s not cool, it’s just unhealthy and you will be so much happier for getting enough sleep.

Coffee is not an adequate substitute for head-on-pillow sleep, do your best to get as much as you can.”

3. Be excellent to each other.

“Be really kind to people.

You’re young and you may have sh*t you’re going through, but you will learn later in life that some of the people you don’t expect are going through some really deep sh*t too.

Be kind, be patient, be forgiving, don’t start drama, don’t participate in gossip. Forgive yourself too. Growing up is difficult, don’t be too hard on yourself for mistakes.

Be nice to your teachers… they have a hard job and it’s much harder with all this Covid stuff. Everyone deserves a little extra grace right now.”

4. Find a good balance.

“Don’t take everything too seriously.

Do Dual Enrollment. APs are fine but sometimes colleges don’t take the credit.

Get in a good study habit/good time management. You’ll be thanking yourself in college.

But also, have fun. I met some of my best friends to this day in my junior year of high school (graduated from undergrad recently). So don’t be afraid to branch out. Meet new people by classes, or by joining clubs.”

5. Pay attention to this one.

“If you’re struggling, tell someone.

Keep reaching out until someone really hears you. Have a sports injury? Don’t ignore it so you can play in the big game… you might put yourself out for the rest of the season. Starting to feel like your mental health is slipping? Address it right away.

The sooner you start working on building healthy mental habits, the better. Struggling with schoolwork? Ask for a tutor, go to extra help sessions, tell a teacher/counselor (trust me… deadlines can be moved/adjusted for someone who needs it, even if your teacher acts really serious about them during class).

And, preferably “make good choices” and all.

BUT if you’re going to make some iffy choices, remember to rule of nothing permanent: nothing that could result in brain damage, permanent injury, or an arrest record.”

6. Make friends.

“Make friends with people in the grades above you.

Widening your social circle early will make a big difference in the long run.”

7. Do what you want.

“Be brave.

A lot of us have regrets about what we didn’t do in high school that we should have done.

Try to overcome your fear.”

8. I wish I did this.

“I never see anyone mention this advice, but I am SO GLAD I did this. Make a book of memories!

Like, whenever you come home after having a really fun day with your friends or something, try to write down everything you remember about the day.

All the funny jokes that were said, the places you went, and just how much you enjoyed it (I made mine on a Google Doc). When I started making this, I honestly thought that I wouldn’t forget that stuff and that it wouldn’t be that interesting for future me to read, but man was I wrong.

I have so many memories and funny moments saved because of that. After 3 years, I now have 100 pages worth of pure gold that really help take me back to all the good memories I had, and I will have them stored forever.

Trust me, it’ll seem tedious and pointless to record the little moments of fun days you had for now, but in the future you’ll be so glad you did it!”

9. That stuff can wait.

“Don’t do drugs or drink.

Enjoy being a kid, find an extra curricular activity you enjoy and just enjoy what you can in high school.

The reason I said this is because I did drugs and drank in high school and I always think I would be better off if I didn’t do them that young.

Like, I would be more emotionally mature and not have such bad mood swings had I not messed with my physiology so young.”

10. Get involved.

“Find clubs/sports/activities that you love and get involved with them!

It’ll feel more fulfilling and help you work on skills that could come in handy in the future.”

11. It doesn’t last long.

“Ignore most of what happens socially.

Real life starts AFTER high school. See those cheerleaders over there that think they are hot sh*t? Most of them will be living off their former cheerleader memories for YEARS. This is their pinnacle.

You will leave them far behind in the dust. See that popular guy? He will cry like a baby on graduation day and claim these were the best years of his life. For him maybe. Not for you. Everybody claims they are having s*x. They aren’t.

Don’t worry. It’s way better when you are in college and beyond. See that quiet outsider. They are part of an interesting sub-group. There are a lot of them. Get to know some. They are going to be amazing long term friends. Don’t want to go do something but feel pressured?

Call your parents. When they say yes, hang up and pretend you were just grounded. Curse them out to your friends then go home, get a great meal cooked by your parents and watch your fave Netflix. High school is primarily a prep for college or trade school or work. No rush to make any decisions. Learning is lifelong.

Don’t have kids!!!!!! Expensive and time consuming!!! Travel if and when you can on school trips. Worth it!!! Music, drama, sports, extra-curricular activities – try some.

Make time for downtime. Volunteer at your local zoo or anywhere you have a passion. Read books! You will find your tribe and it might be after high school. That is OK!!! Ignore social media. Better yet, never respond on it or send your picture out. It’s overrated and frankly, people look happy for that one minute but they are mostly not happy.

Be really happy and ignore it.”

12. It’s important.

“Listen, listen, listen.

To your teachers, superiors, bosses, everyone.

Sometimes, you’ll get some nice stuff out of it.”

13. Good stuff.

“Make the most of it! The amount you learn and how much you enjoy yourself are more in your hands than you might realize.

I just graduated from a high school in Texas as valedictorian. I was in the band and on the robotics team, and quite active academically. Here’s my advice:

Learning > Grades. Always. I had great grades, but the reason I did so well was because I focused on actually getting a deep understanding of what I was doing. You’ll enjoy your time more if you focus on real understanding of concepts instead of just doing what you need to do to get that hundo.

Taking care of business (turning things in on time, checking the rubric boxes) will take care or 80% of your grade-related concerns. Don’t put yourself through unnecessary stress just by not getting your stuff done.

Your teachers aren’t the only ones who can help you learn. It’s very good for you and your peers to teach and guide each other – the best way to know if you understand something is to try to explain it.

Your friends and classmates aren’t the only ones you can go to for non-academic help. If you’re going through emotional trouble, your teachers and counselors are more willing to help (or even just listen to you) than you might think. Don’t bottle things up.

Do the activities that you love, not the ones that you think colleges will love. High school is the time to explore your interests, however niche or unusual.

Know that you can be happy in a relationship or not. If you wanna go out, ask them! If you don’t feel ready to do that, that’s ok!

Find the amount of rigor that works for you. It’s good to challenge yourself, but it’s 100% ok to lighten your academic or extracurricular load if it’s so much you can’t enjoy life.

Hope this helps!”

14. Words of wisdom.

“Practice better self reflection, stay quiet, listen more than you speak, and actually think about what you’re doing/saying/thinking/feeling.

I had way too many instances where I looked back at myself and just thought “What the f*ck was that?”

Also, you should know, when you’re stressed your rational decision making skills drop quickly, even if you think you’re fine, you’re probably not. I won’t tell you to talk with someone(god knows I never did) but each day when you get home take a look at everything you did and said, and try to reason out why without emotional justification.

Don’t be afraid to keep a daily journal. I know it sounds lame, but it will help you keep track of your thought patterns and stressors.

Don’t feel embarrassed to apologize for your (re)actions, even if the other person doesn’t.”

What advice would you give to kids that are starting high school?

Tell us what you think in the comments!

Please and thank you!

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People Share the Terrifying Facts That Keep Them up at Night

I was a total worrywart when I was younger.

I’d lay in my bed at night and just think of all of the terrifying things that might happen: World War III, an asteroid hitting our house, packs of wild dogs roaming the neighborhood. Basically anything that could potentially cause me harm.

Now, I guess I’m just too tired to stay up past 11 p.m. most nights…hooray for getting old!

But some people are like that their whole lives! Always terrified of what’s around the next corner, what could go wrong, and, most importantly, of ACTUAL, scary FACTS that worry them to no end.

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say about the terrifying facts that keep them up at night. Let’s take a look.

1. On the edge.

“If I lose my job or he loses his job, we have some savings but capitalism will eat us alive and leave us no quarter.

If one of us gets injured or gets cancer, same thing.”

2. Irreversible.

“Humanity is well on the way to destroying itself, it’s now irreversible, but everyone is ignoring the glaring evidence and continuing on business as usual.

We’re going to see worldwide famine within the next few years but people will ignore this warning too.”

3. A reckoning.

“The dollar is worthless.

The treasury is not just empty, it owes the rest of the world trillions, and the government somehow owes itself more trillions. Despite this, or more probably because of this, we continue to spend more than the rest of the world combined on the deadliest military in history.

There will be a reckoning, and I don’t think it will be gentle or pretty.”

4. The world is crazy right now.

“The great depression is now almost certain to repeat itself since economic relief was killed by greedy republicans who were angry they didn’t get to give the lion’s share of 1 trillion dollars to their corporate pimps.

Along with the expiring legislation goes COVID-specific unemployment benefits, individual and family relief checks, EVICTION MORATORIUMS! That last one…

This nation just straight slept through the pure hatred and violence of the republicans’ actions yesterday. People don’t get what’s about to happen here. We’re going to have 15-20% homelessness by the end of the year if relief packages are not put in place.

You think the George Floyd protests have been rough? Most of the BLM protestors have something to lose. Maybe not much for some of them, but probably SOMETHING.

These newly minted homeless will have N O T H I N G to lose by going absolutely apesh*t in the streets. And I won’t have a godd*mn thing to say against them when they do. Maybe it’s about time for some of that good guillotine action…

Keep your non-perishables up to date and well stocked. Get a back log of water.

Things are about to get weird.”

5. Excessive.

“Humans kill roughly 60 billion land animals per year for unnecessary food while at the same time deforesting rainforests, polluting the atmosphere, consuming large amounts of water, creating breeding grounds for infectious diseases, using antibiotics unsustainably, and contributing to heart disease and obesity, but no one seems to care because “bacon tastes good.””

6. Saddens the heart.

“That we as a human race, decided on which race dependent on color of skin was inferior to the rest.

Saddens the heart to think older generations who suffered won’t know whether their efforts worked. (also includes genders).”

7. I feel this one.

“My dogs will pass away someday.

It’s kept me up at night multiple times.”

8. Truth.

“Humans are more disgusting and selfish than we ever admit.”

9. The Big Bang.

“The big bang could’ve been caused by a civilization that developed weapons of mass destruction and were just in a loop of evolution until eventually we become advanced enough to create an explosion so big we destroy and recreate everything from scratch.

Yeah, thank about that!”

10. A rough time.

“I’m about to be 30 in 2 years.

I’m still single and haven’t had as much s*x in life as my peers. I fear that I’ll be this awkward undesirable old dude that’s bad at s*x that’s just wandering the earth only working, doing chores and sleeping for the most part.

A lot of my peers are living in houses with furniture while I live in an apartment with little furniture. I’m working at a call center that I hate.

I am seeking another job preferably in programming since I have a bachelor’s, but due to lack of experience in that field, no one is hiring.”

11. Every day is important.

“That you have absolutely no idea if the next day will be your last. You could be with your SO having the time of your lives, picking up some food, watching a movie at your place, drinking.

Then next day comes, you get hit by a drunk driver while out on the road.”

12. Hard to think about.

“That my parents are aging and will eventually die.

I’m an only child and feel like when they die my connection to my childhood and the people that understand me and love me unconditionally will be gone.

The link to me will be gone and I’ll essentially be alone in the world.”

13. Nuclear war.

“At anytime the US wants we could start a nuclear war and the person who has control over that is umm…. underprepared for the job.

Or that at anytime Russia wants or North Korea wants or basically any other country with access to nuclear power could decide that they want to nuke us and do it.”

14. Collapse.

“The Earth’s ecosystems are collapsing, and with it our ability to collect food and water.

Billions are going to die due to hunger and violence in the coming decades.”

15. THIS.

“The fact that human beings don’t understand the concept of putting a d*mn face mask on and saving thousands of lives when they go to their local grocery store.”

16. The end.

“The end of the universe.

Not the last star, or the last neutron star that glows.

All matter has decayed as protons have half-lives.

Black holes will decay, and moments of brief light in millennia of pure darkness come as black holes collide.

After a very certain point, time becomes meaningless as whatever remains will be so stationary, you cannot observe it.

The universe achieves true equilibrium as the universe in one time point in the far future is indistinguishable from the next second, next month, next year, next millennia, next googleplex years later.”

What do you worry about at night?

What causes you to lose sleep?

Talk to us in the comments and spill your guts out!

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Hilarious Tweets to Bring You New Insights

I set out to count how many funny people there were on Twitter but I lost track and fell asleep because there are too many. I couldn’t possibly hope to bring you samples from all of them, but let’s start with these.

Here are 12 random examples of greatness from a few of the funny women of Twitter!

12. Act fast

This is why the remote is a powerful tool in any relationship.

11. Mmm, MLM

You can be your own boss by which I mean empty your savings account to buy our awful overpriced merchandise.

10. Bras, bruh

There are the true tests of faith.

9. Time to stretch

Me buying sweats: “I don’t think this is gonna work out.”

8. Fairy tale romance

Did no two women in this kingdom wear the same size shoe?

7. Hugs and nugs

The delicious affection that we all crave.

6. Model citizen

2020: “Joke’s on you, get back to the couch.”

5. Highs and lows

Um. Most of us were alive in the 1900’s. It was 20 years ago. You sure about this?

4. Who is she

Reminding the robots that they don’t know everything.

3. Flatten the curve

The swoosh that says “Just don’t it.”

2. Treasure hunting

Gotta keep tabs on the important things in life.

1. Pocket full of disappointment

Fashion is a competition to see who can sell the least fabric for the most money.

To see more, just go pretty much anywhere on the internet. Funny tweets have a way of showing up there.

Who are your favorites ladies of Twitter?

Tell us in the comments.

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What’s the Stupidest Thing You’ve Ever Heard Someone Say? People Shared Their Stories.

Do you think we give human beings too much credit sometimes…?

I’m beginning to think that the answer to that question is a huge YES.

Why? Because the more time I spend with people, the more I realize just how dumb they really are.

Hey, I’m not talking trash! Maybe a lot of people think I’m a dumb person…but I hope not…

Here are some pretty DUMB stories about our fellow humans from AskReddit users.

1. Ouch.

“My friend once told me he wasn’t too concerned about using birth control because everyone knows the girl can only get pregnant if they both c*m at the same time.

His GF was pregnant 3 months later.”

2. Can I open this?

“My sister panicked while on a plane and asked if she could open a window as she was feeling really hot.

The guy in the seats across from her lost it, it made his day.”

3. Brilliant.

“”If you could adopt a child from a third world country, which country would you choose and why?” “I would choose Alaska, because it’s really cold there.”

A member of the prom court being asked a random question on our school’s live news show that was being broadcasted out to every homeroom.”

4. But, why?

“A girl in my class asked why do farms exist if she gets her food from the supermarket.

The teacher had such a disappointed face and everyone looked at her and wondered how did she pass the all the way through the 8th grade.”

5. Mom needs help.

“My mom frantically called me one day and said she had seen a piece of the sun fall off while taking a picture of the sky.

She was incredibly adamant that it was indeed real and that the picture would prove it

It was just a glare.”

6. History buff.

“I knew a girl who said ‘what’s the big deal about Obama being elected president?

Our first black president was Martin Luther King.’”

7. That guy must be loaded.

“Y’all really gonna make me remember the time my coworker thought Willy Wonka was a real person and wondered how much money he was making on Nerds and Gobstoppers.”

8. Wait, it’s not?

“That Japan was the capital of Australia.”

9. Oh, boy…

“A customer came in today and apparently had a an excuse for not wearing a mask.

We offered curbside pickup for their safety and the safety of others.

They let us know that they work at a covid clinic, so they had “literally 0% chance of contracting it”.”

10. It’s not real!

“A few years ago leading up to the great American eclipse a coworker overheard us discussing it and said “Y’all don’t actually believe in that sh*t do you?”

I figured he misunderstood whatever we were talking about and thought we were talking about mysticism or something regarding the eclipse but no he followed up with “Don’t you know if the moon went into the sun it would melt, that’s why the eclipse can’t be real.”

I genuinely felt like humanity should probably start over from scratch after that.”

11. This guy…

“Co-worker at my last job during lunch:

Him: “The moon landings obviously didn’t happen”

Me: “Thats awkward I was bouncing lasers off the mirrors we left there at University.” (Physics Graduate)

Him after pausing: “Theres loads of ways they could have got there, aliens could have plonked them down”

Man literally believes in aliens but not the moon landings and is a manager at a large company.”

12. Good question!

“In 8th grade this girl, dead serious, asked, “how did people breathe before there was electricity?””

13. Sorry, wrong country.

“A few years ago I got a job offer in Japan and decided to take it. Some friends from my then office threw me a farewell party.

The girlfriend of one of my co-workers came along and told me that she’d always wanted to go to Japan and that her number one thing to do there would be to take a camel ride.

My co-worker and I just looked at her to see if she’d explain more— maybe there was a camel cafe she’d heard about or something.

But no, she just honestly thought camels were a common mode of transportation in Japan.”

Okay, now it’s your turn!

In the comments, please tell us about the dumbest thing you’ve ever heard another person say.

Thanks in advance!

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The “Real” Dangers of Black-Tiled Pools as Told by Folks on Tumblr

Some people are using black tiles to make their swimming pools look minimalistic, or like black holes, or some other reason fads start when regular swimming pools have been perfectly serviceable since forever.

If you’re thinking about getting one for yourself, well….you might want to read through this very informative (and hilarious) Tumblr thread first.

It began when someone posted a picture of black-tiled pools, praising the aesthetic. Someone replied, suggesting they use “that black material that absorbs all light” so they could “swim over the void” – presumably referring to Vantablack.

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To which, someone replied with a Doomsday script that is sure to attract Jerry Bruckheimer like white on rice.

In it, they began with the “fun fact” that Vantablack would heat up so quickly in the sun that the pool would soon boil anyone swimming in it.

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Then, they added the fact that boiling pool water would emit a chlorine gas that would eventually kill most of your town.

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And then continuing with the (fact?) that anyone who survived that would be turned into a flesh-craving zombie.

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Like, a real one.

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Some people can’t let anyone have any fun.

By the way that was all made up. Every single word of it.

How do we know? Oh, just a guess…

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Yes, they were just having fun. And we were having a little fun with you because, well, why not. It’s not like anything matters anymore anyway, right?

Did you think that science was legit? Imagine if it was!

Okay, I’ve got an idea for a new novel…

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Symptoms of “Good Relationship” Syndrome

Are you happy with your significant other? Do you experience bouts of joy, trust, and unafraid intimacy? Do you have symptoms of confidence, stability, and connection?

Then you may suffer from a condition known as “good relationship.” Good Relationship is a chronic condition that can last a very long time. To know whether you have it or are at risk of contracting it, you should be on the lookout for “green flags.”

What are some little known relationship GREEN flags? from AskReddit

These “green flag” symptoms have here been enumerated by a panel of dating doctors (aka Reddit users). Have a look for yourself, and consider this a self-administered test.

1. What should we look for?

Willingness to forgive you when you make a mistake/speak in anger/etc rather than hold a grudge or try to punish you. (Doesn’t mean they won’t be still be upset of course.)

Willingness to admit fault and take responsibility when they make a mistake/speak in anger/etc and work on their own negative behaviors. Related: taking you seriously when something upsets you even if it doesn’t seem like a big deal from their perspective.

Not losing their temper when things don’t go their way. Example: do you want to be with someone who blows up when the car breaks down on a road trip and makes everyone else miserable or the person who calmly calls the repair service and tries to make the best of it?

Not making personal attacks during arguments. Focusing more on how they are feeling and fixing the problem at hand, and then reconciling afterward, rather than lashing out with a list of perceived character flaws. Example: “I feel disrespected when…” rather than “You’re such a disrespectful [expletive of choice]!”

Genuine care for you and others; a lack of self-centeredness. Being open to hear the perspectives of others, even when they don’t agree. An understanding that they are not the center of the universe, they are not always right, and there is always something to learn.

In short: emotional maturity.

– xxrachinwonderlandxx

2. Watch for reduced noise perception.

The ability to co exist in very companionable silence.

– kmm91162

3. Ask your doctor if your health is more important than a car’s.

It’s a pretty convoluted story, but I was dating a guy, had to drive his car to get him from a situation, and wrecked his car due to mechanical failure, and called my mama to come get me so we could go get him.

“Rescued” him. Then had to tell him I’d wrecked his car.

His first question: “Are you okay?”

My mom overheard. “That one’s a keeper.”

– 50EffingCabbages

4. Look out for irritability-resistant cooperation.

I remember the time I was pissed at my SO and then she accidentally spilled some sauce on her lap and I angrily helped her clean it up with my hanky

– [user deleted]

5. Do you need dietary assistance?

When you’re on a road trip and your partner feeds you fries and helps you drink your soda or whatever.

I think that’s such a nice simple gesture of kindness.

– Kekitron

6. Note any increased mobility.

Genuine support in your life goals, even if that means you two will have to go long distance for a while or will have to have conflicting work schedule or it will make your relationship harder in some way. If they love you and want you to be happy, they will be genuinely interested in what you want to do and will try to support you to do that in whatever way they can. They won’t hold you back in anyway.

This is something me and my SO have been facing something similar to this recently, he’s just graduated and is looking for a job. As much as I want him to stay close by so we don’t have to do long distance for any more time than we have to (I’m going home for the summer). But if he gets a job the other side of the country I won’t stop him and as long as I’m around I’ll help him pack up.

– averagehonesthuman

7. Quick recovery periods are frequent.

Being able to emotionally connect even after an argument

– liamfaganmusic

8. Close examination of common experiences may be necessary.

Telling the little details about your day. There’s something really precious about that, and you feel in-tune with the other person.

– archived_idli

9. Note any increased memory function.

Your partner does things for you without asking and remembers little details. For example I like eating with a fruit fork (the smaller version of the dinner fork) I actually googled that since our family calls them the little forks lol.

Anyway, my partner remembers this and will grab it for me when we’re dishing up food. Another good one is they make you feel appreciated.

– SerenityFate

10. Watch what you eat.

They respect your food issues, whether preferences, allergies, etc.

Bonus Points: They defend you to their blood relatives.

– EPresage

11. Note a strong appetite for thing-doing.

If she shows equal interest in hanging out with you. If it feels like you’re dragging them into going on a date, they’re really not into you, no matter what they may say.

Besides, let’s be honest. Wouldn’t you rather date someone who is as excited and interested in seeing you and you are in seeing them?

– Crappyfanchandelier

12. Empathetic response may be above normal parameters.

You want your partner to be happy and not the other way around. Oftentimes people want to be in a relationship to solely make themselves happy

– Some-Specie

13. Take note of reading comprehension.

You recommend them a book or movie and they actually take the time to check it out.

– -eDgAR-

14. There may be a general reduction in stress.

It feels “easy”.

Effortless. Unforced. Natural.

This is a good sign of a real connection. Compromise feels like second nature. You both breath thoughtfulness and consideration towards each other.

You figure things out, together. You see each other, respect each other, and appreciate each other.

– Manateaze

15. In summary:

I feel like there’s a lot of detailed examples that largely boil down to two things: empathy and emotional maturity.

– LegendaryGary74

If you think that you or someone you know may suffer from Good Relationship, ask your doctor how their day went, cause you got nothing to fix. Congratulations.

What would you add to this list of symptoms?

Tell us in the comments.

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“Green Flags” That are Signs of a Good Relationship

We’re all know the term “red flags”  when it comes to relationships. The little (or huge) warning signs that we’d prefer to ignore so we can just keep things going with someone whom we know deep down isn’t good for us. And while it’s doubtlessly important to keep an eye out for such things, we shouldn’t dwell on them all the time. Let’s look at something a little happier today. Like, say, green flags:

What are some little known relationship GREEN flags? from AskReddit

This post in r/AskReddit garnered over 10,000 responses. Here are some of the highlights:

1. Love is unhurried.

You don’t feel like you’re competing for their time. You’re just loved. Even when they are busy, you don’t have to worry.

People think you need to spend all your time with someone. You don’t. But the feeling of being loved removes any jealousy or insecurities.

You just know it’s good

– mewashere1

2. You can be you.

When you like the person that you become when you’re with them.

Everyone projects a different version of themselves around different people and if you don’t like who you become when you’re with someone, it’s probably not going to be the healthiest relationship.

Your SO should bring out the best in you.

– crasher35

3. Burdens are cut in half.

If it’s a chore you both hate, you do it together.

My late husband and I both HATED folding laundry, but it had to be done. So we always did it together. Made the chore less of a pain.

– AlfalfaFloozy

4. You can love through anger.

No matter how angry you are at one another. You will still go out of your way or they go out of their way to help.

I’ll be wicked pissed, but I’ll angrily make my wife her favorite dinner even though I don’t want to eat. No matter how angry we are at one another (usually only last a short period of time) we will never sabotage or try to teach them a lesson. Many times, it ends up being both apologizing to one another.

Arguing and getting angry is just part of a relationship and unavoidable. It is how you deal with it that’s sets it apart from a healthy relationship versus a bad one.

– kamikaziboarder

5. Surprise each other.

Came home from working a 12 hour shift one night to a full dinner with my favorite dessert.

Never had a girlfriend just decide to cook me a full meal for me to come home to like that.

– trgoldfox

6. Forgiveness is key.

Able to forgive mistakes.

Early in our relationship I accidentally backed my car into my Fiance’s car while coming out of the driveway. I definitely did damage. I immediately started freaking out and crying and he just calmly got out of his car, came up to mine and asked if I was okay.

He got me to calm down and said it was fine it was just an accident. He never made me feel bad about it. He called it our little bump to my friends to minimize my embarrassment.

We laugh about it to this day. – KinickieNoodle

7. Don’t be a tease.

My ex would tease me a lot and would tease me in front of his family. He would say things like “Oh she changed her outfit 3 times because she thought you guys would judge her.” Or “She didn’t really want to come over but I convinced her.” He would be laughing and joking but these things would be the truth!

When I was going to meet my current boyfriend’s family I was really nervous! In the car I said “Please don’t tell them how nervous I am, it’s so embarrassing!” He looked at me in shock and said “I’m on YOUR side! Why would I tell them that?” And it was like a freaking lightbulb! Love this guy 🙂

– chapter2at30

8. Nobody’s perfect.

When your SO takes criticism from you seriously without immediately trying to turn it back on you.

If the converse is also true, you two stand a great chance of going the distance.

– SqueakyCleanNoseDown

9. Have a good thing to say.

Non-sexual compliments

– ipakookapi

10. Remember the best medicine.

Laughter.

And also: I’ve been with my partner for 40 years (this month!) and I still smile when I see him across a room.

He still makes me laugh and my heart soars when I think of him.

– the_real_grinningdog

11. Love is in the details.

Listening to you and remembering the things you’ve said.

Back when me and my boyfriend started dating, he’d sometimes bring up things that I’ve said before (ex: my favorite foods, candies, etc.).

Made me super happy and could tell he genuinely cared.

– isahellarad

12. Talk to each other.

They communicate if they will be delayed and how long they will be.

Talk things through BEFORE it becomes a screaming match. Not after.

Asks about boundaries/traumas and doesn’t judge you for them, but instead respects them.

– KhajitCaravan

13. Stay in touch.

Calling/texting just to see how you’re doing, even if they don’t need anything.

– Frankfertt

14. Take it point by point.

• honesty
• genuine interest in each other’s hobbies (don’t have to do them, but at least support it)
• strong communication
• you feel like you’re hanging out with your best friend…except you wanna smash.

– Iamdaisylion

15. And of course, the ultimate test of character:

Putting the shopping cart back

– bendedsleaze

We should remember to recognize and celebrate the good in our lives and the good in each other. It’s what makes this whole crazy thing worthwhile!

What are some other things you would add to this list?

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