Women Discuss What it’s Like Being a Single Lesbian Mom

I can’t imagine how hard it must to be a single parent in this world, especially if you don’t already have, like, a buttload of money stashed away so you can hire a bunch of help.

On top of that, many LGBTQ+ people in this world still face a lot of stigma and difficulty on that front. So try and put yourself in the shoes of someone standing at the crossroads of both identities.

Here are ten anonymous confessions from lesbian women who have found themselves in the position of being single moms.

10. Don’t care

Well, that’s a good start. You do you.

Source: Whisper

9. Seriously?

That’s a pretty childish understanding of how things work, people.

Source: Whisper

8. It’s complicated

Being in an environment in which you’re not comfortable being yourself is very trying.

Source: Whisper

7. Come on out

Enter the dating world, it’s totally fine.

Source: Whisper

6. I made it happen

Good for you!

Source: Whisper

5. Are you out there?

*Cue that heartbreaking song from Fievel Goes West.*

Source: Whisper

4. No idea

But the truth will find its way out eventually.

Source: Whisper

3. Hard enough

Did you check underneath the couch or like behind the fridge?

Source: Whisper

2. Cheater, cheater

Oh. Well. That’s um…complicated?

Source: Whisper

1. Ah heck no

I’ll bet ya don’t though.

Source: Whisper

To all the single parents out there of all stripes – we salute you. You’re doing some really tough work, that will hopefully prove quite rewarding in the long run.

Have you had experiences with this type of dynamic?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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July 26, 2021

Couples Talk About Why They Decided to Open Up Their Marriages

I was once a guest performer for a sketch show in New York and the rather explosive opener we performed was about a couple who announces at a dinner party that they’ve decided to have an open marriage.

Things get immediately awkward. It’s comedy, it’s over-the-top, it’s cynical. But of course, the real reasons people go for that sort of thing, and the results, vary quite a lot in the real world.

Here are ten bits of anonymous input from couples who decided to open things up – and why they did it.

10. We’re exploring

It’s a whole new world out there.

Source: Whisper

9. So far away

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

Source: Whisper

8. Incompatibility

It kinda seems like that’s a problem that’s not gonna be solved?

Source: Whisper

7. Jealousy rules

Why do I feel like this can’t be sustained? Maybe I’m just a prude.

Source: Whisper

6. Years of research

What, like, in a lab? With white coats and mice and stuff?

Source: Whisper

5. Hot stuff

Let the fun times roll.

Source: Whisper

4. For us…

Did you blink it out with each other in morse code?

Source: Whisper

3. Hands on deck

Everyone head to the lifeboats while the band plays on.

Source: Whisper

2. The depressing truth

“But it’s mostly me that plays on the side.”

Source: Whisper

1. Chick, chick, boom

Is it really?

Source: Whisper

To each their own, I suppose. Whatever works for you works for you! The point is that you deserve to be happy.

Do you have experience with this kind of thing?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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July 15, 2021

People with Antisocial Personality Disorder Discuss How Exhausting It Can Be

There’s a lot of misunderstanding about different mental health disorders out there.

Especially when these disorders are misrepresented in TV and movies, right?

One example is Antisocial Personality Disorder.

People with this diagnosis can be described as sociopaths, but not psychopaths, as some people assume.

The two may share some traits, like recklessness and impulsiveness, but Antisocial Personality Disorder is treatable and doesn’t mean the person is dangerous.

Living with a diagnosis that others are suspicious of can be exhausting, as these 10 people will attest:

1. Pretending to react the way people want you to

You know what’s expected, but having to fake it all the time will really wear you out.

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2. It puts you under a microscope

And suddenly even your family thinks they need to worry about you.

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3. It can be a lot to take in, even for yourself

Because what does a diagnosis really mean, at the end of the day?

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4. Maintaining relationships can be a real challenge

You can’t always give your family what they want and need.

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5. It can be a weird internal dichotomy

You don’t care how they judge you, you just don’t want them to judge you at all.

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6. Finding someone to be with is endlessly frustrating

People tend to stop at the label and not look any deeper.

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7. Fitting into society’s norms is the most exhausting part

It’s never easy to have to pretend all the time.

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8. Dealing with the repercussions of lazy tropes may be the worst part

Forget what you’ve read and seen on TV. A diagnosis doesn’t turn you into a serial killer.

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9. Treatment may be a long hard road

But it’s at least a relief to know that there are treatment options available.

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10. Even though it’s hard, answers are good

A diagnosis is never easy–even ones that make you go, “Oh. That makes sense.”

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Those all make me feel a lot of empathy for people with this diagnosis.

What about you? Does it bring a little clarity to their struggles? Tell us in the comments.

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July 7, 2021

People Talk About Their Wildest “Beyond Tired” Behaviors

Not getting enough sleep can take a huge toll on every aspect of your life.

Most of us aren’t getting enough of it, either because of work, life, or staying up out of revenge despite being tired.

Different people can function on different amounts of sleep, but at some point we all hit that moment when it’s obvious that we better catch some Z’s.

Here are 10 people who have surpassed that point.

1. Laundry is basically just “clothes recycling”

And sometimes I want to throw my dirty clothes away too.

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2. Politeness to inanimate objects

If they’d said “Sorry,” we’d have just assumed they were Canadian.

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3. Been there, but you have to be careful

Apparently this can get very expensive.

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4. Autopilot is a tricky thing

It’s one more reason I don’t want a smart house.
Too. Many. Codes.

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5. I like that it’s a someTHING and not a someONE

Tell the truth, were you flipping off the masses while drinking tea?

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6. It has a certain ring to it

And makes about as much sense as leggings so why not?

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7. I’ll see your exhaustion and raise you one

Because when I’m really tired, I don’t even hear the alarm.

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8. They might be more than tired

That one is a little hard to fathom! I need more details.

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9. This one doesn’t seem ridiculous to me

If you can blow on things to cool them down, why not to warm them up?

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10. My favorite reaction of all time

Maybe the world would be a better place if we asked ourselves this more often.

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Those people are all really tired, and honestly I worry about their overall health.

What’s the wildest thing you’ve done when you were uber-tired?

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July 5, 2021

People Share the Stark Realities of Living as a Person of Color

I’m not sure why the world is the way it is.

That’s not true. I kind of do.

It’s because dismantling systems of power and oppression is hard. It takes a lot of work and dedication, and most people are too wrung out from the daily grind to care about anything else.

Lucky for all of us, there are people working hard every day to make sure that someday people of color will no longer be treated like criminals because of their race.

It can’t come soon enough, as these 12 people make so painfully clear.

1. Insensitive comments abound

It’s so deeply ingrained that people don’t even realize they’re being rude sometimes.

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2. Sometimes they do know it’s rude

They just don’t care. As though their comfort is more important than yours.

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3. You are constantly the victim of assumptions

It sounds like an exhausting way to live.

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4. Authority figures don’t give you the benefit of the doubt

Expectations mean they hear what they expect to hear, see what they expect to see.

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5. You’re impacted by arbitrary rules

And you know they were put in place as veiled attempts to legitimize discrimination against you.

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6. People are afraid of you without provocation

And they’re not very good at hiding it.

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7. People take liberties with your body

As though they have the right.

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8. You get accused of kidnapping

Which is even more ridiculous when you look at actual kidnapping statistics around non-custodial family members.

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9. It’s not unusual to experience trauma at a young age

It’s heartbreaking, but it’s not unusual.

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10. Children are the worst, except when they’re not

The worst part is when they grow up into cruel adults.

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11. Sometimes, it’s like you’re invisible

But not the times when you wish that you were.

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12. It’s not a uniquely American experience

That’s… not exactly both good and bad. More like both real and sad.

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It’s so important to see what life is like for someone different from yourself.

I’m glad these people shared their experiences, and that I could share them with you.

Have you had similar experiences? Share your story in the comments.

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June 30, 2021

People Explain Why They Chose To Be Sterilized

Maybe it’s because it flies in the face of evolution, but people tend to be shocked when they find out others don’t want children.

They assume you’ll grow out of it or change your mind, but for some, the desire to remain childless is as strong as others’ biological urge to procreate.

These 12 people express their feelings about living a child-free life.

1. Pets are better than kids

Except that you can’t really send them to their rooms.

Image credit: Whisper

2. Bodily autonomy can be a powerful drug

That’s when you know you’ve made the right decision.

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3. Double win, really

Especially when it’s your choice and not the slow march of time.

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4. It really is hard for people to believe

And it’s easier if they think it’s not a choice.

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5. Lots of people feel the need to keep it secret

No reason to upset the folks. They’ll figure it out eventually.

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6. Some secrets are more concerning than others

I guess she’ll figure it out eventually too…

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7. It’s a great alternative to oral contraception

More effective too.

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8. Definitely cheaper than a lifetime of birth control, too

1 box of condoms is about $7. Pays for itself in no time.

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9. And there’s so much less worry

In that respect, you could say it pays for itself every month.

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10. Of course there are other ways of looking at it

That’s definitely one of them.

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11. Some people can’t accept that it’s what you want

As though it affects them somehow.

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12. And usually they don’t trust you to know your own mind

It’s the lucky few who are listened to.

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Those reasons all make a lot of sense to me. Do you think they made the right choices? Tell us in the comments.

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June 30, 2021

People Explain Why They Chose To Be Sterilized

Maybe it’s because it flies in the face of evolution, but people tend to be shocked when they find out others don’t want children.

They assume you’ll grow out of it or change your mind, but for some, the desire to remain childless is as strong as others’ biological urge to procreate.

These 12 people express their feelings about living a child-free life.

1. Pets are better than kids

Except that you can’t really send them to their rooms.

Image credit: Whisper

2. Bodily autonomy can be a powerful drug

That’s when you know you’ve made the right decision.

Image credit: Whisper

3. Double win, really

Especially when it’s your choice and not the slow march of time.

Image credit: Whisper

4. It really is hard for people to believe

And it’s easier if they think it’s not a choice.

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5. Lots of people feel the need to keep it secret

No reason to upset the folks. They’ll figure it out eventually.

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6. Some secrets are more concerning than others

I guess she’ll figure it out eventually too…

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7. It’s a great alternative to oral contraception

More effective too.

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8. Definitely cheaper than a lifetime of birth control, too

1 box of condoms is about $7. Pays for itself in no time.

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9. And there’s so much less worry

In that respect, you could say it pays for itself every month.

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10. Of course there are other ways of looking at it

That’s definitely one of them.

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11. Some people can’t accept that it’s what you want

As though it affects them somehow.

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12. And usually they don’t trust you to know your own mind

It’s the lucky few who are listened to.

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Those reasons all make a lot of sense to me. Do you think they made the right choices? Tell us in the comments.

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June 30, 2021

People Show the Bitter and Sweet Sides of Sterilization

One of the most invasive questions people can ask you is about your plans to have children…or not.

It’s no one’s business but the people making the choice–and sometimes it’s not even a choice.

But that doesn’t stop people from asking.

At family functions and even in the workplace, if you’re in a committed relationship and over the age of 24, the awkward questions abound.

It’s time to stop asking such personal questions. People don’t have kids for all kinds of reasons.

Fertility issues aside, 10 people explain the myriad emotions surrounding sterilization.

1. Sometimes, it’s a choice you make together

I hope karma, at least, was very sweet.

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2. Sometimes, it’s the mature thing to do

We don’t know their life.

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3. No matter what you say, it’s going to be the wrong thing

Even when you mean well, better just to go about your day.

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4. Some people can laugh it off easier than others

But why should they have to?

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5. Taking “it’s none of your business” to a whole new level

Because safety is about more than just preventing pregnancy.

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6. It could become a dangerous game.

Like at some point you have to tell them right?

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7. There are times when it makes total sense

And you end up regretting it anyway.

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8. But there is still joy, even with regret

Fertility treatments, foster parenting, adoption, pets.

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9. Choice is the key

When you don’t get one, either way, it hurts.

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10. The important thing is doing what’s right for yourself

And living the life you want to live.

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These posts show that people are childless for all kinds of reasons, and that everyone should mind their own business until it affects them.

Do you know of other reasons for not having kids that you want to share? Drop them in the comments.

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June 20, 2021

12 People Talk About What It’s Like to Be Transgender

There’s a lot to be said for feeling comfortable in your own skin.

History is filled with people who didn’t, and suffered for it.

But there have also been a great many people, and probably more than we know, who “passed” unnoticed, as the gender they identified with.

A famous example was 19th century Irish surgeon James Barry, renowned in his day, and serving the British military in the rank of Inspector General before he died.

It was only after he died and was being prepared for burial that people discovered the truth.

It’s a difficult thing. No one should have to announce who they are, but no one should have to hide themselves either.

Like James Barry, these 12 transgender people are hiding in plain sight.

1. It’s no one’s business but yours

But it can’t be easy to hide a part of yourself from the people who are close to you.

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2. Feeling safe is so important

No one likes to be talked about. But people love to talk.

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3. Some people just want to feel seen

But, just like society has become more accepting of the gay community,
someday maybe the “stealth thing” won’t feel needed.

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4. Imagine having to navigate romantic relationships

Do you just put it out there? Bring it up on the first date?

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5. Restrooms are stressful even without bathroom bills

Even CIS people hate public restrooms.
Imagine what it must be like for the transgender community.

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6. For some, stealth is fine

As long as you can live your best life as yourself, I say go for it.

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7. It can weigh heavily on your mental health

Whether because you’re keeping a secret, or because you’re not living as your true self.

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8. It’s such a difficult decision to make

You never know how people will react. And you can’t take it back.

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9. Sometimes you get lucky

Especially if your aesthetic fits your form.

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10. It can be a long journey

Sometimes the hardest person to come out to, is yourself.

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11. It’s good to know who you are and what you want

The next step is figuring out how to get it.

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12. So buy the dress, because the second step seems to be Halloween

What better time to be yourself?

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These posts really show the different sides of being transgender.

Did we leave anything out? Let us know in the comments.

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June 19, 2021

Funny Times When People Were Way Too Tired for Life

Most of us are overworked and underslept.

My dog insists on waking me up earlier on the weekend than I have to get up during the week, and she refuses to be ignored.

So I totally get how people can be just too tired, although I do worry about some of them being out on the road.

Here are 13 people who were too tired to do much of anything.

1. At least they’re obeying traffic laws

I mean, mostly…

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2. Maybe a checklist in the bathroom

I’ve been so tired I couldn’t remember if I washed my hair or not, but man…

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3. There are just too many passwords

I could totally see myself doing this one.

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4. Or were you trying to warm it up?

I have 100% been here before.

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5. We’ll all just pretend it didn’t happen

I have fallen asleep mid-conversation many times, and boy did those conversations get weird.

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6. You only do that when you’re tired?

I do that frequently. Also the whole “where are my glasses?”
(Hint: usually on my face.)

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7. Overly tired or just very proud?

Maybe just enthusiastic about new bling.

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8. Rocks are people too

Is it the rambling that’s an indicator of exhaustion or the subject matter?

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9. Now, that’s just polite

Also, how old is the elevator?
Is it possible that you’re sensing the spirit of the elevator operator of yore?

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10. I get it. Words are hard.

Sometimes I call scallops “little round fishy things” when I’m tired.

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11. We’ve all been there

But you know, at least it was soap and not deodorant… or toilet cleaner.

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12. Very tired–or just really old?

Honestly, even before the pandemic timewarp, this was frequently a problem for me.

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13. It’s like trying to catch a rainbow

There’s something almost poetic and Quixotic about this one.

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Honestly, it made me tired just reading all of those. I hope these people all get some sleep soon.

What about you? What is the most tired you have ever been? Tell us about it in the comments.

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