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People Think It’s High Time We Stopped Feeling Insecure About These Things

One of the hardest things to deal with is finding a way to love yourself – and all of the ways society says you’re not good enough definitely don’t make it easier.

“They” say we should feel insecure or self-conscious about so many things, but what if we all just…stopped?

Not about the important things, maybe but these 13 people have some ideas of stuff we could definitely stop making feel badly about like, today.

13. It takes all of us.

Their jobs. If you clean/fix sewerage pipes, then thanks for your service. Someone must have the balls to do it.

There are few people more responsible for the clean, relatively disease free, safe, modern world we live in than sanitation workers.

This includes janitors, street cleaners, garbage workers and anyone who cleans up after the rest of us.

I have as much respect for them as I do fire fighters and EMTs.

12. There is power in silence.

Being quiet.

“You never say anything” is such a weird way to both draw attention to someone and give them nothing to work with.

i understand being quiet is not a “meditation” for everyone, but damn. not having endless mental chatter is wonderful. not having endless verbal chatter directed AT YOU without room to respond is good, too.

11. And forget trying to apologize.

Making any kind of mistake.

Social media has created an illusion that everyone has to be perfect.

10. This is a good one.

The way someone laughs.

This world is cold and unforgiving. Laughing makes it all a little less heavy. Who gives a f*ck a what it sounds like?

I’ll never forget in high school when I was laughing in Spanish class. The girl in front of me turned around and went, “ew girl, you got an ugly laugh” and EVERYONE started laughing with her.

It’s been 15 years and I’m STILL self-conscious of my laugh because of that.

9. I feel this in my old bones.

Aging and the unavoidable physical changes that come with it.

8. College isn’t for everyone.

Trade school/gap years- college right after hs isn’t for everyone. even Some of my smartest friends- top of my class should’ve taken a gap because they burned themselves out getting 95-97% avgs throughout HS.

I never should have jumped into college. I went for something I was talked into (because it paid a lot), was miserable, changed majors, still wasn’t happy. Graduated with a degree, 13 years ago, that I never used.

I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I needed time to figure it out. And money isn’t all that matters.

7. It’s called hormones, folks.

having acne, it doesn’t mean you’re dirty or don’t wash your face.

it’s simply a skin condition some people get and some people don’t.

6. It just means you need time alone to recharge.

Being an introvert doesn’t mean you can’t have fun with people.

5. Can I get an amen.

Needing mental health treatment.

Even if that treatment includes medication.

I get so many weird backhanded comments when people find out I take psychiatric medication.

I hate that people think of it as the “easy way out” and view me as giving up or being weak.

4. Everyone is different.

Your choice of career.

Another one: not having having a dream career.

3. Everyone should have access to that space.

Exercising in public. To me anyone giving it a go, no matter their physical ability, deserves praise!

Honestly from my experience most gym rats are the most encouraging to heavy people. A few of the guys I used to “work out with” (just be at the gym the same time every morning) kinda made it a point to say small comments to this very heavyset guy that worked out at the same time as us in the morning “you got this brother.”

“Keep up the good work man” “you’re looking good man.” This guy’s face always lit up and he always pushed harder when anyone encouraged him.

2. Learn to say “I’m sorry.”

Being wrong. It’s okay to be wrong, just be open to learning. Instead of doubling down or getting angry.

People would be a lot smarter if we could all just admit when we don’t know, or when we have been wrong about something!! There is always room to grow, and it’s more than okay to change your mind.

1. People can’t help it.

Baldness. It doesn’t seem to be as common for it to happen naturally with women, but for men and women, it can be a really sore subject, especially if it starts happening at a fairly early age.

You could be in control of every other aspect of your life, but if you start losing hair early, it can take the wind out of your sails.

I vote we all make an effort, what do you say?

What’s something you wish you could stop feeling badly about today? Tell us in the comments!

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Society Stop Stop Making People Insecure About These Things

People struggle enough with self-esteem and loving themselves without bringing other people’s judgement into it.

Society-at-large just can’t seem to help itself from passing those judgements, though, and it can really suck the joy out of the world for people.

If we want to be happier, and freer, people say judging other folks for these 11 things really has to go.

11. Anything you can’t control.

The way you look in any form that was a result of your genetics.

The way you look period. Some people dress a certain way because they’re depressed, some because they want to be different. Some people have much bigger fish to fry than putting on appearances for others.

10. Especially for men.

Being short.

It’s amazing that it’s socially acceptable to make fun of a short male like everyone is in on the joke.

Those same people would never make fun of someone to their face who is obese or has a birth defect or acne, etc, but being short is obviously something a person has no control over.

9. No way to fix it.

Receding hairline, is just natural man.

8. It’s ok to say goodbye.

Not associating with a toxic family or family member.

The “blood is thicker than water” thing is bs. Some families are abusive, manipulative, neglectful, etc.

If you choose not to have them in your life, that’s perfectly ok.

7. There are all sizes of everything.

Small d*cks, yes it’s tiny I GET IT.

6. Liking anything, really.

Liking pretty things. Too many people have this idea that pretty things are childish and you need to be moody and ironically dark.

FOOL, LOOK AT THAT BEAUTIFUL FLOWER AND STOP PRETENDING TO BE MISERABLE BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE.

5. People are doing their best.

being poor

It’s not a choice, I am doing the best I can and just because I receive food stamps or any other type of assistance doesn’t make me a POS. I see a lot of hate for poor people, like we are supposed to fit this stereotype with dirt on our face and stained up clothes.

It isn’t so far fetched to think my ‘designer’ clothes come from a thrift store, my nails are press on from the dollar store and my iphone is so old it still has a headphone jack.

4. This should not be awkward.

Buying condoms. Please, it’s really important.

3. It’s really none of your business.

Being a virgin

p*nis/breast size

Whether we’re wearing makeup or not being allowed to wear makeup

Having the next shiny gadget that will get replaced soon

Having and expressing your emotions without being called a bi*ch or a pansy

2. It’s just natural.

teeth, they aren’t meant to be fully white and perfectly aligned, having some skewness and discoloration is ok as long as its not affecting you.

1. There’s no one route.

Where you should be success-wise at a certain age. I’m 23, graduated college, but couldn’t get a job in my field right after graduating. I’m living with my parents to save money on rent, working at a restaurant, and growing my skills that I learned from college, while working on myself. I’m severely insecure and realized recently that for the past ten years, I have been constantly striving for a level of perfection that is absolutely impossible and calling myself a failure for it.

I woke up to the realization that I was getting serious anxiety and was limiting everything I did. It’s just that I’m not exactly ready for the world of adults. I’m terrified and unsure and it doesn’t help hearing people despair over how they “ruined their lives” when they aren’t that old. The pressure to get somewhere in two years demotivates me sometimes. It’s something I’m fixing, but I don’t like hearing people force time limits on others and reprimand them if they never fulfill it or haven’t.

I saw a post here about a few days ago asking 25-year-olds how they screwed up in their lives (or something along those lines) as if 25 is the deadline for achievements.

It’s good to have deadlines, but everybody grows at their own pace and has roadblocks in their lives that slow them down. Heck, the human brain apparently doesn’t stop developing at 25 and grows even after 60 years old. Some people genuinely do try but get so discouraged that they give up and then get ridiculed for not doing anything. I only learned recently that my 30-year-old cousin just got over a terrible drug addiction that cost his job and almost his livelihood for years. But he got out, finished college, and is a changed man getting better jobs and doing better.

There’s always time.

I am in, y’all. I say, if no one is getting hurt, live and let live. I will cheer you on.

What other things should we stop making people feel insecure about? Let’s use the comments to make a longer list!

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