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Are One Night Stands Awful? Let’s See What People Had To Say.

There’s a cliche in so many movies and TV shows. You’ve got a character to introduce (usually a guy) and you need to show that he’s kind of living wildly, so you have him wake up naked next to some attractive young woman whose name, we find out, he can’t remember.

But how much is this really happening? And how much does anyone really like it?

One user took to r/UnpopularOpinion to parse things out.

Casual sex and one night stands are overrated and unfulfilling

It seems media has made sleeping around casually and hooking up look like a liberating experience. You meet someone, you may or may not know their name, then you have sex with them. You do this every week or so, never getting to know the person except physically. I’m not one of those you should play hard to get or make em wait people but I think you should at least feel a deep affection first. We all know that sex feels great. But having an intimate conversation with someone, being vulnerable with a person you trust, & expressing your passions can bring a much more fulfilling experience. A lot of times we feel ashamed and regret sleeping with the person soon after. Yet, giving yourself completely to someone you have a deep reverence and compassion for does the exact opposite usually. We all have the power of choice and with that comes great responsibility. Let’s be a bit more thoughtful of who we decide to give ourselves to. Stop trying to fill that void and find more meaningful outlets and ways to connect.

And how did the people of Reddit respond? Let’s dive into the discourse.

1. “After a while it gets really old.”

Yep, after awhile it gets really old and you just want to have a real connection with someone. I distinctly remember the moment where I realized enough was enough and that I wanted a girlfriend after a couple years of casual relationships.

The worst part, and what probably pushed me over the edge, was when they wanted to get brunch the morning after. It was always so awkward and deflating, and made it obvious that this was no way to live life.

– StevieWonderTwin

2. “The feeling is beyond words”

So very true. I’ve had commitment issues my whole adult life but particularly in college. Ended up passing on some amazing women because of my emotional unavailability. I’ve worked through this now and tried to fix my relationship with my mother where I think caused most problems. I remember thinking I was the coolest at the time but the more it went on the emptier I felt.

I’m now with an amazing girl who truly completes me. I do not deserve her by any means but everyday I wake up just a bit before her and I watch her wake up and think how crazy lucky I am to have a life partner like her. The feeling is beyond words and I wish I met her years and years ago. She doesn’t know it yet but there’s not a doubt in my mind that she is my wife. I’m proposing in August.

Keep the faith guys!

– JoltyJob

3. “The hopeless romantic type”

My first relationship (started at 15) lasted 9 years so I ended up being kinda late to the casual thing.

I didn’t think I would like it much, I’m more of the hopeless romantic type. I’ve had a few over the years now and I mean… it’s not terrible, but it’s certainly missing some of the depth of a well known partner.

You basically exchange knowing your partner and being into them emotionally for the thrill of someone new. The thrill is pretty good, don’t get me wrong, but I’ll always take the long term partner over it.

That said if you find the right person, FWB situations can be pretty good. It’s kind of like a mix of both. You don’t love them, but you like them, and you get to know them in bed too. If you aren’t after a relationship it’s better than random hook-ups imo. Long term > FWB > randoms.

– thesircuddles

4. “Still crazy about him”

A friend had tried to hook up with me for years, but i turned him down. I wasn’t into casual.

I finally decided I wanted something easy with no strings.

We’ve been married for 20 years and our oldest is graduating this year. I’m still crazy about him and the s** is incredible.

– Own-Classroom-1660

5. “So awkward.”

They’re so awkward too the next day.

When I’ve had one night stands, I’d be drunk that night and so waking up sober in some stranger’s bed is h**la awk and uncomfy

– SurferBoi_

6. “Never gonna happen”

I could confidently say I’ll never have one night stand.

How the h**l are you not gonna put a night stand on both sides of your bed? Gotta go with two.

About the s**? Yeah that’s never gonna happen either lmao.

– GamerZ44

7. “I could never do that”

S** is definitely better when you personally know that person.

You’re showing vulnerability mentally, emotionally, and obviously physically.

I could never do that with some random stranger.

– viintageteen

8. “Let people do as they please”

given that this sub only upvotes Highly popular opinions … and that reddit is full of sad, self deprecating, and lonely people (tho not exclusively) and of course people who like making others feel bad for their choices… this makes sense it reached the front page.

let people do as they please. if sleeping around is what they like them let them live. if not being monogamous makes them happy. let them be. and if they don’t want to be vulnerable then there’s nothing wrong with that.. respect other people’s decisions.

– ThisGuyRightHer3

9. “Completely different versions of the same thing”

lots of weird comments here.

Like a family cooked dinner with all my loved ones is more fulfilling than stuffing my face with fried chicken.

I still love fried chicken though.

It’s two completely different versions of the same thing.

– Expensive_Cattle

10. “The lifetime average”

This is a topic the mainstream media pushes too in addition to division, strife, and whatever else.

How the f**k is everyone f**king weekly if the goddamn lifetime average is 7?

– KILLJEFFREY

11. “Not fulfilling”

I had a FWB before marriage… It was not fulfilling for me personally.

I understand some may enjoy it, but you have to have the personality to not need personal connection to enjoy s**.

I’ve come to describe casual s** like eating a chocolate bar when you’re hungry: sure, it takes the edge off your hunger, but if you could have something more (ful)filling (like a steak), you would prefer that instead of the candy.

– olympus321

12. “Different preferences”

Different people have different preferences.

If you personally prefer one or the other that’s fine but don’t act as if your preferences are superior and talk down to anyone who likes casual s**

– elementgermanium

13. “It depends on my mood”

Like everything in life, it depends on the situation.

Sometimes I’m just looking for s**…got an itch that needs scratching.

And sometimes I’m lonely and looking for an actual connect/relationship. It depends on my mood.

– katiek1114

14. “Stop giving your attention to media”

Maybe stop giving your attention to media that as you say promotes the antithesis of what you believe in.

Some people are into that s**t; many aren’t.

Perhaps consider avoiding the forms of media that make you think that’s a common belief.

– babyshaker_on_board

15. “The only thing I want”

It depends on individual desires.

I myself have zero romantic aspirations.

Because of this, physical pleasure is the only thing I have to gain from fornication, and the only thing I want from it.

– MilkPatty_

I guess at the end of the day the answer is…why not both?

But what do you think of all this?

Give us your thoughts in the comments.

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Why Can’t We Say “I’m Not Educated On That” About Things We Don’t Know About?

When someone asks us a question, I think most of us feel badly if we don’t know the answer – which is crazy, because no one knows everything about everything, right? Or even a little bit about some things, because we all have our specialities and areas of interest.

A person on Reddit wondered why it’s not socially acceptable to just say “I’m not educated about that” when we don’t know the answer, and to not judge people (or ourselves) for not knowing everything.

Here’s the post:

“I’m not educated on that subject” needs to be a more common/accepted response

There’s this idea that every time someone asks a question about anything they expect some form of answer.

I think there’s 2 reasons:

  1. The world today let’s people have an opinion on anything whether they know about the subject or not. While there’s a ton of information it’s all watered down and bias for the most part. Even when talking to people it’s not their opinion it’s them regurgitating an opinion someone else has
  2. When you don’t have an opinion it’s seen as a negative thing as if you don’t care about what’s happening in the world or you’re stupid or something.

One of the most underrated skills is knowing when to shut up especially for us USA-ers. It’s perfect to tell someone I’m not educated in the subject or even IDGAF!

What does Reddit think about that?

We’re about to find out!

12. Not even teachers know everything.

I teach classes to engineers and engineering students. I use this phrase regularly because they can come up with some great questions. Then, I come back later with the answers.

They respect me a lot more for it than giving an answer that’s not correct or vague.

11. As they should.

I’m straight up when I dont know something. I’ll literally say to someone, unfortunately I don’t have much knowledge on that subject so I cant really speak on it. And everyone respects it. No stigma whatsoever

So yeah, more people should definitely admit when they don’t know something. Nothing will happen haha

10. Just be honest.

I use variations of these quite often, my go to is, ‘I believe (X), but let me refer to (the expert source) to get the final answer, just to make sure you’re getting completely accurate information’ or ‘honestly, I don’t know but I’ll gladly look into it and get back to you once I have the answer’

9. It doesn’t mean you’re dumb – the opposite, actually.

It’s a trait I recognized in my father and grew to adore: if he didn’t know something he would say as much. He might have fun hypothesizing over what the answer could possibly be, but he wasn’t married to his guesses and would only do it as a fun exercise until he found out what the answer was.

Growing up with him as the most intelligent man I’ve ever known, and watching him regularly say he wasn’t sure about something or another, and then looking at my friends’s fathers and their reluctance to ever say they didn’t know something made me realize that the truly smart people know when to keep their mouths shut and defer to the experts.

Smart people become smart by learning the answers to their questions instead of simply assuming that their first guess is correct.

8. If you want to get specific.

I prefer “I don’t know enough to have a sufficiently reliable opinion on the matter, so I would be inclined to take the input of those more educated on the topic over my own opinion.

This will allow me to build a more informed opinion on similar situations, and develop a better discernment between wise men and sly men.”

7. Communication skills are for everyone.

It’s funny, (through great effort & many therapists) I have developed the habit. I actually used it earlier today. But I learned it because I never saw it used. My parents used communication skills so poor I was able to eventually extrapolate good skills.

Well… Okay-ish skills. (I’m trying.)

But as a PhD today, I can definitely say that a significant indicator of intelligence is not knowing things but how someone deals with not knowing something.

6. They shouldn’t, anyway.

For real. I do that all the time.

My background is in science and you will get s**t on if you try to talk about things you don’t actually know about. It’s second nature at this point for me to say “this isn’t my specialty, but these are my thoughts…” or whatever.

No one thinks less of you for being aware of your own limitations.

5. What was modeled for you?

I grew up with the exact opposite father. He would constantly make stuff up and acts like he knew everything. Watching his arrogant behaviour growing up (which has now devolved into him being a conspiracy nut who’s wholly anti-vaccine) caused me to vow to never be that way.

I’m not hesitant to admit I don’t know something, and I try to help others find answers if they ask and I don’t know the answer off the top of my head.

4. Make it a team effort.

I was a supervisor of a small parts assembly team for a few years. When I started I had zero experience with their particular assemblies.

For the first few months whenever an employee would come up to me with a question, my response was almost always “I don’t know, but let’s see if we can figure it out”

This worked great to build a relationship with the employees and also allowed me as an outsider to give new ideas when their processes and procedures didn’t work very well.

3. Wise words.

My parents always said “you don’t need to know the answer for every question, just know how to find the answers you don’t know.”

I grew up with a huge dictionary and I always had to look up a word I didn’t know. They wouldn’t tell me the answer.

2. You can go on the offensive, too.

This also chains well into challenging someone who may be talking out of their a$$. “I don’t know enough about that to speak on it. What’s your expertise? How did you learn about it?”

A bulls*%tter’s position will quickly stutter.

1. Learning the hard way.

I learned to do this the hard way. Years ago, a friend of mine and another acquaintance I didn’t know that well were on a walk. My friend asked a question about good exercises for someone with bad knees. Me being the know-it-all and an aerobics instructor, jumped in with some stuff I pulled out of my a$$.

The other guy was patient and didn’t say anything. After I was finished going on and on, he gave his input and really seemed to know what he was talking about. Later that day I found out he was a doctor. Then I realized she’d really meant for the question to be directed towards him.

I felt like such an a**. But from that point on, I never again just jumped to answer a question with the authority of an expert. I always assume that someone else in the room might know more than me. And if I’m not sure about something, I’ll admit it.

And if I do know a little bit about something but it’s all just from googling and not from a formal education, I’ll admit that too and say, “Please disregard this if someone more knowledgeable says otherwise. I learned this at Google University.” I think I’ve saved myself a lot of potential embarrassment this way.

I’m going to adopt this in my life – maybe you could, too, and we could start a trend!

Thoughts? Leave them in the comments.

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Should Kids Be Banned From Restaurants Until They’re Old Enough to Sit Still?

Going out to eat with young children is honestly more of a hassle than it’s usually worth, if you ask this mom of two preschoolers. You can’t enjoy your meal because you’re dealing with entertaining kids, or cutting up food, or you’re getting up to take one to the bathroom or whatever.

It’s not that I have an issue taking care of my kids, but if I’m going to pay extra to have a nice meal served to me, I would like to, you know. Enjoy it.

That said, my making the decision to do takeout until my kids are more self-sufficient and someone telling me I have to are two different things – but the latter is exactly what this unpopular opinion suggests should be the norm.

If you’re curious how many agree (or disagree), these 17 Redditors are sharing their thoughts.

17. There’s definitely a sliding scale.

Seems like a super popular opinion.

If a kid is screaming and crying we just get our food put in boxes and leave

We dont let the kids be little crazy a$ses at the table or leave their seats

But if a toddler forgets and talks or laughs too loud every once in awhile or squeals every now and then people can deal with it, as long as they are behaving well in general.

16. This is exactly me.

Once my kids hit about the age of about 18 months we said goodbye to dining in til they were about 4 or 5. It just isn’t very relaxing. We would save it for date nights or when either my husband or I went out separately with friends.

I don’t get mad if I see other parents out with their kids. That’s their choice. Good for them. For me personally, just a better experience when the kids are a bit older!

15. Servers have choices, too.

This is why I’ve always worked in fine dining restaurants in large expensive cities whenever possible.

There aren’t as many families living in cities like NY or SF, and the price tag for a night out is often a deterrent for families with small children. Not saying people with children don’t have cash to burn, but they are usually budgeting for kid stuff during those years. Plus there isn’t ever a kids menu, at places like that, and most parents don’t want to drop that much money on food their kid might not even eat.

We would occasionally get children during Nutcracker season at this one spot I worked, but they were all well behaved, and passed the screaming toddler age- because you don’t take kids that young to the Ballet and thus we never had them in for pre show dinner.

14. There could be kid hours.

My son was always very good in restaurants. However, we’d always go at times when there was hardly anyone else there to cause minimum disruption if there was ever an issue.

I don’t think there ever was, though.

13. How else can we teach them how to behave?

Can’t believe this is unpopular. But the only way to teach them is to take them out. You have to be willing to walk out AS SOON AS the get antsy and won’t settle right back down.

We did this with triplets-only had to walk out a couple times with my triplets. One of us took kids to car other got food to go. Went home and served the kids sandwiches (only the one or ones who caused the issue) while we ate the nice dinner. This cured them right away.

It isn’t hard but parents have to be willing to stand firm.

12. Parents have to do their part.

We took my nephew when he was very little but he was also well-behaved. Towards the end of the meal he would sometimes get restless so I’d either pick him up and walk around the restaurant or take him outside.

If he wanted to walk I would hold his hand and walk him around inside and out until the others were ready to go. He never screamed or threw fits in restaurants.

Maybe he was exceptionally good but it really was not that hard to be attentive to his needs and not be disruptive to others.

11. We want to see some effort.

I’m in the boat of as long as the parents are making an effort to keep the kid under control, then I’m fine. Kids will be kids and as long as the parents aren’t just letting them run wild, then I understand.

10. Kids will be kids.

I agree, it’s up to the parents. We deserve to go out and eat with our kids if we want to, but if not, that’s fine too.

Kids can be obnoxious but it doesn’t mean they don’t deserve nice things like going out to eat at a special place with their family.

9. As long as they stay in their seats.

Talking isn’t a problem, kids talk, they’re loud, sometimes little ones squeal when they are happy…

But getting out of their seat and running around, climbing over or under booths, having tantrums and loud enough that the cooks in the back can hear them over the sound of the dishes and hoods…

That sh%t shouldn’t be happening anywhere.

8. Now there’s an idea.

Restaurants use to have smoking and non-smoking sections; they’ve needed kids and non-kids section for years.

Unless it’s not a kid friendly restaurant. I think the worst situation I ever had involving kids, was a parent who let her two kids take all the salt and pepper shakers off the table, and throw them into the fireplace… while the other kid was climbing on bar stools and sticking his hand into the olives…

The mother only spoke mandarin and we had a very difficult time getting them to leave! They weren’t even dining in, they brought outside food and just sat themselves.. was a whole debacle.

7. I think we can all agree this is wrong.

I went to a literal pub once and someone brought two screaming toddlers on Friday night with about 100 adults downing beers and shots.

Went to an expensive Hibachi grill and someone brought their baby who was also promptly frightened into screaming by the fire. So yeah…. Agree 100%

6. Some people ruin it for the rest of us.

I had a kid, not even a toddler, probably 4 or 5, standing a table and throw crayons at me. The parent just ignored it and kept talking to me. Next it was chips he was throwing. Still not being corrected at all. I told him to stop and his mother got loud and rude at me. I was so glad when she stormed out.

Some people are unbelievable.

5. It does seem controversial.

For every person telling me that this isn’t an unpopular opinion, there is a comment telling me that I am a child hater and that children should be allowed to be children and society should be accepting of it

4. Or making silly comments.

This is honestly how I sometimes feel about public bathrooms. I feel like there needs to be public bathrooms specified for the use of adults with their small children.

I like to be able to shit without children screaming bloody murder in the bathroom.

Or peeking under the door at you. I was once on a long road trip. Guts had been gurgling and angry for a bit. We stopped at a Whataburger where there was only one stall in the bathroom (but it was still set up like it should’ve housed more stalls, so a stall within a private women’s room). Since the restaurant was relatively empty aside from one other family with a 3-4 year old, I decided to try to relieve my poor bowels.

I settled into the stall prepared to relax and wait (since road trip + foreign bathroom meant things would be a bit slower). Not two minutes in, the little 3-4 year old girl comes into the bathroom BY HERSELF. Obviously, there’s nowhere for her to do her business so she starts trying to open my stall door. I said “I’m sorry, this is occupied.” She waited a couple more minutes, then started CRAWLING UNDER THE STALL DOOR.

I shielded my parts and told her to please give me privacy. Once she was on the correct side of the stall again, I realized my bowel movement wasn’t happening and I gave up.

I couldn’t believe that those parents would let their small child go to the bathroom by herself. Sure, there should’ve been another stall for her to use, but jesus. If she doesn’t know not to crawl under stall doors, she’s too young to go by herself.

3. You can’t make a blanket statement.

I take my daughter with us to restaurants whenever we go, she’s 2. We have always held her to the same standards for restaurants as we do at home. She’s not allowed to get down and run around or scream during meal times. We have never ever had a problem with her at restaurants, she sits there quietly and happily with a crayon and a cup of water. I know I’m her mom and you may think I’m biased, but to be completely honest, I am so proud of her because of how well behaved she is.

My best friend on the other hand, is the parent that everyone f**king hates. Her 3 year old is an absolute terror at restaurants. The entire time, the child is running around screaming and laying under the table, it is absolutely maddening. I hate going out to eat with her because her child sets and example for mine, and my child behaves worse when she is around.

Anyways, my point is that not all children are the same, and it makes me really upset to see parents allow that kind of behavior in public because it gives a bad name to all kids.

2. Maybe HER children.

My husband and I went out on a date night. I think it was Applebee’s or Chili’s or some similar place where families dining there is to be accepted. However…the kids at the booth behind us were throwing things and climbing over the top.

We asked to be moved and the wait staff was very accommodating and nice about it. But when we walked by the other table, the mom said something about people who hate children.

Sorry lady, don’t hate children. Just your children on that particular night.

1. Know your audience.

Was at a bar with some friends and my one friend says “f** k.”

Couple comes up and asks him to watch his language because their kid is with them.

We just stared at them and said you brought your five year old to a bar.

You’re going to hear some bad words.

There are just too many variables as far as reasons people ending up needing to eat out with small children, and honestly, they’re not responsible for your comfort.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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People Talk About Whether It’s OK to Restrict Your Partner’s Online Watching Habits

Hold onto your hats, because today we’re diving into one of the most genuinely controversial things posted to Unpopular Opinions in a while.

And it’s all about…”adult entertainment.”

I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone if they watch pr0n.
Now don’t downvote this because you disagree, I know its an unpopular opinion, but I am genuinely uncomfortable by people watching pr0n while they’re in a relationship with me. It honestly feels like cheating. Why would you need to get sexual gratification somewhere else when I am literally right here willing to give you all the material you could ever want? Why do you need to get that from another woman?

I’m currently in a serious relationship and I’ve talked this through with my partner and he is ok with it and respects my boundaries. I am completely committed to the person I’m dating and I will only go to them for things that I deem exclusive to a romantic relationship, therefore I expect the same from them. When I masturbate I only masturbate to them and I expect the same. When I feel genuine romantic emotions, I only feel them toward them, and I expect the same. The reason being is that I am very, very serious about long term relationships and I’d feel like I was doing something very wrong if I thought of anyone else in this way.

If you’ve discussed it with your partner and you’re both ok with pr0n, thats cool, but I’ve been pressured by multiple people in the past to act like I’m ok with it, but I just never have been. Pr0n is something I’m highly uncomfortable with, it makes me feel jealous and betrayed and it makes me feel like I’m not good enough. Those should be valid emotions to feel, but people try to make it seem like its irrational to feel that way when I truly believe it isn’t.

I know a lot of people feel the same way as me, just know that its ok to set boundaries in your relationship because your feelings are just as valid as your partner’s. That goes for anything, really.

Turns out the people of Reddit have a LOT of thoughts and feelings about this.

1. Some gave kudos.

Great post.

You know what you want in a relationship, discussed it with your partner, came to an understanding that you both agree upon.

That’s exactly how it should be done.

– drmarts1973

2. But is this openness or just intimidation?

If my partner was adamant about me not watching p**n to the degree that they’d consider it cheating if I did, I would never in a million years share my deeper sexual desires with them.

Now, that’s just me personally and if you guys do communicate a lot and well there’s probably not an issue but I think this is the one thing you’re missing; As far as YOU know he doesn’t have sexual desires you wouldn’t be comfortable with, but you’ve taken such a hard stance on something far less consequential that it kind of implies that you’d have a negative reaction to, for example, very kinky s**.

This isn’t guaranteed or anything, but based on your post and what I’ve read of your responses that’s at least how I’d personally feel.

– Pridetoss

3. Well that’s…um…

Bruh my ex didn’t want me to watch p**n back then and she only wanted to have s** every six months. My s** drive is off the f**king charts. I don’t want to force her soooo.

We all know how that end up lmaoo.

– chili_oil_best_oil

4. Some called red flag, no question.

Wtf is this thread. It’s very unhealthy to try and control people’s behaviour and s**ual expression. Your bf can’t control how you dress. Or who your friends are.

“But it makes me uncomfortable”

Yes that’s what possessiveness is.

This isn’t an unpopular opinion it’s an unhealthy one. You can’t encourage people to be so clingy and anxious. Your bf can only c** if he thinks of you? When someone is in a relationship they can literally only ever think of you?

Doomed to failure. Instead you need to learn how to cope with other people’s behaviours. You need to learn that love isn’t meant to be all encompassing. Your partner shouldn’t be the only person in the world.

I would really consider it a red flag in any relationship.

– Kaiisim

5. The term “thought policing” came up a lo.

I can get the p**n thing, but expecting to be able to police your partners thoughts? That’s borderline abusive.

It’s so unhealthy and OP really should examine why she feels so insecure in her relationships that other women can’t even take up any space in her partner’s private thoughts.

– scottishlastname

6. And then this person wrote the opposite diatribe.

Watching people in this thread absolutely bend over backwards to defend the idea of watching p**nography is insane to me.

How is it controlling to ask your partner to not watch other people f**king? Would your opinion be changed if OP’s partner were going to a friend’s house to watch two people f**k and bate in the corner? (I’m not trying to strawman; this is a genuine question because in my mind they are not very different from each other.) P**n has been proven time and time again to impact sexuality. Wanting your intimate relationship with your partner to progress at a natural pace is not controlling, imo.

People are bringing up the idea of “thought policing” in regards to OP’s partner’s masturbatory practices. While I can sort of understand arriving at that conclusion, I highly doubt OP is popping in every time their partner masturbates to be like “hey, make sure you’re thinking about me.” I’m pretty sure it was a one time conversation where she made her preferences known, and she trusts her partner to make private decisions in regards to that boundary.

I understand that people have s**ual needs, and that sometimes they just want to c**. I do not think that all people who use p**nography on a regular basis are bad people with ill intentions. However, when you’re in a long-term relationship with someone, I don’t think its controlling or insecure to ask your partner to not watch p**n. P**n is idealistic and largely plays at humanity’s base fantasies – aka, big breasts/penises, “ideal” looking genitalia, and overall extremely “attractive” people. I’d feel pretty insecure if my partner was consistently seeking sexual content from people who look very different from me.

Idk, maybe I’m the weird one here, but I agree with OP. I don’t think its controlling as long as it’s something that’s talked about early and with tact in a relationship. If you wouldn’t want to date somebody who wouldn’t want you watching p**n, that’s fine!! But defending p**n as a morally neutral thing is just pretty silly, imo. I just think it’s weird that people are accusing OP of being controlling and trying to change her opinion. There are plenty of valid reasons to dislike p**n, especially in a long term romantic relationship.

– LegitAllergic2TheSun

7. Is it insecurity? Or a reasonable expectation?

The only time a gf had a problem with p**n was when I was 18 and she was really insecure.

I especially wonder about the part where OP expects him to only think about her during masturbation. It might work in the early stages of a relationship, but I think it’s completely unrealistic for a relationship that lasts several years.

Chances are, because of how strict she is about this stuff, he’s just gonna lie to her about it. And honestly I think it’s perfectly harmless if he does. Those are his private thoughts after all, they don’t necessarily mean anything.

– HighwayTemporary3266

8. “To each their own.”

I couldn’t imagine asking someone to not watch it. To each their own though.

As long as you find someone who’s comfortable with your boundary, you are in the right mind.

Happy you’re expressing your feelings. Most people wouldn’t.

– MavenMermaid

9. Love the use of “unorthodox” here.

I don’t really think this is crazy, a little unorthodox, but I’m guess there are more people who’d prefer their significant other didn’t watch pr0n than do

– Butterfriedbacon

10. There’s a broader question of the industry in general.

I agree with you, but in my case it goes beyond that. I just don’t like that people in general support this f**ked up industry… Luckily for me, both me and my boyfriend think like that, so it’s fine.

– NineTailedDevil

11. Most dissenters were caught up on one particular element.

‘When I masturbate I only masturbate to them and I expect the same.’

Red f**king flag. I’d jump ship as soon as I heard that, and I don’t even remember the last time I watched p**n. I prefer reading it.

You don’t get to control your partners thoughts and trying to is abusive.

– left_tiddy

12. How bad is the harm?

I don’t think it’s wrong to feel that way.

P**n is addictive in nature and twist people’s perceptions of what intimacy should be like.

I’m willing to say that it has destroyed more relationships than anyone is willing to admit.

– Emanouche

13. Is it a together thing?

I mean everyone has their own boundaries which is fine.

For me I don’t like the idea of my boyfriend looking at another girl’s nudes at all, and probably wouldn’t be comfortable with p**n unless we watched it together.

– keIIzzz

14. Maybe it’s downright courteous?

Tbh I think when people in relationships watch p**n is because they don’t want to make their partners uncomfortable by hounding them with their needs.

In fairness, one person is always gonna be h**nier than the other, and watching p**n instead of making your partner uncomfortable is actually pretty solid logic.

– IzJusMeOG

15. “The hub.”

I’ve straight up had my girl hand me her phone with the hub opened up because she didn’t wanna deal with it lmao

– someguyat3am

An enlightening conversation as always, Reddit.

What do you think about this?

Give us your opinion in the comments.

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How Do We Change the View That Being a Workaholic Is a Good Thing?

In America, people flex about being a “workaholic” – someone who is always plugged into their job, who works way more hours than they get paid for, who can’t put work out of their mind, and who even prioritizes work over family, friends, and their own mental health.

In other parts of the world, like in much of Europe, those traits are frowned upon and not terribly common. People take long vacations with their families and are expected to have a healthy balance between their jobs and their person lives.

Being a ‘Workaholic’ needs to be seen as a taboo and looked down upon by society. from unpopularopinion

Novel, right?

These 13 Redditors are weighing in on whether or not this whole “healthy balance” trend could find a place in American culture.

13. Like that ever did any good.

“You shouldn’t do X because otherwise people will expect others to do X”.

Which is the problem, X or the expectation of it?

The expectation. So direct your complaints at management.

12. It certainly can be.

Or managers should just hold people to normal standards of productivity, regardless of whether or not another employee is working more often or harder. Sounds like a management issue to me.

11. Happiness is key.

I make hiring decisions from time to time, and I never hire workaholics. Hard workers, yes, but not workaholics. Happy employees are more fun and easier to work with, and workaholics can easily poison a work environment.

10. Management definitely needs to take a hard look in the mirror.

I feel like management either totally overworks their employees or underworks their employees. I’m on the opposite end and this whole month basically working from hone it’s been super slow for me, to the point where last week I literally just layed on the couch and worked for maybe 2 hours all week.

Had a meeting with my manager and once question he had for me is my workload is too tough.

9. Some people need boundaries.

In Japan it was such an insidious social pressure that they would have to make new laws or shut off lights after hours so people would leave work at the end of the day. I think that seeing being a workaholic as something positive is kind of destructive.

It’s different if you are passionate about your own business, though.

8. How easily they forget.

To add on to that, corporate should remember what it’s like to be the workhorses. They’re the ones that put the pressure on management, which is then passed down to the employees. All corporate is concerned about is making money.

They forgot all the work that goes into generating all that revenue.

7. Or if you do, you should make more money.

Because a society that views this positively, expects it. People who strive for a good work/ life balance shouldn’t be made to feel that they should do more.

6. The whole culture is whack.

I totally agree about the hostile work environment part. It opens the door to employers adding unreasonable workloads to their staff. I was in a salaried retail management position for several years and my bosses outlook was “if you can do your job in 40 hours good for you go home” but then would dole out 70 hours worth of work

The people getting promoted were the ones who worked 80 hour weeks. Completely unrealistic and not conducive to having a family. The salary was good for 40 hours, and complete trash for more than 60. I took a 9-5 that pays hourly and I couldn’t be happier with that decision

5. Some people don’t want balance.

Its pretty clear who in this thread works retail/other shit jobs vs people who work high paying or otherwise fulfilling jobs.

Newsflash, for some of us, our work is also our passion and what we feel is our purpose in life. I spend all day figuring out how to keep community and other rural/low income serving hospitals/medical practices viable.

Day in day out, I get to work on saving a communities hospital so they don’t have to drive 3 hours through the backroads to deliver a kid.

If that takes me 100 hours a week, so be it, I get to do the right thing and I make a bunch of money doing it.

4. Maybe salaries are the answer?

It works both ways. I’ve been salaried for over 20 years. Some weeks I’ve worked 70 -80 hrs and others, I’ve worked 30. Some, I haven’t worked at all.

My hours aren’t set in stone, I don’t clock in or out, and I’m paid according to my position and completing tasks – whether it be in the office, on a job site, driving, or whatever else I may be doing. My salary is based on 50 hrs per week, but it’s rare that I work more than 40.

I honestly don’t really pay attention.

I’m up extremely early, and in the office by 6 am, so I can avoid a couple of hours of distraction. I generally leave around 3:30 or 4, and I rarely work past noon on Friday.

Hourly positions, by and large, require you to be there and be seen working and performing a set list of duties at all times.

This isn’t to say that all companies have the same work culture, but I know many that do, and I’ve heard some horror stories about those that don’t. That’s the great thing about a free market. You can choose to stay in a job you hate or seek out a better situation.

3. There is always a downside.

One of the most common regrets on people’s death beds is having worked too much in their life, instead of taking time off to be with family or cultivate a hobby or travel and have another passion.

There are positive benefits to working, of course, such as more financial stability, and staying mentally active as well as socially connected. But too much of it is often bad, even if the person worker doesn’t realize it in the moment.

There are people who are probably harming themselves by working so hard, and being indoctrinated to think that that is the measure of a person’s value. I know people who work 12 hours a day and acknowledge this.

There’s a gigantic downside, and everyone has to work, but there are other things in life.

2. To each their own.

I think the problem for me is not that we shouldn’t look down on people who dedicate too much of their lives to their work and have a poor work/life balance, it is instead that if you mention to these people that you do not work late, or work weekends, and instead opt to pursue hobbies and passions during your free time then in my experience you are lambasted for being “lazy” or “not driven”.

Of course, it depends on who you are and if you love (hate) your job, starting a business etc but I absolutely would not have a go at someone for how they choose to use their time, just don’t come whinging to me about how you do not have time to work out or cook meals any more due to a lack of time and energy.

1. Or not…

Well because in this instance, being a workaholic, once normalized, gives additional power to business owners and changes the standard in their favor, like how the proliferation of college degrees has made degrees the minimum now and hiring managers won’t have to worry about employees leaving or asking for promotions because they are in student loan debt slavery and need a paycheck more than they need career power.

Do you want to be competing with a majority of workaholics? Not a workaholic? Less opportunity.

If everybody thinks they have to be a workaholic or corporations expect workaholics, and that then becomes the standard. More production from them with their new workaholics, but you know damn well sure they aren’t going to be paying them more.

Take your vacation days, people. Your employer would replace you in a heartbeat if you died.

Just sayin’.

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This Man Lobbies For the Idea That We Can Separate the Art from the Artist

This is a question that’s getting more and more traction in the age of cancel culture. Because of things like social media, movements like #metoo, and the twenty-four hour news cycle, we’re learning more than ever before about the creators behind some of our favorite products.

It’s not as if we’re unfamiliar with this concept – Hemingway, Roman Polanski, Woody Allen, and like, a bunch of people from old Hollywood were all jerks, and yet somehow, their work manages to stand on its own.

Just because a celebrity did something bad and cancel worthy does not mean we should disregard their catalog of work from unpopularopinion

Nowadays many people seem reluctant to still enjoy a book or movie or television show if it’s attached to someone we later learn is a horrible human being – but should it be that way?

This guy argues not, so let’s see what the responses say on Reddit.

12. It can depend on the lens.

Its also very selective who we ostracize and who we don’t.

For example the msm wants to cancel Marilyn Manson yet the Grammy’s invited Cardi B (drugged and robbed men) to perform

11. It can be done.

One ought to be able to hold in one’s head simultaneously the two facts that Dali is a good draughtsman and a disgusting human being. The one does not invalidate or, in a sense, affect the other.

The first thing that we demand of a wall is that it shall stand up. If it stands up, it is a good wall, and the question of what purpose it serves is separable from that. And yet even the best wall in the world deserves to be pulled down if it surrounds a concentration camp. In the same way it should be possible to say, ‘This is a good book or a good picture, and it ought to be burned by the public hangman.’

Unless one can say that, at least in imagination, one is shirking the implications of the fact that an artist is also a citizen and a human being. -George Orwell

10. Some people do seem to largely get a pass.

I’d like to point out that everyone loves Michael Jackson still, and elvis presley, and lena Dunham. As well as how many rock stars that had groupies that were underage or barely legal that they’ve had s^x and done drugs with.

Another one is if we took all the movies Harvey Weinstein every had anything to do with off of the face of the earth that would be so many. Yes they’ve done horrible things but does that mean I’m not going to watch a movie or listen to thriller every again or that I condone what they’ve done no.

Am I going to buy their personal memoirs and be an obsessed fan no. I think thats the distinction if you’re enjoying their public works thats ok but when you start buying all their merch and reading all their biographies and the like then thats when you became part of the problem.

9. Those decisions are tough.

I dislike Kevin Spacey as much as the next person but there’s no way I’m disregarding all of his iconic performances.

Even to this day, I maintain that continuing House of Cards without him was a big mistake. Just canceling the show right then and there would’ve been perfectly understandable.

As excellent as Robin Wright was, she was only a half of that show.

8. It’s a slippery slope.

One thing to consider about this opinion is that if we start to consider more of the art over the artist (their behaviour/life/deeds) then it becomes a way of life where we actively encourage and contribute to that behaviour by sponsoring them through their art.

It’s like paying more for an author’s (outstanding, unparalleled, very enjoyable) works but the work of someone who outright ostracises segments of people. Slowly it may turn mainstream – that’s how usually propaganda works. Or marketing. And monopolies. Or addiction.

First they hook people in with good freebies, then with lower prices, and then before we know it, people are addicted.

I mean, that’s how money laundering works at many levels too.

7. There’s no easy answer.

Seinfeld went on Colbert discussing the issue regarding Bill Cosby.

What I find so memorable is how easy it is to follow their reasoning, and as much as I respect these men as comedians, I disagree so vehemently about their conclusion. The climax of Seinfeld’s documentary, Comedian, he meets his #1 inspiration and hero, Bill Cosby.

Fast forward to this interview, and he dismisses the very art that got him to where he is now.

6. For some, it’s really that simple.

Meh. I don’t help professional a$$holes make any money off of me.

Tom Cruise is dead to me.

5. Maybe it just takes time.

I mean, we literally do the same thing for past figures and cultures.

4. For some, it’s black and white.

Upvoted because it’s actually unpopular. I completely disagree. I never look at it, read it, listen to it, feel it ever, the same way again.

Guess I’m weird for monsters still affecting me in this day and age.

3. Enjoy it, but don’t give them money.

Okay, but here’s the thing. I love Gary Glitter’s cheesy goddamn music, but I do not want that sick creep making a dollar off of me, so I scrupulously do not stream his music nor would I purchase anything of his at retail.

Same with Polanski. Rosemary’s Baby is a riot, but I watch my second-hand dvd and I do not stream it, even though it would be convenient.

2. If you wanna get deep…

This is a moral dilemma that has existed since time immemorial. People are complex individuals and in the end you can only answer this question in the absence of emotions, but emotions are needed to look at and feel art.

Someone should be subjective and objective at the same time and not lose their mind.

1. Human beings are complex individuals.

Agreed. HP Lovecraft was a vile racist excuse for a human. He’s also the father of modern horror genre. Both these things are true. I love his writings and I hate him, especially for what he named his cat

I think this is a super tough question, and I think the answer is probably (annoyingly) “it depends.”

What are your thoughts? We really want to hear them down in the comments!

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This is Why One Person Thinks High School Shouldn’t Start Earlier Than 10 A.M.

Reddit’s Unpopular Opinion thread is the place to go for people who think they know a better way to do things, or a way things should be done – that said, oftentimes it ends up being more of a popular opinion than people thought.

Validation!

This guy basically wrote a dissertation about why teenagers shouldn’t be required to get up so early.

We know TWO things about teenagers: (1) they need between 8-10 hours of sleep per night and (2) that their circadian rhythms, or the biological mechanism that regulates human sleep and wakeness patterns, operate in a way that, on average, they don’t start producing melatonin until after 11 PM.

Taking those two facts into consideration, the typical high class has class at around 7 am and most students have to wake up between an hour or two hours before their first class if they don’t want to be late. So like at 5 or 6 am. Let’s assume that teens fall asleep right on the dot at 11 pm (even though in reality they actually fall asleep much later since melatonin takes time to induce sleep), and have to wake up at 6 am. That’s only 7 hours of sleep, which is already under the 8-10 hour requirement.

And in reality since most teens fall asleep at least 15 or so minutes after 11 PM, as well as how some students wake up for school even earlier than 6, you have students getting between 4 and 6 hours of sleep, and this situation gets worse for students with jobs, lots of family obligations, extracurriculars, or lots of homework.

And listen, he’s got solutions, too!

These earlier start times just DON’T work. We already have the data for why they’re a terrible idea and even the CDC recommends that all high schools start no earlier than 8:30 am.

The reason I say 10 instead of 8:30 is because those same students who fall asleep at midnight and have to wake up two or so hours before school starts to make it on time would get 8 or 9 hours of sleep. You would have to fall asleep at 1 or 2 am to fall below the 8-10 number. That’s way better than if you had school at 8:30 or even nine.

And I know what people are gonna say. But what about students with jobs? What about athletics or clubs? What if the school day is longer?

Well, for athletics or clubs you can either have them at 9 am or have them as part of the regular school day if we reduce instruction time (which we should do anyway), so that way people don’t have to stay after school. You can also have tutorials and additional help during these times.

And about students with jobs, well I’m sorry but the rest of the school body shouldn’t have to suffer because a minority of students have jobs. What’s more, with a later start time, people have more time to spend doing things in the evening so maybe try to adjust your hours with your boss?

What does Reddit think about all of this? 10 people are weighing in!

10. We know it’s better, but…

I did my masters thesis on how to help students perform better in school. In short, studies support this. I dont know about 10, but 9 seemed reasonable for most.

Sh%t, I think I started school at like, 7:15. My gf was in honors choir, so she actually started at 6. Marching band was first hour and it was in the dark.

9. So many kids do this.

That’s why me and my homies used to sleep in school.

I slept more in school than at home some weeks, still managed decent average, schools make learning boring.

8. Thank goodness for college.

Yep… School started at 8am for me, from kindergarten till the end of high school, so I got up at 7 every school day for 14 years straight.

Then in college, the earliest any class you could enroll in started at 8:30. I’ve purposely avoided those at all costs. I’ve had a couple courses that started at 9:30, and even those were really hard to get to on time, or even at all.

I think I’d flunk out of college if I ever had to wake up for a class at 7am again.

7. This is ideal.

I teach middle school and we start at 8:20, which I like but feel is still a bit early.

8:45 would be perfect.

6. Because of society.

The general gist of it is teenagers are benefited by starting school later.

Youngsters are benefited by starting school EARLIER.

We do it the exact f**king opposite.

5.  Most of them are silent until lunch.

Maybe 8 or 9ish?

10 seems late to me.

It was amazing how some kids had enough energy to fight at 7am, I’d just be there half dead.

4. To put it bluntly.

Yes, we’ve chosen to value productivity over the developmental needs of our children.

This is very bad because kids who aren’t given the chance to grow as they should are obviously going to carry that forward into adulthood.

3. A minor quibble.

Got some of your data wrong.

Melatonin is produced at 1045, so the average international time to fall asleep is indeed at 11:00 pm sharp.

If you then want an average of 9 hours of sleep, you wake up at 8.

Delaying it until 10 has no basis in science (I lived far away from school and still didn’t need to wake up 2 damn hours beforehand), but there is a reason why most psychologists are calling for a start time no earlier than 830.

2. That’s so tough.

I don’t wake up til like noon.

High school was basically impossible because I’d just sleep all day.

That was until I flipped my schedule so that I would sleep when getting home and wake up at night.

Do my homework when I wake up and then end the day by going to school.

1. We have to grow up sometime.

People are angry in these comments.

I didn’t read the body bc its far too long but I remember in high school I was confused why the high school started the earliest out of all three types of school and I still am.

However ten is too late too. I’d say 8 or 9 though. I mean most adults work 9-5.

It makes sense, but what a big job it would be to switch things around.

Do you think we should try to make it happen? Tell us why or why not in the comments!

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Should a Person Propose in Public or Private? These 14 People Say It Probably Depends.

You would probably think that marriage proposals would be as unique as the people making and receiving them, but in the past couple of decades it seems to have become some kind of grand gesture, one-up your friends competition to see who can do it up the biggest – and often the most public.

This person thinks they should go back to being private moments between the only two people in the equation who actually matter, if for no other reason than some people are uncomfortable with a big moment like that taking place in front of others.

Private proposals is way better than public proposal from unpopularopinion

And you know, if you’re the one doing the proposing…what if they say no?

These 14 people are weighing in, so let’s find out if this is actually an unpopular opinion at all.

14. That’s something to consider.

I definitely agree with you, but in the case of OP’s argument (I don’t think they’ve come to this conclusion but it’s something I thought of when reading their title), you could make the case that a large number of people see the relatively few public proposals, and think “oh that’s so sweet I wish something like that happened to me,” which falls into the “I only actually want that in a very specific scenario with a very specific person under specific circumstances” that a lot of other “romantic gestures” fall into.

13. Take it from someone who has been there.

I said I wanted to marry my ex fiancé. He proposed in a semi public location and I was embarrassed and had the gut reaction to say no, but said yes. We ended up breaking up a few months later, but he thought he was doing it right. The whole situation was awkward , I hate attention on me and he did it at a busy mini golf course (we used to go mini golfing on every trip we took). I didn’t want random people seeing or congratulating us, so I said yes really quickly and tried to get it over with as quickly as possible.

Next time I get proposed to, I know I’ll be saying yes but I really hope there aren’t a bunch of random strangers around.

12. I’m going to need to see the data on this.

But if you compare the number of public proposals to private proposals, you will find that this actually is a popular opinion.

11. When you’re all mature and stuff.

15+ years ago I was having a beer in the living room with my now wife:

Me: So when are we getting married?

Her: I don’t know…

Me: We should do it this summer, at [beach I grew up on].

Her: What do you mean? We can’t, just, get married….

Me: Sure we can! C’mon, it’ll just be you and me and we’ll get married and it’ll be awesome.

Her: Oh my God! We’re going to get married!!!!

10. There are many more options.

I’d assume private is the more suitable because you can do a lot of stuff in private. Like set up your whole house or take them somewhere beautiful like a mountain range.

9. Most people do talk about it ahead of time.

Another opinion tagged on to yours. Proposals shouldn’t be a “surprise” if you’re surprised that your SO proposed I ask you…what did you think was going to happen? How has this never come up? I understand if the way they proposed is a romantic surprise but if you’re with a person long enough the future, marriage, family, all that shouldve come up

8. It’s all about the likes.

Yah. And they’re plastered in social media. Even the ones I’ve seen on social media are usually pretty intimate settings with close friends. I think only the most vain people prefer super public proposals.

7. You’ve gotta know your partner.

Its all about expectation. Taking your wife to see a zombie movie really only works if your wife likes zombie movies or wants to be scared. If she doesnt like zombies and being scared, then all you have done is just scared her and she will be upset with you. In the same way a proposal is about expectations.

Often enough, a good proposal is never a suprise. The couple has gotten intimate enough that they talk about kids, marriage and long terms plans. They know that they want to get married, the proposal is just a way for the partner to cement it. In this way a proposal only works when the wife expects it, just like taking her to see a zombie movie.

6. As long as you’re on the same page…

And if they say no then it would just be embarrassing and awkward to you.
I think the trick here is to make sure the person you’re proposing wants to marry you and you’re not just asking them in the hopes you’ll surprise them into wanting to do it.

5. Is anyone ever REALLY surprised?

Agreed my girlfriend and I have been chatting about for a few months, now basically we have an idea where we want to get married and have an engagement ring just need to get it professionally cleaned and sized. I find it mind blowing how people don’t know about their SO’s proposal thoughts.

4. A good rule to live by.

Yeah, the actual proposal can be a surprise, but the answer shouldn’t be.

3. He just couldn’t wait. I love it.

Not sure that this is unpopular. But that being said- my fiancé (he proposed LAST NIGHT- still in shock), had a plan for a small proposal with my family.

But he ended up coming to my office after my work day and said he couldn’t wait anymore. It was so perfectly intimate and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

2. This feels very gross.

A lot of the times this is done by manipulative people who feel like the publicity will make sure the partner says yes.

1. Those shouldn’t be done with an audience, either.

Oh…marriage proposal. For the first line or so, I thought you meant proposals to investors or to the planning commission or something.

I have to agree with OP, personally, but if you’re sure your partner loves to do it up big, then go for making a splash.

No skin off my nose.

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What’s Better? Wireless or Wired Headphones? People Shared Their Thoughts.

I haven’t taken the big leap to wireless headphones yet, so I feel like I should remain a neutral observer in this debate…

But other folks sure have thoughts about it!

What’s better, wired or wireless headphones?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Overrated.

“AirPods are overrated.

You have to charge them. You have to keep track of many components (both pods, case, charger). You can easily lose them or drop them into an endless abyss that is the subway grate in the sidewalk.

Not wired headphones! You never have to worry about if they’re charged; they’ll never die mid-run! When you drop them, they’re not likely to fall somewhere to their death, and they’re harder to lose!!

Maybe this is the poor grad student coming out on me- but wired headphones have my vote any day!!”

2. That’s a big one!

“Main advantage of wired is that people see them and don’t try to talk to you.

Well, most people don’t…”

3. One person’s opinion.

“As per me, AirPods are earphones and not to be considered headphones.

Now when it comes to technical headphones which go over your head and cover your ears fully, wired will always give you better quality. But for easy of use and flexibility wireless are the boss.

I have a sony xm3, never felt the need to go for the wire. Yes, I’m not a true audiophile though.

Coming back to AirPods, they suck and ae just for making a statement. Any pair of quality headphones would beat the shi*t out of AirPods or any other wireless earphones.”

4. That can be painful.

“Main advantage of wireless vs wired imo:

No snagging on random knobs, corners, even my own hand sometimes.”

5. Some advantages.

Aa good set of wireless over-ears like a pair of Marshall’s can last a long time on a charge.

Bigger batteries, no case to keep track of.

Can be great for use with these headphone jack-less phones.”

6. Not a fan…

“Never liked any type of earbuds as I find them extremely uncomfortable to wear.

For my gaming I prefer wireless as it lets me stay on voice chat if I have to run to the fridge or let the dogs out.

Like someone else said here though, they have bigger batteries so unless you forgot to charge them you shouldn’t have a problem with them dying unless you are on a 24 hour plus marathon.”

7. I’ll take the wired ones.

“I paint murals.

Day one of AirPods they fell out of my ears into a paint bucket. Corded ones have been going strong for years.

It’s definitely situational.”

8. For the music lovers.

“It’s a fact that wired headphones produce superior acoustic quality.

You don’t see music producers rocking AirPods in the studio.”

9. Wireless all the way.

“I use my wireless earbuds with everything I do: Brushing my teeth, cleaning my room, working out etc.

Which is all a lot easier to do with wireless. I’ve been running with wired ones before and they just fall out.

Also, Audio is always much clearer. And battery life should last a while + charging is super quick.

I agree that AirPods are overrated though. My earbuds are made so that they don’t fall out your ears when exercising. I think you just need to buy the right ones.”

10. Good point.

“You gotta also consider that Bungee effect, when your cellphone falls and wired headphones save the phone from total destruction.”

11. No more wires.

“After buying wireless headphones both gaming and AirPods for phone usage I will never ever go back.

Wires are so annoying and you can charge both at night or whenever you’re not using them.

There isn’t a single disadvantage that would counter just the fact that you have no bloody wires.”

12. I’ll take both, please.

“I like to keep both. While I do prefer the wireless as they’re very convenient, I sometimes do forget to charge them.

So having the wired ones as a reliable back up is nice, though they can get in the way of things and you’re overall more restricted in movement, especially during jacket season.”

13. One last thought.

“I held off on wireless headphones for quite some time.

But the reality is AirPods are super convenient (easy to switch between devices, you can get up and walk around without carrying your device, no cord getting tangled up).

In terms of sound quality, voice quality and avoiding the hassle of having another device to charge… yes wireless are definitely better.”

Now it’s your turn.

Tell us what you think in the comments: wireless or wired headphones…

Let the debate begin!

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People Debate Whether School Cultivates a Fear of Failure in Children

I can honestly say that school DID NOT cultivate a fear of failure in me personally, but I’m just one example…

I know times have changed at least a little bit since I was in school, but in my school, if you weren’t a great athlete, you were kind of invisible…

I’m not complaining at all, I got good grades and had a blast in school with my friends, but I didn’t feel like the teachers were really all that interested in me in one way or another, so it was all a wash…

Do you think school cultivates a fear of failure in students?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. The system…

“I feel like the school system barely does anything to try and spark interest in learning and instead just beats in a fear of failure due to the grading system causing students to fear making mistakes and instead focus on just trying to get good scores.

When a kid who might be a slow learner doesn’t understand something but the class is already moving on to another topic their going to feel embarrassed and anxious and instead of trying to fully understand the topics they’re just going to try and memorize as much as they can for that week just to do well on that week’s pop quiz or whatever and then forget that sh*t right after.”

2. Still haunted.

“I changed school systems a lot as a kid. One of those was between 3rd and 4th grade.

The school I went to during 3rd grade was about a year or two ahead of the school I went to during 4th grade in maths, so I had a really easy time and often ended up very bored, and occasionally made minor errors I may not have if I were paying attention.

Instead of being happy that I understood the material or encouraging me, my teacher berated me for every minor mistake and told my mother that I was causing problems.

This is the same teacher who made me count every book I read as half a book for our class reading challenge because I “read too much and it wouldn’t be fair”.

She haunts me to this day.”

3. That’s not good.

“Isn’t it funny that the one time in your life where you can fail and have almost no consequences is also the time that you are convinced that the world will end if you make one small mistake?”

4. Not encouraging…

“Schools push kids towards “success” by giving them everything ready-made.

Interest and perseverance is induced when they are told to figure out something on their own.

The skill of figuring out a problem helps throughout one’s life. Sadly, schools don’t encourage that.”

5. All about funding.

“Most schools only care about test scores because it’s how they get their funding. Realistically the whole system is geared toward grades and that does not correlate to an education.

I am very tactile when it comes to learning, so regurgitating facts back into a test was never my strong suite.

I did well enough to go to college, but I feel like most people with issues like mine instead begin to think they are stupid, or unable to learn material, because it’s not about teaching anymore it’s only about results and test scores.”

6. And on top of that…

“Not only that, but schools don’t teach sh*t.

They teach you how to memorize. I don’t remember anything I learned after I do a test on it, yet I remember various random lines from an engaging video on YouTube that I looked up because I was interested.

School is not run well whatsoever.”

7. Here’s who to get mad at.

“Schools don’t choose what they teach. Common Core determines that.

Teachers don’t want to teach what they are forced to teach. If you want to get angry at someone get mad at your school board and do some research and you’ll see how it’s basically lobbyists for giant education corporations to make sure they have exclusive rights to this district etc. It’s a business first, your child’s education is last.

And truthfully, if you think the federal government wants what is best for your children… Then you obviously never learned much yourself.”

8. The way it is.

“This is the modern US school system.

Chief culprits are standardized testing and No Child Left Behind, which do a waltz together while f*cking up the whole country.”

9. FAILURE.

“Not just fear of failure, school cultivates actual failure.

I think the bigger problem is it cultivates a fear of doing.

But yeah, the simplest way to do well in school is to already have the answers and that’s not how life works.”

10. Speaks to me.

“This 100% speaks to me as someone who always felt two steps behind compared to my peers in school.

It always took me a little while longer to grasp a concept. I always performed best when given a project over the span of a week or two to really think it through and draft my best work. Opposed to classes that quizzed me on every topic at the end of a week where I’d often fail.

Luckily I had parents at home that saw my potential and really pushed me to continue on into university and eventually graduate school (where I still have to put in many more hours of work to succeed compared to my peers).

But the fact that not every child has this support and has to lean on the school system completely is an issue when that very system fails them consistently.”

11. Even teachers agree.

“As a teacher, I completely agree.

I work in a broken system and every year my passion for teaching and learning erodes away.”

12. It’s about practice.

“This is why I always hated teachers that would grade homework (not a big project, more like a worksheet).

Why would you punish me for practicing something?

Practicing is not about doing it perfect the first time so what’s so different about math, science, etc.”

13. Affected.

“A bad teacher can really affect someone’s life.

I’m almost finished with a degree I don’t want because my teachers convinced me I wasn’t good at the subjects I was interested in.

Also, competition in university for admissions to programs that are small just motivates students to try and get the best grade possible instead of actually enjoying learning.”

Do you think school cultivates a fear of failure in kids?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments.

Please and thank you!

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