People Admit Skills That They Just Can’t Master

I’m talking about all kinds of things that other people seem to pick up easily that you just can’t get the hang of.

You have some of these things in your life, right?

AskReddit users went on the record and shared the common skills they can’t seem to master.

1. Small talk.

“Talking to people. Small talk.

I’m fine with people I already know, or have lots in common with, can talk for 10 hours a day about nothing. But when it comes to strangers…

What the hell is going on? Why are you talking to me, what do you want? Please just be direct.

I don’t want to play mind games. i don’t want to guess what your intentions are. Just tell me. How can I help you?

Drives me insane.”

2. Maddening.

“Winning an argument with my husband.

The more worked up I get, the calmer he gets, it’s pretty maddening.”

3. What did you say?

“Listening.

I can look someone in the eyes, while they’re arm’s length from me, and not hear what they’re saying because there’s a loud noise 100 feet away that my brain latches onto.

I frequently have to ask people to repeat themselves at work, where there’s a few continuous background noises, and while I can distinguish those noises from each other, I can’t f*cking hear people.

I know it’s not a physical issue, because I’ve been cleaning my ears out several times a week just to make sure.”

4. This is me.

“Estimating people’s ages:

Me:”So I think our sons are the same age…is he also 12?”

Them:” No, he is almost 25.”

Me: “Maybe I was thinking of your other son. ”

Them: “My other child is a daughter. ”

Me: ” Is she 12?”

Them: ” Huh? ”

Me: ” Nevermind, you must have just been standing next to another kid or something. ”

Them: ” I’m in a wheelchair. ”

Me: ” How old is it?””

5. The simple things.

“Knowing my left from my right.

Or simple math. I can visualize big things, but the simple things elude me.”

6. Look into my eyes.

“Eye contact.

I’m not shy, not anxious or anything like that but my parents never told me that eyecontact is normal and only in my teenage years did I discover that eye contact is normal.

I always thought that since i didn’t like being stared at, others wouldn’t like it either.”

7. A hot mess.

“Makeup and doing hair.

Basically anything girly.

I always look a mess no matter how hard I try compared to literally every other girl I know.”

8. That’s odd.

“I can’t use scissors.

The majority of the time I can’t get scissors to cut bags and paper smoothly. I have to call my wife in so that she can cut it for me while making endless mockeries of me.

She says it has something to do with the part of the blade I’m using to make contact with the surface of what I’m trying to cut. Been trying to improve the last 3 years we’ve been married and I’m not better.”

9. Please stay off the road.

“Driving…

I wanted to believe I could learn, and everyone tried to tell me it was so easy but I’m really losing hope. I just don’t think I’m capable. Even my driving instructor is sick of me. She was so nice before, now she just yells at me and thinks I’m not trying when I am.

I can’t focus, my mind constantly wanders and I have little slips in attention all the time no matter how much I try to just focus on driving, sometimes only being snapped out of it when someone yells at me or something dangerous is about to happen (like almost drifting into a semi in the other lane…..) I constantly miss things.

I can’t remember road rules or recall them the moment I need them, my reaction time is slow and by the time someone else would already be reacting I’m noticing the thing to react to and haven’t acted yet… I’ve been compared to a drunk driver. Honestly the drunk driver probably drives better than me.

There’s so much input at once and you’re supposed to just take it all in and act accordingly but I can’t even begin to process any of it, and certainly not as quickly as I need to in a driving environment so I just shut down, and then panic because I have no idea what to do. This is especially common at intersections.

I need time to analyze the situation and think through things carefully before deciding on a course of action but quite frankly when driving that time is not there, I can’t just sit there and think it through before every action.

So I get to an intersection and while I’m trying to figure out what to do I get yelled at because of course I haven’t figured it out fast enough and I’m expected to do something NOW NOW NOW.

There’s way too much to focus on and it’s overwhelming… There also is no consistency in driving, the driving environment is always changing which stresses me and confuses me immensely. You’re constantly having to adapt to something new.

My spacial awareness is atrocious and I have no idea where the car is in relation to other objects or if I’m centered in my lane. The view out the mirrors doesn’t really help me fully “get” what’s actually going on behind me. Even though I can see where a car is behind me in the mirror, I can’t actually conceptualize where the car is on the road unless I turn my head and look back.

Speaking of which, shoulder checks are scary, I hate taking my eyes off of what’s in front of the vehicle. Apparently when I shoulder check I turn my whole body, but sure how to stop doing that. When I try to park on the side of the road I end up several feet from the curb.

It messes me up even more that you’re not centered in a vehicle—if the drivers seat + steering was centered in the vehicle like a bicycle or an atv it would be so much easier and less confusing, but no, we get this far left side bullsh*t that screws everything up. Who the f*ck designed vehicles that way? Whyyyyyyyyyy????

The concept of “scanning” is too vague. Where do I put my eyes? How long do you look in each spot? Do you just keep looking randomly around and hope you’re watching the right things? Is there a specific method for where you move your eyes and is it the same each time or does it change depending on environment? How long do you keep your gaze on one spot?

How are you supposed to remember to constantly check your mirrors every 5 seconds? If “the car goes where you look” then how are you supposed to constantly shift your gaze to different parts of the driving scene and pick a specific point in the distance to focus on at the same time?

Are you really supposed to trust your peripherals that much? Half the time I don’t even notice if something is at the edge of my vision, the focus stays on what’s in front of me. How does anyone keep sustained attention for an entire drive without zoning out anyway? How does every drive not exhaust people to the point where you feel burnt out the rest of the day for the effort?

How do you just ignore the fact that one little mistake could kill you, or someone else? And how could you not be expected to make mistakes when learning something new? People when I ask are just like “don’t crash” yeah, thanks, you think anyone ever does it on purpose?

It’s bizzare that we just people who are just learning in the middle of traffic and expect them to “just learn” and that nobody will ever make deadly mistakes. Driving accidents are among the top causes of death in the Western world, driving is extremely dangerous no matter how you look at it. People will say “oh but you can’t worry about the inevitable.” It’s not unpreventable or unpredictable.

If I don’t drive I won’t get in a car crash. But you say: “well if you’re in someone else’s car you could still be in an accident as a passenger.” Yes. But considering the above, it’s much more likely to happen if I drive.

And yet, some part of me still longs to learn because getting rides all the time f*cking sucks and I just want the normal ability to drive like everyone else… FML.”

10. That’s not good.

“Making Kraft Mac and Cheese.

I’m a reasonably skilled cook. I know my way around a kitchen and I cook almost all of the meals for my house.

But for some reason I am incapable of making simple boxed Mac & Cheese that’s anything remotely palatable. I follow the instructions on the box and it comes out runny and soupy. I eyeball the ingredients and it’s just a mushy paste.

I’ve narrowed the point of failure down to the mixing of the Butter/Milk/Cheese Powder so at this point if that’s what I’m making then I just boil the noodles and call my S/O in to do the final steps by working whatever Alchemical affront to the natural order she uses to make it work.

Then I add pepper…”

Are there some common skills that you can’t seem to figure out?

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March 16, 2021

People Who Work in the Wedding Industry Talk About the Couples They Knew Were Doomed Right Away

I’m willing to bet that if you’re a veteran of working in the wedding industry, you have a good sense of what marriages are going to work out and which ones aren’t.

And I also bet that it’s gotta be pretty uncomfortable to be at the weddings where you just know deep down in your gut that a marriage is pretty much doomed.

People who work in the wedding industry talked on AskReddit about the marriages they knew weren’t gonna last.

1. Not a good start.

“One of my brides was nervous and got so drunk before the ceremony that she had to be helped down the aisle.

Then when the ceremony was over, instead of kissing the groom (“we now pronounce you man and wife”) she licked him from chin to eyeball. She fell during the recessional and knocked over a waiter carrying champagne.

She couldn’t be in their post ceremony photoshoot because she kept falling. When it was time to cut the cake, we couldn’t find her. Our staff went to her hotel room and found her covered in her own vomit, still in her wedding dress.

She had the audacity to ask for a refund after all of this. They’re divorced now…”

2. Oh my…

“Night before the wedding, the bride-to-be tried to sleep with me on her stag night, crying on my shoulder she wasn’t ready for marriage.

Even my 18 year old hormonal brain did a big NOPE there.

They lasted a year.”

3. Holy sh*t!

“I work catering gigs in Florida.

The bride was being super mean towards the groom during dinner and the reception, like a sarcastic “you should have known to do that already dumb*ss” tone.

Our crew figured, yep, this is a short marriage. After the obligatory dances, and dinner had started the groom came up, tipped the dj, the photographers, then came over tipped our crew way too much, thanked us very sweetly, and said he was gonna skip away and drive down to the beach a few minutes away while the party continued.

He never came back, next day we were told by the bride’s family the sheriff found his car, the groom’s body, and a gun down by the beach.”

4. It was awful…

“When I used to work the occasional wedding on weekends there was this one couple that made me think yea she’s going to end up alone.

She took the microphone in the middle of a song that everyone was happily dancing to and then kept saying “it’s my day but I’ll wait til your done your conversation!” “Don’t worry it’s only my wedding day” “helloooo bride wants to talk” blah blah it was hella rude.

When she was finally satisfied with the silence she started her speech by berating everyone for taking so long to be quiet and then went on to talk about how she’s so happy and she loves her husband and don’t take the center pieces.

It was awful if I was a guest I would’ve taken my gift and left.”

5. Handsy.

“I remember a wedding that I worked catering for that involved the Groom getting rather handsy with the Maid of Honor during the reception.

Both were drunk and a bit too close. The Bride was on the dance floor flopping around drunk off her *ss to a point of having to be escorted to a restroom to freshen up. Honestly, it always seems when the bride/groom get trashed during the reception, something happens that will cause them to split shortly after.

Not always, but its just something I noticed during the weddings I have assisted with.”

6. Red flags everywhere.

“I ran a fairly upmarket hotel and restaurant that sometimes hosted weddings.

Made a rookie error and booked in a wedding for Christmas Eve. This should have been a warning sign, as it shows a pretty significant lack of consideration for friends and family making them travel across the country on one of the most irritating days of the year, when we’d all rather be at home with family preparing for the next day.

They turned up 3 hours early and the battle axe of a bride proceeded to shout at us for not being prepared, surrounded by her incredibly embarrassed but not unsurprised family.

There were various other red flags throughout the night, but the main one was when the husband got blind drunk on whiskey and asked me to go to his hotel room with him and “break him in” as a married man. I politely refused.”

7. Did that just happen?

“Used to do wedding DJing.

Went to a storage room to grab some gear and walked in on the bride going down on the best man. I immediately closed the door, then thought, “wait, did that just happen?” And opened again to see the best man look like deer in headlights. I slammed the door again and went back to my post for the night.

My coworker said, “don’t say a f*cking word! We don’t get paid to get involved. Just collect the check and keep playing music.””

8. You could see it.

“I worked in a tux shop for a while after high school.

The friction in a couple’s relationship was directly correlated with how involved the mothers were.

Whether it was motherzilla of the bride or a momma’s boy groom, if they had their finger on the scale, you could see it.”

9. Bad news.

“Worked wedding receptions, here are some favorites:

Bride started stripping on the table while the groom was outside.

Bride and best man had s*x in a closet.

Bride lost her ring less that 3 hours after being married.

Mother of the groom lit the table on fire because she didnt like the bride or her family.

Groom was passed out drunk less than 30 mins into the reception. He pregamed in the limo. Our bartender refused to serve him when he arrived.

Groomsmen loaded him back into the limo to sleep it off and he didn’t come back that night.”

10. The best shift ever.

“I used to work at a popular wedding venue.

Bride and groom came in the day before for rehearsal, checked the decorations, and played a sweet video of the couple, standard wedding bullsh*t. Next day, bride and groom arrived fighting the entire time until reception where the groom proceeded to drink himself blind before speeches and had to be carried out, didn’t even get to play that video.

It was the best shift ever, got to go home early and take home a bunch of food already paid for.”

11. Good grief.

“You know how they say 50% of weddings end in divorce? I can pretty much predetermine who that 50% are going to be with about 98% accuracy.

I bake wedding cakes for a living. I own my own bakery, but have also worked in a country club kitchen, doing basically the same thing + other pastry chef duties day of weddings. I’ve seen them both for the tasting/design consultation, and on their wedding day.

I see how they interact when they’re just together, but also when under stress of the big day. I’ve seen everything. Lots of cheating, lots of drunks, lots of terrible mothers.

Once had a Mama’s boy who ignored his wife when they were supposed to be having their cake tasting to cuddle their mother and hand feed her cake. His mother was NOT supposed to be there, and you could tell the bride was p*ssed. By the end of it he had kissed his mother on the lips multiple times. Divorce.

Have seen a woman bitch and complain at everything her fiancé said. Any suggestions he had for what he liked resulted in him being called stupid. Anytime she’d open her mouth he’d cower and flinch.

Their cake actually got canceled like a month before the wedding, so we didn’t get anything but the deposit even though we’d started baking it. First time I’ve lost out on money and I’ve been relieved.

Once had this arrogant d*ckhead Turkish guy marrying into this Bangladeshi family. Bride was sweet, about 10 years older than him, and came from a fairly well off family.

Generally got the impression that this being a Turk/South Asian marriage was kind of a big deal, even though they’re both Muslim, but since she was 30-something they wanted her to get married so they allowed it.

Guy complains about everything during the planning process, especially over them not serving alcohol. Is generally a d*ck to us, but is just straight up cruel to her. Like at one point when we were meeting I asked after her wedding dress, because south asian wedding dresses are gorgeous.

She’s showing me this amazing dress and he says straight up ‘I don’t know what she picked that one, she looks fat and old in it. every other woman is going to be more beautiful than her one her wedding day.’ He then shows me this dress he picked out, which isn’t traditional south asian style at all, and is very western and very fugly and basically makes the model in the picture look naked it’s so sheer.

When she says something about how no mosque would let her in dressed like that and her traditions are important, he just sneered and said she should ‘get over it’ and her traditions weren’t that important. Divorce red flag.

Found out later they didn’t last a day. From the way the servers tell it, midway through the reception, guy raises his hand to his new bride when she asked him a question about being drunk and she flinched and turned away, protecting her face.

He grabs her by the arm and rips her around, p*ssed. Her mother and aunt were standing three feet from her and lost their f*cking minds, realizing what must’ve been happening there. His response when Mom started to lose her sh*t on him was to hit the mother.

So in the middle of this very big, 600+ person Bangladeshi wedding, this 20-something outsider d*ckhead no one wanted her to marry anyway smacked a well respected woman in their community. There was a brawl, the cops were called, marriage was annulled.”

12. Capturing moments.

“As the filmmaker, my entire job was centered around capturing shared moments of emotion & chemistry. These are what make it into the edit. These are what make your wedding film amazing.

But when you realize you have almost no chemistry to capture, it becomes clear that the edit is going to lack the magic that is, you know, love. I can tell you of 2 experiences that I know of.

1: The couple treated the wedding like a bachelor party and only hung out with their respective circles. The groom drinking and laughing loudly amidst his drunk old men was not a good vibe, a very hostile table.

The kicker? They each got their own photographers and filmmakers… eventually their conflict became our conflict.

They divorced very shortly after.

2: A political celebrity wedding, they didn’t care about my camera crew and instead they invited and treated the paparazzi cameras as priority! My main cam guy had to argue with security to get the shots we need!

They essentially cared more about the next day front page & glamour magazines, than their memories. The guy was also known for corruption and there was an incident where his ‘lover’ arrived and made a scene… I just googled them now and I see they are publicly fighting each other in the news!

(She says he watches too much p*rn on a tv interview, then he had her arrested last week – wow!).”

Have you ever had a gut feeling about a marriage ending badly and it ended up coming true?

If so, tell us your stories in the comments.

We look forward to hearing from you!

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March 16, 2021

What Things From the 2000s Need to Come Back? Here’s What People Said.

It’s hard to believe that we’re already in the 2020s…

I feel like only yesterday it was 2005…or maybe 2010…

But here we are!

And we’re getting to that time when we’re starting to miss stuff from the 2000s.

What things from the early 2000s need to make big comebacks?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. See through.

“See through casing for our technology.

See through phones, game boys, computers, they were the sh*t!”

2. Bring it on!

“Sidekick phone.

I can afford one now.

My parents can’t say no anymore.”

3. A positive era.

“I really miss the Wild West feeling of the internet and how it felt like it was full of people’s personal passion projects, sh*tty garish websites all about their hobby or niche interest.

We weren’t ruled by online life or connectivity, but you did have the advantage of being reachable if needed. Mobiles were great once we persuaded elderly relatives to get one in case they had a fall, but no-one was on them all the time because we weren’t really using them to access the internet.

And the internet was something you connected to and disconnected from, and wasn’t as central to our lives or as commercialised as now, but it was comprehensive enough that we already had the ‘information superhighway’ where you could find out so much information.

I actually liked some of the fashion too, and it just felt more ‘fun’ than serious.

The early 2000s were a positive era. As someone else said, it felt like the only way to go was up.”

4. Lookin’ cool.

“Heelies.

I wasn’t allowed to have them as a kid, so I’d love to normalize it as a method of travel as opposed to something like hover boards, especially since you don’t have to figure out where to put them when you reach your destination—they just be chillin in your shoes.

Also, entirely human powered, no electricity, so much better environmental footprint.”

5. Great comedies.

“I wish as many good big comedy movies came out now as in the 2000s.”

6. That’s crazy.

“Being anonymous online.

Back in the day you wouldn’t put any personal information out there.

My friend is trying to date online and he’s been told multiple times it’s a red flag that he has no social media.

It’s all crazy.”

7. Yes we can!

“Just the energy of the early 2000s.

I don’t know why, but it seemed like back then we had a lot more people and companies with the “because we can” attitude.”

8. Through the roof.

“House prices.

The housing market in 2020s is way too pricey, and renting is no longer a viable option because those prices raised too!”

9. Where did it go?

“Pop-Punk.

It seems like every Emo and Pop-Punk band from 2005 have turned into electronic pop artist.

I miss the days when you could actually hear a guitar on the radio.”

10. Both of these things.

“MySpace. They didn’t sell our information.

Also, Pop Music that’s fun instead of trying too hard to be edgy and depressing.”

11. Put on your blades!

“Rollerblading.

I remember I stopped watching the Xgames once they removed Blading. Skiing is the closest thing to it still popular these days.

Is just so smooth and stylish and I feel like it needs a fair shake so people can see how far it has come.

It can definitely hold its own next to skateboarding and BMX.”

12. Revolution rock.

“System of a Down.

There’s so much social and political cr*p going on.

I really want Serj and Daron to sing and scream about it in a simultaneously very serious and very silly way.”

13. You need that separation.

“I miss when workplaces recognized the separation of work and home life.

As in, if I posted a dumb video of me trying to do a kick flip on a skateboard, my workplace won’t try to take action against me for doing so.

I agree with workplaces getting involved on some level, but ultimately, just stop stalking the cr*p out of me.”

What do you think needs to make a comeback from the early 2000s?

Talk to us in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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March 16, 2021

People Share the Uncomfortable Things They’ve Seen Couples Do at Their Weddings

The older you get, the more weddings you have to go to.

Your friends and family members get married and you kind of become an old hand at it. And with that experience, you also see the good, the bad, and the ugly.

And you also see the AWKWARD.

What’s the most cringeworthy thing you’ve seen a couple do on their wedding day?

Here’s what folks had to say on AskReddit.

1. A terrible idea.

“They sang their vows to each other.

Neither had a singing voice.

Vows were generally bat sh*t crazy, like submissive in the bedroom, and not asking about where she was going.

The autotune microphones were a terrible idea.

Their vow songs shared a chorus and it was awful and they expected the guests to sing along with the chorus.

The vows singing lasted 20 minutes.

Pure cringe.”

2. A trashy affair.

“My friend got pregnant at 20 with a piece of sh*t guy so they got married.

It was me, our friend, her mom and then just the two of them.. they got married in some random lady’s house, we sat on computer chairs in a small living room with the ladies dogs sniffing us and barking. The whole thing lasted maybe 5 or 10 minutes.

After we proceeded to take wedding pictures in the parking lot of a Dollar Store and then we got McDonald’s. I made a little bouquet out of some ferns and leaves that were in the McDonald’s parking lot, she threw the bouquet and it ended up getting run over by someone going to the drive thru.

Lol needless to say, it was a trashy affair and their marriage didn’t last long.”

3. Third time’s a charm.

“When I was 11 my cousin got married for the third time.

I never really liked her because A.) She was 37 when I was 11, we didn’t have a lot in common and B.) She was pretty full of herself. The wedding itself was fine, pretty boring but fine. Then we get to the reception.

We were told we had to sit down as soon as we got there, some people found it weird but I’ve only been to one other wedding before this (her other marriages were when I was little, no kids were allowed at her weddings) so I didn’t think anything of it.

The Bride and Groom then make a huge dramatic entrance and everyone awkwardly clapped for them as they strutted around the room with actual crowns on their heads. The Bride then gets the microphone and hands it to her mom and asks her to say something she loves about the bride.

She then tells her mom to pass it on and says she wants EVERYONE in the room to say one thing they absolutely love about the bride. Not the bride and groom, not their relationship, just the bride herself. It was super awkward.”

4. That’s way too much.

“They reenacted a scene from an old romantic film, about two lovers in 1800s.

In front of like 300 people.”

5. Sounds amazing.

“It’s a tie between my sister breaking her knee (seriously) at her own wedding dancing to Cotton Eyed Joe and my stepsister having her reception at an honest to god truck stop while 6 months pregnant.

In her defense, the food was good but WOW was it weird walking through a gas station in formal wear.”

6. Pledge your allegiance.

“At the beginning of the reception, we all had to stand up and sing the national anthem.

To be clear, this was in another country I’d never been to a wedding in before, so I thought “ok maybe this is just a tradition I’ve never heard of before here!” Then I told this to other people, and they were all like “no, that’s just really weird.”

Also, at that wedding the father of the groom ended his speech with what I’m sure he thought was an amazing joke, on how it’s easier to build a bridge to Hawaii than to understand what a woman is thinking.

It would have been awkward enough had the man not also been standing between his ex and current wife as he was delivering it.”

7. Sounds like a hoot.

“Serve macaroni and cheese only to the bridal party. Everyone else got mashed potatoes.

I was a hostess so I got macaroni and cheese, after tasting it there was no way in hell they would’ve broken the bank preparing enough for everyone.

It was just really tacky because people were asking for it and I told them I didn’t know much about it I am just following directions.”

8. Freedom!

“Bride entered to Braveheart soundtrack blasting on boom box. Civil service that lasted a few minutes starting at around 1 pm.

She leaves to same blasting Braveheart soundtrack. The mother announces that the reception starts at 5:30 pm. There is no food and no bar, but trays of dessert bars will be served. We are also told the venue is locked until then so there is no place to wait!

My girlfriend and I leave with a crowd of people to across the street to an Irish pub for drinks. A bit of a party breaks out there. We all get told to knock it off and come wait back at the venue in the hall. So we sit in the hall on the carpet for a few hours without drinks or dinner.

Bride and groom arrive and enter the venue to an “honour guard” of floor hockey players wearing hockey jerseys and holding sticks above their heads like swords at a royal wedding. More Braveheart music of course.

Place emptied out pretty quick as people either left to go back to the pub or to the fast food place a bit further away. Our dinner was lemon squares and a can of Coke from a vending machine in the lobby.

Funny stuff.”

9. Cringeworthy.

“The bride decided to sing as she walked down the aisle.

She was not a particularly talented singer, and she was singing over a Carrie Underwood song so we could all hear the original vocal track.

She finished walking about halfway through the song and then stood there and sang the rest of the song at the groom and all we could do was sit there and watch.”

10. Total disaster.

“They began the wedding with the groom playing an out of tune guitar and singing to the bride.

They were sitting on chairs in front of everyone, legit 400 people, and the bride was clearly uncomfortable which made everyone else uncomfortable. That wedding also included a foot washing ceremony, and when the bride put her shoes back on she tripped on her dress and fell flat on her face.

They hadn’t done the vows yet and the ceremony stopped for 20 minutes to deal with the nosebleed she gave herself.”

11. Over before it started.

“Bride shows up almost 2 hours late to her own wedding. Southern California in an open field no water no shade.

She shows up and wants to get married in her yoga outfit. The groom shut it down and when she refused to change her clothes the groom decided to leave her looking stupid and they never got married.

I spoke with my uncle and it turns out he had speculation that his fiancé was sleeping with her personal trainer. When she showed up in her yoga outfit it was all he needed to call off the wedding. She ended up married to her personal trainer and divorced again.”

12. Bizarre.

“The ceremony also was the “Name Reveal”.

They changed their last name because they didn’t want to be stuck to their heritage and didn’t want anything to hold them back.

Turns out they changed their name thinking they could erase their mountains of debt or at least hide from it. Turns out you can’t live under two legal identities….”

13. Livin’ that vape life.

“Instead of throwing rice (or confetti, or sprinkles, or anything like that) the bride and groom asked their friends to save all their empty Juul pods and throw those as they walked down the aisle.

The friends obliged.”

Okay, you’re up!

In the comments, tell us about the awkward things that you’ve seen brides and grooms do at weddings.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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March 16, 2021

Veterinarians Discuss What They Wish People Knew About Their Pets

Even if you’ve owned a bunch of dogs, cats, or other animals before, there’s always more to learn.

And we all want what’s best for our furry little friends because they’re part of the family, no doubt about that.

So pay attention to what you’re about to read, okay?

Vets talked about what they wish all pet owners knew about their pets on AskReddit. Let’s take a look.

1. This is good.

“Anthropomorphizing your pets will probably kill them.

Your snake is not lonely in its habitat and does not want to be pulled from it to hang out. Your salamander is not hiding 24/7 because it’s shy. Your cat is not p*ssing on your bed because it’s mad at you, and your rabbit does not chew cords because it likes the chewy plastic coating. Do not apply human emotions to your pets like that – they are not human and they do not experience the world like we do.

Your snake is a solitary animal (look don’t touch) that wants to be left alone in its warm habitat. Your salamander is probably hiding because you didn’t put enough enrichment (caves, other hiding places, plants) in its tank. Your cat is probably p*ssing on your bed because it’s sick and definitely needs to go to the vet.

And your rabbit chews cords because that’s what rabbits do so hide the d*mn things when you let it run around.”

2. Body language.

“I am a vet.

I wish people just even had a BASIC understanding of dog or cat body language. The number of videos posted on reddit of animals in distress and its tagged as “oh my little fluffster is so cute when he plays!” Or whatever makes my blood boil.

That kind of moronic ignorance is what gets children bit by the pet dog or the cat who is now dying because the owner had no idea of the signs 4 months ago.”

3. Handle with care.

“I wished that they undersood that they have a live creature that need all type of care.

Not just medical but environmental enrichment, a correct and healthy diet and even emotional care.

But the average pet owner thinks they just have a teddy bear or something.”

4. Pay attention.

“If you see a stray cat with a cleanly clipped ear tip do not take it to a shelter. Either take it home to live with you or leave it on the street.

Clipped ears mean they were caught, neutered/spayed by the city/county, and released. This is a way to control cat populations and, over time, protect wildlife. They compete for resources with fertile cats without adding to the population.

In many cities, stray cats are more likely to be adopted from the street than in the shelter. If the cat is taken to a shelter they cannot legally release it because it is now abandoning the animal. That cat will be euthanized, or at best absorbs resources until it finds a home.”

5. Don’t do it.

“Ripping your cat’s claws out to preserve your furniture is absolutely disgusting and inhumane.

Don’t justify it by saying that at least you’re giving him/her a good home.

You’re depriving the animal of one of the core essence of being a cat!”

6. Take care of those teeth.

“Dental disease is WAY more serious than you think. Get the scale and polish.

If we have to extract teeth (and believe me, we would prefer not to), they will still be able to eat.”

7. It’s for the best.

“Get your pet a series of cartrophen (or zydax, or pentosan polysulfate) injections when they turn 8.

They help slow down the progression of arthritis and are safe and cost-effective.”

8. A pro tip.

“If your cat is stressed at the vet, take home some gabapentin to put on her food before their next visit.

They will be safe, happy, and calm, and the vet will be able to examine her more thoroughly.”

9. They love them all.

“We love your pet.

Even when they hate us, we honestly try to make them feel safe and comfortable. But what we have to do is scary and sometimes hurts.

We don’t think less of you as an owner when your pet is upset or gets aggressive.”

10. Not cute.

“Fat pets are not cute. They are unhealthy.

One of my saying is “if this pet was as skinny as it is fat, we would call animal control.””

11. This is a big one.

“Don’t leave your pets to be euthanized without you.

It’s hard to be there and it’s hard to watch, but if you leave them they will die scared and looking for you.”

12. All good to know.

“The internet is not a place for you to self diagnose and treat your pet.

I saw way too many things happen to pets that didn’t need to. Like putting oregano or oil in your dog’s ear to treat an ear infection. Or water. Or letting your other dog lick its ears clean.

Giant dogs and little dogs are both expensive. But giant breeds require more quantities of meds if needed. Be aware of common ailments for your breed. No, you don’t need your pet to produce a litter once. They don’t care if they have one or not.

For the love of all that is holy, stop using chain and extending leashes. Please. Don’t let your dog loose into the clinic either. Or your children. We aren’t baby sitters.

We cry with you when you lose your pet. We take every loss with us. If you aren’t there during the procedure, we are still holding them close, petting them and talking to them the whole time.

If you’re dog is super stressed or can be nippy, let us know before we begin the exam. A muzzle is safer for everyone involved if it is needed.

If you get a puppy, touch them everywhere all of the time. Lightly restrain, lift up and down onto different surfaces, get them used to noises. It will make the vet a better experience for them.

The best time to get pet insurance is when they are young, before anything has happened. If you do, READ your policy. If you don’t understand something, ask questions. There will be a waiting period before your pet’s coverage starts, so you cannot get pet insurance the day of and have it be covered.

Vets don’t get a bonus or reward for selling prescription dog food. They have them so they can aid in the treatment of whatever your pet is dealing with. Those are the companies doing the research to create specialized diets and until more holistic brands do, this is what’s out there.

Be nice to vets and their staff. Vets have one of the highest suicide rates of any profession. Techs don’t do it for the money, they usually aren’t paid well enough and the average time a person stays in that career is only 5 years.

Oh yeah, please don’t bring your cat in a bag of dog food. If you don’t have a carrier, the vet can probably lend you one or bring the cat in a pillowcase.”

Do you have any animal tips or advice to share?

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Thanks a lot!

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March 13, 2021

Am I Wrong for Wanting My Daughter’s Boyfriend to Know Her Dark Secret Before Marriage? People Weighed In.

This is a tricky one…

Have you ever had someone get involved with a friend or family member of yours and you…kind of felt sorry for the other person because they didn’t know what they were getting into?

It’s sad, but it happens a lot.

And a father took to Reddit to ask folks about a very hard situation that he’s dealing with. Here’s what he had to say.

AITA for wanting my daughter’s boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance to know her dark secret before marriage?

“I’m the dad of a 25 year old young woman who I love very much.

I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause – she is a diagnosed sociopath.

She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse towards her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help. Throughout her elementary years she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty and all other types of misbehaviors.

With an enormous amount of therapy & support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older. She received an ASPD diagnosis at 18, and I had suspected it for long prior.

After her aggressive behavior was tamed, her following years were much more fruitful. She’s law-abiding; has a decent job and a good education; and has many good friendships and admirers. Especially male admirers; she is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest. S

he uses that old dating guide “The Rules” like a Bible. She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who’s crazy about her, and who I have a very strong relationship with (we live in the same area and spend time together regularly). He is a great guy, very kind, funny and intelligent.

But I doubt she loves him. We’ve had some very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she’s been open with me that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family.

When she acted very sad and broken up over the death of one of her closest friends at the funeral, she confessed to me privately that it was all a put-on, and that she felt “pretty neutral” about the whole thing. She has also stated she has never once felt guilty about anything she’s ever done, and doesn’t know what guilt feels like.

While she enjoys being around her boyfriend and is s*xually attracted to him, I highly doubt she feels much of anything towards him love-wise.

Her boyfriend (who might propose soon) has no idea about her diagnosis, and she’s been very upfront with me that she has no plans to ever tell him, thinking it’ll scare him away.

I’ve made it clear to her that she needs to tell him the truth before they marry; that he has the right to know and consider it; or I will; to which she always responds, “I know you wouldn’t dare.” I actually would – I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this “secret” from him, and letting him walk into a marriage without this piece of knowledge.

I’m not trying to sabotage my daughter’s future. Maybe her boyfriend’s love of her personality and other aspects is enough that it won’t end the relationship. It’s his decision to make; but he deserves all the facts. Someday he’s bound to find out she’s a bit “off”; it can’t be kept a secret forever. AITA?”

That’s a tough one, indeed.

One reader said it’s best for the dad to just stay out of the situation.

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Another person argued that the soon-to-be fiancé needs to know about the daughter’s past.

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This person made a good point about the potential danger the boyfriend could be in.

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Another Reddit user said that NOT telling the boyfriend would basically mean the entire marriage starting off on the wrong foot.

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This reader spoke from experience about the terror of being involved with someone like the man’s daughter.

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And finally, this person said that it’s up to dad to tell the boyfriend the truth, no matter how hard it might be.

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What do you think?

Did this dad make the wrong move?

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March 13, 2021

Am I a Jerk For Telling My Daughter to Cancel Her Wedding? Here’s How People Responded.

You can’t marry them!

You might think this kind of thing only happens in movies, but it does happen in real life. And here’s yet another example of it.

A mother shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole?” forum on Reddit to see if she was wrong for telling her daughter that she should cancel her wedding.

Oh, boy…let’s see what happened.

AITA for telling my daughter to cancel her marriage?

“I have a daughter(27) who was with her boyfriend for 7 years and they got engaged not long ago(just a small party, not many guests).

She always talks to me about how she loved him, how he always listens to he and he was made for her. I have agreed with her, since I found him to be a good natured man, he was kind and humble and was always respectful to our family.

We’ve met his parents for dinner twice or thrice and they hit me as a little s*xist, asking questions to my wife like “I don’t know why you’re working, isn’t that the husband’s job? It’s the mothers job to be taking care of the children”.

Now that they wanted to make it more serious, they planned a marriage. Anyways we have been planning about the marriage, and one day her boyfriend comes to me and says that his parents want to talk to me. I was going to call my daughter too, but he said that she wasn’t allowed.

I went with him and his parents started talking with me about DOWRY. I was confused and said that there was no dowry and in 2020 who even gives dowry?? But boyfriend and his parents started lecturing me about how necessary it was and how my daughter would be a stay at home wife(my daughter has told me that she wants to continue her dreams so I don’t know what this is).

Anyways they told me that I should give it a thought and told me not to tell my daughter for the time being. However I immediately told my daughter about it, and she started crying saying she didn’t know that her boyfriend was so s*xist. She asked me what she could do now, and I told her that she wasn’t being forced and could cancel her marriage if she didn’t want it.

Well, that is exactly what happened and now her boyfriend and his parents are calling me saying I took away the love of his life etc… On top of that, some of her friends (some were bridesmaids) said that I was an *sshole for breaking up what would’ve been a “healthy marriage”.

But it’s my daughter’s happiness that matters. AITA?”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded to the woman’s story.

This person said the woman was not wrong and that she “saved her daughter from a life of hell.” Tell us how you really feel…

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Another reader pointed out that the daughter probably already had major doubts about the whole situation and the wedding.

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This person remarked that this kind of parenting is what is needed in today’s world.

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An individual said that the mother absolutely did the right thing in this situation.

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And this response perfectly hit the nail on the head.

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What do you think about this whole thing?

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We’d love to get your take on the situation!

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March 13, 2021

Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Telling Their Cousin That She’s Committing a Sin

I am not a religious person and I don’t really have any religious friends or family members. And when I hear stories like the one you’re about to read, I’m kind of glad about that. Because it seems like it can get in the way of a lot of relationships.

A young woman took to Reddit to get advice about the way that she’s treating her cousin. Let’s see what she had to say.

AITA for telling my cousin she’s committing a sin?

“I’ll try to keep this straight to the point but I (18F) can answer any questions you have.

A year and a half ago, my cousin (17f) and aunt (50+) immigrated from Saudi Arabia. They have been living with my family and I in Canada ever since. It’s been a real struggle for everyone to adjust. Because they are way more religious than me, they see themselves as more superior.

I can’t read or write Arabic properly, so they say “Oh poor OP, losing her faith and culture because she was born here” or they comment on the fact that I can’t read the Qur’an in the original language.

Everything I do, they comment on. I watch a show, listen to music, dye my hair, wear skinny jeans, or anything remotely fun in front of them, and they give their opinion. ” Darling, this is Haram”, “sweetie, doing this is actually not permitted” , ” OP, you can’t do this unless you want to go to hell”.

My parents have told me to keep the peace and that they’ll soon get their own place. Since the whole lockdown, my cousin has taken up a new hobby- painting. She’s actually really talented and I’m surprised she’s never painted before. I was watching anime in our shared room when she told me to turn it off. She said she can’t concentrate listening to something Haram while she painted.

I told her that she’s also committing a sin by painting a girl. (In Islam, drawing/painting any living thing is a sin) This lead to a whole fight and our parents got involved. Basically, they’re telling me to apologize because her painting isn’t harming anybody.

My cousin has stopped talking to me because my aunt made her stop painting. This caused problems between my parents and aunt because they’re telling my aunt it’s fine if she paints. Now there’s tension in our house and my parents are kind of p*ssed at me.

AITA for causing this fight? I admit I lost my temper, but after a year and a half of this, I couldn’t take it anymore. Also, my cousin was really good at painting and it was a way for her to get creative. I feel really bad now that she’s not allowed.”

Let’s see what the folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person thinks that the woman didn’t do anything wrong and that her cousin needs to be able to take some of her own medicine.

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This person stated the obvious: the woman’s cousin is very judgmental…and hypocritical.

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Another reader who is a Muslim said they think the woman’s family might be going overboard in the religion department.

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And another individual again brought up the hypocrisy of the whole situation.

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And another Muslim person said that they think the woman’s cousin and aunt are just being downright disrespectful.

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March 13, 2021

Parent Asks if They Made a Mistake by Telling Their Son’s Wife She Wasn’t a Beautiful Bride. People Weighed In.

I’m sure you already know how fragile women can be on their wedding day.

And the LAST thing you probably want to do is tell them that they don’t look absolutely stunning in their dress on their big day.

But that’s what happened with this man and they shared his story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page to get some feedback about what went down.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my son’s wife that she wasn’t a beautiful bride?

“I’m very p*ssed off over this, so maybe it is more of a misstep than I originally thought. My son got married eight months ago, to a woman we’ve never liked.

They had a surprise wedding, meaning none of us knew we were going to a wedding and we were told it was just a cocktail party. My wife wore white, now that I think of it my wife wears a lot of white and that makes DIL even more of a dumb*ss for never warning us.

Well for eight months she has been trying to spin it to make my wife look like some crazed MIL who showed up in a wedding dress. She had a wedding picture on social media and when someone commented who wore white, she wrote back “that’s my mother in law, she doesn’t like me” and a laughing emoji.

My wife called her out on it and she played the victim and whined about my wife trying to upstage her. She has made a couple snide comments, and told people who weren’t at the wedding that it was intentional.

My son knew how much this was p*ssing me off, and pulled me aside. He said that she is insecure because when she showed the wedding pictures to her best friend, who couldn’t make it, the friend immediately commented that my wife is gorgeous.

I guess her mom said something too. My wife used to model and not to be an *ss, but she draws your eye much more than DIL. He said that she is insecure, and she has always felt insecure around my wife. Also we are hispanic and she is white, and I guess her own mom was telling her she should tan and she was going to look pasty compared to everyone.

I don’t really care. I have a 15 year old daughter, so i certainly get that woman struggle with body issues, but you don’t get to take that out on someone else and spread lies.

She made another comment recently, about the picture being proof that she is the innocent one in the relationship, and I snapped at her that I am sick of hearing about the white dress, and that maybe if she put more effort into her own appearance she would have been a beautiful bride and people wouldn’t be looking at her MIL.

She stormed off and my son is mad. He actually said his mom has great self esteem (she doesn’t) so we should take the high road.”

Uh oh…family drama!

Let’s see how Reddit users responded.

This reader made it pretty clear: this guy is an *sshole.

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Another person remarked that the father was also wrong for his actions.

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This individual believes that the dad is definitely in the wrong here and that he was cruel on purpose.

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This person thinks everyone involved in the story is pretty bad…and that they’re all kind of *ssholes.

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Finally, this reader made a good point: you should always take the high road and not resort to insults.

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Oh boy…what a weird story…

Now we want to hear from you.

Tell us what you think about this situation in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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March 13, 2021

Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Not Giving Their Brother and His Wife Any Privacy

People sure can be pushy, huh?

You give someone an inch and they take a mile, right?

Well, you just might feel that way after reading this person’s account of what’s going in with his brother and his wife in a place that seems a little bit too close for comfort.

Read on, friends, and we’ll see how Reddit users reacted to this story.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife any privacy?

“My brother lost his job along with all his savings several months ago, and soon after he asked me if it would be okay if he (28M) and his wife (30F) stayed with me until they could afford their own place again.

I hesitated at first, considering I only have a 1 bedroom apartment, but according to them they had ‘no other options’ so of course I invited them over and bought a blow-up mattress for the living room.

For the first month things were manageable, although admittedly cramped. Then my brother told me that sleeping on the mattress was giving him back pains, so he asked if he could buy a small double bed for the living room.

The living room is by far the biggest room I have, so I told him that would be fine as long as there was still room for my couch/TV/bookshelves. The living room is also connected to my kitchen in an open plan style, so I reminded my brother to leave walking space around the bed.

It’s now been 2+ months and things have gotten a lot worse. When they first moved in, I would still use the living room every day to unwind on the couch after work. Now whenever I go in, there’s a strange vibe like I’m intruding.

My brother and his wife are often sitting in bed together when I go in (I always knock) and stare at me pointedly until I leave. Sometimes when I sit down they will directly ask me for some ‘alone time’ and say they would like the room to themselves.

This came to a head yesterday when my sister-in-law messaged me with a ‘timetable’ she’d made of when it would be ‘a good time’ for me to use the living room. The timetable basically says that they will allow me into the room for an hour each evening, plus 20 minutes around mealtimes.

I basically shut her down instantly and told her there was no WAY I’d be following the timetable since in the end it’s my apartment. She sent me back a HUGE message with a dozen paragraphs about how my constant presence was ‘ruining’ her marriage with my brother and they feel like they have no privacy.

I tried to talk this over with my brother that night, but when I got home neither my brother/SIL were talking to me, so he’s clearly just as p*ssed.

Today an Amazon parcel arrived for my brother with a lock for the living room door, which I told him there’s ‘absolutely no way’ I will allow him to install. My brother says I’m ‘creepy’ for wanting constant access to where they sleep and he’s insisting on installing the lock anyway.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife their privacy?”

Hmmmm…let’s see what people had to say about this.

This Reddit user said that the man’s brother and wife might be gaslighting him and that they should probably get their own place ASAP.

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And this person made a very good point: this guy is doing them A FAVOR. And this is how he gets repaid…?

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Another person pointed out that they’re staying for free in a tight space, so what the hell is this guy supposed to do about it?

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Another person on Reddit pointed out that this guy has gone above and beyond the call of duty in this situation. And they said the couple should probably vacate the premises sooner than later.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Is this guy being a total weirdo or is he not doing anything wrong?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks in advance!

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