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A Wife Told Her Husband That His Culture Is “Garbage” and Wonders if She’s The A-Hole

I think things are about to get a little touchy here!

I mean, just look at that headline…it can’t lead anywhere good, right?

But let’s get to the story…a woman wrote a post on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page asking if she was wrong for speaking out to her husband.

Let’s see what transpired…

AITA for telling my husband that his culture is garbage and I won’t “compromise” by incorporating it into our family life?

“My husband and I live in the US northeast, where I am from. “John” moved here for work several years ago, from the deep south of the US where he grew up, raised with Christian holidays but never attending church. Coincidentally, shortly before everything hit, John’s parents AND his childhood best friend “Dan” and his wife decided to move here as well.

This past weekend was the first that us three couples have gathered together since any of us moved here; we had a “distanced picnic” at our house. John sat down 2-3 minutes after I did, as he was settling our kid into his pen in the yard with us.

Dan and my FIL immediately started to “jokingly” rip on him for being “whipped” and doing “my” job of parenting our child while he was supposed to be “allowed” to just catch up with the two other men. I was trying to politely deflect when it turned to how “mean” I was for not “fixing him a plate” and serving him before serving myself.

If I thought a certain dish would run out before he got to it, or if he had asked me to, I of course would have! Dan and FIL continued to brag about how their families “do it right”, where they handle the “outside chores” while their wives handle the “inside chores” (including the care of Dan and his wife’s two children).

I think it’s important to note here that both currently live in rented condos that by their nature do not have “outdoor chores”, and both their wives have always worked full time, as I do.

The whole day was kind of wrecked by that start, and I was frustrated when John left with Dan and FIL to “go for a walk” and left me to do all the clean up alone while also looking after our kid.

I expected John to apologize when he returned hours later, but instead HE got at ME for “making [him] look bad” in front of his friend and dad. He brought up how “a traditional division of labor” is “a huge part of southern culture”, and how I was being “disrespectful” to his background by “forcing northern culture” onto him and his family.

He said he’s been building up a lot of “resentment” the past few months that I “make” him do half the chores and childcare, since in his “culture”, women do the chores and hands-on childcare, and men do the fun parenting, the discipline, mow the grass, and bring in the cars for oil changes when needed.

I was stunned but honest and told him southern culture is garbage. It’s bigotry. I lived in John’s home state for 8 years, and I saw how “southern hospitality” is reserved only for those in your in-group. Deviate from the norm–be queer, non-Christian, a POC, a liberal, a non-traditional woman–and they turn on you viciously. Does every single person act like that always? No. But it’s the culture.

John is livid and says his “culture” is just as valid as that of other global regions, religions, and ethnic groups, so I am the bigot by not “compromising” with him here and incorporating aspects of his culture into our family life the way I would if his “culture” was “Islamic or Asian or whatnot”.”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded…

This woman said that she’s about to marry a Southern (gentle)man but they’ve taken a totally different approach to the situation.

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Another reader said that their husband was raised in a s*xist environment but he has worked hard to change the behaviors that he learned from a young age.

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Another person from the South said that they vehemently disagree with some of the backward traditions there and that some Southern men are way behind the times.

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This Reddit user said that this man is controlling and that he sounds like a serious d*uchebag.

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And finally, this reader said the woman wasn’t wrong for voicing her opinion and that the women can say whatever they want because they’re the ones who are usually carrying the load. Preach!

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Now we want to hear from you.

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A Husband Told Wife He’s Separating Their Money After He Found Out About a Secret Investment. Is He Wrong?

Mo’ money, much mo’ problems.

Or maybe it’s just ANY money, mo’ problems. And this story is a doozy!

A man asked readers on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page if he was wrong for how he acted in regard to his wife and some risky business involving their money.

Let’s see what he had to say.

AITA for telling my wife I would open a separate account if she didn’t get our money back?

“I 39M have been married to my wife 36F for twelve years. We have no children, but we do have a cat and a dog who we consider to be our children.

My wife has a sister “M” 37F who has made very poor financial choices and is now heavily in debt. She refuses to get a job and instead jumps from on MLM or get rich quick scam to the next, sponging off of relatives to make ends meet.

Both me and my wife work full-time. We each have separate accounts that we use for our “fun” money for hobbies or whatever we want. We earn almost the same amount of money, with me being a little higher, so I contribute 60% and she contributes 40% to make things fair and also so we each have about the same amount of “fun money.”

We also have a joint checking and savings account that we use for the household bills and household emergency fund (like when the water heater flooded the basement in the middle of the night). Both of us have access to the joint accounts, and if we need to use it, it is never an issue, so long as we make sure to tell the other that we used funds from those accounts.

As I was going through the statements for our joint household account, I noticed that there was approximately $2,000.00 missing from the joint savings account. I noticed that they were all Venmo transfers to her sister.

When my wife came home from work I asked what this was about, and she told me that her sister needed money to start her own business. My wife sat me down and explained to me that her sister joined yet another freaking pyramid scheme, this time selling fake nails and makeup.

My wife said that she has the potential to earn six figures a month and if that was true. My wife also said that she too was going to join her sister selling these products and if she made enough would quit her job and sell them full-time with her sister.

I told my wife that she either needs to get that money back from her sister or I would open a new account for my share of the household expenses and transfer it to that account when it was time to pay bills. My wife is upset with me and does not understand why I am being so unsupportive.

I told my wife that not only did she take money and not tell me about it, she invested it into something without even considering how I would feel about it.

My SIL called me last night and said that I was a raging AH and a control freak and that I was stopping my wife from using her full potential. I told my SIL that I would support my wife in anything she chooses to do, as long as it would not cause financial harm to our family. My wife and SIL are both p*ssed at me and now I feel like an *ss.

AITA for telling my wife to get the money back?”

Well, that certainly was interesting…

And here’s how folks on AskReddit responded to the man’s story.

This reader said that the man is not in the wrong in this situation and that his wife crossed the line doing this with family money.

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Another person said they have experience with MLM schemes and that the man needs to protect his assets and he did nothing wrong in this situation.

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This individual said that they feel bad for the man who wrote the article because it seems like he constantly has to deal with this MLM nonsense from his wife.

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This person said that the man’s wife can do whatever she wants with her own money, but this incident was over the line.

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Another reader said that the man wasn’t wrong for saying this to his wife but he has to be realistic about things and realize that he ain’t getting any of that money back, which is a shame.

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Now it’s your turn.

Tell us what you think about what went down here in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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A Man Asked if He’s Wrong for Giving Son’s College Fund to Best Friend Instead of Nephew? People Weighed In.

I can’t say I’ve ever heard a story like this one…

But that’s the beauty of Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page!

You get to read all kinds of stories about problems and dilemmas that folks are having.

And we think you’ll find this one quite interesting…let’s take a look…

AITA for giving my deceased son’s college fund to his best friend instead of my nephew?

“This has been causing a conflict with my entire family. And they think that I’m being selfish and unreasonable. Let me explain first.

I M39 lost my son in 2019 due to a chronic heart condition. He was 15 years old. It was devastating and I just couldn’t take it especially when my family did little to nothing to support me during these difficult times. They didn’t bring my son meals when he was at the hospital.

They didn’t let me go home and rest even for a few hours. They didn’t take care of other things while I had a lot to deal with I wasn’t offered any help just words. They’d just talk but do nothing.

Despite the struggle. I’ve created an account for my son’s college fund and kept putting whatever I could get at the time and me and my son would talk about that a lot. He was depressed but always believed that he was going to get better and continue his education and attend college.

I started saving money To keep him motivated and to make him feel like he could be like any other kid with hopes for a good future. He had a very close friend that’s about the same age as him.

They were friends for 5 years, and I can’t express how his presence in my son’s life helped him through the worst days, sometimes his friend would spend the night with us and try to get my son to do activities and lighten up his mood all the time. To be frank his friend was closer to him than his own family.

He never stopped visiting and asking how I’m doing after my son’s death. He’d show me handmade projects he made for my son and as a way to remember him and we’d sometimes just sit and talk together or cry together.

Last week, while I was with my family my sister asked me what I was going to do with my son’s college money. I didn’t wanna mention this but since she asked I told her that I will be giving the money to my son’s friend. She barely even recognized his friend and was confused and said that my nephew deserves this money since he’s family.

My mom agreed that I wasn’t thinking straight and that I should help the people close to me-family and that my nephew has a right to go to college and I was wrong for giving this “opportunity” away to someone else.

I didn’t know what to say they kept pointing out that I was making a mistake and how my nephew will resent me if he finds out. Thing is my nephew wasn’t close to my son I don’t even know why he’d be bothered. My sister went on about not being able to afford my nephew’s college I told her this was my decision and I felt more comfortable that way.

She started lashing out, constantly texting me constantly wanting to talk to me and ending up arguing. When I snapped she had my mom calling me basically guilt tripping me and telling me I’m wrong and that I needed to think about this.

It’s just too much pressure and I’m feeling lost and unable to figure out how to deal with this.”

Here’s what folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person made a good point: it’s up to people to do whatever they want with their OWN money.

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This Reddit user agreed that the man can do whatever he wants with HIS OWN MONEY.

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This individual said that this whole situation seems a little bit morbid and that the other folks in the story are way out of line.

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A Reddit user said that the man was not wrong in this situation and that what he’s doing is the right thing.

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And this person made no bones about it: the man’s family members seem pretty terrible.

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Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Not Wanting Her Wheelchair-Bound Father to Walk Her Down the Aisle

Just the title of this article by itself makes me sad.

But that’s why the “Am I the *sshole?” forum on Reddit gives us interesting human stories to contemplate.

A woman asked if she was an *sshole for not wanting her father, who is in a wheelchair, to walk her down the aisle on her wedding day.

Let’s see what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting my dad to “walk” me down the aisle because he’s in a wheelchair?

“About three years ago my dad was injured in a really bad hit and run car accident.

He broke just about every bone in his body, and left him paralysed from the waist down. Our relationship has always been really good, but I hate seeing him in pain and admittedly try to avoid seeing him because it just makes me uncomfortable.

In November I’m getting married. I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years and he and my dad get on really well. Naturally the discussion of who was going to give me away came up in the family group chat, and I kept silent after I realised my dad would be in a wheelchair.

We always talked about him giving me away and having a dance at my wedding and I don’t want to be reminded of what could’ve been at my wedding. I messaged my mom privately and told her I want my uncle to walk me down the aisle as we’re incredibly close.

She naturally asked why and I told her that my dad being in a wheelchair would add complications to the wedding. The walkway would have to be widened to accommodate his wheelchair and he wouldn’t be able to hold my arm or give me a proper hug.

She was outraged, called me an ableist POS and removed me from the group chat. My aunt has since called me telling me my dad is absolutely devastated. AITA?”

And here’s how folks on Reddit responded.

This person, who can relate to the woman’s story, said that she is definitely wrong in this case and the had a hard time believing that anyone could act this way.

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Another reader called the woman out in a huge way.

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This person made it clear: a wheelchair doesn’t make anyone less of a person.

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Another person, who is disabled, also thinks that the woman is a major *sshole in this situation.

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And finally, another woman talked about the role her disabled father played at her wedding. And yes, they also think this woman is an *sshole. I concur!

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Wow…what do you think about what this woman did?

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A Young Man Wonders Whether Telling His Rich Parents That ‘Lower Class’ Friends Are Better Than Them? Here’s What People Said.

We got some family drama here, folks!

And this time the story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page comes to us from a teenage boy who had some choice words for his wealthy parents.

Let’s take a look…

AITA for telling my rich parents that my ‘lower class’ friends and their families are better people than they could ever dream of being?

“I’ll start by saying that I’m a 17M. Both my parents are very successful lawyers, and we live in a super nice house.

They have given me everything I could ask for, but they’re not exactly there for me emotionally. I can’t remember the last time we ate dinner together or had a decent conversation. Most of the time they’re not even home and it’s just me. I feel like a ghost in my own house.

We moved to a new town not too long ago, and my parents enrolled me in the more exclusive private school in the area. I’ve gone to private schools my entire life. But my experience at this school was horrible.

I’m short, effeminate looking, and obviously gay. The only reason I didn’t get my *ss seriously kicked was because my parents are rich.

I begged my parents to switch schools, but they were hesitant because the only other option was public schooling. I finally escaped the private school of circle jerking, and enrolled in this new school.

I guess I should mention that a few years ago, this school district expanded their enrollment zone to slightly cover a lower income area, which resulted in a handful of students from low income families being enrolled.

My first few days at this new school were brutal, with a lot of the same problems following me. Until I ran into Garfield (it’s a family name. I swear he’s not named after a cat).

He spoke up and said he would love to be my lab partner when no one else would. We quickly became friends and he introduced me to his childhood friend also attending the school named Eduardo.

Since my parents are so distant to begin with, they never noticed me spending so much time with my new friends. Garfield’s mother is a waitress and his dad a construction worker. Eduardo’s mother cleans houses and his dad works odd jobs, such as driving for Uber.

Both of their families are amazing and involved. I started dating Garfield and had real friends for the first time ever. Both Garfield and Eduardo have come over to my house about twice and met my parents.

The other day, my mother pulled me over and casually mentioned that I was spending a lot of time with that blonde boy (Garfield) and the Hispanic kid. She asked what their families did and where they lived, and I told her. She immediately became upset and said I was aiming way below my abilities and these were not the kind of influences I needed in my life.

I asked why, and she said we just live different types of lives and I’ll understand when I’m older. I freaked out and said both of them and their families have been there more for me in the six months I’ve known them than my parents ever have and that they’re cold, unfeeling snobs. My mom started crying and said public school has changed me for the worst.

I’ve never seen her cry before, and I’m starting to feel horrible. AITA for saying they’re rich hypocrites and that my friend’s families are better?”

And here’s what folks said in response to his story.

This person doesn’t think the teenager was wrong at all for what he said to his parents.

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Another Reddit user thinks that the boy’s mom might actually be upset because she’s coming to terms with her life choices.

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This person said that wealth really isn’t a good indicator of what really matters in life: character and doing the right thing.

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Another Reddit user said that the boy wasn’t wrong for what he said but that they also sympathize with the mom in this story.

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Finally, this person said that the boy was not the *sshole here but that his mom, despite her faults, most likely spent her life thinking she was making the right decisions when it came to trying to make money.

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Do you think this kid was wrong for what he said?

Or was he justified in speaking to his parents this way?

Talk to us in the comments and tell us what you think. Thanks!

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Babysitters Share Stories About When They Had to Call the Cops During a Job

Babysitting is pretty strange: you have your young kids being watched (a lot of time) by other kids who are also pretty young.

What could possibly go wrong?!?!

And sometimes, things go sideways and babysitters have to call the cops for one reason or another.

Have you ever had to call the police while babysitting?

AskReddit users shared their stories.

1. Mother of the year.

“Caught the lady blowing m*th into her 21 month old daughters face.

I exclaimed, “What the hell are you doing?!”

And she said she didn’t want her to grow up fat.”

2. Child Protective Services.

“I called CPS on the parent of a kid I babysit regularly.

The kid is older and a bit of a mental health disaster. She’s got attachment issues and some other weird habits. I’ve written about her before. Anyway, the kid lives in my neighborhood and is at the age where she can go outside and be relatively unsupervised. She runs to my house when she’s fighting with her parents or her parents are fighting.

One afternoon, she runs to my house and gives me the run down on the blow out with her mom. “She pinned me down and was threatening to punch me in the face.” Then her mom texts me asking if I have seen her and mom is really concerned that the kid is trying to get her arrested.

Since I know the kid has an interesting relationship with the truth, I am not sure who to believe. I have a heart to heart with the kid and tell her to please do what her mother asks and not start telling back. If she has to run somewhere, I’m always home.

My husband and I talk about it and we decide to make the call. Before we could make the call, she was at our house three more times for these crazy blow out fights. We relay all of this to the intake person on the phone and then didn’t ever hear anything back about it.

The kid’s mom and I are pretty good friends and she’s been giving me the run down of this free family therapy program they have been doing and I finally put the pieces together that the family therapy is actually mandated and CPS is involved.”

3. Left behind.

“I am a babysitter and used to work at a daycare. The assistant director and I had to call the police once because a child was left behind over an hour after closing time.

We were afraid her mom had been in an accident or something. Turns out there was a miscommunication between mom and dad regarding pickup.

I really just think the dad forgot about her, as the mom was always the one picking up. It makes me sad to think that her dad forgot her.”

4. Terrible.

“Dad and mom came home super drunk.

Dad started beating the sh*t out of mom over $20. She yelled from the back bedroom to call the police so I did. She came out asking me if I really called the cops….yeah I did! I was like 13 at the time.

Scared me so bad I couldn’t look at the dad the same ever again, even though they were back together not long after.”

5. Definitely call the cops.

“Yes.

I once babysat a 9 year old child and his 7 year old little sister. When I came one day to babysit them, the 7 year old had bruises and scars all over her face.

When I asked the children what happened, the 9 year old boy said that she hadn’t finished all her homework and had been beat by her parents, beating children is illegal in my country (New Zealand).”

6. Daycare.

“I was a daycare provider.

Once there was a new kid whose mom needed care while doing a job search. On the second day she never showed up and an hour after closing I called the police because mom was not answering at any of her contact numbers and I didn’t know what to do.

Mom had found a job and gone out drinking to celebrate. When they called me to update me mom had also stolen a vehicle and was being charged. Child protective services came to pick up the boy a couple hours after my call to police.

Another time I was called after hours by the police asking if I could care for one of the daycare kids because his single mother was very drunk at home and unable to take care of him. Neighbors had called the police.

The boy stayed the night with me and police arranged for his estranged father to come from out of town to pick him up at my place the next day. I am pretty sure mom lost custody completely.”

7. Weirdos.

“The very first family I ever worked for got weirder and weirder as months passed working for them.

When I started with them they both left the house to work their full-time jobs. As months passed the mom began staying home because she was “sick”. Unfortunately, it became exceedingly clear that she was extremely depressed. The mom was so kind, if not a little odd, but I felt so bad for her because her husband was literally the creepiest and most bizarre man I have ever met.

So the mom continues to stay home from work and eventually gets fired. The problem is, they lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment with 2 children. So mom stayed home to “job hunt” and I nannied for their daughters. Then the dad starts working from home, leaving me to sit inside with the two girls, their mom and their dad in the same damn room for 9 hours a day.

I eventually told them I wasn’t cool with them both working from home as they were extremely loud and the father’s home etiquette became creepier and creepier. He started having me wake him up the morning when I came in for the day. Always asleep shirtless.

Then he worked in the living room with only boxers and a robe on. He also used to insist on hugging and kissing his daughters while I was holding them. He also insisted on watching me bathe his youngest daughter. Lots of borderline harassment moments.

But what brought me to consider calling CPS on them was the way the dad would kiss his oldest daughter. He would kiss her arm slowing from her hand all the way up to her shoulder and it felt inappropriate for me as she was nearly 6.

I had an affectionate family but kissing up an arm felt extremely romantic not fatherly. He also out of nowhere would say things like “I don’t bathe with the girls anymore because it wouldn’t be appropriate.” Completely out of context.

I also learned that his last nanny came across a journal he had left open in the kitchen that comprised of notes he took in order to get over his p*rn addiction.”

8. Didn’t come back.

“I had to call the police because the parents didn’t come back!!

My dad was a gas station manager, and one day while I was hanging out with him at work a regular customer asked if I ever did any babysitting. I looked at my dad and he nodded a bit so I said sure. He told me that guy had been coming to his gas station for years and he knew him and his wife decently well and he thought it should be fine.

Well the plan was they were going to pick me up from my dads gas station and bring me to their place, go out for a while, then when they got back they would bring me back to him at the gas station. So they come get me and everything seems ok. The kids are a little bratty, fighting in the backseat but no big deal. Their house turned out to be a run down trailer in a small trailer park in the boonies.

I grew up poor so it’s not anything I wasn’t used too, but it surprised me since their car was really nice. Turned out they didn’t have a phone either, and this was right before cell phones were a really thing. So the three hours I was supposed to be there goes by, then four then five then six. At this point it’s past 10 and I’m freaking out. I decided to leave the kids in a playpen and try and see if any neighbors will let me use their phone.

After several door knocks I finally find one and call my dad. I’m in tears at this point but I give him the address and he comes to sit with me at the trailer. Another hour goes by and we call the police. The parents still didn’t come back during the whole interview process, and the kids were taken by dcs.

My dad is thinking something terrible has happened to them, as surely they wouldn’t just abandon their kids with the 15 year old babysitter right? Well they finally came home the next day (over 30 hours after they had dropped me off at their house) and it turned out they had went and done a bunch of her*in and were to messed up to keep up with time.

Turns out my Dad didn’t know the guy that well after all.”

9. A reverse story.

“I have a bit of a reverse one where the babysitter was taken away in handcuffs.

It was about 20 years ago now and my dad’s sister had 2 kids who were around 2 & 4, she hired a babysitter for the night so her and her partner could have a date night. Don’t know how they found her but she was not stable enough to handle kids as full on as they were, she ended up drugging them with her anti psychotics and ADHD meds.

The parents got home a few hours later and realized something was very wrong.. they called emergency services and the kids had to be taken away in an ambulance and the girl was arrested and charged.

It made the news and was crazy as hell but the kids were okay but I have no idea how it turned out for the babysitter.”

10. Should have called…

“I didn’t call anyone, but should have.

I was watching a kid who was around 9 who told me his dad let him smoke cigarettes. I thought he was just saying it so that I would let him (I didn’t) but when the parents came home the kid told the dad I hadn’t let him smoke and the dad scolded me and gave his child a menthol.

He smoked full flavors, I suspect he got menthols literally because his 9 year old liked them better.

The mom is in prison now for some kind of fraud and the kids live with their much much older brother. I don’t know where the dad is.”

11. Fire department.

“I had to call the fire department once.

I was babysitting my neighbors three kids which I did frequently. There was a lit candle in the fireplace mantle. The cat jumped on the mantle and over the candle catching its long, fluffy tail on fire. It it’s understandable panic it set a curtain on fire.

With three screaming kids and a flaming cat as well as burning window dressing all I could do was rush everybody outside and call 911. The cat returned about a week later filthy, half bald and with some infection.

A vet visit fixed it up and the damage to the house was relatively minor, thank God. I continued to sit for them for another 3 years”

Do you have any weird babysitting stories?

If so, spill your guts in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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People Share Their Funniest “Forgot to Turn off the Mic During Virtual Learning” Stories

We live in a Zoom-oriented world these days…which can be both good and bad.

Good because it makes remote learning and meetings a lot easier, bad because, well…we’re still living through a pandemic and we can’t do anything face-to-face for the time being.

But this has definitely led to some hilarious interactions where folks forget that their microphone is still on…

Folks on AskReddit talked about their funniest “hot mic” stories. Let’s take a look.

1. He’s gonna have to change his name.

“Heard the clapping sound of a kid j*rking off.

His name lit up and everything.”

2. Don’t come back.

“A student in my class forgot to turn off their mic, and we heard some background noises (doors closing… tapping…) and because of a display bug, we couldn’t see where the noise was from.

Then the student started saying cr*p about the teacher, “oh, yeah this is useless, he’s just writing on a tablet, even I could do that, etc.”

Everyone heard that, the teacher heard them just insult him. They didn’t come back to the classes after that.”

3. Ouch!

“My teacher got scolded by his wife (another teacher in school) because she needed to work and he didn’t repair her computer.

He was a computer technology teacher and he just keep saying “Sorry honey, I forgot. I won’t do it again. I promise it will take two seconds to fix it.” in loop because the wife went on a little rant of how he always forgot things.

When he saw the mic was still on he blushed and after a moment of silence just went on with the lesson.”

4. I hate these things…

“Was in training before classes started this year with 200 teachers.

Only principal and AP were speaking.

Teacher has her mic unmuted, phone rings, picks it up and says, “hey. Yeah. Just sitting here in another one of these godd*mn trainings. “”

5. I’ll take one, too!

“I’m a college student.

Last semester we had a girl place an entire dinner order over the phone with her mic on while we all tried to tell her that her mic was on. I think she had us muted.

She was ordering Mediterranean food. I think she got a chicken gyro.”

6. Oh my…

“I had a student’s boyfriend (both college) walk up behind her on Zoom; reach into her shirt; pull out her breasts; and start doing a little bo*b dance. She was just laughing and playfully slapping his hands away.

This was probably 30 seconds after I had just gone through my whole speech of making sure there was nothing in your browser history, Google search history, or names of folders that could be embarrassing or offensive.”

7. One and done.

“I was a guest speaker at a music college last year.

My mic was still on when I finished, went backstage and said “well that was f*cking horrible”.

I wasn’t called back to speak again.”

8. Meeting is adjourned!

“College student here!

This was last semester so it was when we had first switched to all online. I had an 8 am class that was Renaissance through Modern art history. Anyway this kid in the class didn’t have his mic muted and he was snoring. Like snoring snoring.

My poor professor tried to wake him up, and couldn’t. She also had no idea how to mute him or kick him out so we went on with the lecture. After about 5 minutes she finally said “I can’t f*cking teach to this” and ended the zoom meeting.

The rest of the semester we used voice thread instead.”

9. Hey, take it easy!

“During a virtual gym class for my high school.

A girl forgot to mute herself during a workout and yelled some obscene things very loudly.”

10. That’s sad.

“A boy accidentally forgot to turn his mic off and we heard how his mom literally verbally abuse him, then he looked at the camera and realized that the mic was on then he turned the camera and mic off.

The next day he looked like he cried all day and his mom was behind the camera; I still feel bad for that kid”

11. Gotta hit mute!

“I was visiting my best friend during a lecture and she had her mic and video turned off. She then had to join a group discussion and sometimes unmuted herself to contribute something.

After that the whole class was supposed to present their results and she supposedly muted herself again. I started venting to her how wasps are considered wild bees even though they have no business beeing bees because they’re *ssholes and suddenly we hear laughter from her professor and her classmates.

She forgot to mute herself.”

12. Helicoptering.

“A student’s mother had the habit of standing just off camera and very closely observing her kid.

I know this because one time the student “forgot” to disable the mic. Everyone heard how the mother was coaching the student how to act. Don’t look my way, smile, pay attention. It was next-level helicoptering, right on the edge of abuse in my opinion.

Our school has a good counselor and the student is getting help. All the teachers have been advised to limit contact with the mother and not make waves, lest she withdraw the student or redouble her controlling behavior. I worry about it.”

13. Close enough!

“I work in the tech industry.

I’ve been in meetings where people forget to mute themselves on LARGE company calls, with hundreds or thousands of attendees, and we’ll hear a fart and then a toilet flush.

That’s about as interesting as these meetings get though.”

How about you?

Have you had any weird encounters on Zoom during school or work?

Tell us your stories in the comments!

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People Talk About Funny Things That Have Happened When Folks Didn’t Turn Their Mics off During Online School

There are positives and negatives to our Zoom universe that we inhabit for the time being.

It makes long-distance meetings and education much easier and you don’t have to commute to an office or a school.

But…it would also be nice to sit in the same room as some other actual human beings once in a while, don’t you think?

Either way, people are still getting used to this new normal and some funny and unexpected things are gonna happen along the way.

What funny things have happened to you when you forgot to turn off your mic? Or maybe someone else did?

Check out these stories from AskReddit users.

1. Don’t disturb Mommy.

“I had to defend my thesis over Zoom and many professors came into the call to watch.

My thesis was about immune response in fish to parasites. One professor joined late and forgot to mute her mic and we got treated to this little gem:

“Shhhh. Mommy is learning about fish parasites, which is what you’ll get if you don’t stop peeing in the koi pond.””

2. Thanks, Mom.

“A girl’s mom: “Who the f*ck you on the computer fo this early in the morning?”

And asking the same thing over and over.

Teacher: “_ I think your mic is on”.”

3. Oops.

“English Zoom call.

Teacher was holding us like 15+ minutes after the period had ended. She said something along the lines of “keep working arduously” and I responded with “if she says arduously ONE MORE TIME I’m going to FLIP A TABLE”

I was not on mute.”

4. So do I…

“When I was doing an online Algebra camp, the teacher forgot to turn off his Mic while we were supposed to be doing some problems.

He said “I f*cking hate math.””

5. Good one!

“I just did 8 hour zoom calls for 7 weeks training for a new project.

On the second week, a man unmutes his call, farts the longest fart I’ve ever heard in my life, then when he finishes, mutes the call. I can see others laughing while muted at his fatal error of thinking he wasn’t muted and so he went to “mute” his call.

I found this to be the highlight of the week, but the following week the guy does it again!!! Honestly the second time I laughed but then started to wonder if it was some kind of power move…”

6. You got a free performance.

“In a math class I was in last year, we were taking a test, which you have to turn your mic on for—their way of trying to prevent cheating.

Some girl apparently forgot that hers was on and started belting out Stand By You by Rachel Platten at the top of her lungs.

It went on for the entire song and she was still humming it when I finished the test and left the call.”

7. At least you laughed.

“I teach for an online university that requires me to conduct a weekly live session.

One morning I was lecturing and a student popped in late. I said, “Hello, (student name)! Thanks for joining us.” She said, “Don’t say my name, b*tch!”, just before she realized her mic was on and turned it off.

I just laughed.”

8. Make yourself comfortable.

“Grade 3 kid stopped in the middle of the class meeting; and took his laptop to the bathroom with him.

He sat on the toilet for the rest of the meeting.”

9. Baby talk.

“I was in a meeting with my class for the first day of school and I forgot to mute myself.

I then proceeded to start noisily baby-talking my cat, who was in my lap at the time.

Embarrassing.”

10. Get it, bro!

“Last week kid in my brothers class forgot his camera was on during the first class and was smoking a giant gas mask bong on his face during the syllabus review.”

11. He blew it!

“Ironically my IT teacher forgot to turn of his mic and camera and proceeded to get in a very heated argument on the phone with his ex-girlfriend who he has a kid with.

Did I mention that she’s also a teacher at our school?

Yeah most awkward 5 minutes of my life before he realized”

12. Hot for teacher.

“During my English class, this one girl forgot to mute herself.

While my teacher was talking, she almost deafened all of us on the Zoom call answering her mother’s questions.

Her mother (from a distance): “What class are you in?”

Her (yelling): English!

Her mother: Oh, the hot teacher?

Her: Yeah that guy

Now, even I’ll admit my teacher is fairly attractive, but it does take it to another level when you get your own mother involved. Thankfully, our teacher is a chill guy and thought the whole thing was just kind of funny, and kind of just gave a general reminder to the class to keep mics muted.

She didn’t say anything for the rest of the class.”

Now we want to hear from you!

In the comments, tell us about the funny things that you’ve seen and heard on Zoom calls lately.

We can’t wait to hear your stories!

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People Talk About the Small Things Parents Do That Gives Their Kids Mental Health Issues Later in Life

I always feel very sorry for people who were raised by parents who didn’t have a whole lot of business being parents in the first place.

No one has any control over who their parents are and sometimes people just get stuck with moms and dads who really mess them up from a young age.

AskReddit users talked about the small things that moms and dads do that ended up giving their kids mental health issues later in life.

1. Keep your cool.

“Overreacting.

No matter what your kid tells you, keep it cool.

Otherwise they will be WAY less likely to come to you with problems.”

2. All good points.

“Ex-counselor here.

Not allowing ‘negative’ emotions like anger, jealousy, etc. Teach them those are normal, and what to do with your emotions.

Pressure to perform. Don’t try and make your kids something they’re not, especially if it’s what you wished you were.

Never letting them find the consequences of their mistakes. You might want to protect them, but you’re stopping them from learning how to avoid mistakes, and how to recover from them, and how to deal if other people make mistakes.

Not talking about awkward topics. S*x, bullying, addictions, masturbation, racism, cheating, classism, body image, etc aren’t often comfortable to talk about, but it’s important they learn from somewhere other than the internet.

Not dealing with and owning your own sh*t. We’ve all got problems, best to deal with it rather than perpetuate cycles. Find a therapist for yourself, and be open with your kid that you know, and you’re trying your best. It gives them space to learn grace and how to deal with their issues.”

3. DON’T.

“Don’t expect your kid to kiss the ground you walk on and see you as a god for providing food, clothes, and a roof. That’s literally the bare minimum required by law.

Don’t drill into their heads they owe you gratitude for giving them life. They didn’t have a choice in that matter.

Don’t treat them like a burden. Again it was your choice to have a child. Shouldn’t have become a parent if you couldn’t handle the responsibility

Don’t make your love conditional, only to be given when you deign it so. Not only is that cruel but it sets them up for failure in future relationships.”

4. Set boundaries.

“School psychologist here.

Not setting good boundaries or defining parent-child roles. There are a lot of parents who unintentionally reverse roles like confiding to their child about their adult problems or seeking too much comfort from their child. It can create a sense of responsibility within the child to take care of their parent and can lead to codependency and lack of boundaries in other relationships.

Also…for the love of God… don’t hit your kids, including spanking. At best it “doesn’t hurt” them. It is not supported in any research that it benefits your child. At worst it leads to a whole host of difficulties…including violence approval.”

5. Terrible idea.

“Making comments likes ‘wow, you got some chubs there bouncing on the trampoline’ to a 9 yo.

F*cking gave me an eating disorder and still dealing with body image issues.”

6. Gotta let it out.

“Crying.

Parents often say, “want something to cry about?”

And it may teach their kid that it’s bad to cry, and that bottling up emotions is good.”

7. That’s not good.

“My parents used to confide in me about things that were far above my emotional capacity at my age, and to them it may have seemed small, but it made me feel like I needed to take care of them and solve their issues when I was small.

They also seemed to pride themselves on never fighting in front of us, but because of that small thing we never learned how to peacefully resolve conflict or that disagreeing with someone isn’t something to be afraid of.”

8. Be present.

“Being inconsistent. Punished for something one time and the same behavior ignored another time.

Pay more attention to something else than the child… phone, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.

Overreacting to small things, under react to big things.

One thing to do – be present and be loving. Discipline is a form of love. Punishment is not.”

9. Ugh.

“Telling little girls that are being bullied by boys “…it means they like you so be sweet and quiet and you might get a boyfriend.””

10. This is how you feel.

“Telling your child what they feel.

As a kid, your inclination is to believe them. It wasn’t until I was in my thirties that I realized that my mother had been doing this my whole life.

For the most part, it wasn’t much of an issue, but when it was…

One day it lit up in my brain while she was talking, and I asked her to stop telling me what I was thinking because it was interfering with my ACTUAL thoughts. She’d been telling me what a nervous driver I am, so of course I can’t do x and y and I have to blah blah. I realized that most of my “nervous driving” was me thinking “mom says I’m a nervous driver” not my actual nerves.

I actually like driving.

This was more of an adult example, but she’s done this my whole life. “You don’t like x, so I made sure to not have any in the house,” or “you like y, so I thought you’d like to be included in this day of activities,” whatever it is, it’s been mom telling me what I like or don’t like.

Meanwhile, she can’t remember her left from her right, and tends to think that something I liked ten years ago must still be my favorite. It’s undermining, disrespectful, and infantilizing. It trivializes my reality, and makes it difficult to form my own opinions.

I know all of this from experiencing it as a kid.”

11. Issues.

“I believe I was a child who had issues growing up:

I had a narcissistic, fiery tempered dad. I’ve had a glass ashtray amongst other objects thrown at my face. Had an object struck 2mm away from my pupil, causing my eyes to bleed… Regularly thrown out of the house together with my clothes at 2am till the neighbours came out. Caning until my skin bled is the norm. All this happened before I reached the age of 12.

But what really tore me apart was everyday, he would go out of his way to let me know that I’m a useless human and I shouldn’t be on earth anymore. I took his advise and secretly tried to poison myself a couple of times.

My parents doesn’t know about it till today. I grew up having no regards for my own life. I figured that since my life is useless, I might as well trade mine for someone else’s life. So I became a fireman.

But seeing all the depressing things that a fireman regularly sees is life-changing. I learned to recognize love and value of life.”

12. Don’t mess with their heads like that.

“I was young when my parents began confiding in me about their marriage.

They didn’t mean any harm – they were just venting – but it really made me uncomfortable messed with my head.”

What do you think about this?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know!

Thanks in advance!

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A Man Asked if He Was Wrong for Telling Stepdaughter to Stop Using Period Products Because of Teenage Sons? People Responded.

This sounds like it could have possibly been an episode of The Brady Bunch…but maybe a little bit later, like in the ’90s.

Combining families always leads to some tricky situations and here’s another example.

A man asked people on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page if he was wrong for having a conversation with his stepdaughter about a touchy subject.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my stepdaughter to stop using period products in the bathroom she shares with my teenage sons?

“I have been living with my new wife and stepdaughter for about 6 months now. She’s 19, almost 20, and I have three sons aged 18, 16 and 15. She’s a really good kid and she’s a good influence on my sons, I really enjoy having her around.

My wife and her daughter moved into my house and sold theirs. My stepdaughters father isn’t present in her life, nor is my sons’ mother. All four children share a bathroom.

My sons have never lived for a long period of time with a woman, nor have any of them had long term girlfriends. They had short visitation periods when they were younger but never longer than an hour, so living with two women has been unusual for them.

My eldest son, 18, came to me last week and told me that his stepsister disposes of her used sanitary products in the trash can they share, but doesn’t use toilet roll or sandwich bags to disguise what they are, and it makes him uncomfortable which I think is reasonable. My sons are teenage boys and don’t want to see their stepsisters period products on full display.

A few nights ago I went into the kitchen to grab a snack and she was there doing some work for university. My wife had mentioned that she knew she was on her period so I took it as an opportunity to have a word with her. I told her my sons were uncomfortable and asked her if she’d mind putting her used products in diaper bags or flushing them down the toilet.

She laughed and told me it was rich coming from a man who “sheds like a gorilla” and has produced “three skid marking sons” which I thought was just an unnecessary attack. I’ve been nothing but nice to the girl and it’s hardly a comparison. My sons shouldn’t be subjected to her unhygienic products if it makes them uncomfortable.

She went on to lecture me about how tampons can’t be flushed and that it’s bad for the environment if she uses diaper bags for every one which I think is just an excuse. I called her a scruff and told her that this was my house and that what I say goes.

I later asked my wife if she could have a word with her and she told me I was being ridiculous and that her daughter has had her period for ten years and knows what she’s doing. When I told her it was making my sons uncomfortable she said my sons needed to get a grip and turned over and went to sleep.

This is a genuine issue to me and she didn’t care enough to have a discussion about it. I asked my stepdaughter again in the morning and she did the same as her mother, completely dismissed it. Both of them have told me to stop being so silly but I don’t see how I’m being unreasonable when it makes my sons uncomfortable.

AITA?”

You know that the good folks of Reddit were going to have something to say about this!

This person said that the stepfather was an *sshole, no doubt about it.

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Another reader said that it’s up to the man to have a talk with his sons about menstruation. Plain and simple.

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This individual said that this guy needs to get over it and do the right thing. Don’t be a jerk about it!

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Another Reddit user remarked that the man’s behavior is definitely s*xist and that he should really be ashamed of himself.

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And finally, this reader said that this guy is definitely an *sshole and that it’s just a part of life. Get with the times, man!

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Okay, now it’s your moment to shine.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this father’s actions.

We can’t wait to get your take on the situation. Thanks a lot!

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