12 People Talk About What It’s Like to Be Transgender

There’s a lot to be said for feeling comfortable in your own skin.

History is filled with people who didn’t, and suffered for it.

But there have also been a great many people, and probably more than we know, who “passed” unnoticed, as the gender they identified with.

A famous example was 19th century Irish surgeon James Barry, renowned in his day, and serving the British military in the rank of Inspector General before he died.

It was only after he died and was being prepared for burial that people discovered the truth.

It’s a difficult thing. No one should have to announce who they are, but no one should have to hide themselves either.

Like James Barry, these 12 transgender people are hiding in plain sight.

1. It’s no one’s business but yours

But it can’t be easy to hide a part of yourself from the people who are close to you.

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2. Feeling safe is so important

No one likes to be talked about. But people love to talk.

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3. Some people just want to feel seen

But, just like society has become more accepting of the gay community,
someday maybe the “stealth thing” won’t feel needed.

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4. Imagine having to navigate romantic relationships

Do you just put it out there? Bring it up on the first date?

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5. Restrooms are stressful even without bathroom bills

Even CIS people hate public restrooms.
Imagine what it must be like for the transgender community.

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6. For some, stealth is fine

As long as you can live your best life as yourself, I say go for it.

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7. It can weigh heavily on your mental health

Whether because you’re keeping a secret, or because you’re not living as your true self.

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8. It’s such a difficult decision to make

You never know how people will react. And you can’t take it back.

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9. Sometimes you get lucky

Especially if your aesthetic fits your form.

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10. It can be a long journey

Sometimes the hardest person to come out to, is yourself.

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11. It’s good to know who you are and what you want

The next step is figuring out how to get it.

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12. So buy the dress, because the second step seems to be Halloween

What better time to be yourself?

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These posts really show the different sides of being transgender.

Did we leave anything out? Let us know in the comments.

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March 1, 2021

“Was I Wrong to Tell My Childhood Bully (Who Is Transgender) That She Will Always Be the Boy Who Bullied Me?”

Just like you never forget your first kiss, you also never forget the bully (or bullies) that you had to deal with when you were growing up.

And this story of getting bullied has an interesting twist…which you’ll find out about when you keep on reading.

A person opened up on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” forum to share their story and ask for feedback.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for I telling my childhood bully (who is MtF transgender) that she will always be the “boy who bullied me”?

“When I was a in middle school, I was viciously bullied by this boy, who I’ll call Z. He spread rumors about me, called me stupid and useless every chance he got, and made school a living hell.

It’s been 12 years, and Z has since come out as MtF transgender. She messaged me over social media and asked to meet up. We went out for coffee, where she apologized for bullying me. It was along the lines of, “I’m sorry for being mean. I was young, and I was struggling with my gender identity.”

I thanked her for her apology. When she asked if she was forgiven, and I tried to avoid answering. I am still not over what she did to me. What Z did to me impacted me greatly, as I was a impressionable young girl. I struggled with self esteem for years afterwards.

Z started getting defensive. She told me that I was being petty and that I should forgive her. I told her, “Why? You will always be the boy that bullied me. An apology won’t change that.”

She got really offended when I said the word boy, and said that I was misgendering her. She called me a petty, transphobic, vindictive, and ignorant, then stormed out.

AITA?”

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this situation.

This person said that it’s the memories that count, not what gender the individual is now.

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And here’s a one-liner that people should keep in mind.

Take a look.

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Another person made a good point. You don’t have to forgive people if you don’t want to. That’s completely up to each person.

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A reader made a great point and argued that the bully is STILL bullying the writer now through these actions.

Take a look at what they had to say.

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And another Reddit user had a very similar story to tell.

And they also chimed in about how the writer of this article has done nothing wrong.

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And here’s a hot take.

This person said that “being transgender is seen as an excuse for anything and everything…”

Check out the rest of their thoughts below.

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What are your thoughts about this situation?

Was this person in the wrong? Or were they totally justified in their actions?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know what you think. Thanks in advance!

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February 28, 2019

Dictionary.com Wrecks Transphobic Celebrity Who Insisted “They” Can’t Be a Singular Pronoun

Generally speaking, you wouldn’t think that Dictionary.com had a particularly exciting presence online. I mean, sure, everyone knows to go visit them when they need a definition for a word, but I never thought I’d consider their Twitter account a must-follow, and yet here we are.

One reason I’d make such a recommendation? Well, let’s take what happened when notoriously controversial actor James Woods recently put out a not-so-subtly transphobic tweet about gender pronouns.

Woods essentially argued that “they” can only be used as a plural pronoun, and that using it as a singular pronoun is just an invention of “hare-brained liberals.”

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Well… it wasn’t long before Dictionary.com stepped in to drop some knowledge:

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Boom!

This is hardly Dictionary.com’s first foray into the realm of trolling bigots. They’ve used their extensive knowledge of the English language to serve up tasty burns to all sorts of people. Like Vice President Mike Pence…

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The word, by the way, is “sycophant.”

And of course, being the lovable language nerds that they are, they couldn’t let the president slide for his misspelling of the word “collusion.”

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Generally speaking, any time the president needs to learn some new words, Dictionary.com is there with a helpful suggestion.

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Dear Dictionary.com,

Please, never stop being who you are. Thanks.

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January 18, 2019

Trans Woman Finds Love with Man Who Turned Her Down When She Was Living as a Boy

Erin Anderson and Jared Norris are a strange case of love at first sight — it kind of took a few years to all work itself out.

That’s because Erin, a 22-year-old trans woman, initially approached her Facebook crush, Jared, while she was still living as a boy.

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“While still living (as a) a boy, I messaged Jared on Facebook saying, ‘Hey, what’s up,’” Erin recalls, according to Lad Bible. “I knew of him and added him on Facebook because he was cute. But he was having no part of it and didn’t seem interested at all, so I decided not to try anymore with him.”

However, that wasn’t the end of the story for these two. Their paths crossed again once Erin had undergone two years of hormone replacement therapy and breast augmentation.

“It was two years later when he liked one of my pictures on Instagram,” she says. “By that time I had come out as trans and a woman. I decided I was going to be upfront, so I sent him a message with my number and within five minutes, I got a message from him and we started talking. The next day was my birthday, I hung out with him and a week later we were dating officially on Facebook and have been together ever since.”

Jared’s willingness to be honest and open about Erin’s identity with his family and friends is one of the reasons that their relationship is so successful.

“Prior to dating Jared, I had been seeing people but nothing serious came about because they were afraid to tell their family or friends,” Erin says.”They would tell me they really liked me but couldn’t risk their family knowing I was trans and that was what hurt the most. But Jared didn’t fear that, he told his family that I was trans and everything, he doesn’t care what other people think.”

The two have been very open about their relationship on social media, and have even made a video openly discussing why dating trans people shouldn’t be stigmatized. According to Jared, the videos and social media posts have prompted a slew of negative and regressive responses.

“It wasn’t really well known that I was dating a trans woman at first, but when everyone found out, it was a big shocker,” Jared says. “I received a lot of death threats online with one guy saying ‘I will beat you up f*** ‘ which kind of sucked and was depressing. It’s always the same rigmarole things like ‘I hate you,’ ‘You’re disgusting,’ ‘You’re dating a dude’ and other comments.”

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However, the couple also says that they’ve received many loving and encouraging messages from people who were inspired by what they had to say.

“After getting all these death threats we talked about it and decided to ignore everybody, whether they are sending love or hate,” Jared adds. “Thankfully I had some messages encouraging us and telling us to ignore the haters.

“It reminds us that people like that are not worth our time.”

This article was first published by our partners at Woke Sloth

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