A TikTok User Asked for Examples of Men Who Are Insecure, and the Video Went Viral

We all know some guys who have to prove how masculine they are.

There are the old jokes about the size of his car proving that he’s compensating for something.

American men especially are brought up to perceive a very narrowly defined definition of masculinity as “right.”

Recently, a TikTok user challenged those assumptions when he asked his followers what their biggest indicator was for a man feeling insecure in his masculinity.

@richtiktoxic

Stitch or Duet me with your favorite indicator!! #stitchthis #toxicmasculinity #peab

♬ Esco Like Yhop ft. Shawn P – Èsco Upp

He also provided his own answer.

“I’ll go first. As soon as a man refers to himself as an ‘alpha,’ …”

In many circles, this is referred to as toxic masculinity.

Buzzfeed explains:

According to dictionary.com, toxic masculinity is defined as “a cultural concept of manliness that glorifies stoicism, strength, virility, and dominance, and that is socially maladaptive or harmful to mental health.”

Here are some of the top responses that @richtiktoxic, a photographer and environmentalist, received:

Image credit: TikTok

A lot of the responses shared similar themes.

One indicator was an obsession with money:

“When they get upset at how much money you make.”

-@marin.hope

“I made more money than my ex, so I would pay for things. But he wouldn’t let me pay — as in, he wouldn’t let me physically hand my card over to the server. So when the server would come, my ex would look me straight in the eyes and say, ‘I got this, babe.’ Then, he would hand her my card.”

-@toxicatok

Another common theme was emphasizing their straightness.

Image credit: TikTok

“When they refer to themselves as ‘super straight.’” —@reggieherold

A very common theme centered on a general aversion to anything associated with being female.

Image credit: TikTok

“When he says, ‘Periods are gross.’”

-@basicminiwheats

“Whenever they find ANY reason to discredit women’s issues.”

-@nigelmylesgordon

Image credit: TikTok

“When they hate or dislike something for the sole reason for it being a ‘girls thing.’”

-@cm12k

Many women found it was a big red flag if the guy won’t help you out with your bag.

Image credit: TikTok

And of course several reasons just fell into the category of having a generally gross personality.

“Whenever someone gets off on hating everything and constantly projecting toughness. I was like that when I was, like, 15, and my entire personality was a device to try and convince people I was tough in some way. Like, if a new song came out, I had to assert that it was terrible.”

-@cwelz_

“When they won’t date a tall girl.”

-@user715430319797

“Owning guns is a personality trait rather than just owning them.”

-@vicki.lester

“It was when he said ‘I’m the BOSS in this relationship’ for me ”

-@ninjaskuxx

These would definitely all be red flags for me. What do you think? What is the most obvious indicator for you?

Let us know in the comments.

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February 1, 2021

Is It Wrong for Young Men to Opt Out of Society and Focus on Video Games? Here’s How People Responded.

I’m not personally into gaming, but I have some friends who definitely are, and I will admit that the ones who do it spend A TON OF TIME playing video games.

Is that a good thing or a bad thing? I guess it depends on the person. To me, it doesn’t sound very appealing, but I guess it’s a lot better than some of the other things men could be doing in their spare time…

So, is it bad for men to focus on video games and hobbies instead of “traditional” things like relationships, marriage, and families?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say about this.

1. Opting out.

“There are a lot of whiny articles recently about how men don’t go to university at the same rate as young women, don’t work as many hours as they used to, and in general participate less in society and rather play video games or something.

This naturally comes at the expense of traditional life attainments such as working yourself to death, having an insanely expensive wedding, and being the sole provider for a family that will eventually kick you out.

If you read through these articles, you will find that the theme is men bad because they refuse to play the social role written for them. It’s mostly from the perspective of how this creates problems for women in the long run, but still that’s the core of it.

Contrary to what these journalists would have you believe, I think these young men are acting completely rationally when opting out of this life script. There just aren’t enough incentives to play this role, it is too risky and too exhausting, and I can personally see how one would derive way more satisfaction from hanging out with ones mates, playing video games, or being in a band. Young men don’t owe society anything.

We should just live and let live, and let people enjoy their lives in the way they want to, instead of judging them.”

2. Not worth the effort.

“As a young white man who did want all those neat lil’ things like marriage, family, house and all that jazz, I’ve found the reward not worth the effort.

The cost of living is just too damn high. If I did get the family and the house, I’d never see them since I’d be working all the time to ‘provide’…

What’s the point in taking on all that responsibility just work myself to death and not even be around?

I never see my brothers or friends with families anymore… and their families dont see them either.”

3. An interesting POV.

“It was practically always like this for men, only before the modern age men didn’t have a choice.

There was nothing else besides the only possible life plan of starting to work hard while you were still a kid and keep doing it until you died, spending more time on work than on your loved ones – spending more time on work FOR your loved ones. (Feminists call this “privilege” and think women were oppressed by them not being forced into this role.)

If you think about it men sacrificed their dreams, aspirations, their health and their lives for their families, and all they got in return was …their families, and some respect.

Modern ideologies demolished that all and when they still expect men to work like oxen they offer literally nothing in return, just shame and ridicule and hostility.”

4. From a divorced guy.

“I’m Gen X, divorced with kid, ok 9-5 job, rent small apartment in a big city and I’m perfectly content playing video games nights and weekends.

I don’t desire to do anything (or anyone…) else. I’m also happier now with no responsibilities to be a husband and help maintain a household. Plus, my kid is now old enough to play video games with me.

We have a lot of fun together that way. Life is good, no complaints.”

5. It’s up to you.

“Whether you’ve been married or not, if you work a steady job and support yourself, you’re entitled to do whatever you like. If that means chilling out at home in your own free time playing video games, then so be it.

I have a steady partner, no kids (just 2 cats). We both work and split everything 50/50. In our free time, we’re chilling, playing games, doing whatever we fancy.

As far as I’m concerned we’ve got it good. Neither of us wants kids either.”

6. In a weird place.

“Also Gen X. Also a gamer. Single & never married. No kids.

I’m making pretty good money now but I’m in this weird place. The responsible thing is to never spend money and prepare for retirement. I don’t really like working nor do I feel any sense of accomplishment from it. Sometimes I’ve had a community/tribe from work that was valuable to me but I haven’t had that in a decade.

I have two options; I can retire now and live as frugally as I have up to this point for the rest of my life or I can stay on this treadmill for another 20 years and retire to umm… no clue what. I’ve defined my life by living frugally and I’m not sure I’d know what to do with ‘all that money’.

I don’t like old people in general and all the opportunities to settle down and have a family are now long gone. I squandered my youth under same jaded theory that bettering myself would be some magic bullet to avoid dying alone. Now I’ve bettered myself and I have money.

I spent my whole life trying to avoid being a stereotype and now I’m a creepy old man stereotype. Maybe I’ll be part of the coming ‘Creepy Old Gamer’ stereotype in a year or two.”

7. Stop policing me!

“It’s strange how everyone is obsessed with policing what men do on their spare time.

I want to stay in (especially in winter), play some games, and save money (because bills and mortgage).

Other people stay in and watch their Netflix, reality tv, gossip tv, news, sports… but somehow my gaming is an issue?”

8. Breaking norms.

“It’s so strange how some of the same media outlets that encourage women to “break social norms” and to go against society to be who they want to be, are now criticizing men for doing just that.

I’m not going to take either side here on whether social norms are good to follow or not, but at least be consistent with whichever viewpoint you take.”

9. Not a good thing.

“Well, Japan has a lot of this going on and they are practically losing an entire generation of self-imposed monks.

This isn’t boding well for Japan as a whole.”

10. Content with myself.

“The last girl I went on a date with explained to me that she’s been on 55 first dates in six months!!

Here’s the thing… I am financially, emotionally, and otherwise stable. I have everything a woman would want in a life partner. I am in shape, I work hard and make a lot of money, I have hobbies that I’ve turned into effective side hustles, I travel and socialize, I would say I’m at least an 8 to 9 in attractiveness, and so on.

She wasn’t having it though… Like what does this woman expect in men that she can’t find a partner in 56 opportunities? I think this is a big issue, because it shows to me that woman’s expectations are getting absolutely bat sh*t crazy.

As a business man, I look at the value proposition and the risk/reward in committing to these expectations and it has turned me into a player, that runs through women like they are candy. If I live on never married but have the opportunity to have s*x with who I please, I would be completely content with myself.”

11. More power to you.

“Yeah i live that way because of a series of crippling mental problems but i know a load of people from college both men and women who do it completely by choice since they just don’t see the value in running the rat race like their parents did.

If you can live a happy life doing the bare minimum you need to do to keep yourself fed, sheltered, and happy then more power to you.”

12. A female perspective.

“30 year old chick here, my life is work, gaming, gym and motorsport. I’ve had my tubes tied and can’t ever see myself getting married because screw that level of stress and responsibility.

Most of my friends are single guys basically living the same lifestyle and I can totally see why it’s so appealing. A few of them would love to settle down and have kids but chicks aren’t interested because of their lifestyles, which makes me laugh as most of these chicks don’t want to be stay at home mums and give up their careers.

You’d think a chill guy that would be happy taking care of the house and kids would be perfect for them.”

13. Here’s a hot take for ya.

“It’s interesting that when men start to uphold some self-respect and not compromise their standards we’re called commitment-phobic.

I see this a lot with my female friends in that 28-35 age range who continuously complain about men not wanting to “stick it out” with them or are “intimidated” by their confidence but in reality they still expect the men they date to tolerate behaviors and attitudes that men would tolerate when they were in their early to mid 20s.

They’ve made little to no evolution in their character and still subscribe to an immature doctrine of how men should just tolerate and condone their behaviors just because “that’s what men do” and fail to realize the hypocrisy in such a misandrist take.

Add to the fact that men are becoming more accustomed to having our grievances ignored and unsupported by the opposite s*x and society as a whole, we’ve been able to find peace and happiness in our solitude and in things that provide us the happiness we don’t receive and get from the opposite s*x.

Recently a woman who I had been sleeping with for a couple months asked me to date her and I told her I prefer we stay friends. She insisted I tell her why, why I would turn down such an opportunity – “I mean I’d date me” were her words.

I finally caved and told her I’m turned off by the fact she sh*ts on men on a weekly basis on her IG story and having such a bias and negative attitude toward my gender is not the type of thing I want to endorse in a potential partner.

I even asked if she would ever be interested in dating a man who spoke negatively about women on a weekly basis and she said, I sh*t you not, “No but that’s different cause what I say about guys is true”.

And this woman isn’t an outlier to the issue, these type of women are rampant in the dating pool and they are very good at grabbing the attention of men because they can present themselves initially as interesting, intelligent, and open-minded but they turn out to be one-dimensional, ignorant, and arrogant. I blame Amber Rose.”

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July 7, 2020

People Talk About the Worst Legal Things That You Can Do

Just because something happens to be legal doesn’t mean that it’s right or moral in any way, shape, or form.

All you have to do is look back at things THAT USED to be legal in this country and you’ll see exactly what I’m talking about.

And there are still plenty of things that are legal today that are still messed up.

“What’s the worst LEGAL thing you can do?”

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say about this.

1. Happens all the time.

“Fire all your employees and move your business to East Asia so you can essentially use slave labor.”

2. That’s disturbing.

“As a fertility doctor, in most states, it’s totally legal for you to inseminate a patient with your own sperm instead of their selected donor.”

3. Thank you!

“Listening to music and/or talking on the phone with volume up in public with no headphones.”

4. Who the hell would do this?

“Put your dog down because it’s inconvenient.

I know a woman who had a perfectly fine Yorkie put down because she was moving and didn’t want to deal with a dog during the transition. Then she immediately buys a maltipoo puppy upon arrival at the new destination.

Now she’s moved again and has a new dog, but no longer posts about the maltipoo. I suspect the worst, and it’s a shame because we would have gladly taken him if she didn’t want to move with him.”

5. People still smoke inside?

“Smoke in the same house that your children live in, forcing them to inhale toxic chemicals that damage their bodies.”

6. Enough of this.

“Bully someone. Mentally abuse someone.

Make them feel bad about themselves their whole life.”

7. So terrible.

“Claim that access to water isn’t a human right and then forcing people in third world countries to buy your shitty products at exorbitant prices because there’s no alternative.”

8. Messed up.

“Hire employees to temporary casual positions so you don’t have to pay them benefits but make them work full time hours.

Bonus: Dangle full-time employment in front of them, then fire them just before they would have gotten it, and since they’re a temp, they don’t qualify for unemployment benefits.

Happened to my husband. It took him a year to find another job.”

9. Does this sound familiar?

“Put your $$ in an offshore account so you can avoid paying BILLIONS in taxes.

Then complain that the lower classes are mooching off YOUR money.”

10. These people are scum.

“Protesting and insulting somebody who sacrificed their life in the military at their funeral.

Regardless of your stance on the military, that’s pretty fucking bad.

Looking at you Westboro Baptist Church…”

11. Don’t do this, men.

“Strolling up to a bank of a dozen urinals, all of them except the one someone else is using being empty, and choosing the urinal next to that person.

Then proceeding to try to have a conversation with them.”

12. Terrible parents.

“Have too many kids, raise them to blame everyone else for their problems, kick them out as soon as they graduate high school/turn 18.

Whichever comes first.”

13. And repeat…

“Crash the housing market, receive a taxpayer bailout, pay yourself an obscene bonus, invest while market is down, use that wealth to fund legislative rollbacks of restrictions.

Repeat?”

14. They need to be socialized.

“Homeschool your child since birth, prevent them from ever leaving the house or socializing with others. (My house, my rules).

On their 18th birthday, kick them out of the house with nothing in their pocket.”

15. Don’t do it!

“Farting in an elevator.”

16. That is scary.

“Buy drug companies, remove their entire research & development team/staff, then inflate the cost of the drug 5000%

This is what drug company Valeant did regularly (just like Martin Shkreli did but on a much bigger scale)

There’s a whole documentary about it on Netflix called “dirty money”. Nobody went to jail, but thousands of people died from not being able to afford new prices, and the whole US population had to pay higher healthcare premiums because of this tactic. A few people did get filthy fucking rich though.”

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May 25, 2020

People Talk About What They Think Is Expensive, but Is Only Owned by Poor People

Why do people who don’t have muchf money buy expensive things?

For status? To show off? To make themselves feel better?

Who really knows…I think every person is different and probably does it for different reasons.

People on AskReddit were asked the following question:

“What is something that is expensive, but only owned by poor people?”

Here are some interesting responses…

1. Cars are pricey.

“I remember I had an old Chevy truck that cost so much to maintain and keep fuel in that I couldn’t afford to save for another car.

I literally kept me broke until I eventually joined the military and could afford a different vehicle.”

2. Doesn’t always work that way.

“Rent-to-own. Spoiler: you never quite own it.

Places like Aaron’s just make me mad. It seems like you’re getting a good deal, but you aren’t. You’re paying like twice as much for an item.”

3. It’s better to buy in bulk.

“Single items of things that should be bought in bulk. Like single rolls of toilet paper.

Barely scraping by paycheck to paycheck means buying bulk is sometimes impossible.”

4. It adds up.

“Laundry.

The poor don’t own the machines. But they pay a lot more overall to do laundry at laundromats.”

5. Food deserts.

“In food deserts, things like meat and fresh vegetables are sometimes actually more expensive than the boxed stuff.

That’s when you look at total yield of food stuff that will fill your stomach over time.”

6. This is true.

“A lot of kids.

The poor are often very fruitful.

I have 6 siblings. I am the only one to have gone to college and graduate. I can’t remember a time when any of my family hasn’t lived off food stamps :/ “

7. Fancy cars.

“The amount of privates in the army who have just enough money to pay for their 30% interest 2018 ford mustangs, but not enough money to buy literally anything else is pretty ridiculous.”

8. In the long run…

“Just paying rent.

Where I live mortgage is waaaaaaaaaay cheaper then getting a house but they dont give me a mortgage because I dont earn enough… so I have to keep renting expensive places making it take even longer for me to save up.

And in my situation getting a better paying job is difficult… I swear this world is made for the rich and middle class. Poor people are straight up fucked in every way possible…”

9. Is it worth it?

“Lottery tickets.

Sure not individually but over time it must get expensive.”

10. You do see this a lot…

“Tattoos.

They’re not cheap, but somehow they’re inked from head to toe.”

11. A mystery to me.

“Designer handbags covered in the brand logo.

Louie Vuitton Louie Vuitton Louie Vuitton Louie Vuitton Louie Vuitton Louie Vuitton.”

12. Bling bling.

“Bling, for the most part.

Yeah celebrities sometimes like to show off a bunch of bling but the rich people I’ve known don’t aggressively flaunt their wealth.”

13. Showing off.

“Designer belts.

Dudes will pay $300 to hold up their pants but can’t afford linens for their mattress that’s on the floor without a box spring.”

14. A bad habit.

“Cigarettes.

I know more poor people who smoke than other groups.”

15. The shoe game.

“Jordans.

Not exclusively owned by poor people but everyone in my “2 family one bedroom apartment neighborhood” is obsessed with who owns the most expensive Jordans as if it’s a status symbol.”

16. Two things…

“Starbucks and nice shoes.

In the Philippines some folks might earn equivalent of $5 a day, but they’ll get their Starbucks and nice shoes to give the impression they aren’t as poor as they are. They will take great care of that Starbucks cup, so they can re-use it.”

17. Branded items.

“Really expensive branded items that look horrible and have high price tags just because of the label like yeezes and other crap like that like someone with money and common sense wouldn’t spend money on or wear.”

18. In my neck of the woods.

“I’ve noticed a lot of the poor around the US do a lot of expensive things. At least in my neck of the woods…they smoke, drive gas guzzlers, have many animals, drink excessive alcohol, many do drugs, go to “pain management clinics,” etc.

Obviously a lot of these people I know have lots of debt, rent a home or apartment, make ridiculous payments on the unecofriendly vehicles they drive, but have the latest cell phones, tennis shoes (or whatever you call them where you’re from,) designer bags (ok mostly knockoff….but you’re trying to look the part!), fake fingernails, dyed hair…..I could go on…but I won’t.”

19. That sucks.

“Paying for public transportation to get to work.

I live in Portland. It costs me $100 a month just to get to work.”

20. A great point.

“Poverty itself.

It can be mind-bogglingly expensive to be poor. Everything gets put off until it becomes catastrophic.”

What did you think of those answers?

Are they on-point, or do you think the folks offering up these opinions are wrong?

Tell us what you think in the comments, we’d love to hear from you!

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May 12, 2020

Women Share What They Think is the Worst Thing About Being a Man

I’m what you might call “a man.” And as far as being a man in this society, I really don’t have many complaints. But this post by Reddit user canadianreject565 was nonetheless interesting. They ask:

Women of Reddit, what do you think would be the worst thing about being a man? from AskReddit

There were over 37 thousand responses. Some of them from men who didn’t seem to read the first three words of the question, but many from women putting in their two cents. The results were interesting.

1 . Finances.

The constant pressure in society that the man has to pay for meals, drinks, etc. I feel like it all would add up really quickly.

– WaffleDeWisdom

2. Emotional burdens.

As a woman, I think we feel more comfortable crying and expressing our sadness.

Men get sad too, and it’s about time they feel free to express it as easily as women do.

– [user deleted]

3. A lack of outlets.

Not having your emotions taken seriously, then lashing out because of it and then seen as violent because you just want to be understood.

I had that with abusive parents but normally people don’t treat me that way because I’m a woman.

I can’t imagine what an entire life of not having your feelings acknowledged in a healthy way feels like.

“Suck it up and be a man”

– Plantdas

4. Do we even lift, bro?

People expecting that I could fight.

– MultipleAutism

5. Childcare problems.

Not being able to take care of children without getting dirty looks.

– [user deleted]

6. Shoutout to this user for calling out the “man cold” thing.

I would not be allowed a moment of weakness.

Bad day? You can’t cry unless your mother just died.

Hurt yourself? Suck it up and go to the hospital.

Feeling self conscious about your body? Nobody cares.

Feeling ill? SoMOne HaS a MaN COld!!!!!

– LondonFogAddict91

7. Some instances may be rarer, but nonetheless unjust.

Being arrested for defending myself against an abusive partner.

– theflexorcist

8. Don’t do the creep.

Being called creepy if I don’t look the best or if I try to get a girl

– HappyLittleAccident4

9. A perspective on education.

I’d be afraid to be a male teacher.

How easy would it be to give a girl student a grade a failing grade they deserve or just pissing them off any kind of way, but it’s a crazy one who ends up accusing you of something awful?

– huggedup

10. Don’t add insult to injury.

Being abused in public by a women and having people laugh instead of intervening to help you.

– Mooncakequeen

11. Everyone should be allowed their freedom and dignity.

Having an even harsher reaction when I’d go against gender roles.

I mean as a woman, there’s backlash sometimes, but there’s a whole movement very publicized that tells me that I can do whatever I want, and fuck the nay-sayer.

I don’t feel a man that would want to do something “for girls” or “for woman” as that much support.

– Marawal

12. Just take it.

Most women think there’s nothing wrong with being abusive and cruel with men. It’s so upsetting watching women treat men like absolute shit.

To top it off, men are expected to still act like “a gentleman” and also they’re not allowed to feel vulnerable, or to feel sad, angry because some lady was just “a little sassy” when in reality she was being abusive piece of shit

– NeuroticCrab

13. Under pressure.

Being expected to be the “breadwinner” generally by society

Being less likely to gain custody of my own kids in a separation

Being “disposable” in times of war

– AmyBums88

14. Fewer fish in the sea.

Overall, I think it’s more difficult for guys to get dates.

– bduk6

15. Watch yourself.

I talk a lot of shit for a 5’4″ girl.

I’d be getting my ass beaten on a daily basis.

– anokayapple

I’d be interested to see if anyone has yet posted the reverse of this, and collected the results.

What would your answer to this question be?

Tell us in the comments.

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May 5, 2020

People Talk About What They Envy About the Opposite Sex

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, right? As a millennial, I can’t relate to this at all because I’ve never had a yard. But I think the point is we tend to envy what we don’t/can’t have by default. This was put into a more thoughtful context when user Straifex-yin took to r/AskReddit to say:

What is the thing you envy of the opposite sex? from AskReddit

It’s an interesting question with a broad range of answers. Of course, more of us are becoming aware that sex and gender are separate areas, and that neither are actually binary, but the question remains, what do we see in others that we want for ourselves? Check out some of the responses.

1. The subject of children came up a lot.

As a man, being able to be friendly with kids that aren’t my own and nurturing in general without being worried about how it’s perceived by others, well some at least, as being sinister or weird.

Don’t like to say good things about myself, raised to be modest and all. But I’m really good with kids. Able to engage with them at a level they understand and teach them while being friendly.

Probably comes from having a sis 6 years younger. Be patient, entertain and protect.

I understand why people are suspicious these days but if I was a woman I don’t think I’d have to worry about it so much. That would be nice.

– Fuzzyphilosopher

2. Some answers were pretty light-hearted.

Female here.

Things I envy about men:

-Decent pockets in clothing

-Never expected to wear heels

-Can pee standing up (without making a mess)

-Much less shaving needed to be socially acceptable in summer

-Can usually reach higher shelves without a step ladder.

– MerylSquirrel

3. And sometimes, just typing out “why can’t I…” made users realize, they totally can.

Clothing options. I feel like women have such a broad range of clothing options compared to men.

And you can wear leggings without being seen as weird

Edit: fuck it, I’m buying some leggings

– Sinthex

4. It’s truly unfair to punish people for living in the time dimension.

Easier ability to age and it not be considered something to hide or cover up, but something that can even be seen as more “distinguished” or “respectable”.

– InannasPocket

5. Guys just wanna have not fun and have that be ok.

Not being ridiculed for being emotional and vulnerable.

– Mild_Wings

6. We need better birth control stat.

Not having to deal with the side effects of birth control

– jsmi813

7. A lot of men hate feeling like a constant threat.

Not being seen as always chasing sex.

I hate that I can’t sit down and get to know someone without them thinking that I want to get in their pants.

Also, people cross the street so they don’t walk next to me at night (I’ve started crossing the street first so they don’t have to and because I don’t want anyone to feel unsafe).

I totally understand why this happens, and why it should happen, and I support people protecting themselves! I just wish we didn’t live in a society where this was necessary.

– the_colton

8. A lot of women don’t feel heard.

I just want to be listened to. You have no idea how impossible it is to be a woman in a small town where everyone still holds the same 1950s values.

Nobody ever takes me seriously, nobody listens to what I have to say, and nobody thinks I have good ideas until a man repeats them.

– ArcadiaPlanitia

9. Some things are universal.

It’s much rarer for a guy to get a compliment than a girl.

Which sucks because compliments are just nice to get.

– Ericbazinga

10. And some things are…just ridiculous.

Being able to pee your name in the snow.

– snozberry_pie

Just remember: your identity is your own. Don’t hold yourself back from living the way you want to.

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January 9, 2020

When interviewed, a 70 year old man…

When interviewed, a 70 year old man, who was once a feral child that lived alone with wolves in the mountains between the ages of 7 and 19 stated “he was disappointed in human nature and wished he could return to the mountains and leave society”.

December 12, 2019

People Share What They Think Are the Toxic Ideas Spread on Reddit

Reddit can be a good site to connect with people and to learn about different topics, but let’s face the facts: there are a lot of people out there with dangerous ideas that spread like wildfire on the Internet.

That’s why it’s important to find your news from reputable sources…which can definitely be hard to do these days.

Folks on AskReddit shared what they think are the toxic and potentially dangerous ideas and beliefs that people share on Reddit. Share your thoughts in the comments.

1. Deviating from the norm.

“Absolutely hating on those that deviate from the norm. Hating on people that conform to society’s norms but not Reddit’s norms. Hating on people trying to have fun or hobbies.”

2. Pure selfishness.

“Glorification of selfishness. I get the impression a ton of people on this site have difficulty asserting themselves, or recognizing or setting their own boundaries, because Reddit is full of advice geared toward people with these problems.

What these posters seem to forget is that not everyone is codependent with self-esteem through the floor. And yet anytime anyone wants to get out of something that someone else wants them to do, Reddit leaps to “no is a complete sentence! Put yourself first! Don’t JADE!” In real life though, maintaining healthy relationships requires sometimes doing things you aren’t thrilled about for others’ sake.”

3. Let’s see the proof.

“Reddit is very much “Guilty until proven innocent”.

They will jump straight down the throat of any alleged criminal with 0 facts, 0 context, and demand they be sentenced to years behind bars, or worse.”

4. Quick to judge.

“Reddit has a tendency to label people “toxic” and encourage relationship advice that isn’t great.”

5. That’s bizarre.

“Worshipping celebrities. 10 year olds don’t need to receive death threats because he’s never heard of a 55 year old actor.”

6. Hostile to the facts.

“Reddit is extremely hostile to actual expertise. If you state outright “I do this professionally and you are wrong” it will send people into an impotent rage. If you don’t say so, they will smugly keep missing the point. There really is no good way to try to correct misconceptions or bad information.”

7. Amen to this one.

“To an extent, Reddit plays a role in the growing anti-intellectualism. There seems to be a large assumption that this is a website of experts and lengthy replies must be credible. I saw a fellow redditor describe it perfectly, “you finally realize how little most redditors know when they start talking about a topic you happen to be well researched in”.

I see this in two places primarily, topics about public education (I am a middle school teacher) and topics such as anti-vaccine. I understand reddit hates anti-vax for good reason, but it is also stuck in the old “anti-vaxxers are just stupid” stereotype. Instead of educating and helping the problem, they just poke fun. This unfortunately drives more anxious parents toward anti-vax communities. A little empathy, understanding, and education would do more to combat ideologies such as anti-vaccines than anything reddit actually does.”

8. Does that mean you can do whatever you want?

“Those people who make introversion out to be an excuse for some pretty terrible antisocial/misanthropic/unacceptable behavior.

I don’t like loud spaces and can feel overwhelmed by crowds of people; I would pay not to go to a concert. I also genuinely love the people in my life and will always make time for anyone who needs me. In my experience this is true for everyone extroverts and introverts alike.”

9. Don’t take this advice.

“Everyone is an armchair psychologist. You post about feeling sad sometimes and inevitably someone is like “thats because you have atypical depression and bipolar disorder” or whatever.”

10. Come on Reddit…

“One example of this….a medical doctor posts a well written comment about the dangers of over prescribing anti biotics. Top comment of the thread. Tons of awards. Later a 2nd year med student posts a similar comment. Still well written but maybe misses a few key points specifying how and why. Again…top comment of the thread. Gilded to the nines.

Later a college freshman bio major writes a pretty bad summary of the situation but it’s part of the Reddit hive mind echo chamber so anyone who bothers to correct him gets misinterpreted and downvoted. And so on and so on until someone LITERALLY TELLS ME they read on Reddit that taking antibiotics is dangerous and will lead to a super disease that will wipe out humanity. Come on Reddit….”

11. Stereotyping.

“Stereotyping, in general, seems rampant. Many comments and posts seem to believe that individuals are incapable of independent thought and just reflect the race/religion/gender/ethnicity/group/nationality/political party/subreddit/culture they belong to.

People are varied even within ideologies. Argue points and issues, not identities.”

12. That’s not good.

“If your partner does anything at all that you dislike, you should dump them, take them to the police, avoid all other partners in the future, etc etc.

Particularly prevalent in Relationships, Relationship Advice, AmITheAsshole and even just AskReddit itself. It’s rather appalling, and it seems to be pushed by people who have no idea what being in a relationship is actually like. It’s not fucking easy basically, you want to love something and be in a completely committed relationship? Prepare to fight for it, because it is not easy.”

13. What about the gray areas?

“Failure to acknowledge any nuance or gray areas. People feel the need to go all in on one side for any issue. I think they feel they’ll look weak or hurt their argument by relenting on any point. Or having a discussion on any point.”

14. Bad advice.

“That whenever someone in your life isn’t behaving perfectly or 100% supporting of you all the freaking time, you need to “cut them out of your life” because they are “abusive” and “toxic”.

I’m curious how many families have been ruined by such destructive advice.”

15. Most people are good people.

“Most Americans I know are nowhere as racist, dumb or fat as reddit makes everyone else think.

A good bunch of them are smart, hardworking people, and are also nowhere as extremist as to be considered far-right, far-left, etc. Reddit might be a huge echo chamber in politics, but, at least the Americans I know, have moderate views and are easy-going people.”

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October 27, 2019

People Share What They Think Are the Worst Legal Things You Can Do

You can do a lot of terrible things in this world that are totally legal.

Things that most of us would never dream of doing. And they might infuriate you…

AskReddit users shared their thoughts on the subject.

1. That’s pretty infuriating.

“You can leak the names, addresses, email addresses, social security numbers, driver’s license numbers, and payment card details of nearly half of all Americans (and more than half of all American adults) and then settle for about $5/person.”

2. Makes my blood boil.

“Permanently destroying huge swaths of land.

There’s a development corporation in my hometown that has bought up virtually all of the remaining woods, meadows and wetlands in the area, paved them, and built retail spaces that go vacant just a few months later.

Businesses aren’t even moving into these “office parks”, but the group just keeps spreading out and “developing”. It seems like every month, I drive past another leveled tract of land.”

3. Whoa, that’s kind of intense.

“Groom your stepdaughter for over a decade, then when she’s 18, divorce her mom and hook up with your stepdaughter.”

4. It is pretty bad.

“I think it’s pretty shitty to claim bodily harm from a very minor car accident just to get 10k, and make the other person pay more for their car insurance. I’m looking at you, lady I hit going 3 mph.

Probably not the worst thing, but it’s pretty bad.”

5. Who the hell does this?

“Take custody of a pet in a divorce and the. Put the pet down out of spite.”

6. Ouch…

“Recruit people to join Scientology.”

7. If not…that…

“Is it illegal to leave your shopping cart in the parking lot instead of returning it to the corral? If not, that.”

8. People are pretty sh*tty.

“Sue your poorer ex spouse for child custody so repeatedly that you drain their finances and can’t fight it anymore.”

9. A lot of this out there.

“Steal people’s money through fine print conditions.”

10. Not a good idea.

“Ruin the world economy by handing out subprime loans.”

11. That’s not cool.

“Nestle claiming rights to water and then selling it back to the public at exorbitant prices all while polluting the earth with the production of single-use plastic bottles.”

12. Sign of the times.

“Fire all your employees and move your business to East Asia so you can essentially use slave labor.”

13. Does this sound familiar?

“Start a pharmaceutical company.

Develop a drug that people need to live.

Raise the price just because you know they’ll pay for it if they don’t want to die.”

14. Bullying and abusing.

“Bully someone. Mentally abuse someone. Making them feel bad about themselves their whole life.”

15. Vaccines do not cause autism.

“Not vaccinating your kids.”

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October 21, 2019

These Historic Images Show That Gay Men and Women Have Always Existed, Just on the Downlow

A guy who goes by the name Father Nathan Monk has been collecting photos of gay couples from the past in an effort to highlight the struggles those people went through in eras when same-sex lovers weren’t allowed to marry or even to be together.

Monk said:

“I found the photos online through a couple of different posts. I shared them because I think it’s important to remember those that come before us, those that fought, and struggled to live their authentic life. I believe it’s important to be reminded that LGBTQ+ have always been part of society and always will be. That reality should be lovingly accepted instead of shunned and ridiculed.”

Photo Credit: Facebook,Father Nathan Monk

Take a look at these interesting photos.

1. From the past…

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

2. In the Navy.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

3. Serving their country.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

4. On the front steps.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

5. A discreet kiss.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

6. This one looks very old.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

7. In Idaho of all places.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

8. Out in public.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

9. Clearly in love.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

10. World War II era.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

11. All dressed up.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

12. On the beach.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

13. A great photo.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

14. I wish I could get a year on this one.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

15. From Russia with love.

Posted by Father Nathan Monk on Monday, March 18, 2019

Love is love!

And it always will be.

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