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People Shared Who in Their Life They Miss Most Right Now

I know who I miss the most these days.

I miss all my friends who live in different parts of the country that I haven’t been able to see in quite some time now.

As you know, certain world events have thrown a wrench into plans to go visit people for the past year or so, but we’re almost there, folks!

So keep the faith!

Folks on AskReddit opened up about who they miss most in their lives right now.

1. Tragic.

“My Sister, who passed away in 2014, and my Father, who passed the following year.

They shared a birthday which also happens to be today.

I really miss you both.”

2. Think of them often.

“My two dogs from my first marriage.

My ex-wife got both of them (vet said they couldn’t be separated bc one had crippling anxiety and separating them would be too detrimental and I couldn’t bring myself to fight to separate them knowing this).

Not a day goes by that I don’t think about them.”

3. Everyone back home.

“I’m from Buffalo, but I’ve lived in NYC for the last year or so due to work.

I haven’t been able to see my family back home since I work in a high risk field for COVID.

Last week, I went to a Wegmens upstate and got emotional walking around, because I guess I just sort of compartmentalized how much I miss home.

So, home.”

4. Mike.

“Mike. He was my “punching bag” when life was hard. We worked together in automotive shop.

He was around until right before my first husband and I got married, he quit or got fired. He showed up and got his job a week before my first husband unexpectedly d**d. He was with me through that, my mom dying of pancreatic cancer, being evicted because my landlord didn’t pay his mortgage.

He would walk up to me and say I looked like I wanted to punch someone, and would let me punch him. I didn’t always but sometimes it helped a lot. He also made me laugh, a lot, even when I didn’t want to. He was the person who let me have a small pity party for myself then tell me to get over myself. I would. He knew me better than I knew myself and we were either really good or very awful.

When we would fight, everyone knew and it was over dumb things and last… sometimes for weeks. He d**d a couple years ago.

I believe that was because I would never need him that way again. But I miss him a lot and wish he could see where I’ve gotten from where I was.”

5. Dad.

“My dad. He k**led himself when I was 15.

I don’t even remember the last thing I said to him. I know I was angry from the abuse and him moving out of state when I was 11.

I miss him so much I wish I could tell him I loved him again.”

6. Still miss him.

“My ex husband.

Yes we’re divorced for good reason but it’s been difficult these past few years without him.

I really do miss him, even though we had our problems.

I bet a lot of people feel like I do.”

7. A sad story.

“My niece.

She passed away in 2019 after her first birthday. Long story short my wife and I dont plan on having kids. Her sisters child (my niece through marriage, who I also love) moved across country so we almost never get to see her.

So when my brothers daughter was born we were always around when we could be. Brought my family together a lot. She was such a sweet kid. She didn’t like a lot of people when she was younger, but I was the only one who could always get her to smile. We just had such a great bond and she was in a coma before she passed away.

That week ruined me, and I was at the hospital every moment I could be. Even now writing this it feels like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. I just miss her so much, and I miss life where my brother wasn’t a broken person, he was beyond destroyed.”

8. A voice of hope.

“My grandmother. She was always a voice of real hope and balanced reason, with a big pinch of Southern charm.

I’m ok without her, but a big part of me becoming successful was to validate her impression of me.

She bragged about me all the time.

I became the most deserving of that praise about a year after she passed, and I just wish she could have seen what I’m up to.

She’d have smiled pretty big for her 5 foot self.”

9. Other side of the world.

“My fiancee.

She lives on the other side of the world and I haven’t seen her other than through a phone/computer screen in 6 months.”

10. BFF.

“My dog.

She was my best friend for 14 years and we had to say goodbye in January.”

11. An old friend.

“There’s an old friend I’ve been thinking about lately. We had a lot of adventures together when we were younger and we were both broken is similar ways that made us natural friends and allies.

I was honestly smitten with her at first sight. We met at a local music club and had a lot of fun times together going to local music festivals, open mic nights, and hanging out at diners. Then, we just sort of drifted apart.

I tried to reach out but I got an “It was nice to know you” letter in return and I took the hint. Ha, I was actually pretty embarrassed at the time that I hadn’t realized she just wasn’t into our friendship anymore.

Still, I really miss her. That was all a long time ago, long enough that the person I miss certainly doesn’t exist anymore. She wouldn’t know me, either, anymore than I’d know her. I would never insert myself into her life at this point and I’m not entirely sure I would welcome her if she did so. I’m still a little offended she ghosted me if I’m being honest.

But I do mostly think back on our friendship fondly. When it comes to the people I used to know, she’s the one who most frequently ends up on my mind. She’s been in my mind a lot the last few days and I find myself stupidly wishing I could go back in time for a weekend and just enjoy the moments we used to have.

Some people seem to imprint on you forever. That can be a very mixed bag. Gods’ honest truth, I’d probably choose to forget her if I could. The good outweighed the bad, but maybe not by enough?”

Who do you miss the most right now in your life?

Tell us in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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Should We Always Have to Let Family Stay When They Ask? A Woman Asks The Internet Their Thoughts.

Family decisions are tough and always full of potential pitfalls. There are expectations and guilt involved, and the fact that whatever you decide, you’re going to have to hear about it for the next twenty or so years.

Which is probably why this person is wondering whether or not she was wrong to refuse to let her sister and nieces/nephews move into her new house.

OP saved up for and bought a house for her single self and her two dogs, and she was so happy with her purchase. It was the perfect amount of space for her, but her entitled sister – who lives in a much smaller space with three children – thought she was being selfish.

Their mother got involved and said she thought OP was being mean for not inviting the sister and her kids to move in.

Yikes.

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OP refused, saying that she bought the house and wanted the space to herself, but did offer to help the sister rent a larger apartment with more space.

That’s when she found out that her mom and sister had intended for OP to move out and let the sister move in.

What.

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I have no idea what these people are thinking, but let’s hear what Reddit has to say while I sort it out, hmm?

It is kind of hilarious when you put it that way.

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To sum up.

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She definitely needs to leave her foot down.

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This sister just cannot be serious.

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A lot of people need to learn this lesson.

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Some of these are so NTA that it’s just laughable, y’all.

Go ahead and scream into the comments – that’s what we’re here for.,

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If You Were in a Room With Every Person You Ever Met, Who Would Be the One You’d Look For? Here’s What People Said.

This promises to be an interesting conversation!

If you were in a room with everyone you ever met in your life, who would you look for first?

I think I’d have to say someone in my immediate family. My dad. Or my mom. Or my brother. Or my old dog…

What do you think?

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. Best friend.

“My best friend Gabrielle.

She d**d from cancer when we were 12, it was so hard watching her go.

I named my first born after her, and am best friends with her little sister now. I miss her.”

2. The stranger.

“I met a man on a plane once, sat next to me. He was about my dads age and later I found I was about his daughters age.

We started chatting, and just a few days before I had just cut off contact with my veteran al**holic father. He asked me about myself and I told him I worked in child welfare. He then told me he was a veteran addictions therapist. I don’t even remember how we got on the topic but by the end of the flight he was telling me “tell your dad you love him. Tell him you want him to get sober for you, because you want to see him live a happy and full life.”

It was such a bizarre encounter with what was going on in my life at the time and I’m not religious but maybe divine intervention placed us in that place at that time? I’d look for him to tell him how much that conversation meant to me, that it was the most impactful meeting with a stranger I’ve ever had.”

3. Childhood friend.

“My childhood best friend. We were best friends from 4 to 17.

He battled with Leukemia from 13 to 17. The last year of his life he was constantly in and out of the hospital and was immunocompromised. I got to see him but we had to keep our distance. We were planning on going to the same college for engineering.

I know all he would want to know is if I did it and kept moving. I plan on naming my first born after him. 12 years later and I still think about him most days and he is my driving force to stay positive and keep on pushing.”

4. Dad.

“I lost dad when I was 16. He had brain cancer.

I’m 21 now, finally attending University to do a degree in computer science (which is what he did too, and I bet he never would have thought I would follow in his path!) I’m in a loving relationship with someone who is so smart and interesting that I wish my dad – another loving and interesting human – could meet.

So many memories and events I wish he could be there to see.

I’m just thankful I had him for 16 years.”

5. You miss him.

“My husband.

I would love to see him strong and healthy one last time, as opposed to the sick man he was at the end.

He was a runner, and he had the most beautiful, strong legs.

He was such a good dad.”

6. Role model.

“My AP Calculus teacher, he was the only person in the entire school who noticed I was being ab**ed at home.

He approached me cautiously, never judged or blamed me. He treated me with respect at a time where no other person did, it broke my heart when he d**d a few months later.

I never took the AP Calculus test because I was devastated (he was my teachers years before that so I always looked up to him).”

7. Someone from the past.

“Hailey. I met her when I was 14 at this church thing.

She had had a rough go at life, but was very kind to me. We spent most of it talking on a little boat on the lake / pond. I got her number so we could hang out. I called and her mom cussed me out.

I tried to clear things up with her at church on Sunday, telling her that I wasn’t the one turning her daughter to drugs. They weren’t at church and I never saw her again.

I miss you Hailey, you were very kind and I wished we couldve been better friends.”

8. Sorry about that.

“My prom date. I thought we were going as friends.

I was too young and stupid to realize how much she liked me and put herself out there, just to have me not notice.

Owe her an apology for that.”

9. Army buddy.

“A friend I had while in the Army.

He d**d in 2019 at the age of 34 from cancer. From diagnosis to d**th was about 6 months. He was very private about his illness.

I never new he was sick until he d**d. It’s one of those life events I’ve never been able to “get over” for lack of a better term.”

10. One more talk.

“Lost my grandmother two months ago. It’s been shi**y.

If I could talk to her one more time, I wouldn’t be saying anything she didn’t already know, but I’d still say it.

I guess I just wish I could’ve said goodbye. The only ones who got that chance were my grandfather and mother.”

11. Where did she go?

“That girl who asked for my number, but never called me.

It seemed like fate. I had been mourning the loss of a love one for years at this point, and my feelings basically stopped existing. But then I heard a song in a tv show that made me bawl my eyes out. I decided to embrace the sad feeling, downloaded the song, and went for a walk listening to it on repeat.

On my way back home I was waiting for a light to change green, when a jogger pulled up next to me. The light turned green, and she continued jogging. But when she got across the street, she stopped and waited for me. She motioned for me to take my headphones off, then asked me if I was listening to Agnes Obel.

I said yes, and told her about how I had been emotionally d**d for years until I heard that song. She told me she had the same experience, and first heard the song in the same show that I did!

We chatted for about 15 minutes until we were going separate ways, but not before she asked me for my number. But no happy ending here, it’s been at least 7 years and I’ve since changed my number.”

What would your answer to this question be?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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A Woman Asked if She Was Wrong for Telling Her Dad He’s Not Entitled to a Relationship

No doubt about it, family dynamics are always tricky.

And they’re especially tricky when parents get divorced and the kids have to deal with the fallout… and that damage can last for years.

A 27-year-old woman shared a story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page about a sticky situation with her father.

AITA for telling my dad he’s not entitled to a relationship with me?

“When i (27f) was around 10 my parents divorced, it was a messy thing, no one ever told me the reason and i do not really care. My mom won custody because she was able to prove in court that my father was an unfit parent.

My father never took it well and it showed whenever i had visitation at his house (2 weekends a month). Instead of spending time with me he would spends hours playing video games, order take out and the only time he would ever take me somewhere was when my grandma forced him, needless to say i never had a very close relationship with him

Then once i got older he started to bring up a college fund he had set aside for me and he always said that if my grades stayed up and i do well in school the money would be mine, and i did just that.

I got good grades, was part of many clubs in school and never got into trouble, i was basically the kid your parents brought up when they were comparing you to your friends.

In my senior year my dad got married to his current wife, it was a beautiful and extravagant ceremony. I’m pretty sure some of the arrangements were more expensive than my phone but whatever, i didn’t think much of it.

It wasn’t until i went to talk to my dad about my college fund that i found out he had used it to pay for his ceremony. I was in disbelief when he said it and the more he explained the more i wanted to cry, he didn’t even apologize, he said it with all causality of “Oh, you were looking for that thing you left in the fridge? Sorry, i ate it”

When he realized that i was upset he turned it around on me and told me that i was being selfish and that i was not entitled to his money.

Luckily, got scholarship that covered my entire tuition. Also, my mom and stepdad also had a fund set aside for me, they apparently knew my dad would pull that on me, so i was able to go to college without a lot of debt.

Since then i’ve been distant from my dad, i’ll not lie, i feel conned. If the money was always his, why did he bother mentioning it to me? I don’t care if he used it or not but to promise someone something, hold it over their heads for years, and not give it to them when you should because they’re “not entitled to it” is just a way too lengthy way to say that you’re an unreliable *ss in my eyes.

My dad has tried to reconcile but he still claims that i was not entitled to that money and even says that the money was not needed because i got a scholarship. The last time he said that to me was when i was at his house, visiting my new baby brother, and i got so d*mn annoyed that i said “I’m not entitled to your money but you’re also not entitled to a relationship with me so i guess we’re in a stalemate here”, i guess that hurt him because he got quiet until i left.

I’ve been remembering what i said for a while so i wonder if i was way too out of line in my statement? I was annoyed and wanted him to stop bringing it up but i didn’t want to hurt him.”

Here’s how people responded to the story.

This person said that the woman is not the jerk in this situation and that her father seems to be gaslighting her.

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Another person argued that they could sympathize with the woman because they had a similar upbringing.

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Another reader said they had a similar situation with their father and it took them years to finally come to terms with it.

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This Reddit user said that the woman’s father is clearly the *sshole in this situation for his actions and that she needs to cut him out of her life.

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Finally, this individual said that the woman really doesn’t owe her father anything because he’s been…well, less than an ideal parent.

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Now it’s your turn to speak up.

What do you think about what this woman did?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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A Woman Asked if She Was Wrong for Telling Her Dad He’s Not Entitled to a Relationship

No doubt about it, family dynamics are always tricky.

And they’re especially tricky when parents get divorced and the kids have to deal with the fallout… and that damage can last for years.

A 27-year-old woman shared a story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page about a sticky situation with her father.

AITA for telling my dad he’s not entitled to a relationship with me?

“When i (27f) was around 10 my parents divorced, it was a messy thing, no one ever told me the reason and i do not really care. My mom won custody because she was able to prove in court that my father was an unfit parent.

My father never took it well and it showed whenever i had visitation at his house (2 weekends a month). Instead of spending time with me he would spends hours playing video games, order take out and the only time he would ever take me somewhere was when my grandma forced him, needless to say i never had a very close relationship with him

Then once i got older he started to bring up a college fund he had set aside for me and he always said that if my grades stayed up and i do well in school the money would be mine, and i did just that.

I got good grades, was part of many clubs in school and never got into trouble, i was basically the kid your parents brought up when they were comparing you to your friends.

In my senior year my dad got married to his current wife, it was a beautiful and extravagant ceremony. I’m pretty sure some of the arrangements were more expensive than my phone but whatever, i didn’t think much of it.

It wasn’t until i went to talk to my dad about my college fund that i found out he had used it to pay for his ceremony. I was in disbelief when he said it and the more he explained the more i wanted to cry, he didn’t even apologize, he said it with all causality of “Oh, you were looking for that thing you left in the fridge? Sorry, i ate it”

When he realized that i was upset he turned it around on me and told me that i was being selfish and that i was not entitled to his money.

Luckily, got scholarship that covered my entire tuition. Also, my mom and stepdad also had a fund set aside for me, they apparently knew my dad would pull that on me, so i was able to go to college without a lot of debt.

Since then i’ve been distant from my dad, i’ll not lie, i feel conned. If the money was always his, why did he bother mentioning it to me? I don’t care if he used it or not but to promise someone something, hold it over their heads for years, and not give it to them when you should because they’re “not entitled to it” is just a way too lengthy way to say that you’re an unreliable *ss in my eyes.

My dad has tried to reconcile but he still claims that i was not entitled to that money and even says that the money was not needed because i got a scholarship. The last time he said that to me was when i was at his house, visiting my new baby brother, and i got so d*mn annoyed that i said “I’m not entitled to your money but you’re also not entitled to a relationship with me so i guess we’re in a stalemate here”, i guess that hurt him because he got quiet until i left.

I’ve been remembering what i said for a while so i wonder if i was way too out of line in my statement? I was annoyed and wanted him to stop bringing it up but i didn’t want to hurt him.”

Here’s how people responded to the story.

This person said that the woman is not the jerk in this situation and that her father seems to be gaslighting her.

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Another person argued that they could sympathize with the woman because they had a similar upbringing.

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Another reader said they had a similar situation with their father and it took them years to finally come to terms with it.

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This Reddit user said that the woman’s father is clearly the *sshole in this situation for his actions and that she needs to cut him out of her life.

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Finally, this individual said that the woman really doesn’t owe her father anything because he’s been…well, less than an ideal parent.

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Now it’s your turn to speak up.

What do you think about what this woman did?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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Her Husband Ate a Whole Pie as a Midnight Snack, But She’s the One Wondering if She Was in the Wrong

Marriage sure is complicated. If there is one single truth about life and relationships that everyone can agree on, that must be it. It’s tough to not only love someone through decades of ups and downs and life changes, but to put up with sharing the same space with them all that time, too.

This woman is raving on Reddit about how her husband ate the entire family’s dessert for the next day in the middle of the night, but those of us who have been married all must be wondering what she’s really upset about, right?

It begins like an average day in the life, with a couple discussing what’s for dinner and dessert, then putting out a pie ahead of time like responsible adults.

So I made dinner and I asked my husband to get an apple pie out of the freezer for dessert. We baked it and then we went outside and made a campfire.

The didn’t eat the pie because they have kids and they’re always changing our plans; they had s’mores instead, putting the pie in the fridge for the following night.

Did they discuss this? She doesn’t say.

We ended up making s’mores that night because the kids asked.

So the pie went in the fridge until the next night.

Or so I thought.

The next morning she found two bites of pie and a fork in the fridge (and perhaps the lingering scent of marijuana in the garage?).

I wake up the next day and this dude has a fork and literally 2 bites left in it in the fridge.

I’m talking about the big marie whatever apple pie with the crumbles on top.

When she confronted him about the absurdity of consuming an entire pie under cover of darkness he replied that he didn’t know they were going to eat it as a family.

He has kids, so this seems suspect AF.

I’m like wtf why would you eat the pie we were going to eat for dessert?

He said well we didn’t eat it last night.

I said yeah no shit we all ate s’mores and thought we would eat it tomorrow after dinner.

He went on to tell me it was no big deal and I shouldn’t be so emotional over it.

Which is when she lays out what we all suspect, which is that it’s not about the pie, per se.

It’s about his not thinking about his family or considering their happiness and needs before he takes care of his own wants.

I’m like it’s not that I’m emotional about the pie…. it’s the fact your a$s ate a whole pie in the middle of the night because you get so stoned and can’t control your eating at night.

AND that you are so selfish that you didn’t even think about the wife and kids.

And he does that sh%t all of the time.

He will be a glutton and eat sh%t and I have to hide sh%t. So am I overreacting?

There’s the crux of it.

Is she overreacting? Let’s see what Reddit has to say!

More than a few people pointed out that eating an entire pie could definitely be a cry for help.

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In marriage, the little things become big things for a reason.

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People who claim to love you should think of your needs and happiness, too.

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See? Definitely not about the pie.

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Reddit loves to get to the root of it.

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I think these two need to go to counseling – about the pie, but also not really about the pie.

I’m sure a trained professional can help them sort it out. Or not.

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Young People Look for Love and Adventure by Teaching English Abroad

It’s easy to feel lost after you get out of college.

Too many people ask what you’re going to do with the rest of your life.

And who’s ready to think about 401ks and health insurance in their 20s?

When they’re not ready to face “real life” yet, a lot of young people turn to teaching English abroad.

It’s a great way to have some real life experiences, make a little money, and figure out what you want to do with yourself.

And a lot of young people enter this next phase looking for something more.

Direction, meaning, love–here are 13 people who taught English with a purpose.

1. Some people might go because they got broken up with

And some might get broken up with because they decided to go.

My boyfriend just broke up with me because I got a job teaching English in China. I love him so much I almost don't want to take the great opportunity.

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2. Some are just looking to be fulfilled

I can’t imagine criticizing. What a useful, selfless way to be fulfilled.

I'm teaching english in Spain. Some people criticize my decision but after 4 years of unhappiness in college, I need to be happy again.

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3. Lots of people seem to be looking for love

I really hope they find it. At the very least, opening themselves up to new experiences invites love in.

I'm 25and leaving in 2 weeks to teach English abroad. i want to share this and future adventures with a partner so badly. Not sure that will ever happen.

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4. Just stay open to possibility

What a beautiful love story. They will have so many adventures together!

I found the love of my life teaching English abroad. And several of my friends are students and have met their significant other abroad too.

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5. Sometimes you might get lucky

You really never know what might happen.

I'm an English teacher in a foreign country and I have a private student who I get on really well with! Unfortunately he has a girlfriend but I really really like him. PS I'm 29 and he's in his 30s.

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6. They already found love

And then they found a family! It honestly feels like a Hallmark movie.

Me and my hubby decided to volunteer for our honeymoon. We spent three months teaching English in Asia and are now adopting siblings from there.

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7. Some aren’t looking for love, just space

And what better way to find yourself than to run away on an adventure?

I'm teaching English abroad. I needed some space to find myself.

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8. Others aren’t looking for love, but they find it

Found families can be the best families.

I'm an English teacher in Japan and I became close friends with one of my student's parents. For the first time here I felt like I had family. And I might have to give that up. Feels like death.

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9. Then there are those who just want acceptance

And they have no idea what to expect. They might be the bravest of all.

I'm planning on leaving SF (San Francisco) to live and teach English abroad. I'm nervous that people outside of SF won't understand Polyamory.

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10. It’s a great way to escape

You’re young and untethered and have the world at your fingertips. Tbh, I’m a little jealous.

I got a job teaching English abroad so I can escape facing real life for a bit longer. I'm 23 and still not ready to grow up.

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11. Sometimes what you’re escaping is the all-seeing eye

It’s honestly no one’s business but yours. Good for you!

I'm signing up for a course that will allow me to teach English abroad. I'm SUPER excited but I have to keep it on the DL because of work and my family's judgment.

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12. For others, it’s all about the adventure

I just really love the enthusiasm here.

Landed my dream job teaching English in Thailand. Bring on the experience!?

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13. Don’t forget that it can be mutually beneficial

You learn just as much as your students do, if you’re doing it right.

I actually think teaching English in Korea can be very helpful. I'm learning Korean in English, and it definitely comes in handy.

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These are all such great reasons to take a job teaching English abroad.

I hope they all found what they were looking for!

What about you? Would you consider teaching abroad, and where would you most want to go? Tell us in the comments.

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When a Girlfriend Stole From Him, He Tanked Her Academic Career

Most of the revenge stories on Reddit are examples of what happens if you mess with the wrong person. Some folks will just like, cut you out of their lives if you do something shi**y, but others?

The look you straight in the eye and say “f**k around and find out.”

This girl found out what would happen after she stole from her boyfriend, and I’ve got to think she regrets it now.

It began at University, where a young guy made a mistake that lots of young guys make in college (and also before and after) – he got involved with a girl who was waving around red flags like she was starting a race.

I’m a senior at a large state university. This happened in the first semester of my freshman year.

I was selected for an honors-type program that placed me in a co-ed dorm building with every other student in the program. As a dumb freshman, I rushed into a relationship with a freshman girl who lived right above me (we’ll call her Megan). It was convenient for me to date someone who lived so close, but everyone else in our building hated Megan because she talked a lot, and almost exclusively about herself. She bragged often about being a “fairly aggressive” person, but somehow I overlooked that mile-wide red flag.

Then his mom noticed that his debit card was being used more than usual (to order food). OP hadn’t made the charges and he asked his gf, who also denied it and suggested he cancel the card.

So, he called the bank.

Right after Thanksgiving break, at the end of an evening class, I got a call from my mom, who noticed some unusual activity on my checking account. Back then I had no credit card, so this account/debit card was my only access to my savings while I lived on campus. I rarely needed to buy anything during the semester, so I was puzzled to find that $104.29 had left my bank account over two weeks—in the form of six Grubhub food orders.

At this point, I trusted Megan, but I decided to ask her about the money right away. She denied any involvement and suggested that I cancel my debit card. After a really long phone call to the bank, I did just that.

When he reached out to GrubHub and they sent him receipts, lo and behold, his girlfriend’s name was on them.

They both had dining plans and plenty of cash, so there was no issue of her not being able to eat at school.

Next, I reached out to Grubhub customer service on Twitter: “Hey, my card was stolen and used for food orders on these dates. Can I have the receipts?” They sent me the first and last receipts, but they had to “redact” the personal info of the account holder. I say “redact” in quotes because they just used the Snapchat draw tool, and Megan’s name was still clearly visible on both receipts. What’s more: The most recent receipt was only two hours old. She was probably still eating when I chopped up my debit card!

It’s worth noting that she and I both had unlimited dining plans—paid for by our respective parents—and we lived 500 feet from the nearest dining hall. She didn’t need to order food, and she definitely didn’t need my money to do it.

I sent Megan a breakup text and decided that the $104.29 was a loss. At least I escaped unscathed, right?

She finally confessed (after yelling at him) and honestly, he thought that was that.

That was not that.

Well, less than two days later, she entered my room when I wasn’t looking. I was sitting at my desk when I noticed her standing silently behind me.

Megan: “Give me my stuff. Where’s my stuff?”

Me: “What stuff?”

Megan: “YOU KNOW.”

I did not know. She tore through the room, looking for something that she refused to identify. Just as quick as she came, she was gone, and I locked the door because obviously this wasn’t over yet.

Within a minute, she was back. She stood outside my door, knocking and demanding I let her back inside. The knocking quickly got more violent. She started shouting “I KNOW YOU’RE F***ING IN THERE!” and “OPEN THE MOTHERF***ING DOOR!” Mind that we lived in this building with students in our program who all know each other, and all of them could hear her. Pretty quickly, Megan was rattling the handle of my door. Next, she began throwing herself at it, shoulder-first, trying to break it down. I lived next door to my RA, but judging by the lack of any intervention, he was elsewhere. So I whipped out my phone and texted him to send backup.

Meanwhile, I saw my heavy wooden door bending and buckling. I even heard it crack a bit.

The other RA showed up and they managed to get her away from the door and find out what she wanted.

He returned the things (which were gifts) and hoped it was really over then.

My RA was on duty in another building, so he sent three of his colleagues to de-escalate the situation. They brought Megan downstairs, where she revealed that the “stuff” she wanted was just the t-shirt and keychain that she gave me for my birthday. Whatever; I let her have those. I still just wanted this to be over.

It was too late for Megan, though. The school was involved now, and the ball started rolling without OP’s say so.

However, once I shared my story with the resident life staff, they filed university paperwork to place a no-contact order between me and Megan. They also recommended I contact the campus police, who then told me I should get my stolen money back in small-claims court (I couldn’t even get there without a car or money to pay for an Uber. Sorry, Judge Judy).

At the request of the campus police, I also contacted the Title IX office at my school, sending them the story of everything you’ve read so far. They were interested—to say the least—although I didn’t want any trouble. I just wanted a clean breakup and a fresh start, but a Title IX representative informed me that they were bringing three misconduct charges against Megan: theft, threatening/violent behavior, and inciting an intervention by university staff. The representative asked me to serve as a witness in Megan’s disciplinary hearing the next semester. I tentatively agreed, right before the representative set the hearing date for February 14th.

Valentine’s Day. I thought it was a joke, but they really did that.

In the interim, OP had found out a few things about his ex that made him feel less than sorry for anything that was about to happen.

When the day of the hearing finally arrived, the no-contact order was still in effect, but a few of my friends had kept tabs on Megan. For starters, she failed all of her classes in the fall. Someone in my math course confessed that Megan had tried to sleep with him while she was dating me, and he had to repeatedly tell her no. Even worse, Megan kept telling a twisted version of the whole story to try and turn my friends against me. So when I found out that she had found a new boyfriend, it felt good to know that the V-Day disciplinary hearing ruined whatever evening plans they might’ve made.

I arrived alone at the disciplinary board office, unsure what to expect. The board consisted of grad students, and the hearing was expected to run into the night.

Megan showed up with an entire entourage who were about to learn the sad truth about their friend (and daughter and client).

Because there was video.

Unlike me, Megan did not come alone. She brought both of her parents as “character witnesses” (that wasn’t even a thing here; this wasn’t a real courtroom, as you’ll soon see). And that’s not all: Megan’s parents also paid a lawyer to defend her against the charges.

The board knew that was unnecessary, but Megan’s parents believed so strongly in their daughter’s innocence that they had already paid this three-piece suit make her case. In the name of fairness, the board members offered me pro-bono legal representation: A junior economics major, who we’ll call Jimmy.

Jimmy had already read my account of the events from the fall, and thanks to my screenshots of Grubhub receipts, he said there was an okay shot of the charges sticking. Then I told him something I’d kept secret for months: When Megan tried to break down my door and I whipped out my phone to text my RA, I also filmed the whole thing.

Jimmy couldn’t get enough of the video. There was Megan, kicking and screaming and clearly trying to break into my dorm room. It was all the evidence I needed, and no one saw it coming. In the hearing, when the time came for me to make the case against Megan, Jimmy played the video on a big screen in front of everyone.

The room went insane.

Everyone knew the jig was up, and OP realized that Megan really had started to turn people against him, but it was too late for anything to change at that point – it was a melee.

In that instant, I realized that Megan really had convinced everyone I was the liar. In her version of the story, I gave her permission to buy food using my account. She told her parents that she’d asked me politely for her belongings, which I’d rudely hidden from her in my dorm room. In Megan’s story, I was the sociopath trying to ruin her reputation. Before I unveiled the video, it was her word against mine.

I still didn’t want revenge… Even after finding out that Megan tried to cheat on me. But when I saw her parents flipping out at the video: “WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL US YOU DID THIS?!” and her lawyer raising hell: “THIS EVIDENCE WAS NOT PROVIDED IN PRE-TRIAL DISCLOSURE!” and a board member standing over him: “SIR, THIS IS NOT A COURT OF LAW. PLEASE RETURN TO YOUR SEAT” and him shouting “OBJECTION!” and her replying: “WE DON’T HAVE OBJECTIONS, THIS ISN’T A COURT OF LAW” and Jimmy, my new best friend, just trying not to laugh out loud… That’s when I realized how good revenge can feel when it’s fair and deserved.

The board found her guilty and meted out justice.

The girlfriend ended up leaving school.

The board found Megan responsible on all three charges. My side of the bench recommended the university terminate her housing contact and force her to pay restitution. Her side recommended only restitution and a reprimand.

The board compromised. Her family paid back most of the money she stole (“most” because two of the six orders had the same price and the lawyer convinced the board I had duplicated an order), and Megan was forced to move into a different dorm building. This probably would’ve helped her anyway because every student in our program’s building knew everything she’d done and lied about. They wouldn’t speak to her, and no one wanted to be her roommate. By the time she had to move buildings, she’d already failed all of her courses again. Having paid for her tuition, her unused dining plan, her lawyer, and her restitution, Megan’s parents finally pulled her out of school.

Just a little update, for anyone wondering where the parties ended up…

Last I heard, Megan returned as a part-time student, but I never saw her again because the no-contact order still stands. I’m now Facebook friends with the guy Megan tried to seduce. Oh, and Jimmy and I connected on LinkedIn.

As for me, well… I no longer date “fairly aggressive” people.

I figure most of us have to learn the hard way when it comes to dating and relationships.

So… did Reddit have opinions? Oh, you betcha!

Because what was this lawyer thinking?

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Sit down lawyer?

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No… SIT DOWN!

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At least this guy says he learned his lesson. Time will tell!

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What Red Flag Do You Regret Ignoring Early in a Relationship? Women Shared Their Stories.

When you’re falling for someone or starting a new relationship, sometimes you ignore stuff.

You ignore things that you wouldn’t necessarily tolerate because you want it to work out so much…and sometimes that can come back to bite you in a major way.

Women, what red flags do you regret overlooking in the early days of a relationship?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts.

1. Not good.

“The terrible s**.

Obviously in the beginning you’re still working things out but if it’s still terrible after a few months despite trying your hardest to show them what you enjoy then don’t pretend it’s not a big deal when s** is a very important aspect of a healthy relationship.

I pretended it was no biggie, because hey its just s** and now I’m married and our bedroom is completely dead.”

2. Can’t have that.

“He made me feel self conscious about silly things like singing badly in the car.

We were married for 16 years before I realized I’d changed too much for him and had lost who I really am as a person. I couldn’t be silly or goofy, and he thought I was stupid for liking to get little gifts for people when I’d see something that made me think of them.

After our divorce, I moved halfway across the country (TX to CA) to work on myself away from the same places I’ve always lived. I feel like me again and felt good about moving back to TX because of the healthier place I’m in now.

Along the way, I realized I was too young and inexperienced in the realm of relationships when I got married and gave up too much of myself. Never again.”

3. Foreshadowing.

“Him saying I was a “real woman” and “different/better than his exes”.

Those comments made me feel good at the time, but then I realized it was his way of saying that actually no woman was good enough for him.”

4. Messed up.

“Unable to deal with negative emotions, being desperate to avoid them at all cost.

This led to me neglecting my own needs, because he’d take it as personal criticism if I told him I needed something he didn’t already give me.

Equating s** with love.”

5. Sketchy.

“He didn’t like me telling mutual friends about our relationship because he was a private person.

Lots of other red flags but this was a big one.

Turned out he was living a double life but it took me 2 years and a mental breakdown to figure that out.”

6. Never a good thing.

“Anger issues/”having a temper”/explosive outbursts of anger when things didn’t go his way/lashing out physically and verbally when upset.

Just because it hasn’t been directed at you yet, doesn’t mean you are actually safe.”

7. Sums it up.

“If the friends he hangs out with the most are a**holes, he’s an a**hole too.

He’s just acting differently because you’re around.”

8. Disaster area.

“The absolute state of his house.

He blamed it on his ex and being too small and swore it wouldn’t be the same once we moved in together.

Guess what?”

9. Only got worse.

“In my abusive relationship: when he yelled at me when he found out I was a feminist.

He accused me about lying about who I was by not telling him.

I thought it was pretty obvious from having even one conversation with me and didn’t feel the need to say “I’m a feminist”. It only got worse from there.”

10. Boozin’.

“The amount of alcohol.

We were young, so everyone was still in that stage of going out and partying a lot, me included, so I didn’t think much of it.

But he seemed to do it just a little more than everyone else.”

11. All about image.

“He was an appearance guy. He wanted to appear so perfect in his social circle.

In fact, our first fight was because he invited his 2 friends to our night out without my consent (no problem) but those guys acted as if I did not exist. Then I got bored and I wanted to leave after like an hour, he took me home but he sulked like a baby!

Months to come, he would take me out and treat me like a queen in front of his friends while at home we were fighting almost every week. I got tired of the duplicity and had to finally leave him.

But if I had known, I would have left after that first fight.”

12. Groomed.

“He was 12 years older than me and we began talking as “friends” when I was 15 years old.

Looking back i think i was groomed but hey, he’s not in my life anymore so what does it matter?”

13. The jealous type.

“Extreme jealousy.

He was very romantic and charming at first, then started accusing me of infidelity and flirting with other man. Once he accompanied me to the vet because my dog was in an accident and needed surgery.

He accused me of flirting with the vet, even though the vet and I were discussing my dog’s care. He has a meltdown over it later in the evening. That is only one example. Fast forward a couple of months…I find out he was still married and I was “the other woman”. Ew.”

Do you remember some red flags you overlooked in relationships?

If so, tell us about them in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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