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Was This Daughter Wrong to Call Out Her Father’s Fragile Masculinity?

The world was a certain way for many years, at least when it comes to the idea of “respecting our elders” and keeping our mouths shut in order to keep the peace, even if we really, really don’t agree with the rude and harmful things they say.

This woman grew up with a homophobic father, one who would make snide comments that everyone just ignored because they were “respecting their father.”

So my whole life I’ve known that my dad was a homophobe. No one else in my immediate family is, and no one really talks about any kind of lbgtq+ topic around him so it doesn’t really come up a lot with him. But whenever anything “gay” happens around him he starts on a small rant.

Now that she’s older and has a daughter of her own, she can see how harmful that can be, and is less willing to let things slide for a second generation.

When her father made a comment about The Wiggles.

So anyway. After living with this my whole life, I am now 24(F) and I have a one year old little girl who LOVES the Wiggles (a kids show). Sometimes when I’m visiting my parents we’ll (me and my mom) turn on Wiggles for her on Netflix and it keeps her entertained while we visit.

Her father made a few snide comments about how they were “gay” and it wasn’t “normal” and those were the “kind of people” who should be influencing kids, etc.

She’d had enough, and snapped that maybe their “masculinity isn’t as fragile as yours.”

My dad is always commenting on how he doesnt like the wiggles and its creepy. I usually ignore him but yesterday I decided to ask why. And he said “Because, to sing and dance and smile like that as a full grown man, you have to be gay.

That’s not the kind of people you want around kids.” I was kind of in shock at what he said and I was like “its just something funny and colorful for the kids.” I dont even remember what he said afterwards but it was another gay comment and I said “well maybe their masculinity isn’t as fragile as yours.”

Dad was upset, and though her mother laughed initially, she later said her daughter shouldn’t have said it. Her sister agrees she should have stayed quiet, too, because of “respect.”

My mom laughed at my comment but my dad was less than amused and was in a really bad mood and snapping at everyone so I decided to leave early. My mom told me he’s still mad this morning and that I really shouldn’t have said anything because “I know how he is.”

She also told my sister about it who texted me to tell me I should be more respectful to our dad (she’s always been a daddy’s girl) and basically that I was being an AH.

So AITA?

Now OP is wondering if she should have continued to just let her dad be a jerk unchecked, and Reddit has some really great thoughts on the matter (as usual!).

It’s been coming for awhile, honestly. Maybe he should get used to it.

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Seriously, stop letting people off the hook this way.

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It might be time to get into some good trouble.

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Perhaps they should stop being that way?

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Stop making excuses for poor behavior!

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It’s about time we all start putting our feet down and stop letting people like this get away with their bs.

I’m just saying.

Was she disrespectful? Firm? Right? Wrong? Sound off in the comments!

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Woman Asks If She’s Wrong For Refusing To Feed Her Sister’s Eating Disorder

Living with family members who have mental health issues can be extremely challenging. We want the best for the people we love, but sometimes it can be hard to know what that is – and when different family members have different takes on how best to help, things can get complicated fast.

In this poor woman’s case, she’s living in her childhood home with her sister, who has a significant eating disorder that’s affecting everyone in her life.

OP has managed the situation by keeping a small fridge and snacks in her locked bedroom and eating meals at work or with her boyfriend. Their parents bring her sister (and sometimes her) meals, and those are all gone within minutes.

I love my sister, but she eats everything in sight the moment she finds it. I have a lock on my door and have gotten a small fridge. I keep fruit and water in there, some snacks, and then I will go to my boyfriend’s to eat. My sister is unemployed at the moment and my parents bring her meals (about 1200 calories per meal) and she will scarf it down. If they leave something for me, she eats that as well.

She’s tried talking to her sister, begging her to get help, keeping groceries in the fridge, etc, and nothing has worked. Her sister is caught in a binge/purge cycle that never ends, and all their parents do is enable her.

She once got so hungry she ate parmesan cheese from a shake bottle. As much as I love my sister, she has eaten about $400 in groceries this month alone. I tried so hard to refill it, talk it out with her, and she just binges, purges, binges more. She couldn’t even be measured on my scale, which goes up to 450 pounds.

OP says she’s done buying food for her sister, who obviously has a problem.

Their parents are going out of town, and everyone is wondering what the sister is going to eat after she inevitably eats everything her parents leave in the first couple of days.

I told her that I was done feeding her. She can talk to our parents and figure it out. I was done. I have the lock-in in my bedroom, which has always been there, and I eat with my boyfriend. I eat at work. But there is nothing but bottled water in the fridge for her right now.

My parents are going out of town next week and have agreed to buy her food for the week. I told them that if she eats it all, she is going to be hungry the rest of the days.

OP is the only one pushing for treatment, and is about at the end of her rope. She’s going to kill herself without help, and OP is ready to move out and in with her boyfriend to remove herself from having to watch it all go down.

I have been very clear with them that she needs to go to some kind of therapy/clinic. There has to be something to be done for someone with her issues. But she ignores it. It is at the point where she cannot get into my Corolla to drive anywhere because she is too big.

The house we live in is my childhood home and I lived there with Ashley because she is my sister. But now it’s to the point where my boyfriend has said to just move in with him. Which would mean my parents would have to watch her because her health is so bad she can’t do a lot of things without help.

I didn’t sign up to be her saviour.

AITA?

She’s wondering if she’s wrong to walk out, or to stop feeding her sister in the first place, so let’s see what sort of advice Reddit has, hmm?

I really don’t think there’s any arguing against this point.

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It’s sad, but you can’t help people who aren’t willing to help themselves.

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Everyone needs to be on board, otherwise nothing is going to change.

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Therapy sounds like the obvious answer, and I really hope for this family’s sake that the sister makes her way there, and soon.

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Maybe the parents should stay out of town a bit longer.

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I feel for the sisters here, and want to smack the parents up the head. I hope the story has a happy ending, but it’s not looking like it right now.

What do you think OP should do? Is it her responsibility? Let’s hash it out in the comments!

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This Person Wonders if They’re a Jerk for Asking Their Friend to Pay for Their Dog’s Surgery

If you happen to have pets, then you already know that vet bills can be astronomical.

And this situation involving a dog from a person on Reddit seems like it might just end a friendship.

Let’s see what went down…

WIBTA for asking my friend to pay for my dogs surgery after she almost k**led him?

“One of my good friends came to my apartment to go out together one night, let’s call her Lauren. I also have a 20 week old puppy.

Lauren is notoriously messy when visiting. She will go through her clothes, my clothes and just about everything to find an outfit to go out. However, now that I have my puppy I reminded Lauren when she first came in the apartment to please keep everything off of the ground and out of reach of my puppy.

I told her that he will chew/eat anything left on the ground, so for anything she cared about & for my puppies safety, to keep it up high.

Lauren continued to have her clothes and miscellaneous items from her bag sprawled out everywhere. So instead of reminding her after the 2nd or 3rd time, I just started putting her items in another room and closing the door for her to pick up later.

While getting ready Lauren decided to take a shower and she brought her own shaving razor. When she mentioned shaving, I told her to be careful because my puppy had tried to get ahold of my razor before, so be careful.

Long story short, I crate my dog and we go out. I come back and he is having bloody diarrhea and squealing. At 4 AM, I rush to the emergency vet. They tell me he’s probably constipated and to monitor him. I questioned this but didn’t know what he could’ve ate yet, so I take him home and watch him closely.

After coming home and making sure he is okay. I do a quick sweep of my house and try (emphasis on try, there were crop tops, socks, etc. flung all around my room) to find all the items she had left around my apartment. Lauren picks up her stuff and leaves.

The next day when I am taking a shower I notice she left her razor on the ground by my shower. It looked a bit off so I sent her a picture and asked if a part was missing. She says the bikini shaver of it is missing and seems unconcerned. I tell Lauren I think my puppy may have ate it.

So I go to my local vet to have another checkup and they take X-rays. The vet tells me he indeed ate the razor and that he needs to go to another vet over an hour away for emergency surgery, or he would not make it through the night. Of course, I rush there and they do the surgery.

Later I text Lauren that he is having surgery because he swallowed her bikini razor. Lauren tells me she is sorry for leaving it out and didn’t ever mean for this to happen.

We are good friends, I would like to still be. My question is would I be the a**hole it I asked her to cover part of the costs from his surgery?

My puppy is obviously a bit at fault here for eating it, I’m at fault for not searching my apartment well enough after she made a mess, but I believe she is at fault for leaving a razor out where he could get to it after being reminded SEVERAL times.

I’m not intending on asking her to cover full cost, but would I be the a**hole for asking for anything?”

And here’s how people on Reddit reacted.

This person doesn’t think the writer of the post is in the wrong at all for asking her friend to help pay the bills for the dog.

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Another reader couldn’t believe that the friend didn’t offer to pay the whole amount!

I think I agree!

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This Reddit user said the person’s friend is obviously not a responsible individual.

At all.

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And this reader went so far as to say that they might’ve dodged a bullet with this “friend.”

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Lastly, this individual made it quite clear and simple: this is not how real friends treat each other.

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People Talk ABout the Weirdest Animal Mating Rituals Out There

You know when you’ve been enjoying a nature documentary and then it gets to the really uncomfortable mating part and you feel like maybe you’re gonna vomit?

If you hate that, do NOT read on.

What is an animal’s mating ritual you’re glad humans don’t have? from AskReddit

We’re about to get the lessons in nature we never wanted, thanks to Reddit.

1. Scorpions

Scorpion males are smaller than females and are often hunted by them. In order to reproduce the male must lock pincers with the female and then drop a packet of sperm on the ground.

He must then maneuver the much larger female over the packet so that she gets the sperm inside of her.

This whole time the female is trying to eat the male who, after his tango with death must run away or become lunch.

– Gringoboi17

2. Tasmanian devils

The male holds the female hostage in her own den until she becomes pregnant, which could be days.

She does violently chase him from her den after she’s pregnant.

But I can’t imagine those days trapped with him are pleasant.

– indigocraze

3. Hippos

Hippos s**t and twirl their tails propeller-style to impress their mates, and if Gloria is interested, she will take a dump on Moto-motos head, which is something I am glad Humans don’t do.

– iamthesex

4. Koalas

Besides that horrifying screams that they produce, there is no actual ‘mating ritual’ or even ‘mating season’ – koala males straight up r**e female koalas whenever they please.

– defaultQueue

5. Ferrets

As cute as ferrets are, they have a horrible mating ritual.

Basically, the male ferret (called a hob), has to maul the ever living s**t out of the female ferret (called a jill) to get her to ovulate.

If humans did this, is would make it a lot easier to avoid accidental pregnancy, but would also make it very obvious when a woman was trying to have a child.

“Not sure if spousal abuse, or just trying to get pregnant” would be a common sentiment.

– Fairytaleautumnfox

6. Frogs

Male Frog: Let me inflate my body to three times its natural volume and then blast it out in the noisiest way possible, girls love this s**t

Female Frog: Your self inflation fetish has seduced me, grab onto my belly and fertilize the water with your male products as I squeeze out a huge mass of absolutely disgusting jelly blobs

– ThadisJones

7. Horses

(well, mares anyway) spontaneously urinate when they’re in season and they’re near a stallion.

It’s completely instinctive and I get the impression it’d be quite embarrassing in humans.

– fursty_ferret

8. Hummingbirds

I watch a lot of hummingbirds around my backyard. I love them so much.

But let me tell you, being a boy hummingbird trying to snag a mate has got to be the most terrifying thing….they fly up quite far, dive bomb almost into the gravel..multiple times. And when one looks like a pretty clear catch, another male bird will come out of nowhere and attack him.

Then come and have the audacity to sit on my feeder and make eye contact with me, with an enemies feather stuck to his face.

God, they’re precious

– Shaneaux

9. Octopus

I don’t want to just rip off my arm which is also my penis and give it to some girl to use then throw away or really and cephalopod because that would involve me sticking my arm penis into her face vagina

– Le-smexy-Baggutte

10. Jackals

I saw a nature film where a female jackal will bring her chosen mate back to her family for a meet up.

Her father and brothers will surround him and scratch up dirt while urinating, soaking him in a mix of p**s and mud.

– wufoo2

11. Ducks

They’re cute r**e machines.

There’s an arm race going on, where males evolve a penis that’s meant to be as efficient as possible for r**ing females, while females evolve twisted vaginas meant to make r**e as hard as possible.

Read about it, it’s fascinating/horrifying.

– thePsychonautDad

12. Surinam Toads

The Suriname Toad keeps its eggs in its back the eggs infuse with the skin.

When the eggs hatch the tadpoles will live inside the skin of their mother until they have matured into young frogs and squeeze out.

– Block_Mountain

13. Worms

There is a kind of worm where the females never want to mate with the males.

So instead actual intercourse the male shoots the sperm after the female, so the worm with the best range gets to pass on their genes

– gifflareater

14. Porcupines

So much erect penis pee spraying and screaming, and then of course the risk of the act itself.

The only good part is they do it once a year instead of frequently, but still.

– BuffetOfBeav

15. Garden birds

Many garden birds have a ritual in which the male pecks the female’s cloaca empty of the sperm of previous mates before having his own go.

Imagine if men would suck out previous partners’ sperm before having sex with a woman. I have imagined and I am very sorry I did…

– MissRbvK

If you’ll excuse me, I need to go wash my brain out with soap.

Any other weird animal facts you know?

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Weirdly Gross Things That Couples Do For Each Other

When people discuss intimacy in a relationship, they’re usually referring to the steamy, sensual stuff. Which is weird, because the truth is, most of the intimacy that comes along with getting close to someone isn’t hot at all. A lot of it is just plain gross.

Because getting close to someone – warts and all – involves stuff like, yanno, warts. And oddly, you begin not to mind. Because that’s love. That’s real love. That’s the kind of intimacy nobody’s searching for, but that they all find eventually.

And then you take to the internet to tell strangers about it anonymously.

Warning: if you’re queasy, some of this is genuinely gag-worthy.

10. The ingrown hair

What greater love hath any man than this?

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9. The towel boy

It’s a tough job but somebody’s gotta do it.

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8. The peel

Oh man, it hurts so much just reading this.

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7. The pore

Well that’s…very nice for both of you.

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6. The zits

I’ll never understand why some people are fascinated by this kind of thing.

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5. The was

All the better to hear you with, my dear.

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4. The extra mile

Totally reasonable.

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3. You gonna finish that?

I’d freak all the way out if someone started doing this to me.

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2. The back

It’s kind, but it’s also such a hassle.

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1. Down there

Well now we’re crossing back into the hot territory.

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How do you know you’ve found true love? Probably when something like this happens.

What’s something weird you’ve done for your partner?

Tell us in the comments.

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Mating Rituals That Would Definitely be Super Strange For Humans

One of the strangest writing jobs I’ve ever had was for an annual infotainment show for a zoo in which my partner and I wrote a series of sketches about weird animal mating rituals.

I have learned things I never wanted to know, and my search history is forever scarred.

What is an animal’s mating ritual you’re glad humans don’t have? from AskReddit

And now it’s time for you to join me in my forbidden/cursed knowledge. Behold, the words of Reddit.

1. Bellbirds

In 2019 researchers found that the song of the male white bellbird can reach levels of up to 125 decibels.

This makes it the loudest bird ever recorded to date, crushing the previous record holder, the screaming piha (which has been recorded up to 116 dB).

The worst/best part (depends on how you look at it) is that it performs at its loudest when the female is on the same branch, screaming right at her, which is enough to even cause hearing damage in the female. Imagine walking into a bar, and just screaming at the top of your lungs, popping the eardrums of every girl in the bar, just to announce that you’re single.

– girrafitygoo

2. Giraffes

The males repeatedly headbutt the females in the bladder until they p**s themselves, then they taste the urine to see if the female is in heat.

I’m sure some of you freaks are into that but still.

– Coera

3. Moose

They make a ditch, fill it with p**s, trample around to make some delicious p**sy mud then splash around so it covers their whole body.

Moose are LIT.

– Crackracket

4. Anglerfish

Females are humongous compared to males, so rather than doing it the old fashioned way, the male will bite onto the female, his insides will slowly turn to mush, and he eventually fuses with the female, depositing sperm in the process.

Pretty metal.

– begoniasaurus-rex

5. Salmon

They’re born in freshwater, swim sometimes thousands of kilometers to get to the ocean and live out most of their lives, then when it’s time to mate they have to make the same journey back to where they were born except this time upstream against the current.

And on top of that, the majority of salmon die after spawning.

Imagine living your entire life knowing it all leads up to you making a grueling several thousand km journey just to bust one nut and die right after.

– the_freshest_scone

6. Antechinus

Male Antechinus refuse to eat or rest during mating season; they will smash nonstop until their body begins eating itself.

By the end of their mating season, the corpses of ragged males litter the breeding grounds.

– Spooplegeist

7. Garden birds

Many garden birds have a ritual in which the male pecks the female’s cloaca empty of the sperm of previous mates before having his own go.

Imagine if men would suck out previous partners’ sperm before having s** with a woman. I have imagined and I am very sorry I did…

– MissRbvK

8. Eagles

Evidently they do some some complex mating ritual, which eventually results in them locking claws as they fall to the ground.

Much fewer fatalities than the bee thing, but there’s still a chance of making birdie pancakes, rather than baby eagles.

– CrankaWhiskour

9. Elephant seals

A male will force about 50 females together on a beach as his harem, and will mate with them while biting them to keep them from fleeing.

Usually other males will be attracted, and the beachmaster will rush over to fight the newcomers, potentially rolling over and crushing some of his own offspring. They’ll slam and bite each other bloody, and the winner grabs a female and mates in triumph.

– ugagradlady

10. Slugs

They are hermaphrodites and in order to determine which of the two individuals will be the male seed, they gnaw at each other’s penis until one of them snaps off.

– randolphism

11. Dogs

Dogs get stuck during mating because of a process called a copulatory tie. It is also one of the main stages in the process of intercourse.

The male dog has an organ called the bulbus glandis, which is responsible for keeping him tied up with the female. The dog breeding tie basically keeps the semen secured inside the female dog.

The bulbus glandis expands and gets locked in the uterus, and the female dog gets higher chances of getting puppies.

You could never pull out! That’s the true doggy style

– Escape-Lucky

12. Porcupines

So much erect penis pee spraying and screaming, and then of course the risk of the act itself.

The only good part is they do it once a year instead of frequently, but still.

– BuffetOfBeav

13. Periodic cicadas

They live underground as larval nymphs, sucking xylem from tree roots, for years. Thirteen or seventeen, depending on the species. That’s all they do.

Then, a brood emerges from the ground, thousands or millions strong. Each one climbs a trunk or branch, molts one final time – and then the males begin to sing the song of their people. Nonstop, for the rest of their lives. The males and females mate, the females usually once, the males as frequently as possible.

The females lay their fertilized eggs, and then the adults (the ones who have not been eaten by predators or crushed by human accident) all die. When the eggs hatch, the new generation of larval nymphs burrow into the soil and the circle of life continues.

– Genshed

14. Monkeys

There are monkeys which hierarchy is based on having sex.

That means if you are a young male monkey, you got to hold your a** out for the elders, to be in better standing

– izefaze

15. Suriname Toads

The Suriname Toad keeps its eggs in its back the eggs infuse with the skin.

When the eggs hatch the tadpoles will live inside the skin of their mother until they have matured into young frogs and squeeze out.

– Block_Mountain

Yeah, I’m glad we don’t have to do any of that.

What’s a weird animal fact that you know?

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Read About the Real Upsides (and Downsides) of Being Attractive

There’s been a whole lot of wisdom about physical attractiveness and shallowness and finding true fulfillment over the years.

The best of it, of course, came from Zoolander.

Would you pay $5000 to be extremely physically attractive? Why or why not? from AskReddit

So, is there actually more to life than being really, really, really, ridiculously good looking? Let’s see what Reddit has to say.

1. Seems like a bargain.

I need at least $5000 more in dental work and also probably twice as much for surgery, just to look normalish again. $5k to fix everything would be magnificent!

Wouldn’t even need the whole ‘extremely attractive’ bit, but if that’s included, nice.

– MedusasSexyLegHair

2. Reverse!

It doesn’t say decent shape though, it just says extremely attractive.

It could be achieved by making everybody attracted to my fat unhealthy body.

– of_a_varsity_athlete

3. Easy for you to say.

“No no no, just be yourself! Looks aren’t everything!”

– The average very attractive person

– Princess_Moon_Butt

4. Give me a challenge.

Isn’t this supposed to be a tough choice?

Like you’re extremely physically attractive but you can’t stop farting whenever you smile or something

– Dainish410

5. There are downsides.

No.

Because I’m finally at an age where I am comfortable in who I am. I prefer to not be the most noticed person in a room.

Being extremely attractive as a woman comes at a cost. Constant harassment by men, jealousy from women. Never going anywhere or doing anything inconspicuously.

I love being anonymous in public and prefer for people to find me attractive getting to know me.

– MustBeThursday42

6. Things change.

I wasn’t attractive or popular as a child, I was the last picked for the team and generally just a nothing.

Then there was a time in my life where I was very physically attractive. People treat you differently. People want to be your friend who sneered at you before. People want to be around you because of what it does for them, and their image. People who bullied you before suck up to you. People of the opposite sex pretend to like you and you think they are your friend but then they hit on you.

Now that I don’t look like that anymore I know that people who like me, genuinely like me for who I am.

– [deleted user]

7. Sign me up.

Dude, I would pay 50,000. F*ck, 500,000 (assuming i can pay in instalments). Sh*t man, I would give up the last twenty years of my life (and I am 45)

Nothing determines your success in life more than attractiveness. Nothing.

– theAnalepticAlzabo

8. Not a collector’s item.

I have an extremely attractive friend and by that experience I wouldn’t want that life.

She has a lot of *ssholes around her and there has been a lot of jealousy in her relationships.

It’s like many people just want to collect and possess her to bump up their image

– theswamphag

9. A solid investment.

heck yeah, even in terms of just sheer money I’d absolutely make all that money back before too terribly long just in terms of what extra I’d make/save because people find me hot.

At the end of the day though, it would give me the push I need to get my confidence and turn myself around

– ParkityParkPark

10. Want to be known.

Nah.

I’m decent enough looking now. Being attractive doesn’t matter and I don’t think I’d do well with more attention based on my appearance.

I want to be known, accepted, wanted, appreciated, and loved.

Being extremely physically attractive may open more doors, but it doesn’t guarantee ever being seen for more than just that.

– switchboards

11. Save that cash.

No. I’d rather spend the money on something else.

– PerfectParfait5

12. It’s a steal!

Even at like 100k it’s a steal. It’s a well documented phenomenon that attractive people are considered more frequently for promotion / raises at work and are more likely to be judged as having ‘leadership skills’ than average people.

Assuming you work a standard office job, it would pay back fairly quickly.

– Wind_Yer_Neck_In

13. The married life.

Nah, just because it’d be a waste.

I’d still be kinda old and married and thus, completely unf*ckable.

– TheRynoceros

14. Let’s haggle.

I would pay $1 to look remotely attractive.

– ThiccDaddy1198

15. What a twist!

Monkey’s Paw : OP didn’t specify physically attractive to what

– xaradevir

At this point I’d empty my bank account just to fit into my old jeans again. But apparently I have to “exercise” and “stop eating nachos for every meal” instead. What a rip off.

How would you answer this question?

Tell us in the comments.

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Signs of a Truly Good Friendship

I don’t know if this is actually a well-known song or if I just grew up in a very specific circle, but there’s kind of a cheeseball tune by a guy named Michael W. Smith that goes:

“And friends are friends forever
If the Lord’s the Lord of them
And a friend will not say never
‘Cause the welcome will not end”

From here we can surmise that a true friend is endlessly welcoming and also religious, apparently. But let’s see if we can broaden that a bit, with the help of Reddit.

What are some of the "green flags" of a true freindship? from AskReddit

Here are some solid green flags, regardless of your feelings for the Lord.

1. Pick back up

Even if you haven’t seen each other in a while you’re able to pick up right where you both left off.

– radpandaparty

2. Non-compete

When they don’t try to compete with you, aren’t jealous of you, truly are happy for you when good things happen to you don’t give you back handed compliments and don’t put you down.

When they don’t talk bad about you behind your back.

Good friends listen to you, care about you and are there by your side through good and bad times.

– Fitbarbie1

3. “Get a divorce”

When my dad got divorced, he found a lot of his friends were really just my mom’s friends.

He had exactly ONE friend who helped him pack up and move. His joke after this was if you win the lottery, you’ll find out real quick how big your family apparently is. But if you wanna find out how many friends you have, get a divorce.

The lesson here is that a true friend will stand by you even in a really dark place where they have absolutely nothing to benefit from standing by your side, and even in some cases, something to lose.

– wehosh

4. Stepping up and stepping in

I got the news that my grandma was dying this past Tuesday.

Unfortunately I had work at 4 and class before hand so I planned on going to see her the next day. But my sister was insistent that she wasn’t going to make.

Texting my group chat I asked my other shift leads (only can switch with a SL due to me being a SL) to ask if anyone could cover. No one answered. I left for work early. At the shop, I was beyond frustrated at my friends that I started ranting to my old co worker ( and now my absolute best friend) who quit a few weeks ago.

He jokingly said he could cover if my boss let him. Literally a few mins later my boss walks in, and in tears I explained to him my situation and agreed to let my friend cover my shift for me. My friend agreed and he came in to the shop literally 20 mins later.

I was able to see my grandma and say my goodbyes that night. My grandma passed away an hour after I left. The realest of them all.

– nutttymeag

5. Hot gos

When nothing you ever told them, ends up as gossip.

– MorgainofAvalon

6. Laughter

Being able to make each other laugh.

Really, truly, help-I-can’t-breathe laughter.

I didn’t realize how rare it was until it was too late.

– hamanar

7. Listening skills

When they listen to your problems and give you intelligent solutions, or remember something you once told them that was important to you.

– NotAnNSASpySatellite

8. The list

For me, there are usually a lot of those little green flags, but a few stand out.

1) You can tell that the person is genuinely concerned or truly sad when something terrible and/or heartbreaking happens to you.

2) They become angry on your behalf whenever someone hurts you, disrespects you, screws you over, etc., and they go into protective mode for you.

3) They’ll remind you of all the great things about yourself during those dark times when you can’t see such things so clearly.

4) They remember details about things you’ve discussed with them.

5) They let that song that you love play until the end – even if it’s a song they don’t really dig.

– SquirrellyRabbit

9. Pitching in

I’ve always noticed that with new acquaintances that turned out later to become good friends of mine there’s a big focus on respect, consideration, and reciprocity from the get go.

Obviously it’s cool to take turns buying lunch for each other but I’ve also hosted new friends that would clean up for me before they left while my old friends leave beer cans everywhere.

That new person expressed through their actions “I respect you offering your home, that’s why I considered to return you at least a small favor of cleaning up my mess just because I appreciate the relationship we have”.

– Layton115

10. No expectations

Doing things for you without any expectation of reciprocation.

– RedditRam24

11. Checking in

When they will stop doing stuff they like or want to do in order to see if you’re okay or need anything.

– CSPStuff

12. How far will you go?

Loyalty with a breaking point.

Obviously all friends should be loyal, but I think the best things one of my best friends ever did for me was threaten to end our friendship.

I liked a girl who was toxic, but I kept going back to her. My friend and I were on the phone one night and I told her I was talking to this girl again and she just got real quiet and she said “I know how bad she has hurt you before because you tell me. And I tell you every time she’s not worth it, but you keep going back. I can’t keep seeing you get your heart broken when it’s your choice because then I pick up the pieces and you do it again. If you do this, eventually we’re going to wake up one day and we won’t be friends.”

Talk about the strongest kick of realization I ever had. My friend had known me so much longer than this girl. And she had never done anything to screw me over like this girl had. I told the toxic girl that night and told her I didn’t want to be friends anymore.

So, loyalty, but with a breaking point.

– expletiveinyourmilk

13. Feeling comfortable

When you’re with them and you don’t have to second guess anything or feel self-conscious. When you can just say what you want to say without rehearsing it first.

(Of course, this differs depending on your level of social anxiety, but I find that in general you should feel more at ease around true friends).

– iniestas

14. Secrets

You can tell them your deepest darkest Secrets the things that you’re ashamed of and embarrassed about and know there will be no judgement

– kcpstil

15. REAL secrets

They tell you about the bodies even when they haven’t asked for your help burying them.

– AsboZapruder

That reminds me, I need to tell my buddy Mike about some bodies.

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People Talk About the Biggest Friendship “Green Flags”

There aren’t many things in this life better than having a truly good friend at your side.

But how can you tell when it’s the real thing? Maybe Reddit can help.

What are some of the "green flags" of a true freindship? from AskReddit

Here are some sure-fire signs to look out for.

1. Text first

They text you first when they don’t want anything.

– SilasDeane76

2. Protection

My friend once told me ” I Won’t let anyone hurt you man, even yourself” while helping me get off drugs.

That always rang out as a true friend thing to say to someone.

– Generalkrunk

3. No judgement

When they don’t judge you for things you can’t control. In high school, I had a sleepover, we all slept in the same bed, like normal.

I’d recently started some new medication. Turns out, a side effect was bedwetting.

They never told anyone. They never judged me. They helped me change the sheets. I’m still friends with those girls.

– SheketBevakaSTFU

4. Nothing and everything

When you can talk about nothing and talk about deep things.

Lots of friends only have one or the other.

– kraftykitten

5. Confidence

When you don’t have to talk 24/7 to know that you’re there for each other no matter what.

And when you do see/talk to each other again, it’s like no time has passed at all – you just have more stories to tell.

– ridiculoys

6. Hang time

“wanna hang out” then you don’t hang out and neither of you mind and then you hang out next week

– JAdamsidk123

7. The reverse

They’ll make fun of you to your face and defend you behind your back.

– Duluthian378181

8. The night life

When its 3am, you KNOW its 3am, NEITHER OF YOU ARE HIGH, and yet you’ve both been chortling at something that was said at 10:30…

– RedditGremlin13

9. Always welcome

When they can walk into your house unannounced and be welcomed in like a blood brother who’s come back after being away for the weekend

– jorph

10. Pick me up

You’ve both picked each other up or dropped each other at the airport at some ungodly hour and still enjoyed the drive.

– findingthescore

11. Silence is golden

Not needing to talk all the time or hang out regularly to justify having a solid friendship.

– themarajade1

12. It’s all convenient

They don’t mind being “inconvenienced” by you (in other words they don’t mind helping you/ being there for you)

– Jazz_Xyz

13. Feeling seen

When you can recognize someone’s mood without them telling you that they are upset.

– Oreo-and-Fly

14. Just to vent

I think the best thing I’ve heard from one of the few friends I’ve had is when I was having a real sh*t day and they asked if I wanted advice, just to vent, or needed a distraction.

The intention that day had been to help paint some walls in her house. She was perfectly fine with me hanging out and chatting, curled up in a blanket on the couch, while she painted her own walls and then we ordered takeout.

The sh*t was bad, but the day wound up pretty good.

– ElectronicFerret

15. Hmm…

One of my friends understands pretty much exactly what me going “hmm” at different lengths and pitches means.

– Trans-Trash-0310

If you’ve got yourself a friend that fits any of those descriptions, hang on to ’em.

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People Discuss What They’ve Did to Get Over a Crush They Had for Years

I don’t know why the word for liking somebody a lot is “crush,” but if I had to guess, it’s because going through it just ABSOLUTELY CRUSHES YOUR SOUL.

So how do you shake a crush that’s crushing you to no benefit?

What helped you get over a crush you had for years? from AskReddit

Let us sit at the feet of Reddit and gather its wisdom.

1. “The idea of her.”

Well, for me, I kept telling myself that I did not fall in love with her, but with the idea of her.

I had always imagined a future with her… I wouldn’t bore you with the details, but yeah in those imaginations she seemed to be so excited about my presence, I mean she was in real life too (she’s a pretty good friend of mine), but in those dreams, a little more, I guess?

But anyway the fabricated and real girl were almost pole opposites in nature. So I kept telling myself for three years that the girl I actually had a crush on never existed. I liked the girl in my imagination, and there, she liked me back too; it wasn’t the case with the real one.

So that’s what helped me move on from her.

She’s still my friend, maybe we’re not as close as we were before, maybe it’s for the best. I still sometimes get slight feelings for her, but I’m sure it will wear out with time.

– PlatypusNo81

2. “The last time we talked.”

The fact that I just stopped initiating the conversation and that was the last time we talked.

– peanutcopter

3. “Crying.”

A lot of time.

A lot of crying and a lot of time spent on my own.

– pr1nc3sskn33saa

4. “Found a woman.”

Found a woman who was interested in me.

It’s so much better when the feelings are mutual.

– ChaseDonovan

5. “The realization.”

The realization that I would probably feel lonely in a relationship with him.

– AMythRetold

6. “Deal breaker.”

He tried to stab his mom.

That was kind of a deal breaker.

– KSmegal

7. “A lack of ambition.”

Realizing she had a lack of ambition with her life, and that I was a lot more invested into maintaining the relationship than she was.

Something I always try to remember going forward is that you have to separate what the relationship used to be/what it could be vs. what it actually is.

Some things you just can’t change or work out.

– Megaric

8. “I then found out…”

My grandma ran into his dad at my open house and I then found out that we are cousins

– notgreatbutstillok

9. “My realization.”

My realization of how I was an absolute stalker on his social media

– CelebrationHot5209

10. “Crushes can make you stupid.”

I should have known it wasn’t going to turn out well when we started making out while her boyfriend was in the bathroom.

An obvious red flag now, but just the coolest, most slow motion movie scene at the time.

Crushes can make you stupid.

– philatio11

11. “Complete 180.”

My feelings didn’t change when she was interested in other guys…until she actively tried to date a married guy.

COMPLETE 180 for me on that one in mere seconds. 2 year-long mega crush gone.

– YeomaTV

12. “I dump the crush.”

Imagining hypothetical situations for so long that I discovered the situation where we actually go out but then I dump the crush

– Revoider

13. “Became his friend.”

Became his friend.

Turns out, he is not my type AT ALL. I only liked the idea of him.

The mystery of not knowing him was what made him attractive.

– Sreejoinder

14. “She said ‘no.’”

Coming in way too late, but here goes.

When I finally told her how I felt and was rejected, I asked her if she ever thought about the possibility of us together. She said “No.” It was as if I could feel my brain rewiring right there in the moment, because I realized I wasted so many years pining over someone who never once considered me in the same way.

Who knows what opportunities I missed because I was so fixated on her? Thankfully I got out of my head in my early 20’s before it impeded anymore growth on my part.

– sonaked

15. “Too similar.”

Our interests were too similar.

I liked girls, so did she.

– AshCooper79

Ah. Yeah. Well, that’ll do it.

Have you ever shaken a big crush? How did you pull it off?

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