Times When People Tried to Cover Up Something Major and Made It Worse

When something bad happens – on purpose, an accident, whatever – that hurts or has the potential to hurt people, the best thing is to own up to it immediately so that the fallout can be mitigated as quickly as possible.

Now, that might be the truth (and common sense) but for a lot of people, trying to cover up a huge bungle is just a knee-jerk reaction – and here are 11 times that people definitely should have just owned up to the mistake from the get-go.

11. It was a horror show.

Anything Japan did in WW2, now Japan just denies everything, but they tried. Unit 731 isn’t communist propaganda anymore. John Rabe was an angel of a Nazi.

Same thing happened with the Armenian genocide, an alarming number of genocides really.

10. It’s never going to stop now.

Andrew Cuomo and the covid nursing home death issue.

Opened the floodgates for not just criticism of his leadership, but it removed the ability for him to retaliate against the people’s he’s sexually harassed.

He’s gone from a liberal hero to a pariah in a few weeks.

9. Mamas always know.

The U S Army trying to cover up the cause of death for SSG. Ryan Maseth, they tried to say it was a suicide until Ryan’s mother got it investigated and it came out that the cause was a ungrounded water pump that had been signed off by two American electricians working for KBR in Iraq.

Ryan’s mother tried to sue and it went up to the supreme court where they ruled they could not allow KBR to be sued because they were to vital to national defense. At least the truth was told.

8. The answer is almost always to ignore it.

Tons of memes here but does anyone member the Beyonce photo that her manager demanded be taken down?

That worked well.

Beyoncé had a kind of unflattering picture of her taken from her Super Bowl performance and she looked like she was deadlifting a heavy weight or taking a huge dump and her manager tried to get it removed from the internet and instead it backfired and became a huge meme.

7. A mistake, though.

It was in no way a major cover-up but At my school one of the teachers got caught drunk driving but for some reason the school just called everybody he was sick and would not be at school for a couple days.

Of course what they did not realize what is that the officer who arrested him had a kid who went to our school and by the end of the day literally everybody was talking about it and even the gave him crap for it after he came back.

6. She still got them.

In 1974, Karen Silkwood was found dead, as a result of a car crash. Silkwood was a chemical technician and labor union activist who was about the reveal the safety hazards.

Despite drugs found on the scene, the police and coroner didn’t believe the drug claim and went looking for other likely others. After being informed about death threats from her family, the Atomic Energy Commission, and the State Medical Examiner found radioactive contamination in her body.

This prompted an investigation at Kerr-McGee, the company Silkwood was talking about, which reveal the very problems that were about to going to be exposed to the media. Kerr-McGee had to pay up for what was done as they were held liable.

5. Prepare yourself.

Check out what’s been happening in the Australian Parliament House….

Attorney general accused of historical r*pe (PM says he’s an innocent man without having done any investigation)

Alleged r*pe in parliament house in a female MPs office (guy got shifted on because of “security breaches”)

Multiple members of staff wanked over a female MPs desk, recorded it and shared it around with each other

Just some of the action that came from the AG trying to cover-up an historical r*pe.

Oh! And the thousands of women who marched for justice at parliament house and were told that the PM would only talk to a small delegation if they went into parliament house…which they obviously were not keen to be doing.

4. It just took awhile.

I’d describe Harvey Weinstein and Jeffrey Epstein as perpetrators of massive cover-ups that backfired!!

As of right now, the Epstein cover up seems pretty successful due to the lack of indictments and convictions considering the alleged scope. I get that JE was convicted and Jizlane is in jail, but the amount of people alleged to be involved that are still on cable news networks, holding public office, etc. makes it seem to me as being pretty successful. Hopefully that changes!

3. The forbidden click.

I think the whole “fappening” kerfuffle was made much worse by all the media coverage and celeb statements. The nudes would still have been seen by lots of people, but I’d say 10x more people saw them simply because of the people going online saying “DON’T LOOK AT THIS!”.

Forbidding someone from doing something. That famously efficacious method of getting them to not do the thing. With its long track record of successes, including Prohibition, the War on Drugs, Abstinence-Only Sex Ed, and deleting any mention of Aimee Challenor.

2. Still makes me mad.

Whatever it was Saudi Arabia tried when they murdered an American journalist in their Turkish Embassy, only for the Turkish government to call them out on it when they tried lying about it.

I had literally never heard of Jamal Khashoggi in my life until the Saudi leader decided to have him killed.

Assassinating a journalist on foreign soil was a much bigger hit to their reputation than any articles Khashoggi had written so it really was just tremendously stupid.

1. Still a bit stunning.

The response to Covid 19. PBS has a nice retrospective doc on youtube detailing the evidence that the chinese government knew that had a new SARS-like virus among the public, and all of the lengths they took to forbid any information being shared about it, mostly because they didn’t want to cause any public panic.

Obviously a backfire as it lead to the massive sh%t show that was 2020

Talk about making a mess ten times worse. Woof.

Can you think of another bungled cover up that belongs on this list? Share it in the comments!

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Teachers Discuss Which Generation They Enjoyed Teaching the Most

My sister has been a high school teacher for over 20 years and she likes to tell me stories about how the kids have changed throughout the years.

Because you know what they say…kids today! And that saying exists because it’s true.

Teachers who have been around for a while talked about which generation they’ve enjoyed teaching the most on AskReddit. Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Do what you want.

“I taught in the late 70s, early 80s in northern Alberta.

The nice part about being that early in my career, plus in northern Alberta, was that you could pretty much do whatever you wanted. My kids found an injured duck on the playground and we brought it into the classroom and spent weeks nursing that duck back to health.

As the duck grew stronger, he would do these practice flights in our classroom to the point where he would do a couple of laps around the room and my kids wouldn’t even get excited about it. Later in that same year we grew hydroponic tomato plants that went from floor to ceiling and were able to harvest tomatoes in the middle of winter.

Man, that was a great year! Pretty sure you couldn’t do most of that in a grade one classroom these days.”

2. Comparing themselves.

“In my mind kids have always been good at heart, but society and their upbringing is what ultimately shapes or corrupts them.

Unfortunately, I think more kids nowadays have mental health issues since they unconsciously compare themselves to their peers. The difference is 20+ years ago kids only compared themselves to the few hundred kids in their school.

Nowadays, they are comparing themselves to the millions of kids they see online.”

3. Breaking down the years.

“97 – sarcastic, grungy, smoking more cigarettes, more clique-y and edgy

07 – petty, attention starved, overwhelmed, but much nicer

17 – under so many layers of irony and memes they dont even know who they are anymore or care. there’s no point in being creative or devolving a personality, anything you could think of has already been done.”

4. Here’s the deal.

“Honestly it is not so much the generation but the age group and the relative interest and if you connect with the students or not (and they connect with you as a teacher and respect you as an educator who has their best interests at heart)

I like the younger students for their curiosity and eagerness and excitement when new ideas are being introduced or there is some challenge/learning-related contest going on in the class. This gets more difficult to cultivate as a group-energy level in the puberty years, and easier afterwards.

But I’ve had some kids in the 12-14 age group come in during lunch to continue their activity just because they were so engaged in what we were doing, and I was cool with it as I ate my lunch in the classroom and therefore my classroom (I taught computers, so other labs were often locked after classes) was always open.

It is very obvious when you see the interest and level of engagement from a class that is ready to learn, it is almost like when an engine is reving up and all cylinders are firing in sequence; you can really feel the energy. But you notice the differences as some classes just ‘click’ with their teacher more than others, even in the same year.

For those who may be wondering why that is, I like to think of each class as a sort of team, as in sports. I suspect that if there is a certain threshold of active, curious and interested students in each class then that interest level and energy just is infectious and becomes the overall mood of the class. A few leaders in the class can raise the energy of the whole ‘team’.

Of course, it’s the same story if there are enough disinterested students in a class who honestly don’t want to be there and have no interest in learning.

Sprinkle in a few more who prefer to disrupt a class for laughs and that just drains the interest and excitement right out of the room unless the teacher or occasionally some students can reassert the need for respect so learning can continue uninterrupted.

It can really be apparent when you are teaching the same exact lesson to different classes on the same day as you will see which ones are into it and which ones just aren’t.”

5. Out of touch.

“I enjoyed the 1990s because there was still not a ton of technology.

One of the things I’ve noticed now is that my cultural references have absolutely tanked now.

I was teaching a course and literally NO ONE got my reference to The Matrix or Pulp Fiction or well … anything.”

It was the first time I felt that internal twinge of being “out of date” and realizing I was teaching 17-18 year olds who were being BORN when that movie came out.

I still love the job though. :)”

6. All downhill.

“When I started teaching in the early  2000s, students still got my most obscure Simpsons and 80’s film references. By the late 2000s, I had nothing left to reference.

By the early 2010’s my kid had reached adolescence, so I had new material, but it really wasn’t mine, and the culture had splintered so much that my Rick and Morty references only hit about 30% of the class.

Lately I just stopped trying, and became that old, out-of-touch Prof; I lived long enough to become the villain.”

7. Used to love it.

“Started teaching first grade in 1999. I loved teaching till about 2006.

Students were so eager to learn kept me on my toes. They were respectful and the parents were supportive. Little by little things started changing. Complaining about colors of napkins, words like angels, witch, . It kept getting worse. The amount of paperwork and meetings no time to teach.

The testing got in the way took time away from teaching and what was important which is the children. Little by little it took most of my energy. Stopped teaching after only 13 years.”

8. Mom’s thoughts.

“My mom was a teacher from the mid ’70s up until covid hit and she retired for good.

I think she liked ’80s and early ’90s kids best. Parents still had respect for the teacher, as did most kids, and our government had not yet ran education into the ground with cuts and overcrowded classrooms. Plus ’80s and ’90s kids had silly fads and were kind of quirky and fun.

She said the biggest difference now is resilience. Kids today have bigger difficulties with overcoming things, more anxiety issues, many refuse to even try something for fear they’re not good. It’s not an issue with the kids per say, generally most things can be traced back to parents, who are putting more pressure on kids.

Also, the biggest difference is parents. It used to be parents and teacher were more a united front. Now parents are angry at the teacher if their kid doesn’t do their homework or work in class, or accuse the teacher of lying if the teacher says their kid did something bad.

I’m a teacher too, but have been teaching less than 10 years, so I have little comparison. But I can say that as a kid in the 90s, I can’t remember other kids saying “no” to teachers. We may have groaned or whined, but we didn’t refuse.

Today I’ll have an activity or game and kids will flat out say “no. I’m not doing that”. Kids refuse to participate to my face. I hear “no” all the godd*mn time, and it’s frustrating when I know my lesson slaps. They just say no to everything.

Also kids complain when you put on a movie. It used to be, when your teacher wheeled in the big TV cart, the class cheered. We didn’t care what it was. Now all you get is “ugh no I don’t like this movie/ I’ve already seen it/I don’t want to watch/ this is boring” and I’m like HOW DO YOU CHILDREN NOT LIKE MOVIE DAY.”

9. A big difference.

“Started teaching at university in the 2000s.

Kids were really cliquey (into what sub-culture or tribe they were in and didn’t mix) and intolerant of difference (of any kind). Was 10 years older than them, most had no idea how to save a file on the computer into different formats. Had to tell kids not to describe things they didn’t like a ‘gay’ ALL THE TIME.

In the 2010s they started being better at technology, but worse at fixing it when it went wrong, getting more tolerant, more likely to mix. 2020s kids are really tolerant, kinder, but much, much sadder.”

10. We need better parenting.

“Started teaching in 1985, retired in 2015.

I enjoyed teaching in all of those years and enjoyed knowing almost all of my students. I feel that any observations I might make would be so prejudiced by my own reactions to the era and my own aging that it’s a bit of a ridiculous question.

I do think that more people need to commit to better parenting, as I was appalled by how scarred many students were by sheer parental neglect and abuse, regardless of the era. I don’t think abuse has become any more prolific, but I recognized it more and more as I became a veteran teacher.

Other than that, talking about people by generations is just another way to divide us and keep us quarreling; otherwise we might notice that we’ve all become the property of corporations. And they don’t want that.”

11. No accountability.

“Kids don’t change, but accountability is gone in my district.

First half of my career (90s, 00’s) students and parents were far more accountable. Today, if a student does not thrive, it is blame the teacher all day, every day. Teachers now compete with Tik Tok, Snap Chat, video games etc…and there is such a sense of entitlement, at least in my district.

The students are still great, but the adults have messed this up so bad. We have eliminated all deadlines in my district, and students can re-do an assignment over and over until they get the grade they want.

Consequences can be great learning experiences, but we are no longer able to apply them.”

Have you been teaching for a while?

If so, which generation of kids has been your favorite?

Tell us what you think in the comments!

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Babysitters Share Stories About When They Had to Call the Cops During a Job

Babysitting is pretty strange: you have your young kids being watched (a lot of time) by other kids who are also pretty young.

What could possibly go wrong?!?!

And sometimes, things go sideways and babysitters have to call the cops for one reason or another.

Have you ever had to call the police while babysitting?

AskReddit users shared their stories.

1. Mother of the year.

“Caught the lady blowing m*th into her 21 month old daughters face.

I exclaimed, “What the hell are you doing?!”

And she said she didn’t want her to grow up fat.”

2. Child Protective Services.

“I called CPS on the parent of a kid I babysit regularly.

The kid is older and a bit of a mental health disaster. She’s got attachment issues and some other weird habits. I’ve written about her before. Anyway, the kid lives in my neighborhood and is at the age where she can go outside and be relatively unsupervised. She runs to my house when she’s fighting with her parents or her parents are fighting.

One afternoon, she runs to my house and gives me the run down on the blow out with her mom. “She pinned me down and was threatening to punch me in the face.” Then her mom texts me asking if I have seen her and mom is really concerned that the kid is trying to get her arrested.

Since I know the kid has an interesting relationship with the truth, I am not sure who to believe. I have a heart to heart with the kid and tell her to please do what her mother asks and not start telling back. If she has to run somewhere, I’m always home.

My husband and I talk about it and we decide to make the call. Before we could make the call, she was at our house three more times for these crazy blow out fights. We relay all of this to the intake person on the phone and then didn’t ever hear anything back about it.

The kid’s mom and I are pretty good friends and she’s been giving me the run down of this free family therapy program they have been doing and I finally put the pieces together that the family therapy is actually mandated and CPS is involved.”

3. Left behind.

“I am a babysitter and used to work at a daycare. The assistant director and I had to call the police once because a child was left behind over an hour after closing time.

We were afraid her mom had been in an accident or something. Turns out there was a miscommunication between mom and dad regarding pickup.

I really just think the dad forgot about her, as the mom was always the one picking up. It makes me sad to think that her dad forgot her.”

4. Terrible.

“Dad and mom came home super drunk.

Dad started beating the sh*t out of mom over $20. She yelled from the back bedroom to call the police so I did. She came out asking me if I really called the cops….yeah I did! I was like 13 at the time.

Scared me so bad I couldn’t look at the dad the same ever again, even though they were back together not long after.”

5. Definitely call the cops.

“Yes.

I once babysat a 9 year old child and his 7 year old little sister. When I came one day to babysit them, the 7 year old had bruises and scars all over her face.

When I asked the children what happened, the 9 year old boy said that she hadn’t finished all her homework and had been beat by her parents, beating children is illegal in my country (New Zealand).”

6. Daycare.

“I was a daycare provider.

Once there was a new kid whose mom needed care while doing a job search. On the second day she never showed up and an hour after closing I called the police because mom was not answering at any of her contact numbers and I didn’t know what to do.

Mom had found a job and gone out drinking to celebrate. When they called me to update me mom had also stolen a vehicle and was being charged. Child protective services came to pick up the boy a couple hours after my call to police.

Another time I was called after hours by the police asking if I could care for one of the daycare kids because his single mother was very drunk at home and unable to take care of him. Neighbors had called the police.

The boy stayed the night with me and police arranged for his estranged father to come from out of town to pick him up at my place the next day. I am pretty sure mom lost custody completely.”

7. Weirdos.

“The very first family I ever worked for got weirder and weirder as months passed working for them.

When I started with them they both left the house to work their full-time jobs. As months passed the mom began staying home because she was “sick”. Unfortunately, it became exceedingly clear that she was extremely depressed. The mom was so kind, if not a little odd, but I felt so bad for her because her husband was literally the creepiest and most bizarre man I have ever met.

So the mom continues to stay home from work and eventually gets fired. The problem is, they lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment with 2 children. So mom stayed home to “job hunt” and I nannied for their daughters. Then the dad starts working from home, leaving me to sit inside with the two girls, their mom and their dad in the same damn room for 9 hours a day.

I eventually told them I wasn’t cool with them both working from home as they were extremely loud and the father’s home etiquette became creepier and creepier. He started having me wake him up the morning when I came in for the day. Always asleep shirtless.

Then he worked in the living room with only boxers and a robe on. He also used to insist on hugging and kissing his daughters while I was holding them. He also insisted on watching me bathe his youngest daughter. Lots of borderline harassment moments.

But what brought me to consider calling CPS on them was the way the dad would kiss his oldest daughter. He would kiss her arm slowing from her hand all the way up to her shoulder and it felt inappropriate for me as she was nearly 6.

I had an affectionate family but kissing up an arm felt extremely romantic not fatherly. He also out of nowhere would say things like “I don’t bathe with the girls anymore because it wouldn’t be appropriate.” Completely out of context.

I also learned that his last nanny came across a journal he had left open in the kitchen that comprised of notes he took in order to get over his p*rn addiction.”

8. Didn’t come back.

“I had to call the police because the parents didn’t come back!!

My dad was a gas station manager, and one day while I was hanging out with him at work a regular customer asked if I ever did any babysitting. I looked at my dad and he nodded a bit so I said sure. He told me that guy had been coming to his gas station for years and he knew him and his wife decently well and he thought it should be fine.

Well the plan was they were going to pick me up from my dads gas station and bring me to their place, go out for a while, then when they got back they would bring me back to him at the gas station. So they come get me and everything seems ok. The kids are a little bratty, fighting in the backseat but no big deal. Their house turned out to be a run down trailer in a small trailer park in the boonies.

I grew up poor so it’s not anything I wasn’t used too, but it surprised me since their car was really nice. Turned out they didn’t have a phone either, and this was right before cell phones were a really thing. So the three hours I was supposed to be there goes by, then four then five then six. At this point it’s past 10 and I’m freaking out. I decided to leave the kids in a playpen and try and see if any neighbors will let me use their phone.

After several door knocks I finally find one and call my dad. I’m in tears at this point but I give him the address and he comes to sit with me at the trailer. Another hour goes by and we call the police. The parents still didn’t come back during the whole interview process, and the kids were taken by dcs.

My dad is thinking something terrible has happened to them, as surely they wouldn’t just abandon their kids with the 15 year old babysitter right? Well they finally came home the next day (over 30 hours after they had dropped me off at their house) and it turned out they had went and done a bunch of her*in and were to messed up to keep up with time.

Turns out my Dad didn’t know the guy that well after all.”

9. A reverse story.

“I have a bit of a reverse one where the babysitter was taken away in handcuffs.

It was about 20 years ago now and my dad’s sister had 2 kids who were around 2 & 4, she hired a babysitter for the night so her and her partner could have a date night. Don’t know how they found her but she was not stable enough to handle kids as full on as they were, she ended up drugging them with her anti psychotics and ADHD meds.

The parents got home a few hours later and realized something was very wrong.. they called emergency services and the kids had to be taken away in an ambulance and the girl was arrested and charged.

It made the news and was crazy as hell but the kids were okay but I have no idea how it turned out for the babysitter.”

10. Should have called…

“I didn’t call anyone, but should have.

I was watching a kid who was around 9 who told me his dad let him smoke cigarettes. I thought he was just saying it so that I would let him (I didn’t) but when the parents came home the kid told the dad I hadn’t let him smoke and the dad scolded me and gave his child a menthol.

He smoked full flavors, I suspect he got menthols literally because his 9 year old liked them better.

The mom is in prison now for some kind of fraud and the kids live with their much much older brother. I don’t know where the dad is.”

11. Fire department.

“I had to call the fire department once.

I was babysitting my neighbors three kids which I did frequently. There was a lit candle in the fireplace mantle. The cat jumped on the mantle and over the candle catching its long, fluffy tail on fire. It it’s understandable panic it set a curtain on fire.

With three screaming kids and a flaming cat as well as burning window dressing all I could do was rush everybody outside and call 911. The cat returned about a week later filthy, half bald and with some infection.

A vet visit fixed it up and the damage to the house was relatively minor, thank God. I continued to sit for them for another 3 years”

Do you have any weird babysitting stories?

If so, spill your guts in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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Teachers Talk About What Generation of Kids They Liked Teaching the Most

Oh, boy…

The times, they are a changin’…

Well, I guess the times are always changing, right?

And that’s especially true when it comes to kids. Every generation is unique and learns from the triumphs and mistakes of the ones before them…and teachers who stick around long enough see kids change a lot throughout the years.

Teachers of AskReddit talked about which generation of kids they’ve enjoyed teaching the most. Let’s take a look.

1. Mid-1990s.

“I have taught emotionally disturbed children for much of my career.

The kids I had 25 years ago would constantly fight with each other. The kids I had most recently made a habit of going after me and the parents always wanted to know what I did to provoke them.

Give me my mid-1990s kids any day! They loved me as their teacher and didn’t tolerate any disrespect towards me from their peers.”

2. Changes…

“Started teaching in 2002. All of that has been middle school. Grades 6-8 (Ages 11-14)

Biggest changes have been prevalence and reliance on screens and devices, but ultimately what kids want is acceptance. And most of them will seek it wherever it can be found easily, which is on a screen.

All I can really say is that I am incredibly grateful that Facebook and social media did not exist when I was a kid/teenager.”

3. Bad writers.

“I’m a philosophy professor and the only thing I’ve noticed is that the latest generation of students (zoomers?) are like, really really bad at writing. Like, obscenely.

Every other generation I’ve taught has been roughly the same, with different philosophical predilections, but for some reason everyone’s just really bad at writing now (let alone philosophy).”

4. It was a simpler time.

“I recently passed my 10 year mark, so I’ve taught 2000s and 2010s.

Biggest difference is the coursework. Man do schools (and parents) love to cram so much work into such little time. They like having something to “show” for their kids schooling. Gone are the days when we could explore and learn. Where we could discuss topics, or I could even read them non-curriculum books, or do fun experiments.

Oh, little Timmy is 4 years old? Better start learning to write upper and lowercase alphabet letters perfectly. But don’t give the kids pressure. And don’t take away play time if they can’t finish in the allotted 10 minutes. But make sure they finish on time and there aren’t mistakes or you (the teacher) will get reprimanded for it.

Also the parents. They used to think being a teacher was a noble and respected job. Now many tell me that they know more than me despite my education and experience.

And god forbid I tell them their child made a mistake or had a behavioural incident. Then I’m either lying, or the kid didn’t mean it so how could I dare ask them to receive any consequence for their actions.

Parents are constantly undermining teachers, and the schools will throw teachers under the bus to keep a child’s tuition any day.

I also work in a private school. So the more money a family has, usually the worser the parents/children.

I miss the 2000s. A simpler time.”

5. Good kids.

“I like the kids I teach now.

They are, for the most part, really peaceful. We have so few fights on campus.

They are really accepting. LGBTQ folks would have been beaten when I was a kid, now it’s no factor. General apathy and major boredom rule the campus, but my kids still get up to fun.”

6. Gen Z’ers.

“I love my Gen-Zs.

They know us Elder Millennials saw some sh*t, and they are happy to lean right into the complete Iliza Schlesinger bit that we’ll do about basically everything pre-2005.

They’ll call out stuff like “Tell us about floppy disks!” and “Tell us about dial-up!” and “What about Surge, ma’am?” and I just do my best Madam Razz impression (reboot, not original She-Ra, these are Gen-Zs,) tell them about these things, and then reveal -to amazed gasps- an actual can of post-revival Surge, for whatever student can write me the best 250 words about a controversy of 1980 through 1985 before I get back from the john.

I handed out seven cans of Surge this week just on this topic. My students are glorious. I also saw one of my colleagues, who coaches a sport, happily sitting down to a wonderful lunch she had packed herself, took out a can of Surge, opened it, smelled it, savored it, saw me noticing and “I know, I know, it’s so bad for you. But I haven’t had this since I was a kid!” and I said “Not judgin’ here, love!”

And she described how one of her kids gave it to her after first period as a present and how she’d been looking forward to it all day and I remembered that one of my best writers, one of our best student athletes, is both Type I diabetic and just the sweetest person.

So I stopped by the good grocery store and got a bit of sugar-free Ramune, the fanciest and most delicious kind, which shall be theirs.”

7. Big shifts.

“I’ve been teaching in the humanities at a pair of universities for 11 years.

My main observation is that students don’t want a “think” piece anymore, they want a “doing” piece.

This shift happened about 5 years in to my tenure. It was a real break in what the students expected, and I felt compelled to adapt to it.

So a syllabus is now less “let’s learn about and reflect on a framework” and more “I want to do this myself first, then maybe we’ll see if there’s a framework there worth talking about.”

This can actually be a really good thing. I’m kind of a phenomenologist myself so I’m more or less theoretically oriented to the idea of learning equally from the experience of one’s self and from the experience of others. And then critiquing, reflecting, and acting on those experiences as a perfectly legitimate basis for a lot of good things that can come next.

But on the other hand, no one wants to read any more. It’s all bullet points and takeaways, slide decks and checklists, “gotta juggle my five classes but also my three side hustles”.

It encourages a kind of faddish approach, and frankly almost psychopathic and disconnected. It’s not about learning, it’s about extracting. On the cynical side of things, one might conclude that the students want to be given the cheat sheet so they can perform to others that “they know.” Everyone wants to be “a leader.”

This can cut both ways. For the students to be primed to apply what they’ve learned as and whenever it arises has arguably more practical impact in practice, so that’s good. But on the other hand, I feel that something deeper here with the academic process is being lost and very deeply devalued.

And I’m not so confident about what higher education will look like in 15 years as a result, particularly in context of the corporatized profit model that is already pressuring the academy in general.

It’s like every subject has become an MBA. And we used to poke fun of those guys for being problem-solving droids happily operating in narrow little boxes of their own making.

So that’s one big shift.

The other big shift I feel I am living through as a teacher is the total diminution of the classical era. The 1960s, 70s, 80s and 90s had their fair share of prophets of radical socio-technological change. But it’s only really now in the post-truth social media bot and AI-content-warped world of literal augmented reality that it has finally come to be.

Our globalized world is so radically different now that Greeks, Romans, Renaissance and even early modernists are all just looking like a quaint bunch of vaguely charming and very embarrassing (“cringe”) Neanderthals. A restatement of origins like “Hamilton” is about as far back as anyone feels they’d ever need to bother looking.

I frequently imagine the great contrarian Nietzsche himself feeling sidelined as the aging and irrelevant hippy amidst a world that has rendered his protest against the human condition itself as anachronistic.

There’s a radical un-mooring from history taking place and, combined with the new approach to learning I describe above, it’s really hard to feel any confidence in where the eff it’s going to take us.

The trend feels very technocratic in direction. And while that can be an admirably evidence-driven form of politics (“trust the science” as Biden feels compelled to repeat, for instance), it can also very easily subordinate a lot of values, rights, and principles that don’t look any more compelling as a bunch of bullet points than anything else on the to-do list.”

8. 1990s kids.

“I’ve been teaching for 28 years. From elementary to high school.

I’ll take the children if the 90’s because cell phones didn’t distract the students and most parents didn’t try to blame the teachers on the failures of their child.”

9. Much easier these days.

“I like teaching NOW because we have a lot of technology that makes things easier.

No more grading tests by hand, or standing in line to run scan-trons.

Pretty sweet!”

10. More respectful now.

“I like them all.

But my favourite thing about this generation is that they are in general more respectful, polite and empathic.”

11. Mom’s POV.

“My mother taught 6 year olds in the 60s, 80s and 90s.

The kids didn’t change much but the paperwork, administration and social work got too much for her at the end. Kids coming to school not being fed, reeking of smoke and pot.

And parents went from being allies to some becoming outright hostile for their kids being given the slightest reprimand – like “Jheydenn, you didn’t help tidy up so you’ll need to wait for the other children to go play before you can go”. Oh and names.

Not cultural, but badly spelled and weird names like “Hastalavista” and “Fordescort”. She still loves running into her old kids, many of whom had children she taught, and some are now grandparents.”

12. Reflections of society.

“It’s difficult to compare generations, but I can tell you something students are a reflection of the society around them, and if I compare students I have a had to what I was like there is a dramatic difference which I put down to social change.

The two most dramatic differences that I notice are that students now are far more emotional sensitive, which can be a good, or bad thing, and far less independent of thought. Social media, more standardized testing, less real life difficulties, and more imagined ones all contribute to this.

When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s I never worried about my future, and I didn’t feel any pressure socially to conform. I was always encouraged by friends and society to think, act, and learn independently. There were no universal right answers, and very little outside expectations.

Now, I find students feel constantly under pressure to outcompete each other, attain artificial goals, and not offend anyone. For a long time I taught graduates basic academic skills because schools either ignored, or refused to teach basic rhetorical, discussion or argumentative skills.

It is my default setting to assume the current generation of students, cannot automatically play devils advocate, or challenge accepted viewpoints. They are constantly being forced to accept whichever sides argument is dominant, and seem conditioned to follow whoever they have told to follow. It is a frightening situation.

Also, artificial competition has hollowed out people’s lives. Growing up me and everyone I knew had interests and hobbies. I rarely find that now with young people. And the interest and hobbies people do have have changed.

When I ask people what they do in their free time, the number one answers are always, browse social media, shop, and meet up with friends to take photos for social media.

Actually, that is being generous, the most common answer I get is actually ‘nothing.’ Students at high school and university don’t even seem to be able to manage the old cliched ‘s*x, drugs, and rock’n’roll.’ Bravado that dominated my generation, and the generations for that. People don’t seem to have the time, or energy to even enjoy themselves now.

It must suck being young now, or at least that is what I was told.”

Now we want to hear from more teachers!

Tell us about the favorite generation that you’ve enjoyed teaching in the comments.

Please and thank you!

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People Share Their Funniest “Forgot to Turn off the Mic During Virtual Learning” Stories

We live in a Zoom-oriented world these days…which can be both good and bad.

Good because it makes remote learning and meetings a lot easier, bad because, well…we’re still living through a pandemic and we can’t do anything face-to-face for the time being.

But this has definitely led to some hilarious interactions where folks forget that their microphone is still on…

Folks on AskReddit talked about their funniest “hot mic” stories. Let’s take a look.

1. He’s gonna have to change his name.

“Heard the clapping sound of a kid j*rking off.

His name lit up and everything.”

2. Don’t come back.

“A student in my class forgot to turn off their mic, and we heard some background noises (doors closing… tapping…) and because of a display bug, we couldn’t see where the noise was from.

Then the student started saying cr*p about the teacher, “oh, yeah this is useless, he’s just writing on a tablet, even I could do that, etc.”

Everyone heard that, the teacher heard them just insult him. They didn’t come back to the classes after that.”

3. Ouch!

“My teacher got scolded by his wife (another teacher in school) because she needed to work and he didn’t repair her computer.

He was a computer technology teacher and he just keep saying “Sorry honey, I forgot. I won’t do it again. I promise it will take two seconds to fix it.” in loop because the wife went on a little rant of how he always forgot things.

When he saw the mic was still on he blushed and after a moment of silence just went on with the lesson.”

4. I hate these things…

“Was in training before classes started this year with 200 teachers.

Only principal and AP were speaking.

Teacher has her mic unmuted, phone rings, picks it up and says, “hey. Yeah. Just sitting here in another one of these godd*mn trainings. “”

5. I’ll take one, too!

“I’m a college student.

Last semester we had a girl place an entire dinner order over the phone with her mic on while we all tried to tell her that her mic was on. I think she had us muted.

She was ordering Mediterranean food. I think she got a chicken gyro.”

6. Oh my…

“I had a student’s boyfriend (both college) walk up behind her on Zoom; reach into her shirt; pull out her breasts; and start doing a little bo*b dance. She was just laughing and playfully slapping his hands away.

This was probably 30 seconds after I had just gone through my whole speech of making sure there was nothing in your browser history, Google search history, or names of folders that could be embarrassing or offensive.”

7. One and done.

“I was a guest speaker at a music college last year.

My mic was still on when I finished, went backstage and said “well that was f*cking horrible”.

I wasn’t called back to speak again.”

8. Meeting is adjourned!

“College student here!

This was last semester so it was when we had first switched to all online. I had an 8 am class that was Renaissance through Modern art history. Anyway this kid in the class didn’t have his mic muted and he was snoring. Like snoring snoring.

My poor professor tried to wake him up, and couldn’t. She also had no idea how to mute him or kick him out so we went on with the lecture. After about 5 minutes she finally said “I can’t f*cking teach to this” and ended the zoom meeting.

The rest of the semester we used voice thread instead.”

9. Hey, take it easy!

“During a virtual gym class for my high school.

A girl forgot to mute herself during a workout and yelled some obscene things very loudly.”

10. That’s sad.

“A boy accidentally forgot to turn his mic off and we heard how his mom literally verbally abuse him, then he looked at the camera and realized that the mic was on then he turned the camera and mic off.

The next day he looked like he cried all day and his mom was behind the camera; I still feel bad for that kid”

11. Gotta hit mute!

“I was visiting my best friend during a lecture and she had her mic and video turned off. She then had to join a group discussion and sometimes unmuted herself to contribute something.

After that the whole class was supposed to present their results and she supposedly muted herself again. I started venting to her how wasps are considered wild bees even though they have no business beeing bees because they’re *ssholes and suddenly we hear laughter from her professor and her classmates.

She forgot to mute herself.”

12. Helicoptering.

“A student’s mother had the habit of standing just off camera and very closely observing her kid.

I know this because one time the student “forgot” to disable the mic. Everyone heard how the mother was coaching the student how to act. Don’t look my way, smile, pay attention. It was next-level helicoptering, right on the edge of abuse in my opinion.

Our school has a good counselor and the student is getting help. All the teachers have been advised to limit contact with the mother and not make waves, lest she withdraw the student or redouble her controlling behavior. I worry about it.”

13. Close enough!

“I work in the tech industry.

I’ve been in meetings where people forget to mute themselves on LARGE company calls, with hundreds or thousands of attendees, and we’ll hear a fart and then a toilet flush.

That’s about as interesting as these meetings get though.”

How about you?

Have you had any weird encounters on Zoom during school or work?

Tell us your stories in the comments!

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People Talk About Funny Things That Have Happened When Folks Didn’t Turn Their Mics off During Online School

There are positives and negatives to our Zoom universe that we inhabit for the time being.

It makes long-distance meetings and education much easier and you don’t have to commute to an office or a school.

But…it would also be nice to sit in the same room as some other actual human beings once in a while, don’t you think?

Either way, people are still getting used to this new normal and some funny and unexpected things are gonna happen along the way.

What funny things have happened to you when you forgot to turn off your mic? Or maybe someone else did?

Check out these stories from AskReddit users.

1. Don’t disturb Mommy.

“I had to defend my thesis over Zoom and many professors came into the call to watch.

My thesis was about immune response in fish to parasites. One professor joined late and forgot to mute her mic and we got treated to this little gem:

“Shhhh. Mommy is learning about fish parasites, which is what you’ll get if you don’t stop peeing in the koi pond.””

2. Thanks, Mom.

“A girl’s mom: “Who the f*ck you on the computer fo this early in the morning?”

And asking the same thing over and over.

Teacher: “_ I think your mic is on”.”

3. Oops.

“English Zoom call.

Teacher was holding us like 15+ minutes after the period had ended. She said something along the lines of “keep working arduously” and I responded with “if she says arduously ONE MORE TIME I’m going to FLIP A TABLE”

I was not on mute.”

4. So do I…

“When I was doing an online Algebra camp, the teacher forgot to turn off his Mic while we were supposed to be doing some problems.

He said “I f*cking hate math.””

5. Good one!

“I just did 8 hour zoom calls for 7 weeks training for a new project.

On the second week, a man unmutes his call, farts the longest fart I’ve ever heard in my life, then when he finishes, mutes the call. I can see others laughing while muted at his fatal error of thinking he wasn’t muted and so he went to “mute” his call.

I found this to be the highlight of the week, but the following week the guy does it again!!! Honestly the second time I laughed but then started to wonder if it was some kind of power move…”

6. You got a free performance.

“In a math class I was in last year, we were taking a test, which you have to turn your mic on for—their way of trying to prevent cheating.

Some girl apparently forgot that hers was on and started belting out Stand By You by Rachel Platten at the top of her lungs.

It went on for the entire song and she was still humming it when I finished the test and left the call.”

7. At least you laughed.

“I teach for an online university that requires me to conduct a weekly live session.

One morning I was lecturing and a student popped in late. I said, “Hello, (student name)! Thanks for joining us.” She said, “Don’t say my name, b*tch!”, just before she realized her mic was on and turned it off.

I just laughed.”

8. Make yourself comfortable.

“Grade 3 kid stopped in the middle of the class meeting; and took his laptop to the bathroom with him.

He sat on the toilet for the rest of the meeting.”

9. Baby talk.

“I was in a meeting with my class for the first day of school and I forgot to mute myself.

I then proceeded to start noisily baby-talking my cat, who was in my lap at the time.

Embarrassing.”

10. Get it, bro!

“Last week kid in my brothers class forgot his camera was on during the first class and was smoking a giant gas mask bong on his face during the syllabus review.”

11. He blew it!

“Ironically my IT teacher forgot to turn of his mic and camera and proceeded to get in a very heated argument on the phone with his ex-girlfriend who he has a kid with.

Did I mention that she’s also a teacher at our school?

Yeah most awkward 5 minutes of my life before he realized”

12. Hot for teacher.

“During my English class, this one girl forgot to mute herself.

While my teacher was talking, she almost deafened all of us on the Zoom call answering her mother’s questions.

Her mother (from a distance): “What class are you in?”

Her (yelling): English!

Her mother: Oh, the hot teacher?

Her: Yeah that guy

Now, even I’ll admit my teacher is fairly attractive, but it does take it to another level when you get your own mother involved. Thankfully, our teacher is a chill guy and thought the whole thing was just kind of funny, and kind of just gave a general reminder to the class to keep mics muted.

She didn’t say anything for the rest of the class.”

Now we want to hear from you!

In the comments, tell us about the funny things that you’ve seen and heard on Zoom calls lately.

We can’t wait to hear your stories!

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People Talk About the Small Things Parents Do That Gives Their Kids Mental Health Issues Later in Life

I always feel very sorry for people who were raised by parents who didn’t have a whole lot of business being parents in the first place.

No one has any control over who their parents are and sometimes people just get stuck with moms and dads who really mess them up from a young age.

AskReddit users talked about the small things that moms and dads do that ended up giving their kids mental health issues later in life.

1. Keep your cool.

“Overreacting.

No matter what your kid tells you, keep it cool.

Otherwise they will be WAY less likely to come to you with problems.”

2. All good points.

“Ex-counselor here.

Not allowing ‘negative’ emotions like anger, jealousy, etc. Teach them those are normal, and what to do with your emotions.

Pressure to perform. Don’t try and make your kids something they’re not, especially if it’s what you wished you were.

Never letting them find the consequences of their mistakes. You might want to protect them, but you’re stopping them from learning how to avoid mistakes, and how to recover from them, and how to deal if other people make mistakes.

Not talking about awkward topics. S*x, bullying, addictions, masturbation, racism, cheating, classism, body image, etc aren’t often comfortable to talk about, but it’s important they learn from somewhere other than the internet.

Not dealing with and owning your own sh*t. We’ve all got problems, best to deal with it rather than perpetuate cycles. Find a therapist for yourself, and be open with your kid that you know, and you’re trying your best. It gives them space to learn grace and how to deal with their issues.”

3. DON’T.

“Don’t expect your kid to kiss the ground you walk on and see you as a god for providing food, clothes, and a roof. That’s literally the bare minimum required by law.

Don’t drill into their heads they owe you gratitude for giving them life. They didn’t have a choice in that matter.

Don’t treat them like a burden. Again it was your choice to have a child. Shouldn’t have become a parent if you couldn’t handle the responsibility

Don’t make your love conditional, only to be given when you deign it so. Not only is that cruel but it sets them up for failure in future relationships.”

4. Set boundaries.

“School psychologist here.

Not setting good boundaries or defining parent-child roles. There are a lot of parents who unintentionally reverse roles like confiding to their child about their adult problems or seeking too much comfort from their child. It can create a sense of responsibility within the child to take care of their parent and can lead to codependency and lack of boundaries in other relationships.

Also…for the love of God… don’t hit your kids, including spanking. At best it “doesn’t hurt” them. It is not supported in any research that it benefits your child. At worst it leads to a whole host of difficulties…including violence approval.”

5. Terrible idea.

“Making comments likes ‘wow, you got some chubs there bouncing on the trampoline’ to a 9 yo.

F*cking gave me an eating disorder and still dealing with body image issues.”

6. Gotta let it out.

“Crying.

Parents often say, “want something to cry about?”

And it may teach their kid that it’s bad to cry, and that bottling up emotions is good.”

7. That’s not good.

“My parents used to confide in me about things that were far above my emotional capacity at my age, and to them it may have seemed small, but it made me feel like I needed to take care of them and solve their issues when I was small.

They also seemed to pride themselves on never fighting in front of us, but because of that small thing we never learned how to peacefully resolve conflict or that disagreeing with someone isn’t something to be afraid of.”

8. Be present.

“Being inconsistent. Punished for something one time and the same behavior ignored another time.

Pay more attention to something else than the child… phone, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.

Overreacting to small things, under react to big things.

One thing to do – be present and be loving. Discipline is a form of love. Punishment is not.”

9. Ugh.

“Telling little girls that are being bullied by boys “…it means they like you so be sweet and quiet and you might get a boyfriend.””

10. This is how you feel.

“Telling your child what they feel.

As a kid, your inclination is to believe them. It wasn’t until I was in my thirties that I realized that my mother had been doing this my whole life.

For the most part, it wasn’t much of an issue, but when it was…

One day it lit up in my brain while she was talking, and I asked her to stop telling me what I was thinking because it was interfering with my ACTUAL thoughts. She’d been telling me what a nervous driver I am, so of course I can’t do x and y and I have to blah blah. I realized that most of my “nervous driving” was me thinking “mom says I’m a nervous driver” not my actual nerves.

I actually like driving.

This was more of an adult example, but she’s done this my whole life. “You don’t like x, so I made sure to not have any in the house,” or “you like y, so I thought you’d like to be included in this day of activities,” whatever it is, it’s been mom telling me what I like or don’t like.

Meanwhile, she can’t remember her left from her right, and tends to think that something I liked ten years ago must still be my favorite. It’s undermining, disrespectful, and infantilizing. It trivializes my reality, and makes it difficult to form my own opinions.

I know all of this from experiencing it as a kid.”

11. Issues.

“I believe I was a child who had issues growing up:

I had a narcissistic, fiery tempered dad. I’ve had a glass ashtray amongst other objects thrown at my face. Had an object struck 2mm away from my pupil, causing my eyes to bleed… Regularly thrown out of the house together with my clothes at 2am till the neighbours came out. Caning until my skin bled is the norm. All this happened before I reached the age of 12.

But what really tore me apart was everyday, he would go out of his way to let me know that I’m a useless human and I shouldn’t be on earth anymore. I took his advise and secretly tried to poison myself a couple of times.

My parents doesn’t know about it till today. I grew up having no regards for my own life. I figured that since my life is useless, I might as well trade mine for someone else’s life. So I became a fireman.

But seeing all the depressing things that a fireman regularly sees is life-changing. I learned to recognize love and value of life.”

12. Don’t mess with their heads like that.

“I was young when my parents began confiding in me about their marriage.

They didn’t mean any harm – they were just venting – but it really made me uncomfortable messed with my head.”

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What’s an Underrated Ingredient to Go With Mac and Cheese? Here’s What People Said.

There are no two ways about it, mac and cheese is a delicious staple of the American diet and has been for a long time.

But when things got a little bland or overdone, what do you add to it to spice things up a little bit?

I don’t really get too adventurous except for occasionally putting a little bit of Crystal hot sauce in there to make things a little bit more interesting.

What do you think is an underrated third ingredient to go along with that delicious macaroni and cheese?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Do it!

“SMOKED PAPRIKA.

Once you discover smoked paprika finding new things you can add it to is the best.”

2. Spicy!

“Hatch chiles.

Green chile is actually underrated, unlike the other things here that are just rated.”

3. Yummy.

“Brisket.

Come to Kansas City.

All the barbecue places have Mac and cheese here.”

4. Boom!

“Hot Sauce.

Franks Red Hot and a little garlic powder is my perfect bowl of box mac.”

5. I like it!

“Old Bay seasoning. Do it.

Good morning, Baltimore!”

6. Do what you gotta do.

“Lobster Mac and cheese is fucking incredible.

But for us poors, black pepper is really nice.”

7. Okay, okay…

“I try a lot of weird mac & cheese combos (we call it Kraft dinner up here in Canada).

Here are my top 5:

  1. Butter chicken

  2. on french fries with cheese curds (a poutine of sorts)

  3. Chorizo

  4. Flaked tuna

  5. Wieners.”

8. I’ll try that.

“Broccoli.

Pretty much any dairy based pasta sauce can be improved with an addition of broccoli, especially jarred Alfredo sauce.”

9. Whoa!

“You mean besides the macaroni and the cheese?

Dry mustard powder.”

10. It’s healthy, right?

“Pesto

My favorite part is how it turns the macaroni green and I can convince myself it is now a vegetable and I am very healthy.”

11. Worth it.

“I sometimes put a can of Tuna in.

You get a bit of protein so it’s a little bit healthier, and it’s not too expensive.”

12. Very strange…

“Sliced apples on the side.

Now I know this is weird but hear me out. Apple sauce mixed into Kraft mac’n’cheese. I don’t think it works as well with other brands or homemade or anything. I’ve stopped doing it in favor of hot sauce but when I was little with applesauce was the only way I would eat it lol.

Try it and let me know how it is. My sister was the only person to actually give it a shot and she liked it, I haven’t heard of anyone else doing it tho.”

13. Now I’m hungry.

“Depends on what you want.

Need some crunch? Croutons, crackers, etc work wonders. Especially if they’re flavored/seasoned.

For meat. Bacon goes excellent. Or even some left over chicken if you have any.”

14. Umami bomb.

“Mushrooms – umami bomb incoming.

You can also try different types of mushrooms for varying textures, and prepare them differently for unique flavor combinations.

I love finishing off mushrooms in soy sauce.”

15. The lowdown.

“Tapatío for when you want the burn.

Sriracha for when you want to thin out the sauce a little.

Frank’s/Sweet Baby Ray’s for when you want the sauce creamy.”

Okay, now we want to hear from you!

What do you like to add to your mac and cheese?

Fill us in in the comments!

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She Got a Woman Banned From the Gym for Gross Comments. Was She Wrong?

Some people just don’t know where to draw the line…or when to stop talking.

And this story is a real doozy…

A woman took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to ask if she was wrong for getting someone banned from her gym for making incredibly inappropriate comments.

Take a look at what happened.

AITA for reporting another woman for s*xual comments she made and getting her banned from our gym?

“I have been back to the gym now that we are zero cases in my area. I have been a member of this gym for over 3 years and I regularly work out with two other women. One of the women recently brought along her friend who is new to the area.

The four of us worked out together and everything seemed fine. The problem started when we got into the change room. The woman’s change rooms are open with one section of lockers and benches and one section for showers. The toilets are a completely different room not accessible by the change room.

This layout leaves very little privacy. The showers are all just against a wall with no curtain. This leads to seeing a lot of nude or half-dressed woman.

We all went into the change room together and the new woman immediately made some uncomfortable comments. The first thing she said was “I feel like I’ve died and gone to heaven” referencing the undressed state of woman in the room.

I always shower after a workout but the other two women live close to the gym and usually don’t. I went to shower when the others stayed in the change area. Because it’s such a small and open space, even in the showers you can hear the talking the change room.

As I showered I hear that the new woman was making comments about my body. I heard her say “She has my favourite body, flat ti*s and a fat *ss”. “Try calling her name, I want her to turn around so I can see her p*ssy” (I was facing towards the shower head).

The other two woman were laughing and encouraging her comments. I have left out the more innocuous ones due to character limit on the post.

I stayed in the shower until they left. On my way out I stopped by the front desk and asked if I could make a complaint. They took me to the back office and I told the manager, whom I know well, what had happened. She was understanding and told me that the woman would have her (brand new) membership revoked as her comments broke several of the gym rules.

I got a text from one of the woman the next day telling me that her friend had gotten her membership cancelled and was wondering if I knew anything. I was honest and told her that I heard what she had said while I was in the shower and had reported her.

I was called immediately and she seemed both angry and confused. She told me that the girl had just been joking around. That the comments were just to them and I wasn’t meant to hear them. She also called me a stuck up homophobic b*tch.

The other woman also sent me a long message about how disappointed she was in me and she didn’t think that I was “one of those”. She said in her message that I should have come to them before reporting to the gym and the fact I didn’t said a lot about my character.

The messages really have made me feel terrible. I feel like I’ve done something wrong.

Was I the *sshole here?”

This is really gross, if I do say so myself…

And here’s what Reddit users had to say about it.

This person said that this was harassment, plain and simple.

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Another Reddit user said that the woman did nothing wrong and that this shouldn’t be tolerated just because it’s between women.

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This individual argued that the woman was not wrong getting this person banned and she also isn’t homophobic.

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Another person didn’t think they were the a-hole.

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Finally, this reader argued that sexual harassment doesn’t have anything to do with gender and that the woman was WRONG.

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These People Heard Truly Appalling Things From Their Therapists

It takes courage to admit to yourself (and your insurance company) that you would benefit from talking to a therapist, and it takes even more courage than that to walk into someone’s office and let them into your life, your mind, and your past.

Which is why is must feel like an incredible violation to have a professional say something indelicate and truly awful during your treatment – and no one should have to hear what these 12 folks heard in what was supposed to be a safe space.

12. Either way, you’re supposed to help.

“‘I think you’re happy being depressed.’

No, just dealing with the comfort in my sadness that comes from chronic, 20-year-old depression.”

—AwesomeAmanda523

11. That’s very rarely the answer.

“I was struggling with intimacy with my partner during a deep-depressive episode that lasted a couple of years. During this episode, I was coming to terms with a previous sexual assault.

The therapist I started seeing told me to ‘just do it’ with my partner, despite my sex-related trauma, and I stopped seeing her right then and there. I started seeing a new therapist who actually helped me, and now my partner and I have never been closer.”

—serenitybmahoney

10. Jealous, much?

“I have childhood PTSD and experience horrible anxiety attacks as an adult. I was wearing a nice sweater in the session, and we were discussing anxiety-attack coping mechanisms.

She very snidely said, ‘You should go shopping when you feel anxious. You clearly like designer things.’ I was floored.”

—Anonymous

9. I don’t think he should be working with children.

“My mom had me go to therapy when I was 12 after my dad passed and I was in the room when it happened. I was a really shy kid and didn’t want to go, let alone open up to a stranger about an ordeal I didn’t even fully understand yet.

After I was not giving him a whole lot in the way of answers, he asked me, ‘Do you even miss your dad?’ Maybe examine your way of talking to a grieving child before blaming said child, asshole.”

—bcgt5922

8. Who would say that to a child?

“I was 10, and TWO different therapists said, ‘You’re the reason for your parents’ divorce.’ They failed to acknowledge my father’s abuse, saying I was the problem…nope.

I told my school about the abuse, and with a push from the Department of Homeland Security, my mom finally left after we were locked out of the house and left homeless. I may have gotten the ball rolling, but I am not the reason they divorced.”

—indyanna

7. Yeah that’s not how this works.

“Multiple therapists told me I was only questioning my gender identity because I ‘didn’t have enough strong female role models.’

I won awards for my contributions to women’s leadership and public service in college. In fact, seeing strong female professors in med school is part of what inspired me to come out as a trans man when I realized I couldn’t see myself as them.”

—Anonymous

6. Why would they want to do that?

“‘Have you tried seeing it from your abuser’s point of view?’ She literally used the word ‘abuser’ because the situation was that clear-cut.

Yes, actually, I’ve spent a long time trying to understand my abuser’s point of view, and had come here to think about my own feelings for a change rather than theirs.

Did not go back to that therapist.”

—GlamorousAnarchist

5. Since when is self-awareness a bad thing?

“I was 15 and I had a problem trusting men (I had extremely negative experiences with different men growing up, including my bio dad, my stepdad, a neighboring teenager, and my best friend’s stepdad). I had just moved, so I was meeting with a new therapist for the first time, and he told me that I was too self-aware of my problems and he wouldn’t be able to help me.

I guess it didn’t matter to him that I had spent the last two years working with my previous therapist to come to the realizations that had led me to be so self-aware of where I was struggling.”

—paulau4fbdfb725

4. At least she’s permanently out of the office.

“A therapist said to me, ‘I don’t think you’re doing badly enough to test you for anxiety.’ I was miserable, constantly stressed, and having complete breakdowns at least twice a week, and she completely invalidated that after talking to me for five minutes.

After I went straight to a doctor to get diagnosed, the therapist pretty much just said, ‘Oops.’ She got fired from the college shortly after because a lot of students had various issues with her.” —Anonymous

3. Not relevant.

“They said, ‘I think you would feel better if you got some of that weight off of you.’

Ummm, I’m here because my cousin raped me when I was a child, but thanks for letting me know that losing weight will solve all of my problems.”

—Anonymous

2. It’s not her job to make him a better father.

And this: “I was in therapy dealing with the fact that my father didn’t really know how to be one and was never there, which caused me to try to be perfect (which, SPOILER ALERT, isn’t healthy).

My therapist told me I needed to try harder and that if I found something my father actually cared about, he’d be a better dad. I explained that I had already emulated as much as I could from his high school years (soccer, choir, etc.), but she insisted I hadn’t done enough.”

—manningl428

1. Well they weren’t before then…

“An awful psychiatrist I was seeing discharged me and said, ‘Well, you’re not sitting in a corner rocking and crying, so you’ll be OK!’

Who says something like that, let alone a psychiatrist? I left crying!”

—lovecats1

I don’t know what I would say, but it wouldn’t be anything nice.

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