A Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Calling Out Her Father as a Bully and a Bad Parent

If you don’t regularly read Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page, you should be.

People post all kinds of interesting, personal stories about drama that has gone down in their lives and they ask Reddit readers to give them the straight dope: are they being *ssholes, or not?

Here’s yet another tale from the AITA page. Let’s take a look.

AITA for threatening to expose my father to the society he keeps?

“My(22F) parents divorced when I was 5, both of them had remarried within a year of that and both have families of their own.

At the moment, I am working part-time at the library of my uni where I’m also pursuing my Masters. I’m living in a flat with a couple of other flatmates. I make ends meet but generally I’m a bit skint.

I never had anything but barely cordial relationships with my parents individually, my father used to be some kind of a bully in my childhood and my mother was at the best disinterested in my upbringing. My parents are being much better at parenting the second time around, I have half siblings on both sides.

I’m particularly close to my half brother James(15) (on my father’s side) and we share quite a few common interests. On several occasions though, I’ve seen father being rather unkind to him because he seems to think James is “too wet” and not manly enough.

The last weekend I was invited for my father and his wife’s marriage anniversary celebrations at his house and James came out while at the dinner table. There was only the immediate family and a few guests invited but our father decided to throw a wobbly and started berating him in front of everyone present. The guests all appeared flummoxed and very uneasy, nobody came to his aid and James was on the verge of tears.

I was really p*ssed off (and I’m not good with my temper) at my father and told him he had lost the plot completely after a few good years, that he’s been a bully to everybody around him and he doesn’t get to keep his appearances up as a good parent in front of his friends if he cannot treat his children right.

This lead to huge row in front of everybody with James crying and my father screaming at us some more and threatening to throw him out, at which point I told him I’d gladly take him in if he wishes to rather stay with me.

I left with James that day after ringing my flatmates and they were more than happy to accommodate him. He has since returned to my father’s house but he stated he preferred staying with me and taking the bus to his school.

My father and step mother are livid and are not talking to me since the incident but my extended family and people I know through my father have been bombarding me on social media letting me know how much out of line I have been.

AITA?”

Here’s how folks responded.

This person said that this is not those folks’ business and they need to respect boundaries. And that this young woman did the right thing by sticking up for her brother.

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This person said that perhaps the woman’s brother thought it would be safer to do this in public…they might be right about that.

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Another Reddit user said that it’s clear that the younger brother lives in an abusive household and is probably afraid…and that the woman’s extended family is pretty terrible.

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Finally, this reader said that the younger brother might have chosen a better time to come out but realistically, the father was going to be rude about it no matter the time and place.

And they added that James will most likely be leaning on her for a long time due to the family’s bad behavior.

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This Man Banned His Sister From Seeing His Kids. Was He Wrong?

Have you ever heard of someone banning their own family members from seeing their kids?

I’m sure it happens all the time, I’m just glad I’ve never had to deal with anything like that in my own life.

But let’s see how things like this transpire with a story from a man who took to the “Am I the *sshole?” page on Reddit to see if he was wrong for banning his own sister from seeing his children.

AITA for banning my sister from seeing my kids after what she said?

“Let me make it clear, I completely understand that having kids is not for everybody. I respect this and have no problem with it.

I (37M) have five children, (10M), (8F), (5M), (3M) and a five month old son, all of whom have only recently met my sister (33F). She’s a wonderful person, but has always been a bit of a free-spirited person, and likes to be in several other places besides home.

Obviously, she’s only really seen them through SKYPE calls, but they seemed to really be hitting off. And then, a few days ago, my mom sent me pictures of texts she’d exchanged with my sister, in which my sister called my kids ‘brats’ and said that she cringed throughout each a DJ every call because the kids, apparently, were just so terrible to talk to.

I sent the texts to my sister to see what she had to say. My sister asked what I wanted her to say, that she just telling the truth. I told her that, if that’s just how she felt, that she was no allow to see the kids in any way, shape or form.

Now, my mom’s on my back, saying that she had wanted us to talk about it like ‘civilized adults’ and that I’d overreacted. She told me that my sister had a right to her own opinion, and she was just exercising that right.

Is she right? I can kinda see both sides of the argument, I guess…”

Here’s how folks responded on Reddit.

This person believes that everyone is wrong in this situation, especially the man’s mother.

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Another reader said that the whole family seems to be acting immaturely and that venting is normal among people who trust each other.

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This Reddit user said that the man who wrote the post is indeed the *sshole in this situation and that he overreacted.

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This person made it clear: this is all Mom’s fault!

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Finally, this person doesn’t think the man or his mother is wrong here, but the blame all falls on the sister.

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A Man Asked if He’s Wrong for Suing His GF After She Got Rid of His Vintage Car

Never mess with a man’s car! Doesn’t everyone know this?

Well, apparently this woman wasn’t clear about this and she made a pretty major mistake…which you will read about below.

And this story takes a wild turn and involves a guy suing his own girlfriend.

Check out this tale from Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

AITA for suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 Impala project taken to the scrapyard?

“I’ll try to keep this short. I had a 1967 Impala 4 door that I bought in Feb 2019. A couple months ago I bought my first house that had a 2.5 car garage.

I moved the car in and started tearing it down for a complete restoration. I had the body in one bay and the chassis in another, plus the whole garage filled with parts. About two months ago my girlfriend came to live with me during this whole crisis and the whole time has hated that car.

She wants to park in the garage but I have 2 acres of land with a lot of nice places to park under shady trees or hell even in the barn if it has to be inside. I tell her tough luck its my house and its not like I can just throw it back together real quick. Anyways I was out of town for a couple days on a business trip for the small local company I work for.

When I got back, my girlfriend was all smiles. Making me food all the time, doing all the chores, all that. I though maybe she just was happy to have me home but then I realized that I didn’t see her car in it’s usual spot. I asked her where she parked so I could make sure I mow that area and keep it clean and she said not to worry because she parked in the garage. I asked how and she told me to go check it out.

Turns out that while I was gone she hired some people to come over and move everything related to that car, including the drivetrain, body, and chassis and all parts, and take it to the local dump/scrapyard. I was absolutely dumbfounded. I had spent over 11k on that car including new parts, services, and the car itself.

I told her that I was going to be taking her to court for that and she brushed me off like I was being dramatic. I told her that its done between us and to pack her things and leave.

I admit I was a really angry but I did end up getting a lawyer, and as I have all the receipts for all that money spent and I have her on my house’s security cam footage letting the guys in and watching them take it all I think I can win.

Her family and friends are absolutely blowing me up saying its just a stupid old piece of junk and that she cannot pay back all that money I spent, and that I should just let it go. But I have been putting all my time, effort, and money into that car for a year and a half now and goddammit if I am not going to get justice for what she did.

AITA?”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded.

This person thinks that the guy should sue his girlfriend, no questions asked.

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Another reader said that the man’s girlfriend has a lot of nerve for what she did.

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This reader said that this kind of action is divorce-worthy. Good thing this couple isn’t married yet.

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This Reddit user said that the girlfriend was definitely in the wrong here. Full stop.

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Finally, this woman said that her husband also has hobby cars and she would never dream of doing something like this.

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A Woman Told Her Younger Sister It’s Time to Grow Up. Was She Wrong?

Some people just have to learn lessons in life the hard way…but this time it might be a little bit different.

And you’re about to read a story from a young woman who had a confrontation with her younger sister and set her straight about how things are gonna be from now on.

But she clearly has some guilty and asked folks on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page if she was wrong for what she said.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my sister I’m not her mom and it’s not my job to keep looking after her?

“I (21f) have a sister (18f).

My parents put me in the worst position of being her keeper/caretaker when we were kids. I was expected to help her with homework, help her with friend problems, if she was in trouble with a kid they would ask me to speak to the kid or an older sibling if they had one around my age.

I was responsible for walking her to and from school on my way to school. My mom would make me late sometimes because she was running late and I wasn’t allowed to leave without her (I was in a different school to her). It was so bad when we were teenagers. I got the job of explaining periods to her, the job of looking after her when they weren’t home (and that was a pretty regular thing with them).

When I moved out I distanced myself from all of them. I didn’t want to be responsible for her anymore, and I didn’t want to end up having them push her to live with me. And she wanted everything. She wanted me to cook for her, buy clothes for her, take her places, help with homework and other school stuff. She would also want me to sit and listen to her vent all her problems.

So anyway, she moved out of our parents house and cut them out of her life and then she reaches out to me and says she needs me to help her out. She was struggling to pay rent, struggling with school, struggling to grocery shop and she wanted to move in with me or have me come over every day to help.

I told her she needs to figure stuff out for herself. She told me it was my job to help her. I said no. I said I am not her mom and it’s not my job to look after her. That it should never have been my job.

She’s p*ssed and one of my friends thinks I was too harsh since I’m the only person who ever really took care of her. They think I should at least try to get her up and running and teach her to be independent.

AITA?”

Let’s see how people responded on Reddit.

This person said that neither the woman or her younger sister were *ssholes in this situation, but it was actually the parents who are to blame for this whole mess.

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This reader said that the whole story is sad and that the younger sister is not at fault here…and neither is the woman who wrote the post.

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Another person said that the younger sister might be better off learning the hard way and figuring out some things on her own instead of relying on her older sister all the time.

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But this person thinks that the younger woman is in the wrong because she still expects her sister to do everything for her.

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A Teenage Girl Fought With Her Cousin About Being Adopted, But Did She Say the Wrong Thing?

Things can get pretty ugly during the heat of the moment, right?

We all say things we regret sometimes, but this teenage girl thinks she might have gone a little bit too far during an argument with her cousin.

Let’s see what she had to say on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

AITA for telling my cousin “at least I know my parents wanted me” when she kept making comments about me not being family

“Some backstory- I (f17) was adopted when I was 3 months old.

My cousin (17f) is my grandparents only bio grandchild but she seems to be the only one that cares about that. She doesn’t like me because I got a full scholarship to a performing arts school and she didn’t get accepted and when my grandpa gave us his cars I got the “better” one.

We had a family dinner last week and my grandparents asked about my bf. My grandma jokingly asked when we’re getting married because she wants a great grandchild. I laughed and said it’ll be a while and my cousin cut in and said “they probably want a REAL great grandchild anyway”. I brushed it off and kept talking to my grandma.

When we were about to have dessert my grandpa realized he forgot to get ice cream asked me to drive into town and buy some. My cousin made another comment about how she’s the only real family member so she should’ve gotten the “good car”.

My grandpa told her to shut up and that I got the new car because I help them out and come to visit them almost every day and she doesn’t.

After dessert my grandpa said we should take my sister (14) to the backyard and teach her how to drive the golf cart. I agreed and told her I was driving that thing into town to run errands all the time when I was her age. My grandpa then told her maybe if she likes driving it he’ll give it to her.

My cousin lost it. She started screeching that it’s not fair that we get everything and we’re not even their real family. That p*ssed me off because she said it in front of my youngest sister (4) and made her cry so I snapped at her and said “at least we know our family wanted us”. Cousin screamed and stormed off and my sisters got more ice cream.

My grandparents think that was hilarious and I was totally in the right. My dad also thinks I’m in the right but my mom thinks that was mean and I should apologize so I wanted to know if I was the *sshole?”

And here’s how folks responded.

This person said that the cousin had it coming and you can only be disrespectful to people for so long before you get a taste of your own medicine.

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Another reader commended the girl for sticking up for her family. Bravo!

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This reader thinks that what the girl said to her cousin wasn’t mean, it was actually TRUE.

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Finally, this person said that maybe she doesn’t get the special treatment from the grandparents because she’s a B-R-A-T. Make sense, right?

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Was this girl wrong for what she said?

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A Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Banning Her Roommate’s Girlfriend From Their Apartment

Get outta here!

It feels good to say that sometimes, don’t you think?

And that’s what went down when a young woman decided to ban her roommate’s girlfriend from their apartment for some inappropriate behavior.

Let’s take a look at what happened.

AITA for banning my roommate’s girlfriend after she kept insisting I was hitting on her?

“I (24F) am a lesbian living with my good friend (25M). I own the apartment; I’m renting out the extra room to him.

A little over a month ago, he met a girl online, and they started dating. She is now at our place constantly. I’ll be honest, I’ve never really liked her. She was incredibly standoffish and rude to me from the beginning. I eventually learned it was because she thought I had a thing for my roommate. Even after he told her I was gay, apparently her only argument was, “she doesn’t look gay.”

A few weeks ago, we were all drinking and hanging out at our place with a few close friends. I tried to mend fences by pulling the GF aside and telling her that I really am gay, I have no interest in stealing her boyfriend, and I hope we can be friends.

She seemed to take this very well, and was OVERLY friendly with me the whole rest of the night. I thought she was just trying to make up for being so cruel at first.

The next day, my roommate asked if we could talk. He said his GF feels uncomfortable around me after I “drunkenly hit on her.” Wuuut. I was not even remotely close to being drunk. Also, I am negatively attracted to her. Like, way less than zero. I find her insanely annoying.

I tried to explain that I was trying to be nice, as I knew she didn’t particularly like me. I wanted to be civil if she was going to be around often. My roommate seemed skeptical, but he ultimately took my word for it and chalked it up to a miscommunication.

Fast forward a week or so, the friend group is hanging out at our place again. The GF comes over, of course. I’m cordial to her, but I try to keep my distance so another “miscommunication” doesn’t happen.

Towards the end of the night, one of our other friends comes up to me like, “Dude, what is going on? GF keeps telling everyone you’ve been checking her out and hitting on her all night?”

Again, I was stunned. And at this point, incredibly pissed off. I went right up to the GF in front of everyone, and said, “What the hell’s going on? Why are you spewing lies about me hitting on you to all my friends?”

She just stared at me, unable to respond. I continued, “Just because I’m gay does not mean I’m into you. Trust me, I am not the LEAST bit interested in you.”

She started sobbing that I was attacking her for no reason, calling her out, making her super uncomfortable again, etc. I told her to get the hell out, and that she was no longer welcome here for making ME feel uncomfortable in my own apartment. Her and my roommate left.

Needless to say, my roommate is super pissed at me. He hasn’t been back to our place since, but I’ve gotten some angry texts. I’m standing my ground that she is not welcome here anymore, but he is free to stay or move out as he pleases.

Most of our friends are on my side. I guess I could’ve been easier on her, but I am just so over it.”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded to the woman’s story.

This person doesn’t think the woman was wrong for her actions at all…and they think the roommate’s girlfriend is all about the drama.

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Another reader argued that the roommate’s girlfriend probably has a few screws loose…I think I agree with this one.

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This reader agreed that this woman is definitely not wrong about her actions and that she actually handled it the best way she could.

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This person pointed out the obvious: the roommate’s girlfriend is straight-up JEALOUS.

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Finally, another Reddit user said that the roommate’s girlfriend got exactly what she deserved. And they said she is toxic and manipulative.

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Why Are Doctors Allowed to Be Late to Appointments But Patients Have to Pay for Doing the Same?

I think it’s because a) doctors really do think their time is more valuable than ours and b) your being late impacts other patients, and could make it difficult for a doctor to keep up for the rest of the day.

The only time I’ve ever really been understanding of a doctor running super behind was when I was pregnant, because obviously babies don’t keep to a doctor’s schedule.

Why is it acceptable for a doctor to take you 30 minutes late, but a patient’s appointment is cancelled if they show up 10 minutes late? from NoStupidQuestions

Why is it really, though? Am I on the right track? Totally off base? These 15 Redditors are here to let us know!

15. I figured as much.

The basic answer nobody wants to hear but remains true: Because the doctor’s time is more valuable than the patient’s.

Appointment slots are a scarce resource compared to the people who want them. You show up early so reception can have your paperwork done and possibly have a brief pre-appointment check with a nurse to minimize the time the doctor has to spend with you so they can see more people in a day.

It doesn’t matter if that works out fabulously for greedy docs, it’s still true that there’s far, far more demand by patients than there is a supply of doctors.

Hence cancellation fees – to dissuade you from not taking it seriously and leaving a gap in the doctor’s schedule where someone else could have been seen if there had been enough time to book someone else in your place.

14. One day you’ll be the one who needs an extra minute.

Amazing answer. I do all I can to stay on time, but sometimes patients need more time than was allotted. Some day that patient will be you.

Also if you’re stuck in traffic and going to be late, call the office, maybe we can work someone in sooner to keep the day going. If you’re going to be late because you’re stopping at Starbucks, keep on driving.

13. They have good reasons.

There’s also the fact that the doctor almost always has better reasons for being late than the patient. The guy above already explained all the reasons the doctor can be late seeing.

Whereas with the patient being late, 9 times out of 10, it’s just personal irresponsibility. Sure, life sometimes happens, and that’s the 1 out of 10. Almost always it’s just because you weren’t responsible or considerate enough to leave on time.

12. That said, our reasons don’t always matter.

There’s also the fact that the doctor almost always has better reasons for being late than the patient. The guy above already explained all the reasons the doctor can be late seeing. Whereas with the patient being late, 9 times out of 10, it’s just personal irresponsibility.

Sure, life sometimes happens, and that’s the 1 out of 10. Almost always it’s just because you weren’t responsible or considerate enough to leave on time.

11. You do have the option to leave.

I’ve walked out of a doctor’s office because they were running late a couple different times.

On those occasions I had pressing business and couldn’t spare any more time. Luckily, I wasn’t seeing the doctor for an emergency. Leaving the office probably helped them keep other patients on schedule.

10. They’re doing their best.

Wife’s a doctor. I dont think she takes a lunch more than 3 times a month, and even then it’s get your food and go.

Also I stopped asking her what time she’d be home because with everything that goes on with late patients and charting etc, it’s always hours later.

9. It’s not so bad if someone checks in.

While my baby was having a brain bleed, he (the doctor) canceled an afternoon of appointments, just to make sure we were all ok, physically and mentally.

I will wait however long it takes. Just let me know there is something up so I just don’t think you have forgotten. I only say that because I have been forgotten.

8. You don’t want a doctor who would rush.

A good doctor will not rush through a patient that requires a bit more time.

If you aren’t that type of patient consider yourself blessed.

If/when you become that type of patient, feel blessed you have a doctor that gives you that time.

7. They can’t always just shoo people out.

The last second bombs are always the worst.

“Do you have any questions for us? Anything regarding the NSAID use for your osteoarthritis?” No? Well glad we could figure this out today. You can get dressed and the MA will walk you to the front.” (Stands and reaches for the door)

“Hey doc, me left arm went numb this morning”

internally (F****ck)

6. Blame the other patients.

Previous patients coming in late is part of the reason that you have to wait 30 minutes for the doctor.

5. They have to triage.

Basically all of this applies to veterinarian offices too but mix in a random person showing up with a dying cat they hit with their car or someone insisting that their 18 year old cat be put down RIGHT NOW while another client is calling about refilling their dog’s heart medication and another person is asking about how to get rid of fleas without actually using any flea prevention because it’s “chemicals”

4. There are so many variables.

med student here. It is so variable. I’ve walked into a room thinking this patient would be in for a 10 minute basic appointment, but then spend an hour listening to their tearful story after they confide in you they are suicidal. It is very bad to rush out on a patient like that.

Other times, patients waste appointment time discussing mild headache, dizziness, and the lot, and as soon as I wrap up the visit and touch the doorknob, they speak up “Oh, and also…. [insert semi-embarrassing problem that brought them to make an appointment in the first place].” We call them “doorknob” questions.

3. Not everyone gets paid well enough to do that.

I LOVE my Rheumatologist’s office. The doctors have assistants that go into the exam rooms with them. While my doctor is examining me and going over my current symptoms, her assistant is typing everything up. If I need a med change, or maybe a referral to another specialist, it’s put into the computer system right then & there. By the time I’m walking out of the exam room, everything is already updated. The receptionist is pulling up my file before I reach her desk to make my next appointment & she doesn’t have to ask when I need to come back, it’s already in the notes.

I wish my Primary did this as well; they’re located in the same medical group building. Alas, my appointments with her take longer even though we cover less, because after she does my exam she has to go talk to her nurse, then her nurse has to come into the room and enter everything on the computer, and then the doctor has to come back in. It’s a crazy dance.

2. It can be hard to gauge.

It’s multiple factors. Everyone’s appointment is different. Not everyone is going into an annual physical, saying they have no complaints, and doctor doesn’t really do any investigating to monitor health.

Patient may present late to appointment, which can push back all other appointments in the day.

Patient has a lot to discuss, which may or may not be anticipated by the provider. (And the patient may not even be talking about anything relevant, but an (older) patient who is lonely and enjoys the company of anyone who will listen to them.)

Paperwork and orders, as described by u/jingleja, is usually started and anything that can be completed promptly is. This is usually allocated into the appointment window. That is, if appointment is scheduled from 1:30-2:00, patient in ideal world may only see doctor from 1:30 to 1:45, then the rest is indirect patient care.

Something comes up from other health care providers requesting information. If doctor screwed up a prescription sent to the pharmacy, pharmacy may call back to doctor 20 minutes or 2 hours later. If medical assistant in office can’t clarify the mistake to the pharmacy, medical assistant has to get a hold of the doctor between patient visits.

In response to OP, I can imagine a policy of wanting patients on time because in the event they can turn a patient away for their tardiness, this can give the provider a little break in their busy day or catch up so other patients aren’t waiting too long despite being on time.

1. To sum up.

So a lot of people are missing some crucial pieces here, but here’s the whole summary:

Unexpected things. A lot of people did touch on this. Sometimes the patient prior to you drops a bomb mid-appt or even worse, when your hand is on the door to leave. If someone is here for wrist pain and then goes “oh yeah doc…my chest hurts real bad every time I exercise.” You cannot ignore that, they could have a life threatening concern. So now your 15 min appt becomes 30.

Other people running late. I don’t mean just patients. A clinic involves a LOT of people. Patients, front desk, nurses, MAs, etc etc. If one runs late, so do the others.

Paperwork. Y’all are seriously underestimating how much paperwork needs to be done. Every single patient has to have a note typed out, a diagnosis (usually multiple) made, everything you order has to be justified and associated with a diagnosis (even things like flu shots or med reorders), every thing you order has to be confirmed as correct, meds and lab work have to be confirmed to the correct insurance, you might have to get a print out of your referrals/visit summary. Doctors work very very hard to do as much of this as they go, but it cannot always be done. Also, lots of people get annoyed if a doctor is typing while they talk, so then you cannot do any of this as you go.

They don’t make the schedule. The majority of doctors are not in charge of booking patients, they hire people specifically for that. Doctors get over booked, and because the clinic or hospital they work for cares about $$$, they make doctors see as many people as possible. Doctors usually have set amounts of time depending on the appt type, and you can’t always just add a random 10 minutes here or there. I promise you the majority of doctors would rather have more time to talk to you too and aren’t trying to just see you as a cash cow, but it is literally out of their control.

You can (technically) wait to be seen, they can’t wait to see people. Does it suck if you’ve been living with indigestion and your appointment to finally see the doctor about it got canceled? Absolutely and it’s okay to be mad about that. But nobody died from an upset stomach, and as aforementioned, late patients simply have no room in the schedule because it’s tightly regulated. If what you tell the office you need to be seen for is important enough the doctor won’t cancel your appointment. (And now you’re why the next patient is being seen late, but see 1. Unexpected Stuff)

A lot of offices still really push to get late people in. We really want to see you, and we’ll do what we can, but it isn’t always possible.

Doctors have lives too. Every late appointment makes it harder and harder to get home on time, eat lunch, pee, etc. Doctors don’t owe you their well being.

I probably missed some stuff but the way medical offices run is a pretty complex issue and while it could be handled better, a lot of it has nothing to do with the doctor. If your doctor always runs late in that bothers you, go see a new one, but I promise most of them are trying their best to keep everybody happy, including themselves.

See…I’m cynical, but I’m not totally wrong.

If you’re a doctor or work for one, please defend yourself in the comments!

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People Share Things That Are Socially Acceptable but Really Shouldn’t Be

It’s kind of weird what some people think is socially acceptable and what isn’t?

For instance, some people really and truly believe that smoking marijuana is about the worst thing a person can do, but getting black-out drunk and causing all kinds of trouble is no big deal.

I don’t really partake in either, but I can say that I’ve never seen any of my friends or even random folks do anything destructive or violent after they smoked a little weed…but it still has that stigma around it for some folks.

What is socially acceptable but really shouldn’t be?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. Way too much alcohol.

“When I was in college I realized at one point that the amount I was drinking was really quite unhealthy.

I thought it was normal cause it’s college and it’s fun and that’s what people do, but looking back I cringe at what I was probably going to my liver.

I’m glad I had fun in college though, and I certainly didn’t go as hard as some people, but we definitely are more okay with heavy drinking as a society then we should be.”

2. Ummm…never?

“Asking people when they’re going to have children.

It’s such an invasive question, and one that has many potentially awkward answers.”

3. Stop asking me that.

“Telling someone to smile.

Thanks to this pandemic I don’t feel forced to please people anymore.”

4. Such a lame excuse.

“Getting bullied in school because “boys will be boys”.

That isn’t a general quote btw, that is what my principal said to my dad when we all had a meeting because I was being bullied a lot.”

5. Put it down for a while.

“Looking at your phone while on a date, or out with friends at a restaurant.

It makes me feel like I’m competing with their phone for their attention.

Phone wins 95% of the time.”

6. Drives me INSANE.

“Using your phone on speaker in a public setting.

Like a bus or in a crowded room.”

7. Disrespectful.

“Throwing cigarette butts everywhere.

I know, you would not think that it is socially acceptable. But everywhere you go there are cigarette butts everywhere. And people tossing them out of cars.

I don’t get it and it’s so disrespectful and stupid.”

8. Maybe it’s time to change?

“The tips system for food services.

Just pay your d*mn employees, don’t make us have the guilt of paying your employees so they can live, Barbara.”

9. Very rude.

“Openly commenting on a persons weight with an entitled attitude to tell them what they need to do with their body.

I’ve been naturally and happily slender my entire life, however brought up in a culture where bigger is beautiful, and I’ve never once asked for anyone’s advice or comments regarding my body.

It would be nice for people to focus on themselves and have more educated conversations.”

10. Pretty odd.

“Gender reveal parties.

I think they’re stupid, unnecessary, and a big ego boost for the people throwing it.

I miss the old days where you can just ask someone what the gender of the baby is as opposed to having to wait for months for some “unique” way to pop pink or blue confetti.”

11. Sit there and take it.

“Not being able to stand up to rude customers just because the company is afraid to lose business.

I understand that it’s one thing to be rude to a customer, but you should be able to verbally defend yourself against rude customers.

Establishments just expect you sit there and accept the disrespect as if people can’t be affected by words.”

12. For the love of God.

“Going on “missionary” trips to poor countries with your church group to take pictures and come home to give seminars and speeches to your group about how you’re “doing God’s work.””

13. Bad behavior.

“Excusing bad behavior with things like:

“Boys will be boys”

“Kids will be kids”

“They’re just having fun”

What do you think about this?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

Thanks a lot!

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What’s the Biggest Bullet You Ever Dodged? Here’s What People Said.

Life sure can be strange…

One minute you can be minding your own business and having a pleasant day and then out of nowhere something totally unexpected and terrible happens.

That’s why it’s important to appreciate every day we have on this planet…because you never know when something bad might happen.

AskReddit users talked about when they dodged major bullets in their lives.

1. Gotta protect your head!

“I used to roller skate as a kid outside my house down a hill and never wore any kind of protection.

Suddenly one day before I go out my older brother tells me I can’t leave unless I put on a helmet, which is weird since he’s never cared before. Anyways I do it and that day, for the first time ever, I fell and landed on the back of my head so hard that the helmet cracked.

That crack would’ve probably been my skull had I not wore it.”

2. Creepy.

“Years ago I was on a first meet for an internet date. We met at a bar and the bartender carded us.

Even though we were both older they were doing stings in the area so he was carding every single person. Handed mine right over but my date was an *ss about it. The bartender checked mine and handed it back to me. He checked his and rather than handing it back to him he placed it on the bar right in front of me.

It had the s*xual offender stamp on it. The guy picked it up, looked at the bartender, looked at me and then got up and walked out. I immediately googled him. He was on the registry and had been in prison for r*pe.

Lesson learned. Always google. The bartender and I are still friends.”

3. Phew.

“About a year ago at my job I was offered to switch from my current team where I was established for a few years, had seniority, etc. for a new department that just started to kick it off, write processes, basically start from square 1. A lot more work for the same amount of pay. I figured f*ck it and went.

Yesterday they announced that they just closed the physical HQ office for my old department, and everyone in that entire part of the company would have to either move to one of 14 random states (that we cant pick, its chosen basically by a roulette wheel for where you’re going) to a local office, or they’re going to be fired.

Thankfully since I’m part of the new department, I wasn’t included in that mandate. Phew.”

4. Pre-pandemic.

“Sold my three restaurants in February 2020, for way more than they were worth.

Now two of them have closed.”

5. Close call.

“I was a teen driver not paying attention at an intersection at the crest of a hill with low visibility when the light turned green.

The car behind me honked and just as I was about to go a truck barreled through the red light on the perpendicular road at decidedly ludicrous speed. If I had been paying attention and gone when the light turned green, I very likely would have been T-boned to death.

Closest call I’ve ever had.”

6. This is scary.

“I was on the train in Brooklyn a few years ago.

Next to me was this man who had a big tool in his bag. I think it was a hammer. He was moving very oddly. It was just the vibe that “this man is up to something.”

I decided that once we got to the next stop, I would get off the train and catch the next train, which I did. 30 minutes later this guy gets off the train, at my stop, and starts attacking people. He went after cops and was shot to death.

If I didn’t get off that train, and instead got off with him, I might be dead.”

7. No more smoking.

“In 1994, I was on a business trip in LA.

I stopped for a pack of cigarettes before getting on the Santa Monica Freeway. The Northridge earthquake happened while I was in line. Parts of the freeway collapsed.

I quit smoking after that pack.”

8. Ouch.

“Got chucked off a horse. Hit the ground so hard I felt my soul leave my body.

Started to cough up blood and was having trouble breathing within 30 seconds. Rushed to the hospital and the doctors were running down the hallway with me on a back board (doctors running is aways a bad sign). I was sure I was dying.

Come to find out that I broke 2 bones in my back and collapsed a lung. Once I was more with it a nurse handed me my helmet and said “it’s a good job you were wearing this”. It had been cracked almost in half.

If I hadn’t been wearing it that would have been my head, and I’d most certainly be dead or permanently disabled. Wear your helmet kids.”

9. Tinder match.

“I matched with a guy on Tinder who played for the Atlanta Falcons. He was really charming and seemed nice

. He asked me to fly down to Atlantic City for Memorial Day weekend, said he would pay for everything (airfare, hotel, food, etc.) but I had never met him before and he refused to give me his phone number.

I was uncomfortable flying to meet a stranger so I told him no. Two weeks later he was on the news for kicking (and killing) his girlfriends dog.”

10. Avoiding the storm.

“2005, my friend and I evacuated New Orleans 2 days before Hurricane Katrina and drove to Mississippi with the little money we had.

We were trying to decided on where to stay for the night and it was between a mid range hotel or the really cheap motel. Decided to spend a little more for the hotel.

During the night the eye of the storm came through Mississippi and flattened the roof of the motel we decided against.”

11. Split decision.

“When I was 12 years old, I was going to be home alone one evening, since my mother was going to a dinner party at her friend’s house. She wouldn’t be home super late, midnight at the latest – but I would have to tuck myself in and such.

I was looking forward to it and feeling like a really “big girl”, hell yeah! Since we lived in a kind of shared two-story town house, with close neighbors on each side and a nice lady living in a separate apartment upstairs – I felt super safe being home alone at night.

An hour before dinner time, a good friend called and asked me if I wanted to come to her house and have dinner – afterwards they were going to watch “The Abyss” in their giant home theater.

Being a lover of sci-fi and having heard about the really cool computer graphics in that movie – had wanted to watch that movie in like forever. Having the chance to watch it on such a cool setup convinced me to go, despite having looked forward to being home alone.

The evening went fine and I had a good time – but since the movie was really long, I got home pretty late.

When I pulled up to my house on my bike, I only just noticed an orange glare in the windows upstairs – before the first-story windows exploded out in to the garden. The fire department arrived only a few minute later, and put out the fire, before it could engulf our part of the house as well.

Apparently the lady upstairs had fallen asleep on her couch, with a cigarette in her hand. The fire had smoldered in the couch, developing a very toxic smoke, which not only caused the lady to get “normal” smoke inhalation – the chemicals also f*cked up her brain permanently. She was in a coma for a year or so, before they ended up pulling the plug.

The doozy was that we shared our ventilation system with the upstairs apartment, so our apartment was jet black – SO much of the poisonous smoke had come into our home.

The fire marshal (I think they’re called in English?) said that with that amount of smoke, combined with my small stature – I would never even have noticed the fire (I would have been asleep by then), but simply have slipped into a coma and died, before anyone had even noticed the fire from outside the house.

I think the shock almost killed my mother as well. See, she thought I was home (I hadn’t told her of my sudden change of plans), and got the call about the fire from a neighbor – to only later learn that I was shocked, but safe and sound, being looked after by another neighbor.

So I guess that’s the story of how my budding love of sci-fi and computer graphics helped me dodge a bullet with a big fat ”DEATH” stamped on it.
I still love that movie.”

How about you?

Have you ever dodged a major bullet in your life?

If so, tell us all about it in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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People Talk About When They Dodged Huge Bullets

Life can be a game of inches and a game of seconds.

You might be in the wrong place at the wrong time, or maybe you took yourself out of a situation that was years in the making.

But we all barely escape danger or misery at some point in our lives…

Have you ever dodged a major bullet?

These AskReddit users sure have…let’s check out their stories.

1. Avoided a tragedy.

“I was booked on Pan Am flight 103 which went down over Locherbie Scotland.

I didn’t have a premonition or anything supernatural. I just decided to cancel my seat. Didn’t think anything of it until the plane went down and my mother had written down my flight plan and reminded me.

This was back in the day when you could cancel without a penalty up to a couple of days in advance.”

2. Fire hazard.

“I was subletting an apartment in college and got zapped by the electric stove.

Gave notice immediately and moved out with very clear reasons why I was moving out.

The building burned down a few weeks later.”

3. Bomb.

“In 1996 the IRA bombed the Arndale center in Manchester.

Myself and a group of friends were on a bus heading straight there. We were probably about ten to twenty minutes out.

The thing is, one of my friends was late. So we had to get on the bus just after the one we intended to get on. Guess where that bus was when the bomb went off?”

4. Bus crash.

“A bus.

I grew up in Bermuda, and since it is such a small island cars are limited to one per family, and everyone drives mopeds. I was driving into town, and came up to a red light behind a bus.

As is tradition, I scooted around the bus to be in the front of the line of traffic. Literally 2 seconds later a second bus smashed into the back of the first bus at like 30 mph.

I would have been pancaked. Without question, 100% dead. I just sat on the side of the road for a bit and thought about my mortality.”

5. You lucked out.

“My ex-girlfriend moved out of my house a day before the first lockdown in Spain.

She previously pulled a knife on me.”

6. Scary.

“A few months ago I was driving on I-80 at night when out of nowhere the biggest buck I’d ever seen is in the middle of my lane.

I did exactly what you’re not supposed to do and swerved, and thankfully managed to keep the rear of the car content with it.

I literally shaved that buck’s *ss. My mirror was folded in.

I know you’re not supposed to swerve, but I drive a tiny little thing and that buck’s body would’ve gone through my windshield into my and my wife’s face at 70 mph.”

7. Barely made it out.

“I found an explosive device in a National Guard training area when I was 14. It had little pull string and a metal plate to attach it to a tree.

I held the thing in my hand and almost pulled the string but decided to attach it to a tree instead and put on a longer pull string. I pulled the string and it blew a 5 inch hole in the tree.

The explosion was so loud the police came and it made the local news. (They didn’t catch me.) I would have lost at least one hand, maybe both or worse.”

8. Gut feeling.

“My first ever boyfriend dated me when I was 14 and he was 16.

We only dated for one week before he took me into the woods and forced me to kiss him. I started to feel ‘icky’ and broke it off that same day.

Five years later I found out that he was now in prison for r*ping two fourteen year old girls.”

9. A fork in the road.

“I was supposed to hang out with a couple of friends one night.

We were going to go to a party that we were all invited to the weekend before. I asked to get off work early so I could go to the party. My manager let me go early, so I went to go find my friends. But I had a really bad feeling all day and it just kept getting worse.

Instead of turning left to go to my friend’s house, I went right and went home. I found out a few weeks later that they got busted with cocaine in their car. They were 16 and 17 at the time. I was 18, so I would have been screwed.”

10. That’s wild.

“In 1996, my parents were deciding between two houses to move into.

They picked the new construction that resulted in being placed on shoddy soil and years of lawsuits when we ultimately moved in 2001.

Anyway, the other house they could’ve picked (presumably on better soil) would’ve placed my older sister at Columbine High School as a freshman for the 1998-1999 school year.”

11. Sketchy.

“Once at a bar a woman was surprisingly into me as we danced. If I had had more confidence back then I definitely could’ve taken her home.

In the end, one of my karaoke buddies ended up with her instead and got caught by her husband that night.”

12. Not a scratch.

“Driving along a road about 50 mph and a farm tractor comes out of a field straight into the side of me.

Spins my car and as I realise the car is going over I grip the steering wheel tight, close my eyes and brace myself for excruciating pain or death. The car rolls a few times then stops, upside down. I hang there by my seatbelt for a few stunned moments then realise I’m ok.

I walked away with not a single scratch or even a bruise. Car was destroyed, and all the emergency services who attended could not believe I was completely ok.”

Do you think you’ve ever dodged a huge bullet in your life?

If so, tell us your story in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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