People Discuss the “Bad Guys” From History They Think Were Actually Okay

They say that history is written by the victors…

And yes, a lot of history’s “bad guys” have that reputation because they were terrible people, but there are some men and women from the past who have gotten a raw deal in the history books.

What “bad guys” from history are getting a bad rap?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts.

1. Russian leader.

“Khrushchev was actually the bigger man during the Cuban missile crisis.

He initiated the negotiations and even let Kennedy look like the hero by keeping America’s side of the bargain secret.

Not to mention all the measures he took afterwards to prevent something like it from happening again.”

2. Chamberlain.

“This is a complicated one, and not necessarily “okay,” but Neville Chamberlain is a fairly good example of this.

For context, Chamberlain is generally known (notoriously) as being the prime minister prior to WW2 that ‘let Germany rise to power through appeasement.’ Because of this he’s seen as weak, and virtually the poster-child tagged tethered to the quote “all it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”

In actuality, if you dive into history of the time, in the late thirties the UK was so wildly behind Germany’s war machine that there wasn’t anything they could do that wouldn’t be blatant suicide; their manufacturing was leagues behind, and their front was in no way organized.

So during the time of appeasement behind Chamberlain, the UK was rapidly building up its armies and navies in attempt to compete and, well, not get utterly flattened, which of course ultimately led to victory against the Axis. But during the time of appeasement as the armies were built, yes, he was viewed as weak and cowardly as a result.”

3. Here’s a hot take.

“Brutus.

He’s gone down as committing one of history’s greatest betrayals, but what he actually did was choose his Republican ideals over a man he personally loved (who had sparked a civil war with an illegal invasion of Italy, and was unquestionably acting like an autocrat).”

4. Interesting.

“Draft dodgers in Vietnam.

They have forever been painted as cowards or traitors but let’s be honest they didn’t believe in the fight/want to d**.

I am a combat vet myself and it took me a lot of years to realize this.

Hell I no longer know what the point of Vietnam, Afghanistan, or Iraq were (minus the rich getting richer).”

5. Bombshell.

“Marilyn Monroe.

A lot of people think she was just a vapid s**t, when she was really a kind and powerful woman who used her talents to get to the top.

She was a bit promiscuous, but since when does being s**ual make you a bad person?

She was also against rac**m before it was popular.”

6. Nero.

“Nero has been vilified as an evil tyrant who burned Rome down while he played the lyre, had Christians covered in pitch and set alight to act as torches for his gardens and overall has been portrayed as an insane lunatic who was deeply depraved.

He certainly wasn’t a saint, as he did have his own mother m**dered, but Nero, like Caligula, were both slandered by the Senatorial class, who despised both of them.

Nero was actually relatively well-liked by Roman commoners and while he probably wasn’t the best ruler, he is not the borderline villainous monster he is portrayed to be in the media. And his fiddling while Rome burned is most definitely made up.

It’s funny because Constantine the Great, who is venerated by Christendom, actually boiled his wife alive in a bathtub, but you never hear anything about that… hmm.”

7. Grant.

“Not a bad person, but I feel like Ulysses S Grant is seen as one of America’s worst presidents and I dont know why.

He tried his best to oversee reconstruction and was undermined, hired a lot of black people to his staff, he appointed Sherman General-In-chief, called for better treatment of the native Americans, and signed the legislation for Yellowstone Park. I get the feeling his hatred was disseminated from the South, as was love for Robert E. Lee.

Also, his whole reputation for being an al**holic was bulls**t too. Most accounts was that he wasn’t a drunkard, its just when he would get drunk, he’d get WASTED, because he was a lightweight when it came to drinking.

He was kind of anti-semitic, but he didn’t try to k**l Jews or deny them rights- He had an admittedly ra**st notion that Jews were en masse involved in the slave trade. There were some, but actually more Jews fought for the north than the south. But thats excusable.”

8. Were they extremists?

“Fred Hampton and the Black Panthers.

They’ve been smeared as “extremists” by the usual suspects for fifty years, but I’ve read that the Panthers had health clinics, fed the hungry and did a lot more for their community than the f**king cops.”

9. Abolitionist.

“John Brown.

Usually omitted in American textbooks and all but ignored by modern government (compared to commemorations of other notable Americans), even though he was one of the most famous Americans of his time and the raid he led (Harper’s Ferry) was one of the final straws leading up to the Civil War.

In some textbooks in southern states, he is still referred to as a treasonous lunatic (which he was, if you were a slave owner or fighting on behalf of slave owners).

In reality he was an abolitionist of the highest integrity (even if judged by modern standards), a constitutional literalist, and considered it his mission from god to dismantle the abomination of slavery.

He was the first American ever convicted of and hanged for treason, which should be yet another reminder of this country’s legacy of white supremacy and nightmarish civil rights record.

Frederick Douglass called him “a brave and glorious old man. History has no better illustration of pure, disinterested benevolence.”

In my opinion, the erasure of John Brown from American education is almost as great a crime as vilification.”

10. Times have changed.

“Al Jolson.

Guy was basically the king of blackface in the 1930’s. Although at the time no one saw him as a bad guy, many modern people would consider him as having made a career off of racist portrayals of black people.

While blackface was his schtick, he was actually a big fan of black music and entertainers and would regularly help out black artists in the industry when almost no other white people would do so.”

11. Take some time with this one.

“Benedict Arnold’s name is synonymous with “traitor” but his actual story is pretty complicated.

He was born in Connecticut to a family who was basically American nobility. His great-grandfather had come from England in 1635 and went on to become the governor of the Colony of Rhode Island, and by the time Arnold was born his family was “old money” in America.

Arnold was told for much of his youth that he’d go to Yale. Unfortunately his father drank their entire fortune away, and Arnold himself had to start from scratch and support his family. He obtained apprenticeships with an apothecary and merchant and went on to become a very successful businessman. That was only the beginning.

The Sugar Act of 1764 and the Stamp Act of 1765 put his business at risk and he resorted to open smuggling to save his fortune and publicly protest the extra taxes, solidly on the American side of the debate. He also joined the Sons of Liberty.

In 1775 when the Revolutionary War was beginning he signed on to the militia and was made Captain, and immediately suggested an attempt to take Fort Ticonderoga, which he was instrumental in doing. After the capture he found out his wife had d**d earlier that same month.

He then suggested an invasion of Quebec, but was passed over to lead the expedition in favor of Philip Schuyler (father of the famous Schuyler Sisters for all you Hamilton fans out there), so he pressed to be allowed to join the invasion by moving toward Quebec City.

He was allowed that post, but it was a grueling journey that lost him some men, and their contracts being close to expiring forced him to press an unsuccessful attack that resulted in his left leg being shattered.

Then he was assigned to manage the defense of Rhode Island, and passed over for a promotion to Major General while five of his juniors were promoted above him. He discovered the British were headed to Connecticut and lead a contingent of militia to stop or slow them down, his left leg was injured again.

Due to those actions he was promoted to Major General, but not given equal or senior rank to those promoted before him. He attempted to resign but George Washington refused his resignation.

In 1777 he disobeyed orders and took to the battlefield in the Battles of Saratoga and was considered instrumental in the American’s major victory there. He sustained more major damage to his left leg. Congress gave him the seniority he felt entitled to when initially promoted, but Major Horatio Gates took most of the credit for the victory, even though he’d ordered Arnold not to attack.

Due to the extreme damage it had sustained over the years, Arnold’s leg was poorly set, which resulted in it being 2 inches shorter than his right leg. While recovering from his injuries he was sent to be military commander of Philadelphia, a city that had been strongly occupied, and recently evacuated, by the British. The city was extremely politically divided.

While there he came up with various business propositions in the hopes of encouraging the local economy and maybe building some of what he’d lost during the war. He was publicly accused of abusing his position, and was court-martialed and convicted of two minor charges, despite it being fairly common practice for officers to make business dealings in war trade.

In general all those beneath him thought he was a valiant war hero, and many equal to and above him thought he was outspoken and whiny, but still in many cases a war hero. His constant unreserved politics and self-advocation made him difficult to like, and so there were those who didn’t like him. There were even smear campaigns organized over the years. George Washington was among those who liked him a lot, but Arnold was starting to feel he’d been kicked too many times.

Bitter about his personal lot in life and disenchanted with the direction America was moving in, it was about here that he started to consider changing sides.

Of course it can be hotly debated, but he’s not as black and white as most people think.”

12. Total BS.

“William Bligh, of Mutiny on the Bounty fame.

In pretty much every movie adaption of the story, Bligh is depicted as a cruel slave-driver who has men mercilessly whipped for the slightest infraction, and the crew finally had enough of his tyranny and mutinied.

Utter and complete bullsh**t.

In reality, Bligh was notably easy on his men for the day, and there is no record he ever ordered a flogging. He was known to allow men on watch in bad weather to come and warm up inside his own cabin. He and Fletcher Christian had been long-time BFFs before the Bounty.

The mutiny happened because after long, hard months at sea, the Bounty had a five-month layover in the tropical paradise of Tahiti, where many men in the crew began to live ashore with native women, and military discipline started to come unglued.

Bligh had to enforce increasingly-harsh restrictions, because the natives were eager for any sort of trade, and to get a little native tail, sailors were actually pulling nails out of the ship for trade. He came down hard on Christian because it was his duty to keep the crew in line and he was failing at it.

So Christian and about half the crew mutinied, and set Bligh and 18 followers adrift in a small, dangerously-overloaded boat. In one of the most mind-boggling feats of survival seamanship in history, Bligh managed to navigate the boat some 3,500 miles to safety.”

Who do you think has gotten a raw deal in history?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know what you think.

Thanks a lot!

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How Do You Take Selfies When You Feel Awkward About Them? People Share Their Feelings.

Selfies have become ubiquitous, and as someone who grew up in the 1980s and still kind of has a weird relationship with photographs of herself, I’ve gotta say, I don’t hate it. Confidence is beautiful, and being about to see a photo of yourself and not only smile, but want to share it, could never be a bad thing.

That said, it can still be hard for some people to get there – and this guy finds the whole process so awkward he can’t even snap one, never mind sharing them online.

Anybody else feel super cringey when taking selfies and therefore take none? from NoStupidQuestions

He wants to know if he’s not alone, so Reddit’s No Stupid Question forum is the place to be!

15. Is anyone looking?

I always try to hide that I’m doing it, if I do it at all haha.

I took a plant selfie not long ago. I turned beet red in the face when I asked my husband to help me take the photo. I even lashed out at him when he told me how cute that was because I didn’t like that he was “making it a thing”. When I was totally making it a thing….

14. Do it for your mom.

I feel too vain when I take selfies… then end up having like no pictures of myself for my mom.

I’ve had a few girlfriends now that have tried to help me shake my hate. Even after breaking up a few have recommended taking my mom out to different spots (she loved spending time with me more than anything).

When I asked to take pictures with her she was beaming… I’m tearing up just typing this… Actually I just ugly cried for a bit.

I need to tell my mom.

13. Being silly works every time.

The only way I have ever taken the very few selfies I have is if it’s a silly one. That way I feel like “haha see, I’m not taking myself seriously with this”. Feels like it aligns more with who I am.

Social media selfie posts are so prevalent that I was just wondering if there were other people who feel the way I do. Clone #1564 confirmed.

12. Yeah you do.

I am not photogenic so I have never taken a selfie in all of my many years on this earth until last year. I must have been bored or something because I put on makeup which I don’t usually do and took some selfies that included my dogs. I was pleasantly surprised how the photos turned out. I didn’t even really know how to take a selfie.

I posted the pics on Facebook and everyone complimented me on them. The people I have known since high school hadn’t seen me since high school so they really liked my photos. The friends I have made over the years and have never met in person liked my photos as well. In fact, when I said how old I am they couldn’t believe it.

One guy was like, “no way!!!” Yep. I guess I look pretty good for an old lady. Lol.

11. It does take practice.

Yes! I feel like I look awful in any picture, TBH. One eye squinted shut, weird pasted-on smile, awkward posture…like, every single time. Can’t seem to look natural or relaxed in a picture. So I figure if I’m gonna look bad, I may as well be obvious about it and look bad on purpose. I’m not exaggerating when I say that there are more pictures of me with goofy faces than “nice” faces.

Selfies are just…100x worse, for some reason. Take all those issues from above, and then make it look just plain bad. I don’t know why my (very few) selfies have turned out absolutely terrible, but that’s how it is. I’m sure I’m overly-critical of myself, but even putting that aside, I honestly cannot figure out how to get a selfie to turn out ok. So I just don’t do them, except in very rare cases.

10. Also, do it for your kids.

The only reason I can stomach the occasional picture is so my kids know what I looked like back in the day because my parents have hardly any pictures from their youth and It makes it harder to connect… if that makes sense.

9. This makes me sad.

All the time, I never see my pics and think, “hey I look good in this one.” So I assume other people see me the same way and I don’t care to have other people see my flawed face.

Same for me. I can’t stand to look at myself in pictures or videos. For video conferences/Teams meeting, I use my avatar.

But I’m ok with my face in the mirror when I wash up/comb my hair/brush my teeth.

Go figure.

8. Don’t worry about what people think.

You just gotta not care what other people think. I have this problem too.

If I’m feeling particularly confident and attractive, then yeah I kinda wanna post a selfie. Who cares if it’s for attention – it’s human nature to want to attract positive attention sometimes.

So who cares if someone thinks “omg Stacy just wants attention from her selfie” like yeah maybe Stacy is depressed and wants some positive attention who cares?

7. Other people really don’t think that much about you.

You need to realize people don’t care about your appearance. Life’s too short to be afraid of showing your face in social media. I used to be like you until I finally got the courage to use a real pic of me and found out people either will ignore you or type something nice but never will type something mean or rude.

And I am sure you are not ugly but just lack self confidence.

6. Come up with a reason.

I used to as well. But recently I started taking selfies to show off my weird graphic t shirt collection (fish with gun, raccoon with “eat trash hail Satan”, etc.) and honestly having a “reason” for the selfie makes me feel better.

I’m a dancer so most of my pics and videos of me are me dancing and I just want pictures of me doing other things. For myself and for my family.

5. It can depend on who your friends are.

It can also depend how normalized it is in your social circles and social environment. If people around you, your friends and family all did it on a regular basis you’d probably worry less.

I have a mixture of friends. Some take, some don’t.

4. Have a little confidence.

I think it speaks to our lack of ego.

The entire concept of selfies is so self indulgent, I think it’s so weird how often people stare at their own face. Like I couldn’t think of a less interesting picture to look at than one of just somebodies face. But people crave that validation from others so it stuck.

I wish people could be happy on their own.

3. But also, don’t judge others.

Love that for you but it doesn’t mean selfies are inherently bad or egotistical.

People hate themselves daily but when they finally feel good enough to appreciate their appearance, it’s wrong?

If you don’t wanna see selfies on your timeline then dont follow people who take selfies.

You shouldn’t need to invalidate how certain people choose to express their confidence in order to make yourself feel better.

That’s not a lack of ego, it’s just being a jerk.

2. If it makes you happy.

I used to feel that way but then I saw people doing “duck lips” and I tried and each time I ended up laughing , that ended up turning out to produce pictures of me happy and smiling and I started to enjoy seeing those moments.

I’m glad those trends have died, I couldn’t with those faces. Smiling is classic, can’t beat it.

1. OP is definitely not alone.

Me too. I also can’t film myself talking like everyone seems to do these days. I just feel cringy walking and talking to a phone.

Literally started photography because I hated being in photos. If people think you’re good at taking photos they won’t question it when you volunteer to take it instead of being in the photo.

I fall somewhere in the middle on this – sometimes getting a selfie I like feels impossible, but other times it’s fun to share.

If you also hate selfies, tell us how you get around those feelings (if you do) in the comments!

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How Do You Take Selfies When You Feel Awkward About Them? People Share Their Feelings.

Selfies have become ubiquitous, and as someone who grew up in the 1980s and still kind of has a weird relationship with photographs of herself, I’ve gotta say, I don’t hate it. Confidence is beautiful, and being about to see a photo of yourself and not only smile, but want to share it, could never be a bad thing.

That said, it can still be hard for some people to get there – and this guy finds the whole process so awkward he can’t even snap one, never mind sharing them online.

Anybody else feel super cringey when taking selfies and therefore take none? from NoStupidQuestions

He wants to know if he’s not alone, so Reddit’s No Stupid Question forum is the place to be!

15. Is anyone looking?

I always try to hide that I’m doing it, if I do it at all haha.

I took a plant selfie not long ago. I turned beet red in the face when I asked my husband to help me take the photo. I even lashed out at him when he told me how cute that was because I didn’t like that he was “making it a thing”. When I was totally making it a thing….

14. Do it for your mom.

I feel too vain when I take selfies… then end up having like no pictures of myself for my mom.

I’ve had a few girlfriends now that have tried to help me shake my hate. Even after breaking up a few have recommended taking my mom out to different spots (she loved spending time with me more than anything).

When I asked to take pictures with her she was beaming… I’m tearing up just typing this… Actually I just ugly cried for a bit.

I need to tell my mom.

13. Being silly works every time.

The only way I have ever taken the very few selfies I have is if it’s a silly one. That way I feel like “haha see, I’m not taking myself seriously with this”. Feels like it aligns more with who I am.

Social media selfie posts are so prevalent that I was just wondering if there were other people who feel the way I do. Clone #1564 confirmed.

12. Yeah you do.

I am not photogenic so I have never taken a selfie in all of my many years on this earth until last year. I must have been bored or something because I put on makeup which I don’t usually do and took some selfies that included my dogs. I was pleasantly surprised how the photos turned out. I didn’t even really know how to take a selfie.

I posted the pics on Facebook and everyone complimented me on them. The people I have known since high school hadn’t seen me since high school so they really liked my photos. The friends I have made over the years and have never met in person liked my photos as well. In fact, when I said how old I am they couldn’t believe it.

One guy was like, “no way!!!” Yep. I guess I look pretty good for an old lady. Lol.

11. It does take practice.

Yes! I feel like I look awful in any picture, TBH. One eye squinted shut, weird pasted-on smile, awkward posture…like, every single time. Can’t seem to look natural or relaxed in a picture. So I figure if I’m gonna look bad, I may as well be obvious about it and look bad on purpose. I’m not exaggerating when I say that there are more pictures of me with goofy faces than “nice” faces.

Selfies are just…100x worse, for some reason. Take all those issues from above, and then make it look just plain bad. I don’t know why my (very few) selfies have turned out absolutely terrible, but that’s how it is. I’m sure I’m overly-critical of myself, but even putting that aside, I honestly cannot figure out how to get a selfie to turn out ok. So I just don’t do them, except in very rare cases.

10. Also, do it for your kids.

The only reason I can stomach the occasional picture is so my kids know what I looked like back in the day because my parents have hardly any pictures from their youth and It makes it harder to connect… if that makes sense.

9. This makes me sad.

All the time, I never see my pics and think, “hey I look good in this one.” So I assume other people see me the same way and I don’t care to have other people see my flawed face.

Same for me. I can’t stand to look at myself in pictures or videos. For video conferences/Teams meeting, I use my avatar.

But I’m ok with my face in the mirror when I wash up/comb my hair/brush my teeth.

Go figure.

8. Don’t worry about what people think.

You just gotta not care what other people think. I have this problem too.

If I’m feeling particularly confident and attractive, then yeah I kinda wanna post a selfie. Who cares if it’s for attention – it’s human nature to want to attract positive attention sometimes.

So who cares if someone thinks “omg Stacy just wants attention from her selfie” like yeah maybe Stacy is depressed and wants some positive attention who cares?

7. Other people really don’t think that much about you.

You need to realize people don’t care about your appearance. Life’s too short to be afraid of showing your face in social media. I used to be like you until I finally got the courage to use a real pic of me and found out people either will ignore you or type something nice but never will type something mean or rude.

And I am sure you are not ugly but just lack self confidence.

6. Come up with a reason.

I used to as well. But recently I started taking selfies to show off my weird graphic t shirt collection (fish with gun, raccoon with “eat trash hail Satan”, etc.) and honestly having a “reason” for the selfie makes me feel better.

I’m a dancer so most of my pics and videos of me are me dancing and I just want pictures of me doing other things. For myself and for my family.

5. It can depend on who your friends are.

It can also depend how normalized it is in your social circles and social environment. If people around you, your friends and family all did it on a regular basis you’d probably worry less.

I have a mixture of friends. Some take, some don’t.

4. Have a little confidence.

I think it speaks to our lack of ego.

The entire concept of selfies is so self indulgent, I think it’s so weird how often people stare at their own face. Like I couldn’t think of a less interesting picture to look at than one of just somebodies face. But people crave that validation from others so it stuck.

I wish people could be happy on their own.

3. But also, don’t judge others.

Love that for you but it doesn’t mean selfies are inherently bad or egotistical.

People hate themselves daily but when they finally feel good enough to appreciate their appearance, it’s wrong?

If you don’t wanna see selfies on your timeline then dont follow people who take selfies.

You shouldn’t need to invalidate how certain people choose to express their confidence in order to make yourself feel better.

That’s not a lack of ego, it’s just being a jerk.

2. If it makes you happy.

I used to feel that way but then I saw people doing “duck lips” and I tried and each time I ended up laughing , that ended up turning out to produce pictures of me happy and smiling and I started to enjoy seeing those moments.

I’m glad those trends have died, I couldn’t with those faces. Smiling is classic, can’t beat it.

1. OP is definitely not alone.

Me too. I also can’t film myself talking like everyone seems to do these days. I just feel cringy walking and talking to a phone.

Literally started photography because I hated being in photos. If people think you’re good at taking photos they won’t question it when you volunteer to take it instead of being in the photo.

I fall somewhere in the middle on this – sometimes getting a selfie I like feels impossible, but other times it’s fun to share.

If you also hate selfies, tell us how you get around those feelings (if you do) in the comments!

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People Tell Stories About When They Trusted Their Gut Feeling and They Were Right

Have you ever known something was really wrong and you turned out to be right?

Maybe it’s about a person or about a potentially sketchy situation, but you know when your gut tells you that something isn’t right.

Folks on AskReddit talked about when their gut feelings turned out to be right.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Ugh.

“Spent two years itching for no reason. Hypochondria gut told me it was cancer. Further research confirmed it for me.

Told doctors for two years I had lymphoma. I was right, but they didn’t figure it out until I was stage 4 advanced.”

2. Stranger danger.

“When I was a young kid back in the 1980s I was playing on my front lawn when this van pulled up on the road and the sliding door opened.

A guy about 19-20 aggressively waved at me to come to the van and I immediately knew something wasn’t right so I ran inside and told my parents and they freaked out and ran outside but they were gone by then..

Stranger danger wasn’t really a thing back then and I had no idea what an abduction was at the time but looking back on it my life could’ve ended that day had I chose to go over to the van. I often wondered after that day if they ever did get a kid to get into their van.”

3. You knew.

“Last year, I was staying up late watching Rick and Morty. My mom had been battling stage four metastatic breast cancer for a while.

That night, she walked downstairs and just sat there with me until I decided to go to bed. I looked at her and in my heart I knew she was close to leaving. So I said goodnight. And she said goodbye, which confused me.

Until the next morning when my dad woke me up and told me she had passed away over night. It still makes me wonder how we both knew.”

4. Creepy uncle.

“Growing up, I was always wary of my uncle on my dad’s side of the family.

Even as a young child, I just knew that I didn’t like being around him. He never gave me any reason to feel this way, and I never voiced it to anyone.  As I grew older, my family moved away and I saw less of him, but anytime my extended family met for holidays I would see him and avoid him.

Couple years down the track, I was around 12 or 13 when my parents sat me and my older brother down and told us that my cousin (my uncle’s daughter) had been r**ed and mo**sted by him from a young age.

This had all come to light when my aunt caught it happening (later found out she was abused by him too). Really wish my gut feeling hadn’t been right about that one.”

5. Bad news.

“The woman who became my former best friend’s step mother. Met her and had instant alarm bells going off in my head that said “keep away from her”. I ignored them because c’mon, friend’s dad isn’t an idiot and he dated her for a year.

My gut was more than right. That woman made Cinderella’s step mother look tame. She would throw things at my friend’s dad, she would scream at my friend. She blamed everything on my friend, even when there was no way she could prove it. She even verbally abused her own biological, autistic, son.

She once screamed at me, and when my mom confronted her she screamed at my mom. My friend was the scape goat and virtually a slave. She called her lazy for being tired after working two jobs and going to college full time. She tried to get the wifi shut off so my friend “would stop wasting her time playing on her computer all day” when my friend was actually doing homework.

She is a monster, and I’m pretty sure she’s the reason my friend cut ties with me and all our mutual friends She had to get away from anything and everything that reminded her of that monster.”

6. A feeling…

“Had a gut feeling my sister relapsed in her drug/alcohol addiction.

Through the Pandemic, We usually talked about once or twice a month, but we went a couple month without talking. I put it on my schedule to do visit her.

Turns out, not only did she relapse, but beat up her daughter for m**h money. Tried to rob our parents.”

7. Home alone.

“I was a twenty year old student, alone in my apartment one evening.

I was expecting the cable guy so when I heard a knock at the door I opened it. I saw an older man that definitely was not the cable guy as he did not have a uniform on. I asked him what he wanted. He said he was going around the apartments installing security alarms. I right away did not trust him and told him that is was a bad time and that my roommate was on the phone long distance( when long distance was expensive) with her parents and was going through some personal stuff.

She was not there but I did not want him to think I was alone. He said where is she….I just closed the door in his face and said not a good time. I called my landlord the next morning and asked her about installing security alarms and she had no idea what I was talking about and did not authorize it.

Women, if you ever get into a situation where it looks like you are alone really try to convince the person that is making you feel uneasy that you are not alone. Another time when I was young walking home in the dark and two men stopped there car and started saying lewd things to me I just walked up to a house and knocked on the door and they drove off quickly. Way more vulnerable when you are alone.”

8. Wow.

“When I was 13, we went to an outdoor school camp for a week.

The week included an overnight canoe trip. I went with my best friend, and the morning of the trip I had a horrible feeling that things were going to go badly and that we should stay back but I ignored it because I was 13 I was doing what I was told.

Long story short, our boat hit a log jam, we went under, I came up, my best friend didn’t. She d**d on the logs that day.”

9. Terrifying.

“One of my last weekends studying abroad in Costa Rica.

My friend / classmate wanted to go out drinking / dancing, but I and the rest did not as we were tired. Friend convinced me to go as it was one of the last times we would get to. I didn’t feel right the entire time I was getting ready. Just terrible gut feeling. As I was walking to the bus stop to meet him, a huge wave rushed over me & I thought “I’m going to be robbed tonight”.

I wanted to turn around, but my friend saw me at the moment & we just continued on. We got kidnapped / robbed that night, and it was terrifying. I will never ever not listen and react to my gut feelings again.”

10. Weird teacher.

“Freshman year of high school, we had this really weird digital arts teacher.

He’d go up and randomly massage students shoulders, and make comments like “How about you and (other student) take your anger out in a mud pit?”, or similar things if students argued with each other. He was just genuinely weird, standing over students, mainly girls, and just very handsy..

A few months into the school year, they transferred everyone out of the class, and we didn’t see the teacher any more. Some of us went to wood shop, or metal work, etc. but that teacher was just gone. I don’t actually know what happened to him, but I can only assume that what he was doing finally got to him.”

11. Be careful out there.

“Was with my mom in the woods in eastern Quebec.

I heard something break a rather large branch just over the hill maybe 50m away. I told her we have to leave right away because I think it’s a bear. She tells me how no bears been in area for 20 years.

She listens to me anyways and we go back down the mountain and home. Next day a bear was hit by a car just on other side of mountain.”

12. Good dog.

“When I was a young woman my husband and I lived on a military base. At the time, the base was wide open and many local people used it as a shortcut from one town to another.

The base also had free base newspapers available at many places on base. One week the newspaper said that Facilities Engineers (base maintenance) were going to begin installing attic fans in our townhouses.

Sure enough, someone banged on my door later in the week and announced that he was there to install my attic fan. I was immediately suspicious — he was not military, dirty, scraggly beard, paint-stained clothes. But mostly it was my dog’s reaction. Candy was a husky-shepherd mix, so not a small dog. She’d put herself between me and him as best she could, her hackles were up, and she was growling, that deep bass in-the-chest growl that you feel more than hear.

I asked to see a work order and ID. He said “I don’t need no f**king work order” and yanked open the screen door. (It was latched, but those kind of latches are meant to keep toddlers and dogs in, not grown men out.)

Candy roared and went for his throat. He jumped back and slammed the screen. I grabbed Candy, dragged her back, slammed and locked the door, ran to the back and slammed and locked that. Then I called the MPs.

They came out, verified that my street was not due to get attic fans for a couple of weeks, and took all the information I could give them, which wasn’t much. I never heard anything back, so they probably never identified him.

Two or three weeks later, the real installers came from Facilities Engineers, in uniform. They promptly produced work orders and ID. Candy looked at them and went back to playing with the baby.

I’m absolutely certain that she saved me from r**e, possibly from m**der.”

Do you have any stories about trusting your gut?

If so, please share them with us in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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What Advertisement Made You Avoid a Certain Product? People Spoke Up.

I have a confession: the Discover “Cashback Match” commercials have made it absolutely certain that I will never, ever use Discover in my life because I find their commercials to be so incredibly annoying.

Do you have any products that you’ve been turned off of completely because you can’t stomach their advertisements?

AskReddit users discussed the advertisements that made them NOT want to buy certain products.

Let’s dive in!

1. Old and new.

“All time: Chevy “real people”

Recently: that Kraft singles commercial with that stupid grilled cheese song.”

2. Gross.

“There is a phone company here in Australia that runs an ad where two sisters/friends are shown partying and generally having a good time, then one gets diagnosed with an illness, presumably cancer.

The camera cuts back and forth to one of them in a hospital bed and the other getting her long hair cut off, then an emotional reunion where the one with her hair cut off visits the one in hospital who has lost her hair.

The tagline is “it starts with yes”. It uses the emotional trauma of terminal illness to try to get people to sign up for a phone service. Utterly disgusting.”

3. Hmmm…

“A local car dealer decided to put their catchphrase to the tune of Baby Shark.

Then they made a follow-up commercial apologizing for how annoying the Baby Shark spot was, but still ended it with the Baby Shark jingle.”

4. Fear mongering.

“Those multiple Volvo commercials that have been on Hulu forever.

Same premise- “if you don’t buy our brand new Volvo you’ll k**l a kid, yours or someone else’s”.

Fear mongering at its finest.”

5. Little brat!

“The one with the bratty kid and broccoli.

“Then I guess we’re gonna sit here all night!”

If I pulled a stunt like that as a kid my mom wouldn’t go put cheese on my broccoli, she’d cook broccoli for every meal.”

6. No escape.

“Surprised I haven’t seen Grammarly mentioned anywhere here.

I’ve never felt a need to use their product in the past, but their ads are so intrusive, annoying, and frequent that I’ll guaranteed never use it.”

7. WTF?

“That Marine recruiting commercial where he fought a dragon.

I never got to fight a dragon when I was in, that was bulls**t.”

8. Hahaha.

“Volvo.

That f**king commercial where someone tells the car’s google assistant to “turn up the heat” at their house.

My google reacts by upping the heat every. Single. Time.”

9. Annoying.

“Reese’s (Cups, Pieces, etc.)

I h**e the voice of whoever narrates the commercials

The low-effort lines…ughhhh

The speaker delivers the lazy writing as if the audience is meant to find it clever

The next time you see a Reese’s commercial on TV, you’ll notice what I’m talking about..”

10. Shameless.

“Mesothelioma.

Massive expenditure targeting a tiny population.

The return on investment must be HUGE.

Shameless rainmaking.”

11. All of these.

“The Google Fi ads on youtube. Terrible songs and terrible animation.

Also, Old Navy ads are garbage.

And McDonalds has somehow been incapable of making a good ad for like 20 years or longer.”

12. Not a fan.

“Well, whenever I hear the KARS for Kids jingle, I think about swerving into oncoming traffic.

So I guess you could say it turns me off.”

13. Are we being scammed here?

“All the brand name medication commercials with fake people living fake lives with wild side effects worse than the original diagnosis.

And how dumb the names sound made on some name generator.

Trulicity comes to mind.”

Are there any ads that really turned you off of certain products?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

We look forward to it!

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When Did Your Gut Feeling Turn Out To Be Right? People Responded.

Trust your gut. Always.

If you only listen to one piece of advice in your life, I think that’s one of the better ones to take seriously.

And we’re about to hear some good stories about why it’s important.

AskReddit users talked about when their gut feelings turned out to be accurate.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Scary.

“When I was pregnant for the first time, something just felt off. I knew from the very beginning it wasn’t going to end well.

A few weeks later, I started cramping and spotting, which can be normal in early pregnancy. I ended up going to the ER. They couldn’t find any evidence of a pregnancy in my uterus and decided it was a missed miscarriage, and wanted to send me home. But, that gut feeling that something was very wrong was still there, and ai listened to it.

I demanded that I be seen by my OB who was head of obstetrics at that hospital and wouldn’t leave until he saw me. He had me in emergency surgery 4 hours after he came to examine me to remove my ruptured fallopian tube and stop the internal bleeding. Had I not listened to my gut, I’d be d**d.”

2. Bad driver.

“Was driving, got an odd feeling about this car behind me.

No telltale signs, the lady wasn’t texting or anything. So I moved lanes and got a car ahead of her.

Rear ended that car promptly at the next light.”

3. Looking for you.

“I had this random friend I’d just met kind of a weird dude, no real family so once he met my group of friends he just kind of followed us everywhere. He was one of those people who just had a bullseye for bullies on him.

I was living in the hood in LA, we’re walking over an overpass and a car full of cholos slowly passes us, eyes on us. As soon as the car passes my friend was like let’s hide under this bridge, we book it hide in the dark under the bridge and just a few seconds later the car full of cholos slowly drives down where they assumed we were going to be walking.

We can see them looking everywhere cruising slowly, wondering where we were. As soon as they left the street we booked it back to my house staying in the shadows until we were safe.”

4. A set up.

“Twice, while delivering pizza to shady neighborhoods. Things didn’t look right, I trusted my instincts and booked.

Both times, no one ever called back to ask about their food never arriving. That’s all the proof I need.”

5. That’s history right there.

“When I was a kid, I was doing my first ever deep clean of my bedroom getting rid of old clothes and toys and such.

While cleaning out my closet, I found an old picture cut out from the local newspaper of Lyndon Johnson visiting my parent’s home town. The picture was taken outside with some locals in the background. I was going to throw the picture away, but suddenly got the strongest feeling not to do it, so I set it aside. Later I showed it to my mom and asked her about it. She freaked out and showed my grandma, who also freaked out.

Turns out one of the locals in the background of the picture was my grandpa. He d**d when my mom was 12. That picture was one of only a handful we had of him. I had never seen a picture of him before this. I was so glad I didn’t throw that clipping away.”

6. On the road.

“Driving in Pittsburgh.

I stop at a red light. Hill goes up on my left, downhill on my right. Poor visibility to the left.

The light turns green, but my brain tells me “Hey bud wait a sec.”

I think this is a little weird, but I don’t go yet.

A millisecond later, a massive navy blue F-350 comes barreling downhill through the intersection from my left, blowing past the red light at about 45, then trundles down the hill.

If I’d have gone, I would have been destroyed by 3 tons of Ford truck, for sure. Instead I trusted the Spider-sense.”

7. Creepers.

“I stopped at Home Depot to pick up an item so I knew it was going to be a quick trip. I’m in the store and notice I’m pretty much the only girl in there besides employees. I couldn’t find what I was looking for and had to ask multiple employees before I found it.

I check out and as I’m heading out to my car I notice a shady dude standing against a tree on one side of my car. On the other side of my car is another shady guy sticking his arm outside of his car window. When I walked out they both turned and stared at me.

My heart dropped, I started to feel queasy, and my mind instantly knew to turn around and go inside. I stood there shaking at the front of the store until I could get the courage to ask an employee to walk me to my car.

As soon as they saw me walking out with an employee, the guy standing by the tree walked around my car and into the drivers side of the car parked next to me. To this day I swear I was a short walk away from being kidnapped.”

8. Overwhelming dread.

“Used to work in the ER. Had a man come in with ripping chest pain that started not but 30 minutes prior after he moved something heavy at his office. I knew he was going to d** just by looking at him. Massive overwhelming dread just seemed to engulf me.

I did his EKG and I hoped something would be wrong with it so we could get him a bed. His EKG was perfect. Not 5 minutes later he went into cardiac arrest on our waiting room floor. After running the code for 45 minutes, he didn’t make it. He had a massive aortic dissection. There wasn’t much hope.

This was almost 3 years ago and I’ve seen more s**t since then, but the memory is still burned in my mind, and it hurts knowing I was the last person to speak to him.”

9. Sketchy.

“I was 18 and and I was walking home from a friend’s house at 2 am in the middle of the summer. He only lived 6 blocks away.

I was about halfway home when a pickup truck drives by with 2 guys in the cab and 2 in the bed. I immediately felt like I was in danger. I saw the truck turn the corner, and I dove over some hedges in the closest yard I could find. I hid under them.

I saw the truck come back around the corner and slowly drive down the street. When it got to where I was hiding, I heard one of the guys say, “Where did he go?” and another respond that he didn’t know. They kept driving, and I didn’t see them again.

I stayed hidden for a good 15 minutes before getting up and running the rest of the way home.

I’m certain they would have jumped me if they found me.”

10. Glad you interfered.

“I had been living and working in Korea, and one day I was coming up out of a subway station and saw a man talking to another foreign woman.

She had that polite, frozen smile on her face – the why-is-this-guy-talking-to-me smile. I walked up to her, linked my arm with hers, and said “Hey, Sarah! There you are! Are you ready to go?” And just started walking. The guy followed us, but I sped up, and made an abrupt turn into a coffee shop. We hid, and I saw him walk past, still looking for her.

We ended up getting coffee and chatting for a bit, and I found out that he had followed her off the train, and had been getting increasingly aggressive for the last ten minutes. I don’t know what might have happened, but I’m really glad I interfered!!”

11. Wow.

“Helped a victim of human trafficking get to a shelter.

I was a medical student at the time (now a resident) and the city my school was in is a hub for human trafficking. I noticed a patient in the ER who had a pretty bad injury to her face was with a sketchy looking guy who was not related to her.

She wasn’t my patient, but I brought my gut feeling up to her doctor who then made up some excuse to talk to the patient alone and got her to help. I never talked to her myself, but I couldn’t shake the vibe I got from looking at her and the man she was with.”

12. Settling the score.

“There are a bunch of bars right next to my university here where I live. At the start and the end of the semester everybody, thousands of students, start gathering around the street where most bars are located and just parties all night.

On one of these occasions, in 2019, it was the end of the semester. I had just got there a bit late because I was working on the lab at the uni and the moment I got there something just didn’t feel right. The people there, how they were acting, how they were moving, how they were talking. Something felt different in the air.

We were crossing through the giant group of people since we were looking for my girlfriend at the time and the people who we were expecting to meet there. I froze in place and, I can’t really explain why to this day, but I just felt something really bad was about to happen and my friend noticed how I was too atentive and kind of in panic. He snapped me out of it and I told him that we needed to find everyone and leave that place.

For my surprise he just agreed. I think he noticed something was wrong with me and probably just went for it so I could calm down.

My girlfriend and our friends didn’t take long to find and they were confused because I was acting so erratic and I was kind of having a panic attack. But they eventually followed me out of the crowd and right as we were out of the “bar area” we started hearing a bunch of g**shots and people started screaming. Shortly after the police was rushing into the area.

What happened was that some gang members decided to use the party to settle some score, probably hoping the crowd would help them get out unoticed. 5 people were ki**ed and 3 injured that day. The police apparently caught them but I’m not sure about that part. After that those periodical parties at this street were never the same. Way less people and now they don’t even close the streets anymore because its not that big of a crowd. Who would have thought.

To this day my friends like telling this story about how I “saved their lives” and, on rare occasions, someone asks me if I knew about the gang fight that was going to happen or something like that.

I honestly don’t know what triggered me that day. But myself and the people with me are really glad it did. I think I might have caught view of a g** while crossing the crowd and didn’t conciously notice it but kicked some sense of danger on me.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us your stories about when you trusted your gut in a good way.

Please and thank you!

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What Happens in Movies That Really Annoys You? People Spoke Up.

If you watch enough movies, you begin to see some patterns over and over again.

They might be of the romantic variety or maybe it’s something that seems to happen in every action movie you watch.

And some of them are so unrealistic that they make folks go a little bit nuts.

People on AskReddit shared what happens in movies that drives them crazy.

1. Truth!

“That EVERY sh**ty movie nowadays is set up as the first part of a possible trilogy.

So what ends up happening is the first movie is non-committal and vague as a result.

Ugh.”

2. Lame.

“Male lead and female lead with no chemistry end up together “just because”.

Lame.

Come on writers! Try harder!”

3. See it all the time.

“In romantic comedies, the two love interests are usually bad for each other.

So, to make them seem less bad for each other, when they go through that period where they break up and try dating other people, the other people are the weirdest, most unlovable freaks anyone has ever laid eyes on. Men are instantly abusive, women behave like spoiled children.

It’s the stupidest trope.”

4. Yeah, I got it.

“Over explain the plot.

Like a recap so you are not confused.

Usually accompanied by flashbacks you just saw ‘live’ minutes ago.”

5. Always happens.

“”What happened?”

“I dont know, lets check on the news…”

TURNS ON TV…

in perfect timing

“If you are just joining us, here is the plot wrap up of the thing that the heroes need to know”

Cuts TV off immediately after important newscaster dialogue.”

6. You’re not convincing me.

“They hold supposedly full coffee cups like they are empty, always holding them at a tilt.

I know they are just stage props but they can at least act like there is coffee in their cups.”

7. Totally unrealistic.

“Car keys “hidden” behind sun visor

Of all the hundreds if not thousands of cars I’ve been in across my lifetime, I have met precisely zero people who stow their car keys this way.”

8. Can we have a minute, please?

“When two people want to talk privately, instead of them going into the hallway, they make the other 20 people leave the room.”

9. Two things.

“When some thing is foreshadowed and then revealed later in the movie, but instead of just letting you realize it yourself, one of the characters say it out loud. Like the audience is too dumb to make the connection.

Biggest pet peeve is the fact that EVERY comedy has to turn sad in a very cliche way halfway through the movie. It’s the guy loses girl and has to win her back formula that’s in every damn comedy.”

10. Lucky!

“After someone gets s**t in the chest, they always stand up, and triumphantly remove their jacket to reveal the bullet proof vest.”

11. We’re taking over.

“When the FBI shows up to “take over” the case and then the cops butt heads with them.

This does not happen.

Cops are more than happy to let someone else do their work for them.”

12. Do some research!

“Poor research.

When a part of the plot is in a different country than the movie itself is from and they show a regional/cultural aspect of the visited country and fail.

Don’t they have Google?”

13. Surprise!

“I have noticed in movies that involve a new house, it is often a “surprise” for all but the member of the family that apparently acquired or purchased it without any input from the rest of the family. Did the one person just buy it online or sneak away and just go through the purchase process and closing?

The family pulls up to the house, dad gets out and says, “let’s see the new house”, kids go run and pick their rooms and partner has never seen the house before. Why is this? It seems completely unrealistic and it bugs me every time.”

14. I don’t like this.

“I’ve noticed this a lot more lately, the fact that horror movies are super dark.

And I don’t mean dark plot-wise, I mean dark in the sense that I can’t see what the f**k is going on.

I get that horror is creepier at night but how can I be scared when I can’t see what’s happening on the screen?”

Are there certain things that happen in a lot of movies that drive you crazy?

If so, tell us about them in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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People Talk About What They Think Everyone Should Experience in Their Lives

Everyone has their own opinions about what they think everyone needs to experience in their lives.

Sky diving? Stargazing? Visiting another country? Swimming with dolphins? Getting married?

The possibilities are endless!

What should everyone experience in their lives?

People on AskReddit offered their opinions. Let’s take a look.

1. Yes!

“Work in fast food

Not because it gives you some experience with fast paced, low wage, horribly managed fun.

But it gives you the sense that this happens to everyone in retail or fast food. Be nice to the person behind the counter because you’ve been in their shoes before.”

2. Go see some stuff!

“Travel. Even if it’s within your own state.

Because if it’s bad, you’ll appreciate your home so much more. If it’s good, you will broaden your horizons and take home a bit of inspiration.

Either way, it’s important to see how other people live in order to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around you, and your perspective.”

3. PAIN.

“Significant physical pain.

Some people don’t seem to understand how pain can reshape your entire world, your view of yourself, and how you think/react.

I lived with chronic pain for years (femoral head ground away most of what was left of my hip socket) and I know I was a very different person then.”

4. Changes your perspective.

“Knowing someone with a disability.

My life completely changed when I became disabled, and it introduced me to some amazing disabled people.

You learn a lot about empathy and just how creative and ingenious people can be. You also see how cruel people can be.”

5. The great outdoors.

“Camping.

Even if you are a fussy clean freak who loves a five star hotel, there is a simplicity of life that everyone should experience.

I love it so much.”

6. Try it out.

“Therapy!

Even if you don’t think you need it, if you have access to it you 100% should take advantage and go.

It’s just a good way to get to know yourself and what you want. I wish it was free for everyone.”

7. That’ll teach you.

“A week taking care of a baby and a toddler.

Just so people can see how it really is. I work with a lot of people who were shocked at how much work it is. Which is fine. But parental regret is a real thing.

I think people would be more cautious about birth control if they knew or had experience.”

8. Heartbreak.

“Complete and total heartbreak.

Nothing makes you get your s**t together & become a more rounded person like someone you thought you’d spend your life with up & leaving.”

9. Time to move on.

“Moving away.

Narrow world views are some serious progress ki**ers for yourself and for the human species as a whole. Stop making excuses. Move out of your hometown.

You might be extremely surprised at how much is out there if you just let go and leave!”

10. Desperate times.

“Real hunger, real desperation.

I grew up very poor but got a scholarship to a ritzy school for college and a large portion of my classmates had literally never worked or struggled for anything in their lives. They’d never been dependent on another person’s kindness for their continued existence, and it showed in their absolute absence of empathy.

These were the kinds of college kids who call the cops if they see a homeless person going through a dumpster on campus. It was jarring to me how much basic human compassion they were missing.

They’ve never experienced real hunger so of course they don’t understand digging in the trash for a meal. Being rich literally strips your humanity away as far as I can tell- there was a reason I transferred out and it wasn’t the price of tuition.”

11. There you go.

“Three things:

Crippling Poverty.

Service industry employment.

One solid beatdown.”

12. Trippin’.

“I think a comfortable dose of psilocybin in a safe setting would do wonders for a lot of people.

Lose a little ego, appreciate nature much more, and just experience a sense of connection and bliss.”

13. Good learning experience.

“Own a small business. Everyone should do it.

Nothing has FULLY had me understand my finances like that.”

14. All the emotions.

“We should all experience joy, happiness and love. Unconditional love.

Maybe this is an unpopular opinion, but also heartbreak, sadness and all other bittersweet emotions.

Actually scratch that, we should experience all the emotions we can!”

15. Glorious!

“Unfiltered nature, in all her glory:

-A trip to the beach to smell the salty air…to feel some fine, soft beach sand between your toes…to have a seagull steal your food and then take a massive s**t on your shoulder…

-A trip to the mountains to feel the exhilarating crisp pine air enter your lungs…to find a quiet stream to relax by…to hear a growl somewhere nearby, and to skin your knees on the trail back to your car because you tripped over a rock looking behind to make sure that whatever growled isn’t following you…

-A trip to the desert to witness that life, indeed, (uh) does find a way…to witness the most glorious colors at sunrise an sunset, to balance off the somewhat boring shades of brown…to get stung by a scorpion as you awe over the immaculate horizons…

Nature. Experience it!”

What do YOU think everyone should experience in their lives?

Let us know what you think!

Talk to us in the comments!

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Person Asks if They Were Wrong to Let Their Mother’s Hospital Bills Go Unpaid

Family can be a tricky thing for a lot of people. Society says that we’re supposed to be close with our families, to support them when we can, and to love them unconditionally, but life (and human beings) are too complicated for blanket statements like that to really apply.

This guy’s past really isn’t complicated – it’s just horrible.

He was the youngest child, and when his father found after five years that he wasn’t biologically his, they were cast out into a small apartment.

His mother and siblings blamed him for the whole mess, basically because he existed.

Shortly after my fifth birthday my dad found out that I was not biologically his, he immediately threw me and my mother out of his life which now looking back I can’t really blame him. It would be a nightmare to raise someone who was a constant reminder of your wife cheating.

Shortly after that, we moved from a mansion to a very small apartment and my life has been absolutely lonely and horrible since then, the love that my mother had for me disappeared in an instant and she and my half siblings(constantly blame me for being the reason for the divorce)have hated me since, I was constantly told by my own family including my mother that they all wish that I would die and would have never been born and things like that.

I try not to get my half siblings words get to me since they were kids as well, but it still hurts to this date.

When his mother got remarried, things did not get any better. He became like their Cinderella, doing all of the chores and being left at home while they took extravagant vacations and their expensive electronics piled up.

My mother married my stepdad when I was 10 and he and his kids, my step-siblings, have made it very clear they didn’t like me and things got even worse, I was given the smallest room, no new clothes or things, and constantly ignored if not being bullied by my family. Both my stepfamily and half siblings went on great and fantastic trips and were given all the latest gadgets and everything as well while I was left behind.

It actually came to the point where no one had wished me even a happy birthday since I was 8 years old. I had no friends at school as well, I was that ’quite’ kid who was always isolated and left out of everything.

He got out on his own, getting a scholarship to college, finding a woman he loves and having a child together. He’s going to therapy and generally happy with his life.

I(27M now) managed to get a full ride to dream college and am now financially quite secure. I now have very good friend and an amazing fiancé with whom I have a 3 year old son and her family has adopted me as one of their own.

My finance also convinced me to go to therapy for which I am very grateful as well and I am basically doing great in life and have moved past everything.

Enter his mother again, who is struggling with cancer and needs help paying for treatment.

He told her no.

Recently my mother contacted me a few days ago saying she needed my help (money actually) cause she has cancer and I firmly but politely refused her saying that while I sympathize with her situation, it is not my responsibility and she should lose my number and never contact me again.

I am now hounded by my stepfamily and even my half siblings that I shouldn’t refuse and my response was pretty much the same and have blocked them as well.

Yesterday my mother called me from her friends phone this time ordering me to pay since she has sacrificed so much for me to which I replied, “You never sacrificed anything, you gave away everything you had cause you just couldn’t keep your legs closed.” And hung up on her.

Now his siblings and other family are giving him a hard time, saying he’s awful, etc, but he doesn’t feel like he owes her anything.

I have blocked them all’ and now just keep receiving messages calling me an asshole among other things from new numbers which I promptly block, but now occasionally I feel quite guilty, what my mother did was horrible yes, but no one deserves to die for such things.

So, reddit AITA for refusing to pay my mothers hospital bill even though it may lead to her death?

What does Reddit think? Let’s find out!

Short answer? He was abused his entire life and he doesn’t owe the people who hurt him a gall-darned thing.

Image Credit: Reddit

Apparently she picked the wrong kids to favor, since the rest of them can’t afford to help.

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Monsters don’t deserve forgiveness, and they don’t deserve your hard-earned money or mental health, either.

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Don’t be afraid to legally put your foot down, either.

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Family doesn’t mean you have a blank check to treat people however you want.

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I have to agree with all of these people. It’s never cool to wish death or ill will on anyone, but this woman made her bed.

Anyone who treats their own child like that gets no sympathy from me.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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A Boyfriend Cut Off His Girlfriend’s Diet Soda Habit Until She Finds a Job. Was He Wrong?

I know the title sounds bad, but relationships are tough and financial stuff can be even tougher, so let’s hear the man out, shall we?

These two have been dating for around three years, and when they got together (and moved in together), they were both working.

She left her job because her boss was mistreating her and he supported the move, assuming she would find something else right away.

I (26m) have been with my girlfriend (27f) for over 3 years, and we’ve been living together for almost 2 years of that time.

Not long after she left her job. This was before Covid so it had nothing to do with that; she just couldn’t deal with her boss anymore.

I supported her leaving the job because her boss really was mistreating her.

I do OK financially but I’m not making a ton of money in my career yet, but I thought she’d hit the pavement right away and start looking for something else.

She didn’t even look, and since then has had a ton of excuses as to why she’s not working. This has put financial strain on their relationship – strain he’s bearing alone and having mental health struggles because of.

Well, that didn’t happen. For the first few days she just hung around the apartment. After those few days I asked her if she was going to start looking for something else. She answered “Really? I just quit my job. Can you just give me a week or two to catch my breath?”

After that whenever I asked she began to cite anxiety and depression as the reason she couldn’t look for or take a job.

While I’ve tried to be supportive and understanding it’s been hard as we’ve more or less lived paycheck to paycheck while I’ve often felt anxious and depressed myself but having had no choice but to go to work.

The pandemic relief didn’t apply to her, though she used the situation as yet another excuse as to why she’s not able to go back to work.

Once Covid hit she tried to get relief but was denied because she’d already been out of work too long and her unemployment had nothing to do with the Pandemic. She then began to use Covid as an excuse why she couldn’t work.

Things came to a head when he went to go grocery shopping and told her ‘no’ when she asked for more Diet Dr. Pepper. He has no problem with her drinking it, but informed her it’s a luxury item and not in the budget.

He’s still providing for her basic needs all alone, but feels like he has to draw the line somewhere.

She feels like he’s controlling her.

This brings us to a few days ago. I went to do some grocery shopping and my girlfriend asked me to pick up a case of Diet Dr. Pepper for her. She is addicted to the stuff. To her credit, she doesn’t drink or smoke or eat much junk food at all; Diet Dr. Pepper is basically her only vice. But she’ll easily drink 6-7 cans of it in a day.

Anyway I refused to buy it for her. I told her on the way out the door “Nope, that’s a luxury item. I’m not paying for that.” Long story short when I got home without the DDP we got into a huge argument. She accused me of “financially controlling her.”

I told her that from now on I would only provide for her completely basic needs but that if she wanted any treats beyond that she’d need to get a job and pay for them herself.

AITA?

What does Reddit say? Is this guy the a$$hole? Let’s find out!

This first commenter feels like she’s taking advantage of him – or she needs professional help.

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I think we can all agree it’s not about the Diet Dr. Pepper. Not really.

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There are ways to do what she did but still behave like an adult.

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To put it bluntly.

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This is definitely not what they discussed.

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I think I agree with OP and the majority of the commenters, here. There’s nothing wrong with quitting your job and a loved one supporting you while you find a new one…as long as you’re actually trying to find a new one.

What are your thoughts here? Share them with us in the comments!

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